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cuz! you maniac! Great stories I know that I love them and so does everybody else. thank you thank you. I read that tazir one on the middle of the night, laughed so hard and hurled not too long after. thanks for that. (too many crabs)
actually she makes me feel lke i work for her, hey i dont get paid though. i will not take anything from her. she is always sending her other son n his wife money though but i will not be indebted to her for even a stamp. she does not let anyone forget n she tells everyone how much she does for you....i heard her laugh with one of her friends on the phone about how much she makes me do for her r she will lie to her son n tell him she wants to move out n he will take care of her never met anyone so evil before.. he told her before they moved down if she was not happy here they would move to their own place and n be with me on weekends...i did not know this till after we got married.
sounds like mommy s boy . ahh ure better than that . stand up and start growling ,. i know i would have , no body treats me like that . love me or its the highway . growl n growl . i hope things will turn out for the better for u and ur hubby . how did u guys meet ? xoxox
Angela you definitely are an angel....tell you what...you have more stamina than I would have......I care for the col but if she was directly in my house I don't know what I would do. As it is, her house is like being in another area of our home and I can get to her quickly if need be. Your mil sounds just like the col. Won't go anywhere to meet new people because "they're just old and sit around talking about their aches and pains"....duh! I don't know how you do it listening to her bad mouth you.....does your husband have your back? Mine told his mother that it's me taking care of her and what I say is the same as what he says and vice versa. She remembers that because when she gets mad about something she'll say "and does Rod feel that way"? Yes maam he does....anymore questions? sometimes col is just a sweet little thing....other days she's a raving fishwife...I must be getting an appetite back....crab legs really sound good...stone crab from Monte's sounds even better.
When the care givers used to ask/tell my mom to do something. She would say, "Did "Miz" say I should?" or something like that. They would say yes and then she would be okay about it. :) Sweet sweet lady she was.
what miz said!!!!!! Don't allow yourself to be treated like a servant. Any money I spend on the col gets transferred out of her account into ours; of course I have control of the online banking. But she still has her checkbook and can write checks all she wants, but since I pay the bills there is nothing except birthday checks for her to write. Does your mil give your husband money? Girl, again I say you are stronger than I would be cuz I would say "see ya on the weekends"!!!!!!!!!
Sassy just got her claw stuck in a place on the back of the TV. Poor thing was meowing pretty loud and she rarely meows. She's okay though. Hubby helped her get it out.
miz , bet ur cat wont go back behind the tv again lol . done filled up the wood box , now we re good till in a few days , theres so much i want to say but am not sure if i wanna say it on this , anyway i am griefing and sad and scared , prayers plz . maybe one day i ll blurt it all out . think i need a nap now . xoxo
Here is a nice little story that has been on e-mail for years. I have saved it from like 2004 when I first read it. I hope you will enjoy it. luv cuz
The Wooden Bowl
I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now, A year from now.
A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered
The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and Failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. 'We must do something about father,' said the son. 'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.'
So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.
When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.
The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the boy responded, 'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up. ' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work..
The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.
That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, Neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things: A rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.
I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life..'
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others, Your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you
I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.
People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
I've learned that you should pass this on to everyone you care about .I just did.
cuz - i read that somewhere and got upset that they d shove gpa off in a corner alone and let him work so hard to eat . realy pissed me off , i could never do that to dad . then i saw the lit boy makin the wooden bowl for his parents realy made my heart spark with love for that lit boy . :-) horay for the lit boy , hes a hellva smarter than his own parents , xoxo
Cuz, I might be cynical, but that (beautiful) story suggests me that the "evil" parents understood what they were doing to the old man only when they understood that it might happen to them in the futur, too. This is not compassion, this is just: "I don't want this happens to ME"! That is: "Something is bad only when it happens or might happen to me, it's not bad when it happens to someone else"... BTW I am patient when the tree lights get tangled, but I am very pissed off when it rains all day long!
In other words, I think we should learn to guess, imagine, figure out the consequences of our actions on other people, "before" and "independently on the fact that" we have experienced the same things on our skin... This would mean to be a civilized person!
don't plan to visit Seattle in the next couple of weeks. We hide the fact it doesn't "always" rain here. But when it does ... it can rain all day & night. Gloomy! This is our season for it. What we share with the world. It too shall pass
Hey Rip--when we moved to Kirkland in 92 I remember the sign in the PO that said, "No Weather Whining". I didn't understand, having lived the first 40 years of my life in SoCAL, until I lived through the first year--winter, spring, 1 month of summer, freezing fall, then over again. I did enjoy the long, lavender sky nights in summer, and the wonderful gardening with loamy soil. Giant azaleas called Rhododendrons, and huge dahlias. Sigh. I love to garden.
Christina! What brought you here? I'm a native & the times of constant rain still drives me crazy. What's really sad is I remember when the land was wilderness rather than parking lots. Kirkland was a tiny town across the lake. A long drive ... the weather can be a real hit or miss. Rarely predictible.
My friends in San Diego came for Christmas a couple years ago when we had 2' of snow. The neighbohood was pretty much snowed in. Holiday - no plows. They loved it!!! But they could hop the plane & go home.
Christina, I agree with you in principle... But I hope it's not completely true! If our experiences in life did not change us, it wouldn't be worth living! I was a lazy spoiled useless daughter of a very strong and protective father. Hard life changed me a lot and I assure you I am no more lazy, no more spoiled (and maybe still a little bit useless!!!!!!!!!!!!!) Georgia, what did you say? I didn't notice anything traumatic. Please keep posting your jokes!!!!!!!!
thanks for the reply, Rossella! I am happy when people can improve, but by being the daughter of a protective Father --like my daughter!--shows one has INHERITED CHARACTER, and one waits for it to kick in. haha Peach--no matter what you do or say, people LOVE YOU! isn't that awesome?! Were you nasty? heehee Well, I'm going for a walk, then seeing my kids and to bed early. Still can't sleep on my nights off, and my Mother slept all last night!! Who needs a caregiver!?
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or ranting!
ow ow.
you just keep writing.
how much your poor heart has endured.
angels to you.
lovbob
you maniac!
Great stories I know that I love them and so does everybody else. thank you thank you.
I read that tazir one on the middle of the night, laughed so hard and hurled not too long after.
thanks for that. (too many crabs)
love,
miz
growl n growl . i hope things will turn out for the better for u and ur hubby . how did u guys meet ?
xoxox
sometimes col is just a sweet little thing....other days she's a raving fishwife...I must be getting an appetite back....crab legs really sound good...stone crab from Monte's sounds even better.
done filled up the wood box , now we re good till in a few days ,
theres so much i want to say but am not sure if i wanna say it on this , anyway i am griefing and sad and scared ,
prayers plz . maybe one day i ll blurt it all out .
think i need a nap now . xoxo
luv cuz
The Wooden Bowl
I guarantee you will remember the tale of the Wooden Bowl tomorrow, a week from now, a month from now,
A year from now.
A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson.
The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered
The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and
Failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor.
When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
'We must do something about father,' said the son.
'I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor.'
So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.
There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner.
Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.
When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone.
Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food.
The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor.
He asked the child sweetly, 'What are you making?' Just as sweetly, the boy responded,
'Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food in when I grow up.
' The four-year-old smiled and went back to work..
The words so struck the parents so that they were speechless. Then tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.
That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table.
For the remainder of his days he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason,
Neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.
On a positive note, I've learned that, no matter what happens, how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles four things:
A rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.
I've learned that making a 'living' is not the same thing as making a 'life..'
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back sometimes.
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you
But, if you focus on your family, your friends, the needs of others,
Your work and doing the very best you can, happiness will find you
I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one.
I've learned that every day, you should reach out and touch someone.
People love that human touch -- holding hands, a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
I've learned that you should pass this on to everyone you care about .I just did.
xoxo
Does the BobCat get along with the marina cats? I can imagine her in the wheel house bragging! Mine would.
BTW I am patient when the tree lights get tangled, but I am very pissed off when it rains all day long!
This is our season for it. What we share with the world.
It too shall pass
Giant azaleas called Rhododendrons, and huge dahlias. Sigh.
I love to garden.
What brought you here?
I'm a native & the times of constant rain still drives me crazy. What's really sad is I remember when the land was wilderness rather than parking lots.
Kirkland was a tiny town across the lake. A long drive ...
the weather can be a real hit or miss. Rarely predictible.
My friends in San Diego came for Christmas a couple years ago when we had 2' of snow. The neighbohood was pretty much snowed in. Holiday - no plows.
They loved it!!!
But they could hop the plane & go home.
What do you think?
i'm sorry i grossed everybody out
I was a lazy spoiled useless daughter of a very strong and protective father. Hard life changed me a lot and I assure you I am no more lazy, no more spoiled (and maybe still a little bit useless!!!!!!!!!!!!!)
Georgia, what did you say? I didn't notice anything traumatic. Please keep posting your jokes!!!!!!!!
haha Peach--no matter what you do or say, people LOVE YOU! isn't that awesome?! Were you nasty? heehee
Well, I'm going for a walk, then seeing my kids and to bed early.
Still can't sleep on my nights off, and my Mother slept all last night!! Who needs a caregiver!?
you're not gross! It's life! Stuff a lot grosser than that on here.
knock it off and have fun!
lovbob