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Good morning bobbie, and anyone else who's up. I have someone coming over to look at the upstairs room for rent. It would bring in some extra money which I plan to use to go out. Out where I don't know, just get out of the house. I'm not sure how it will be having someone else living here, as I have gotten used to being with just mom and I. I'll have to check her references, etc. I'm glad to hear from you, bobbie, and hope your day goes well. lv, ssk
Hi, I'm glad I found this thread. I've noticed that the other discussions or questions, the person who answers, doesn't share anything about themselves, just gives some advice. They don't get to know each other or anything.
good morning everyone, Sorry I haven't been here a lot lately, this internet connection isnt very good. Just another frustration to get me through the day. i haven't been doing too well lately, feeling trapped and abused, broke and ready to throw it all away. I started talking to Social Services (If Mom makes too much for medicaid, How come we can't afford ANYTHING?) Thinking maybe it's time to put her in a home and mark it down as just another failure. I'm really tired of trying so freaking hard and getting nowhere and I'm tired of feeling sorry for myself too. i'm 47 years old, broke, with no prospects for any kind of future and if I do put mom away i'll be living in my car, all the while knowing that my dad left me tons of money that I can't get a hold of. It's driving me nuts. Social Services says there is nothing they can do for ME and if I leave her alone to go out to work that may be considered neglect. great. We caregivers are an invisible bunch who don't account for anything even though everyone always tells us how much money we save the system by doing what we do. Something is very not right here and has to be changed. Maybe I'll put mom away and go on a political crusade. I'll live in my car at the foot of capitol hill with signs and a tent and get myself arrested as much as I can until someone like Micheal Moore finally takes notice. I can't read through all the posts when I do get a chance to be here so if someone wants to join me, leave a note on my wall. Miss you all, Ted
I know how you feel. Mom's social security is just over the limit for medicaid, but not enough for two people to live on and pay for help to come in. It's so frustrating! I'll join the march in Washington! We can Wheel our Mom's and Dad's around in their wheelchairs and stir up some action.
Ted we have to get you out of the black hole before the next snowstrom-do you have an office of the ageing in your town if you do call and see if they can help-they were not able to help me we were to rich HA HA , If you think nursing home is the answer and it may be at this time they could take her medicaide pending while the social worker applies for medicaid -but they have to use her money not yours for a while she probably is so close to being able to get on medicaide it might be worth your while to check into it-you are at the end of your rope-I had to make that decision about my husband before he died there comes a point it is either a nursing home or getting sick yourself-I feel so sorry for you you are doing all you can to keep her home and I know that you are a good person. In our town the office of the aging has a lawyer give free time once a week to help and he is good-he is my lawyer and he is able to help people-I wish I had more help for you.
Enjoy your parent while you can. Find some humor in the strange, outlandish things he/she does, but don't let them catch you laughing, as it may encourage more of such behavior. Playing with food; until it looks like a kiddie construction site, combing hair with a toothbrush: remember you're dealing with an illness and, if they could do better -they would. When you start giving him/her a bed bath to clean up the urine and feces; because they just can't get out of bed at night anymore, you'll appreciate their effort to comb their hair with a toothbrush. I'd love to see my Mom hide someone's anything, steal food from the pantry or fight with me to keep mail for the mailman; but no more. She can't get out of bed, make her bed, feed herself or swallow... She struggles to breath and all I can do is watch and pray for her chest to continue rising and lowering. I see it as returing a favor. She raised me and now she's my baby. Patience, love and understanding - never run low on these things.
Thanks Ausin! i have worked with the area agency on aging, they were the ones who gave me vouchers for some respite time, I'll call again and see about any legal advice they may be able to give. you are right, I am at the end of my rope and need to make some kind of change soon. i don't understand why family caregivers are so overlooked and taken for granted, it's a definite problem that is only going to get worse. With all the public funds we save the system, they really should be kissing our a$$e$. love you all.
Ted we are overlooked because too many don't really care what we do......especially ungrateful siblings....keeps them from having to do it though. And social services because it saves them money and paperwork.....well screw that! When my mom went into the nursing home we sat right there at the table and the social worker got all the paperwork filled out and I went and picked mom up from the other facility she had placed herself in and she went right into the new one. In the meantime, we "spent down" what she couldn't have financially by buying her complete funeral. Worked great! Please DO NOT consider yourself a failure because you have reached the point that Mom needs to go into a home. It only shows how wonderful and caring you are.....wanting the best for your mother and realizing you are at a point in your life where you can no longer give her your best. Please tell me where it is written that our own lives should be relegated to the trash can just so we can care for someone else? And the person I care for is not my flesh and blood!
I don't consider it a privilege to wipe poopy butt, change sopping wet undies, explain over and over and over and over and over, bathe, change clothes, make meals, clean doggie messes, give meds, clean 2 houses, wash clothes, buy groceries, make and take to dr appt......wait a minute I think I found 10 min today for me!! Woohoo!!!! When the col gets to the point where I have to watch to see that she is still breathing...then I will pray everyday for God to take her.....there is no quality of life to lie in bed and the only movement is the chest rising and falling. i will hope and pray that she goes to the light so that she might be whole again and not a shell of a person lying there. Ok, I have vented for today.
Ted, you remember you are a good person.....do what you must for yourself and mom.....and then go after your sister and what is rightfully yours....knowing your mom is getting the second best care (next to yours of course)......Big Hugz!!!!!!
oh my gosh ! i was just here pouring out my heart and bam its gone ! i guess i wasnt suppose to pour out my heart , what the damn hell! anyway , depreesions here . jam ure right 100 percent what you told ted . sunday wakin up heart aches and lump inmy throat , feelin so alone even i have hubby here . i have t o go to town and nobodys going with me cuz they went yesterday ! what the hell . going to bebusy with firewood . bring in 3 days worth cuz its going to be messy as hell . we re in for ice then tues snow and weds snow too i think . 3 days of something .. guess i shall stock up on water in case power line snaps with ice . cant imagin no water for dad ekkk . try to have a happy sunday you all . xoxox
cmc634- welcome to this site . this thread is over a year old . yes we know about the toothbrushes and all . :-) boil everything yep . sounds good . thanks for ur info .
Linda I'm sorry you are down this morning......think sunshine, feet propped up, wind blowing gently, margarita in one hand and an ice cold beer in the other, with a slice of lime of course. Go buy yourself something and on the way turn the radio up and sing your heart out.....smile at everybody....they will smile back and think you've lost your mind....but oh you will feel so much better! I am going to scrapbook today and take my mind off of all the crap.....but first I will exercise my privilege of changing some sopping wet undies.....;D Love ya all!
Jam, the advice you gave Ted is awesome. Yes indeed, there does come a time when the caregiver just can't do it anymore, if it means saving their own life or financial future, etc. etc. It's a decision that they must come to on their own and Ted will know when he has to do what he has to do. So is the advice you gave Linda. Have you considered becoming a counselor??
Hubby and I are planning to get out and go bowling this afternoon. It has been a long long time since I've been bowling and I know he will get some chuckles watching me. :D
I've started packing for our trip. I can't believe it's less than a week away!! OMG!! I've been bad and bought some new clothes and shoes for the trip. That's my other vice besides the ciggies. But, I'm not near as bad as I used to be.
I hope you all have a good Sunday and be kind to yourselves and take some time for yourselves and no shoveling!!
Morning all..... Jam and Linda great advice for sure for Ted 3 yrs ago I had to place papa in a home, mom had been sick for over a month and i was working full time, doing the full time caretaking aswell. AGAIN no help. He was there a yr and financially it was out of control and i was not happy with the care which how i ended where i am, we brought him home. I did find out through that ordeal that medicaid/medicare does pay for respite care for caregivers on a short term basis. i dont know if it varies from state to state.... worth looking into... Linda sorry to hear your sad. Your not alone ...... We are for you... Ok well off to try to accomplish something today.... Laundry, my fav thing lol lol....... Have a great day all.... Hugs to all Love angie
Countdown for miz........yippee!!! Don't forget sunscreen..:) Nope never considered myself as any kind of counselor........I talk ALL the time with my hubby and he puts things in my mind sometimes that I would never have thought of on my own..he can be scary...graduated 2nd in his medical school...and somtimes he can be a smartass....but I love him! At times he will tell me how to handle something or tell me how he is handling something and I will think yeah right that's silly and by damn he's always right.....makes me mad...:) One thing I have always remembered that he told me, when dealing with other people as well as when I want something, is to base my response on "I hear, I see, I feel, I want". It works. Sun is shining today....but look out tomorrow....freezing rain turning to snow, headed east on Wed......sorry all you New Englanders but it's headed your way....Hugz to all again!
Good Morning All--Well, everyone is trying, but it's a motley crew without THE CAPTAIN!! However, MIZ, acting as the First Mate, is doing a wonderful job keeping everyone together!! whoohoo! TED--So good to hear from you. Lot's of friends here giving you good advice. Sometimes one has to get really angry, and quit taking crapola from those who want to take what's of value then dump the rest on you. How angry are you, Ted? LINDA-- Praying for you unceasingly. That is what we are told to do. Some days we just run out of energy, but you will fill up again. You know what you can do to feel better. Maybe you try to do too much? Doing nothing is sometimes more effective than something. Give me a B, give me an O, give me a B--thought I was going to say "A", then a "T", for "boat'? What is a BOAT without BOBBIE!? A lonely vessel set upon the waters--STAY OF OUT OF THE BERMUDA TRIANGLE, PEOPLE!! JAM-- I read your post about people giving bad advice. I hope you didn't mean me? Sometimes I read other threads, and the people seem so frustrated and no one has answered them, so sometimes I do. I just try to encourage them and let them know someone is here, I send them a hug, etc. I certainly have asked many questions about medications HERE and only know what my Mother's doctor has said about what he is prescribing for HER. Some people have told me what works for their parent, but everyone is different. I would never take anyone's advice here to change the drugs for my Mother!! Who would? SSK-- I wish you well on your possible housemate. I hope it is close to what we talked about a couple of weeks ago. I have been concentrating on it for you:) More later. Have to go rescue my daughter left stranded without car keys. Love you all. Hugs, Christina
Christina....I did not mean you or any of the others here....I get frustrated also when someone asks a question and no one responds, so I do with ideas or this worked for me things. Just like you.....what blows me away are those that follow then with the lamest, most stupid assinine responses and it is perfectly clear those people are talking through their asses and aren't caring for anyone and God help their loved one if they are! I know the world is full of all sorts of different people, thank goodness, but come on........anti-depressants are BAD for the elderly? I wanted to ask if this person was a sadist and enjoyed seeing their loved one a miserable, crying, wailing, moaning mess! I think I need to go visiting with Ted and kick some sibling ass......that's the mood I'm in today....love to all of you!
Just popping in to say hello. I'm in a mood today and don't want to bring anyone down. The mood seems to be catching with all the snowfall and power outages. I was checking up on the boaters now that our power is back on.
I used to enjoy periodic snow shut-in. It was a reminder to take time and enjoy beautiful scenery (because everyone is driving slow so soak it up). Enjoy snuggling up to my hubby in the cold (the power is out what else can we do?). It was all very happy times.
Now there is just my mother and grandmother's weather anxiety which spins and spins until it takes me with them. (if I hear "is that snow on the ground?" one more time!). It starts with the first snowflake and doesn't end till April. There isn't any more joy in the changing of the seasons.
Everything is just harder...worry about everything. Power, heat, oxygen...constant complaining. I'm just tired today. Thank goodness there is some sunshine today.
Take care everyone. I'll check in on you again soon.
Jam, et al, Speaking of no one answering: I have seen people in desperation ask legal questions on this site, and on the right side of page you see attorneys advertising their business. I appealed to the legal experts involved with this site, but didn't go back to specific thread to see if anyone had answered. Reminds me of the people at church who ask if they can help, then don't. right, Elizabeth? I'm not saying they (attorneys, etc.) have a responsibility to answer these poor caregivers who have gotten in over their heads in yet another aspect of this tremendously exhausting, unpredictable, confusing, and seemingly endless quagmire, with idiot siblings and frustrating beauracratic
oops sorry--I meant bureaucratic financial problems with insurance companies, hospitals, and any government programs. I am saying; if this site is to help caregivers, and a professional is advertising on this site, then please follow up, as professionals do. Good Will is PRICELESS. BUT--come on, People. Let's help one another! Pay attention. If you know something for sure, help these souls out, If you don't know what you're talking about-, as Jam mentioned on previous post--SHAME ON YOU! MOST of us are not doctors, lawyers, or pharmacists, but we care for our loved ones AND EACH OTHER. We want to be there for each other. We want to be there for people seeking advice and help, those who are alone and are not sure what to do! PLEASE, consult professionals for your loved ones medical needs. Ask us general directional questions, but don't expect us to tell you want meds to give, what tests to have done, etc. Use some common sense. Feeling the energy and frustration of many, I had to speak up. I hope I was not out of line. Love you guys. Christina
I worked in the med field for many years but know it isn't my place to give medical advice. Always ask a Medical Doctor, or another type of specialist physician about health issues and crisis.
I can give you hugs, I can cry with you, I can totally agree or disagree with you, I can tell you how it goes with me and our family struggle. I can tell you what has worked, or not worked in the past for our personal story. I can tell you not to stir a pot of pooh cause it will smell....
Any information found on the internet is NEVER a substitute for advice from a physician who has EXAMINED the patient.
In other words, please don't take me seriously, I'm just here to be your comic relief! I'm only helping to row the boat.
Hello Everyone. It's been two months today since Mom passed. Hubby and I got out today and went out to lunch (we toasted her) and went bowling (neither of us had gone bowling for years) and went and got cat food and went to Wal-Mart and then I tanned and he did the grocery shopping. It was a really good day. I'm so glad we didn't just stay home. It's really fun to be able to just up and go do stuff together. Although I feel somewhat guilty saying that. We're preparing for our vacation. Gotta have enough cat food for the cat, essentials for us, etc. Another of my friends is gonna take care of the kitties. Can't remember if I told ya all that. Wait, I did. So sorry. Has anyone heard from Peach? I have not "seen" her for a couple days and am worried.
Jam -you are so on the target what you said to Ted Linda hope things get better for you you have so much patience amd are sure a great person -a lot better than I was with caregiving you are a good example to most of us. Someone mentioned about people at church -I am sorry I do not remember who- the next time someone asks if they can help please ask them to do whatever because if they do not really mean it they will not ask you again and if they really want to help let them they will get more out of it then you might imagine-we had a former church attende who was sick with cancer and someone arranged for us to bring in cooked goods one Sun and someone delivered the items to their house I made a cake because they had small kids and the person was so apprecative of the cake I felt great-I always was too proud and too stupid to ask for help or even accept when someone offered years went by and no one helped me and I thought how dumb I was to try to do it all myself-of course hindsight is 20/20 they say.
wow ! margarittaville sounds soo good ! gave you all a star ! ill have mine with salt and lime plz . went to goodwill , saw a heavy set woman riding the scooter around . i saw she was on the alie so i went to the next one , with a smile on my face like jam said . browing thru the jeans lookin for my size then this woman and her scooter came up by me expected me to move !!! i acted like i didnt see her or hear her say anything . i stood my ground to keep on lookin . she huffed away and backed up , goodwill is pretty tight in there , then i went on to the next ile nobodys there but me , i be damn she came up behind me i thought woman u better get outta here or im gonna slap u silly ! i bit my lip and acts like i didnt see her . she finaly backed up and went to bother somebody eles , she wasnt buying anything but to piss people off . i bought 3 things , then off to kroger and had a bad cart ! wheels just didnt want to turn . started to get fussy and poeple were standin around cant make up thier mind blah blah i started to get panic attack ! forgot half stuff i need but i didnt forget to get pa a kroger nighttime briefs , (someone mention it here ) thought id give it a try . well here comes that damn lady and her scooter ohh i m so glad i was at the cashier ready to leave when she came in . whew ! i realy realy wanna cry so bad inside but im holdin it in . is that depressions ? my sis text me and ask me if she could get dad some wendy chilli and frosty i told her oh yes soi dont have to cook supper ! bless her heart , now shes back home here with me , maybe ill be ok now ? i tol dher how i been feeling , she said prob cuz ure tired of same old shit everyday , she notice dad llookin like a small man , i said yes he keeps sliding down on recliner and in wheelchair too . i keep pullin him back up but soon i turn my back he s down again . he just dont feel good and im startin to look for that black hole . MIZ- two mos today ugh , wow time flies , soon u will say oh 10 yrs from today , mine was 21 yrs ago sept 6 th , im glad u and hubby got out and enjoyed urself . u guys deserve it ! :-) glad ur friend is takin the kitties in and keep em for ya , sou dont have to worry about the kittys havin parties at ur house . knock more stuff down wooo ! oh i think im runin out of space here , headbanger and jam we ve got to party like hard ! someday we will ,,, xoxo
Linda, don't you dare go anywhere near that black hole. I understand how you are feeling with the same old shit everyday and I hate to see you sad and upset. LOL that lady with the scooter didn't know who she was dealin' with. ;)
I agree about stupid advice, I have done my share. But it is a blog. Buyer Beware I guess. Just because it is ON the computer or in print in The Newspaper doesn't mean it is a fact. It is interesting this particular blog has become a chat fest for so many, while the pother posts just sort of come and go, maybe spark a little interest now and then and fade. People ask for help but need to realize these are strangers and not usually professionals, it is like asking advice from a friend, no legal or ethical standards really, just people who may or may not have clue of what they are commenting on...Take it with a grain of salt and use what may work for you, but remember we are just people talking, caring, grousing, laughing, helping one another yes, but just ordinary people...
I am sorry to see that many of us are tired, depressed, full of financial problems. My pellet stove got broken today, (I shall have to call the tech and that is money I didn't want to spend!) so I asked my mother to go to bed under the blankets. She did not want to, so now she is in her chair (it's almost 4 in the night here), in a cold room, with 2 blankets on her). What is really stressing, as far as I am concerned, is the total lack of cooperation from other people (my mother, and lately from my helpers, too) so all of this big burden is all on my frail shoulders! It's like my whole world were going to hell and I can't save anything. Problems problems problems and I, totally alone in the middle of it, fighting with a cardboard sword! Well I have vented, too!
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I'm really tired of trying so freaking hard and getting nowhere and I'm tired of feeling sorry for myself too. i'm 47 years old, broke, with no prospects for any kind of future and if I do put mom away i'll be living in my car, all the while knowing that my dad left me tons of money that I can't get a hold of. It's driving me nuts.
Social Services says there is nothing they can do for ME and if I leave her alone to go out to work that may be considered neglect. great. We caregivers are an invisible bunch who don't account for anything even though everyone always tells us how much money we save the system by doing what we do. Something is very not right here and has to be changed. Maybe I'll put mom away and go on a political crusade. I'll live in my car at the foot of capitol hill with signs and a tent and get myself arrested as much as I can until someone like Micheal Moore finally takes notice.
I can't read through all the posts when I do get a chance to be here so if someone wants to join me, leave a note on my wall.
Miss you all, Ted
you are right, I am at the end of my rope and need to make some kind of change soon. i don't understand why family caregivers are so overlooked and taken for granted, it's a definite problem that is only going to get worse. With all the public funds we save the system, they really should be kissing our a$$e$.
love you all.
I don't consider it a privilege to wipe poopy butt, change sopping wet undies, explain over and over and over and over and over, bathe, change clothes, make meals, clean doggie messes, give meds, clean 2 houses, wash clothes, buy groceries, make and take to dr appt......wait a minute I think I found 10 min today for me!! Woohoo!!!! When the col gets to the point where I have to watch to see that she is still breathing...then I will pray everyday for God to take her.....there is no quality of life to lie in bed and the only movement is the chest rising and falling. i will hope and pray that she goes to the light so that she might be whole again and not a shell of a person lying there. Ok, I have vented for today.
Ted, you remember you are a good person.....do what you must for yourself and mom.....and then go after your sister and what is rightfully yours....knowing your mom is getting the second best care (next to yours of course)......Big Hugz!!!!!!
i guess i wasnt suppose to pour out my heart , what the damn hell! anyway , depreesions here . jam ure right 100 percent what you told ted .
sunday wakin up heart aches and lump inmy throat , feelin so alone even i have hubby here .
i have t o go to town and nobodys going with me cuz they went yesterday ! what the hell .
going to bebusy with firewood . bring in 3 days worth cuz its going to be messy as hell . we re in for ice then tues snow and weds snow too i think . 3 days of something .. guess i shall stock up on water in case power line snaps with ice . cant imagin no water for dad ekkk .
try to have a happy sunday you all . xoxox
cmc634- welcome to this site . this thread is over a year old . yes we know about the toothbrushes and all . :-) boil everything yep . sounds good . thanks for ur info .
Hubby and I are planning to get out and go bowling this afternoon. It has been a long long time since I've been bowling and I know he will get some chuckles watching me. :D
I've started packing for our trip. I can't believe it's less than a week away!! OMG!! I've been bad and bought some new clothes and shoes for the trip. That's my other vice besides the ciggies. But, I'm not near as bad as I used to be.
I hope you all have a good Sunday and be kind to yourselves and take some time for yourselves and no shoveling!!
love,
miz
Sun is shining today....but look out tomorrow....freezing rain turning to snow, headed east on Wed......sorry all you New Englanders but it's headed your way....Hugz to all again!
TED--So good to hear from you. Lot's of friends here giving you good advice. Sometimes one has to get really angry, and quit taking crapola from those who want to take what's of value then dump the rest on you. How angry are you, Ted?
LINDA-- Praying for you unceasingly. That is what we are told to do. Some days we just run out of energy, but you will fill up again. You know what you can do to feel better. Maybe you try to do too much? Doing nothing is sometimes more effective than something.
Give me a B, give me an O, give me a B--thought I was going to say "A", then a "T", for "boat'? What is a BOAT without BOBBIE!? A lonely vessel set upon the waters--STAY OF OUT OF THE BERMUDA TRIANGLE, PEOPLE!!
JAM-- I read your post about people giving bad advice. I hope you didn't mean me? Sometimes I read other threads, and the people seem so frustrated and no one has answered them, so sometimes I do. I just try to encourage them and let them know someone is here, I send them a hug, etc. I certainly have asked many questions about medications HERE and only know what my Mother's doctor has said about what he is prescribing for HER. Some people have told me what works for their parent, but everyone is different. I would never take anyone's advice here to change the drugs for my Mother!! Who would?
SSK-- I wish you well on your possible housemate. I hope it is close to what we talked about a couple of weeks ago. I have been concentrating on it for you:)
More later. Have to go rescue my daughter left stranded without car keys. Love you all. Hugs, Christina
I used to enjoy periodic snow shut-in. It was a reminder to take time and enjoy beautiful scenery (because everyone is driving slow so soak it up). Enjoy snuggling up to my hubby in the cold (the power is out what else can we do?). It was all very happy times.
Now there is just my mother and grandmother's weather anxiety which spins and spins until it takes me with them. (if I hear "is that snow on the ground?" one more time!). It starts with the first snowflake and doesn't end till April. There isn't any more joy in the changing of the seasons.
Everything is just harder...worry about everything. Power, heat, oxygen...constant complaining. I'm just tired today. Thank goodness there is some sunshine today.
Take care everyone. I'll check in on you again soon.
Speaking of no one answering: I have seen people in desperation ask legal questions on this site, and on the right side of page you see attorneys advertising their business. I appealed to the legal experts involved with this site, but didn't go back to specific thread to see if anyone had answered.
Reminds me of the people at church who ask if they can help, then don't. right, Elizabeth?
I'm not saying they (attorneys, etc.) have a responsibility to answer these poor caregivers who have gotten in over their heads in yet another aspect of this tremendously exhausting, unpredictable, confusing, and seemingly endless quagmire, with idiot siblings and frustrating beauracratic
BUT--come on, People. Let's help one another! Pay attention. If you know something for sure, help these souls out, If you don't know what you're talking about-, as Jam mentioned on previous post--SHAME ON YOU!
MOST of us are not doctors, lawyers, or pharmacists, but we care for our loved ones AND EACH OTHER. We want to be there for each other. We want to be there for people seeking advice and help, those who are alone and are not sure what to do! PLEASE, consult professionals for your loved ones medical needs. Ask us general directional questions, but don't expect us to tell you want meds to give, what tests to have done, etc. Use some common sense.
Feeling the energy and frustration of many, I had to speak up.
I hope I was not out of line. Love you guys. Christina
I can give you hugs, I can cry with you, I can totally agree or disagree with you, I can tell you how it goes with me and our family struggle. I can tell you what has worked, or not worked in the past for our personal story. I can tell you not to stir a pot of pooh cause it will smell....
Any information found on the internet is NEVER a substitute for advice from a physician who has EXAMINED the patient.
In other words, please don't take me seriously, I'm just here to be your comic relief! I'm only helping to row the boat.
Please pass the margaritas...
I'll take the salt with the lime, and the sugar with the strawberry. Oh la la!
K. Love yous. I'll be back later.
miz
went to goodwill , saw a heavy set woman riding the scooter around . i saw she was on the alie so i went to the next one , with a smile on my face like jam said . browing thru the jeans lookin for my size then this woman and her scooter came up by me expected me to move !!! i acted like i didnt see her or hear her say anything . i stood my ground to keep on lookin . she huffed away and backed up , goodwill is pretty tight in there , then i went on to the next ile nobodys there but me , i be damn she came up behind me i thought woman u better get outta here or im gonna slap u silly ! i bit my lip and acts like i didnt see her . she finaly backed up and went to bother somebody eles , she wasnt buying anything but to piss people off . i bought 3 things , then off to kroger and had a bad cart ! wheels just didnt want to turn . started to get fussy and poeple were standin around cant make up thier mind blah blah i started to get panic attack !
forgot half stuff i need but i didnt forget to get pa a kroger nighttime briefs , (someone mention it here ) thought id give it a try . well here comes that damn lady and her scooter ohh i m so glad i was at the cashier ready to leave when she came in . whew !
i realy realy wanna cry so bad inside but im holdin it in . is that depressions ? my sis text me and ask me if she could get dad some wendy chilli and frosty i told her oh yes soi dont have to cook supper ! bless her heart , now shes back home here with me , maybe ill be ok now ? i tol dher how i been feeling , she said prob cuz ure tired of same old shit everyday , she notice dad llookin like a small man , i said yes he keeps sliding down on recliner and in wheelchair too . i keep pullin him back up but soon i turn my back he s down again . he just dont feel good and im startin to look for that black hole .
MIZ- two mos today ugh , wow time flies , soon u will say oh 10 yrs from today , mine was 21 yrs ago sept 6 th ,
im glad u and hubby got out and enjoyed urself . u guys deserve it ! :-) glad ur friend is takin the kitties in and keep em for ya , sou dont have to worry about the kittys havin parties at ur house . knock more stuff down wooo !
oh i think im runin out of space here , headbanger and jam we ve got to party like hard ! someday we will ,,, xoxo
It is interesting this particular blog has become a chat fest for so many, while the pother posts just sort of come and go, maybe spark a little interest now and then and fade.
People ask for help but need to realize these are strangers and not usually professionals, it is like asking advice from a friend, no legal or ethical standards really, just people who may or may not have clue of what they are commenting on...Take it with a grain of salt and use what may work for you, but remember we are just people talking, caring, grousing, laughing, helping one another yes, but just ordinary people...
My pellet stove got broken today, (I shall have to call the tech and that is money I didn't want to spend!) so I asked my mother to go to bed under the blankets. She did not want to, so now she is in her chair (it's almost 4 in the night here), in a cold room, with 2 blankets on her). What is really stressing, as far as I am concerned, is the total lack of cooperation from other people (my mother, and lately from my helpers, too) so all of this big burden is all on my frail shoulders!
It's like my whole world were going to hell and I can't save anything. Problems problems problems and I, totally alone in the middle of it, fighting with a cardboard sword!
Well I have vented, too!
love,
miz