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Linda, Prayers for Pa. That bugs is all over here in CA. Mother has it a bit but giving her Mucinex--original, vit.C, Airbourne. You take care of yourself too, and don't worry:) Mother was so good today, and laughing a lot, and good memory at the psychiatrist! He was laughing, and he is very serious! He is decreasing Seroquel to 25 mg at dinner, and put her on 50 mg Trazodine at bedtime. I feel better she is on anti depressant, but very low dose for sedation, not depression--rather than anti-psychotic. He also believes, (as does the RN with dementia care homes I spoke to yesterday), the further into dementia, the less drugs should be given. I am not expecting anything easy or miracles, just a less anxious Mother, enjoying life as long as she can. Let's see what tomorrow brings... Deefer, Chillout, CC, Headbanger, SSK. Jam, Maxine, Rosella, Miz, Peach, Cuz and the Captain, Jen, Selfish Siblings, Linda and Elizabeth {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}christina xoxo Did someone say, 'margaritas'?
Hi Christina, I'm glad you had a good visit with your mom at the psychiatrist. My mom also seems to have a slight fever, so I may have to bring her to the dr tomorrow. I'll see how she is in the morning. We're having another blizzard, and the wind woke me up. I'm going to try to get back to sleep now, so goodnight.
Nope! No "cracker Jack" surprise today!!! But the Easter Bunny left me a lovely brown egg.!!! After being outside from 5AM until 7:30, cleaning up another 8" of the white stuff, I came in to find Mom with her pull ups off and her knees up. All she had to say for herself was,"who the heck was mowing the lawn last night?" Got to love it! Guess she heard the snow blower after all! Cleaned her up and put her back in bed so I could have 1 peaceful cup of coffee. No daycare and no Merry today. Should be interesting. Got to sneak out the attic window a bit later after I get her settled, and shovel off the back porch roof. Off to put in the second load of laundry! I'll post a few pics of the snow on FB later. The yard is so full, and almost as deep as I am tall!!!
wow,deef,can't wait to see the pictures. Again, we have about 3 inches of wet snow. I hope your mom lets you "chill out" for a while today. My mom needs a change, but I'm going to wait to see if the cna makes it in. All day cares are closed and schools are probably delayed. Don't you hate it when your have just shoveled and the plow comes by and piles it all up at the end of the driveway! talk to ya later. ssk
Bad Morning, as opposed to Good Morning. No sleep. Trazodone did nothing for her last night. As soon as I would get back in bed and feel like I was almost asleep again, she would start whining again. I am not a happy camper. 3 nights with no sleep and I have a design job tomorrow I need to do research on today. Sister may not drive out because the wind is blowing, and she is worried about the finish on the car. Would it just be easier for ME, if she were to come Friday instead? I have a word in mind, It's only four little letters and the first one is f. I feel it coming up from my gut, in a very powerful surge, the little desert breeze stirring the sands around her stupid car is NOTHING compared with the gale force of this word soon to come out of my mouth and echo all the way to Deefer on her roof. But I don't want you to fall, Kathy, with the snow, so I'm bottling it up. Tonight, I will give her the recommended increase 4 hours after she goes to bed. Her lovely overnight security underwear :))) is dry as a bone. JUST PEE IN THE DAMN THING AND LET ME GET 3 HOURS OF SLEEP. PLEASE. OK. I'm done for now. The best part of waking up, is Folgers in your cup--right, Bobbie, Deef, Miz, Jam, Rosella, Peach, SSK, Chill, CC, Headbanger, LINDA, Elizabeth, Angie, Maxine?
Thank you, Miz. I'm glad you agree. Starbucks is just so overrated, don't you think? Makes me sick to my stomach, it's so dark. Especially on a day like today, when I don't think my body even digested my dinner from last night. I can handle "Breakfast Blend", which is for sissies, but have to be a sissy in one area of my life. I think that's OK.:)
Linda I'm thinking a giant-sized pitcher of margaritas sound absolutely the most "proper" thing to do........with large frosty glasses and lots of margarita salt.......yummmmmmm! And with that we should also have mounds of spiced, boiled cold shrimp and crab legs..(sorry bobbie) Back to reality..........I'm not getting any surprises left for me....col has been trying to hide her wet drawers but insisting she is dry and she has changed. I let her get away with it after her bath yesterday just to see if she was telling the truth.....but sure enough about 4 hours later when I insisted on changing she is soaked. She is now constipated so I get to deal with that...won't drink water even though she likes the flavored I bought her, won't take a couple tablespoons of olive oil (yes it works), all she has been putting in her mouth is nutritional drinks, oatmeal with ice cream mixed in, and glasses of milk with ice cream. Right now it is 19 degrees with frosties everywhere...tomorrow supposed to be 48 degrees......will send some of that east. Going to St. Louis Monday to play at Harrah's.....yippee! Hubby is going to retire on a disability pretty darn quick......what will I do with him underfoot all the time? Maybe get a little help with his mom.......told him he will not lie around being a lazy butt and sleeping his days away......will make momma a very unhappy person if that happens.....:) Hope you all have a peaceful day.....Hugz!!!
Christina, just think pillow therapy....kinda gives you the warm fuzzies. I have spoiled myself with Gevalia coffee for years..with hubby retiring it will be back to Folger's. Oh well, I can live with that in exchange for a happy husband.
Hey Jam--do you give her Metamucil? Orange flavored. It's the morning drink around here. Also lots of fresh pears and prunes. Give her a "ONES" wrapped prune. She'll think it's Candy.
OK.... Had to speak up and I don't feel well so here goes: Christina: call your idiot sister and tell her to F**K the finish on her bs car and get over there! Tell her she's selfish and clueless and she'd better get with the program or there is going to be hell to pay. Don't bottle it up. There's no point and it will hurt you significantly. Ask your shrink. If she freaks tell her you'll give her something to freak about and that you're packing mom up and dropping her off for 2 weeks so you don't go nuts. I don't care if your sister lives in a car and I suspect that she doesn't. The caregiver can go to. Next. The big difference with someone who has siblings and one who doesn't is that I don't have the baggage and conflicts that come with all of that. Good or bad, that's how I feel. I read too many of your stories and I want to shove a camera in their faces and say: why are you neglecting your mother and abusing your sister? Or in Ted's case, abusing your brother. Ok, back to laying low. lovbob
Christina, What Bobbie said!!! Jam, Mom gets a stool softener every morning and the tasteless non thickening powder every day, but still has poop issues. All the meds block her up, and the PD has robbed her of the ability to push it out. That combined with the dementia, and you have a case of major anxiety, etc., when she can't go. She is a manic depressive and very OCD and both of these disorders are magnified many times by the PD and the dementia. When she sees her doctors, they cannot believe how "busy" she is, and how constant it is. Even with calming meds, she never stops. Bobbie, we tried clothes folding etc., she gets distracted every other second and nothing keeps her focus anymore, except on rare , lucid occasions. She's just a dynamo of business and destructiveness. Will eventually have to get clothes without buttons, as she is twisting them all off. Nothing seems to engage her attention for more than a minute or two. Anyway, back to laundry and outdoor cleanup! Sun is shining brightly and it is gorgeous outside!!! Bobbie feel better. Everyone else, have a great day!
Got 7 thank yous done this morning. About 7 more to go. That will be tomorrow morning's project. Hubby's not feeling well. Thinks it's a cold. I hope he gets well quick. Boat's a callin'!!
AMEN bobbie.................I still have not spoken with anyone in my family except my son and his wife. I still have not tried to mend fences with my granddaughter.....she is the one who attacked me by listening to her mother's lies and I am still just too raw to speak to her. And I don't know that I will any time real soon. I am just sick to death of all these people who sit back and do nothing and then criticize the first chance they get.
Deef you could be talking about my Mom with the poop issues. She's not manic though. But she does get obsessive about pooping. She takes all the things you listed as well. Should we give a mild laxative when they are like this? I know she is uncomfortable
Bobbie - you can bring a camera over here and show MY siblings what total as@#oles they are neglecting their parents? I have no relationship with either one so I have nothing to loose.
Looking at on line job information for working in the grocery store: I can risk burns, in the bakery, slips, in produce, being hit by falling merchandise in general store clerking, DEAL WITH OXYCONTIN WANTING GUN WAVING JUNKIES in the PHARMACY, bag rancid meat for garbage in meat dept, risk allergies in floral or just general harassment in customer service....So which should it be? I am leaning towards allergies and burns...Anyone got any ideas?
Jen, I'd go for the Customer service position. Just think of the revenge you could get. Say someone is returning a box of condoms; you accidently turn on the paging system and ask pharmacy if you can take a return on the 100 size box of Trojans that were purchased last week and only 20 of them have been used. The guy isn't returning those, just the unused ones. Huh? Oh, what size are they? We only return the humongous ones. No, Hal in pharmacy, these are the "little Dickie" ones. Junior Trojans. Oh, OK, Hal. I'll ask him if he just wants to do an exchange for the larger size." See what I mean, Jen? There are possibilities. Love, christina
Hey everyone, had a chance to get to the library so I'm checkin in to let you know that i'm still kickin'.. seriously afraid that i'm losing my sh!t, but don't see any way out of this maze except to keep banging my head against these walls and scream at the top of my lungs.
Please take care of yourselves, all of you, please.
Sorry, Bobbie, about getting you roused from your sickbed today and ragging on my simply selfish snobby sibling. I'm sorry you don't feel well. Hope you are not getting the same bug. I hope you don't have "high altitude flatus expulsion" from being on the racks. That is not good. Have you gotten the boat down yet? oops, just got an email from sis. I did say to her early this morning, when she asked about coming tomorrow and had I 'dismissed' one of the caregivers, she didn't understand what I meant. I told her to go home when her shift was over because she did not have the patience to get Mother to bed. And with having 3 more people in my house, I had a lot more to tolerate than just Mother, so her saying she could not drive in the wind seemed so petty to me, I just could not register it as a dilemma in my brain. she's probably going to make defensive, whiny comment. gotta go and then take my walk. Hugs, christina
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Mother was so good today, and laughing a lot, and good memory at the psychiatrist! He was laughing, and he is very serious! He is decreasing Seroquel to 25 mg at dinner, and put her on 50 mg Trazodine at bedtime. I feel better she is on anti depressant, but very low dose for sedation, not depression--rather than anti-psychotic. He also believes, (as does the RN with dementia care homes I spoke to yesterday), the further into dementia, the less drugs should be given.
I am not expecting anything easy or miracles, just a less anxious Mother, enjoying life as long as she can. Let's see what tomorrow brings...
Deefer, Chillout, CC, Headbanger, SSK. Jam, Maxine, Rosella, Miz, Peach, Cuz and the Captain, Jen, Selfish Siblings, Linda and Elizabeth {{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}christina xoxo
Did someone say, 'margaritas'?
After being outside from 5AM until 7:30, cleaning up another 8" of the white stuff, I came in to find Mom with her pull ups off and her knees up. All she had to say for herself was,"who the heck was mowing the lawn last night?" Got to love it! Guess she heard the snow blower after all! Cleaned her up and put her back in bed so I could have 1 peaceful cup of coffee. No daycare and no Merry today. Should be interesting.
Got to sneak out the attic window a bit later after I get her settled, and shovel off the back porch roof.
Off to put in the second load of laundry! I'll post a few pics of the snow on FB later. The yard is so full, and almost as deep as I am tall!!!
don't feel good and will be laying low today.
Love to you all and I hope everybody has a not so stressful day.
lovbob
I have a word in mind, It's only four little letters and the first one is f. I feel it coming up from my gut, in a very powerful surge, the little desert breeze stirring the sands around her stupid car is NOTHING compared with the gale force of this word soon to come out of my mouth and echo all the way to Deefer on her roof. But I don't want you to fall, Kathy, with the snow, so I'm bottling it up. Tonight, I will give her the recommended increase 4 hours after she goes to bed. Her lovely overnight security underwear :))) is dry as a bone. JUST PEE IN THE DAMN THING AND LET ME GET 3 HOURS OF SLEEP. PLEASE.
OK. I'm done for now. The best part of waking up, is Folgers in your cup--right, Bobbie, Deef, Miz, Jam, Rosella, Peach, SSK, Chill, CC, Headbanger, LINDA, Elizabeth, Angie, Maxine?
Back to reality..........I'm not getting any surprises left for me....col has been trying to hide her wet drawers but insisting she is dry and she has changed. I let her get away with it after her bath yesterday just to see if she was telling the truth.....but sure enough about 4 hours later when I insisted on changing she is soaked. She is now constipated so I get to deal with that...won't drink water even though she likes the flavored I bought her, won't take a couple tablespoons of olive oil (yes it works), all she has been putting in her mouth is nutritional drinks, oatmeal with ice cream mixed in, and glasses of milk with ice cream.
Right now it is 19 degrees with frosties everywhere...tomorrow supposed to be 48 degrees......will send some of that east. Going to St. Louis Monday to play at Harrah's.....yippee!
Hubby is going to retire on a disability pretty darn quick......what will I do with him underfoot all the time? Maybe get a little help with his mom.......told him he will not lie around being a lazy butt and sleeping his days away......will make momma a very unhappy person if that happens.....:) Hope you all have a peaceful day.....Hugz!!!
Give her a "ONES" wrapped prune. She'll think it's Candy.
Christina: call your idiot sister and tell her to F**K the finish on her bs car and get over there!
Tell her she's selfish and clueless and she'd better get with the program or there is going to be hell to pay.
Don't bottle it up. There's no point and it will hurt you significantly. Ask your shrink.
If she freaks tell her you'll give her something to freak about and that you're packing mom up and dropping her off for 2 weeks so you don't go nuts. I don't care if your sister lives in a car and I suspect that she doesn't. The caregiver can go to.
Next.
The big difference with someone who has siblings and one who doesn't is that I don't have the baggage and conflicts that come with all of that.
Good or bad, that's how I feel.
I read too many of your stories and I want to shove a camera in their faces and say: why are you neglecting your mother and abusing your sister? Or in Ted's case, abusing your brother.
Ok, back to laying low.
lovbob
lovbob
Jam, Mom gets a stool softener every morning and the tasteless non thickening powder every day, but still has poop issues. All the meds block her up, and the PD has robbed her of the ability to push it out. That combined with the dementia, and you have a case of major anxiety, etc., when she can't go.
She is a manic depressive and very OCD and both of these disorders are magnified many times by the PD and the dementia. When she sees her doctors, they cannot believe how "busy" she is, and how constant it is. Even with calming meds, she never stops. Bobbie, we tried clothes folding etc., she gets distracted every other second and nothing keeps her focus anymore, except on rare , lucid occasions. She's just a dynamo of business and destructiveness. Will eventually have to get clothes without buttons, as she is twisting them all off. Nothing seems to engage her attention for more than a minute or two.
Anyway, back to laundry and outdoor cleanup! Sun is shining brightly and it is gorgeous outside!!!
Bobbie feel better. Everyone else, have a great day!
I hear ya with all of the issues you and your mom are dealing with. Man, that's a load, no pun intended.
Alz store has dementia friendly clothes too.
lovbob
Should we give a mild laxative when they are like this? I know she is uncomfortable
Peace out,
-SS
See what I mean, Jen? There are possibilities. Love, christina
Please take care of yourselves, all of you, please.
oops, just got an email from sis. I did say to her early this morning, when she asked about coming tomorrow and had I 'dismissed' one of the caregivers, she didn't understand what I meant. I told her to go home when her shift was over because she did not have the patience to get Mother to bed. And with having 3 more people in my house, I had a lot more to tolerate than just Mother, so her saying she could not drive in the wind seemed so petty to me, I just could not register it as a dilemma in my brain. she's probably going to make defensive, whiny comment. gotta go and then take my walk. Hugs, christina