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When I went to visit Bobbie in St. Augustine,I mentioned to her that my caregiving duties were done and I had no use on this thread anymore,she encouraged me to stay and I did.Unlike most of you on here my caregiving duties were well over,my greiving was done.I wanted to met the woman that my daughter referred to as my Northern twin.Kids see things sometimes that Adults are to blind to see.I will finish this story later-right now I have big Fish to fry. Issue#2 Nance has always been nice to me as she has others and I'm not joining in on the bashing.
Gross out of the day! Checked on Mom at 6, everything quiet. Alarm goes off at 7:30, can hear Mom holding her breath then letting out a huge mouth "fart". Go to roll her on her side and what do you know, soaked to the gills!!! 2 chux pads, sheets, pillow, her hair!!!. Then I get her up and sit her on the toilet and find a nice surprise in her pull-up. Yep! Poopy!!! Now she definitely needs to be hosed down!!! Thought I could catch some extra zzz's this morning, but now I'm doing laundry, and this batch shall be done twice! Yuck!!!! The smell was just yummy!!!!! Oh yeah, found her false teeth in the middle of all this mess. If I hadn't been so upset, I probably would have puked!!! Other than that, Things are just fine here! LOL. Sorry you all had to find nasty notes on your walls. People need to lighten up once again and stop taking things so personally. We are all here for the same reason. Support! It's true that many special bonds have been formed between many of us. I think that is a good thing. Most of us lost support of family and friends because all of our time is spent caregiving. I have made some of the best friends ever on this site and am not jealous when not included in the loop. I am happy that my many new friends get the extra support when they need it and hope that we can all get back to doing just that. Anyway, just wanted to get back to the "gross out" stuff and share my gross morning with all of you. Bobbie, glad you finally have some friends with you! I'm sure it gets lonely for you and Kitty! Linda, I hope Pa is feeling better today, and remember, we are here for you! I know I will miss somebody, so may you all have a great day without any grossness! I think I had enough for everyone!!! Kathy
Good Morning, 6:42 on the left coast. I would just love to follow the Deefer this morning with a semi-gross out--haha. I am going to do my best, even though it is not my best suit, to be gross. Mother slept until 5am; I heard the quiet hyperventilating, then the "I have to go to the bathroom." I immediately went downstairs. As I got her out of bed, she was farting, and saying, "Whoops, hehee, whoops, hehee. Got her into the bathroom and she peed a lot, saying, "Oh, my gosh, oh, my gosh"--like this is the big event of the day. The I hear a couple of 'plops', and I ask her if she is through. Yes, she says. I go to wipe her, and the poop is still hanging on her butt, not going anywhere soon. I tell her to please finish, and she cannot seem to bear down--poor thing, probably forgetting how to do that, too--so I have to pull it out of her before I wipe her. She says, "Oh good, I think I finished." Yes, Mother, that's good." go to pull up her new-at night "overnight underwear"--the expensive kind, but worth every penny--and she is soaked through, including her jammie bottoms, so, I change those, and get her back to bed. Luckily, the sheets are not wet, so I didn't have to change those. So there, all you Gross Out fiends. How did I do? LOL Have a great BOAT today, everyone. See Y'all later! Hugs, christina
Well I have had my coffee and breakfast. Now I need to clean up the kitchen and do that laundry. It's amazing how much less laundry we have without Mom. I wish I was still doing it.
It's snowing here. We haven't got much yet. Maybe a 1/2 inch. It's cold though.
Ya know, bobbie was there for me completely when Mom was in the hospital and was dying and after she passed. It really hurts me to see her hurt. I don't like it one bit. Makes me feel like crying.
I'm gonna go grab a smoke and attempt to get something done around here before I go to work. Everyone have a good day. Linda, I'm thinking of you and your dear sweet pa. I'll be back later. Love yous.
Thanks Kathy! It would be good to be in a BOAT with you. You know how to do the heavy lifting and take charge, My kind of matey. In fact, I think EVERYONE HERE would be good to be in a BOAT with! Hey, WE ALREADY ARE IN THE BOAT!! WHOO HOO!!! Hope the rest of your day is ungross:)HUGS christina
Miz, maybe I missed something? are you talking about the same issue? can I have a clue? Maybe I need to go to faceboat to find out? This is not good. Please explain. christina
What I would do right now to be on a boat! Looking forward the spring and summer for sure. Hopefully be able to get outhere sailing, i missed it so much this year. Feeling a bit better today.... Going out tomorrow for dinner with Don. This will be a new experience for me lol lol... It has been so long since I have been out with out having to worry so much. My daughter and her bf will stay with mom until we get back. Just so mom is not alone, she is so distraught.......OK have a wonderful day all and lots of smiles and hugs to all my angels on here... angie
At least I get some comic relief on this site! lol. I have a new problem. My dad had an appointment with his GP this afternoon and he just told me that he is NOT going out because it's snowing. He has some trouble getting around but the roads are totally clear. Bottom line, he can't get his Plavix unless the doctor sees him. The women at the office are just bitches and the doctor leaves a lot to be desired. Nobody is giving in on this one. Comments? Suggestions? I'm pulling my hair out. The way this is going, I'll be dead long before him!
I wish I could do that! Hide Geez, Diane! I'm sure you've thought of all the standards. New doc, home health ... does he respond to threats of the Paramedics? Do you live near Jam?
In order to get the home health, his doctor has to approve it! His doctor and the staff is just so uncaring. I have honestly never seen a more unprofessional practice. My father has been seeing him for 40 years and he won't change. I thought about calling the paramedics, but I guess I'd have to have an emergency before I call, and there is none...yet. The problem is that it's for Plavix and he's been taking it for years. You'd think they would lighten up, as it's just maintenance meds. I don't think anybody snorts Plavix. Actually, I called the pharmacist and he said he'd "lend" me a few until his appointment. Like I said, sometimes it just helps to vent. I'm in central NJ, if anybody knows some good doctors. I'm actually looking for a new one too!
maybe you could t ell ur dad . bye im leaving and he ll jump up and go ? pour cup water on him and say oh oppsie , you could also tell him that if he dont take his meds , he ll have to go to nursing home and they;ll shove it down his throat . i wish you luck , better yet just cancle the appt i guess if it stil doesnt work . crappy doc s office , screw them , go to med check , look in the phone book and see what you can find . when time comes u can tell ur dad its for you and both of ya go in and tala you both are getting cked up . , welcome to this site , xoxo
Well. I tried the "nursing home" threat. I even told him that I was going to call 911. He wouldn't budge. So, I called and canceled the appointment. My pharmacist took pity on me and gave me some pills to last him until next week (when we are expecting a REAL snowstorm). I also had to cancel MY dentist appointment to get him into the doctors on that day. Med Check, eh? I will have to look in the phone book. It can't be any worse than this quack. I'm so undone. I might just go to work to escape. haha.
Hy guys my heart is heavy for all of you before I found this site or rather it found me I remember how lonely I was and thought I was the only one going through this people around here just stick them in nursing home and don't dare complain about your life no one wants to hear about and you guys were so helpful and showed me love and concern-nobody better mess with you. It is snowing so hard we were going to get take out dinner for my grand-daughter sne leave for India tomarrow but the roads are not passable-I live in the lower Hudson Vally 50 miles north of New York City. love you all and Linda 60 is not a bad pulse it is was real fast that would be worse. Maxine here
thanks austin , pa seems to himself today . lastnight was a diffrent ballpark . glad today he s relaxing , yes tell us more !! india wow ! diana , u sure have u r hands full . stubborn old dad . how old is he ? my dad s 87 yrs old , he used to be stubborn , always love to go bye bye so i never had any pblm takin him anywhere . wish i could help you , sometimes ya just have to be forceful . yank the blankets away from him . that is if he doesnt get mean and starts hitting . FORCE is all what you could do . aww , i feel for you .. hi rip ! got snow here do u wanna me to blow it back up ur way ? ohh lala xoxo
Suppose to be getting snow here in massachusetts , not thrilled about it. But it is New England...... Cant wait to be on the water .... India how awesome, tell us more. My sis and niece went there last year to visit her hubs family for the first time... At 4 my neice priya has traveled the world 3 times.
Maxine! I didn't know you lived there! Valley Cottage, Nyack, isn't close to where you live? My friend Nancy (Nancy with the y) grew there and the first time I went to the States I visited all that area and it was BEAUTIFUL! What a nice houses, gardens on the river! Guess it must be cold, there Diana, I live with a very stubborn lady who is my mother, so I can understand you very well. I agree on the fact that you try to change doctor. And, as you can't get crazy because of your father whims (forgive me - I am in the same boat, really) I agree that you tell him lies to push him to leave the house. And then, you happen to be near the doctor's office, and you just take him there with an excuse. I know that it's easier said than done....
Kathy, we really have to find a solution to our mothers' "outputs" and how to handle them. Possibly, not to handle them too much. Linda, hope papa is well! Big kiss
thanks rossella . whew shovel the sidewalk and hauled wood inside the house , wlaked my dog and burnt the trash and now im waiting for 3 grandkids to come here and hang out with me so thier parents can go shopping without haulin em all around . theyre gonna love it ! FREEDOM !! no kids woohoo , i know the feeling . told pa what i was going to do outside and told him that i was going to make a snowball and throw it at him , he giggled , hes perked up cuz he knows we re going to have company , he loves the grandkids . will ck again later xoxo
Rossella, after hosing Mom down, feeding her, and putting her in front of the TV, I started the laundry. She was in a clean nightgown and robe, so I decided to get her dressed before Merry came. Well, she had a load in her pull-up again and was all hands as I tried to get them off. She sat on the only clean nightgown she had left, and then decided she was going to throw up. So I grabbed the waste basket and held her down on the toilet until she decided she was okay. Then it took me 15 minutes to clean her up. Merry was 20 minutes late, and I couldn't leave Mom to get a nightgown, so I put on clean pull-ups and her robe, and put her back to bed, but had to get her up because she thought she was going to throw up again. Finally Merry showed up and I made Mom some soup, switched laundry, and went to the bank and grocery store before the snow starts. When I got back, my daughter and I took my x-mas tree out to the yard and put it where the birds would use it for shelter. Then I filled all the feeders and just got done vacuuming. Now I have to get the rest of the laundry and put mom's bed back together. Then I plan on sitting down with a cup of coffee for a few minutes, before I start on supper. And so goes another day!
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Other than that, Things are just fine here! LOL.
Sorry you all had to find nasty notes on your walls. People need to lighten up once again and stop taking things so personally. We are all here for the same reason. Support! It's true that many special bonds have been formed between many of us. I think that is a good thing. Most of us lost support of family and friends because all of our time is spent caregiving. I have made some of the best friends ever on this site and am not jealous when not included in the loop. I am happy that my many new friends get the extra support when they need it and hope that we can all get back to doing just that.
Anyway, just wanted to get back to the "gross out" stuff and share my gross morning with all of you.
Bobbie, glad you finally have some friends with you! I'm sure it gets lonely for you and Kitty!
Linda, I hope Pa is feeling better today, and remember, we are here for you!
I know I will miss somebody, so may you all have a great day without any grossness! I think I had enough for everyone!!! Kathy
love,
miz
Mother slept until 5am; I heard the quiet hyperventilating, then the "I have to go to the bathroom." I immediately went downstairs. As I got her out of bed, she was farting, and saying, "Whoops, hehee, whoops, hehee. Got her into the bathroom and she peed a lot, saying, "Oh, my gosh, oh, my gosh"--like this is the big event of the day. The I hear a couple of 'plops', and I ask her if she is through. Yes, she says. I go to wipe her, and the poop is still hanging on her butt, not going anywhere soon. I tell her to please finish, and she cannot seem to bear down--poor thing, probably forgetting how to do that, too--so I have to pull it out of her before I wipe her. She says, "Oh good, I think I finished." Yes, Mother, that's good." go to pull up her new-at night "overnight underwear"--the expensive kind, but worth every penny--and she is soaked through, including her jammie bottoms, so, I change those, and get her back to bed.
Luckily, the sheets are not wet, so I didn't have to change those.
So there, all you Gross Out fiends. How did I do? LOL
Have a great BOAT today, everyone.
See Y'all later! Hugs, christina
Well I have had my coffee and breakfast. Now I need to clean up the kitchen and do that laundry. It's amazing how much less laundry we have without Mom. I wish I was still doing it.
It's snowing here. We haven't got much yet. Maybe a 1/2 inch. It's cold though.
Ya know, bobbie was there for me completely when Mom was in the hospital and was dying and after she passed. It really hurts me to see her hurt. I don't like it one bit. Makes me feel like crying.
I'm gonna go grab a smoke and attempt to get something done around here before I go to work. Everyone have a good day. Linda, I'm thinking of you and your dear sweet pa. I'll be back later. Love yous.
miz
WHOO HOO!!!
Hope the rest of your day is ungross:)HUGS christina
love,
miz
Geez, Diane! I'm sure you've thought of all the standards. New doc, home health ... does he respond to threats of the Paramedics? Do you live near Jam?
i wish you luck , better yet just cancle the appt i guess if it stil doesnt work .
crappy doc s office , screw them , go to med check , look in the phone book and see what you can find . when time comes u can tell ur dad its for you and both of ya go in and tala you both are getting cked up .
, welcome to this site , xoxo
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yes tell us more !! india wow !
diana , u sure have u r hands full . stubborn old dad . how old is he ? my dad s 87 yrs old , he used to be stubborn , always love to go bye bye so i never had any pblm takin him anywhere . wish i could help you , sometimes ya just have to be forceful . yank the blankets away from him . that is if he doesnt get mean and starts hitting . FORCE is all what you could do . aww , i feel for you ..
hi rip ! got snow here do u wanna me to blow it back up ur way ? ohh lala xoxo
Diana, I live with a very stubborn lady who is my mother, so I can understand you very well. I agree on the fact that you try to change doctor. And, as you can't get crazy because of your father whims (forgive me - I am in the same boat, really) I agree that you tell him lies to push him to leave the house. And then, you happen to be near the doctor's office, and you just take him there with an excuse. I know that it's easier said than done....
Linda, hope papa is well! Big kiss
whew shovel the sidewalk and hauled wood inside the house , wlaked my dog and burnt the trash and now im waiting for 3 grandkids to come here and hang out with me so thier parents can go shopping without haulin em all around . theyre gonna love it ! FREEDOM !! no kids woohoo , i know the feeling .
told pa what i was going to do outside and told him that i was going to make a snowball and throw it at him , he giggled , hes perked up cuz he knows we re going to have company , he loves the grandkids .
will ck again later xoxo
When I got back, my daughter and I took my x-mas tree out to the yard and put it where the birds would use it for shelter. Then I filled all the feeders and just got done vacuuming. Now I have to get the rest of the laundry and put mom's bed back together.
Then I plan on sitting down with a cup of coffee for a few minutes, before I start on supper. And so goes another day!