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Kuli, it's so good to see you. Glad you are willing yourself away from that nasty ole black hole.

Rip, so good to see you too!!

I felt pretty good yesterday evening and last night. Woke up this morning and different story. Throat hurts again and I'm tired and weak. I am so sick of this. Don't feel like I should call in sick again. Christina, yep it sure does hang on. Sorry I been whining about it everyone. I'm sure you're sick of me being sick too. :)

I so enjoyed reading the thread this morning. Was disappointed when I had read all the posts. Wanted to read more. You guys are so wonderful!!

love,
miz
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Good Morning! i woke up feeling good today, after a few bumps bringing mom back home it's seems the respite week has really worked! I highly recommend it. While sending a thank you email to the Caregiver Resource Specialist of the Area Agency on Aging who provided the vouchers for it, i wrote to her that I finally know now that it isn't a matter of choosing between caring for mom or caring for me, but a more holistic Whole-Household approach to wellness that I should be striving for. So, No Guilt!
I also woke up with the realization that what was really bugging me out so badly about my sister's crap was not that she was just stealing from us and verbally abusing me to cover for it, but that this is my big sister who shared a rough childhood with me, and who, before we went seperate ways, I had looked up to and depended on as a child. So i guess i was reacting more to the loss of that person than to the practical garbage.
So be it. she has moved on and of course we have all changed over the years. Now I can put it all behind me and move on myself.

Spring is definitely in the air here, I saw my first sprig of green on my tulip bulbs this morning. So hang on Miz and everyone, things are about to get warm and wonderful and healthy again. I promise.
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Headbanger, please show me some shit that goes uphill!
Kuli welcome back.
Ted, I think that in three more months you could take another week of respite, and this time go for a real vacation!
More later.
Linda, I can wash your dishes if you dust my bookshelves. I love washing dishes and I hate dusting!
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Good Morning, Crew! Gosh, you guys were busy yesterday!!!

Bobbie!!! I hope you're now in a "chicken-free" zone & feeling better!!! Congrats on getting the boat back in the water! I'm sorry that I missed you! Also sorry that you're short on minutes! Please let us know how you're doing! Miss you!

Deef, Congrats on 10,000th post! You go girl! I'm really sorry to hear about hubby's job! It really irks me when some new so-in-so comes in & disrupt what's already working just to put their mark on the situation! Just not right! I pray that he'll find an even better job than he had with the scoundrals! Keep us updated!

SSK, I'd love to hear more about your site...can you post on FB & we can "legally" share the info there?

I'm sorry that so many of you are having a difficult time with your charges, right now! Full moon! Seems like it effects everything the week of, two weeks before & a week after, too! Hope things will level out for you really soon!

RIP!!! LOVE DUSTY!!! Beautiful baby! So glad that you guys have found each other! We need photos of you & her together! How is Sir??

Christina, hope your Mom is resting now & letting you get some more sleep, too! Enjoyed chatting with you this morning!

I'm watching on tv, right now, that there's a pastor, Otis Clark, here in the US, who is 108 years old! Still in good shape & takes no medication! He's scheduled to go on a mission trip to Jamaca this year! Amazing!

Headbanger, you're so funny! We have such amazing writers on here! RIP, Jen, Christina, Linda, everybody!!!

Kuli...It was great to hear from you! Hope you're doing good!

Linda, SO glad that Pa is feeling better! Please post a photo of your new do when you can. You too, JAM!

Miz, Are you feeling better? Sure hope so! Are the antibiotics working yet? Don't forget to take some acedolophus (sp?) to help prevent a yeast infection. Those things are nasty! Happy belated BD to your cutie pie!

Diane, Miz, Mary & Bobbie, thank you guys SO much for caring about me & what's going on! I'm feeling some better & gaining a little strength each day! YEAH! 'Bout time! : ) Still eating lots of protein & resting as much as I can. Ice Cream seems to help A LOT!!! lol

We've had a very challenging week, as hubby had his first appointment with his new neurologist in Chattanooga, on Monday. She is the one that the neurologist at Vanderbilt recommended so he wouldn't have to travel as far. 30 minutes v/s 3-4 hours one way! To me that showed the oc at Vandy really cared about what happens with him instead of being all about the buck!

IF THIS PART OFFENDS ANYBODY, I'M REALLY SORRY, BUT IT'S A REAL PART OF THIS DISEASE & I NEED SOME INPUT FROM YOU GUYS ON WHAT TO DO!!! The new doc is keeping him on carbadopa/levadopa & has added another med, Mirapex, that he's not been on before. It has a LONG list of side effects, some being pretty bad. It's making him very sick to his stomach, & dizzy. He's staying in the bed a lot more since he's started the new med. Also, the doc said that it would make him VERY, hummmm..."loving"!!! BINGO!!! We have a winner!!! Driving me, I started to say "nuts", but decided on "bonkers" instead! lol The other med was bad at this side effect, but this new one is making the situation a lot worse!!! He's worse than a teenage boy & I can't keep up!!! Right now I don't have the energy or desire to! Suggestions??? Even if they're funny, that's ok!!! I know you guys can have all kinds of fun with this one!!! lol Again, I'm so sorry to bring up this personal of a post, but this is the "grossed out?" "need to vent" thread, right?? I know it's personal, but so is talking about poop issues & this one is very real to me & the loved one I'm caring for! Help is greatly appreciated!

OH, we did do something kinda fun Monday for Valentine's Day. We went to a wedding! Sweet, but RED NECK!!! BIG TIME!!! Second wedding for both the bride & groom. The groom had on a nice black tux, very classy...kinda cowboy looking with his hairstyle & stance! The 55ish year old bride, well...she is a little hefty & had on a strapless hot pink "prom" gown, complete with sequins & a tiara in an "up do" hairstyle! The other guys...black & white...classy! The other girls...Black & hot pink non-matching short baby-doll looking dresses...one with a leopard print across the chest. The wedding party looked like the classy cowboy, the prom queen, & the hookers! The reception...well, let's just say it was interesting!!! The couple had to be reminded that they were in a church! I heard "get a room" more than once! They got a little carried away! lol Good cake, though!!! It's all about the cake at weddings, right?? lol

I'm gonna try to post some photos of Bobbie's bear that you guys wanted & of the jacket & shirt, on FB.

Hope everybody, Rossella, True, SS, pirate, cuz, Ted, Bonnie & everybody else are having a great morning with no mishaps!

Hugs,
peach
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Rosella, as a matter of fact the cargiver specialist told me today that she still has another $960 towrds respite care for me until june when the new fiscal year starts and more is allotted! I'm gonna take full advantage of this and NOT let myself wear down that far again.

Sistah Peach! Maybe Hubby needs a "CNA" of his own? it might fall under respite care for YOU!
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Two businessmen in Florida were sitting down for a break in their soon-to-be new store. As yet, the store wasn't ready, with only a few shelves set up.

One said to the other, "I bet any minute now some senior is going to walk by, put his face to the window, and ask what we're selling."

No sooner were the words out of his mouth when, sure enough, a curious senior walked to the window, had a peek, and in a soft voice asked, "What are you selling' here?"

One of the men replied sarcastically, "We're selling ass-holes."

Without skipping a beat, the old timer said, "Must be doing well...only two left."

thought everyone could use a laugh..........

Guess I will start my wonderful day now......I so enjoy cleaning dirty butts, wiping up doggie pee, cleaning others homes, fixing HOT meals and throwing them at col. I'm just venting about someone else, somewhere else here. Hugz to all of you and please don't forget to smile when your momma, daddy, gp, gm, is able to have a bowel movement.......;)
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Peach!

1. Go to Grocery Store.
2. Buy fresh Broccoli.
3. Go home.
4. Take fat rubber band off broccoli
5. Use fat rubber band to thwack hubby on Pecker.
6. Read book.
lovbob
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LOL Bobbie!! Was worried you were gonna tell her to do something with the broccoli!!
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I juet bought Broccoli starter plants at the hardware store this morning. No rubber bands THANK GOD!
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Yeh, me too, Miz!!! lol
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Peach, I know how you feel. My husband is like that too. No meds. He used to be a bull rider in the Ellensburg Rodeo, and he has never forgotten the thrill of the ride. He was a bit of a redneck when I met him. Told y'all a few weeks back, so won't repeat myself. Think you missed that one, Headbanger, but I'm sure you will come up with a good story anyway LOL!
I can't wait:))),
Anyway, I have not found a way to cool off my husband, and I use the broccoli rubber bands to close up bags of nuts-- like pecans and almonds, girls--. I also use them on my door handles to hook the two together when I need to hold the door open--bringing in groceries, etc.
Anyone heard from SSK? Bless her heart, it was like a flash flood yesterday, and whoosh, she was gone. Please tell us if anyone has heard--here, or fb. I still do not understand how to do anything but chat on there. It drives me crazy, like I really am from another planet and I got off the wrong bus. Airbus. Hey, and I know when someone is thinking that about me, so watch out...
Have to interview cgs today for the weekend shift. If anyone is available, please let me know. We have lots of fun at my house, at all hours of the day and night.
Wine, See's candy, Tipperillos. JK-- I mean margaritas.
Have a great day, Friends. Happy Gardening, Ted and HB, and whoever else is able to already:))) Love it! Hugs, Christina
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Ted the Catskills will come back but very different Deefer definatly look into cobra for your insurance-we are have a warm spell here still lots of snow and ice around.
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I hate this time of day, I absolutely hate it. From now till bedtime it is what I call "the uglies". She is into everything, talking to the top of her lungs, going in and out the front door, doing her Darth Vader impression.Went to take laundry out of the dryer, she was getting in the fridge , eating the margarine out of the tub with her hands........I threw the damned stuff away. She is pacing from door(they are locked) to door, screaming she is going to get a hammer and bust my head open.. Isn't caregiving fun and rewarding!!!!
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oh ladee - im so sorry today is stressing you out . full moon out so they ll get crazier ,
she sounds like my mother in law , there would be no way i could handle her and i hope i never have to .
hurry up bed time !! so u can get a break . is there anything u can give her to make her calm down and be in lala land when she gets out of hand ? sounds mean but shit i think its for the best . if it was me i prob be takin that meds instead .
lazy day today didnt do much , was going to run to po but never made it . took a nap instead and now i have meat potatoes carrots all in the oven ready to come out to chow chow ..
u all have a peaceul evening , be ckin again later xoxo
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Ladeeda, yes, you have to find the right stuff (med) to give her. Otherwise... How many evenings like this one can you stand?
Peach.... Enjoy yourself and think of us, poor ones, who spend their nights kissing cats!
Christina... the same applies to you. Never complain about this kind of things!
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Hello Everyone.... Just wanted to check in and say Hey to all... I am doing OK, considering all of the events.... Just working through everything. But I know that I am strong and I know that I have a strong family here, and believe me, just knowing all of you really helps me get through my day..... Hope everyone is well.... News Flash my sister is moving to illinois, outside of st louis.... so for anyone out that way, we could possibly meet. Hopefully in the near future will be meeting with Kathy, since she is my area. Each and everyone of you are in my everyday thoughts and prayers and I will be back real soon with all of you.. Just wanted to keep you updated.... love and hugs to all...
Angie
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The elderly are like children?...Psychotic children, with an abhorrence to bathing... maybe good god bust yer head with a hammer....Maybe this behavior is what is behind over medication issues over the years...I am all for it!

Still here reading just not much to write of late....Hope miz and deef are doing better...hi to every one...
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Yes J they are so like children....lol
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Went to work today. Throat hurts but I will live. There are so many with larger problems than mine. Hubby and I are going house hunting on Saturday I think. We can't afford much but it will be ours. We think we will stay here in town for the time being and plan to move at some later time. It seems like our money will go the farthest in this place we call home. :( I really wanted to get out of here but we gotta be practical. I'm gonna have to be looking for a full time job sometime soon. I'd hate to leave where I am and it's really good for now and has been. They probably kinda expect it. Unless I can get another part time job to fill the void. It's just that darn health insurance. Gotta have it and pay way too much for it right now.

Angie, so very nice to see you. Big hugs to you my dear.

I should be around tonight. See yas later.

love,
miz
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Big Hugs to you Miz.... and good for you..... Its not easy but you are not alone......
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The thing is, duct tape doesn't work as well as it does with kids.
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rossellamex, I would put her on something but the family will not listen to me. This day just got crazier and crazier. As she is going from locked door to locked door, trying to get out, screaming at the top of her lungs, I sat passivley by as I know any interaction only escalates the situation. I noticed she was putting things in her diaper. When i tried to check, she swung and hit me in the head. I only held her arms so she could not do this again and down she went. I thought ok, at least now I can check her diaper. She had three butter knives and a banana in her pants.... I would have given anything to have seen the look on my own face. How did she do this without me knowing, you ask, well, I did go to the laundry room, I did go to the bathroom, because this went on for almost three hours!!!!!And nothing will get done medicine wise until I tell them I am going to quit. Guess this is why I get upset when I read people putting down paid caregivers. And yes there are plenty of lousy paid caregivers, and then every now and then there are lousy families. As Dr. Phil says, no matter how flat a pancake is, it still has two sides.
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Ladee, i think you really need to tell her doctor about this and insist on meds. someone is getting hurt, and you are gonna wear out fast. I'm surprised and impressed that you lasted this long!
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Totally agree w Ted...
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It's just unreasonable to put you through all of that when the right right meds could make her more relaxed and comfortable.
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It's best for the caregiver AND the person being taken care of. Can you imagine the distress they are BOTH under??
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Thanks Ted, my feeling exactly. This is such a bizarre situation here. They will put her in a nursing home, ( where they took her out of because she was "overmedicated") None of this family wants any hands on care with her, but sideline micro-managing.seems to be the norm. I wish I did not have a heart, a work ethic, a concenciuos (maybe I don't if I cant spell it!lol) and could just walk the hell away from this mess. Something will happen, I do have a good rapport with the son-in-law. But I will walk away before my health goes to hell. I am 60 yrs. old and not a spring chicken anymore.I just want the best care for the old thing, as mad as I am this evening, that never changes.
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I understand and agree with the idea of being careful not to overmedicate, but thats not a reason to undermedicate.
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I hope you can get some help with her ladeeda...this situation sounds dangerous for you!
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Since it would require she be taken to the Dr. for right meds, this is not going to happen. I have asked many times that she get a good check up , ect. and let me go in with her, because I am the one with her all the time. I was met with a lecture on how to deal with her. Apparently the daughter has major issues with meds. I do not have the energy or brain cells to figure this stupid family out. But I will keep nagging until something is done. I do not need the extra stress of the family, but it is what it is. I do not think for one moment I am a hero here, I just care what happens to her, that is why I am in the field I am in.
I can not tell you all how much I appreciate the words of acknowledgement I have receiver here tonite. I so need to be heard. Thank you from the bottom of my tired heart..
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