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lhardbeck Thanks for missing jokes. This last snow storm is killing me. In the last 3 days i have hauled over 100 loads of snow at the airport in Grand Rapids, Michigan. I pull a 23 yard dump trailer and I think they have been putting on around 28 yards of snow on it. Luckily I'm dumping it where the big snowblowers can spread it out over the field. Done hauling for the weekend. Will start again next Monday.
Bobbie Uncle Chuck is in rehab but has had two strokes. Ma is trying to find out where he is staying for rehab.
Jam red about hubby's headache. Man it hurts to even think about it. Hope he is recovering.
Everyone else please try to think happy thoughts in your dark times.
Luv ya Cuz
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"Be who you are and say what you feel...
Because those that matter...don't mind...
And those that mind... Don't matter."
May you always have
Love to share,
Health to spare, and Friends that care!
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Wooden Leg Insurance

A man and his wife moved back home to da UP, from

Detroit .

The wife had a wooden leg and to insure it in Detroit was

$2000 a year!

When they arrived in Calumet, they went to an Insurance

agency to see how much it would cost to insure the wooden leg.



The agent looked it up on the computer and said to the

couple, '$39.00.'



The husband was shocked and asked why it was so cheap here

in da UP to insure, because it cost him $2000 in Detroit !



The agent turned his computer screen to the couple and

said, 'Well,here it Is on the screen, it says:

*Any wooden structure, with a sprinkler system over it,

$39.00.*



I always did find the YOUPER Logic far superior to

most others .
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5 RULES FOR MEN TO FOLLOW TO HAVE A HAPPY LIFE

1. It’s important to have a woman who helps at home, who cooks from time
to time, cleans up and has a job.

2. It's important to have a woman who can make you
laugh.
3. It's important to have a woman who you can trust
and who doesn't lie to you.

4. It's important to have a woman who is good in bed
and who likes to be with you.

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5. It's very, very important that these four women
don't know each other.
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It is hard to not get grossed out, and it is great that you can vent it out hear. Try to remember it is the disease and not your mother.
Pamela6148, as for you , I hope that this will make you feel a little better dear. By letting you mother eat in that way , no matter how it may gross you out, you are still letting her have some independence and dignity .That is saying a lot for you. Give yourself a big pat on the back and a hug....
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Happy nice vacation, Peach and Miz!
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Cuz, the story of the two blondes was poisonous.
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Thank You, Sweet Linda. We will. I can't believe it's here!!
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Thank You, sskape!! I hope you are feeling good today. Keep up that exercise. I know it does help. :)
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Thank You, rossella!! :))
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Good Morning Caregivers!

Christina, that was a good answer and whaddya mean ya can't answer as well as me? bs. that was a good answer and you trust those instincts that you have running around in there.
When we get flustered or upset, that internal noise drowns out our good instincts that keep us alive and out of harms's way.
Christiina, you're fine and you're smart and I bet you're a cutie.

Pirate! There is no teaching or correcting or anything now. Screw the phones. If you talk to your mom on the horn and it goes south, feel free to just hang the sucker up and go back to work. the caregiver will figure it out and you go from there. Yak at your mom to face and know that the disease is in charge and your mom is not trying to be a pain, it all just is.
When you get frustrated and you will, don't let her see it. Tell a white lie about how you have to go to your car for a minute, or whatever you can come up with.
and then you walk it off. You work on changing your mind and walk back into the situation KNOWING that it will test the limits of your patience. Just don't let your mom see it.
The reason i say this, aside from experiencing it all myself, is that her time here is drawing to a close and you have the opportunity to protect yourself from bad memories by simply not making any.
Whatever stuff you and your mom had between each other in the past is now in the past. And the past is yesterday as well as 20 minutes ago as well as 40 years ago. Nothing can be done and the present is that she is sick with dementia and emotional bad shit is not going to work here.
Trust me when I tell ya, I know. One day when we meet and I tell you my whole story you'll wonder how in the world did I care for my mom. and trust me on this one too: I ain't no angel and no genius and I for sure am nothing special.
I worked so hard to get over the resentment of having such a rough time growing up with mental illness and, well,,,, we'll just stick with the mental illness because that's what it all boils down to. From that to cleaning up my mom's messes from all the hoarding and falling down real estate and a crappy little town where the town council should be put in jail to the bathing and wiping and cleaning and and and I get it kid. You will live through this and you will be healthy and stay sane.
Pirate: you are a good kid and a good daughter and I love you and know that we'll hang out one day when you can pull a full breath without the trauma of 'now what!?!'

My mom and dad had their issues and it did have an effect, just like everyone else here who deals with their own stuff.
All different. All the same.
I really really loved my parents. A lot.

Angie! oh baby that poem.
Boy is it true that you grieve in your own time.
that still washes over me and sometimes I can see it coming and sometimes it's swift and startling and like a slap.

But here's what keeps me from saying Why?:
They HAD to go. Your daddy, my daddy, my mom, Jam's mom and Miz's mom and the others who have lost someone who was elderly. They HAD to go. I worked so hard to get my mom back into her own bed to die and she worked so hard too. She was amazing and she knew that it was her time. She knew it better than me.
Angie you know in your conscious mind that your daddy couldn't live anymore. My daddy couldn't either because his poor body was shot. Miz's mom had congestive heart failure, my mom didn't know how to walk or swallow and all I could do is sit there and watch her suffer.
they are all now free and whole and probably hanging out with each other for all I know. for all I Hope!
shoot, I'm crying again.
please don't think that I don't get it because I do.
But in all reality there is no why.
There just is.
Acceptance is the only thing that has worked for me.

I love that line from Shawshank Redemption:
Get busy living or get busy dying.

Any Hoo, that's what's working for me and maybe you can give it a shot and see if it works for you.

OK!!!!!
Miz is coming!!!
I don't know for sure about GP yet because she has to follow doctor's orders right this minute and her husband cannot get into the boat when the boat is up on jacks.
GP is doing better but still needs to get into the home stretch before she can play her A game.
GP is going to mail the boatyard a package........ i wonder what's in it!?!?!?!?
omg... I just now actually salivated. The human animal.

I have to scrub this boat!!
The workmen left late yesterday and they will be back on Monday! .....going to try and talk Miz and husband to get up early and take off for somewhere!!!!
We could be back in the water by Wednesday depending on the weather because the bottom paint needs a few days to cure.
We're going to have a good time and sleep like slugs and play like kids. which is why we'll sleep like slugs.

All you guys have as stressless a day as possible and try to remember that in every situation there is something funny. some may think that it is 'wrong' to laugh at it, but screw that. Laugh anyway. It will save your brain.

more later.
Miz should be rolling by now.
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good morning I loved what you said, bobbie. I'm thinking that we get the strength to deal with each phase of this process as it comes up. My mom is in the stage where if she wants to eat fine, if she's not hungry, fine. A funny thing she does is if I offer her something to drink and she isn't thirsty, (I use a straw ) she just blows out and blows bubbles with the juice or whatever. I've stopped saying " drink this, you need the liquid, eat more, it's good for you". I just offer it and it's her body's decision. She usually eats one good meal a day and doesn't want much more than that.
I'm now addicted to jumping rope. It gets the blood flowing! I have to watch it that I don't overdo it and hurt feet, knees, etc. This 58 yo body ani't what she used to be.
Have a good day to all!
ssk
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Thanks cuz.....hubby's head is doing great....no swelling, no redness, healing well and I get to pull the staples on the 9th...

col water has been frozen for 2 days......a pain in the butt....her routine is out of whack and she gets confused on which bathroom to use....caught her yesterday trying to fill a tea kettle to flush her toilet.....explained to shut the lid and quit peeing in there!!!!!!!!!! Today she gets to take a shower standing up.....that ought to be interesting, I'll probably end up in there with her.
Let's all sing "Margaritaville" to miz and peach.....have fun!!!!!!
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Hey Jam!

get her a shower chair! makes it easy peasy.

Thanks ssk! amazing with the jump rope. I am really impressed!

Back to scrubbing....

lovbob
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Good Saturday Morning ALL YOU Beautiful People,
Ah, what a good feeling to know Miz and Peach are off to the BOAT. So happy for them, for so many reasons. The cyber-bonding that started here will become real life bonding, and that is SOLID and ENDURING. Don't make me cry, but I am.
Cuz, I missed your jokes, too:) It takes a lot of time and effort to take those email jokes and type them here. That is special and so generous of you. Happy Birthday, couple days late.
Angie, That poem could have been from me 37 ears ago when I lost my precious Daddy. I miss him still, remembering him as a 60 year old man. I think of all he missed (we missed), but I agree, and of course, it is inevitable we must accept it, when anyone leaves their body on this planet. "It is what it is", is never more appropriate than in this instance.
Rosella: thank you for defending blondes. If blondes got together and made as much of a protest as some "groups", there would be a lot of broken mirrors.
Ssk: I have tried jumping rope in the last few years, as I have tried the Hula Hoop again. Things are not landing in the right place. I have to wear my tightest sports bra, or I feel and look like a Slinky. Wow-lots of OLD toys, huh? Yeah, well, I don't look like a Barbie doll anymore, accept my chest and my ankles. All the middle part is like Yoda.
Deefer, you must be so busy! Hope you get some sledding time again. I watched the weather report, and my girlfriend from Indiana sent me some photos this morning showing me the ice storm. I'm speechless.
God Bless All of YOU enduring that weather. Careful.
Lastly, but was first on my mind, is what Bobbie said in her all-encompassing post this morning. Very heavy, very deep. It is overwhelmingly awesome that so many intense, caring people are on this thread. As I was speaking about making something cyber into something solid and real--this is the place that can transform the concept instantaneously. I don't know if I can explain it in words, but I think you all know what I am talking about. Surreally REAL. It is a SURE BLESSING. YOU are.
Have a great day. Planting color today, Sis coming, Mother having good nights, days, (SHHHH). HUGS, Christina
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good morning . thinkin of miz headin her way to the airport , hope they make it ok since it was down pourin snow here , now it has stop .
christina ! u have a gfriend lives in indiana ? hey thats me ! yes ice storm was awful but thankfuly it warmed up at midnight and melted off all the ice off the limbs , or we be in bad shape .

pirate- one day ur mom will forget how to use the phone and u will miss hearing from her . better enjoy it while u can .
i never forget the time ur mom was inside bangin on the window yellin let me in let me in and ur outside shakin ur head . that made me smiled .
woodstove is dead , i need get em going again . i woke up too many times wee early am cuz pa had to go pee and wantin bfast ,. told him its too early , finaly i decided im not going back to the couch so i zoom to bed , whoa i slept till 10 . poor dad was upset wheni ran in there to ck on him . yelled at me where u been ! told him i slept so hard in bed , bfast is ready !! that changed his tune when i told him his bfast is ready .
whew i wish i could lay out on bobbies deck and maybe the guys ll take thier sweet time gettin the boat ready . ah hell i be helpin them . lalala . maragritta in one hand and paint brush in other hand and ciggy hangin from my mouth , oh wait a min is the paint flameable ? ok skip ciggy then .
RIP - JSOMEBODY - where are you ? you guys doing ok ? missing you !! xoxox
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Hey Linda, How are you? Yes, I have another girlfriend in Terre Haute, one of our CGs is from there, too, and my neighbors are from there and going back soon. Why? too much sun, I think.
I bet when spring starts there it will be beautiful and you will be happier, my friend:)
well, it's Saturday morning and I guess people are doing their chores, traveling, whatever keeps them busy, like elderly parents and baths and marketing, etc.
Where is Truecolors? gotta check in with her, too. Ted? Chillout? Headbanger? Jen-somebody? We love you!!!
Hope you all are having a good day. Think BOAT...
Hugs, christina
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Hi everyone -there is life after caregiving and you will be stronger for it and nobody will mess with you because you will be able to give it right back now if someone treats me bad like the the service man at the garage where I bought my car tried to make me feel small in front of a lot of perple =I went home and could the manager and reported his bad manners and he was put on the phone and apoligized to me-I am not a meek little bird anymore-so all you are going through will make you stronger.
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austin - i hated going to car lot ! one year me and my daughter went shopping and i sure felt like this salesman were rapin me ! cornered me tryin to earn his commsions , took my car into shop to see how much its worth for a trade in and wouldnt give me my car back till i agreed to buy one of his cars !
menopause i was going thru , i got so hot in the face and felt the heat rise , i growled and told him i want my car right here now ! man he ran and brought my car round and i hop in and never looked back . daughter was piss off at me cuz i didnt buy a car for her to drive , screw it ! she s not makin the payment ! i told myself never do that again , i make sure i bring my husband along .
bite me amber jane !! :-)
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Crew, I don't think you are going to believe this......
Miz and husband missed the plane!

oh my good lord, I hope she doesn't freak out!
poor Miz!
texting back and forth...

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oh bobbie ! damn snowin ass weather , bet they had to creep too , it was snowing bad , im about 45 min away from that airport theyre suppose to get on .
oh no ,,hope they can get on the next plane asap . keep in touch bobbie ....
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I'm waiting for a text. Real worried about her.
If there is no flight I hope they stay downtown somewhere nice.
They started too late for the conditions I'm afraid.
She wanted to be on the road by 7am and they didn't get out until 9 or so.
I feel so bad for her. I hope they are able to get hooked up for a flight!
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its not snowing as hard now . hopefuly they can get on the next flight out . with snowstorm every where all over places ya can never be sure ,
i never have flown before and never will , i drive and stay on the land , not up in the air . scary ! BOOO
aww hope miz is not mad at her hubby . wait around on him grrr i know , always leave early and be at the airport an hr early cuz they like to feel ur body to make sure u aint got anything on ya . thats another reason why i dont fly . hands off ...
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OK... they are getting a room and will be here tomorrow.
I told her it's all part of her vacation and to just enjoy!!
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snowing hard now . ohh shes getting a room . wish i could meet her somewhere in indy . if only i could get out ,
wish i have her ph number so i could text her and make arrangement to meet her somewhere ?? but i wouldnt know where ,
the way weathers lookin i prob better stay home waaaaaaaaaa.
ill ck out the weather man and see whats up . if its gonna be ok ill get on fb and give u my number to have miz text me ok xoxo
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bobbie , i left ya a messages on fb . ck em out plz . xoxo
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Austin, thanks for the words of encouragement. Glad you stood up for yourself with the service at the garage!
Hi Christina, hi Linda. Was bored so I took Mom to mall and pushed her around in Wheelchair for a while. I always have to look at the puppies in the pet shop. I'll have to move from this house eventually, so I'm going to put off getting a pet.
ssk
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I'm glad miz got a room and we know where she is.
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Linda! going to FB
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