Grossed out and need to vent—I just caught Mom using my toothbrush to comb her hair!

Good afternoon everyone..... Well i finally got motivated today, cleaned up my house.... yes it was nasty lol lol.... Feeling a little better. Mom is just so lost, so I am trying to spend alot of time with her. I do have to say she makes me laugh. It is good, we talk alot about papa and all of his stunts that he would pull on the two of us. My days have been so very dark! and I miss him terribly, but i know what he would say to me right now.... " suck it up already".... lol

"Suck it up already". That sounds like Sir.

Hey, back to the bell, I now "HOP" to a ringtone! Speed dial is a wonderful thing. For the last few years a certain little tune tenses me right up. Works even when I'm in public & hear someone's phone playing the same few notes. What now???
oh... not me!

I really need it to say"... take a deep breath, kid ..."
"Suck it up" would be another good ringtone.

On the other hand there are times when we do better phone than being face to face. He'll ring me when I'm downstairs working & we'll have a great conversation!'
You think maybe it's b/c I encourage him to turn down the TV when on the phone???

Awww angie, i know it hurts. Your dad would just hug you and tell you that it takes a minute.
You're amazing and it takes time.
Miz will tell you and Jam and and and
Miz how are you feeling?
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Jam, Austin, I agree.
Angie, I'm glad you are back.
Bobbie, in order to clean your boat's brass you need a soft rag and a strong hand!
I see we are going full sail, I am happy, I go to bed!

Night Rossella. :)

Glad you're glad rossella!! No Kidding!!
What am I supposed to rub the brass with? aside from a good rag?
Got the dinghy running again and took a nice ride.
love the water!
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Got dr OK to start the ankle exercises and I don't need to wear the boot in house, only out side. six weeks and it should be totally healed yeah! :) So that is my time out. I will apply at our local Safeway it is close and everyone is nice there. May not be easy but I can do it. Least it isn't an office job, didn't like that after a while, repetitious and office politics wearing...
Speaking of wearing, mom still upset about grpa wearing a food stained shirt to DR office this morning, thinks it makes her look like an incapable caregiver...it does. But then the Dr office is incompetent so between in capable and incompetent...It is harder on her, she really is in denial about how much changed he is, not the fastidious competent father she knew...I don't know why she can't just deal with it. but then she doesn't hate him like I do. For her, bad news really is bad news...and yet she is worn out of the care-giving already. Yells now, she never used to much before, me I never yelled. I just ignored him if he was being stupid and stubborn and made him: put on the clean shirt, take the medication.. what ever any way...

Hope everyone is doing well...well as well as....you know....

This is a general post, several people can not get onto The Aging Care site at all...Does anyone know why? If they have been kicked off they would like to know why if it is technical difficulties please let me know...

did they ban the Rip?
Hope not! I am struggling with Sir whose body is aging faster thn his wit.

Hey Jsomebody at around 6:00pm Michigan time I could not get on this site. It timed out and would not load. A couple of nights ago it told me that I had an invalid password. Took me awhile but I did get back on

Grand parents

1. She was in the bathroom, putting on her makeup, under the watchful eyes of her young granddaughter, as she'd done many times before. After she applied her lipstick and started to leave, the little one said, "But Grandma, you forgot to kiss the toilet paper good-bye!" I will probably never put lipstick on again without thinking about kissing the toilet paper good-bye....

2. My young grandson called the other day to wish me Happy Birthday. He asked me how old I was, and I told him, 62. My grandson was quiet for a moment, and then he asked, "Did you start at 1?"

3. After putting her grandchildren to bed, a grandmother changed into old slacks and a droopy blouse and proceeded to wash her hair. As she heard the children getting more and more rambunctious, her patience grew thin. Finally, she threw a towel around her head and stormed into their room, putting them back to bed with stern warnings. As she left the room, she heard the three-year-old say with a trembling voice,
"Who was THAT?"

4. A grandmother was telling her little granddaughter what her own childhood was like. "We used to skate outside on a pond. I had a swing made from a tire; it hung from a tree in our front yard. We rode our pony. We picked wild raspberries in the woods."
The little girl was wide-eyed, taking this all in. At last she said, "I sure wish I'd gotten to know you sooner!"

5. My grandson was visiting one day when he asked, "Grandma, do you know how you and God are alike?" I mentally polished my halo and I said, "No, how are we alike?'' "You're both old," he replied.

6. A little girl was diligently pounding away on her grandfather's word processor. She told him she was writing a story.
"What's it about?" he asked.
"I don't know," she replied. "I can't read."

7. I didn't know if my granddaughter had learned her colors yet, so I decided to test her. I would point out something and ask what color it was. She would tell me and was always correct. It was fun for me, so I continued. At last, she headed for the door, saying, "Grandma, I think you should try to figure out some of these colors yourself!"

8. When my grandson Billy and I entered our vacation cabin, we kept the lights off until we were inside to keep from attracting pesky insects. Still, a few fireflies followed us in. Noticing them before I did, Billy whispered, "It's no use Grandpa. Now the mosquitoes are coming after us with flashlights."

9. When my grandson asked me how old I was, I teasingly replied, "I'm not sure." "Look in your underwear, Grandpa," he advised "Mine says I'm 4 to 6."

10. A second grader came home from school and said to her grandmother, "Grandma, guess what? We learned how to make babies today." The grandmother, more than a little surprised, tried to keep her cool. "That's interesting." she said. "How do you make babies?"
"It's simple," replied the girl. "You just change 'y' to 'i' and add 'es'."

11. Children's Logic: "Give me a sentence about a public servant," said a teacher. The small boy wrote: "The fireman came down the ladder pregnant." The teacher took the lad aside to correct him. "Don't you know what pregnant means?" she asked.
"Sure," said the young boy confidently. 'It means carrying a child."

12. A grandfather was delivering his grandchildren to their home one day when a fire truck zoomed past. Sitting in the front seat of the fire truck was a Dalmatian dog. The children started discussing the dog's duties.
"They use him to keep crowds back," said one child.
"No," said another. "He's just for good luck."
A third child brought the argument to a close."They use the dogs," she said firmly, "to find the fire hydrants."

13. A 6-year-old was asked where his grandma lived. "Oh," he said, "she lives at the airport, and when we want her, we just go get her. Then, when we're done having her visit, we take her back to the airport."

14. Grandpa is the smartest man on earth! He teaches me good good things, but I don't get to see him enough to get as smart as him!

15. My Grandparents are funny, when they bend over, you hear gas leaks and they blame their dog.

CATHOLIC HORSES

One day while he was at the track playing the ponies and all but losing
his shirt, Mitch noticed a priest who stepped out onto the track and
blessed the forehead of one of the horses lining up for the 4th race.

Lo and behold, that horse - a very long shot - won the race..

Before the next race, as the horses began lining up, Mitch watched with
interest the old priest step onto the track. Sure enough, as the 5th
race horses came to the starting gate the priest made a blessing on the
forehead of one of the horses.

Mitch made a beeline for a betting window and placed a small bet on the
horse. Again, even though it was another long shot, the horse the
priest had blessed won the race.

Mitch collected his winnings, and anxiously waited to see which horse
the priest would bless for the 6th race. The priest again blessed a
horse.

Mitch bet big on it, and it won. Mitch was elated.. As the races
continued the priest kept blessing long shot horses, and each one ended
up coming in first.

By and by, Mitch was pulling in some serious money. By the last race,
he knew his wildest dreams were going to come true. He made a quick
dash to the ATM, withdrew all his savings, and awaited the priest's
blessing that would tell him which horse to bet on.


True to his pattern, the priest stepped onto the track for the last
race and blessed the forehead of an old nag that was the longest shot
of the day.

Mitch also observed the priest blessing the eyes, ears, and hooves of
the old nag. Mitch knew he had a winner and bet every cent he owned
on the old nag.

He then watched dumbfounded as the old nag come in dead last. Mitch, in
a state of shock, made his way down to the track area where the priest
was.

Confronting the old priest he demanded, 'Father! What happened?

All day long you blessed horses and they all won. Then in the last
race, the horse you blessed lost by a Kentucky mile. Now, thanks to you
I've lost every cent of my savings -- all of it!'.

The priest nodded wisely and with sympathy.

'Son,' he said, 'that's the problem with you Protestants, you can't
tell the difference between a simple blessing and last rites.'

Stay Young My Friend

We all need to read this one over and over until it becomes part of who we are!
HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Try everything twice.
On one woman's tombstone she said she wanted this epitaph:
"Tried everything twice. Loved it both times!"

2. Keep only cheerful friends.
The grouches pull you down.
(Keep this in mind if you are one of those grouches!)


3. Keep learning:
Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever...
Never let the brain get idle. 'An idle mind is the devil's workshop.'
And the devil's name is Alzheimer's!

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud.
Laugh until you gasp for breath.
And if you have a friend who makes you laugh,
spend lots and lots of time with HIM/HER.

6.. The tears happen:
Endure, grieve, and move on.
The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourselves.
LIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love:
Whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever..
Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health:
If it is good, preserve it.
If it is unstable, improve it.
If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips..
Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county,
to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.
I love you, my special friend.

11. Forgive now those who made you cry. You might not get a second chance..

And if you don't send this to at least 4 people - who cares?
But do share this with someone.

Remember! Lost time can never be found.

Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.

Wine does not make you FAT ...

- it makes you LEAN ....
(Against tables, chairs, floors, walls and ugly people.)

Bobbie
I have to take my ma to the DR on Thursday. She has been on the antibiodics so long that they said in older people it stays in the intestines to long and gives them the diarea. She had that two days ago. After the check up they might give her something else that is not quite evasive and will clear up the intestinal track. will keep you up to date
luv ya Cuz

Hey Bobbie's Cuz,
Thank you so much, for your generous gift of the great jokes, and the time it takes to transfer them on here for all of us.
Hugs:))

Cuz, I liked the stories of the children a lot. They might be all true. I remember my nephew when he was 4 years old, more or less. One of the most famous Italian singers was dead, I took the guitar and started to sing his songs to celebrate him. My nephew asked me: "If you sing his songs, will he resurrect?"

Jen, let your mother stay a lot with your grandfather. She will understand. It is normal that now she is disoriented; she had lost real contacts with him for years!

Bobbie, don't worry to polish brasses. That's my job. Your job is to drive the boat. Everyone has a different job on the boat.

BTW I have been cut off from AgingCare too. During several hours tonight (Italian night). But as I saw that all the rest of Internet worked, I understood they were doing some works!
If we have not been cancelled until now, with everything we have said or done... I guess for AgingCare staff we all are "the black sheep!"

Getting Ready For Haul Out!
back when I'm on jacks!
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You splashing Bobbie??

cuz PLEASE BE EVER SO CAREFUL AND VIGILANT........antibiotic use can cause c-diff and it is contagious and very nasty stuff. Doctors tend to go yeah, right....but don't let them fool you. When I used to transport patients with c-diff I would never touch anything without wearing gloves. Of course that was a habit I used anyway, but more so then.

Good Morning Friends & Neighbors. Just checking in. It's nice to be back on here. Was very frustrating last night trying and trying. Been catching myself thinking Mom's still in her room. Hubby would like to use her small bathroom for a paint room for fixing up stuff that he sells. Says he would put plastic over everything and it's a real good idea cause it's too cold out to do it outside. I just don't know if I'm ready for that. I told him I gotta digest it.

I want to tell you all. I know that my care giving days are over but you all have helped me so much in dealing with Mom's passing and how hard it is going through the loss. I think we need support through all of it. So thank you very much for being here for me. Love yous.

miz

good morning , lastnight i left a note on the table askin hubby to wake me up so i can go to couch and hear pa when he wakes up . he woke me up and i dont remmy how i got on the couch . woke up heard pa waa waa and went in his room , ohhh he s on the floor . uhh what did u do , sneak and crawl to the floor ? he said well i almost got to the bathroom and i walked backwards and eneded up here , i said oh dad u cant walk . tried to get him up and hes leaning backwards makin my job harder . told him to stop that and work with me , he refuses , says dont wanna hurt my back .
caled my daughter ask her if she could come home first before going to work , she was here in 20 mins , lucky she spent night with her gfriend which is not too far . got him back in bed , told him he s grounded ! he giggled and had bfast in bed ,
my sister is coming home today so ill have a back up if he wounds up on the floor again .
i need to start pilin pilows all around him and make sure its tucked in real good , last time i did that he manages to get em all out of the way . sometimes it works sometimes it doesnt ,
told him im gonna tie him to bed .
ask him if he wanna break a leg and go to nursing home like aunt did , he says noo i dont .
wow what a morning ! i think im going to go back to the couch and take a nappy poo . raining outside , be a good sleeping weather .
you all have a good day .
glad AC is back alive again . whew ! xoxo

good morning, ya, that was a scare yesterday, not being able to get on and see how everyone is doing. It's not easy being with Alz all day , the conversation is lacking. Mom is doing OK, but I haven't taken her out for rides in the car due to the cold, and it's hard to hold her up and open the door at the same time. Might need a ramp soon. I've gotten so attached to my mom , she's like a baby or a pet or something, I know it's gonna be a real loss when she passes (unless I "kick the bucket" first) I'll probably get on the first plane to CA and visit my sons,, and then they'll be saying.."my Mother is trying to move in with us , help! " (kidding, sort of)

ssk , ure funny . get on the plane and stay with ur sons , dont leave !! lol . yes i ve gotten so attached to my dad too .
scary part is how will i react when he goes to a better place ?
i prob find a black hole and curl up and weep .
sux ! ah i dont wanna think about that , need to enjoy whats today and tmr . xoxo

Hi linda, and miz, right, need to enjoy today and find some fun in the day. Your pa seem to love your cooking and going out for rides and getting something to eat. Same with my mom. She plays with cards a lot, keep her busy. Miz, I'm glad you and others have stayed on here, it helps to have caring people around.
ssk

Just got done shoveling the long driveway so my daughter could park her car when she got home from work. 4" of fluffy stuff, but now it's sleeting and then freezing rain is expected!
You would think that my shoulder would be good nearly 2 years after surgery, but I can hardly lift my arm after throwing the snow over our 6' fence. Oh well! Ice it I guess, because there is another storm headed this way Friday.
Linda, put those pillows under Pa's sheets and mattress cover. That way he can't move them. Found my mom on the floor the other night. First time she has tried to get out of bed in months! I figure it's the UTU and a full moon tomorrow. By the way, still no med for the UTI!!! Doc's office closed for the holiday yesterday and closed today due to the weather.
Daycare is canceled and I told Merry not to come on the bad roads, so it's me and Mom for the next 3 days! Had all kinds of things on my "to do list", but I guess I can throw that out. Plenty of laundry to keep me busy!
SSK, Mom used to read, play cards, and make puzzles, but it's been months since any of that makes sense to her. Glad your mom can still occupy herself.
Miz, hubby will get that room when you are ready. In the mean time, I'm sure he'll be glad to make do.
Bobbie!!! Boat out of water!!! Bet you can't wait to get her done! Those Jack Benny oldies sound cool! Used to watch him with my grandparents because we did't have a TV back then. Loved Roscoe! Just saw him in a Turner Classic movie last week with Lena Horne! It may have been her first movie and was made in the early 40's.
Christina, Take care of that shoulder! I know the OUCH!!!!
Good morning to everyone else out there! Hope you all have a good day!

deef, please be careful with the shoveling. Throwing snow over a 6 ft. fence would hurt anyone, let alone someone that had surgery. Shoveling is VERY hard work. I'm glad everyone there is staying home and safe. All this bad weather sucks. Hubby's getting sick of it too. Maybe we WILL move somewhere warm. I sure hope so.

love,
miz

I was careful Miz, just my old shoulder getting tired!!! Snow was very light, but now it's turning to sleet. Got to clean off a couple roofs before the freezing rain hits. Don't want any leaking in the house. House is so big, we have 7 separate roofs!!!
Just ordered anew restraint for Mom's wheelchair. Goes over her shoulders so she can't bend over to reach stuff on the floor. She tipped her chair over yesterday while reaching for a piece of fuzz on the rug!!! Got to love it! First thing out of her mouth was "are you alright?" She asked Merry if she was hurt!!!Fun times for all.....

Awww deef, that's so sweet. Your mom asking Merry if she was hurt. So glad your mom wasn't hurt when she tipped her chair over. Those restraints sound like a good idea for your mom's safety. And, please don't fall off that roof!!

love,
miz

Deef- you probably don't want to hear this but..."be careful out there shovelling...and cleaning off the roofs.." you must have a huge house. Are you renting apt's? Your Mom sounds like a hot ticket...and quite a handful! Good luck over the next couple of days.
ssk

OK, change in plans.
Boat out first thing tomorrow am and now it's all about finishing up the laundry and washing off a weeks worth of carrots!

Deef!! whaddya nuts???
Man, take it easy. I know that the snow needs to get moved but ow ow ow.

75 degrees on the foredeck Miz!
That was a sweet thing to say Miz, and I am so happy you're still here with us. Even though my mom is gone, i don't want to lose my friends I made here and I think that those of us who are on the other side already can still be of help.

SSK!! I know how that conversation can, shall we say, lag......
Keep checking in. That's what I did and I know I say this a lot, but it did save my life.

Linda! Kiss your Pa for me and Yes! stay focused on the NOW and have a good time and when that other time finally comes, you and i will drink some zoom zoom coffee and cry and laugh together.

Cat is here sleeping half on the computer and making sure that there's hairs all around.

I am so excited knowing that I am finally going to be able to meet Miz for real.
I want to meet all of you guys for real and I think we need to plan a convention!
With Hats!
love all you guys and you all know who you are!

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