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I said the WRONG THING, Babzgirl!!! This IS the Gross Vent thread!!! Please forgive me:) good story, be as gross as you can--and make up for me--I'm squeamish and way too clean!!!
What am I doing HERE? Would somebody please tell me?
Babzgirl--please forgive me:)
christina
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christina, you are okay. You didn't say anything wrong. You just gave suggestions and that's a good thing. Wow, we are so alike in some ways. Please don't worry. :))
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OK. I am so outspoken, and just say things, gets me in trouble sometimes. (I was thinking: hope i don't get in trouble for the prayer. Yikes)
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christina, I, for one, don't mind prayers at all. I thought it was sweet. I am a Christian, a liberal one. What I don't like is being preached to or judged and you have never done that. Please relax. It's what my husband tells me all the time. "Honey, relax!!" :))
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Cristina on our news they said fireworks on New Years Eve killed all those birds, We use to use thicket a lot I do not remember the pt.s not liking it you probably could put flavoring in it maybe a little vanillia-I think but am not sure if they could eat tapioca pudding that usually is thick. I had my date lunch with my gentleman friend that I met on eharmony.com and we have been emailing each other for about 3 months-it was very pleasent -he was right on time even he traveled a distance I as usuall was early-it was pleasant he is just looking for a companion so we will be friends -I am still striving for something more with someone but will remain friends with him he looks younger in person than in his pics.
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Howdy Y'all! I had a chance to run over to the library and just wanted check in, I don't have time to catch up (Man! we gab a lot!) but wanted to keep in touch. I'm on my way to my Caregivers Support Group Planning meeting, then have to run through some hoops and back home to mom.
Please keep me in your thoughts, you are all, always, in mine.
Oh, Great news. The Caregiver Resource Specialist from the Area Agency on Aging that I always praise has come through for me again and has found funding for me to continue working with the Family Counselor that I couldn't afford to keep. So, everyone remember, If you feel like you need any kind of help- ASK!, Yell, scream, throw a fit or just ASK. Along with all the monsters out there, there are also some angels who WANT to help.
Miss you all, Ted.
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Yes, I think we are all very good at yelling, screaming, throwing fits, and asking. heehee It's what we do here, too, and it's SO GOOD!
I just got off phone with a new friend who had to put her husband into Alzheimer care home. Let me tell you the story: About 3 months ago, I thought I would have to find a new home for Sanura, because she had a habit of running down the stairs and crossing over in front of me before I got to the bottom. I was so afraid she would do it to Mother, or a caregiver, or me when I go down late at night, in the DARK. My husband, also not Sanura's biggest fan, said, "Please find her a new home, and she sheds." Of course, he did NOT say it like that, and I said, "Listen, Bubba, you shed, too. Should I trade you in for a hairless Mediterranean model?" Don't get me started.
OK--so I was at the market one day, after praying about it, looking for signs (sorry, I do that--like dimes, kind of like in the movie "Serendipity"and "Fools Rush In" what can I say?) and I look to my right as I am starting my car, and I see a van with a sign painted on it "we care for your cat", etc. and a website and phone #. I am writing it down, and right away, a nice smiling lady walks in front of my car, toward the van. I roll down my window on passenger side and say, "Are you the cat lady?" she says yes, I tell her I need to find a good home for my beautiful Egyptian Mau, do you know anyone and I am trying not to cry, and she says, I think so let me make a phone call and I'll call you soon.
So a few days later I get a phone call from them saying this very nice lady just lost her last rescue cat, and her husband is sick, and she is grieving. I call her, she tells me her husband has AD, she needs to find HIM a home, and she needs a new cat, but not a kitten.
I am sure this is the right person, but then time passes and I start thinking about the hairless Mediterranean model.. No, scratch that, I mean, Sanura starts CHANGING!!
What? I mention it to my husband, and he just looks at me sideways. I get a phone call from my new friend, and we set up a date to make the hand-off, only it doesn't pan out. I am kind of relieved. I start crying, and get mad at my husband for ever suggesting such a thing. Now--and I'll bet you never thought I would say this: LONG STORY SHORT: My friend thinks it's not the right thing, but there is another reason we have met, and Sanura was the catalyst.
Seriously, I wrote to someone the other day--think it was Peach--that since my Mother has come to live with us, Sanura has found her purpose in our lives. She is absolutely NOT the self-centered feline she once was, she helps to take care of Mother in many ways, her presence is relaxing, entertaining, and comforting.
I told my friend about this site, and it made me cry just thinking of all of you, and how THANKFUL I am to HAVE YOU, and we are going to lunch tomorrow to get to know each other better. We may start a prayer group in our area for caregivers. This is the reason we think Sanura figured into it. There are mysteries and wonders in this life, little gifts that spring up among the pain and exhaustion. This is one of them. Love and HUGS. christina
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Sanura understood everything and she understood she had to change her attitude... I am afraid sometimes when I realize how much they understand
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Yes, Rossella, they are in this life with us. They are family, they have their instincts, they are loved, and served, as well.
After I get Mother up for the first time in the morning, I feed Sanura her treat, give her clean water, and fill her bowl of NaturalBalance reduced calorie munchies. Around 5 am. I put her before myself, before my coffee. :))) Mange bene! Meow!
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Christina,
You didn't say anything wrong! And pray your little brains out! We are in our own prvate idaho here....right? Thanks to Bobbie, we've got the biggest rubber room around!! I wonder how many states we span??? xo - SS

Welcome Babzgirl!
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Done with city hall for today,When I left everyone looked worried and concerned.Rule no. 1- never poke sleeping Giants with sticks unless you want to be chased down the bean stalk.Rule no.2- Don't open a can of worms unless you are prepared to go fishing.Rule no.3 Don't throw rocks when you,yourself live in a glass house,and lets never forget the Golden rule.
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I am OK here gonna trudge into the library if i have to take the snow shovels again....I CAN"T go with out some books here!!!It is snowing like a butt what ever that means, it is not a blizzard yet....errands to run anyway moms and she did retire so she could so we may as well...library doesn't open till 2:30 (budget cuts).

We call em disposable briefs here too.

Got my hundred for January can buy postage stamps for pen pals, pay for Basic Health and meds, lotto ticket, pretty much wipes me out. Could be worse could be better got food and shelter........

Not much else, this is enough really...

Hi to newbies and old friends.
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Amen, Tennessee. :) whoohoo! YOU are the BOMB!
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I really need to know-------Who decides about who gets a lamp-a bear__Does that make them better caregivers or does it mean their loved ones were better then others ?
Why is one person worshipped as like God-when all the others listen and give good advice too.
Don't bother jumping on my ass about this, if I cared that ya might get upset, I wouldn't be writting it.
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Jen, do you still have pen pals?
Can you still hand-write? I don't have the "writing muscles" in the hand, anymore. If I write more than two lines. my hand hurts.
Maximum I can write the list for shopping.... (milk, eggs..)
Unbelievable: I am using now my old computer. The new one does not switch on. I have two towers side by side on my desk. It seems I have to change the case of the new one, so that the button works!
That's right: when we wrote by pen, those things did not happen. But...If I had to pen-write you, this letter would arrive in 2 weeks and you would answer, and your answer would arrive one month after i have written.
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Nance, why do you have this idea? I don't think people are treated differently, here. I really don't understand. It seems to me we support each other exactly in the same way... I am sorry for all the people who lost a loved one in the last few weeks. Exactly in the same way. And I am sure it is the same for everyone.
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NANCE, I think it boils down to some of the caregivers who have similar problems have formed bonds after yacking so much on this sight.Don't think it has anything to do with who's a better caregiver or their advice. If it did,we all would be deserving of a prize.Glad to see you feeling fisty today.
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Nance - I can't believe your attitude.I don't participate much but I have absorbed so much compassion and caring from the people in this group. Follow along for awhile and perhaps you'll understand.
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The fact that we have a little turmoil every week is normal and healthy!
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Bad energy that flows out
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ddotal-follow along for a while?? cute
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I think everybody works hard and deserves a pat on the back so to speak some people I think form closer ties and outside the group send stuff back and forth. It in no way lessens what everyone does and has to go through but it can feel sort of cliquish if you know what I mean. some people like to send gifts some of us don't, I don't know. it's just a thing I guess...
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Nance,wished you lived closer to me so you could go to the city hall and help me kick butt.
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This has nothing to do with the current topic, but the visiting nurse who came in today was an asshole. Just had to get it off my chest.
ssk
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SS,WHAT DID SHE DO!
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Nance, what are you upset about exactly? Remember this is just a BLOG! Folks who had similiar difficult experiences with caregiving topics kinda gathered here to let it all out. If folks have done niceities to each other or communicate with one more than others then that is just the nature of the beast of blogging. So what is it that irked you?

MIZ...you mentioned your mom stopped eating, my mom is eating less and less she is def declining but still alert....What is the prognosis of them eating less and less? Miz anyone? Should I be worried or just get a bunch of ensure or the like?
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Pirate, That can be a sign of congestive heart failure. I did not know this at the time. I wish I had. I would get her to the doc. And yes, I would get ensure. Anything that she will eat to give her nourishment. I don't want to scare you. It may not be that. But I would have it checked out.
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pirate-did I say I was upset-did I say I was irked--don't think so--said, I need to know--no need to put words in my mouth, thank you
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Well I know what that one is...my dad had it...you should have seen that poor mans legs an ankles like trees they were. I think I am headed for that same stuff due to for the past month I have had wierd pains and my ankles can swell up really bad...sniff sniff. She has been on lipitor and some heart med as well as thyroid..the others is all psych meds. Hmmm Miz what else do you think it can be...please if you have any information. I will see her after work and try to acess her more.
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Hi Gang--Gone for a while today. Almost fell asleep driving. Still tired from last week Th-Monday morning. Did I miss anything? I know I will get the hang of this very soon--need to catch up to posts. Wow--thank you to everyone who has been so nice to me this week when I was wigging out. sometimes we al get a little weird, especially in THIS job!! O M Goodness. Am having a time trying to find a psychiatrist for my Mother.
Tennessee; I wish "I" could come down there and KICK SOME BUTTINSKIS!!! Man oh man, then you come to california and help me kick my sister and brother's butts, OK?
WHOO HOO!!! Please be careful, OK:)?
HUGS all AROUND. No wine tonight, but maybe some WHINE!
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