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Hi Bonnie ~ Someone mentioned the vinegar remedy a while back when Bobbie was hosting a feral kitty who flunked boat. Her comment after trying vinegar was it then smelled like a douche bag. Only here ...
Has anyone else noticed the format change? At the top it claims we have 195 authors. I wonder is that is for this thread or the entire AC site?
I like the new time/date system. Makes me wanna make up card baord signs like "Rip: 3/4 4:11" and walk around town yelling "Man! I hope the end is near!"
I like the new format also and 195 authors is how many different people have posted on Grossed Out. hard to believe that there are that many different people who are... ...wait for it.... GROSSED OUT. too bad it doesn't break it down to x Grossed out and y dissenting....
Yas, boat smelled like douche bag, but only for a minute....
just for laughs, if you want to REALLY gross someone out, use the business end of a douche bag for a 'microphone' and pull a man on the street interview with your husband. You guys that have husbands.
Off for Mexican chow with Cap Joe. I haven't told you guys about Captain Joe. He's a Brooklyn born maniac who used to teach navigation to the Coast Guard and actually swears more than I do and is way funnier. While he drives a car he keeps trying to teach me how to drive a car so I say Joey! I've been driving a car for 40 f'ing years! talk about driving BOATS!! This man was actually vaccinated with a Victrola needle. (older folks explain to younger folks)
The Cat is digging to China, the boat is rocking and I really do like Ted's idea of Rip: 3/4 4:11!
Thank You So Much Everyone for your loving support. I am overwhelmed by it all. Overwhelmed and so sad. Hubby tells me he thinks she won't live longer than two weeks. I'm afraid he may be right that she will go fast because I really doubt she could survive the chemo. She is so weak. I just don't want her to suffer. I start thinking about Christmas without her and it makes me want to cry. Tearing up. She's in Chicago which is still a 3 hour drive for us. He is trying to decide when we should go up there. I think he will probably decide we need to go tomorrow. K, love you all. Thanks again for all the outpouring of love and caring. Of course what else would I expect from you angels.
Got to see Ruth today. NH said she did not sleep at all last night, so she was a sleepy girl when we got there. I have her lots of kisses and she was rambling the whole time, had a coloring book she had shredded the pages out of and was reading things to me. She would stop for kisses tho, when I'd say give me some kisses. At one point in her rambling she said " and I just need to kick them in the face". Needless to say I moved back a step or two. This part hurts my heart. I don't think the daughter even spoke to her. She was asking the RN questions, and really paid no attention to Ruth at all. I know Ruth was not aware, but I was. Oh well. Nothing I can do about her children. So, I got Ruth kisses and next week I will drive myself over there and ask my own damned questions... I want to know what to expect when she comes home.. Sorry some of you had such long days, some hearts are hurting, and some still making us laugh. I would loose what little mind I have left without ya'll . Thanks for listening
Sorry miz about your mil and wishing you love and peace.
Hope everyone else is ok, as ok as possible here...
FP to Adult Day Health today mom and I watched I Claudius DVD I got from Library. Nice change...Left his window open all day to air the room! Probably peeling paint off the outside of the window....
Oh what a day. Moms asleep now but she kept bugging me again asking "Where do we live?" "are you ready to go home now?" "I don't live here, Ok, mom, where do you live?, NOT HERE!" and on and on. She even packed some laundry i was folding into a half full garbage bag and put it on her walker and when I asked what that was about she said she was ready to go. Ok, mom. And something in the house smells VERY funky but I can't find it. I'm just a little tired today.
Ladeeda: I'm so happy that you got time to love on Ruth. Chaquita you are something real special.
Miz: Sending you well wishes and strength for your vigil with MIL. It is so hard when cancer is so advanced and unexpected. Love you Miz.
Ted: you are hilarious. But really I hope you find whatever is stinking. I further hope that mom sleeps well.
Everyone. I'm too tired to post tonight. I'm not feeling so good and have been asleep since about 4p est. I think I'm going to go back to sleep. I'm drained. Have a sore throat and generally just feeling like that bus came for me while I wasn't looking. If it backs up I'm a goner.
Ted, I had so many of those days with Ruth, I was more than cranky by days end. It is so draining. I hope you get some alone time tonite and refresh your brain. thinking of you hugs HB, it was so good to see Ruth today. I will be bitching the day she comes home about something, but I do miss the ole girl. Hope you are not getting sick before your trip.. Go to the dr. hope you are feeling better soon. Jsomebody thanks for the laugh. I need to get my mind off my aching leg, peeling paint should do it... thanks Miz just wanting you to know you are in my thoughts tonite, Hugs to you bobbie have a good time tonite and don't drive drunk..lol Love and hugs to all the rest of you, taking my aching leg to bed...
one thing about the new time stamp, it is confusing to us on the West Coast.
I looked at the comments & think - "oh, it's late! I need to finish this & that ... ignore & forget ..... ah, heck, it's Florida time!" Rats. My chores still await.
Don't we change to Daylight Time next weekend?
Going to miss the smplicity of seeing the 00th number for Boat Time.
Mom and Pap are all tucked in for the night. Due to the fact Pap has a super pubic catheter we have an RN come every other week to check on him. For awhile his catheter was clogging up about once a week and had to be changed and his urine had a really strong odor. Any of you who have to deal with irrigating catheters and changing them know what a pain that is. Well, his new RN suggested a latex free catheter and the entire problem went away after about 2 weeks. His urine smells "normal" now and I have not had to change it in over a month. I feel like running in the streets and screaming helleluijah. Oh the little things that bring me joy. No more middle of the night catheter changes after I tried to convince him all day that it needed changed, that's why he was having pain....oh no he would say...I'm passing a kidney stone. Why must the elderly fight you every step of the way.
I do have another question that I am hoping someone here will know the answer. My parents are refusing to go to the doctor...they say they just want to die. I cannot physically pick them up and put them in my car and they refuse to go.My sister feels that if they are not in any serious pain or other ailments they should be allowed to make that choice. Pap still has a good mind and understands the consiquences, I think Mom understands....but what happens if I allow them not to go to the doc.....could I be charged with a crime? I understand that their quality of life is not that great and they just want this life to be over. I think I would feel the same way being put in their shoes.What should I do? I know someone here has to have had this issue and I would love to know what you did about it.
Miz I am thinking of you and your family. Cancer is a horrible disease. I watched my Grandfather suffer so much....my prayer and hope for you MIL is that she passes peacefully, with little pain. I was with my Grandfather and watched him take his final breath. Such a peace crossed over his face and he looked so content. I felt such a relief that his suffering was over. I pray that you MIL does not suffer.
(Flippin' Keyboard sent before I could write) 2 to the doctor? What an amazing fete! I used to cart several seniors to the famous eye surgeon from their assisted living apartments.
Now, any attempt to move Sir from his chair is met with reluctence & sarcasm. You are fortunate to have in home help with the catheter. I've had requests in for months. And MONTHS!
I end up hobbling him down the stairs, into the car & off to the urologist once a month. If he slips & we both go down the stairs it will all be a nightmare. Have you had the delightul experience of the urinary collection bag filling with blood? Watch for that event. Something about a blood clot breaking loose. Scared me so bad! Sir wasn't in pain so didn't give a rip ... When the MA finally returned my call he said it was common. Scary but nothing big. yeah right ... like he had donated blood thru his prick.
I finally gave up reading all about urinary catheters since nothing prepared me or the actual aromas & functions. Stupid trick bags & ridiculous straps. Wish we could meet up with Kuli & discuss the fun of the caths. For now, we have each other.
Oh geez their nimrod programmers still don't have a clue on making a functional website. When I came in had to go to the beginning just so I can go back. My suggestion of navigation by page numbers must have fallen on dead ears...(again!)
Hello Sailorettes, It's been awhile. I am still on family leave just finished 3rd week and mom's mentallity is getting to me! Last week she played the crumble game in the batthtub, got one leg over and played the crumble game. She crumbled to the bathroom floor, had to drag her out between the comode and the bathtub, not much room for a 4ft 180 lb barrel of mom to move, and then manipulate that flesh to the hallway (all while bottomless...not a pretty sight)..so I can get a chair so she can finally like a slug gather herself up the chair. I thought I had to call 911. Well that was the last bathtub visit I told her, not trying it again. Hospice has a home-health aide that comes every few days and cleans her up in addition to what I already do and the caregiver does. My new caregiver is a clean - ahollc she cleans everyting and can't stop cleaning, she bleaches everything every day..wow...I had to stop her in the kitchen causse I put new grout around the sink and did not seal it yet...geezes I have to regrout. I am going to hire her later for cleaning up around the house. She is rentless, so funny! Mom has been sundowning more lately, she sleeps like a baby all day and the crack of sunset gets all ANTZY...geeezus. I tried a campaign of trying to keep her awake it is not easy at all. Sometimes she rambles about stuff that does not make sense other times is does if I unravel it more. This is very tiresome. I lay down on the couch around 7:30 to 10:00 and every half hour she calls, nothing during the day...so wierd. So exhausting..even lorazapam/ativan 1 or 2 or a sleeping pilll is like CANDY..not strong enough...lol. Don't know how much I can do this. But she is healthy as a horse otherwise. I have been taxing her brain more and it does help make her more cognizant. We have been trying to keep her awake during the day. I have to shove a bench between her bed and the dresser at night so she don't fall out of bed, she can't go nowhere on the other side due to another twin is shoved up against her. I find her in the morning with no covers and sprawled across the other bed or a bit on the bench...geezus I need a crib for this C.O.L! For the past 3 weeks I have been slowly cleaning out my old bedroom so I can eventually more her in there so I can put my queen bed in her bedroom. It's been taking a long time, there is so much packed into that room plus mold clean up plus decorating as I go...plus the caregiver drives me nutty when she wants to help or starts tearing apart another part of the house and distracts me...so I still have to move the bed, a heavy bookcase and a desk away from the wall so I can do MOLD ABATEMENT, so much fun. I found a product at Home Depot the other day that is supposed to work miracles with mold and mildew. Have not tried it yet. 3 weeks ago I was bleaching the inside of the closet doors, the baseboards where all yellow mildew..yuck. There was so much flipping stuff stuffed into this house, believe me over 2 years time a lot of stuff went either into the trash or trift shop. I think my mom bought a million plastic table cloths. NarcissisticHoarder..LOL! The room is coming along nicely, looking more homey than a catchall room, plus way too much items, made the room look overburdened. Still a work in progress. I kinda miss work and it's crazy abnormality reality...sounds wierd eh. Wow surprised she has not called me yet...gonna go check on her...be right back....well in her crazy late evening stance ....all the covers scrunched down at the foot of the bed, during the day she can't stand to have the covers off of her...the craziness of this disease .,..I don't know how much more I can witness this!
Bonnie- Contact Hospice Care..I have my mom enrolled...it's not for just the end stages of life anymore. It is part of medicare and every thing is paid for. Your mom and dad don't have to go to the doc,cause their doc comes to the house. My mom won't go into a car anymore...3 weeks ago I did that and it was a disaster...so with Hospice you get a Doc, a Nurse, a Home-health aide (they do washing up) and a Social Worker and a Chaplain...and they are always coming...so try that...it will be a perfect fit for you!
A passenger in a hired limousine leaned over to ask the driver for the time and gently tapped him on the shoulder to get his attention. The driver shrieked, lost control of the vehicle, nearly hit a bus, drove up over the curb and stopped just inches from a plate glass window. For a few moments everything was silent in the limousine. Then the still shaking driver said, "Are you OK? I'm so sorry, but you scared the daylights out of me." The badly shaken passenger apologized to the driver and said he didn't realize that a mere tap on the shoulder would startle the driver so badly.
The driver replied, "No, no. I'm the one who is sorry. It's entirely my fault. Today is my very first day driving a limo. I've been driving a hearse for the past 25 years."
Am I doing something wrong. I can't get back to read any posts. I didn't mark down who had problems today so.... Miz sorry to hear about your MIL prayers are with ya. Everyone else you are in my thoughts and I hope I can get on tommorro without any problems. Love Cuz
Good Morning. We're heading up to see MIL early this afternoon in the Chicago area. We will spend time with her today and then spend the night at hubby's parents house which is about 90 miles away from the hospital and then go back and see her Sunday and then drive home sometime that day. Thanks so much for all of your love and support. We're still trying to process that this is happening. We just don't want her to suffer if there is no hope.
miz prayers for you and your husband, and for a safe trip HB little smiley faces all over you this morning to ward off any bad germs so you feel better for your trip.. Ted, can't get a word in can ya on FB sorry
I forgot to tell ya'll that the family has filed on their insurance for my hospital bill AND i got paid for this month.. as I told rip, why am feeling paranoid about this ???? love to all this morning.. wind is blowing hard here this morning so may not get connected much today, satellite and all the problems with that..later
Thank You Ladee. Maybe the family realizes what you deal with now??
Hubby talked to SIL this morning and they are going to start chemo on MIL. I'm a little surprised cause she is so weak. The thinking is they can slow down the spreading of the cancer I think. We are getting ready to go this afternoon.
Miz, glad to hear you guys are going, Know it will be hard on all of you, God bless and have a safe trip! My prayers are with you...How is your mil taking the news? Give her a big hug from me and my family, ok?
Okay, SS. I will. We don't know how she is taking the news yet. I suppose she has hope since they are going to try chemo. I think she has some fight in her and that's a good thing. Thanks so much for your prayers. We're on our way now and the roads are getting slick. :(
RIP...yes I do know all the joys of dealing with a catheter. At first Paps cath would get blocked...he'd be in pain...call the RN.....wait forever for them to get here, so I figured I watched them so many times that I would just do it myself. The home care agency was all good with that, but now medicare is threatening to quit paying for the RN and CNA visits if I don't let the agency take care of it. Does anyone in government realize how much money would be saved if they would just give those of us who are willing to care for our parents half of what they pay outside agencies to come in? The NH here, which is the county home and disgusting gets around $6000 per month, per resident.....I would jump for joy if I could get a quarter of that out of the government for doing a better job. Sorry.....I agree with someone's previous post...Maxine should be the president...she'd whip this country into shape in no time. My kind of women...says it how it is.
Thank you to the person who suggested Hospice...I have seriously been thinking about looking into that.
Well, hubby is done butchering....all but 2 of the kids have gone home and now I must go to the grocery store. I hate grocery shopping with a passion. Which reminds me.....I too have put on several pounds since starting to care for my parents. In January I decided to do something for myself and ordered Nutrisystem...I've lost 22 pounds.....and I am never hungry. My back has not been bothering me as much either since I only look 6 months pregnant now instead of 10.....lol!!! I know I sound like a spokesperson, but honestly I'm not...I'm just so excited about the results I'm getting...you do have to love veggies to succeed on this diet. I just really wish I didn't have to shop and cook for everyone else...o.k. I'm off to the store.....I'll be back later to bi#$h and moan some more.
Hi guys the unreal Maxine here I am sure you all the the story of the tee shirt my son gave me for my birthday with Maxine on it and I was hurt I thought he thought that is how I looked until years later he gave me a book with her sayings and I realized she is a cartoon character now I wear the shirt proudly. Ladee that is great the family is paying you and hopefully will take care of your medicial bills and it is great that you went to see Ruth-do you know how great that is-I always have trouble going to see my friend who had a stroke soon after she retired and she is mostly in bed except for about 2 hrs. a day-God bless you for that visit. BonnieO I am so proud of you sticking to a diet especially since you have to cook for others-I actually roasted some veggies today-my diet is pathitic since my husband died except when I go to the senior center they serve an awesome meal. I finally walked through the ice and snow to feed my birds today but can feel spring in the air it won't be long until I have to mow the lawn-I love the longer days-hope everyone has a good night and that there charges behave and sleep through the nite and may good give you all an extra measure of strenght to carry on with your burdens there are many Mantions in heaven and one has to be for caregivers-I wonder what my husbands spirit is doing there God is probably telling him to please shut up for a while.
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Someone mentioned the vinegar remedy a while back when Bobbie was hosting a feral kitty who flunked boat. Her comment after trying vinegar was it then smelled like a douche bag.
Only here ...
Has anyone else noticed the format change? At the top it claims we have 195 authors. I wonder is that is for this thread or the entire AC site?
I like the new format also and 195 authors is how many different people have posted on Grossed Out. hard to believe that there are that many different people who are...
...wait for it.... GROSSED OUT.
too bad it doesn't break it down to x Grossed out and y dissenting....
Yas, boat smelled like douche bag, but only for a minute....
just for laughs, if you want to REALLY gross someone out, use the business end of a douche bag for a 'microphone' and pull a man on the street interview with your husband.
You guys that have husbands.
Off for Mexican chow with Cap Joe. I haven't told you guys about Captain Joe. He's a Brooklyn born maniac who used to teach navigation to the Coast Guard and actually swears more than I do and is way funnier.
While he drives a car he keeps trying to teach me how to drive a car so I say Joey! I've been driving a car for 40 f'ing years! talk about driving BOATS!!
This man was actually vaccinated with a Victrola needle.
(older folks explain to younger folks)
The Cat is digging to China, the boat is rocking and I really do like Ted's idea of Rip: 3/4 4:11!
And it came to pass that this too shall pass.....
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This part hurts my heart. I don't think the daughter even spoke to her. She was asking the RN questions, and really paid no attention to Ruth at all. I know Ruth was not aware, but I was. Oh well. Nothing I can do about her children.
So, I got Ruth kisses and next week I will drive myself over there and ask my own damned questions... I want to know what to expect when she comes home..
Sorry some of you had such long days, some hearts are hurting, and some still making us laugh. I would loose what little mind I have left without ya'll . Thanks for listening
Hope everyone else is ok, as ok as possible here...
FP to Adult Day Health today mom and I watched I Claudius DVD I got from Library. Nice change...Left his window open all day to air the room! Probably peeling paint off the outside of the window....
And something in the house smells VERY funky but I can't find it. I'm just a little tired today.
Ladeeda: I'm so happy that you got time to love on Ruth. Chaquita you are something real special.
Miz: Sending you well wishes and strength for your vigil with MIL. It is so hard when cancer is so advanced and unexpected. Love you Miz.
Ted: you are hilarious. But really I hope you find whatever is stinking. I further hope that mom sleeps well.
Everyone. I'm too tired to post tonight. I'm not feeling so good and have been asleep since about 4p est. I think I'm going to go back to sleep. I'm drained. Have a sore throat and generally just feeling like that bus came for me while I wasn't looking. If it backs up I'm a goner.
Love and stuff to all.
HB
HB, it was so good to see Ruth today. I will be bitching the day she comes home about something, but I do miss the ole girl. Hope you are not getting sick before your trip.. Go to the dr. hope you are feeling better soon.
Jsomebody thanks for the laugh. I need to get my mind off my aching leg, peeling paint should do it... thanks
Miz just wanting you to know you are in my thoughts tonite, Hugs to you
bobbie have a good time tonite and don't drive drunk..lol
Love and hugs to all the rest of you, taking my aching leg to bed...
I looked at the comments & think - "oh, it's late! I need to finish this & that ... ignore & forget .....
ah, heck, it's Florida time!"
Rats. My chores still await.
Don't we change to Daylight Time next weekend?
Going to miss the smplicity of seeing the 00th number for Boat Time.
I do have another question that I am hoping someone here will know the answer. My parents are refusing to go to the doctor...they say they just want to die. I cannot physically pick them up and put them in my car and they refuse to go.My sister feels that if they are not in any serious pain or other ailments they should be allowed to make that choice. Pap still has a good mind and understands the consiquences, I think Mom understands....but what happens if I allow them not to go to the doc.....could I be charged with a crime? I understand that their quality of life is not that great and they just want this life to be over. I think I would feel the same way being put in their shoes.What should I do? I know someone here has to have had this issue and I would love to know what you did about it.
Miz I am thinking of you and your family. Cancer is a horrible disease. I watched my Grandfather suffer so much....my prayer and hope for you MIL is that she passes peacefully, with little pain. I was with my Grandfather and watched him take his final breath. Such a peace crossed over his face and he looked so content. I felt such a relief that his suffering was over. I pray that you MIL does not suffer.
2 to the doctor? What an amazing fete! I used to cart several seniors to the famous eye surgeon from their assisted living apartments.
Now, any attempt to move Sir from his chair is met with reluctence & sarcasm.
You are fortunate to have in home help with the catheter. I've had requests in for months.
And MONTHS!
I end up hobbling him down the stairs, into the car & off to the urologist once a month. If he slips & we both go down the stairs it will all be a nightmare.
Have you had the delightul experience of the urinary collection bag filling with blood? Watch for that event. Something about a blood clot breaking loose. Scared me so bad! Sir wasn't in pain so didn't give a rip ...
When the MA finally returned my call he said it was common. Scary but nothing big.
yeah right ... like he had donated blood thru his prick.
I finally gave up reading all about urinary catheters since nothing prepared me or the actual aromas & functions. Stupid trick bags & ridiculous straps.
Wish we could meet up with Kuli & discuss the fun of the caths.
For now, we have each other.
cheers ~
Hello Sailorettes,
It's been awhile. I am still on family leave just finished 3rd week and mom's mentallity is getting to me! Last week she played the crumble game in the batthtub, got one leg over and played the crumble game. She crumbled to the bathroom floor, had to drag her out between the comode and the bathtub, not much room for a 4ft 180 lb barrel of mom to move, and then manipulate that flesh to the hallway (all while bottomless...not a pretty sight)..so I can get a chair so she can finally like a slug gather herself up the chair. I thought I had to call 911. Well that was the last bathtub visit I told her, not trying it again. Hospice has a home-health aide that comes every few days and cleans her up in addition to what I already do and the caregiver does. My new caregiver is a clean - ahollc she cleans everyting and can't stop cleaning, she bleaches everything every day..wow...I had to stop her in the kitchen causse I put new grout around the sink and did not seal it yet...geezes I have to regrout. I am going to hire her later for cleaning up around the house. She is rentless, so funny! Mom has been sundowning more lately, she sleeps like a baby all day and the crack of sunset gets all ANTZY...geeezus. I tried a campaign of trying to keep her awake it is not easy at all. Sometimes she rambles about stuff that does not make sense other times is does if I unravel it more. This is very tiresome. I lay down on the couch around 7:30 to 10:00 and every half hour she calls, nothing during the day...so wierd. So exhausting..even lorazapam/ativan 1 or 2 or a sleeping pilll is like CANDY..not strong enough...lol. Don't know how much I can do this. But she is healthy as a horse otherwise. I have been taxing her brain more and it does help make her more cognizant. We have been trying to keep her awake during the day. I have to shove a bench between her bed and the dresser at night so she don't fall out of bed, she can't go nowhere on the other side due to another twin is shoved up against her. I find her in the morning with no covers and sprawled across the other bed or a bit on the bench...geezus I need a crib for this C.O.L! For the past 3 weeks I have been slowly cleaning out my old bedroom so I can eventually more her in there so I can put my queen bed in her bedroom. It's been taking a long time, there is so much packed into that room plus mold clean up plus decorating as I go...plus the caregiver drives me nutty when she wants to help or starts tearing apart another part of the house and distracts me...so I still have to move the bed, a heavy bookcase and a desk away from the wall so I can do MOLD ABATEMENT, so much fun. I found a product at Home Depot the other day that is supposed to work miracles with mold and mildew. Have not tried it yet. 3 weeks ago I was bleaching the inside of the closet doors, the baseboards where all yellow mildew..yuck. There was so much flipping stuff stuffed into this house, believe me over 2 years time a lot of stuff went either into the trash or trift shop. I think my mom bought a million plastic table cloths. NarcissisticHoarder..LOL! The room is coming along nicely, looking more homey than a catchall room, plus way too much items, made the room look overburdened. Still a work in progress. I kinda miss work and it's crazy abnormality reality...sounds wierd eh. Wow surprised she has not called me yet...gonna go check on her...be right back....well in her crazy late evening stance ....all the covers scrunched down at the foot of the bed, during the day she can't stand to have the covers off of her...the craziness of this disease .,..I don't know how much more I can witness this!
on the shoulder to get his attention.
The driver shrieked, lost control of the vehicle, nearly hit a bus, drove up over the curb and stopped
just inches from a plate glass window.
For a few moments everything was silent in the limousine. Then the still shaking driver said,
"Are you OK? I'm so sorry, but you scared the daylights out of me."
The badly shaken passenger apologized to the driver and said he didn't realize that a mere tap on the
shoulder would startle the driver so badly.
The driver replied, "No, no. I'm the one who is sorry. It's entirely my fault. Today is my very first day
driving a limo. I've been driving a hearse for the past 25 years."
Miz sorry to hear about your MIL prayers are with ya. Everyone else you are in my thoughts and I hope I can get on tommorro without any problems.
Love Cuz
love,
miz
HB little smiley faces all over you this morning to ward off any bad germs so you feel better for your trip..
Ted, can't get a word in can ya on FB sorry
I forgot to tell ya'll that the family has filed on their insurance for my hospital bill AND i got paid for this month.. as I told rip, why am feeling paranoid about this ????
love to all this morning.. wind is blowing hard here this morning so may not get connected much today, satellite and all the problems with that..later
Hubby talked to SIL this morning and they are going to start chemo on MIL. I'm a little surprised cause she is so weak. The thinking is they can slow down the spreading of the cancer I think. We are getting ready to go this afternoon.
love,
miz
love,
miz
Thank you to the person who suggested Hospice...I have seriously been thinking about looking into that.
Well, hubby is done butchering....all but 2 of the kids have gone home and now I must go to the grocery store. I hate grocery shopping with a passion. Which reminds me.....I too have put on several pounds since starting to care for my parents. In January I decided to do something for myself and ordered Nutrisystem...I've lost 22 pounds.....and I am never hungry. My back has not been bothering me as much either since I only look 6 months pregnant now instead of 10.....lol!!! I know I sound like a spokesperson, but honestly I'm not...I'm just so excited about the results I'm getting...you do have to love veggies to succeed on this diet. I just really wish I didn't have to shop and cook for everyone else...o.k. I'm off to the store.....I'll be back later to bi#$h and moan some more.