Grossed out and need to vent—I just caught Mom using my toothbrush to comb her hair!

Hey!!! Decided I had enough shoveling and went sledding instead! When we finished cleaning out the cars this afternoon, I told my daughter that I wished we still had the snow tube to slide down the huge snow piles. She reminded me that her old plastic sled was in the cellar. Well you know that I wasn't going to let the chance slip by,so...
We got the sled out and climbed the 6 foot pile along the fence and kept going down with the sled until we had a good run across the yard . Lex's hubby decided to video us having fun and now you can see the video on my Facebook home page. I may be turning 60 this year, but this old girl still likes to play in the snow!!!!

It's awesome, deef!! I love watching it!!

austin, that kind of back-stabbing stuff goes on all the time....the ceo here is just a little turd.....he will have the backs of staff doctors....but will throw an er doc under the bus. I give the ER 3 months before a major lawsuit is filed.....it's going to be a mess. Interesting that the nursing staff in the ER already knew he wasn't going to be back. But he's just fine with it all....he's ready to retire. He will go to a retired license that way he can still take care of family and friends. I plan on running for a seat on the Board of Directors when one comes open and if I can manage to get elected look out....I will be after that little turd's job. The bosses of the company that employs hubby offered him a position in their wound clinics...they know he wants out of the hassle of the ER....but he is looking forward to being home. Income will be cut in half but with everything paid off we should really be okay. If we can sell our lake house I will be ever so much happier, at least it's paid for and the only thing we have to pay is water and electric and that's about $50 per month.
Checked on col and she had put herself to bed for a change, but didn't turn off the tv in the living room so had to go over how it operates again to make her tv in the bedroom work. She just gets more and more clueless everyday.....I don't know how long she has to be on Aricept to notice a difference, if there will even be a difference. Couple nights ago she started questioning me on how many children and grandchildren I have....so explained that. I told her tonight that we were going to Applebee's for lunch tomorrow and she usually turns somersaults when she gets out....today it was like oh well that's nice. I noticed a couple of weeks ago she has a bruise on her left knee, last week's bath time, she has a bruise on her left boob and today I asked her how the bruise was feeling and she starts rubbing above her boob saying it was still sore....hmmmm not the area I was talking about.....slowly finding out that she has fallen at some point and cannot say when or how. But I do know she and hubby are mixing like oil and water......so guess I will have to run interference whenever he goes down to visit with her. He is a very impatient person.....gonna have to learn to undo that a little bit I'm thinking. Gave him the good news tonight that since he's retiring I won't always have to go to Wal-Mart or anywhere else by myself.....:) Going to bed now.......sleep well everyone and have pleasant dreams.....Hugz!!!!!

Bobbie was post #9500...BOAT TIME FOR OUR CAPTAIN!!! How cool is that?!?!

Jam, glad hubby's head is healing good! Pretty cool that you were able to take care of it for him! Sorry that the CEO is being a jerk! I think you should mail him a roll of toilet tissue...you'll know why & it'll drive him nuts trying to figure it out! : )

Rip, good to see you posting! Loved the great signs email! I've seen a few that I wished I'd had my camera with me. Love you, Kiddo!

Jen, Linda thanks for your concerns about me. I'll be ok! Just still fighting the same battle. Now at day #52! Waiting now for ultrasound results. Looking forward to going to see Bobbie & Miz! The motion of the ocean & getting to be with caring family will make me all better!!

Linda, glad your PA is doing better! Hope you're warm, now!

True, sorry about your job. That bites, but I'm glad that you have leads on others that you can do online!

Deef, LOVED your video! I really needed that laugh tonight! Looks like you guys had a blast!

Rossella, you're so right about Egypt! Times, they're a changing! I really feel for them! Pretty dramatic life to live for them!

Christina, if chocolate is involved, ou can believe I've got my head up & my mouth open! lol Very sweet of you to do that!

Miz, day after tomorrow you'll be on the boat!!! Time to water ski with the dinghy! zoom zoom lol

Diane, hope you're feeling better!

Bonnie...would love to hear from you!!! How are you?!?!

kuli, ss, ssk, austin, ted, pat, pirate, cuz, ddotal, did I miss anyone? I hope not!...hope you guys are all safe & sound, as well as the rest of the crew!

Hope all of you are sound asleep & getting your much needed & deserved rest!

Love to all...
peach

The students of psychiatry were attending their first class on emotional extremes.

"Just to establish some parameters," said the professor to the student from Arkansas, "What is the opposite of joy?"

"Sadness," said the student.

And the opposite of depression?" he asked of the young lady from Oklahoma.

"Elation," said she.

"And you sir," he said to the young man from Texas, "how about the opposite of woe?"

The Texan replied, "Sir, I believe that would be giddy-up."

Good Early Morning Caregivers!

It's 6:30a here on the First Coast and the coffee is soaking in the French press, the Cat has been fed and I am sitting here listening to the my cousin Vinny train rumble on through.
Been raining here like crazy, the lower bands of what everybody else is dealing with.
DEEF!! We are all loving you and the fact that you played in the snow instead of working in the snow! thass right...
Linda! hope you got enough firewood in. I remember when I lived in my cabin, all heat was from the woodstove and when it was going to rain, man you would lay up some wood so you didn't have to try and burn the wet stuff.
kiss your Pa for me and everybody.
Georgia! good to see from you and Why you up so late??looking forward to seeing you guys down here!
True! sux about the job and I too am glad you have some other prospects for at home employment.
Rossella! how are you doing my beautiful Italian lady?
Maxine!! you are the best. I love your posts! thanks for being here.
SSK! selfishSib and Jen and WOW loved hearing from RIP!!!!
brb coffee time....
Ya, Linda!! BobCoffee. zoomzoom.
I'm worried about my Cuz. i know that he's got major mom stuff and my Aunt is a total sweetheart. I know his wife's mom is not doing well as of last contact.
I keep thinking about a way to have a family reunion with this family here online. My Cuz and the family around him are family reunion professionals! I got to go to a few when I was a kid and they stand out in my memory. i would always sit next to my cuz.
the logistics of that would be considerable but if we started thinking about it just a little now....

Jam! man I am a hater when it comes to corruption in business, gov't., a hospital... my respect to your husband and you and that's why I need to see a bone poking out before I'll go to the hosp. I am way too well informed about the crap that goes on and watched them try and kill my mom when she went to the ER for bleeding from a tooth extraction.
If I hadn't been there she would have been dead. AND they weren't students. These were the war horses of the unit and dumb as dirt. God save us all.

Jam, the Aricept is working and you are seeing the benefits but they are probably not what you expected. I know you know in your professional mind what is happening here, but it is really easy to lose that when you are face to face with it.
The disease is progressive and all you are doing by trying to teach or make her aware of stuff is driving yourself nuts.
She can't learn and believe me, from experience, it is easier to accept that than try to change it. (Aricept.. I accept) Sure, she might be able to pick something up and do it for a day or so, but trust me, save your sanity. I had to learn that the hard way and I'm just trying to save you some pain if I can. you're a good daughter and you have not even been able to grieve because you have been going going going. just breathe, drop the dog off at the vet, change the diaper and have a cocktail!
Can't wait to meet you one day Jammie!!

Boy the rain is coming down. I checked the weather and knew this was coming but it will be in bands...so rain then nothing, rain then nothing.
I have open caulk seams on the foredeck and they are covered with plastic. So far I have been keeping up with my boat manager job of a work day on the boat. Body's a little sore, but hey.. it's exercise! i guess....
This boat is a work in progress and I hope that Miz and Peach and their husbands have a good time when they come. At least I have a good feeling that they will come and not be mean to me later!!!! Ahem.

Did you guys see the thread about the 6K per week hospice care? another thief and liar in that family. awful and sad.

I bought a scratching pad for the Cat yesterday and she used it right off but really loves the cardboard it came it. been tearing it to shreds all morning.

OK, the morning whistle will go off in a minute and I have to be ready for.....? whatever guy with a tool bag walks onto this boat. oh... if only I had come here first instead of the boat devil in the last place......

love you guys and more later.
please please be good to yourselves today and if your demented charges say something untoward to you, tell them:
it is NOT ok for you to talk to me like that.
Then give them a cookie!

lovbob

bobbiet.....thank you for being my voice of reason....yes I do tend to forget that the lost brain cells will never regenerate...they are gone and the abilities they controlled are also gone. It's like when I asked her yesterday if she had fallen and she replied "yes I did, at 1015" that was the address of her old house that we moved her out of over a yr ago....she always calls it that. We knew she had fallen, that's why we moved her! Now I check her head to toe during bath time for more bruising.
Don't know if we will be able to get out today or not..our wonderful neighbors spent the whole day yesterday shoveling....we have a shared driveway, odd set-up, their little house is south of ours...anyway she and 2 of her boys shoveled about 1/2 mile!!!!!!!!! One of the boys even cleaned out a path so we can get hubby's car out of garage. Mine is sitting outside.....never moved the smaller motorcycle to the barn for the winter. The plan was to have the oil, etc changed for the winter.....reckon there will be lots of time now to get that done.
Don't know that we will get out to do lunch today.....so freezing cold, about 4 degrees right now and the sun is shining....supposed to have heat wave this weekend, up to 30!
Everyone stay dry, warm and safe and enjoy the day God has given us.......Hugz!!!!!

good morning, I think I'm getting depressed, just feel like crying all the time. Plodding along , worried about money, no one here to talk to, weather lousy, I haven't laughed in months it seems. life is crap.

Good Morning Everyone. Two more days!! I gotta get to the drug store for a few things, get my nails done and finish packing and I'm good to go. The friend that is going to come and feed the kitties, etc. is going to come over tomorrow evening so I can give her a key and show her what to do. Hubby says he is gonna clean the house today. I feel bad that I have been so lazy and told him I would try to do better when after vacation. It's freeeeeeeeeeeezing cold out today. It was like 10 degrees when I checked earlier. I sure do feel bad for those of you still dealing with the everyday and night stresses and hard work of being a caregiver. I know it is still affecting me and probably will for awhile. But I will be fine and so will all of you. Love yous. Stay warm and safe!!

love,
miz

Morning, Fellow Doing too Much for Others and NOT Enough for Yourselves People!!
OK--I have a story/joke. Won't offend anyone, if it does, bite someone.
Shortest College Essay:
A college class was told they had to write a short story in as few words as possible. The instructions were:
The short story must contain the following three subjects:
1. Religion
2. Sexuality
3. Mystery ( there you go, Rosella)
Below is the only A+ given in the entire class.............................




" Good God, I'm pregnant. I wonder who did it."


Have a great day everyone. I had a feeling, in Deefer's case, "no news is GOOD news". Whew.
Hey, SSK......
How about bake some CHOCOLATE CHIP cookies? Just the small of them baking will bring happy feelings, and Mom will love to help. Tasting. Send me one, OK? Never mind I'm off sugar this week and trying to be good, but it's difficult at night.
Have a wonderful day, everyone. HUGS to all--my brain is not fully awake yet, and I can SEE and FEEL all of you, but can't list the names. Really, no kidding:))))) Christina

Christina, at night is when I have the hardest time not eating too. I can be good all day and then wham it's night and I wanna eat cookie after cookie or whatever. I have tootsie pops and I figure if I have two of those I'm okay and it helps me stay off the other stuff.

LOL Bobbie, the only way we would ever talk bad about you is if you turned out to be an axe murderer or took us out into the middle of the ocean and threw us in the drink. Either way, we would not live to tell the tale so you're safe. :) In all seriousness, Peach and I would NEVER do that to you. I know you know that. :)

love,
miz

Hi everyone Bobbie my cat goes crazy for cardboard boxes anytime he is frustrated he goes to town on boxes even if they are not his bought him a high tech scratch board -never used it, Well it seems my Mr. Wonderful on the dating site is gone on to better things I refused to take his son into live with me and did not buy his money problems and had told him our first dates were going to be at a public place he is probably on to another widow who will give him heaps of money I had told my son he is either the nicessts guy or ful of ship. I will probably see him on Judge Judy with a crying women who gave him all her money which he was going to pay back and he will say oh it was a gift what a scumbag he turned out to be. Hope everyone is doing ok with this winter nightmare next storm on Sat then again on Tue my friends are going to meet me for lunch-in April or May cabin fever is so bad I am actually calling people on the phone. Bobbie do not work so hard -the work will get done, Maxine

About the dementia thing, as Bobbie referred to: Weirdest thing happened yesterday when I was doing my Mother's morning beauty treatment after shower. All of a sudden out of nowhere, she says,"You're special". I looked around to see if anyone else was there; she has never been one to acknowledge anything good about me. I asked her why she said that? "Because you are, to do all this for me". She is more with it in the morning, and at night now, she is like a cat you are trying to catch to get out of a precarious situation. I asked her why she never said that to me when I was a child. she said HER Mother didn't want any of the kids to be Vain. I said, Well, Mother, there is a difference between children being spoiled and feeling they have value and are loved. That is why I chose to apply the Golden Rule in raising my children. She said, "I know. I learned about that and about God from YOU. I wish my Mother had taught us that." Me, I asked? "Yes, you, my daughter".
Weirdest damn thing. This is killing me.

Christina, it sounds like a wonderful thing to me but I can see how it would be disheartening that she was not that way with you when you were growing up. My mom became much more vocally loving to me and others as she got older. I think I started off with the "I love you" thing because that was not said around our house. Mom used to say, "Mommy loves her girl." but I guess that's not really the same. Anyway, just enjoy it while you can, dear. :))

Christina, that was a very nice short story!
It's good to hear from you all! If I don't "see" you for a while, I worry.
Jam, my mother is more and more "out of this world", too. (sense of reality equals almost to zero). Almost every night she spends 3/4 of the night on the chair; she does not want to go to bed because she does not realize it's night-time.
And if she does not want to go to bed, I don't force her to do so, even if I know that the following morning she will have more pains in her back, because I want to leave her 1 degree of freedom out of 360.... She already feels I impose her a lot of things (washing, eating, going out, coming back home, living in this house...), I don't want to impose her the bed-time, too.
In a couple of weeks we have an appointment to an Alz centre and I hope they give her Namenda or Aricept or both.
I am glad for those of you that are taking a short vacation and I am sorry for those of you who are in the mess 24/7.
Jen have you started working? Mary how are you?
I am tired but I feel rather well.
When you need to be well, you are well.

Thanks Miz, it's not easy. The first time I heard the word "love" from a human was from a boy when I was 14. Yeah, right.
Thankfully, my generation--"the LOVE generation", and now, we're "the coolest generation", started being more demonstrative.
Then we moved through the "psycho-babble", and now we don't have time for all that. Whew--Life is exhausting:)) hugs

omg linda find a nap it is in the corner i got wrn out think about watching you in my mind omg
linda i wish i could clone myself and be there to take some of your load my heart goes out to you

all the rest of you ther is a nap hiding in your house as well find it it is calling i hear it

hope that ground hog is not fouling around but then on the other hand i dont lik summer

schools closed here today ice everywhere and sleet and lite snow
we dont have salt or equipment for things like that so we have to shut down
well take care everyone catch you later

Dear Crew!
ssk is going nuts and needs our help!
She posted a page or so ago and is just miserable.
Shout out to ssk!
I know we all hate it when someone says hang in there....
but what do we say? hang in ssk! call one of us. if you want to text or chat or ? we'll hook it up!
lovbob

true color - thanks for wishing u were here . i finaly took a nap . whew o slept so hard . pa s up all night and guess what he is still up . steriod meds are kickin his ass . woke up 3 am heard him all waaaaaaaaa with bad hicucps , got up and ck on him , he says im hungry ! so went ahead made him a bfast while hubby was getting ready for work . when he left i end up cleanin out kitchen cabinets ! threw away lots of salt thing i had up there over 20 something years . i thought dont need them anymore . toss em all in trash . got plent of rooom now for new ones to go in there . alotta mr dash .
miz !! what ya mean u wont tell a soul what went on on the boat ! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaa i wanna know everything . well theres a saying what goes on at the .... stays there . so its all good . sure hope the weather treats you all good and able to have such a purtty perfect weather , i honestly know u will have a blast time . bobbie sounds like a fun lady to hang out with . you guys be good ! :-)
ok i guess i better go feed my dad , bet he s still hungry ! oh i think i ll go smoke first . xoxo good dayu all xoxo

Christina!
those are the moments that you will remember forever. The disease and the emotional baggage steps aside every now and again and the sun as we have always known it should be, shows up.
savor it and know that is how she really feels!

Miz: Mommy loves her girl is the good stuff and you know that too!

ok... off to the store!

lovbob

oh ssk . i read u loud and clear ! i was in that same spot too ! next day i felt better . it comes and goes , i know it sucks and i hate that feeling too . hopefully tmr be a better day for you .
go clean out ur drawers or caninets crank the music up ! thats what i did this morn , i thought well its me time i crank that music up and boggie do la do . thought oh i havent heard that in a while and happy to hear it .
music time my dear , disco one ohh shake ur boogieeee , lalalaaaaaaa .
smile ssk , we love ya ...

Hey Crew, you know I've been thinking about Bonnie O and there's another one that needs some love!
Hey Bonnie! check in and holler at some caregivers!
angels to Bonnie and ssk and everyone near the black hole of despair.
lovbob

Hey Susan (ssk)! I'm here pretty much all of the time, too & would love to talk to you on FB as well as here! It would be good for both of us! We're all here to lift each other up & be supportive against the black foxhole! I hope that you're having a much better day & that tomorrow will be even better!!! Give me a shout, ok?!?!

Christina, welcome to FB! You're hooked up now! CHAT TIME on the BOAT!!!

Linda, glad that you're having a better day! Hugs to you & Pa!

BIG hugs & shout out to EVERYBODY!!!

Hey Crew,
just got off the horn with my Cuz and he's doing fine. The reason he hasn't been able to be online is that he's been pushing snow around an airport in Michigan!
He and his wife are doing fine, his mom (my aunt) is doing fine and his wife's mom is doing fine.
So I guess they're all doing fine.

I don't know what's happening here but this is a boatyard and it is raining in historical amounts and I heard talk about building some kind of ark.......

lovbob

Aloha My Fellow Angels, Well the stores here in Ma are all out of ice melt for sure. Had to get a couple of 50 pound bags of sand instead, its all good. Just counting the days to spring. Tired of the cold.... and is it cold.... Nothing like Chicago for sure..... Just keeping up with keeping everything clear so there arent any accidents on the piles of ice..... Things are pretty quiet right now. Just keeping tabs on mom..... She found a gold pocket watch that I had papa when I was a little girl. I remember he use to wear it when he was a school bus driver, i was his little companion back then. I have placed it next to his pic and the memory lamp. Whenever I start to miss him, I go sit and hold it and just talk to him. I Miss him so much.... But I know that i have to keep moving forward..... :But the weather does not help with the depression, but i am trying..... My daughter has announced her engagement, something to look forward to... Going to the drs with her tomorrow to find the results of some of the tests she has had...... Glad to hear that your cuz and family are doing well Bobbie.... Hows things going Miz.?
Linda, I hear ya on the music.... When I get really down, I crank up the disco station and yes I am the dancing queen as I clean and sing.... lol lol.... Then a Martini ...... Hugs to alll... Love to all.... Welcome Christina...... Smiles of love to all
Angie

Good God!!! This never ends! I am looking at DSHS to see if I can get help getting a job or food stamps while looking and guess what becasue fart pants is Mr money bags even though it isn't my money and I am not allowed to use it I DON'T QUALIFY! JUST F^%#ING GREAT WONDERFUL COULD HE POSSIBLY BE A GREATER BURDEN HERE?

oh j , im sorry to hear that u have to tell em that he s livin with u . shit bunch crock a shit with legal rules blah blah , i used tobe on food tsmap aftergoing thru all the b.s. and i only get 20 bucks a month in food stamp ! it wasnt the worth for me to drive all the way to downtown and pay gas for the trip round trip , so screw em .
just hang in there find u a job and you ll have money to spend ., able to save up for future , apt , whatever u want . maybe oboama will pay ur way back to school ? gotta do something my friend , ur mom is at home now , so go girl zoom zoom . springs a coming , whole new out look for us all .

pa s drowsey , has hicups realy bad , drank water everytime he has it back .
am going to golay down and watch csi here in a bit .
you all have a good evening xoxo

Oh J, that really sucks. I am so sorry. Doesn't it just figure. Please don't give up though. You will find a job. You will be okay.

Ugh. I feel like I'm getting sick. Sore throat. Please no...

Dr said if you feel it coming on try Zinc right away it should shorten it by two days and make it less intense...

Not giving up just moving on over again....Next...

take care everyone sending sun shine to the East...