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Hey Linda, y'all can come eat with us! There's plenty! Pork roast, potatoes, carrots, green beans, rolls, good 'ole sweet tea, & peach pie for dessert. I'll even do the dishes!
Wish you could go to the boat, too! Wonder if we could put some wheels on the boat & roll it on up the highway?!?! Pick up everybody along the way & then set sail when we get to the west coast...then sail on to Italy & get Rossella! Then where? Hawaii? WooHoo! What a trip that would be!
my goodness peachie that sounds realy good , yum . just got back from walmart , creeping there and creepin back home , roads are slick , didnt have any pblms at all . about crap my pant when walmart ask for the $ amounts , thought hell i didnt even get milk or eggs even no bread , what the hell ! stocked up on depends and paddings and lunch meats . ding ding ching changggg , 7 bucks taxes , ah bite me will y a ! :-) hubby so tired , he went to bed early ! am kinda worried about him , hope his heart is not pluggin up again . pa s good , nappin all day iknow he ll be up all night , ah thats ok he has tv in his bdrm and he can watch tv all nite long . xoxo
Yes, Linda. I'm really going. I'm sorry your so sad. Your time will come. I wish you could go too. I really do. You're such a good person and good daughter.
I am VERY excited. The boat seemed just like a dream to me. And now it's gonna be real. I really truly almost can't believe it.
I talked to a nurse at my mom's doctor today and she said the doc told me that anything I did different would not have mattered and to stop beating myself up. I told my bestest friend that taking care of my mom has changed me. She said she knows it will haunt me. I want to try to remember not the bad times but the rest of the time. She was so dear and so sweet and I remember when we would go out to lunch or go shopping or how she made me treats out of the left over pie crust when I was a kid. She's put sugar on it and bake it in the oven for me. Stuff like that. Her yummy cinnamon toast and how she was my biggest fan and how many times she told me she loved me in her later years.
K, I'm gonna go eat now. Fighting another headache. I'll be back later.
....well then bobbie has to change her boat like the one FARMERS insurance has now in their ads..did you notice it was the same made into a float for the Rose Parade on New Year's?
miz and deef- my mom is 86 87 in april. Her meds were not changed at all..just think it's all part of the declining part with the amount of food she eats. We (the caregiver and I) make sure she eats something each day. I give her senior mega vitis on the weekend and I know the caregiver give her chocolate ensure with a coffee mate topper of french vanilla...
christina...yes I am nice too but when provoked or messed with...LOOK OUT! .......NOPE did not steal the tequilla...RUM is for us pyratey folks..I drink Sailor Jerry Rum...look it up on the net and it's history and namesake.
re- the sad saga of Nance being upset...she may have no one in her arena that cares and may be lashing out.
WHAT folks are making fun of us on their walls....petty petty petty to do that on a website like this that mean more business (due to the seroius subject of caregiving) than frivolity! If this sole thread blog or whatever you choose to call it addresses and off base subject like all the nasty and gross subjects that do come up in caregiving and they still have to criticize and make fun...THEN THEY ARE SMALL PEOPLE TO START WITH!
Pirate, I'm very glad you are going to the doctor. And it sounds like your mom is getting good nourishment. They do just decline. It sucks but they do. :(
Hi All-so glad to read the happy news for Miz!! Take your water wings and fly like a Sea Angel, Miz! Pirate, I did not drink tequila or wine last night. I needed to reflect on the day's commotion, and humble myself. You all will be happy to know that Babzgirl and I are friends and no more bickering. Aye, aye, to the Captain, and thanks for not coming down on me for taking my last 'kick butt' message TOO FAR. I know I did, and I am very sorry, all you beautiful people:) But enough about that: It's all GOOD, as they say! Rossella, thank you for your discreet words of wisdom. Bon Voyage to all who are BOAT BOUND, and the rest of us will mind the BOAT. HUGS ALL AROUND!!! christina
Pirate, re your last post: BUT SHE HAS US!!! That's what we're here for! And you read Captain's missive: she has been reached out to. Bless her heart--I know where you're coming from. It is the miserable that repel us, and the ones who need us the most. That's what forgiveness and unconditional love are:) Hugs
Hey all, I had my b/f plug in WALL-E last night to watch....might not be bad for a night of movie watching to make you feel good like that cute little anime. Lots of love and deep thoughts in this little flick.
Miz, How about write your story about your Mom, caring for her, roll it up and put it in a bottle ( rum or tequila, preferably) and toss it on the sea when you and Bobbie and Peach, et al, are on the BOAT. Go out there, have a nice memorial service. She will be with you, your Mama. Love you, sweet Miz. Hugs, Christina
Write her name on some simple helium baloons (no mylar) and send them off with a prayer and a smile and a song in yer heart. Maybe her favorite color for the baloons?
Guys, I am glad that some of you can go to Bobbie's boat! Georgia, you said exactly what I meant (only, you said it better!!!!!) I have to fight with my mother again for food. She does not eat anything. I'll try with Ensure again. And she never wants to go to bed, so she falls asleep on the chair. It's incredibile how much she has declined since I started writing on this site, july-august I think! Even though she has declined a lot, when she says "No" it's a "No"
Why would anyone hassle the boat? God it is just an idea that some look forward too and may never know and some may actually be lucky enough to get on and get away just for a time out of the mess we are all in just now...
Cursing the darkness and all that? Light the Candle Bobbie well get there when we can!
Tired here, been having vivid violent nightmares, rape, torture, plane crashes and sharks eating people in the water, you know fun stuff...Like I need this sleep is all I have...
Got some stuff done here, re install over sink light, cleared out the drive way, in bootie yes, put down de-icer, no snow will next week but why not start fresh. Gonna be down to 6 degrees again by Monday...what ever. Grandpa goes the ADH tomorrow, Monty to vet for the regular "curve" to test blood sugar throughout the day. I made a panel for the top of the basement steps with a hole for CLEO to shimmy through and Monty can't fit in, as he slipped down the stairs this morning, not hurt, slid about five steps and stopped, he is blind now and very shaken up he was too. Poor little dog.
I got 8 books from library to read so that helps.
I am starting to wonder if i am seeing signs of Dementia in my mom who is 63. This will really just be so hard if this is where this is going....just so hard.
Hello to everyone else, Glad Miz can have a bit of time on the BOAT hope we all can some day.
Hi to Deef and RIP and Pirate, and Lili and Georgia (watch that ice!) and Liz and Linda and Helen and Rossella and Bobbie and Ted and Miz ans Dtflex, and Christina and everybody else on this blog. Hope ya'll are doing well....
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View All Notifications Ok guys this was in my email but when I went to my wall it was gone. Has this person got a real problem or what? It is inappropriate and I don't know who or what has pissed her off but she needs to take her agenda elsewhere. Isn't there a place she can be reported and kicked off here? This kind of posting is not helping anyone.......it's only hurting.
Jest got back from hanging out with some great old friends! It is beautiful here and the weather is not that cold.
We are a full boat tonight and I just now got everybody all tucked in. I'm beat, we talked about the good times and we drank ourselves some beers...... (you know the tune...)
I haven't caught up on all the posts yet but my mailbox is full and I can sure tell you that whatever crap is going on won't be important in about 3 days so everybody knock it off.
Love ALL you guys even the sh!!stirrers and I'm off to bed.
good morning, nance also posted to me. but has deleted it. Bobbie, glad you are having a boat party. Hi linda, sorry to hear your dad is having a rough time. Hi jam and ddotal
angels to you and your pa. give him a hug and kiss for me.
Linda, try not to be hurt. consider the source focus on what's important and this stuff is not important. It's like the ravings of a drunk. They sober up and they're ok but we are still reeling from the bad behavior.
I read everything that everybody forwarded to me and what was written to a woman who just lost her mother not a week ago and is still on the front lines of caregiving with another parent in law who has dementia is bad.
what was written to a woman who cares for her husband who has AD was bad, a woman who cares for her mother with AD is bad and a woman who cares for her husband with Parkinson's is bad.
I saw things written about me that were .... kind of funny.
some of my friends here thought I may be upset but I'm just sad on behalf of the people here that are dealing with real issues and need the positive support of all of us and not the juvenile tripe that has been dished out.
Prayers for your Pa, Linda and everybody keep your eye on the prize which is quality of time remaining for your Pa and for everybody's parent or spouse who suffers.
Good morning to all........Linda, prayers added for pa and hope he is just having a few tough days and will start to rally soon.
We, or at least I, don't know what Nance's circumstances are because she doesn't care to let us know a little about herself or the person to whom she may be caring. Nance, if you want to make fun of those here or throw out sniping comments, then by all means take yourself somewhere else to do that. If you are truly mean-hearted and enjoy others pains and frustrations, then you are not welcome here....go somewhere else to inflict your damage. If you are truly in pain and need help then it's real easy to reach out because the angels here are all ready and willing to lend an ear, a shoulder, whatever you may need, even though we may be suffering from our own pain and frustration. I have seen the positive posts you have left on others walls.....has something happened in your life recently to make you resentful of the rest of us? Everyone here has listened to me rant and rave sometimes and it really is a cleansing feeling to know they don't say "what an idiot", they say "aww another caregiver just like us who needs some comfort". I think you came here looking for comfort or you would never have signed onto this site to begin with........let us be friends.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Wish you could go to the boat, too! Wonder if we could put some wheels on the boat & roll it on up the highway?!?! Pick up everybody along the way & then set sail when we get to the west coast...then sail on to Italy & get Rossella! Then where? Hawaii? WooHoo! What a trip that would be!
just got back from walmart , creeping there and creepin back home , roads are slick , didnt have any pblms at all .
about crap my pant when walmart ask for the $ amounts , thought hell i didnt even get milk or eggs even no bread , what the hell ! stocked up on depends and paddings and lunch meats . ding ding ching changggg , 7 bucks taxes , ah bite me will y a ! :-)
hubby so tired , he went to bed early ! am kinda worried about him , hope his heart is not pluggin up again .
pa s good , nappin all day iknow he ll be up all night , ah thats ok he has tv in his bdrm and he can watch tv all nite long .
xoxo
I am VERY excited. The boat seemed just like a dream to me. And now it's gonna be real. I really truly almost can't believe it.
I talked to a nurse at my mom's doctor today and she said the doc told me that anything I did different would not have mattered and to stop beating myself up. I told my bestest friend that taking care of my mom has changed me. She said she knows it will haunt me. I want to try to remember not the bad times but the rest of the time. She was so dear and so sweet and I remember when we would go out to lunch or go shopping or how she made me treats out of the left over pie crust when I was a kid. She's put sugar on it and bake it in the oven for me. Stuff like that. Her yummy cinnamon toast and how she was my biggest fan and how many times she told me she loved me in her later years.
K, I'm gonna go eat now. Fighting another headache. I'll be back later.
love,
miz
miz and deef- my mom is 86 87 in april. Her meds were not changed at all..just think it's all part of the declining part with the amount of food she eats. We (the caregiver and I) make sure she eats something each day. I give her senior mega vitis on the weekend and I know the caregiver give her chocolate ensure with a coffee mate topper of french vanilla...
christina...yes I am nice too but when provoked or messed with...LOOK OUT!
.......NOPE did not steal the tequilla...RUM is for us pyratey folks..I drink Sailor Jerry Rum...look it up on the net and it's history and namesake.
re- the sad saga of Nance being upset...she may have no one in her arena that cares and may be lashing out.
WHAT folks are making fun of us on their walls....petty petty petty to do that on a website like this that mean more business (due to the seroius subject of caregiving) than frivolity! If this sole thread blog or whatever you choose to call it addresses and off base subject like all the nasty and gross subjects that do come up in caregiving and they still have to criticize and make fun...THEN THEY ARE SMALL PEOPLE TO START WITH!
One day we will all see the infamous boat!!!!!
I know I did, and I am very sorry, all you beautiful people:)
But enough about that: It's all GOOD, as they say!
Rossella, thank you for your discreet words of wisdom.
Bon Voyage to all who are BOAT BOUND, and the rest of us will mind the BOAT. HUGS ALL AROUND!!! christina
Please take lots of pictures for us!
Hugs, Christina
Georgia, you said exactly what I meant (only, you said it better!!!!!)
I have to fight with my mother again for food. She does not eat anything. I'll try with Ensure again. And she never wants to go to bed, so she falls asleep on the chair. It's incredibile how much she has declined since I started writing on this site, july-august I think! Even though she has declined a lot, when she says "No" it's a "No"
Cursing the darkness and all that? Light the Candle Bobbie well get there when we can!
Tired here, been having vivid violent nightmares, rape, torture, plane crashes and sharks eating people in the water, you know fun stuff...Like I need this sleep is all I have...
Got some stuff done here, re install over sink light, cleared out the drive way, in bootie yes, put down de-icer, no snow will next week but why not start fresh. Gonna be down to 6 degrees again by Monday...what ever. Grandpa goes the ADH tomorrow, Monty to vet for the regular "curve" to test blood sugar throughout the day. I made a panel for the top of the basement steps with a hole for CLEO to shimmy through and Monty can't fit in, as he slipped down the stairs this morning, not hurt, slid about five steps and stopped, he is blind now and very shaken up he was too. Poor little dog.
I got 8 books from library to read so that helps.
I am starting to wonder if i am seeing signs of Dementia in my mom who is 63. This will really just be so hard if this is where this is going....just so hard.
Hello to everyone else, Glad Miz can have a bit of time on the BOAT hope we all can some day.
Hi to Deef and RIP and Pirate, and Lili and Georgia (watch that ice!) and Liz and Linda and Helen and Rossella and Bobbie and Ted and Miz ans Dtflex, and Christina and everybody else on this blog. Hope ya'll are doing well....
NANCE said, "F#@ k u..." Full Post »
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Ok guys this was in my email but when I went to my wall it was gone. Has this person got a real problem or what? It is inappropriate and I don't know who or what has pissed her off but she needs to take her agenda elsewhere. Isn't there a place she can be reported and kicked off here? This kind of posting is not helping anyone.......it's only hurting.
Jest got back from hanging out with some great old friends! It is beautiful here and the weather is not that cold.
We are a full boat tonight and I just now got everybody all tucked in. I'm beat, we talked about the good times and we drank ourselves some beers...... (you know the tune...)
I haven't caught up on all the posts yet but my mailbox is full and I can sure tell you that whatever crap is going on won't be important in about 3 days so everybody knock it off.
Love ALL you guys even the sh!!stirrers and I'm off to bed.
lovbob
i am sorry to see what nance had just said . that realy hurt me .
pa s not feeling good . kept him on oxygen all night . am worried about him . heart rate is 62 , slowing down . prayers plz . xoxoxo
Bobbie, glad you are having a boat party.
Hi linda, sorry to hear your dad is having a rough time.
Hi jam and ddotal
angels to you and your pa. give him a hug and kiss for me.
Linda, try not to be hurt.
consider the source
focus on what's important and this stuff is not important. It's like the ravings of a drunk. They sober up and they're ok but we are still reeling from the bad behavior.
I read everything that everybody forwarded to me and what was written to a woman who just lost her mother not a week ago and is still on the front lines of caregiving with another parent in law who has dementia is bad.
what was written to a woman who cares for her husband who has AD was bad, a woman who cares for her mother with AD is bad and a woman who cares for her husband with Parkinson's is bad.
I saw things written about me that were .... kind of funny.
some of my friends here thought I may be upset but I'm just sad on behalf of the people here that are dealing with real issues and need the positive support of all of us and not the juvenile tripe that has been dished out.
Prayers for your Pa, Linda and everybody keep your eye on the prize which is quality of time remaining for your Pa and for everybody's parent or spouse who suffers.
good morning SS and DD from the BB!
lovbob
We, or at least I, don't know what Nance's circumstances are because she doesn't care to let us know a little about herself or the person to whom she may be caring. Nance, if you want to make fun of those here or throw out sniping comments, then by all means take yourself somewhere else to do that. If you are truly mean-hearted and enjoy others pains and frustrations, then you are not welcome here....go somewhere else to inflict your damage. If you are truly in pain and need help then it's real easy to reach out because the angels here are all ready and willing to lend an ear, a shoulder, whatever you may need, even though we may be suffering from our own pain and frustration. I have seen the positive posts you have left on others walls.....has something happened in your life recently to make you resentful of the rest of us? Everyone here has listened to me rant and rave sometimes and it really is a cleansing feeling to know they don't say "what an idiot", they say "aww another caregiver just like us who needs some comfort". I think you came here looking for comfort or you would never have signed onto this site to begin with........let us be friends.