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HB...you got it....unlike pain meds or benzos that can have a "quick fix" this takes a little time to build up in the system and do it's magic.
Bought a new "undies pail" to put in col bathroom....she actually changed herself yesterday.....I think she just wanted to play with the little "trap door" on the top...:) Saw last night that she had put herself to bed but bedroom light was still on, so went down and there she is lying on her back sound asleep, but I notice something odd about her face....but if I get too near she might wake up..:O.....so I creep around the bed and turn off the light and DAMN it speaks....so I creep a little closer....she has face cream in HUGE globs on her forehead, eyes, hanging out of her nose, on her chin.....I finally had to get a tissue to wipe it off.....it wasn't absorbing.....my hands were nice and soft though.....:)
I finally raised the white flag yesterday after finding more bologna lying around everywhere. Told her I would continue to push meds down doggie's throat when he is infected, but I will no longer work to get some weight off of him since she is non-compliant.....he probably has diabetes due to the weight...and who knows whether the tumor on his butt is malignant or not....but it is all up to her. I said if the tumor is malignant he will die from that.....if it isn't and he has diabetes he will eventually die from that.....you're the boss applesauce, his care depends on whether or not you want him to live. We will see what happens.....end result is that they are so devoted to each other that when she goes I am sure he will follow....his little heart would be so broken.
Mascara Saga.......she agreed to brown yesterday....won't last long and she will be back to whining about black....but now she has added something new to her list......she wants a self-tanner! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I'm going to start a poll...what do you think she will think of next?
I'd be happy if my $hit made number 2. That would be so fitting.
Since this TP resistant line of pooh-smack began here. It is only fitting that I give a shout out to GROSSED and the crew of the BB. However that helps it would be awesome.
More caregivers need to know that venting keeps the lid from blowing off your crapper.
I still wonder....is it too soon for this type of humor to be funny? Elder home care is still becoming a baby boomer phenomena. Is the world ready to point and laugh at this silly-sh*t?
What about the "pooh" that is smeared all over the toilet seat....does that count? And yes, we got through Saturday bath without any mishaps*...probably a good thing since my lower back is hurting so bad....
HB, my cousin is an actress and a friend of hers is an actor and director (he is not famous outside of Italy, but he did some "serious" works at the theater and on TV). I have known him since we were 20 years old. Well, the thing he is proudest about (after a long and satisfactory career) is a number of crazy poems that he wrote when he was young. One of them concerns the smells and the disgusting things the human body produces. He does not specifically talks about poop, but he talks about the smell of the armpits, the material which heaps between your toes when you don't wash your feet... the "wax" which heaps between your buttocks when you don't wash them... It is so hilarious that every time I see him I ask him to read that poem. And he is not offended. He does not say " I have made good theater, I have worked with great actors". No, he is so proud of the silly poems he wrote when he was a young boy! Art is everywhere, my dear. I think I'll send him the translation of your poopwork. Ladeeda, have you seen? One day without you and the asshole relatives are already giving Ruth drugs. Of course, it's them who have to take care of her, so they understand... Stay in bed as long as you can. Please don't get up in two days! Let them take their own medicine. night everybody I have to work for my gas bill!
Get a new toothbrush. I'm sorry but, I just don't see things like that as a big deal anymore. She does it because she thinks it's right. I would just put the right brush in her hand
i recently was asked to help male customer with his going to the bathroom and cleaning him and changing him i have only cooked for the couple until now i do not feel comfortable helping with the bathroom area.. what can i do or say
Rossella....Your story is hilarious. I was laughing so hard my husband had to ask me what I was reading. I totally understand the pride taken in those works. Those human interpretations were entirely his own.
To everyone: You guys are so awesome.
Gypsy....You decide what limits need to be set. If you aren't comfortable helping with bathroom duty then tell them. If you are happy cooking and overseeing the menus then stick to what you know.
Tell them "I am a cook, unless you want me to chop it up and cook it I don't want to see it."
Unfortunately the couple are probably going to need more help with personal care in their future. I honestly can tell you that not many people who end up providing care to elders are totally at ease and happy to assist another adult with using the toilet and cleaning up after it. I do it because it has to be done but I don't like it.
welcome gypsy, castleb, airamk , alot of us are so happy to have found this site that bobbie has created . this thread is a lifesaver for us all . vent , cry all you want and we are here to lean a shoulders and we also cry and vent out too , learn alot also . we have become a family , new families , i love all my crews here and it is a blessing . jsomebody - hope ure feeling better today . tummy ache suxs.
gypsy - u mentin not begin comfertable about takin this guy to the bathroom . why is that ? is he makin a woo woo on you or what ? ifhe s not doingthat u will get used to it , as i am to my dad , i felt very incomfertable and so did he , says it isnt right for his daughter to see his private area , i told him i wont look and somebodys gotta do it . so now it doesnt bother us one bit , gotten used to it . doesnt bother us at all now .
boring night sat night , playing games on internet , not winnin anything , mmm time for somemore see s candy :-) miz- hows ur mil ? hope shes perkin up some . my sis s ex mil is dying they shut off the ox and unplug the iv etc , let her go natural , family s makin funeral arngements , so sad , im worried about the hubby , he s got kid so im sure he be in a good hands , will ck in again later on , ciggy time ,,,, xoxox
This is a true story, proving how fascinating the mind of a six year old is. They think so logically. A teacher was reading the story of the Three Little Pigs to her class. She came to the part of the story where first pig was trying to gather the building materials for his home. She read. 'And so the pig went up to the man with the wheelbarrow full of straw and said: 'Pardon me sir, but may I have some of that straw to build my house?' The teacher paused then asked the class: 'And what do you think the man said?' One little boy raised his hand and said very matter-of-factly... 'I think the man would have said - 'I'll be a son of a bitch!! A talking pig!'
Old people have problems that you haven't even considered yet !
An 85-year-old man was told by the Doctor that he needed a sperm count as part of his physical exam. The doctor gave the man a jar and said, 'Take this jar home and bring back a semen sample tomorrow.'
The next day the 85-year-old man reappeared at the doctor's office and gave him the jar, which was as clean and empty as on the previous day. The doctor asked what happened and the man explained, 'Well, doc,it's like this -- first I tried with my right hand, but nothing. Then I tried with my left hand, but still nothing. Then I asked my wife for help. She tried with her right hand, then with her left, still nothing. She tried with her mouth, first with the teeth in, then with her teeth out, still nothing. We even called up Arleen, the lady next door and she tried too, first with both hands, then an armpit, and she even tried squeezin' it between her knees, but still nothing.'
The doctor was shocked! 'You asked your neighbor?'
The old man replied,'Yep, none of us could get the jar open.'
Well my goodness......He** froze over tonight!!!!! The col put herself to bed, turned off the lights.....guess I ought to go look at her face again......my hands are little dry....:)
OK ya'll, after the initial shock of being wounded in the line of duty, remembering some of my hysterical words, caused by fear of "what is going to happen to me now", I realize how dramatic the words"I have no where to go" sounded. I have a nephew here in town that I could go stay with if I have to. I think that ever since Hurricane Rita, my life being turned up side down, that I lean toward hysterical thinking and wording. I did not mean to mislead anyone, and I know a few of you have opened your homes to me. That is so awesome it makes me cry....But I am a survivor and it was just fear talking. I do not have to tell anyone here about the level of exhaustion we get to,all the other stuff that comes with that. So, with all that being said, and still not knowing how this is going to turn out, I want all of you to know how much you all mean to me. We laugh, we cry, we vent, and then we come together in one big pile of loving caring people who have each other, support each other, send each other hugs across the miles. I doubt I am done with the drama, but at least ya'll know, that I know how I can get when my future is shaky. Again thanks to you all for the love and support. And gypsy,castleb, and airamk, do not hesitate to share here. This thread is more than things that gross us out. It is our local hangout where you will be accepted, not shamed for the way you feel and think, Given group hugs when you do not think you can put one foot in front of the other. And laugh, OMG we do alot of that. I pray you find the support you are looking for here as it is available free of charge. Thank you all for being patient with me while I had my little breakdown, maybe I can get out of myself and be present for others today....God, I wish I had some banana pudding... love you all bigger than the sky...
Ladee, No need to explain, I've put myself and my finances so far down at the bottom of the list that every now and then I have a complete freak-out thinking about what happens to ME when my work is done. I had been counting on a promise my dad made to me before he died but someone else has broken that promise for him after he died, and so now I'm stuck between a a rock and a really hard place, Can't work on building up any money for myself while caring for mom, and I'll be out on the street when she goes. I do have friends that I know would help, but I completely understand your fears and frustrations for the future. Where are we to go when It's our time? Who will care for us? It's that very thought that makes me feel lucky that I have been able to do this for mom, If I weren't here she would be alone in the world herself.
Thank you "Terd". Guess if you and I are still alive later we will have to take care of each other. We can go to my nephews farm where there is no electricity, and live off the land. Plant taters, feed the chickens, milk the cows, and play dominos at the rickety old picnic table. We can wrangle cows, check the oil wells and put our pointy toed boots on and go kick the eyes out of rattlesnakes. That's the way we do things here in Texas.I'll probably still be in this wheelchair, and you'll be running your hands thru your hair waiting for the evil sister to show up. Let me know if that sounds like a plan. I really need to start planning for my future..LOL love ya and thanks for the support. So happy to see you are getting back to your "happy place" love ya....
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Bought a new "undies pail" to put in col bathroom....she actually changed herself yesterday.....I think she just wanted to play with the little "trap door" on the top...:) Saw last night that she had put herself to bed but bedroom light was still on, so went down and there she is lying on her back sound asleep, but I notice something odd about her face....but if I get too near she might wake up..:O.....so I creep around the bed and turn off the light and DAMN it speaks....so I creep a little closer....she has face cream in HUGE globs on her forehead, eyes, hanging out of her nose, on her chin.....I finally had to get a tissue to wipe it off.....it wasn't absorbing.....my hands were nice and soft though.....:)
I finally raised the white flag yesterday after finding more bologna lying around everywhere. Told her I would continue to push meds down doggie's throat when he is infected, but I will no longer work to get some weight off of him since she is non-compliant.....he probably has diabetes due to the weight...and who knows whether the tumor on his butt is malignant or not....but it is all up to her. I said if the tumor is malignant he will die from that.....if it isn't and he has diabetes he will eventually die from that.....you're the boss applesauce, his care depends on whether or not you want him to live. We will see what happens.....end result is that they are so devoted to each other that when she goes I am sure he will follow....his little heart would be so broken.
Mascara Saga.......she agreed to brown yesterday....won't last long and she will be back to whining about black....but now she has added something new to her list......she wants a self-tanner! OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think I'm going to start a poll...what do you think she will think of next?
Love and Hugz to all of you!!!!!!!
Since this TP resistant line of pooh-smack began here. It is only fitting that I give a shout out to GROSSED and the crew of the BB. However that helps it would be awesome.
More caregivers need to know that venting keeps the lid from blowing off your crapper.
I still wonder....is it too soon for this type of humor to be funny? Elder home care is still becoming a baby boomer phenomena. Is the world ready to point and laugh at this silly-sh*t?
Ponders pooh....
HB
"You GO Girl!"
Though I don't think they mean it the same way.
And yes, we got through Saturday bath without any mishaps*...probably a good thing since my lower back is hurting so bad....
*see line #1.
Well, the thing he is proudest about (after a long and satisfactory career) is a number of crazy poems that he wrote when he was young. One of them concerns the smells and the disgusting things the human body produces. He does not specifically talks about poop, but he talks about the smell of the armpits, the material which heaps between your toes when you don't wash your feet... the "wax" which heaps between your buttocks when you don't wash them... It is so hilarious that every time I see him I ask him to read that poem. And he is not offended. He does not say " I have made good theater, I have worked with great actors". No, he is so proud of the silly poems he wrote when he was a young boy!
Art is everywhere, my dear. I think I'll send him the translation of your poopwork.
Ladeeda, have you seen? One day without you and the asshole relatives are already giving Ruth drugs. Of course, it's them who have to take care of her, so they understand...
Stay in bed as long as you can. Please don't get up in two days! Let them take their own medicine.
night everybody I have to work for my gas bill!
If ya don't get it be grateful...
Still crook here, made dinner gonna escape again... I will not be bitched at when I am sick!
To everyone: You guys are so awesome.
Gypsy....You decide what limits need to be set. If you aren't comfortable helping with bathroom duty then tell them. If you are happy cooking and overseeing the menus then stick to what you know.
Tell them "I am a cook, unless you want me to chop it up and cook it I don't want to see it."
Unfortunately the couple are probably going to need more help with personal care in their future. I honestly can tell you that not many people who end up providing care to elders are totally at ease and happy to assist another adult with using the toilet and cleaning up after it. I do it because it has to be done but I don't like it.
Hope it helps!
Have a wonderful night all!
Hugs n stuff
HB
alot of us are so happy to have found this site that bobbie has created .
this thread is a lifesaver for us all .
vent , cry all you want and we are here to lean a shoulders and we also cry and vent out too , learn alot also .
we have become a family , new families , i love all my crews here and it is a blessing .
jsomebody - hope ure feeling better today . tummy ache suxs.
gypsy - u mentin not begin comfertable about takin this guy to the bathroom . why is that ? is he makin a woo woo on you or what ? ifhe s not doingthat u will get used to it , as i am to my dad , i felt very incomfertable and so did he , says it isnt right for his daughter to see his private area , i told him i wont look and somebodys gotta do it . so now it doesnt bother us one bit , gotten used to it . doesnt bother us at all now .
boring night sat night , playing games on internet , not winnin anything , mmm time for somemore see s candy :-)
miz- hows ur mil ? hope shes perkin up some .
my sis s ex mil is dying they shut off the ox and unplug the iv etc , let her go natural , family s makin funeral arngements , so sad , im worried about the hubby , he s got kid so im sure he be in a good hands ,
will ck in again later on , ciggy time ,,,, xoxox
They think so logically.
A teacher was reading the story of the Three Little Pigs to her class.
She came to the part of the story where first pig was trying to gather
the building materials for his home.
She read. 'And so the pig went up to the man with the wheelbarrow
full of straw and said: 'Pardon me sir, but may I have some of that
straw to build my house?'
The teacher paused then asked the class: 'And what do you think
the man said?'
One little boy raised his hand and said very matter-of-factly...
'I think the man would have said - 'I'll be a son of a bitch!! A talking pig!'
The teacher had to leave the room.
Difference between COMPLETED & FINISHED....
People say there is no difference between COMPLETED & FINISHED....
But there is. When you marry the right one, you are COMPLETED....
And when you marry the wrong one, you are FINISHED.....
And when the right one catches you with the wrong one, you are...COMPLETELY FINISHED
An 85-year-old man was told by the Doctor that he needed a sperm count as part of his physical exam.
The doctor gave the man a jar and said, 'Take this jar home and bring back a semen sample tomorrow.'
The next day the 85-year-old man reappeared at the doctor's office and gave him the jar, which was as clean and empty as on the previous day.
The doctor asked what happened and the man explained, 'Well, doc,it's like this -- first I tried with my right hand, but nothing.
Then I tried with my left hand, but still nothing. Then I asked my wife for help. She tried with her right hand, then with her left, still nothing.
She tried with her mouth, first with the teeth in, then with her teeth out, still nothing.
We even called up Arleen, the lady next door and she tried too, first with both hands, then an armpit, and she even tried squeezin' it between her knees,
but still nothing.'
The doctor was shocked! 'You asked your neighbor?'
The old man replied,'Yep, none of us could get the jar open.'
Hey Col....got something for ya! Now tell me...does this face cream smell like chloroform? Ni Night!!!
So, with all that being said, and still not knowing how this is going to turn out, I want all of you to know how much you all mean to me. We laugh, we cry, we vent, and then we come together in one big pile of loving caring people who have each other, support each other, send each other hugs across the miles.
I doubt I am done with the drama, but at least ya'll know, that I know how I can get when my future is shaky. Again thanks to you all for the love and support.
And gypsy,castleb, and airamk, do not hesitate to share here. This thread is more than things that gross us out. It is our local hangout where you will be accepted, not shamed for the way you feel and think, Given group hugs when you do not think you can put one foot in front of the other. And laugh, OMG we do alot of that. I pray you find the support you are looking for here as it is available free of charge.
Thank you all for being patient with me while I had my little breakdown, maybe I can get out of myself and be present for others today....God, I wish I had some banana pudding... love you all bigger than the sky...
Where are we to go when It's our time?
Who will care for us?
It's that very thought that makes me feel lucky that I have been able to do this for mom, If I weren't here she would be alone in the world herself.
(If it takes us any longer to get all of this out of our systems I'm gonna need a magazine.)