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j.. tenn s dad passed away long time ago , she s talkin about the memories . cuz ,, wouldnt the pepper burn the nose first before the mouth , owwww .. got pa out of the bed , bdrm was getting to him , got him in the living room now he s happy camper . wonder how long that;ll last , hope all night , my stomach s just feeling blah , hope im not comin down with something . goodnight u all . going to the couch and try hard to get comfty xoxo
hi piret ok i cant spell and my finger do what they want som times i am truecolors 1000 ways to die i watched that a time or two isnt one way enough lol welcome bobbie o hey everybody hope everybody on the edge of thier seat for the new year lol i cant wait lol will it bring a better year i hope and yea my back is not cooperating i thing i wil go to walmart and trade it in do you think they will take it back with out the receipt? lol take to you later luv yall true
annie i told my grandma when she was alive and doing taht to stop it she got mad ant me and told me to mind my own business i had to laugh but i fussed at her and then she stopped and then she would not do andything for me caus i was the meany but the short time she spent in a nursing home while mom was in the hosp they ignored her and she would only do things when they were not looking so if maybe you could figure out some way fromthis little story that might help i dont know luv true
OMG!! Yous guys are hysterical tonight!!! Boogers and burgers and snow falling on cedars--I think that was the name of a movie-- and cayenne pepper in noses and on fingers and OMG the visual and sensory thingy goin on and vicks. I can't take it!! I was eating a baked potato with creamed spinach on it from my dinner the other night when I first read about the nose picking and all I can say is : G R O S S ! ! ! Love yas anyway! christina
Boogers and burgers and cayenne on fingers, Snow balls and tree falls and vicks on a shingle. (These are a few of my favorite things!) When your Mom bites, when the Sibs fight, when you're turning blue, I simply remember my favorite things, and then I LOL like TRUE!!! colors, that is
I found out something very important tonight! Residual ice & snow, on steps, are VERY slippery!!! I had heard it before, but found it out for myself tonight. No, that was NOT an earthquake that you felt or a sonic boom that you heard! It was ME hitting every step on the way down & finally landing with a kaboom on the concrete at the bottom! Bruised my leg & sprained my wrist...the right one at that...do you realize how much you use your dominant hand? I now have a better idea! Have kept ice on my wrist this evening & the swelling has gone down, but it's still pretty sore & it's now popping when i move it a certain way. I can move it so I don't think it's broken. Hey, it could have been a lot worse! I'm very thankful that it wasn't!
And now, as if the above wasn't bad enough, it's JOKE TIME... (I hope these corny jokes make you smile & give you a little joy...a mini-vacation, even if it's just for a fleeting moment!)
An old woman came into her doctor's office and confessed to an embarrassing problem. "I fart all the time, Doctor Johnson, but they're soundless, and they have no odor. In fact, since I've been here, I've farted no less than twenty times. What can I do?"
"Here's a prescription, Mrs. Harris. Take these pills three times a day for seven days and comeback and see me in a week."
Next week an upset Mrs. Harris marched into Dr. Johnson's office. "Doctor, I don't know what was in those pills, but the problem is worse! I'm farting just as much, but now they smell terrible! What do you have to say for yourself?".
"Calm down, Mrs.Harris," said the doctor soothingly. "Now that we've fixed your sinuses, we'll work on your hearing."
You guys are hilarious. Christina, I eat all the time while I read/write this thread! Every once in awhile someone will gross me out, but usually I say: bring it. I remember being at a drive in and watching a horror movie where they ripped this guy's tongue out (movie, remember) and I was eating a big sloppy meatball sandwich. Everybody in the car was losing their minds and I didn't miss a bite.
I do have a high level of grossed out tolerance which could be why I started this because even that tolerance was being reached. interesting. And, the toothbrush thing was very funny to me, even in the moment. I just figured that I wasn't alone......!
lil Tenny, how is Tennessee? please keep us posted because we care for you both very very much. Speaking of gross: lil Tenny, if your mom is coughing up mucus that has a color she has a bacterial infection and may need antibiotics. Now, we have some way more qualified people here to comment on this, and I know that they will speak up in a little bit when everybody starts their day. We love you lil Tenny and you are a beautiful champion for your mom.
The boats keep showing up for tomorrow's New Year's Eve party. We moved this boat to an inside slip and the guys were flawless! All tied up with 8 lines and now the cockpit faces the sunset so I can sit out there and squint.
Coffee Time!!
MIA: Ted, Rossella Where are you guys and others? You know who you are! check in! we worry!
peachie ! are u gonna be able to drive with ur sore wrist to go on a road trip ? becareful ! yes it was a earthquake ! felt it here ! no shit , its allover on the news , said it hit kokomo 4.9 this early am , now we are waiting for the aftermath , seroise !
pa still sleeping , i woke up with a blasted headache , felt like somebodys sittin on my forehead , pop those aleve sinus pill . i hate those headache . raining here today , snow s about gone , i know the snow will come back again , wood box is about empty , prob go out in the rain and haul wood inside , just great , told hubby yesterday we need to fill up the wood box , oh ok but never did , he s lazy and wants to watch tv all day and night . am trying to hint around for him to go to his moms , i dont think that'll happen , i better get pa s fav bfast going , maybe he;ll perk up more ? will ck in again later , xoxo p.s if i feel the earthquake again then im gnna chew peachie out for not begin careful again .... xoxo :-)
Peach....do you have your wrist in a splint? Better get one just in case. Wrist is full of "little bones" one could have been chipped. A popping noise could be a fracture. Please take care of yourself....I slid off the ice on the deck stairs last early spring......ass hurt for a week! lil tenny........mom needs some doxycycline if she has yellow or green "yuckies" in her chest....if it's just sinus Bactrim would work.....but I'm betting on the doxy. She needs to see her doctor. Take care of her...you are doing a great job!
linda and peach, hope you are ok. An earthquake? I'll have to turn on the news. Hi bobbie. It's a nice day here, helps the mood. ya, where are ted and rossella? Glad your boat is secure and you're all set up to enjoy the new years celebrations. Do they have fireworks? Or is that just fourth of july. I'm gonna go outside and putter around the yard to get some fresh air. ssk
Hey, everyone. I'm the new 'kid' on your forum. Looking for a place to vent, find advice and support while caring for my ornery 78 year old mother. My grandpa had a phrase - 'it's enough to make a preacher cuss!'. That's where I am these days! LOL!
Bobbie, the movie thing, reminds me when I took my 77 year old friend to see "The Departed". Best movie I ever saw, next to "Five Easy Pieces" in the 70s. I kept saying out loud, "Remember , it's a movie. It's special effects. Don't worry." She was hiding her head in my shoulder and kept saying, "OOw, OK, oh no, OK". It was hilarious. In 5EP, Jack Nicholson says to his dysfunctional family at dinner one night, fed up with their phoniness, " You're full of S--t. You're ALL full of S--t". It did my heart good, when I was 19, to know that someone, somewhere, might say that for REAL. I think I eventually did, several times, to my own family of origin. The movie "Getting Straight", with Elliot Gould, also had a favorite line, which I stated here once before, became one of my life mottos: "It's not what you do, it's what you are." Those words, stated by characters in stories, effected me so much, and helped me form myself in the way I wanted to be. :) christina
Okay guys....I"m going in!!!!!!! Wasn't that a line in some movie? I have neglected my mil bath yesterday because I just was not up to it, was restless thinking about Mom and then exhausted......last night when I took her her meds she smelled atrocious! I bet her depends have been on her for days......glad we are having freaky weather....60 degrees today....can open the back door and air it out! Wish me luck!
Welcome kimmy......join us and vent all you want....that's why we are here......the captain of this crew is bobbie and there is not a day that goes by without her sending some word of comfort and support.....and that also comes from the others here as well. I have been here a little over a month and they have all made me feel welcome and have shown their love and caring since I lost my mom yesterday morning....I so appreciate each and every one of these angels! Now I have only my mil to care for but she is a handful!
oh, Miz ... I'm sorry. Scrolling back I see the anniversary. You do your best today girl. Are you scheduled to work? Joe's Crab Shack has the shirts until we find a good design for ours.
whoops - It's Rocky in the icon. Thought it was Pip.
yes i need get me bite me shirt too . ! am so mad at my husband . talk about deadbeat sibbling wellmy hubby is one of em , got letter from dr , he didnt pass his blood work , failed big time ! told him sit on ur ass since dec 10th , no excersies 2 or 3 times week , eat bad food . are u trying to kill urself and leave me with all this mess ! his brother called and hubby didnt tell me , but i already know his family is going toget together for new year and hes not going . didnt go last year and not going again this year . ticked me off . i look at him like he s a bad ass sibbling and a failer . i am sooo upset , im leavin for walmart . watchout people here comes this bite me b!tch . xoxo
Written by a third grader, on what his grandparents do.
After Christmas, a teacher asked her young pupils how they spent their holiday away from school. One child wrote the following:
We always used to spend the holidays with Grandma and Grandpa. They used to live in a big brick house, but Grandpa got retarded and they moved to Arizona. Now they live in a tin box and have rocks painted green to look like grass. They ride around on their bicycles, and wear name tags, because they don't know who they are anymore. They go to a building called a wreck center, but they must have got it fixed because it is all okay now, they do exercises there, but they don't do them very well. There is a swimming pool too, but they all jump up and down in it with hats on. At their gate, there is a doll house with a little old man sitting in it. He watches all day so nobody can escape. Sometimes they sneak out, and go cruising in their golf carts. Nobody there cooks, they just eat out. And, they eat the same thing every night - early birds. Some of the people can't get out past the man in the doll house. The ones who do get out bring food back to the wrecked center for pot luck. My Grandma says that Grandpa worked all his life to earn his retardment, and says I should work hard so I can be retarded someday too. When I earn my retardment, I want to be the man in the doll house. Then I will let people out, so they can visit their grandchildren.
Sorry for the post of an hour ago.....sounded bad....I meant to say that every one here ALWAYS shows love and caring and I have been on the receiving end of some extra since I lost mom yesterday. My mind is a little screwy right now.....two youngest siblings are acting like TOTAL JACKA*****....after I calm down a bit I will post again because I would like to have your opinions on something. Linda kick a Wal-Mart cart for me!
lhardbeck (hope that's right) I'd like to run away to Walmart, too. only problem I's have to take him with me - can't leave him alone. This man can't get his shoes on the right feet but has sex on his mind 24/7.. Think I'll go take down the tree - he'll go watch tv while I throw things around - no not AT him. You guys really do help.
Looks like we have some belated Christmas Boils to hand out to errant family members.
Welcome Kimmy, we're all nuts.
Thanks for hooking lil Tenny up with the info Jam. how you feeling today?
Miz!! it's been a month since your mom was set free from her pain! don't forget, little one, that she had to go. too much pain and suffering. Same with Jam's mom and Angie's dad and my mom. doesn't make it easier on us but it is true.
Linda! c'mon down!! I get one parking pass! Get here before 8pm tomorrow night!!
ddotal: get a wooden spoon for 'sex on his mind all the time'! One word about sex and you swat him in the nuts with the wooden spoon. I don't give a hoot how demented he is, he'll put it together sooner or later.
Hmmm....every time I think about sex, my nuts hurt. What's on TV?
Hello Sailors! Hi Bobbie hows it going? One day I will have a bunch of drinks on that boat with ya! Have some nice wine and some hor's d ovres..how about some Stella Rosa wine? My b/f drinks it like water and he is not a drinker. It is italian wine..and how about some french bread and some genoa salami with medium provolone? Harde - thanks for missing me. I have had to deal with mom's increasing poopieness, getting a new caregiver, and my cousin's third heart attack to him being on life support to him passing. It's tough to take on more when you already have a snootful, so I have stayed away for a bit. ssk - thanks for the hello ! annie - boogers ewwwwwwwwwwwwww gross! Maybe she is craving someting salty? How about some salted peanuts..oh no...they choke on those...how about a bit of peanut butter on a teaspoon to suck on? J-somebody - next time your asshole neighbors leave their dogs out in the cold call a no-kill rescue. People who abuse their animals are part of the worst criminals on earth! Even wolves and foxes have earth dens or small caves they gather warmth from. Miz - I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I am so sorry to hear you are sad. Big heavy hard hugs to you. I will be thinking of you today! true color - Hey hello hi back at ya! Welcome Austin - tree fell down? There are a lot of trees falling down here in Cali today due to the saturation of the rains and the high winds today!!! Hi Kimmy - welcome to the Boat on the river of mommo poo! Jam - my condolences to you on your loss.
Well ladies it's been awhile since I have been on here. It does not help this silly arse website is a bitch when you have not been in for awhile. I set up a brand new email addy yesterday so I could get back in, and it said INVALID EMAIL..so I made up one and it let me in...so fn stupid. Well mommy dearest has become one of the ones that goes into poo hell. Can't keep her butt clean when it comes to poop time unless you are there to wipe up butt, otherwise she pulls up the depends right up over the poo. Gross....why do they insist on being GROSSSSSSSSS! Yuck...poop and poo smell are starting to get to me. Had to go through trying to get a new caregiver lately...that was hell. The old one wanted to go back to school during the day. So this lame ass agency had set up for two people to come..WHAT? That is 2 keys going out the door..no way..they had 1 person for monday and another for the rest of the week. Well I did not like the girl they had sent...too many questions...where did you get this...where did you get that..can i have lemons off your tree, and the clincher...whose car is that in the garage...say what? That is not what you are getting paid to do. So was with temporary ones for a couple of weeks until they hired new ones...and now have someone that is permenent...well for now. I feel sorry for her cause she has to deal with all this poopieness and fighting not to take a bath. She had 13 years being in a nursing home so she has experience. Well my cousin had his third heartattack and lost his life from it. He was a troubled child..never amounted to much...too much drug involvement and never having a job and lived with his divorced mother all these years. He is the same age as me...just sent him a b-day card in Nov and wrote in there to call me...he never did. So recently when he did not feel well checked himself into a hospital and then checked himself out due to having to share a room. (Mind you he had no money and just got disability..you would not think one would quibble)...then checked himself into another hospital got beligerant by pulling out all the stuff they hook you up to and checked himself again out. Well while he was home again he had a full arrest and it took paramedics 7 minutes to get him out of his childhood bedroom full of stuff and his 450 lb body. He had diabetes and all this weight and was a mess. Very sad. His 77 year old mother who has heart and weight issues herself was pushing him around to doctor visits. So now with him gone (the only person who drove) now I have calls to pick up groceries and dog food for his miserably mean dog and my aunt. I took her to the mortuary and got him settled for his cremation and offered to pick up the remains by myself...she did not want to go. So that is a bit stressfull thinking I have one more I may have to cater to now...geesh. At least my aunt is more thankful!!!!!! She is three streets over so she is close. What a fucking disfunctional family I have. My other cousins g/f whom I despise like the devil opened her big mouth over my cousins not even cold body about if he had a POA. She did not like when the nurse brought over the RECORD OF DEATH for me to sign...for some reason the hospital thought my aunt had dementia which she does not. Oh well that bitch g/f of my cousin did not like it...WHY DOES SHE SIGN and not the mother...I said she can sign...and had my aunt sign right behind mine. Well then she got loud about a POA...what? She said my cousin said the other cousin could have everything in the garage (a bunch of motor head crap...the whole garage is a mess with tools and oils and parts)...and all the fishing gear. Ignorant bitch does not even know you don't have a POA for crap like that. After they all left the hospital I was alone with my cousin as they started to unhook all the meds before they remove the breathing machine...it was sad he just turned 51. After I left the hospital which is up the street from where my mom and aunt live I went home really quick to check on my mom. In the moments just after that my cousin and his mother (my other aunt - mom's sis) came over...but as crude as they are did not come to the front door but where fooling around at the back gate to the backyard..I heard rustling out there and went out the front door and asked why did you not come to the front door and he answered I am just following her..I guess my aunt was thinking all is well with my mom and thought she would have the back open like when my mom was able bodied...She wants to block out that my mom is declining. Well when she came in and saw her (and was scoping out the house and the new stove which i bought my mom which was some sort of controversy - another story)...could she not see she is declining...well they stayed minutes...but I noticed his bitch g/f did not come in...probably because of the blowout I had with her in the driveway over there a year ago when she wanted to tell me whats what with my own mother. She is poison that is introduced into the family and my stupid cousin does not even get it. His loss when she sucks his ass dry one day. She better stay away from me, she is a viper in disguse. I have had many previous conversation with her when she did not want to get my issues with my mother before she got this old...she never wanted to hear my side of the issue. So enough of that saga.....it's end of the year soon. Cringing at this new one a bit due to I know mom is only going to get worse from this point and more hell is awaiting me. It's tough when you are all alone to decide issues and such. It's tough going to a 40 hour a week job and then run over there after work and then have her for the entire weekend. I have a reprive of 2 days when caregiver is there from 12 - 8.. Mom does not like it....see she can't have any control over me then...she hates that...she thrives on control...keeps her alive. Well happy New Year if I don't post again till after...hugs to you all. Happy Pooping!
This should make you smile........ It has been a tough year, but so far I've made it !!!
But not everyone is as lucky as I am......
The economy is so bad that I got a pre-declined credit card in the mail.
I ordered a burger at McDonald's, and the kid behind the counter asked, "Can you afford fries with that?"
CEO's are now playing miniature golf.
If the bank returns your check marked "Insufficient Funds," you have to call them and ask if they mean you or them .
Hot Wheels and Matchbox stocks are trading higher than GM.
McDonald's is selling the 1/4 'ouncer'.
Parents in Beverly Hills and Malibu are firing their nannies and learning their children's names.
A truckload of Americans was caught sneaking into Mexico .
Dick Cheney took his stockbroker hunting.
Motel Six won't leave the light on anymore.
The Mafia is laying off judges.
Exxon-Mobil laid off 25 Congressmen.
Congress says they are looking into the Bernard Madoff scandal Oh Great!! The guy who made $50 Billion disappear is being investigated by the people who made $1.5 Trillion disappear !
And, finally...I was so depressed last night thinking about the economy, wars, jobs, my savings, Social Security, retirement funds, and our bleak future, that I called the Suicide Lifeline and was connected to a call center in Pakistan . When I told them I was suicidal, they got all excited, and asked if I could drive a truck.
bobbie I need a bunch of Christmas boils to pass around. hope tennesee gets better also....sounds like she feels terrible. glad lil tenny is there to help her. My daughter-in-law had to start on doxy last nite....she has the upper respers and sinus thing going on. I'm doing okay today.......I am at peace with Mom's passing....it was a blessing because she was suffering and now she it not. I would like to try and tell you all what is going on and then you can tell me if I'm nuts or what........ There are 5 of us kids....4 girls, 1 boy. I think I already mentioned in back posts where the 2 youngest dragged Mom back from Michigan and then dumped her. They always claimed they had "issues" and that's why they had a hard time even seeing Mom. Brother has not seen her in 3 or 4 yrs. That was his choice. No kids of his own. Sister has 3 kids, her son never saw Grandma and her 2 girls saw her maybe once every 6 mo when sis was getting the guilts for ignoring Mom. Sis was at the hospital with me on Sunday....had to explain over and over and over that Mom is VERY sick and will not get better and prepare yourself for her death soon. Mom was suffering so bad...broke my heart to see her like that. I called her regular doctor on Monday and we talked about bringing mom home. That was done on Tuesday....hospice called and I called all sisters and brother and told them they should come and say goodbye because it wouldn't be long until mom died. Youngest sis texts me "I can't watch her do that....sorry" Brother refused to come. Oldest sis left work and came straight to nursing home to sit with me and say goodbye to Mom. Sis just older than me was home puking sick from migraine....we get them bad. The two of us told Mom it was okay to go with Jesus and she passed so peacefully.....no pain, resting, no more suffering. Neither one of my two daughters have given Grandma the time of day....youngest sisters 2 daughters are posting all over facebook how much they loved their Grandma, RIP, you are my guardian angel. Makes me want to puke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We (oldest 2 and myself) discussed yesterday how we have said our goodbyes and were with Mom, she is to be cremated probably today....told bro since he and other sis had no desire to see Mom there was no reason for a service. He agreed, then called me yesterday to say a service had been set up next Tuesday night and he was getting a tattoo of MOM on his arm. Can you hear me screaming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He says "even though she won't be in the casket I can go then and won't have to see her". So what kind of a show is this? I cannot show disrespect to my mother by being there to watch this pack of grandstanding idiots!!!!!!!! When I think about all this it makes my chest hurt........I just want to go outside and scream at the top of my lungs. Out of 10 grandchildren, 5 visited with her, and 3 great-grandchildren, and there are a lot of other greats that didn't ever see her. Am I wrong to not go and witness this false show of grief? I said goodbye to Mom and saw that she passed with dignity. And I am now healing.....and trying to focus on my mil and make her life as pleasant as possible. I guess I am looking for some validation....my hubby says he supports me 100%.
Yeah RIP then we can see you on IRT deadliest roads..lol. I love that show...you see how wacky they decorate those haulers...crazy people. Maybe they think the orange dingle-ball trim on the windows will help save them from going over the edge. Perhaps one of the gods likes orange dingle-balls? LOL.
Hey speaking of windows....I replaced the horrid ugly red curtains my mom had in her bedroom to some beige curtains with soft roses and pinks flowers in them. Best ones I could find that one day I had in Anna's linens. The larger window I set in the center a beige panel with some lace insets. Funny the curtains happen to match the bedspread that was in my mom's room. So it all kinda looks more kosher and matchy matchy. She did not even say anything..never said anything to her about it either. She is not into the material things she was so into before!!!!!!!!! (I have replaced the kitchen curtains, with ones she bought brand new..kinda cute with apples, changed out my old bedroom curtains...there were horrid ones in there too, changed out the main bathroom and the master bedroom curtains with some cute clean beige floral and lacey curtains..very beautiful...and of course the ones in her bedroom) It's amazing how just changing the curtains can freshen up a room!
Pirate & JAM ~ I can't believe what you guys are dealing with? I'm exhausted from reading. Pirate, if you haven't already report that questioning aid to the agency. I doubt the cops would take a report but you never know. Trust your instincts. Last thing you need is a burglary.
The rest of your situation is indeed a nightmare. Talk about feeling helpless ...
Jam. Dear Jam. It's enough dealing with the intensity of your MIL, but yeah ... I think you could use a huge amount of compassion from the rest of your family! I'm with your hubby too. I'd be so hurt & upset.
I'm off to deal with my own battles of the day. Hope the 2 humorous posts make someone smile ...
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cuz ,, wouldnt the pepper burn the nose first before the mouth , owwww ..
got pa out of the bed , bdrm was getting to him , got him in the living room now he s happy camper . wonder how long that;ll last , hope all night ,
my stomach s just feeling blah , hope im not comin down with something .
goodnight u all . going to the couch and try hard to get comfty xoxo
1000 ways to die i watched that a time or two
isnt one way enough lol
welcome bobbie o
hey everybody
hope everybody on the edge of thier seat for the new year lol
i cant wait
lol
will it bring a better year
i hope
and yea my back is not cooperating i thing i wil go to walmart and trade it in
do you think they will take it back with out the receipt? lol
take to you later
luv yall true
i had to laugh but i fussed at her and then she stopped and then she would not do andything for me caus i was the meany but the short time she spent in a nursing home while mom was in the hosp they ignored her and she would only do things when they were not looking so if maybe you could figure out some way fromthis little story that might help
i dont know
luv true
(These are a few of my favorite things!)
When your Mom bites, when the Sibs fight, when you're turning blue, I simply remember my favorite things, and then I LOL like TRUE!!! colors, that is
And now, as if the above wasn't bad enough, it's JOKE TIME...
(I hope these corny jokes make you smile & give you a little joy...a mini-vacation, even if it's just for a fleeting moment!)
An old woman came into her doctor's office and confessed to an embarrassing problem. "I fart all the time, Doctor Johnson, but they're soundless, and they have no odor. In fact, since I've been here, I've farted no less than twenty times. What can I do?"
"Here's a prescription, Mrs. Harris. Take these pills three times a day for seven days and comeback and see me in a week."
Next week an upset Mrs. Harris marched into Dr. Johnson's office. "Doctor, I don't know what was in those pills, but the problem is worse! I'm farting just as much, but now they smell terrible! What do you have to say for yourself?".
"Calm down, Mrs.Harris," said the doctor soothingly. "Now that we've fixed your sinuses, we'll work on your hearing."
Christina, LOVED your song! You're so talented!
Love & BIG hugs to everybody!
Peach : )
You guys are hilarious.
Christina, I eat all the time while I read/write this thread!
Every once in awhile someone will gross me out, but usually I say: bring it.
I remember being at a drive in and watching a horror movie where they ripped this guy's tongue out (movie, remember) and I was eating a big sloppy meatball sandwich. Everybody in the car was losing their minds and I didn't miss a bite.
I do have a high level of grossed out tolerance which could be why I started this because even that tolerance was being reached. interesting. And, the toothbrush thing was very funny to me, even in the moment. I just figured that I wasn't alone......!
lil Tenny, how is Tennessee? please keep us posted because we care for you both very very much.
Speaking of gross: lil Tenny, if your mom is coughing up mucus that has a color she has a bacterial infection and may need antibiotics.
Now, we have some way more qualified people here to comment on this, and I know that they will speak up in a little bit when everybody starts their day.
We love you lil Tenny and you are a beautiful champion for your mom.
The boats keep showing up for tomorrow's New Year's Eve party.
We moved this boat to an inside slip and the guys were flawless! All tied up with 8 lines and now the cockpit faces the sunset so I can sit out there and squint.
Coffee Time!!
MIA: Ted, Rossella Where are you guys and others? You know who you are! check in! we worry!
lovbob
pa still sleeping , i woke up with a blasted headache , felt like somebodys sittin on my forehead , pop those aleve sinus pill . i hate those headache .
raining here today , snow s about gone , i know the snow will come back again , wood box is about empty , prob go out in the rain and haul wood inside , just great , told hubby yesterday we need to fill up the wood box , oh ok but never did , he s lazy and wants to watch tv all day and night .
am trying to hint around for him to go to his moms , i dont think that'll happen ,
i better get pa s fav bfast going , maybe he;ll perk up more ?
will ck in again later , xoxo p.s if i feel the earthquake again then im gnna chew peachie out for not begin careful again .... xoxo :-)
ssk
In 5EP, Jack Nicholson says to his dysfunctional family at dinner one night, fed up with their phoniness, " You're full of S--t. You're ALL full of S--t". It did my heart good, when I was 19, to know that someone, somewhere, might say that for REAL. I think I eventually did, several times, to my own family of origin.
The movie "Getting Straight", with Elliot Gould, also had a favorite line, which I stated here once before, became one of my life mottos: "It's not what you do, it's what you are."
Those words, stated by characters in stories, effected me so much, and helped me form myself in the way I wanted to be.
:) christina
Are you OK today?
Rip ... *Icon should be Pip Squeak kitty now
You do your best today girl. Are you scheduled to work?
Joe's Crab Shack has the shirts until we find a good design for ours.
whoops - It's Rocky in the icon. Thought it was Pip.
talk about deadbeat sibbling wellmy hubby is one of em , got letter from dr , he didnt pass his blood work , failed big time ! told him sit on ur ass since dec 10th , no excersies 2 or 3 times week , eat bad food . are u trying to kill urself and leave me with all this mess ! his brother called and hubby didnt tell me , but i already know his family is going toget together for new year and hes not going . didnt go last year and not going again this year . ticked me off . i look at him like he s a bad ass sibbling and a failer .
i am sooo upset , im leavin for walmart . watchout people here comes this bite me b!tch . xoxo
"RETARDED" GRANDPARENTS
Written by a third grader, on what his grandparents do.
After Christmas, a teacher asked her young pupils how they spent their holiday away from school. One child wrote the following:
We always used to spend the holidays with Grandma and Grandpa. They used to live in a big brick house, but Grandpa got retarded and they moved to Arizona. Now they live in a tin box and have rocks painted green to look like grass. They ride around on their bicycles, and wear name tags, because they don't know who they are anymore. They go to a building called a wreck center, but they must have got it fixed because it is all okay now, they do exercises there, but they don't do them very well. There is a swimming pool too, but they all jump up and down in it with hats on. At their gate, there is a doll house with a little old man sitting in it. He watches all day so nobody can escape. Sometimes they sneak out, and go cruising in their golf carts. Nobody there cooks, they just eat out. And, they eat the same thing every night - early birds. Some of the people can't get out past the man in the doll house. The ones who do get out bring food back to the wrecked center for pot luck. My Grandma says that Grandpa worked all his life to earn his retardment, and says I should work hard so I can be retarded someday too. When I earn my retardment, I want to be the man in the doll house. Then I will let people out, so they can visit their grandchildren.
I think you hit 7,400. BOAT TIME
Maybe you should pack up & take your reward now! Join Bobbie for the festivities! We will all be there in spirit.
Welcome Kimmy, we're all nuts.
Thanks for hooking lil Tenny up with the info Jam. how you feeling today?
Miz!! it's been a month since your mom was set free from her pain! don't forget, little one, that she had to go.
too much pain and suffering. Same with Jam's mom and Angie's dad and my mom. doesn't make it easier on us but it is true.
Linda! c'mon down!! I get one parking pass! Get here before 8pm tomorrow night!!
ddotal: get a wooden spoon for 'sex on his mind all the time'! One word about sex and you swat him in the nuts with the wooden spoon.
I don't give a hoot how demented he is, he'll put it together sooner or later.
Hmmm....every time I think about sex, my nuts hurt.
What's on TV?
lovbob
Hi Bobbie hows it going? One day I will have a bunch of drinks on that boat with ya! Have some nice wine and some hor's d ovres..how about some Stella Rosa wine? My b/f drinks it like water and he is not a drinker. It is italian wine..and how about some french bread and some genoa salami with medium provolone?
Harde - thanks for missing me. I have had to deal with mom's increasing poopieness, getting a new caregiver, and my cousin's third heart attack to him being on life support to him passing. It's tough to take on more when you already have a snootful, so I have stayed away for a bit.
ssk - thanks for the hello !
annie - boogers ewwwwwwwwwwwwww gross! Maybe she is craving someting salty? How about some salted peanuts..oh no...they choke on those...how about a bit of peanut butter on a teaspoon to suck on?
J-somebody - next time your asshole neighbors leave their dogs out in the cold call a no-kill rescue. People who abuse their animals are part of the worst criminals on earth! Even wolves and foxes have earth dens or small caves they gather warmth from.
Miz - I am so sorry to hear of your loss, I am so sorry to hear you are sad. Big heavy hard hugs to you. I will be thinking of you today!
true color - Hey hello hi back at ya! Welcome
Austin - tree fell down? There are a lot of trees falling down here in Cali today due to the saturation of the rains and the high winds today!!!
Hi Kimmy - welcome to the Boat on the river of mommo poo!
Jam - my condolences to you on your loss.
Well ladies it's been awhile since I have been on here. It does not help this silly arse website is a bitch when you have not been in for awhile. I set up a brand new email addy yesterday so I could get back in, and it said INVALID EMAIL..so I made up one and it let me in...so fn stupid.
Well mommy dearest has become one of the ones that goes into poo hell. Can't keep her butt clean when it comes to poop time unless you are there to wipe up butt, otherwise she pulls up the depends right up over the poo. Gross....why do they insist on being GROSSSSSSSSS! Yuck...poop and poo smell are starting to get to me. Had to go through trying to get a new caregiver lately...that was hell. The old one wanted to go back to school during the day. So this lame ass agency had set up for two people to come..WHAT? That is 2 keys going out the door..no way..they had 1 person for monday and another for the rest of the week. Well I did not like the girl they had sent...too many questions...where did you get this...where did you get that..can i have lemons off your tree, and the clincher...whose car is that in the garage...say what? That is not what you are getting paid to do. So was with temporary ones for a couple of weeks until they hired new ones...and now have someone that is permenent...well for now. I feel sorry for her cause she has to deal with all this poopieness and fighting not to take a bath. She had 13 years being in a nursing home so she has experience.
Well my cousin had his third heartattack and lost his life from it. He was a troubled child..never amounted to much...too much drug involvement and never having a job and lived with his divorced mother all these years. He is the same age as me...just sent him a b-day card in Nov and wrote in there to call me...he never did. So recently when he did not feel well checked himself into a hospital and then checked himself out due to having to share a room. (Mind you he had no money and just got disability..you would not think one would quibble)...then checked himself into another hospital got beligerant by pulling out all the stuff they hook you up to and checked himself again out. Well while he was home again he had a full arrest and it took paramedics 7 minutes to get him out of his childhood bedroom full of stuff and his 450 lb body. He had diabetes and all this weight and was a mess. Very sad. His 77 year old mother who has heart and weight issues herself was pushing him around to doctor visits. So now with him gone (the only person who drove) now I have calls to pick up groceries and dog food for his miserably mean dog and my aunt. I took her to the mortuary and got him settled for his cremation and offered to pick up the remains by myself...she did not want to go. So that is a bit stressfull thinking I have one more I may have to cater to now...geesh. At least my aunt is more thankful!!!!!! She is three streets over so she is close. What a fucking disfunctional family I have. My other cousins g/f whom I despise like the devil opened her big mouth over my cousins not even cold body about if he had a POA. She did not like when the nurse brought over the RECORD OF DEATH for me to sign...for some reason the hospital thought my aunt had dementia which she does not. Oh well that bitch g/f of my cousin did not like it...WHY DOES SHE SIGN and not the mother...I said she can sign...and had my aunt sign right behind mine. Well then she got loud about a POA...what? She said my cousin said the other cousin could have everything in the garage (a bunch of motor head crap...the whole garage is a mess with tools and oils and parts)...and all the fishing gear. Ignorant bitch does not even know you don't have a POA for crap like that. After they all left the hospital I was alone with my cousin as they started to unhook all the meds before they remove the breathing machine...it was sad he just turned 51. After I left the hospital which is up the street from where my mom and aunt live I went home really quick to check on my mom. In the moments just after that my cousin and his mother (my other aunt - mom's sis) came over...but as crude as they are did not come to the front door but where fooling around at the back gate to the backyard..I heard rustling out there and went out the front door and asked why did you not come to the front door and he answered I am just following her..I guess my aunt was thinking all is well with my mom and thought she would have the back open like when my mom was able bodied...She wants to block out that my mom is declining. Well when she came in and saw her (and was scoping out the house and the new stove which i bought my mom which was some sort of controversy - another story)...could she not see she is declining...well they stayed minutes...but I noticed his bitch g/f did not come in...probably because of the blowout I had with her in the driveway over there a year ago when she wanted to tell me whats what with my own mother. She is poison that is introduced into the family and my stupid cousin does not even get it. His loss when she sucks his ass dry one day. She better stay away from me, she is a viper in disguse. I have had many previous conversation with her when she did not want to get my issues with my mother before she got this old...she never wanted to hear my side of the issue.
So enough of that saga.....it's end of the year soon. Cringing at this new one a bit due to I know mom is only going to get worse from this point and more hell is awaiting me. It's tough when you are all alone to decide issues and such. It's tough going to a 40 hour a week job and then run over there after work and then have her for the entire weekend. I have a reprive of 2 days when caregiver is there from 12 - 8.. Mom does not like it....see she can't have any control over me then...she hates that...she thrives on control...keeps her alive.
Well happy New Year if I don't post again till after...hugs to you all. Happy Pooping!
This should make you smile........
It has been a tough year, but so far I've made it !!!
But not everyone is as lucky as I am......
The economy is so bad that I got a pre-declined credit card in the mail.
I ordered a burger at McDonald's, and the kid behind the counter asked, "Can you afford fries with that?"
CEO's are now playing miniature golf.
If the bank returns your check marked "Insufficient Funds," you have to call them and ask if they mean you or them .
Hot Wheels and Matchbox stocks are trading higher than GM.
McDonald's is selling the 1/4 'ouncer'.
Parents in Beverly Hills and Malibu are firing their nannies and learning their children's names.
A truckload of Americans was caught sneaking into Mexico .
Dick Cheney took his stockbroker hunting.
Motel Six won't leave the light on anymore.
The Mafia is laying off judges.
Exxon-Mobil laid off 25 Congressmen.
Congress says they are looking into the Bernard Madoff scandal Oh Great!! The guy who made $50 Billion disappear is being investigated by the people who made $1.5 Trillion disappear !
And, finally...I was so depressed last night thinking about the economy, wars, jobs, my savings, Social Security, retirement funds, and our bleak future, that I called the Suicide Lifeline and was connected to a call center in Pakistan . When I told them I was suicidal, they got all excited, and asked if I could drive a truck.
hope tennesee gets better also....sounds like she feels terrible. glad lil tenny is there to help her. My daughter-in-law had to start on doxy last nite....she has the upper respers and sinus thing going on.
I'm doing okay today.......I am at peace with Mom's passing....it was a blessing because she was suffering and now she it not.
I would like to try and tell you all what is going on and then you can tell me if I'm nuts or what........
There are 5 of us kids....4 girls, 1 boy. I think I already mentioned in back posts where the 2 youngest dragged Mom back from Michigan and then dumped her. They always claimed they had "issues" and that's why they had a hard time even seeing Mom. Brother has not seen her in 3 or 4 yrs. That was his choice. No kids of his own. Sister has 3 kids, her son never saw Grandma and her 2 girls saw her maybe once every 6 mo when sis was getting the guilts for ignoring Mom. Sis was at the hospital with me on Sunday....had to explain over and over and over that Mom is VERY sick and will not get better and prepare yourself for her death soon. Mom was suffering so bad...broke my heart to see her like that. I called her regular doctor on Monday and we talked about bringing mom home. That was done on Tuesday....hospice called and I called all sisters and brother and told them they should come and say goodbye because it wouldn't be long until mom died. Youngest sis texts me "I can't watch her do that....sorry" Brother refused to come. Oldest sis left work and came straight to nursing home to sit with me and say goodbye to Mom. Sis just older than me was home puking sick from migraine....we get them bad. The two of us told Mom it was okay to go with Jesus and she passed so peacefully.....no pain, resting, no more suffering. Neither one of my two daughters have given Grandma the time of day....youngest sisters 2 daughters are posting all over facebook how much they loved their Grandma, RIP, you are my guardian angel. Makes me want to puke!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We (oldest 2 and myself) discussed yesterday how we have said our goodbyes and were with Mom, she is to be cremated probably today....told bro since he and other sis had no desire to see Mom there was no reason for a service. He agreed, then called me yesterday to say a service had been set up next Tuesday night and he was getting a tattoo of MOM on his arm. Can you hear me screaming!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He says "even though she won't be in the casket I can go then and won't have to see her". So what kind of a show is this? I cannot show disrespect to my mother by being there to watch this pack of grandstanding idiots!!!!!!!! When I think about all this it makes my chest hurt........I just want to go outside and scream at the top of my lungs. Out of 10 grandchildren, 5 visited with her, and 3 great-grandchildren, and there are a lot of other greats that didn't ever see her. Am I wrong to not go and witness this false show of grief? I said goodbye to Mom and saw that she passed with dignity. And I am now healing.....and trying to focus on my mil and make her life as pleasant as possible. I guess I am looking for some validation....my hubby says he supports me 100%.
Hey speaking of windows....I replaced the horrid ugly red curtains my mom had in her bedroom to some beige curtains with soft roses and pinks flowers in them. Best ones I could find that one day I had in Anna's linens. The larger window I set in the center a beige panel with some lace insets. Funny the curtains happen to match the bedspread that was in my mom's room. So it all kinda looks more kosher and matchy matchy. She did not even say anything..never said anything to her about it either. She is not into the material things she was so into before!!!!!!!!! (I have replaced the kitchen curtains, with ones she bought brand new..kinda cute with apples, changed out my old bedroom curtains...there were horrid ones in there too, changed out the main bathroom and the master bedroom curtains with some cute clean beige floral and lacey curtains..very beautiful...and of course the ones in her bedroom) It's amazing how just changing the curtains can freshen up a room!
I can't believe what you guys are dealing with? I'm exhausted from reading.
Pirate, if you haven't already report that questioning aid to the agency. I doubt the cops would take a report but you never know. Trust your instincts. Last thing you need is a burglary.
The rest of your situation is indeed a nightmare. Talk about feeling helpless ...
Jam. Dear Jam. It's enough dealing with the intensity of your MIL, but yeah ... I think you could use a huge amount of compassion from the rest of your family! I'm with your hubby too. I'd be so hurt & upset.
I'm off to deal with my own battles of the day. Hope the 2 humorous posts make someone smile ...