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Dear Princess Jam,
We must find a new do for COL, one that she can "moisten with her fingers"-----ew ew ew!!! Moisten with WHAT, Jam?!?!
I don't do hair anymore, except my hubby's cuts every 2 weeks.
BUT, as you know, I am always willing to be of assistance in one way or another.
How old is she?! Likes to wear it Long? How long? Put it in a pony tail and put one of those hot rollers under her bangs, then you can grab her by the tail when things get unbearable, the bangs will poof and draw more attention to her gorgeous eyes, which will bug out from the g-force. That's one solution. (a la "Maxine". Not OUR Maxine)
It it's totally straight, a perm with white and purple rods (NOT pink and blue) with a layered cut to her shoulders, but Heaven's, not any longer, or she will have to work both sides of the street.
That's another solution.
Whatever, you must get rid of all small hair appliances or doodads she might try to use on doggie. You don't want her messing with the curling iron near a puddle of doggie piddle. Let's not visualize steaming anything.
I am glad you are having a lovely tart day, Jam:) you deserve it, and a cream puff, too. I'm just waiting for 5 o'clock.
(the absence of many friends here is heavy on me today. My thoughts and love go out to all you sweet things. christina
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HB, Grandma will be in my thoughts and prayers, hoping it is nothing serious, just a tiny setback. Ruth struggles for words all the time, but she does not have the same health issues.
Peach how are things with your family? Thinking of you today.
I do not feel good, the family has the flu, I hope I am not getting it. I'm sure I'll be expected to care for Ruth regardless,..Picture my hands up by my head, I am shaking them and saying "I am the victim, I am the victim" lol
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Hi guys Maxine here Jam you could try calling the insurance compamy but if you have the policy read it firsrt so if you find anything like what you need you will be able to fight and do not take no for an answer ask to speak to someone highter even if you have to tell a small fib-also I was thinking you could call your local office for the aging and see if they have low cost aides available-its worth a try-I learned to turn over every stone to try to get help I was even going to take him to day here we can get it low cost at our senior center and they even have a bus but they are a little fussy who they take. We had some snow last night but not too much but our warm weather is a thing of the past-I have a lunch date set up for next week with a man who lives pretty close so I am going closer to where he lives. I forget who is going to India-my grand-daughter is there now in college-it will be getting real warm there soon when she went in Jan it was in the 50's but expects it to be in the high 90's before she leave in April-watch the monkeys they will steal treats from your hands and pockets and will gang up on you. I am wishing you all a peaceful night's sleep I remember I would pray just for one good night's sleep.
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BABY HENS!!! Oh LORD, here we go... just finished eating chicken sandwich's with cranberries left over from our little cornish hen dinner last night. A friend was over and said the word, "baby", telling mom how much she just loves them..... Well.... now mom's upset cause she ate their little legs, now they can't walk without them, she says. Dad puts his two cents worth in and says, "Hell, Vera, why are you worrying about their little legs, I just finished off their bodies?" So, you don't have to worry about them anymore. Mom turns to me confused and says, " Are they in heaven now with that elephant? " LOL!!! I can't believe she still has that elephant on her mind from when the therapist was here, go figure! :)
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OMG HB!! I am so excited and happy for you!! What a trip of a lifetime!! Yes, take lots of pictures. Maybe you can get online over there and let us know how things are going??

love,
miz
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cuz, I'm so sorry for all the snow. I SO want to move somewhere warmer. Maybe someday. I LOVED your Banister of Life post. :)
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Thank You Jen and Peach for the Happy Birthdays!! :)
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Thank YOU, Peach for doing this for everyone. Very nice of you and a good idea about folks picking out their own shirts. :) Love you!!
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I can see it now...
Head banger in command of an India call center ...
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LOL Christina. That was so good and hilarious. Jam, I am glad you are away and things are going okay with COL and that your hubby is having a retirement send off. Enjoy!!
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Hi Everyone. I don't have an update on my MIL today. Hubby is sleeping and if he doesn't wake up soon I will call my SIL. Thanks so much for all the good wishes, thoughts and prayers. Please God I can't lose her too.

Peach & Everyone, cubby is doing okay. I worry that he thinks his mom is going to die because he told his sister maybe she should go ahead and take her to Hawaii on vacation and his sister said I know what you are getting at but she and I both said it would be too hard on her. It would be a very long flight. I'm doing okay. I'm sad tonight because one of the girls I work with was pregnant and found out this morning that she lost the baby. I feel so bad for her. My sore throat is totally gone. I'm still tired though. I feel like I've been tired forever. I had a really nice dinner with my friend tonight. She's an angel. Such a gift from God. I will keep you all posted on my MIL as soon as I know anything. Love and hugs to all of you.

love,
miz
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Peach, I am so sorry about your mom's sister. I will pray. Please let us know what is going on with her.

love,
miz
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HB, I hope your grandma bounces back nicely. It's so hard to see that happen to people you love. I'm so sorry. Please let us know.
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LOL Rip. "This is Peggy." :))
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Just had another piece of that cake. It's soooo good. Back on normal eating plan tomorrow. Or maybe not. Still cheesecake left at work my boss made me for my birthday. Hmmm. What to do, what to do. :)
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Just called my SIL. Poor girl, she is so tired. My MIL had a bad spell today, dizziness, nausia, incoherency, and such. They did a scan on her brain and that came back okay. They did an ultrasound on her heart and it looks okay. They think the pain is from one of the blood clots. She is VERY tired. The plan is tomorrow they will probably move her to Rockford which is about an hour north and is a much larger town. Probably more sophisticated hospital and maybe better doctors. I told her if she needs hubby to just let us know and we will work something out. I hate that she is going through this alone. I know what that's like. I mean without other siblings. She does not work (has 3 kids so that is work) outside the home so that helps and her in-laws are close so they can watch the two younger kids. Please keep praying and thank you all so much for your concern. Love yous!!

miz
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Love the little patches Barbara B crew rock on!

Hope everyone is well, I slept all day literally... Didn't feel like playing psychological torture with my mother...she is up at 5 Monty threw up, she told me to get him something to eat, I give him some chicken breast off the chicken we had last night...she is up at 9 regular breakfast time, did you feed him at 5? "yes..." "What?" "Chicken" "How much?" "About a quarter of a cup.." huffy pissy I have no idea...last night I gave him LESS chow becasue she has been feeding him too much people food and the vet said even it out, more chow less food or more food less chow... "I have not been giving him that much people food.." I mean no matter WHAT I do it is wrong...I am thinking it won't be a good idea to look after my mom if she needs it...she said she'd rather be in a assisted living place any way,...she must know why...

I am gonna go back to bed...see if I can sleep another 15 hours. Who cares.

Hope miz you mil is doing OK and Pirates mom any news on hospice bed?

Hi to everyone...
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Did the snow thing again today. Had about 6" last night. Shoveled 3 dryways am and then went out to my youngest house about 35 mile one way and used his blower on his driveway for 3 hours. He had about 11" and his drive is 550' long. Took 2 tanks of gas to get it done. At least we didn't get the freezing rain. That was 5o miles south of us. They are talking rain maybe Thursday so will probably shovel roof off tommorro after I get back from taking MIL to doctor. Shes 93 but gets around pretty good with a walker. No jokes tonight so have a great night
Luv ya all Cuz
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Hi cuz, we had a little snow yeaterday here in MA , but nothing like you are going through! After having a warmer week last week, it's not fun going back to this cold weather! It's nice of you to pitch in and help your kids with their driveways.
I'm just checking in but nothing happening here yet to talk about.
lov, ssk
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Cuz, Thanks for all you do:))) Removing snow and giving us jokes. My Mother is 93, too, but she cannot use a walker. It would trip her up, and we would have one more problem. Must be the dementia thing--can't figure it out.
She mentioned "giving up her job " the other night; a perfectly good job. I later deciphered her comment to mean, "giving up her Driver's License". The clue was telling me a Police Officer stopped her a couple of times, and she was laughing hysterically. We love it when that happens, because that means she is remembering happy things and not "worried about something". Whew. Then she asked me ( I'm not making this stuff up), "What do you think would happen if I tried to get my driver's license again"? Well, Mother, I think the Police Officer would be following you around quite a bit.
She then asked me if I remembered why she gave up her DL. I said, "I think it was that time you got lost; your "ON STAR" tracking service came on and asked if you needed assistance. You told them to shut up and leave you alone, then you told your husband to cancel the service, and he wouldn't let you drive without it. You said you got tired of them talking to you every time you got into the car, and decided you just wouldn't drive anymore. Oh, also, because you couldn't see and kept hitting the trash cans in the garage.
Oh Yea, she said, and closed her eyes. That was a good night.
Thanks again, Cuz. Love your jokes, ( especially the one about the idiot politicians and the airport guy. shh. don't tell bobbie)
Be careful out there! Hugs, christina
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Hi ssk, was up at 3:30 with Mother, then decided to look for another caregiver for the weekend online. Mother thinks she is a man and we have terrible weekend nights because the cg won't "Lie down with her" omg. Going to make coffee for hubby now. It is very cold here and it feels like snow, but I know there isn't any:( I mean :) Love and Hugs, christina
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Hi all!, I'm still but i'm still having trouble with my wi-fi and I think mom has has another little tia. I's hard to catch up with you guys when I let it go for too long, But I do want some grossed out apparel, (who do I send a baseball cap too again?)
And I'm DEFINATELY in on the reality show though we may have to cast actors for my siblings part because unless they believe it will hurt me in some way, they won't do it.

Love you all, Thanks to grandma for the prayers, lately I have to hedge my bets anyway I can!
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Good Morning, Ted. Send your cap to Georgia Peach. :)
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HI Ted--Send items to Peach. You can get her address on fb.
Should we try to get the girl from "Jennifer's Body" to play your sister? I'm gonna get AnnMargaret to play my sister, with that cute little giggle and "all booked up for the week" attitude. Maybe Eric Roberts in his best bad boy persona to play my brother; just out of the clinker, needs a job but doesn't want one, just give him some of Mom's money. That type. Waiting to hear from SelfishSibs if she wants to go with housewives from NJ or the 'Twilight" cast for hers.
Prayers go up automatically from those of us who believe and pray when we care about our friends and their needs. Think of it as a little insurance policy, or a handful of Blessings, no charge. Love ya, Brother.
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OK, who stole the real Ruth during the night??? The one that is here this morning,slept all night and got up in a great mood. Laughing, wanting to share her breakfast. Who ever has the real one, please keep her for a day or two, it would be greatly appreciated.
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ladeeda, I took her. We're sitting here drinking coffee and smoking cigs. ;)

Well my sore throat is back. Hubby is getting ready to go check out some houses. He's got about 30!! He's gonna take me to work later and keep looking. Bless his cute sweet heart. I sure hope we find something soon. I can't wait to get settled in our own place. Thank God Spring is coming. And, our kitties turn two today!! Happy Birthday to them!! :)) I really need to get some stuff done around here this morning. Our shower and tub are growing science experiments. Eww. Where are those darn cleaning fairies?? Probably on strike. I hope everyone has a decent day. Hope our Captain checks in. Love yous!!

love,
miz
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LOL, Ladeeda! Isn't that weird when it happens? I do the same thing when my Mother is unusually different. It's like a combo of "Invasion of the Stepford Wives Bodysnatchers."
Enjoy it while you can!!!
Well, we have major water coming up between the planks of my beautiful wood floor, right outside of Mother's room. Leak detector's coming in 1 hour, and major construction to happen for a few days. Dust, noise, and no water for 3 days. hahahaha
All righty, then. Off to the library, the mall, the ice cream store, See's candy, the neighbors for water in 5 gallon bottles to pour down the toilets, showers at the --wait, I don't have a gym membership any more.
Mother is awake now. Breakfast, then trying to figure out how to keep her out of harm's way. Think I'l send her to Miz's to have a smoke with Ruth. Maybe they'll decide to make some banana pudding. See you all really later. Have a good one. Hugs, C
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I took my mother to Rome yesterday for the visit at the Alz centre and as it was Monday morning we were afraid to go by car because of the commuters traffic. SO we decided to take the train (8 in the morning). (My mother, my helper Daniela, myself and the wheelchair). We looked like the Red Cross. 90% of the underground stations in Rome are wheelchair inaccessible, so my mother climbed the stairs with Daniela and I carried the ((heavy)) wheelchair up the steps! We'll never do it again. The only positive thing is that many, many young people, both sex, stopped and asked us if we needed help. I was really surprised by that. I had thought they would have stepped over us.
Anyway we arrived at the Centre and weI talked with a very good doctor who listened to us and looked at our medical records and talked to my mother for over one hour. In the end she said that my mother is well beyond the Aricept stage, (too late, useless) but she gave us an antidepressant which is compatible with Seroquel, so we are going to try it and we hope we'll be happier from now on...
That's all for today!
I have a lot of work so I kiss you all and I disappear for the evening....
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guys i'm freaking out my sister just showed up at the door demanding to see my mother, she lives in NY and she didn't call or tell me she was coming and I told she wasn't allowed in my house and that I would bring mom to see her where she was staying but she said I couldn't hold mom hostage and had to bring her out now. I called 911 but they didn't get here fast enough and I tried to stall, Jesus this isinsane. The cops spoke to her on the way out of the driveway before I could taqlk to them, they said I should wait 2 hours and try mom's phone and If I thought something was wrong then I shoulod call them back. Has she kidnapped her? or taken her to a laqwyers office to make her sign everything over to her? i'm freaking out, this is screwed up. I had appts today that I can't go to. I see now that mom left the house without her jacket or teeth I never should have let them go but I was so freaked out the she at my door after all that she did already and I wouldn't keep mom from seeing her kids and I don't have that right but what is this all about? I called our lawyer but didn't speak to her and my counselor but he wasn't in or at home. This insane!!!!The thief hasn't seen my mom in 20 years and she shows up and takes her away??? I can't deal with this kind of crap atALL.
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Oh wow, Ted. I would be freaking out too. I don't understand why your sister would do that. Is she psycho? Hopefully they will be back soon and you can find out what she did. If she did have your mom sign everything over to her you can definitely fight that. As caregiver, if my mom had ran out of money, I could have had the house signed over to ME. I don't know your whole finances story and such and that is your business but you know we will all help you through this. Damn it!! Just when you were starting to feel pretty good about things!! I'm so sorry.

love,
miz
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