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New year grits, they make the world go round...or perhaps it was something about getting bound? Hmm, could be the cheesy style, no matter, they be deeelicious with or without, pass the Tabasco please!
Oops, a commotion has seemed to be developing...ah, Mama is attempting diplomacy with a mousebuster and her freshly gotten prize..be time to mediate me thinks!
Sorry the year started out so bad for you Diane! Family, what can I say? Your nephew is a jerk and has no clue. Screw him and hope he has a rotten year for what he did to you!!!
Hi, I stayed up and watched the ball drop in times square in NYC (on TV). Went out to dinner with Mom's old friends and one has a caregiver who is 26 yo. It was nice to have a young person to talk to . I feel really tired today too. Like the blob. Sometimes I think of renting a room upstairs to have someone else around, (and get the rental income) but then talk myself out of it thinking another person here would get on my nerves and take over the kitchen and the TV, etc. Just have to keep on keeping on, I guess. I love fireworks, will have to get some for the fourth of july. Fireworks are illegal in MA, stupid law. ssk
Diane.....I'm so sorry and just know I am right there with you! Part of my family are acting like jackasses with my mom's passing.....I've decided.....SCREW THEM! didn't need them before to get through my life, don't need them now. Big hugs!!!!!!
Aw, Flex! I don't have all the details but hey, who ever is bothering you is bothering me. Screw the nephew. (sung to the tune of 'Rock the Casbah') Betrayal and abandonment. I do know what that feels like and I am sorry you are experiencing that.
Here's hoping that family members that don't get it stay away. Better to have no one than to have crap in your own family. Just sayin...
Beautiful day here and I will be working on the boat again today. Hope I get to see some visitors pretty soon!!!
I went to the store this morning a older black gentleman that has my last name told me he was stopped the other night leaving the store.He said that when he rolled down the window,the cop looked surprised said your not who I thought you were and let him go.He said he reported it to one of the council for what good that is worth.Are all politicians in office for personal gain and spite?They are in my town.TWERPS
tenn , thats pityful ! next time when its time to vote dont vote for him ! i think i am afraid of your town . wanna meet me at walmart on the next town over ? :-) oh wait a min ill take jam with me she has permit to carry guns woooo ! i sure hope ur year starts out a good one , keep ur head above and bark loud when someone picks on ya . pa s feeling alot better and i think i am too . blew my nose so damn hard this morning and a chunk of brain came out , i thought oh well hello there . isnt that gross ? hubby got up and just now went back to bed , mmm am kinda worried about him , maybe hes coming down with sinus too ? bobbie ! am glad that barbara b is good and not hurt . whew ! like j , said we havent got on that boat yet ! need to growl and hisss when the big boat comes near you . yep if i smash my nuts ya bet i be havin a cocktails , lol i still havent cleaned out the litter box , need to do that cuz its starting to smell . geeze when patrick mention it i thought oh yes but never did , so am going to do that right now . you all have a happy day ! love you all my family . xoxoxo
hARDEBECK-no one runs against him-They pass the torch from family member to Family member.X- KLANSMAN-not nice people-yes the klan still exisits-saddly enough.It is a poor little community that has no resources ,you take what they dish out.I try to be their voice,but pay back is a bitch.I did not vote for him-I wrote in Lucky Dog.They know who you vote for and that can cost you too.Town population 300 plus bomb factory next to elem school.
Hi crew Maxine here having a lazy day grandson is playing a video game or whatever they are called these days on the tv. happy new year to all of you-Bobbie glad that wreck did not hurt your boat-do you think the guy in the little boat had celebrated too much or just an accident. My big date is comming up at the least I will get a nice meal out of it-I told him I would pay since he is doing the most traveling and have to go to the craft store and pet store near there anyway- I made such a fuss with eharmony.com they are shortening my contract and refunding some money-I kind of threatened and perhaps called them a scam. Will be glad to get back to my normal activities this week-did not stay up to see the ball drop in the city this year-I think people are crazy standing in pens for 10 hr. when they can watch it on tv.
Ahhhh Jam, I hope you feel better Peach! I'm a big believer in Aspercreme. My Grandma believed in Ben Gay. Mom used Vicks.
Jam knows whassup.
Cuz and J! hope you guys are feeling better. This year's crud is not fun. it kicked my butt.
Miz! get a mayo jar and start putting a little $ in it! Put a label on the jar: BOAT!
OK, enough is enough. Where's Ted? I know we're all worried. If anyone knows anything, please just let us know if he's ok. Was thrilled to hear from Rossella. happy New Year!!! and Love you!
BonnieO, you are a sweetheart and we are all very glad that you're here!
Kuli! whassup
Lil Tenny, Yes the pic is from the first dock in St A.
Tennessee, just get out of there and put a new life together that doesn't include those morons. Atlas Shrugged.
that's the book I put in the Bookstore window after they put me through all that unnecessary insanity while mom was dying. No more. I'm done. I want to live my life with Joy and Happiness and these people liked stress and bickering.
If you want to fight on, bless your heart but it is not going to change and you will be upset about the same shit next year. you both have suffered enough with J and your dad and all of the betrayal. get what you can and split. I have not regretted leaving my idiots behind one bit and yes that was my mom's precious building but it was in the middle of a river of sh!!. I know she's happy that i'm not struggling with that ignorance anymore. Not good for me. That's why I need to not be there. Tending 2 graves is a sorry excuse to live anywhere. there's a whole world for you and lil Tenny to choose from that doesn't have anything to do with those ridiculous people.
Aw Jeeze, the guys are showing up on the boat next door (big boat dude is icing his nuts), for the Big Game. I know there's a Big Game because I could hear the pep rally at Jacksonville Landing yesterday complete with a marching band that was pretty good. However, the guy speaking at the Rally sounded like he had listened a lot to Hitler. Now a field full of dudes is going to beat the brain cells out of each other for a *ball*. If you trace the ball way back in human history, it started out as a *head*. Cool eh? And now, heads are being destroyed by a *ball*. There's a certain symmetry to it all...
Hungry. time for a bagel.
Jen! you kill me. thanks for the big laugh last night. I broke up when I saw how you wrote it. Now that mom's there, when you coming? The boat has handrails everywhere for your bootie. Take fp's cc and get some $$ and a Southwest ticket and blow that pop stand. I'm a bad influence.
Happy New Year everybody. it will be what WE Make It!!
Hi everyone! Let it be a Happy New Year for all of us!
There is a good article on the front page of the NY Times today about new methods for caring for Alzheimers/Demtia patients. It basically says that "...there’s actually better evidence and more significant results in caregiver interventions than there is in anything to treat this disease so far." I think I agree. I have a social working coming to my home to talk to Mom about what is happening to Dad and how she can better deal it. Mom cannot, for the life of her, separate the man from the disease. She keeps saying, 'Why is saying stupid things?' and "Why is always bringing up the past?" and "Why is he so angry over nothing?" She's been saying this to me almost every day for a year and a half and it makes me want to scream!!! And EVERY SINGLE TIME I tell her, "Because he's sick, Mom, don't you get it???!!" But she doesn't. So she keeps complaining to me and doing NOTHING to change or help the situation at all. Makes ME CRAZY!! So I'm hopeful that this meeting with this social worker will start Mom thinking about how she can change her ways to alleviate all the anger they are both living in. Let's not forget about the two deadbeat siblings just waiting for their handout who refuse to help, never ever call me, or write because they are too fu**ing busy with their own disfunctional lives.
Maxine, I'm excited for you going on the big first date soon! hope you have a great time. I'm trying to figure out how to transfer pictures from my camera to the computer. I am lazy and hate to read the manuals for any electronic "thinggy" Bobbie, glad you had a good night. I am worried about Ted too. I wonder if they had a bad snowstorm there or something? Maybe he just went on his respite week. Maybe he got grossed out by the poop talk. How can you contact him? tenn, your town government sounds like bunch of idios.. sorry they have put you through all that "crap" ssk
ss----read the NY Times article.....wow seems what they are doing is making a difference. My question would be how to "handle" someone who had no prior interests? Now is my time to confess and I'm sorry if I offend anyone but to myself and close friends and hubby I refer to mil as the "crazy old lady"....all with affection of course. Her mother was a "crocheting fool".....immigrated from Sweden. The things that woman made were beautiful....we have one of her afghans that is gorgeous. COL never learned that art, won't read anything but the daily newspaper and her weekly Enquirer, won't watch anything on tv but depressing CNN all day long....I've tried to get her to read a book....nope read when she was in school. Alrighty then.....ALL she wants to do is go shoppy-shoppy and out to eat. She will go out and pull weeds when it's not freezing cold......hello----we live in Missouri...:) Would pull weeds in the garden during the summer, but the minute I came out to do anything....she sits down and watches me. Tried to get her out yesterday while I put out new bird food....she sat for about 3 minutes then back in she went. And starts asking if we plan to go out and eat. Explained again that no.....hubby working and when he gets home after a 12-hr shift he comes home an exhausted piece of jello....and won't go anywhere.....honest to God she looked straight at me and asked "when does Rod work again so we can go out and eat tonight"? She WILL NOT show interest in anything other than going out. I think I would be afraid to take her meds away.......OMG she would get so mean and nasty before. In the article they even talk about giving a little "nip". We did that occasionally to the COL before increasing her zyprexa.....and she would get belligerant, mean-mouthed, etc. Hubby said last night if she continues to go to mailbox this time he will make it so her front door won't open. She will just go out the back door.....duh. Can't lock her in like a prisoner.....then the dog won't pee outside and the weeds would never get pulled....:) I did notice in the article where they talked about the lighting that COL likes to leave all lights on and both of her tvs blaring all day and all night. I know she can't see well even though she says her eyesight is 20/20.....is that why you read the paper with a magnifying glass? I have tried to get her to at least turn off living room tv and she makes sniping comments about I shouldn't be able to hear it in my bedroom........oh BITE ME! Ya all have a wonderful, peaceful day.......gotta go change someone's diaper......:)
Jam, I used to try to get Mom to do stuff too. She got so she didn't watch TV, didn't read. I think her eyes got tired. I caught her knitting on one of my scarves one day and so I was like, Cool!! She'll knit!!. Nope, I started a scarf for her and she wouldn't do it. I didn't insult her intelligence with the kiddy puzzles and stuff that the visiting nurses agency brought here. She used to say she was just laying there counting her blessings. It was frustrating trying to find something for her to do because I knew she had to be so bored. I know there were days that she wanted to get out and I didn't feel like it or was too tired or down. I regret that now.
Anyway, as far as keeping your her from leaving the house, I believe that yes you CAN lock her in...for her own safety.
I hear your frustration and I am sorry for it. Keep venting!!
Hi Everyone. I just read the posts from when Mom was in the hospital and after she died...not every word I must tell you. I don't have the attention span for that, but the ones directed to me and about me and mom. (Wow that sounds selfish.) Anyway, I am truly overwhelmed with all the support and love I feel today over one month later. I am feeling very sad now but I needed to read them. Thank you all so very much. I don't know how I stayed that strong. Or maybe I didn't. Some of it is such a blur. I finally got to read the Amber Jane post. :) You go girl, Bobbie!! I wish I could express how I am feeling but there are no words good enough to tell you all how wonderful you are. You take me as I am (neurotic and such) and that means so much to me too. My heart is swollen with love right now.
Caddyshack is/was funny, bill murry and the gopher, a spoof on the Country club "snobs" I don't think there are any inapropriate scenes in it. I say , go for it.
I had a weird dream last night. There was a large animal running around in the snow. It looked like a dog but when it came closer, it had cat type fur and a cat face. When it got closer I could see that it was covered in poopy bloody yuck. I some of the gross posts are getting to me! I woke up with my heart pounding. I'm OK today though. ssk
BOBBIE,my business and my living is in the small shitty town,I live in the woods where there is much security.If I sell it will be whats in the city limits,they can't do much out of their zone.If I sell it will be more because SCHOOL BY EXPLOSIVE PLANT IN AMERICA. They have goverment contract-100 lawyers-much power.Old dude has life estate on land when he kicks the bucket-He's 86 and getting around good now-but once he's gone-the explosive plant circles the whole town -IT CIRCLES THE SCHOOL.IF these kids were doctors kids it wouldn't be happening,they are kids from poor familys,they have no choice.I have a choice my kid travels to another county every day to college prep school-every kid deserves a chance not just the ones with money.I can't believe the national media hasn't shown up by now.I guess they are going to wait until it kills some kids.The school in on the hill, explosives down the hill and tunnels all underground-highly secretive.Yes, folks this is America I'm talkin about and not Pakistan.THEY need to move that school they need to do something.People get severly burned at that plant-it should be out in the desert.Its not amatter of if someone will get killed its a matter of when the next one will be.The plant is making this stuff for our government,so I'm sure the government knows of the school and situation.I can't be proud of a government that puts innocent kids in harms way.I have cracks in most of my foundations from previous explosions.They are felt five miles away sometimes.I wonder if Obama would have his daughters going to school next to a explosive plant.We know the answer to that.
Depends on the child is a breast scene and pot smoking ND SOME CUSS-AGE...BUT still Caddyshack is an American Classic...sort of poor mans Animal House....I had scene it by 12 I think...
Hope everyone is having a good day...right after I had to get off talking to Liz I went and had the last of my Eggnog and saw what my mother had done (again) to my plant in the back room and it killed me. ....for some reason she gets upset that my plant grows so she "trims it" ...she will say "if you cut it back it will get taller..." then she says "if you cut it down it will bush out..."then she cut my growing plant back to the stalk literally, it was four feet h9igh and three around and she butchered it down tho the last ten leaves...she has done it twice before and I have asked her not too...when I saw it last night sitting there listening to fart Pants guffaw at Marx Brothers movies till 1 AM the air just was knocked out of me....I hated her, him myself God, the world...I went out by myself in 6 degree weather and rang the bell half halfheartedly at Midnight enjoyed the spectacle of numerous local fire works from some neighbors with in a five block radius and contemplated my useless life... I thought of how happy I was talking to you all on Facebook and was wearing the scarf Deef made me and thought you know for all my mothers paranoia about "People we don't know" I am treated better by strangers than my own FAMILY and it ripped my heart out. I wanted to die, to run away, to just get away.... I will not win a mint, marry money, make a splash in this world so I toned down my dreams, just a little life, my own some how. Not a huge step and small one, get a part time job just bring some money in and start working towards getting away from the barren hell of a life I have known, the only life I have known and escape. Just escape, and not in a way that involves hanging myself or burning the house down... I looked at my butchered plant and thought of tossing it out in the cold so she can't be offended by its growth any more...and chose instead to carry in 30 pounds of dirt down stairs and set it up in the Southern most basement window, keep a light on for it and get it alive down there. She doesn't have to see it and I don't have to wait for her to try and kill it again...her ivy she lets grow, the cactus flourishes the African Violets she lest be something about my huge China Doll from Walmart that started life as an 8 inch plant and bloomed to shrub proportions she just can't take...FINE MOTHER you don't have to look at it anymore...And yes, YOU ARE turning into YOUR HATED MOTHER!! She would go out in the dark and POISON the neighbors trees becasue she didn't like them... You will not be poisoning me any longer....
PEACE to my FRIENDS here, have a safe and Happy New Year!!!! 2011 It is what we make it I guess. Minus the "have to's" it will be what I MAKE IT!
Tenny, I hear you and I get it. I'm with you! You're a better person than me because I can't tolerate that crap to the point I can't have it in my life. I'm sorry for everyone who is disadvantaged but, I did my time taking care of people and working with idiots and I'm toast. Better look to the next guy and leave me alone.
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Hmm, could be the cheesy style, no matter, they be deeelicious with or without, pass the Tabasco please!
Oops, a commotion has seemed to be developing...ah, Mama is attempting diplomacy with a mousebuster and her freshly gotten prize..be time to mediate me thinks!
Sometimes I think of renting a room upstairs to have someone else around, (and get the rental income) but then talk myself out of it thinking another person here would get on my nerves and take over the kitchen and the TV, etc. Just have to keep on keeping on, I guess. I love fireworks, will have to get some for the fourth of july. Fireworks are illegal in MA, stupid law.
ssk
I don't have all the details but hey, who ever is bothering you is bothering me.
Screw the nephew. (sung to the tune of 'Rock the Casbah')
Betrayal and abandonment. I do know what that feels like and I am sorry you are experiencing that.
Here's hoping that family members that don't get it stay away.
Better to have no one than to have crap in your own family.
Just sayin...
Beautiful day here and I will be working on the boat again today.
Hope I get to see some visitors pretty soon!!!
lovbob
pa s feeling alot better and i think i am too . blew my nose so damn hard this morning and a chunk of brain came out , i thought oh well hello there . isnt that gross ?
hubby got up and just now went back to bed , mmm am kinda worried about him , maybe hes coming down with sinus too ?
bobbie ! am glad that barbara b is good and not hurt . whew ! like j , said we havent got on that boat yet ! need to growl and hisss when the big boat comes near you .
yep if i smash my nuts ya bet i be havin a cocktails , lol
i still havent cleaned out the litter box , need to do that cuz its starting to smell . geeze when patrick mention it i thought oh yes but never did , so am going to do that right now .
you all have a happy day ! love you all my family . xoxoxo
I hope you feel better Peach!
I'm a big believer in Aspercreme.
My Grandma believed in Ben Gay.
Mom used Vicks.
Jam knows whassup.
Cuz and J! hope you guys are feeling better. This year's crud is not fun. it kicked my butt.
Miz! get a mayo jar and start putting a little $ in it! Put a label on the jar: BOAT!
OK, enough is enough. Where's Ted? I know we're all worried.
If anyone knows anything, please just let us know if he's ok.
Was thrilled to hear from Rossella. happy New Year!!! and Love you!
BonnieO, you are a sweetheart and we are all very glad that you're here!
Kuli! whassup
Lil Tenny, Yes the pic is from the first dock in St A.
Tennessee, just get out of there and put a new life together that doesn't include those morons. Atlas Shrugged.
that's the book I put in the Bookstore window after they put me through all that unnecessary insanity while mom was dying.
No more. I'm done. I want to live my life with Joy and Happiness and these people liked stress and bickering.
If you want to fight on, bless your heart but it is not going to change and you will be upset about the same shit next year.
you both have suffered enough with J and your dad and all of the betrayal. get what you can and split.
I have not regretted leaving my idiots behind one bit and yes that was my mom's precious building but it was in the middle of a river of sh!!.
I know she's happy that i'm not struggling with that ignorance anymore.
Not good for me.
That's why I need to not be there.
Tending 2 graves is a sorry excuse to live anywhere.
there's a whole world for you and lil Tenny to choose from that doesn't have anything to do with those ridiculous people.
Aw Jeeze, the guys are showing up on the boat next door (big boat dude is icing his nuts), for the Big Game. I know there's a Big Game because I could hear the pep rally at Jacksonville Landing yesterday complete with a marching band that was pretty good.
However, the guy speaking at the Rally sounded like he had listened a lot to Hitler.
Now a field full of dudes is going to beat the brain cells out of each other for a *ball*.
If you trace the ball way back in human history, it started out as a *head*.
Cool eh?
And now, heads are being destroyed by a *ball*.
There's a certain symmetry to it all...
Hungry. time for a bagel.
Jen! you kill me. thanks for the big laugh last night. I broke up when I saw how you wrote it.
Now that mom's there, when you coming? The boat has handrails everywhere for your bootie.
Take fp's cc and get some $$ and a Southwest ticket and blow that pop stand.
I'm a bad influence.
Happy New Year everybody. it will be what WE Make It!!
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lovbob
There is a good article on the front page of the NY Times today about new methods for caring for Alzheimers/Demtia patients. It basically says that "...there’s actually better evidence and more significant results in caregiver interventions than there is in anything to treat this disease so far." I think I agree. I have a social working coming to my home to talk to Mom about what is happening to Dad and how she can better deal it. Mom cannot, for the life of her, separate the man from the disease. She keeps saying, 'Why is saying stupid things?' and "Why is always bringing up the past?" and "Why is he so angry over nothing?" She's been saying this to me almost every day for a year and a half and it makes me want to scream!!! And EVERY SINGLE TIME I tell her, "Because he's sick, Mom, don't you get it???!!" But she doesn't. So she keeps complaining to me and doing NOTHING to change or help the situation at all. Makes ME CRAZY!! So I'm hopeful that this meeting with this social worker will start Mom thinking about how she can change her ways to alleviate all the anger they are both living in. Let's not forget about the two deadbeat siblings just waiting for their handout who refuse to help, never ever call me, or write because they are too fu**ing busy with their own disfunctional lives.
Bobbie, glad you had a good night. I am worried about Ted too. I wonder if they had a bad snowstorm there or something? Maybe he just went on his respite week. Maybe he got grossed out by the poop talk. How can you contact him?
tenn, your town government sounds like bunch of idios.. sorry they have put you through all that "crap"
ssk
Anyway, as far as keeping your her from leaving the house, I believe that yes you CAN lock her in...for her own safety.
I hear your frustration and I am sorry for it. Keep venting!!
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take you as you are, indeed. You're perfect.
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ssk
Did you drink coffee before going to bed?
lovbob
Hope everyone is having a good day...right after I had to get off talking to Liz I went and had the last of my Eggnog and saw what my mother had done (again) to my plant in the back room and it killed me. ....for some reason she gets upset that my plant grows so she "trims it" ...she will say "if you cut it back it will get taller..." then she says "if you cut it down it will bush out..."then she cut my growing plant back to the stalk literally, it was four feet h9igh and three around and she butchered it down tho the last ten leaves...she has done it twice before and I have asked her not too...when I saw it last night sitting there listening to fart Pants guffaw at Marx Brothers movies till 1 AM the air just was knocked out of me....I hated her, him myself God, the world...I went out by myself in 6 degree weather and rang the bell half halfheartedly at Midnight enjoyed the spectacle of numerous local fire works from some neighbors with in a five block radius and contemplated my useless life...
I thought of how happy I was talking to you all on Facebook and was wearing the scarf Deef made me and thought you know for all my mothers paranoia about "People we don't know" I am treated better by strangers than my own FAMILY and it ripped my heart out. I wanted to die, to run away, to just get away....
I will not win a mint, marry money, make a splash in this world so I toned down my dreams, just a little life, my own some how. Not a huge step and small one, get a part time job just bring some money in and start working towards getting away from the barren hell of a life I have known, the only life I have known and escape. Just escape, and not in a way that involves hanging myself or burning the house down...
I looked at my butchered plant and thought of tossing it out in the cold so she can't be offended by its growth any more...and chose instead to carry in 30 pounds of dirt down stairs and set it up in the Southern most basement window, keep a light on for it and get it alive down there. She doesn't have to see it and I don't have to wait for her to try and kill it again...her ivy she lets grow, the cactus flourishes the African Violets she lest be something about my huge China Doll from Walmart that started life as an 8 inch plant and bloomed to shrub proportions she just can't take...FINE MOTHER you don't have to look at it anymore...And yes, YOU ARE turning into YOUR HATED MOTHER!! She would go out in the dark and POISON the neighbors trees becasue she didn't like them... You will not be poisoning me any longer....
PEACE to my FRIENDS here, have a safe and Happy New Year!!!! 2011 It is what we make it I guess. Minus the "have to's" it will be what I MAKE IT!
Tenny, I hear you and I get it.
I'm with you!
You're a better person than me because I can't tolerate that crap to the point I can't have it in my life.
I'm sorry for everyone who is disadvantaged but, I did my time taking care of people and working with idiots and I'm toast.
Better look to the next guy and leave me alone.
BOAT!!
lovbob