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I'm sitting her listening to the baby monitor waiting for Grandma to start braying...bahhhh, bahhhh, bahhhh, WSGMOOTB? Which roughly translated it will somebody get me out of this bed? Which she will repeat 15-20 times before I get up the steps to her room.
The feeling is quite a bit different than waiting for my granddaugher to wake up from her nap so I can tickle her tummy and hear her giggles.
Wow Captain Bobbie! Enjoy your visit with Miz, and Miz you enjoy your visit with the Captain. Have a wee drink for me on the bridge.
Christina, I am wearing a black armband for the Steelers today. My husband was also blue watching the cheese heads run away with the game. I didn't see the fire in the Steelers last night.
Cuz...love your jokes.
To everyone else have a wonderful and peaceful day. May your gifts be many and your messes be few.
Morning everyone, Yes, Headbanger, I felt bad for the Steelers, but Rothenburger needs all the humbling he can get. Besides my husband bet on the Packers, so everyone was happy. The kids cooked. Mother behaved until bedtime, when she insisted 5 minutes after she said she was tired and ready for bed and had to go to the bathroom, that (snidely snicker) she never goes to bed in the middle of the afternoon. Yes, I know Mother. That's why we're going to bed now, at 9 pm. Well, I for one will not give anyone a hard time today, Bobbie. Did someone do that? I thought we have all been behaving ourselves lately. I promise to be loving and supportive. I was concerned with BonnieO's new thread yesterday. Bonnie, if you're reading this: We're all in the boat, and some days are so much more on the edge than others. It's tough when you feel totally alone and no support, and I am so sorry for your angst. I pray you are able to take the action you need very soon. I am thinking of all my friends this morning: How is Deefer? Hope you are over shoveling and you are getting some rest? Is that a stupid thing to say? Jam and Jen--are you warm and comfy, how is col and fp? Lindaheart, glad pa is better--how are YOU?! ssk, how many jumps did you do today? That is so hard to do, I commend you on your determination. The only way I can do it is on my tip toes--like a boxer--and jump without skipping--and I think I can get to 6. Pirate Queen, Selfish Siblings--hope to hear from you soon. Hope your visit went well this weekend, PQ, and you are getting a better idea what you will do:) Rosella, meow, meow, purr. How was Mom's birthday and bro's visit? Hope you had a great time. Ted? Boat to Ted, Boat to Ted.... Cuz, you are the joke BOMB and I so appreciate your constant support. Some are groaners, but aren't we all? hehe Well, at least 3 people I am not worried about today, make that 5, since hubbies are there. Soon to be 7. AHHHHHH, B O A T. Have a wonderful relaxing time all on R & R. All the rest of us, have a Blessed day and I'm thankful for all of my friends here:)) Love and Hugs, Christina
Fp tried on a suit (hope he is in it in a box by summer) that he has not worn since well it was in style circa 1968 I am thinking here...he WALKED into the living room to show us, I don't know that it fit or what a sharp dressed man looked like...he got so close to me I almost ran. Mom snapped at him about not gonna pick him up off the floor...Up they go do taxes today as I have no money I don't need to do anything...Whatever...I come upstairs as usual he says good morning to me and NOT Mom which both creeps me out and hurts mom...God take him today!
Glad miz and hubby got in OK and are having a nice trip!
Hope Linda and Deef and everybody else East do not get more snow....
Headbanger, for us the refrain is "WAWGH"? (when are we going home?) Where: "home", is her parents'home. It is repeated 1000 times a day. Christina, meow brother did not come because his wife was sick and he can't drive here alone (and mostly, he cannot spend 2 hours with his mother and his sister if he is not supported by his wife) (because of course he is afraid that my mother and I can hurt him/kill him/infect him ( I don't know what he is afraid of, but he does not move without his bodyguard)) (My SIL is much nicer than him, BTW). I hope they are coming next week. I didn't tell my mother that it was her birthday, in order not to make her sadder. (because nobody visited her for her birthday) What about the famous salt chocolate? Did it get to destination? (What do you eat when you are on the mountain? Snow chocolate?)
hi everyone, jen, that made me laugh, "hope he's in a box by summer" I'm still jumping rope and today did a few laps of slow jogging around the neighborhood. I go early morning and look in the house to see if mom is still sleeping and then do another loop, etc. Don't worry, I'm not getting into great shape , I still have the spare tire and muffin top.! Oh, gotta go, mom is trying to get up. maybe we'll go for a ride. have a good afternoon ssk
"See's" candy, Rosella. Started by a sweet little old lady named Mary See in 1921. The family run business is still in Los Angeles, about 20 minutes from where I grew up near Pasadena, CA. But, have you tried to new chocolates they add coarse sea salt to? O M G!!! Dark, semi-sweet chocolate with just a few grains of divine salt to cut the sweetness and make a sweetnsalty sensation in your boca. Try it, with a Cabernet. Or Pinot Noir. Miz and Peach and Cap: don't pour salt on the See's. It is balanced and perfect as it is! I talked about chocolate, now I will not eat some, because I must refill my Mother's box today, and they always give a free sample. Maybe just the one. Jen, once a guy I did not know came up behind me in a bar and tried to grab me. My quick reflexes and defense training landed my right, very pointy elbow in his GUT. It was a good feeling. Not for him, but for me. Justice was served. Perhaps you can come up with something appropriate to fend of a DOMFP. Just thinking...of your satisfaction, Jen. Snow White Chocolate in the snow, Rosella?
yes, but the 7 little men eat it all! My friend Nancy brought me to Hershey, last time I visited USA. I had mystic chocolate visions. I still remember the song "Hershey chocolate world...."
Hmmm I was thinking about going to See's today I still have a certificate in my planner....they sell them here at work for a few bucks cheaper than the store.....geezus what is it now 16.50 a pound. I am going to get myself one for Valentines and hide it from caveman b/f that will eat everything and will not ask for it first...grrrrrr! My favorite is the Rum nougat....and the mocha truffle and the vanilla nut creams....mmmm mmmm goood....all the truffles are good actually yum. Today on the news they said chocolate had more good stuff than fruits....hmmmm wonder if that is a gimick for valentines day. Did you guys watch the Super Bowl...I only watch it for the commercials......I love the careerbuilder one with the monkeys in the clunker cars - laughed my head off. The pepsi ones and the budlight ones were pretty good....watched ones I missed on youtube and some that were not used...
Ok, Pirate now I MUST go order a box of See's.........chocolate is a food group ya know? Watched the Super Bowl....made the comment before it started that I hoped Christina didn't botch the National Anthem.....oh gee. Was not impressed with the Black Eyed Peas either. Jen I'm sorry, but I had to laugh with your wish from this morning.....glad you can have a sense of humor through all your pain. Hugz to all!
Hi everyone. Hope you are all holding up, maybe even enjoying yourselves? A little? i hope so. Been a rough couple of weeks for me but I finally got mom into a home for a week of respite. Man, what a heartbreaking day it's been. She pulled the classic move of chasing me down the hall when i left, her little walker clicking away and her saying i should come back, don't leave, all that, ugh, I'm still crying over it now hours later and hating myself for putting her through this,she's got no one else in the world except me and the dog and the cat. I can't help but think of her as being lonely and scared and wanting her own bed and thinking that she's gonna die there and that will be the last I saw of her and her of me. I certainly hope this week will be enough for me to get myself together a little bit anyway, I can't afford to leave town or do anything at all, but I'll clean up the house real good, move some furniture around, spring cleaning stuff, go through the mounds of mail and paperwork that keep piling up. I also keep thinking about how much of a mess I've gotten myself into since leaving my job after she wandered out into the street. I'm old and have nothing going for me, I put it all aside to give my attention to mom and when she does eventually go I'll be out on the street with no one to care for me. Hopefully I can use this week to get my head right about all that. The best thing I can think of is going back to school, online, it's the only thing I can do and still keep a close eye on mom. Hopefully fed grants and student loans will cover it cause god knows we don't have any money left. Alright, enough feeling sorry for myself. Hopefully I'll sleep well tonight, though it wll probably take a few days to stop listening for her through my sleep. Still don't have a very good internet connection, so I will check in through the week from the library. Love you all.
Ted you put your mom in a home for a respite week....wow ....my mom would be doing the same thing....that's why I can only do it if she is not able to move around anymore or doesn't know me anymore...wow..it is a rough thing...it will be okay if you call her enough!
Hi everyone Ted I hope you get some clarity about your situation-going to school on line sounds good -she will be alright after the first few days she will probably enjoy herself and it will be who is Ted I watched the super bowl for the last part except the last min and a half I knew the ending by then I picj=ked Pitt because my grand-daughter goes to college in Pittsburg it was more fun when my husband was alive he picked his favorite and I took the other team and I usually won-I watched a sappy love story until 9pm and watched the game with my son after that. We are getting one snow storm this week-I am busy getting paperwork ready to go to the account for the taxes in about 2 weeks -hope you all have abetter night and get some needed rest-that was the hardest for me being awaken during the night with low blood suger or falls or wet bed.
Ted, you are great. Wow--it's only a week, but you will get some new perspective. I would make you a nice lasagna but I don't think it will ship well. If you want a good recipe, I'll write it on your wall. Mange bene, and put your feet up OK? Jen, having Sue and Jam reiterate what you said, all I can envision is a man in a box with the pillow over the face, not under the head. I hate to tell you all how warm is was today. I was sweating on my walk at 4:40 pm. No kidding. I hope Miz and Bobbie are enjoying the evening on the boat. Hope you all are having a good start to to week. BonnieO--how are you doing......? Hugs, Everyone
awwwww Ted, I am so sorry. Everybody, you are so wonderful reaching out to comfort each other. I love that and am so, dare I say it, proud of you caregivers. The strongest and the best. Miz has a cold and is a vegetarian so no chicken soup so we had Mexican tonight and they have turned in and I am sitting here with tears in my eyes for the suffering of Ted. Ted, you're not old. If you're old, what does that make me? and I have to start over too. You can do it. I have to do it or I will be on a boat and old and poor. You are exhausted and are doing what you need to do. Rest and know that you are not alone in your suffering. I know it's a thin jacket for a cold night but we are here, listening and thinking and calling on angels for you. Crew! I love you guys. more tomorrow. lovbob
BOAT BOAT BOAT HAVVING FUN ON THE BOAT IM GONA HAVE FUN ON THE BOAT ONE DAY JUST WAIT AND SEE well hope you guys are warm and haveing a blast enjoying the sun and surf ansd even though i like the winter i like the water and it is better when it is warmer wheather i found my tube and i thought of the boat and my late husband pulling us around on his little boat wish i still had that but somone else thought they needed it oh well i got a tube any way HAVE FUN FUN FUN IN THE SUN SUN SUN
Cuz, you crack me up! Like the talking M doll joke. YIKES! I just LOVE all you girls and guys. You are the very bestest. That's all:) good Night. Love and Hugs, christina
Good Early Morning Caregivers, It's 6am and Miz and husband are in the cockpit having a smoke and I am writing to you guys. Miz is still feeling a little under the weather but hopefully they can still get out today and go to St A and see the fort and do some shopping. We will have some major sun today even tho it will be a little cool. (60's) I told Miz that on the foredeck it will get nice and toasty and maybe she can keep me company while I work on the teak. I still have to caulk the bowsprit but have to put a couple coats of varnish on it first. Whatever they both want to do is cool with me. Wait til you guys all meet each other! Miz is so cool and so is her husband. He's a scream and real easy going and fun to hang out with.
I still feel so bad for poor Ted. I know personally what it's like to have to put your mom in a safe place so you can not die. All the stress of trying to find a place and then the angst of your mom and the disease and and and.... so man oh man.
ok. so Miz and I were hanging out on the boat yesterday, it was raining and her husband left to go out for awhile and Miz and i found out that we both like serial killer stories so we watched some serial killer video on Hulu.com and then in comes the husband and Miz and I are all up in the serial killer stuff and he's like ok....... I show up here and don't know this person and now my wife and she are talking serial killers and I don't mean Wheaties. So he's a blast and they are really a nice couple. All of you guys! As Miz would say: Love yous! lovbob
good morning, on my mind is Ted's prediciment. Feeling alone and trying to figure everything out. I wonder what he was doing for work before he left to become a fulltime caregiver. We caregivers are somebody's hero. We have rescued someone and save their lives on a daily basis. It takes courage to do what we're doing. Strength, intellegince,maturity, ability to make decisions. Let's face it..we're awesome. Sun and boats sounds good. You deserve it!
Hi everyone - Ted, I hope you have a good week -- yuo do deserve it; don't fool yourself. Mom will be fine there -- try really hard to focus on YOU. I know it's very hard. I don't focus on me, so oook who's talkin'! LOL
Miz, hubbie and Boobie, have a great time on the BOAT - I'm jealous...snowing here AGAIN! ...Christina & Linda, how are u doing, girlies?
I have a question: I found a wonderful old picture of one of my selfish siblings, his kids and my parents (hasn't seen my parents nor making plans to see them for the last 7 months - too busy). I want to put the picture in the mail without a note - as to say -- Oh, yeah, remember these folks you shit?! They're your parents who gave you everything for years and you've abandoned them. Is that being a total jerk if I do that? I would love the feedback from this funny group!!
Hey guys, I know it's trite, but it really REALLY does help knowing that there are people out there somewhere thinking about me, caring, and that I ain't alone. Got up at 6 am and started tearing mom's room apart, scrubbing baseboards, threw out the old nasty area rug, doing what I can to clean and cheer things up around here. I'm determined to turn around the nasty funk I let myself get into. I think I'm most angry at myself for letting things (my Thieving Sister) get to me and screw me up the way it did. This is the beginning a new effort to create a cheerful, pleasant environment for mom (and myself) when she comes home until..... I'll worry about me later. the little bit of remaining time that mom has it's what's important, and i will NOT! let other peoples greed or lack of any bit of integrity get in the way of that. Seeing the look on mom's face as I walked away from her yesterday was too much, F*ck everything else, I know I can step up to the plate for the however much longer this is gonna take so that's what I AM going to do. Somehow I am going to put the ugliness of my so-called family out of my life and do whatever I can to make mom giggle and smile. Thank you all for everything you are.
Morning Everyone, Hey ssk--you're energy is multiplying! Last time we had Chinese food, my fortune cookie read: "Someone is looking up to you. Don't let that person down." I remember, because i taped it to my wall above my desk! My husband asked, "do you know who that is?" yea, Mother. He said, right. So, yes, the realization that we are admired is a good feeling. But guess what my husband's fortune read? "You will be traveling soon and make a fortune. Have fun"! I said, "you know what that means"? he said, yea, "where" he's going. I said, you know what "have fun" means? He said, Yeah, when I GET HOME, with you". RIGHT, big boy. He leaves sometime this month and my first greatest supporter and respite will be gone for awhile. I'll probably be here more. and I'm not worried, because we are ALWAYS here for each other. So happy to hear collective ENERGY of Bobbie, Miz and Hubby! The serial killer thing is similar to my intrigue with psychological thrillers. If killing is involved, it figures. Movies like Seven, and The Flock, and Changeling bug the heck out of me and make me kind of sick to my stomach, however, I love Primal Fear with Ed Norton and can't think of any others at the moment. Stories about people who are being stalked but everyone thinks THEY are the crazy one and paranoid--those I really like. Hurt my shoulder again really bad at 3:30 this morning avoiding one of my Mother's imaginary obstacles, and it's killing me, after a hour of ice. She has no idea what it takes NOT to let her down. Have a great day everyone! Thanks for the jokes, CUZ! Thanks for the early morning incentive, SSK! Thanks for COFFEE and iCE PACKS!! I could go one and on, but eventually, I would get into trouble. I was thinking of "pillows". LOVE ALL YOU BEAUTIFUL CAREGIVERS!! hugs, christina
Hey--SS. Guess we were all writing at the same time, you and Ted and me! LOVE YOU GUYS! Well, it sounds like something I might have done at one point, but we are all at different places. You know, SS, that hanging onto the impossible only hurts YOU. It reminds me of trying to quit smoking, which I did about 25 years ago. I had to prepare my mind before my body would accept it. Had a couple of false starts. Then, one day, at the 11th hour, that was it. You can shame and shame some people--THEY ARE NOT YOU! It wouldn't take much to shame you, would it, SS? See. "Take that, and that, and that, you miserable selfish sibling of mine"! HUH? You would be mortified, they were just late for shopping. It's a HUGE lesson, SS. We all have them. Bobbie said it perfectly to you a few weeks ago, if I recall. Dig out that post and read it again. Ted, all I can say is YOU ARE SO SPECIAL! You are gonna do what you think is best way to spend your time, but please don't wear yourself out. do a little cleaning, then go to a different bar than last time. HAHAHA JUST KIDDING, TED! I understand how getting your place "just so" is rewarding and satisfying in itself. That can take a big load off your mind. You're not a Virgo, are you? LOL Could you have a little bit of R & R? LIndaHeart:)Truecolors:) Jam:) Jen:) Headbanger:) Peach:) Cuz:) Angie:), Diane:) SSK:)SS:) Ted:) MIZ:) CAPTAIN:) my shoulder is killing me but I love you guys christina
I'm glad that Miz & hubby made it ok & are enjoying their trip & are enjoying being with Bobbie! Miz, I'm so sorry that you are still fighting the bug! Take the plunge & have the chicken soup! Jewish penicillan!! Does as much good on ya as in ya! lol Get to feeling better soon, sweetie!
I'm sorry that I've been AWOL the last little bit, but as many of you know I've been facing some medical issues myself. The ordeal has taken a major tole.
Even worse, my doctor has told me that I need to postone my trip to see Bobbie, Miz & her hubby. I'm feeling down that I can't go right now. You guys understand when you've planned on something special & are so looking forward to it & then the rug's pulled out from under you, toppling all of your wonderful plans! No black hole, just a pot hole, but an aggravating hole, just the same!
Bobbie being the wonderful friend that she is, has agreed with the doctor & has helped me to accept that I need to recouperate & I just can't go right now, but we can reschedule & we have a tentative time already so I can start planning again! Hey, I can look at it positive & remmy that planning the trip is part of the fun, right? Right! : )
I know that several of you have a personal interest in me getting to go right now, but not to worry, as there is a box on it's way to Bobbie that will take care of everything...just wish the box was refrigerator size so I could stow away in it myself!! : )
We're missing hearing from some vital crew members! Time for a role call!
Here's hoping that everybody is having a great day & a better tomorrow!
HEY BUBBA TED!!! It's SO good to hear from you! I'm sorry that it was difficult to leave your Mom! You're all she knows, right now, but you know that she's alright & you're so smart to take some time for YOU!!! Ya just gotta! You're a good son & you taking care of YOU IS taking care of her, too!
I know that you're working hard at cleaning your home & that does make a difference in how we feel, but like Christina said, please take some time out from all of the cleaning to do something fun & uplifting JUST FOR YOU!!! Balance, Bubba!!!
BIG hugs to you!!! ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((TED)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))) Sistah Peach : )
SS--I meant to be helpful. I am sorry if I was insensitive. I just hate to see you so torn up over selfish siblings, and they don't change. Love you bunches:) christina
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I'm sitting her listening to the baby monitor waiting for Grandma to start braying...bahhhh, bahhhh, bahhhh, WSGMOOTB? Which roughly translated it will somebody get me out of this bed? Which she will repeat 15-20 times before I get up the steps to her room.
The feeling is quite a bit different than waiting for my granddaugher to wake up from her nap so I can tickle her tummy and hear her giggles.
Wow Captain Bobbie! Enjoy your visit with Miz, and Miz you enjoy your visit with the Captain. Have a wee drink for me on the bridge.
Christina, I am wearing a black armband for the Steelers today. My husband was also blue watching the cheese heads run away with the game. I didn't see the fire in the Steelers last night.
Cuz...love your jokes.
To everyone else have a wonderful and peaceful day. May your gifts be many and your messes be few.
Love & hugs!f
Yes, Headbanger, I felt bad for the Steelers, but Rothenburger needs all the humbling he can get. Besides my husband bet on the Packers, so everyone was happy. The kids cooked. Mother behaved until bedtime, when she insisted 5 minutes after she said she was tired and ready for bed and had to go to the bathroom, that (snidely snicker) she never goes to bed in the middle of the afternoon. Yes, I know Mother. That's why we're going to bed now, at 9 pm.
Well, I for one will not give anyone a hard time today, Bobbie. Did someone do that? I thought we have all been behaving ourselves lately. I promise to be loving and supportive.
I was concerned with BonnieO's new thread yesterday. Bonnie, if you're reading this: We're all in the boat, and some days are so much more on the edge than others. It's tough when you feel totally alone and no support, and I am so sorry for your angst. I pray you are able to take the action you need very soon.
I am thinking of all my friends this morning:
How is Deefer? Hope you are over shoveling and you are getting some rest? Is that a stupid thing to say? Jam and Jen--are you warm and comfy, how is col and fp? Lindaheart, glad pa is better--how are YOU?! ssk, how many jumps did you do today? That is so hard to do, I commend you on your determination. The only way I can do it is on my tip toes--like a boxer--and jump without skipping--and I think I can get to 6.
Pirate Queen, Selfish Siblings--hope to hear from you soon. Hope your visit went well this weekend, PQ, and you are getting a better idea what you will do:)
Rosella, meow, meow, purr. How was Mom's birthday and bro's visit? Hope you had a great time.
Ted? Boat to Ted, Boat to Ted....
Cuz, you are the joke BOMB and I so appreciate your constant support. Some are groaners, but aren't we all? hehe
Well, at least 3 people I am not worried about today, make that 5, since hubbies are there. Soon to be 7. AHHHHHH, B O A T.
Have a wonderful relaxing time all on R & R.
All the rest of us, have a Blessed day and I'm thankful for all of my friends here:)) Love and Hugs, Christina
Glad miz and hubby got in OK and are having a nice trip!
Hope Linda and Deef and everybody else East do not get more snow....
Take Care all...
Christina, meow brother did not come because his wife was sick and he can't drive here alone (and mostly, he cannot spend 2 hours with his mother and his sister if he is not supported by his wife) (because of course he is afraid that my mother and I can hurt him/kill him/infect him ( I don't know what he is afraid of, but he does not move without his bodyguard)) (My SIL is much nicer than him, BTW).
I hope they are coming next week. I didn't tell my mother that it was her birthday, in order not to make her sadder. (because nobody visited her for her birthday)
What about the famous salt chocolate? Did it get to destination? (What do you eat when you are on the mountain? Snow chocolate?)
I'm still jumping rope and today did a few laps of slow jogging around the neighborhood. I go early morning and look in the house to see if mom is still sleeping and then do another loop, etc. Don't worry, I'm not getting into great shape , I still have the spare tire and muffin top.! Oh, gotta go, mom is trying to get up. maybe we'll go for a ride.
have a good afternoon
ssk
But, have you tried to new chocolates they add coarse sea salt to? O M G!!! Dark, semi-sweet chocolate with just a few grains of divine salt to cut the sweetness and make a sweetnsalty sensation in your boca. Try it, with a Cabernet. Or Pinot Noir.
Miz and Peach and Cap: don't pour salt on the See's. It is balanced and perfect as it is!
I talked about chocolate, now I will not eat some, because I must refill my Mother's box today, and they always give a free sample. Maybe just the one.
Jen, once a guy I did not know came up behind me in a bar and tried to grab me. My quick reflexes and defense training landed my right, very pointy elbow in his GUT. It was a good feeling. Not for him, but for me. Justice was served. Perhaps you can come up with something appropriate to fend of a DOMFP. Just thinking...of your satisfaction, Jen.
Snow White Chocolate in the snow, Rosella?
My friend Nancy brought me to Hershey, last time I visited USA.
I had mystic chocolate visions. I still remember the song "Hershey chocolate world...."
Did you guys watch the Super Bowl...I only watch it for the commercials......I love the careerbuilder one with the monkeys in the clunker cars - laughed my head off. The pepsi ones and the budlight ones were pretty good....watched ones I missed on youtube and some that were not used...
Watched the Super Bowl....made the comment before it started that I hoped Christina didn't botch the National Anthem.....oh gee. Was not impressed with the Black Eyed Peas either.
Jen I'm sorry, but I had to laugh with your wish from this morning.....glad you can have a sense of humor through all your pain. Hugz to all!
Hope you are all holding up, maybe even enjoying yourselves? A little? i hope so.
Been a rough couple of weeks for me but I finally got mom into a home for a week of respite. Man, what a heartbreaking day it's been. She pulled the classic move of chasing me down the hall when i left, her little walker clicking away and her saying i should come back, don't leave, all that, ugh, I'm still crying over it now hours later and hating myself for putting her through this,she's got no one else in the world except me and the dog and the cat. I can't help but think of her as being lonely and scared and wanting her own bed and thinking that she's gonna die there and that will be the last I saw of her and her of me.
I certainly hope this week will be enough for me to get myself together a little bit anyway,
I can't afford to leave town or do anything at all, but I'll clean up the house real good, move some furniture around, spring cleaning stuff, go through the mounds of mail and paperwork that keep piling up.
I also keep thinking about how much of a mess I've gotten myself into since leaving my job after she wandered out into the street. I'm old and have nothing going for me, I put it all aside to give my attention to mom and when she does eventually go I'll be out on the street with no one to care for me.
Hopefully I can use this week to get my head right about all that. The best thing I can think of is going back to school, online, it's the only thing I can do and still keep a close eye on mom. Hopefully fed grants and student loans will cover it cause god knows we don't have any money left.
Alright, enough feeling sorry for myself. Hopefully I'll sleep well tonight, though it wll probably take a few days to stop listening for her through my sleep.
Still don't have a very good internet connection, so I will check in through the week from the library.
Love you all.
Jen, having Sue and Jam reiterate what you said, all I can envision is a man in a box with the pillow over the face, not under the head.
I hate to tell you all how warm is was today. I was sweating on my walk at 4:40 pm. No kidding.
I hope Miz and Bobbie are enjoying the evening on the boat.
Hope you all are having a good start to to week.
BonnieO--how are you doing......? Hugs, Everyone
Everybody, you are so wonderful reaching out to comfort each other. I love that and am so, dare I say it, proud of you caregivers. The strongest and the best.
Miz has a cold and is a vegetarian so no chicken soup so we had Mexican tonight and they have turned in and I am sitting here with tears in my eyes for the suffering of Ted.
Ted, you're not old. If you're old, what does that make me? and I have to start over too. You can do it. I have to do it or I will be on a boat and old and poor.
You are exhausted and are doing what you need to do.
Rest and know that you are not alone in your suffering. I know it's a thin jacket for a cold night but we are here, listening and thinking and calling on angels for you.
Crew! I love you guys.
more tomorrow.
lovbob
IM GONA HAVE FUN ON THE BOAT ONE DAY JUST WAIT AND SEE
well hope you guys are warm and haveing a blast enjoying the sun and surf ansd even though i like the winter i like the water and it is better when it is warmer wheather
i found my tube and i thought of the boat and my late husband pulling us around on his little boat wish i still had that but somone else thought they needed it oh well i got a tube
any way
HAVE FUN FUN FUN IN THE SUN SUN SUN
Jack,Smart,Lazy,Kiss and Smart
Young at heart
Slightly older in other places
I , don't think about dying
It's the last thing I want to do
I'm speeding because,
I have to get there before
I forget where I'm going.
I DON'T EXERCISE
because it makes me spill my coffee.
AT MY AGE GETTIN ANY
means sleep
EAT RIGHT AND EXERCISE
and die anyway
AT MY AGE HAPPY HOUR
is a NAP
LIve each day like it's your last
one day you will get it right
At my age the only thing that gets hard
is my arteries.
I believe in having sex on the first date.
At my age there might not be a second.
The only trouble with retirement is
you never get a day off.
I just LOVE all you girls and guys. You are the very bestest.
That's all:) good Night.
Love and Hugs,
christina
It's 6am and Miz and husband are in the cockpit having a smoke and I am writing to you guys.
Miz is still feeling a little under the weather but hopefully they can still get out today and go to St A and see the fort and do some shopping.
We will have some major sun today even tho it will be a little cool. (60's) I told Miz that on the foredeck it will get nice and toasty and maybe she can keep me company while I work on the teak. I still have to caulk the bowsprit but have to put a couple coats of varnish on it first.
Whatever they both want to do is cool with me.
Wait til you guys all meet each other! Miz is so cool and so is her husband. He's a scream and real easy going and fun to hang out with.
I still feel so bad for poor Ted. I know personally what it's like to have to put your mom in a safe place so you can not die. All the stress of trying to find a place and then the angst of your mom and the disease and and and.... so man oh man.
ok. so Miz and I were hanging out on the boat yesterday, it was raining and her husband left to go out for awhile and Miz and i found out that we both like serial killer stories so we watched some serial killer video on Hulu.com and then in comes the husband and Miz and I are all up in the serial killer stuff and he's like ok....... I show up here and don't know this person and now my wife and she are talking serial killers and I don't mean Wheaties.
So he's a blast and they are really a nice couple.
All of you guys! As Miz would say: Love yous!
lovbob
Sun and boats sounds good. You deserve it!
Ted, I hope you have a good week -- yuo do deserve it; don't fool yourself. Mom will be fine there -- try really hard to focus on YOU. I know it's very hard. I don't focus on me, so oook who's talkin'! LOL
Miz, hubbie and Boobie, have a great time on the BOAT - I'm jealous...snowing here AGAIN! ...Christina & Linda, how are u doing, girlies?
I have a question: I found a wonderful old picture of one of my selfish siblings, his kids and my parents (hasn't seen my parents nor making plans to see them for the last 7 months - too busy). I want to put the picture in the mail without a note - as to say -- Oh, yeah, remember these folks you shit?! They're your parents who gave you everything for years and you've abandoned them. Is that being a total jerk if I do that? I would love the feedback from this funny group!!
xoxo
Selfish
ssk
I'm determined to turn around the nasty funk I let myself get into. I think I'm most angry at myself for letting things (my Thieving Sister) get to me and screw me up the way it did. This is the beginning a new effort to create a cheerful, pleasant environment for mom (and myself) when she comes home until..... I'll worry about me later. the little bit of remaining time that mom has it's what's important, and i will NOT! let other peoples greed or lack of any bit of integrity get in the way of that.
Seeing the look on mom's face as I walked away from her yesterday was too much, F*ck everything else, I know I can step up to the plate for the however much longer this is gonna take so that's what I AM going to do.
Somehow I am going to put the ugliness of my so-called family out of my life and do whatever I can to make mom giggle and smile.
Thank you all for everything you are.
PS, Selfish- DO IT!
Hey ssk--you're energy is multiplying!
Last time we had Chinese food, my fortune cookie read: "Someone is looking up to you. Don't let that person down." I remember, because i taped it to my wall above my desk! My husband asked, "do you know who that is?" yea, Mother. He said, right. So, yes, the realization that we are admired is a good feeling.
But guess what my husband's fortune read? "You will be traveling soon and make a fortune. Have fun"! I said, "you know what that means"? he said, yea, "where" he's going. I said, you know what "have fun" means? He said, Yeah, when I GET HOME, with you". RIGHT, big boy.
He leaves sometime this month and my first greatest supporter and respite will be gone for awhile. I'll probably be here more. and I'm not worried, because we are ALWAYS here for each other.
So happy to hear collective ENERGY of Bobbie, Miz and Hubby! The serial killer thing is similar to my intrigue with psychological thrillers. If killing is involved, it figures. Movies like Seven, and The Flock, and Changeling bug the heck out of me and make me kind of sick to my stomach, however, I love Primal Fear with Ed Norton and can't think of any others at the moment. Stories about people who are being stalked but everyone thinks THEY are the crazy one and paranoid--those I really like.
Hurt my shoulder again really bad at 3:30 this morning avoiding one of my Mother's imaginary obstacles, and it's killing me, after a hour of ice. She has no idea what it takes NOT to let her down.
Have a great day everyone! Thanks for the jokes, CUZ! Thanks for the early morning incentive, SSK! Thanks for COFFEE and iCE PACKS!! I could go one and on, but eventually, I would get into trouble. I was thinking of "pillows".
LOVE ALL YOU BEAUTIFUL CAREGIVERS!! hugs, christina
Well, it sounds like something I might have done at one point, but we are all at different places. You know, SS, that hanging onto the impossible only hurts YOU. It reminds me of trying to quit smoking, which I did about 25 years ago. I had to prepare my mind before my body would accept it. Had a couple of false starts. Then, one day, at the 11th hour, that was it. You can shame and shame some people--THEY ARE NOT YOU! It wouldn't take much to shame you, would it, SS? See. "Take that, and that, and that, you miserable selfish sibling of mine"!
HUH? You would be mortified, they were just late for shopping.
It's a HUGE lesson, SS. We all have them. Bobbie said it perfectly to you a few weeks ago, if I recall. Dig out that post and read it again.
Ted, all I can say is YOU ARE SO SPECIAL! You are gonna do what you think is best way to spend your time, but please don't wear yourself out. do a little cleaning, then go to a different bar than last time. HAHAHA JUST KIDDING, TED! I understand how getting your place "just so" is rewarding and satisfying in itself. That can take a big load off your mind. You're not a Virgo, are you? LOL Could you have a little bit of R & R?
LIndaHeart:)Truecolors:) Jam:) Jen:) Headbanger:) Peach:) Cuz:) Angie:), Diane:) SSK:)SS:) Ted:) MIZ:) CAPTAIN:) my shoulder is killing me but I love you guys christina
I'm glad that Miz & hubby made it ok & are enjoying their trip & are enjoying being with Bobbie! Miz, I'm so sorry that you are still fighting the bug! Take the plunge & have the chicken soup! Jewish penicillan!! Does as much good on ya as in ya! lol Get to feeling better soon, sweetie!
I'm sorry that I've been AWOL the last little bit, but as many of you know I've been facing some medical issues myself. The ordeal has taken a major tole.
Even worse, my doctor has told me that I need to postone my trip to see Bobbie, Miz & her hubby. I'm feeling down that I can't go right now. You guys understand when you've planned on something special & are so looking forward to it & then the rug's pulled out from under you, toppling all of your wonderful plans! No black hole, just a pot hole, but an aggravating hole, just the same!
Bobbie being the wonderful friend that she is, has agreed with the doctor & has helped me to accept that I need to recouperate & I just can't go right now, but we can reschedule & we have a tentative time already so I can start planning again! Hey, I can look at it positive & remmy that planning the trip is part of the fun, right? Right! : )
I know that several of you have a personal interest in me getting to go right now, but not to worry, as there is a box on it's way to Bobbie that will take care of everything...just wish the box was refrigerator size so I could stow away in it myself!! : )
We're missing hearing from some vital crew members! Time for a role call!
Here's hoping that everybody is having a great day & a better tomorrow!
-SS
I know that you're working hard at cleaning your home & that does make a difference in how we feel, but like Christina said, please take some time out from all of the cleaning to do something fun & uplifting JUST FOR YOU!!! Balance, Bubba!!!
BIG hugs to you!!!
((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((TED))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Sistah Peach : )
Love you bunches:) christina