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yes, I miss shopping with my Mom. She always knew what would look good , and I miss her being able to help me get organized. She would come over if I was overwhelmed and just her presence would get me motivated to get stuff done.
Miz, Heaven is FULL of all the wishes each if us have:) I imagine a collection of all our favorite memories made real again is what it will be. This is my HOPE and PRAYER. Love, christina
The story is told of an old man who lived on a farm in the mountains of eastern Kentucky with his young grandson.
Each morning, Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading from his old worn-out Bible. His grandson who wanted to be just like him tried to imitate him in any way he could..
One day the grandson asked, 'Papa, I try to read the Bible just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does reading the Bible do?' The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and said, 'Take this old wicker coal basket down to the river and bring back a basket of water.'
The boy did as he was told, even though all the water leaked out be fore he could get back to the house. The grandfather laughed and said, 'You will have to move a little faster next time,' and sent him back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the old wicker basket was empty before he returned home. Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was 'impossible to carry water in a basket,' and he went to get a bucket instead. The old man said, 'I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of water. You can do this. You're just not trying hard enough,' and he went out the door to watch the boy try again.
At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak out before he got far at all. The boy scooped the water and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty. Out of breath, he said, 'See Papa, it's useless!'
'So you think it is useless?' the old man said. 'Look at the basket.'
The boy looked at the basket and for the first time he realized that the basket looked different. Instead of a dirty old wicker coal basket, it was clean.
'Son, that's what happens when you read the Bible. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, it will change you from the inside out.'
Moral of the wicker basket story: Take time to read a portion of God's word each day; it will affect you for good even if you don't retain a word.
Thought for Today: God's Love is like the ocean, you can see its beginnings but not its end.
I really like this story because I don't retain things too well anymore...old age may have something to do with it but I just figure my brain just gets overloaded! God isn't concerned about my brain anyway; He's more concerned about my heart.
I never really liked the terminology "Old Farts" but this makes me feel better about it.
And if you ain't one, I bet ya you know one! I got this from an "Old Fart" friend of mine!
OLD FART PRIDE I'm passing this on as I did not want to be the only old fart receiving it. Actually, it's not a bad thing to be called, as you will see.
Old Farts are easy to spot at sporting events; during the playing of the National Anthem.. Old Farts remove their caps and stand at attention and sing without embarrassment. They know the words and believe in them. Old Farts remember World War II, Pearl Harbor , Guadalcanal , Normandy and Hitler. They remember the Atomic Age, the Korean War, The Cold War, the Jet Age and the Moon Landing. They remember the 50 plus Peacekeeping Missions from 1945 to 2005, not to mention Vietnam . If you bump into an Old Fart on the sidewalk he will apologize. If you pass an Old Fart on the street, he will nod or tip his cap to a lady. Old Farts trust strangers and are courtly to women. Old Farts hold the door for the next person and always, when walking, make certain the lady is on the inside for protection.. Old Farts get embarrassed if someone curses in front of women and children and they don't like any filth or dirty language on TV or in movies. Old Farts have moral courage and personal integrity. They seldom brag unless it's about their children or grandchildren. It's the Old Farts who know our great country is protected, not by politicians, but by the young men and women in the military serving their country.
This country needs Old Farts with their work ethic, sense of responsibility, pride in their country and decent values.
We need them now more than ever.
Thank God for Old Farts!
Pass this on to all the "Old Farts" you know.
I was taught to respect my elders….It's just getting harder to find them. (Except for you, my friend)
A fart is a pleasant thing, It gives the belly ease, It warms the bed in winter, And suffocates the fleas.
A fart can be quiet, A fart can be loud, Some leave a powerful, Poisonous cloud
A fart can be short, Or a fart can be long, Some farts have been known To sound like a song......
A fart can create A most curious medley, A fart can be harmless, Or silent, and deadly.
A fart might not smell, While others are vile, A fart may pass quickly, Or linger a while......
A fart can occur In a number of places, And leave everyone there, With strange looks on their faces . From wide-open prairie, To small elevators, A fart will find all of Us sooner or later.
But farts are all bad, Is simply not true- We must never forget....... Sweet old farts like you!
Kinda brings a tear to your eye - right?
Why not send this on to other old farts and bring a smile...or....tear to them!
up date about insurance MOMA GOT ON THE PHONE TODAY WITH WASHINGTON HEALTHSPRINGS BLAMING MEDICARE MEDICARE BLAMING HEALTHSPRINGS noone wanting to take the blame well moma spent the better part of the day on the phone and we think we got it straight health springs should hve DIS INROLLED MOM BACK IN DECEMBER and negeleted to do so MEDICARE waiting to get information from other locations of suppument insurances and never received it HEALTH SPRINGS never did their part turns out as we thought and they were pointing the finger badly i might add and then would not release mom from their grasp and then would not pay any medical expenses medicare is now in process to whic we also wil need to try to prove that HEALTH SPRINGS owes moneys to medical things for expenses we encure through out the year not really a problem also medicare is making health springs pay for any medical expenses retro back to oct 2009 when they took over mom medicare fruaduanly and thru jan 2011 to which medicar said they would presue and any expenses that happened from jan 1 2011 that we get charged for make a copy and call medicare and send and they will handle SO MAYBE WE GOT AT LEAST THAT PART SOLVED we still need to fill a fraud claim against HEALTH SPRINGS PER MEDICARE BECAUSE MEDICARE STARTED PROMOTING THEM THIS YEAR SO CAUTION thanks for listing luv all you fellow caregivers YOURS TRULY TRUECOLORS
It was moving, Miz. I'd like to be able to do the same - go back to the past. You and I know that it's just a wish, and though, we suffer we can't have it. But we can rationalize. People like my mother don't realize they can't have it anymore, and so they suffer even more. I'm very sorry for her.
Yesterday there was a tornado warning. Not a watch, a warning! one was on the ground and I couldn't see it or I would have crapped crab cakes. This is a heavy boat, but omg not even a chance with that kind of storm. Tense few hours there and when it was over and all was safe I fell asleep.
GP!! 9200!!! you're going to be better and really get your boat time!!
More later you guys. It's light enough now for me to go out and pump out my dinghy.
Dinghy dry and engine tested and runs fine. My butt's wet, however. finally some sun today and we continue on with the repairs.
Thanks for the hugs, ssk and kuli! means a lot to me and I appreciate it. I will tell you that I am beyond grateful for you guys and you keep me going too. Life after caregiving can be hard because we move into Post Traumatic Stress and all of the nasties that go with that. At least now I know what it is and why it's hard and slow to get it all together. You guys will be faced with certain levels of that also but we will know it's coming and it will be a little easier to deal with. And I just thought I was nuts for no reason........
Going to have a nice bowl of Kashi and soy milk. with nuts. lovbob
"Wake up. wake up, whoever you are, and get your fat butt out of bed and into your car/(boat.).." Rick Dees wife, a comic, did a parody of Glynda, the GWOTW back in the 80's on local morning radio show. I just liked it. Anytime you can tell someone to get their fat butt out of bed, it kind of gets you going. Almost like a good cup of coffee. My Mother used to stick her cold hand under the covers and pull my big toe and say, "Rise and Shine, Sleeping Beauty". Pissed me off every time. Then my step-Father would follow up, if I did not get out of bed, which I did not want to do because I hated high school, with,"Get UP, Queenie!". Oh Joy, to begin the day with cold hands on my body and gruff voices in my ears. These days, I wake up to, "I have to go to the bathroom! Isn't anyone going to get me out of here?! I've been in here for hours! I can't get out. I've got this horrible rubbery stuff in my mouth. There's dirt in my bed"! Oh, my. What I would give to be in high school again... Have a great day everyone!!! LOVE YOU!! christina
Looks like I'll have the first gross out story of the day! Got Mom up this morning and as usual, she was soaking wet. I noticed a brown stain on the chux pad and figured their was a prize in the "Cracker Jacks" box. Yup!!! A huge baseball size poop!!! As I was trying to get the pull ups off, she dropped another baseball on the floor and peed everywhere!!! It took me a while to get her cleaned up and dressed for daycare, but I finally got her ready. Life is such a JOY!!!! I had to go to the bank, post office, and pet store for more cat food. Now I am trying to figure out where I can get $800 to pay the tax bill that is due Tuesday. Maybe I'll just go back to bed and pull the covers over my head until next Wednesday. Do ya think that will make all this go away??? Hope everyone is well.
I love the analogies I see here...makes my day. Yes Bobbie I live in Ft Myers, Fl. I'm a transplant from N.C. I love the winters here. I don't know how you folks up north do it!!! Getting Mom out to appts. in the cold and snow...don't think I could do it. At least I can get outside for awhile, walk around, get a minute to regroup without battling the cold. My old bones don't like the cold and will let me know it! Blessings to all.
Have you all seen that commercial for one of the credit cards where the guy answers the phone, "This is Peggy."? Well, Dunkin' Donuts charged us twice for a purchase at the St. Louis airport likes 3 weeks apart. Anyway, hubby called Dunkin' Donuts a little bit ago and a woman answered the phone and he jokingly said, "Is this Peggy?" She said something like, "Excuse me, what did you say?" and he said "I thought you were going to say, "This is Peggy." and he continued on with what he was calling about and she had hung up on him. I laughed. LOL. Too funny.
Bobbie I am so glad for what you said about post distress I did much better the first year maybe because I had to fight for everything to get settled esp. his pension now I feel adrift and the snow just keeps comming even the kids who get a day off from say enough already I am trying to stay out of the dark hole but it is hard,
Deef, yes, what a good idea! If you stay in bed and put the blanket on your head, you will find 800 dollars, for sure! I do it every day, so I find 800 euros every day, Can we find a way to grow them? (I mean, dollars and euros) Can we put a boy dollar close to a girl dollar and wait until they reproduce? Christina, I understand you very well. I hated when they woke me up in the morning, even if they did it with a hot coffee, when Ii was a girl, and now I have just an endless list of people and animals who want something from me! Where are the good old years of no responsibility?
HI, today I feel the need to vent again. This time about the vna nurse. Sometimes they seem to want to push medications on people they don't need. My mom is very calm and quiet now and is easy to deal with, but the Darn nurse doesn't seem to believe me. She goes on and on , well, people with dementia get agitated, and will strike out or this, that, the other..and may need haldol or ativan etc,, and she doesn't believe that mom is fine on what she's on. Now I need an ativan after talking to her! Thanks for letting me vent.
Sskape, I think the nurse wants to give medications to your mother so she (the nurse) has less problems. In other words, she wants to sedate her. It's only you that have to decide if and when sedate your mother...
Thanks rossella, she is probably just doing her job. Discussing all the possibilities, but she scared me. It would be a lot better to get help by private pay so as not to have to deal with "the system" and all of their laws. I'm going to call my brother when he get out of work to discuss finances, so I'll probably be venting again after that. Oh well.
Yes, SSK! I am off in 20 minutes to the psychiatrist!! I am going to discuss this very thing and will be back later with new info! Less is better for dementia. The RN I spoke to yesterday said the drugs they give to D patients are for people with over-active brains, not "swiss cheese brains". Well, I am a sponge today--I'll do the best I can and squeeze myself out here later!! Chill likes our metaphors and such!! See Y'all Later. Hugs christina
Less drugs is good unless you are my mother!!! She is constantly agitated and even keeps her fingers busy while sleeping! Now she is starting to stiffen up like a board and leans backwards. Very hard to walk her any distance. She either refuses or cannot bend at the waist when necessary. One of many symptoms of PD. Without xanax 3 times a day, Paxil in the AM and seroquel to sleep at night, I would have to send her away! It's just too much work for 1 person to handle alone. It takes both Merry and myself to all of our strength to manhandle her from chair to bed etc. These drugs help to keep her body relaxed enough to do these things. On another note, we missed her 6 month neurologist appt. that was this morning. It was made last July and I didn't remember to mark it down. They always send a letter or call the week before, but didn't this time. So now we are rescheduled for mid March. they want us to see an associate this time. I always get an AM appt. because that is when she is easiest to handle. this one is for 2:45, so it should be interesting! That's the time of day she is the worst. Maybe they can boost her Pd meds again. Getting some snow, but not the storm that is heading this way. that will be later tonight. Can't wait to see where we will put this batch of snow! For sure there will be no daycare tomorrow, and it is Merry's day off, so it should be interesting to say the least! Hope everyone stays safe and warm in the snow regions!
Good Afternoon, all my favorite angels It has been a busy couple of days. Went to the bank yesterday with mom to straighten out the finances since papa passing. Amazingly I held up pretty well. Had to go to the city hall for more death certs, again did amazing well. Did some shoveling , did well. Today did some food shopping, since we have not been practically since his death and so tired of take out, have already shoveled 3 times to prevent the 10 inches buidling up and becoming heavy. Now I am just sitting and really really missing papa. Mom is a handful, her forgetfulness has gotten ten times worse since his passing. It is so mentally exhausting sometimes. But I am glad that I am here to look out for her. Does not look like I will be going to work anytime soon, at least until the spring and she is settled. I turn on my beautiful lamp from all of you everyday at 4 and take the pic of papa and talk to it for a bit and even kiss it and tell him how much his little 43 yr old girl loves and misses him. OMG am I going nutss.... lol At the market I picked up a huge jar of mayonaisse, why i was thinkiing papa was still with us, realized when i got home what i did. Papa loved mayo on everything. One day caught him putting it on banana's .... lol lol I have read through the thread and love to everyone. Honestly dont have the energy to respond right now, but know that each and everyone of you are in my thoughts all the time. Boy do i remember the poops and pees Deef...... love and hugs to all angie
Good Evening Caregivers! having a bowl of Campbells Chunky Bean and Ham. Pretty good, pretty fast and should be pretty funny later when I scare the Cat. Plumbing work on the boat today and tomorrow and then the bottom job will begin. Big grinder to take the top 2 coats of paint off and get it ready for new paint.
that's about it for me, tired and I didn't even do anything today. Well I did but you know what I mean. nothing compared to the active caregivers who are working so hard and burning the candle at both ends.
My mom had no drugs to make her quiet. It's part of the disease that their hands are going and some may remember that I bought her a bunch of different kinds of cloth napkins so she had different textures to play with. That and the Activity Lap thingy that she really loved.
there's a bunch of stuff in that catalogue that I got for mom and she really enjoyed it. I love you guys, be well and safe and I will check in later!
Ok Just got in from shoveling again..... UGGHHHH.... lol bobbie I am praying that one day I will be able to join you on that boat.....away from this weather sipping on a martini on the boat with you and others..... lol....... I am about to have a Budweiser, not my fav but hey whats a girl to do right. Mom is watching tv upstairs with the dog. On my way in she told me the same story 2xs.... Sometimes I say thanks papa for leaving with mom, i mean that in the nicest way, at least when he was here, it was kind of a break lol.. Good news, a hospice grief councilor is coming to the house on monday to meet with mom, hopefully that will help. Think i will be heating up a frozen pizza for dinner , it will a long night, i will be out shoveling so it wont be so tough in the morning. Have to bring my daughter to the dr. tomorrow. Had ultra sound monday, keeps losing weight, down to about 85 pounds, not so good.... bad migraines, factor 5 blood disorder, reynaud's, amongst other conditions and she is only 20. Just another worry. She is my only one. Please keep her ( emily in your prayers. I remember when papa was so hard to move due to the PD, i use to joke that i was bencing 179 6 times a day. I had the papa gym..... lol saved me a bunch of money.... lol lol Ok think i have babbled enough..... be back later...thank you all for the hugs..... and support. angie
The madam opened the brothel door in Las Vegas and saw a rather dignified, well-dressed, good-looking man in his late forties or early fifties. "May I help you sir?" she asked. The man replied, "I want to see Valerie." "Sir, Valerie is one of our most expensive ladies. Perhaps you would prefer someone else" said the madam. He replied, "No, I must see Valerie." Just then, Valerie appeared and announced to the man she charged $5,000 a visit. Without hesitation, the man pulled out five thousand dollars and gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs. After an hour, the man calmly left. The next night, the man appeared again, once more demanding to see Valerie. Valerie explained that no one had ever come back two nights in a row as she was too expensive. "There are no discounts. The price is still $5,000." Again, the man pulled out the money, gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs. After an hour, he left. The following night the man was there yet again. Everyone was astounded that he had come for a third consecutive night, but he paid Valerie and they went upstairs. After their session, Valerie said to the man, "No one has ever been with me three nights in a row." "Where are you from?" The man replied, "Texas!" "Really," she said. "I have family in Texas. "I know." the man said. "Your Great Aunt just died, and I am her attorney." "She asked me to give you your $15,000 inheritance." The moral of this story is that three (3) things in life are certain: 1. Death
sskape, you may need to really stand your ground with the nurse. Putting your mother on meds she does not yet need is not a good idea in my opinion. You are the best one to know your mother's behavior.
Angie, my mom got worse after Dad passed. She was really pushing herself for him. After he passed she said she was so tired of pushing herself. That's why I did not push her to do too much. If she said she was not up to something or was tired I usually went along with what she did or did not want to do. I'm glad your mom is going to get grief counseling. I hope and pray that helps her. And my prayers are with your daughter too. I feel so bad for her and for you too, seeing your daughter deal with all of that.
deef, you so have your hands full. You are an amazing woman.
My love and hugs to all of you. Hubby and I have been stressing about money tonight and we're going to watch the rest of Sherlock Holmes and then at least start watching Untraceable. I hope it will take our mind off of things for awhile.
jam - love that story u just wrote . angi - im sorry to hear ur daughter s losin weigh and not doing good , i sure hope that they ;; find out whats wrong with her real soon . pa is still the same , he whined and said ear hurts and i dont feel good waaaa. i ck his ox and heart rate . 98 - 71 . so i thought thats good , i dont think that antibodi s is doing the job , amoxillin , i dont think im spelln that right , ah well . appt monday , unless if i dont take him back sooner , i am tired , not feeling too great , think its the weather , hurry up spring ! have a good evening you all xoxo
thanks miz , so do i , i just put him in bed with his ox on him , and gave him his antidobi and muxinex , sure hope he feels better tmr , plz lord ... im feelin so down and i dont like this feeling , havent seen any black hole yet so thats one good thing . miz , i hope money wise be ok for you guys real soon , heard how much one of my kid s getting back wow ! never got that much back during my 31 yrs of marriages ! after hearing what thier plans are with the money , just floors me. my mouth drop opened ~ doesnt do any good to tell em to save it in case u re out of job tmr ! nanana parents dont know what theyre talkin about , ohh ok whatever ! dont come to me when u run out of money ! sick to my tummy . i ask dad if that is why him and mom ran off to fla and live peacefuly , he said yep , dealing with 6 grown kids , run away to paradise , i told my baby girl mmm i think i shall do that she said oh im plannin to move to az or sc , i frown at her told her she need to buy that house across street and we be neighbors ! she laugh . oh boy bet walmart s going to be rakin in all these peoples tax checks real soon . it s just materials and i dont care about those materials . i rather have glasses full of margaritta , food , make sure my bills are paid for . then im happy camper that i was able to pay all my bills this month . jam wanna have maragitta with me when we get on the boat ? love you all xoxo
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This is a great story!!!!
The story is told of an old man who lived on a farm in the mountains of
eastern Kentucky with his young grandson.
Each morning, Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading from
his old worn-out Bible. His grandson who wanted to be just like him tried
to imitate him in any way he could..
One day the grandson asked, 'Papa, I try to read the Bible just like you but
I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close
the book. What good does reading the Bible do?'
The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and said,
'Take this old wicker coal basket down to the river and bring back a basket
of water.'
The boy did as he was told, even though all the water leaked out be fore he
could get back to the house. The grandfather laughed and said, 'You will
have to move a little faster next time,' and sent him back to the river with
the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the old
wicker basket was empty before he returned home.
Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was 'impossible to carry
water in a basket,' and he went to get a bucket instead.
The old man said, 'I don't want a bucket of water;
I want a basket of water. You can do this.
You're just not trying hard enough,' and he went out the door to watch the
boy try again.
At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his
grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak
out before he got far at all.
The boy scooped the water and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather
the basket was again empty.
Out of breath, he said, 'See Papa, it's useless!'
'So you think it is useless?' the old man said.
'Look at the basket.'
The boy looked at the basket and for the first time he realized that the
basket looked different. Instead of a dirty old wicker coal basket, it was
clean.
'Son, that's what happens when you read the Bible.
You might not understand or remember everything,
but when you read it, it will change you
from the inside out.'
Moral of the wicker basket story:
Take time to read a portion of God's word each day;
it will affect you for good even if you don't retain a word.
Thought for Today:
God's Love is like the ocean, you can see its beginnings
but not its end.
I really like this story because I don't retain things too well
anymore...old age may have something to do with it but I just figure my
brain just gets overloaded!
God isn't concerned about my brain anyway;
He's more concerned about my heart.
And if you ain't one, I bet ya you know one!
I got this from an "Old Fart" friend of mine!
OLD FART PRIDE
I'm passing this on as I did not want to be the only old fart receiving it. Actually, it's not a bad thing to be called, as you will see.
Old Farts are easy to spot at sporting events; during the playing of the National Anthem.. Old Farts remove their caps and stand at attention and sing without embarrassment. They know the words and believe in them.
Old Farts remember World War II, Pearl Harbor , Guadalcanal , Normandy and Hitler. They remember the Atomic Age, the Korean War, The Cold War, the Jet Age and the Moon Landing. They remember the 50 plus Peacekeeping Missions from 1945 to 2005, not to mention Vietnam .
If you bump into an Old Fart on the sidewalk he will apologize. If you pass an Old Fart on the street, he will nod or tip his cap to a lady. Old Farts trust strangers and are courtly to women.
Old Farts hold the door for the next person and always, when walking, make certain the lady is on the inside for protection..
Old Farts get embarrassed if someone curses in front of women and children and they don't like any filth or dirty language on TV or in movies.
Old Farts have moral courage and personal integrity. They seldom brag unless it's about their children or grandchildren.
It's the Old Farts who know our great country is protected, not by politicians, but by the young men and women in the military serving their country.
This country needs Old Farts with their work ethic, sense of responsibility, pride in their country and decent values.
We need them now more than ever.
Thank God for Old Farts!
Pass this on to all the "Old Farts" you know.
I was taught to respect my elders….It's just getting harder to find them.
(Except for you, my friend)
It gives the belly ease,
It warms the bed in winter,
And suffocates the fleas.
A fart can be quiet,
A fart can be loud,
Some leave a powerful,
Poisonous cloud
A fart can be short,
Or a fart can be long,
Some farts have been known
To sound like a song......
A fart can create
A most curious medley,
A fart can be harmless,
Or silent, and deadly.
A fart might not smell,
While others are vile,
A fart may pass quickly,
Or linger a while......
A fart can occur
In a number of places,
And leave everyone there,
With strange looks on their faces .
From wide-open prairie,
To small elevators,
A fart will find all of
Us sooner or later.
But farts are all bad,
Is simply not true-
We must never forget.......
Sweet old farts like you!
Kinda brings a tear to your eye - right?
Why not send this on to other old farts and bring a smile...or....tear to them!
One day, long, long ago, there lived a woman who did not whine, nag or bitch
But it was a long time ago, and it was just that one day.
MOMA GOT ON THE PHONE TODAY WITH WASHINGTON
HEALTHSPRINGS BLAMING MEDICARE
MEDICARE BLAMING HEALTHSPRINGS
noone wanting to take the blame
well moma spent the better part of the day on the phone and we think we got it straight
health springs should hve DIS INROLLED MOM BACK IN DECEMBER and negeleted to do so
MEDICARE waiting to get information from other locations of suppument insurances and never received it
HEALTH SPRINGS never did their part turns out
as we thought and they were pointing the finger badly i might add and then would not release mom from their grasp and then would not pay any medical expenses
medicare is now in process to whic we also wil need to try to prove that HEALTH SPRINGS owes moneys to medical things for expenses we encure through out the year
not really a problem
also medicare is making health springs pay for any medical expenses retro back to oct 2009 when they took over mom medicare fruaduanly and thru jan 2011 to which medicar said they would presue and any expenses that happened from jan 1 2011 that we get charged for make a copy and call medicare and send and they will handle
SO MAYBE WE GOT AT LEAST THAT PART SOLVED
we still need to fill a fraud claim against HEALTH SPRINGS
PER MEDICARE
BECAUSE MEDICARE STARTED
PROMOTING THEM THIS YEAR
SO CAUTION
thanks for listing
luv all you fellow caregivers
YOURS TRULY
TRUECOLORS
I'd like to be able to do the same - go back to the past.
You and I know that it's just a wish, and though, we suffer we can't have it. But we can rationalize.
People like my mother don't realize they can't have it anymore, and so they suffer even more. I'm very sorry for her.
Yesterday there was a tornado warning. Not a watch, a warning! one was on the ground and I couldn't see it or I would have crapped crab cakes.
This is a heavy boat, but omg not even a chance with that kind of storm. Tense few hours there and when it was over and all was safe I fell asleep.
GP!! 9200!!! you're going to be better and really get your boat time!!
More later you guys. It's light enough now for me to go out and pump out my dinghy.
lovbob
My butt's wet, however.
finally some sun today and we continue on with the repairs.
Thanks for the hugs, ssk and kuli! means a lot to me and I appreciate it.
I will tell you that I am beyond grateful for you guys and you keep me going too.
Life after caregiving can be hard because we move into Post Traumatic Stress and all of the nasties that go with that.
At least now I know what it is and why it's hard and slow to get it all together. You guys will be faced with certain levels of that also but we will know it's coming and it will be a little easier to deal with.
And I just thought I was nuts for no reason........
Going to have a nice bowl of Kashi and soy milk. with nuts.
lovbob
My Mother used to stick her cold hand under the covers and pull my big toe and say, "Rise and Shine, Sleeping Beauty". Pissed me off every time. Then my step-Father would follow up, if I did not get out of bed, which I did not want to do because I hated high school, with,"Get UP, Queenie!". Oh Joy, to begin the day with cold hands on my body and gruff voices in my ears.
These days, I wake up to, "I have to go to the bathroom! Isn't anyone going to get me out of here?! I've been in here for hours! I can't get out. I've got this horrible rubbery stuff in my mouth. There's dirt in my bed"!
Oh, my. What I would give to be in high school again...
Have a great day everyone!!! LOVE YOU!! christina
Got Mom up this morning and as usual, she was soaking wet. I noticed a brown stain on the chux pad and figured their was a prize in the "Cracker Jacks" box. Yup!!! A huge baseball size poop!!! As I was trying to get the pull ups off, she dropped another baseball on the floor and peed everywhere!!! It took me a while to get her cleaned up and dressed for daycare, but I finally got her ready. Life is such a JOY!!!!
I had to go to the bank, post office, and pet store for more cat food.
Now I am trying to figure out where I can get $800 to pay the tax bill that is due Tuesday. Maybe I'll just go back to bed and pull the covers over my head until next Wednesday. Do ya think that will make all this go away???
Hope everyone is well.
Yes Bobbie I live in Ft Myers, Fl. I'm a transplant from N.C. I love the winters here. I don't know how you folks up north do it!!! Getting Mom out to appts. in the cold and snow...don't think I could do it. At least I can get outside for awhile, walk around, get a minute to regroup without battling the cold. My old bones don't like the cold and will let me know it! Blessings to all.
Can we find a way to grow them? (I mean, dollars and euros)
Can we put a boy dollar close to a girl dollar and wait until they reproduce?
Christina, I understand you very well. I hated when they woke me up in the morning, even if they did it with a hot coffee, when Ii was a girl, and now I have just an endless list of people and animals who want something from me!
Where are the good old years of no responsibility?
Now I need an ativan after talking to her!
Thanks for letting me vent.
It's only you that have to decide if and when sedate your mother...
Oh well.
Less is better for dementia. The RN I spoke to yesterday said the drugs they give to D patients are for people with over-active brains, not "swiss cheese brains". Well, I am a sponge today--I'll do the best I can and squeeze myself out here later!! Chill likes our metaphors and such!! See Y'all Later. Hugs christina
On another note, we missed her 6 month neurologist appt. that was this morning. It was made last July and I didn't remember to mark it down. They always send a letter or call the week before, but didn't this time. So now we are rescheduled for mid March. they want us to see an associate this time. I always get an AM appt. because that is when she is easiest to handle. this one is for 2:45, so it should be interesting! That's the time of day she is the worst. Maybe they can boost her Pd meds again.
Getting some snow, but not the storm that is heading this way. that will be later tonight. Can't wait to see where we will put this batch of snow! For sure there will be no daycare tomorrow, and it is Merry's day off, so it should be interesting to say the least!
Hope everyone stays safe and warm in the snow regions!
It has been a busy couple of days. Went to the bank yesterday with mom to straighten out the finances since papa passing. Amazingly I held up pretty well. Had to go to the city hall for more death certs, again did amazing well. Did some shoveling , did well. Today did some food shopping, since we have not been practically since his death and so tired of take out, have already shoveled 3 times to prevent the 10 inches buidling up and becoming heavy. Now I am just sitting and really really missing papa. Mom is a handful, her forgetfulness has gotten ten times worse since his passing. It is so mentally exhausting sometimes. But I am glad that I am here to look out for her. Does not look like I will be going to work anytime soon, at least until the spring and she is settled. I turn on my beautiful lamp from all of you everyday at 4 and take the pic of papa and talk to it for a bit and even kiss it and tell him how much his little 43 yr old girl loves and misses him. OMG am I going nutss.... lol At the market I picked up a huge jar of mayonaisse, why i was thinkiing papa was still with us, realized when i got home what i did. Papa loved mayo on everything. One day caught him putting it on banana's .... lol lol I have read through the thread and love to everyone. Honestly dont have the energy to respond right now, but know that each and everyone of you are in my thoughts all the time. Boy do i remember the poops and pees Deef...... love and hugs to all angie
having a bowl of Campbells Chunky Bean and Ham. Pretty good, pretty fast and should be pretty funny later when I scare the Cat.
Plumbing work on the boat today and tomorrow and then the bottom job will begin. Big grinder to take the top 2 coats of paint off and get it ready for new paint.
that's about it for me, tired and I didn't even do anything today. Well I did but you know what I mean. nothing compared to the active caregivers who are working so hard and burning the candle at both ends.
My mom had no drugs to make her quiet. It's part of the disease that their hands are going and some may remember that I bought her a bunch of different kinds of cloth napkins so she had different textures to play with.
That and the Activity Lap thingy that she really loved.
there's a bunch of stuff in that catalogue that I got for mom and she really enjoyed it.
I love you guys, be well and safe and I will check in later!
lovbob
I remember when papa was so hard to move due to the PD, i use to joke that i was bencing 179 6 times a day. I had the papa gym..... lol saved me a bunch of money.... lol lol Ok think i have babbled enough..... be back later...thank you all for the hugs..... and support. angie
"May I help you sir?" she asked.
The man replied, "I want to see Valerie."
"Sir, Valerie is one of our most expensive ladies. Perhaps you would prefer someone else" said the madam.
He replied, "No, I must see Valerie."
Just then, Valerie appeared and announced to the man she charged $5,000 a visit.
Without hesitation, the man pulled out five thousand dollars and gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs.
After an hour, the man calmly left.
The next night, the man appeared again, once more demanding to see Valerie.
Valerie explained that no one had ever come back two nights in a row as she was too expensive.
"There are no discounts. The price is still $5,000."
Again, the man pulled out the money, gave it to Valerie, and they went upstairs.
After an hour, he left.
The following night the man was there yet again.
Everyone was astounded that he had come for a third consecutive night, but he paid Valerie and they went upstairs.
After their session, Valerie said to the man,
"No one has ever been with me three nights in a row." "Where are you from?"
The man replied, "Texas!"
"Really," she said. "I have family in Texas.
"I know." the man said. "Your Great Aunt just died, and I am her attorney." "She asked me to give you your $15,000 inheritance."
The moral of this story is that three (3) things in life are certain:
1. Death
2. Taxes
AND
3. Being screwed by a lawyer!
Angie, my mom got worse after Dad passed. She was really pushing herself for him. After he passed she said she was so tired of pushing herself. That's why I did not push her to do too much. If she said she was not up to something or was tired I usually went along with what she did or did not want to do. I'm glad your mom is going to get grief counseling. I hope and pray that helps her. And my prayers are with your daughter too. I feel so bad for her and for you too, seeing your daughter deal with all of that.
deef, you so have your hands full. You are an amazing woman.
My love and hugs to all of you. Hubby and I have been stressing about money tonight and we're going to watch the rest of Sherlock Holmes and then at least start watching Untraceable. I hope it will take our mind off of things for awhile.
Woo Hoo for the new paint, Bobbie!! :))
love,
miz
angi - im sorry to hear ur daughter s losin weigh and not doing good , i sure hope that they ;; find out whats wrong with her real soon .
pa is still the same , he whined and said ear hurts and i dont feel good waaaa. i ck his ox and heart rate . 98 - 71 . so i thought thats good , i dont think that antibodi s is doing the job , amoxillin , i dont think im spelln that right , ah well .
appt monday , unless if i dont take him back sooner ,
i am tired , not feeling too great , think its the weather , hurry up spring !
have a good evening you all xoxo
love,
miz
im feelin so down and i dont like this feeling , havent seen any black hole yet so thats one good thing .
miz , i hope money wise be ok for you guys real soon , heard how much one of my kid s getting back wow ! never got that much back during my 31 yrs of marriages ! after hearing what thier plans are with the money , just floors me. my mouth drop opened ~ doesnt do any good to tell em to save it in case u re out of job tmr ! nanana parents dont know what theyre talkin about , ohh ok whatever ! dont come to me when u run out of money ! sick to my tummy .
i ask dad if that is why him and mom ran off to fla and live peacefuly , he said yep , dealing with 6 grown kids , run away to paradise , i told my baby girl mmm i think i shall do that she said oh im plannin to move to az or sc , i frown at her told her she need to buy that house across street and we be neighbors ! she laugh .
oh boy bet walmart s going to be rakin in all these peoples tax checks real soon . it s just materials and i dont care about those materials . i rather have glasses full of margaritta , food , make sure my bills are paid for . then im happy camper that i was able to pay all my bills this month .
jam wanna have maragitta with me when we get on the boat ?
love you all xoxo