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Marip, this is the new computer (new as in: "second hand but good"). Its memory is better than mine, for sure. As it belonged to a young girl, and she was quite "heavy" with the buttons, (it seems she used a hammer to switch the computer on), this tower sometimes does not start. That's why I am going to keep the old one on the same table; ready to work if this one decides not to cooperate. I am going to give Daniela a portable which is also second-hand (we have a market for second hand things!) I am becoming second hand too! My dogs are definitely second hand, because they had been abandoned. My cats are not second hand, cats can't be second hand. If they have been abandoned by their previous owner, they will tell you that they have abandoned their previous owner. You know cats. Yeah I remember very well our summer chats, when we were the only two people in the world who were not on vacation!!! And we have not taken a rest since then. I know the newbies... I could not write but I could read. I haven't missed a Bit! (speaking of PCs....)
BTW, Rip, grande bacio a Sir (he has been in Italy he will understand) Bobbie what's the "yup"??? (digestion?) Jam I am glad if the nonsenses I say make you feel better. People of my family think I am crazy!!!! What is "crazy" BTW? I don't remember who said that the cat goes to the bathroom to watch if everything is done correctly. Our cat Cocaine does the same. She thinks she is my mother's cat (it's an unilateral feeling) and she always watches me to see if I treat her well.
Hey, I don't know how I do it--I was 7,000, too. Must be THE TIME ZONE THINGY!! Got to put Mother to bed, take a shower, then I'm baa-aack. Miz--I'll be here for you, little sweetheart. Want to read the posts from Rossellamex, too. I'm Italian at heart, and in the kitchen:)
Montgomery Creme is tossing confetti about ... er, pine kitty litter, in honor of our Italian amigos. Yes, summer was special when we found this thread. A vacation from parents online! The bonus was discovering how much we all have in common!
Christina ... You have instinctive timing! & double BOAT hours! Bravo for you , girl! The boat & her host are amazing! An "E" ticket ride when the time is right.
Hoping the West Coast happens .... if not ~ should we buy another boat?
Hello? Rip? did everyone go to bed? I should go to sleep, but I'm not tired now. got my second wind. I read all the posts. How's the weather up there? Think I told you we used to live in Marysville and Kirkland. too much rain for too long. Now we have axis shifting, and it's down here, too. I think I'm going to Google about the blackbird catastrophe in the south before I go to sleep. I caught bits and pieces the last couple of days but I have no idea if it's apocalyptic or a strange accident? It is nice to read all the posts and see the style and patterns of communication. I don't feel so bad now, because it is a time zone thingy, but hey, I'm 7k, 8k, and maybe go for 9k. I hope y'all are sleeping peacefully, I'll pray for each of you tonight while you are sleeping, for your individual circumstances, and thank God for each of you, and the newbies arriving daily. Bless our Captain, Lord, and heal her body, she gives and gives as one of your vessels, now fill her up and renew her strength. Bring contentment to those who have given up their Mothers and Fathers this past month, and those still grieving losses for however long it has been. Please show them Your perspective of time and healing, and a glimpse of eternity, so they may feel in the circle right now, let them feel the closeness of those who were in their charge, and are now in Your charge, and encircle them all with the warmth of your Love, found in the friendships we form here. Thank you for the Blessing of Aging Care, for the insight of those who experienced, listened, and heard the brave cries of help from caregivers who give all they can, and then give more to each other. Thank you, Father God, in the Son's name, and may the Holy Spirit fill each person here with love, forgiveness, and strength. Amen
Christina, what a lovely prayer! Sweet & from the heart! I'll be glad to help you post a pic of Sanura. Love the name & neat what it means! And she's absolutely beautiful!!!
Pat, we have a Siamese kitty named Buster Brown, too! He's the one that just bit me a few days ago! He's actually a neighborhood guy, but frequents our front porch & our outside girl kitty, Margie...short for Margarine. There was Margarine, Butter, Oleo, & PeeWee in that litter. All beautiful yellow tabbies. Butter & Oleo have their own forever families now, but Margie & PeeWee are still hanging around. Good 'mews'...the hand is about 98% better! Don't think I'll need to go to the doc. YEAH!
Rossella & Bubba Ted, glad that both of you are back & are OK! Rossella, thank you so much for the compliment! Have really missed you both!
Bobbie, I can totally relate to gluing the change to the counter & the floor! I had a flower shop in the mall & for kicks I would super glue a quarter to the mall floor just outside my shop...what a hoot! Not sure how many pair of tennis shoes were messed up trying to kick it loose. Really felt bad for the maintance crew that would keep trying to sweep it up. Laughed a lot when the snooty mall manager couldn't pick it up, though! Wonder if it's still there??
Jam, I really hope that your COL's puppy will be OK! I know you don't need that stress right now!
j, are you OK?
Tenny, I know you're as southern as I am & you'll stand your ground...litteraly, but please be careful. Druggies have no stopping power, compassion or conscience! I was married to a dealer once so I speak from experience! The maddest taht he ever got at me was when I found his 'stash' & was in the middle of flushing it when he walked in. Do you know how far your head can fit down in a toilet? I do! He tried to push me in after the stuff. Gosh, that was a whole other life ago! We love you & we're just concerned about you & Lil' Tenny! Kick butt, but leave yourself an out. ok?
Hope you & yours are all having an excellant night & you're all fast asleep by now. BIG hugs...(((((((((((CREW)))))))))) Peach
hey gp bobbie christina rossella j sombody linda h and all of the rest of the gang just wanted to say doing goo been reading post since 8 it is 2 going to bed now got more dr things this week and other apointments with moma and me yall and i know i spelled it right i amfarther saouth than the rest ha ha take care luv ox hugs i'll be in touch truecolors/elizabeth
I have a suggestion I would like for ya"ll to consider.My dad did not have Alz. so in some ways my job was harder because he did know what was going on and someways easier because I still discussed business with him and he still had reasoning about him,just as Pat mentioned he lost alot but his PRIDE wasn't one of them.He was bedridden,so he let loose in the bed,if you know what I mean.The caregiver that was hired would referr to those disposable thingys as Diapers.No grown man in his right mind is going to wear diapers,or woman for that matter.The word alone is humiliating.Parents no matter how juvinile they may act are adults and not babys.Diapers are for babys.Adults sometimes need DISPOSABLE UNDERWEAR which are made for adults.The disposible underwear is really to make the caregivers job easier,it is something not to be left on all day and forgotten,If they poop or pee twenty times that day,you take them off and clean them twenty times a day.Bedsores are a booger to heal and can also be used against you in court.Old peoples skin is thin and fragile alot more so than a baby.If I was bedridden and ya'll came at me with diapers-I would hit you.If you ask me to put on disposable underware,you might actually get somewhere with me.As hard as caregiving is no one wants to be sick and dependent.
Nice prayer Christina,Christina is a good name has the word CHRIST in it,big word to live up to. I can't speak for the others,but half of the time I'm on here gripeing,it helps clear my mind,so when I talk to the officials,I'm less likely to say dumb stuff.
Peach ,I would be mad at you if you flushed my stash too,lol:) These guys were smoking blunts-crack and crystal meth are the crazy ones.The only reason pot is not legal is because they make more money off of it being illegal than legal-just another racket.Gotta get my tail to city hall :)
Morning everyone. 6:30 on the left coast, been up once with Mother at 5, she's still sleeping, or being quiet, but not for long, I can hear the anxious sighs and hyperventilating on the baby monitor. Hope we get that calmed down today. Doctor never called back yesterday, and I called twice. Tennessee, I call them night time undies, but Mother does not know what we are putting on her, or she doesn't let on. She is always put together elegantly, as she was a clothes horse all her life and loved to shop. I continue that for her, and at least once a month get her a little something new, even if it is just 3 pairs of frilly 'daytime undies'. I do her "beauty treatment" every morning after shower or cleaning up, including facial massage, hand and arm massage, hair trimming or fluffing, lipstick and perfume. She looks beautiful, and every so often I take her picture with my iphone and send it to her nieces and nephews and my wonderful, attentive siblings. Then I put on her rings and things, sit her by the fireplace in her rocking chair, give her a throat lozenge with vitamin C, and the day begins. My sister said a while back, that receiving the photos shows "how well she is being taken care of." Have a great day, wonderful friends:) HUGS christina
Thank you, Miz. I think the Golden Rule is the best guideline for everything. This site is the most consistent example of that practice, and I'll bet it is as close to Heaven as we get on earth. Every time I think I am going to lose it with Mother, I quickly put myself, mentally, in her position, and treat her the way I would want to be treated if I were 93 and in her condition. (Oh, God, please have mercy on us all) Thinking about how my siblings do nothing for her, nor even ask how WE are doing (and my husband tells me to quit thinking about them and their bs-vor), hurts, as I don't think they have that same awareness, or how could they live with it? One of my new mottos you will see here, and please feel free to use, People: IDGI ( I don't get it) and VOR (voice of reason)
My dad rarely, if ever, washes (eeeeeeewwwwwwwww!!!) his hands so he has limited access to the kitchen....my husband and I hate thinking about what he's touched and regularly wipe the frig handle down, light switch...etc. And forget about it...we NEVER take cookies from the cookie jar! LoL I've even tried to get him to use hand sanitizer but it's all for naught. ((sigh)) Still think the toothbrush story takes the cake! Lol....forgive me for chuckling, but wouldn't we cry if we weren't laughing about this stuff!
Hi has anyone tried the "thick it" product ? Mom is starting to cough when drinking. I use a straw , which helps. I remember in Nursing homes the patients didn't like the thicket. thanks, ssk
christina, those are good mottos. I wish I had done for my mom all of the things you do for yours. It just seemed like she did not enjoy the primping and would usually just wanted to go back and lay down. Her heart was very weak. Also, her scalp was very sensitive and so she did not enjoy me brushing her hair. I guess everyone is different. :)
Babzgirl, you got it straight on!! Welcome to the thread!! We laugh AND cry on here but the main stream is to feel free to vent. You will find very supportive, caring and loving people on here. I don't know what I would have done without them throughout my experience.
ssake, they used that stuff to thicken up the water for my mom at the hospital. I don't have much to tell you because I think it was shortly after that when she stopped eating and drinking. However, I don't remember her rejecting it or acting like it was yucky.
Babzgirl, Good Morning. Could you help him remember to wash his hands after going to the bathroom, and when he comes into the kitchen, and perhaps put HIS cookies in his own cookie jar? Say, "Here, Dad. We got you your very own cookie jar." Maybe give him a manicure once a week to make sure his nails are clean and cut so nothing stays under them? Men enjoy having manicures, too. I do my husband's, and give him facials! I wish I had my Daddy to take care of:))) HUGS christina
thanks miz, I'll try it . I'm glad to have the help of VNA, but they can be annoying, also. They keep sending different people at different times, stressful, but once they get here, they are nice people.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Yeah I remember very well our summer chats, when we were the only two people in the world who were not on vacation!!! And we have not taken a rest since then.
I know the newbies... I could not write but I could read. I haven't missed a Bit! (speaking of PCs....)
Bobbie what's the "yup"??? (digestion?)
Jam I am glad if the nonsenses I say make you feel better. People of my family think I am crazy!!!!
What is "crazy" BTW?
I don't remember who said that the cat goes to the bathroom to watch if everything is done correctly. Our cat Cocaine does the same. She thinks she is my mother's cat (it's an unilateral feeling) and she always watches me to see if I treat her well.
Yes, summer was special when we found this thread. A vacation from parents online!
The bonus was discovering how much we all have in common!
Who else can honestly share this sh*t?
You have instinctive timing!
& double BOAT hours!
Bravo for you , girl!
The boat & her host are amazing! An "E" ticket ride when the time is right.
Hoping the West Coast happens ....
if not ~ should we buy another boat?
Have a good evening, everybody!
I, for one on the West Coast, will be waiting for more!
Sir says Good Night in American.
Would be kicking snow from his boots if he was still there.
It is nice to read all the posts and see the style and patterns of communication. I don't feel so bad now, because it is a time zone thingy, but hey, I'm 7k, 8k, and maybe go for 9k. I hope y'all are sleeping peacefully, I'll pray for each of you tonight while you are sleeping, for your individual circumstances, and thank God for each of you, and the newbies arriving daily.
Bless our Captain, Lord, and heal her body, she gives and gives as one of your vessels, now fill her up and renew her strength.
Bring contentment to those who have given up their Mothers and Fathers this past month, and those still grieving losses for however long it has been. Please show them Your perspective of time and healing, and a glimpse of eternity, so they may feel in the circle right now, let them feel the closeness of those who were in their charge, and are now in Your charge, and encircle them all with the warmth of your Love, found in the friendships we form here. Thank you for the Blessing of Aging Care, for the insight of those who experienced, listened, and heard the brave cries of help from caregivers who give all they can, and then give more to each other. Thank you, Father God, in the Son's name, and may the Holy Spirit fill each person here with love, forgiveness, and strength. Amen
Pat, we have a Siamese kitty named Buster Brown, too! He's the one that just bit me a few days ago! He's actually a neighborhood guy, but frequents our front porch & our outside girl kitty, Margie...short for Margarine. There was Margarine, Butter, Oleo, & PeeWee in that litter. All beautiful yellow tabbies. Butter & Oleo have their own forever families now, but Margie & PeeWee are still hanging around. Good 'mews'...the hand is about 98% better! Don't think I'll need to go to the doc. YEAH!
Rossella & Bubba Ted, glad that both of you are back & are OK! Rossella, thank you so much for the compliment! Have really missed you both!
Bobbie, I can totally relate to gluing the change to the counter & the floor! I had a flower shop in the mall & for kicks I would super glue a quarter to the mall floor just outside my shop...what a hoot! Not sure how many pair of tennis shoes were messed up trying to kick it loose. Really felt bad for the maintance crew that would keep trying to sweep it up. Laughed a lot when the snooty mall manager couldn't pick it up, though! Wonder if it's still there??
Jam, I really hope that your COL's puppy will be OK! I know you don't need that stress right now!
j, are you OK?
Tenny, I know you're as southern as I am & you'll stand your ground...litteraly, but please be careful. Druggies have no stopping power, compassion or conscience! I was married to a dealer once so I speak from experience! The maddest taht he ever got at me was when I found his 'stash' & was in the middle of flushing it when he walked in. Do you know how far your head can fit down in a toilet? I do! He tried to push me in after the stuff. Gosh, that was a whole other life ago! We love you & we're just concerned about you & Lil' Tenny! Kick butt, but leave yourself an out. ok?
Hope you & yours are all having an excellant night & you're all fast asleep by now.
BIG hugs...(((((((((((CREW))))))))))
Peach
christina
gp
bobbie
christina
rossella
j sombody
linda h
and all of the rest of the gang
just wanted to say doing goo been reading post since 8 it is 2 going to bed now got more dr things this week and other apointments with moma and me
yall
and i know i spelled it right i amfarther saouth than the rest
ha ha
take care
luv ox hugs i'll be in touch
truecolors/elizabeth
What a great group of people.
I am proud to know you all.
y'all.
more later,
lovbob
lovbob
Have a great day, wonderful friends:) HUGS christina
Every time I think I am going to lose it with Mother, I quickly put myself, mentally, in her position, and treat her the way I would want to be treated if I were 93 and in her condition. (Oh, God, please have mercy on us all) Thinking about how my siblings do nothing for her, nor even ask how WE are doing (and my husband tells me to quit thinking about them and their bs-vor), hurts, as I don't think they have that same awareness, or how could they live with it?
One of my new mottos you will see here, and please feel free to use, People: IDGI ( I don't get it) and VOR (voice of reason)
has anyone tried the "thick it" product ? Mom is starting to cough when drinking. I use a straw , which helps. I remember in Nursing homes the patients didn't like the thicket.
thanks,
ssk
miz
Say, "Here, Dad. We got you your very own cookie jar." Maybe give him a manicure once a week to make sure his nails are clean and cut so nothing stays under them? Men enjoy having manicures, too. I do my husband's, and give him facials!
I wish I had my Daddy to take care of:))) HUGS christina