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Ha... I am taping it. Plan to fast forward to prevent my natural gag relex. I have a bag of socks that might be stufffed down a throat ... mother or child?
Hey guys, I remember that I was so bad in highschool on talking on the phone at night that my mother actually took the phone in my bedroom and put it in a paperbag and stapled that damn thing,,,, no problem mom, I just restapled it later on that night! LOL
well, I'm glad I could zip beyond the sickening event. Sorry the homeowner's association wasn't able to put a kibosh on the partay. Thank God for common sense & people who truly care about each other.
Hope someone made some money from that production.
What wedding? Who would be that stupid to marry that little brat? Can't believe the mother would blow $30,000 on an eight year old and not even talk with the father, how sad is that? Would love to have been a fly on the wall with the two of them when they were finally alone, Yikes!
I keep that pillow close to me just in case I can't resist the urge to use it! I swear....the col went for a second round after that go-around this morning. Took my dogs outside and standing there minding my own business and she walks outside and says "you guys just buy me out and I will move back to 1015"....that's the house number of her old house and that's how she refers to it. I walked her back inside and went over the numerous reasons why she can't live alone and told her again her 2 choices were right where she is or a nursing home. Argue, argue, argue.....she just didn't stop....I finally just walked out on her. Later hubby went down to explain that she can't live alone anymore and oh she was so sweet and agreed with everything he was saying............crazy old crone. I took meds down around 7 p and told her we needed to go change undies....she sat on the couch all afternoon and pouted, watched her on the camera so I know she didn't go to the bathroom....she said oh no I changed an hour ago....humor me and lets go. She sits down on the toilet and says I guess I will change even though I don't need to....pulls out the sopping, wet pad and lays it up on the side of the bathtub because she plans on saving it until later and using it again....I was just stunned and she thought I was being mean because I made her throw it away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was looking for a reason to give her the Ativan during the day instead of at night and I think I have reached it. I'm so tired of being on edge and coming back from contact with her nauseated and depressed. I AM NOT GOING TO LIVE LIKE THAT FOR YEARS!!!! I told hubby today that I did not envision my retirement taking care of a complaining, whining, bitching old woman. He reminded her today that she put her own mother in a nursing home for acting the same exact way she is and she used to cry and belly-ache to him about how his grandmother drove her nuts...........what goes around comes around.
Time to check and see that col is in bed......then it's my turn to finish my rum and coke and get comfy and enjoy what's left of the day.
Here's hoping for a peaceful night to all of you.......
A wonderful send-off to HB and.....................
Good Evening Crew, just thought I'd drop a post in to let you know that the little girl is not a brat nor is she spoiled. It's tv, gang. I went to the party where the family watched the show (we had a Great Time) and that little girl crawled up in my lap and fell asleep. Her mom and dad and brother are good, nice people and excellent actors in the way that they can portray themselves. Not as easy as it sounds. We write the story and all improvise the story beats to assemble the show. Welcome to reality television. just like I am not the 'property manager', they are not bad people. it's just tv. a business. she's a sweet little girl, and I would be proud if she were mine and I am glad that her family has been so nice to me. they were the only reason I had a birthday this Dec past. they all came to where the boat was docked and threw me a bash. wow you guys. nighty night. lovbob
Hey Bobbie My thought would be if Carolyn could fessup that she treated you so bad and would come clean, I would think about talking to her. Aunt Sue gave me a hard time over 20+ years before she passed and I never spoke to her after that. Her over the top religous crap just turned me right off. Both her kids are the same way. Like I told you on the phone, when Uncle Chuck was in the hospital I took Mom up to see him and Phil & Sharon showed up and started the prayer thing and said after they were done that he looked so much better I thought to myself you are full of S---t. If they are such good faith healers, how come their mom died. If some one treats me wrong I am the one that doesn't forget it unless they come to me to fix their wrongdoings. I might be cold hearted but that is they way I am. If someone needs help I am there for them. We have been supporting a Friend of mine in prison that gets no support from his kids. They went and had an auction when he got sent up and sold everything that man owned, went to Las Vages afor a week and came back and bought a house. Never gave a cent to there dad. If I were him it would be a cold day in hell before I would ever speak with them kid again. So with that said If she apoligizes for her wrong doings I would talk to her her. If not your on the road to a new life have fun and have the memories of Aunt Barb both the good and the bad but life goes on. I love you kiddo and you know that. I'm here for you in what ever decision you make. I'm kinda getting used to this retirement thing and am saving up so we can come down and lay some real hugs and kisses on you that you need for everything you do for these caregivers. You are the best cousin I have and actually the only one I respect. Like I tell the wife every day for the last 43 years Love ya Bunchies. Now I thinks I will run a few jokes and call it a night Love to everyone else out there too. Cuz
An old Italian lived alone in New Jersey . He wanted to plant his annual tomato garden, but it was very difficult work, as the ground was hard. His only son, Vincent, who used to help him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and described his predicament: Dear Vincent, I am feeling pretty sad, because it looks like I won't be able to plant my tomato garden this year. I'm just getting too old to be digging up garden plot. I know if you were here, my troubles would be over. I know you would be happy to dig the plot for me, like in the old days. Love, Papa A few days later he received a letter from his son. Dear Pop, Don't dig up that garden. That's where the bodies are buried. Love, Vinnie At 4 a.m. the next morning, FBI agents and local police arrived and dug up the entire area without finding any bodies. They apologized to the old man and left. That same day the old man received another letter from his son. Dear Pop, Go ahead and plant the tomatoes now. That's the best I could do under the circumstances. Love you, Vinnie
that is a HUGE relief to hear, Bobbie! ... I think .... Somehow I took the word "reality" to mean "something real". "Actual event" "People who behave as portrayed". Not acting for entertainment. Untrained actors?
What's the point? Money?
Where is the 'reality TV' ? Like REAL, in our daily lives ...?
Please, no offense to you, dear Bobbie.
It's just a shock ~ are all those Little People shows really "Little people"??? Is Shorty Rossi really a giant rescuing Yorkies? (Sebastian will always be a hero, large or little)
Also, in my location of MicroSoft millionaires & Starbucking Buckaroos, it's not uncommon to see children indulged beyond comprehension. Is there as disclaimer in small print in the credits?
Remember this the next time you have major surgery and
need a blood transfusion!! This is good to know!!
MEDICAL RESEARCH
Australian Medical Association researchers have foundthat patients needing blood transfusions may benefit from receiving chicken blood rather than human blood..
It tends to make the men cocky and the women lay better....
Almost 11 PM here West Coast. Same old stupid shit here, and nails bitten down to the nub, below the nub, been a long time since I have done that. Watching inane movies. Took care of grandpa this morning mom was in shower, we have both been sick again with E-coli like symptoms, courtesy of fart pants. That care givers likely to die before the elderly person is very possible literal and from disease not stress... Cousin said a lady patient she "looks after" fifteen minutes a day, three days a week. PAH ha ha, puts her dentures in the toilet to save water for cleaning them...should be so lucky...
Hope everyone is OK. Agree in midst of crisis use your habits they are familiar and even if not health a comfort one needs, quit when life is going smoothly and you can focus on healthy changes.
FP had dr app. nothing new, just old, nothing nothing nothing...
Hey everyone! Jam, You head the nail on the head a few posts back and really expressed clearly what a lot of us go through. I'd be more precise about when but it seems the date/time stamps are gone again.
I had myself a GREAT time the last day or two, helping out with the Banners, art, props, etc for the town's Mardi gras celebration! It felt soooo good to be doing that stuff again! I miss work so much. Going back in this morning to install it all, mom has been real good about my being out of the house for a few hours at a time. I think if she knew how much I enjoyed it, she would be acting differently.
Bobbie, I missed the show, (I'll catch it on Hulu someday) but after reading the comments here I find it an absolutely beautiful image that these are the folks who were celebrating your B'day on the boat with you! with the little one curled up asleep on your lap no less! Love you and if you care for them, then so do I! (I promise not to spill the beans to ET.)
HB, May the road rise to meet you, May the wind be always at your back....
Everyone, Pardon me for a bit while see if I can eek out another satisfaction filled day! Be Strong!
Texted with SIL last night and MIL had chemo day before yesterday and yesterday she sat up for awhile and it doesn't seem to have made her more sick. SIL is trying to stay positive. I can't seem to do that but it's good that SIL is, I think, for MIL's sake. I told SIL to please take care of herself. I feel bad we're not up there. BIL and his family should get there today or tomorrow which is good. They are a close family. Hearts are in the right place. I've learned that's hard to find now days. Forgive me for not concentrating on others on here right now. I'm trying to keep it together and not go down that black hole. I know my feelings are still raw from Mom's passing. I think we're gonna go look at more houses this morning before I go to work. Good to keep busy I guess. I think everything is weighing hubby down. He's burnt out. Try to have a good day everyone. And tell those you love that you do.
miz....so glad to hear mil was able to sit up....it's amazing the progress modern medicine has made with the administration of chemo. Good idea to keep yourself busy......give yourself and mr. miz a big HUG and just remember we all are here for you.
Where did about 50 some posts go? what's up with that AC?? please put them back and for everybody's sake please don't edit this thread unnecessarily. What may not look important to you could be very important to others. lovbob
unless they took out the hmmmms and my yups and and and lol. sure they left the meat and I shouldn't get wierd. Was getting ready to see who got boat time for 11000! and they DID put the numbers back!! yay. lovbob
Jam, and all.....................First let me thank you for your input on this. Here is the deal and it is basically what Jam suggested. She has dementia with Parkinson like symptoms. Hence tremors. Probably 8 yrs ago she was on of a series of meds Detrol being one as well as klopopin. Klonopin doses was .05 x3 a day. Tooooo much. Cut back to .05 @ bedtime. Has worked well till now. In Nov she fell the first time in 1 1/2yrs. Had a bedside chair. Second fall end of Jan. Both while going to potty. After that I had her start alerting me if she needed to get up. Very, very reluctantly she complied. THIS is when I realized how often she was really getting up. Spoke with PC, he ordered PT and change to Vesicare. During this change of meds she saw Neuro. Believing our problem was pee meds, no changes in meds. Yesterday I decided she was not getting into enough deep sleep to get rest before she was awake to pee. Last night I increased her klonopin by 1/2. She went to bed @ 9:00p She got up 2x!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Once @ 12m and then 3:45a. No wetting the bed, dry as a bone at 8:00am. WHOOO FREAKIN HOOO!!! I am going to try this the rest of the week and if it seems to work let PC/Neuro know so that they can increase her script. I hope I don't have to fight them over this. I shouldn't, should I? It is not that big of an increase. She had the first GOOOD nights sleep in a long time and so did I, (in comparison). This I can do!!!!! Thanks again all, keep your fingers crossed!!!!
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watching ....
(little brats!)
I have a bag of socks that might be stufffed down a throat ... mother or child?
Thank God for common sense & people who truly care about each other.
Hope someone made some money from that production.
Now where are the care giver episodes?
Time to check and see that col is in bed......then it's my turn to finish my rum and coke and get comfy and enjoy what's left of the day.
Here's hoping for a peaceful night to all of you.......
A wonderful send-off to HB and.....................
Love and Hugz to all of you,
Jam
Alone together, dear ...
Stuff for a Lifetime True Story murder movie!
just thought I'd drop a post in to let you know that the little girl is not a brat nor is she spoiled. It's tv, gang.
I went to the party where the family watched the show (we had a Great Time) and that little girl crawled up in my lap and fell asleep.
Her mom and dad and brother are good, nice people and excellent actors in the way that they can portray themselves. Not as easy as it sounds.
We write the story and all improvise the story beats to assemble the show.
Welcome to reality television.
just like I am not the 'property manager', they are not bad people.
it's just tv. a business.
she's a sweet little girl, and I would be proud if she were mine and I am glad that her family has been so nice to me.
they were the only reason I had a birthday this Dec past. they all came to where the boat was docked and threw me a bash.
wow you guys.
nighty night.
lovbob
My thought would be if Carolyn could fessup that she treated you so bad and would come clean, I would think about talking to her. Aunt Sue gave me a hard time over 20+ years before she passed and I never spoke to her after that. Her over the top religous crap just turned me right off. Both her kids are the same way. Like I told you on the phone, when Uncle Chuck was in the hospital I took Mom up to see him and Phil & Sharon showed up and started the prayer thing and said after they were done that he looked so much better I thought to myself you are full of S---t. If they are such good faith healers, how come their mom died. If some one treats me wrong I am the one that doesn't forget it unless they come to me to fix their wrongdoings. I might be cold hearted but that is they way I am. If someone needs help I am there for them. We have been supporting a Friend of mine in prison that gets no support from his kids. They went and had an auction when he got sent up and sold everything that man owned, went to Las Vages afor a week and came back and bought a house. Never gave a cent to there dad. If I were him it would be a cold day in hell before I would ever speak with them kid again. So with that said If she apoligizes for her wrong doings I would talk to her her. If not your on the road to a new life have fun and have the memories of Aunt Barb both the good and the bad but life goes on. I love you kiddo and you know that. I'm here for you in what ever decision you make.
I'm kinda getting used to this retirement thing and am saving up so we can come down and lay some real hugs and kisses on you that you need for everything you do for these caregivers. You are the best cousin I have and actually the only one I respect. Like I tell the wife every day for the last 43 years Love ya Bunchies.
Now I thinks I will run a few jokes and call it a night
Love to everyone else out there too. Cuz
make sure you read the words -
Italian Tomato Garden…
An old Italian lived alone in New Jersey . He wanted to plant his annual tomato garden, but it was very difficult work, as the ground was hard.
His only son, Vincent, who used to help him, was in prison. The old man wrote a letter to his son and described his predicament:
Dear Vincent,
I am feeling pretty sad, because it looks like I won't be able to plant my tomato garden this year. I'm just getting too old to be digging up garden plot. I know if you were here, my troubles would be over. I know you would be happy to dig the plot for me, like in the old days.
Love,
Papa
A few days later he received a letter from his son.
Dear Pop,
Don't dig up that garden. That's where the bodies are buried.
Love,
Vinnie
At 4 a.m. the next morning, FBI agents and local police arrived and dug up the entire area without finding any bodies. They apologized to the old man and left.
That same day the old man received another letter from his son.
Dear Pop,
Go ahead and plant the tomatoes now. That's the best I could do under the circumstances.
Love you,
Vinnie
... I think ....
Somehow I took the word "reality" to mean "something real". "Actual event" "People who behave as portrayed".
Not acting for entertainment.
Untrained actors?
What's the point? Money?
Where is the 'reality TV' ? Like REAL, in our daily lives ...?
Please, no offense to you, dear Bobbie.
It's just a shock ~
are all those Little People shows really "Little people"???
Is Shorty Rossi really a giant rescuing Yorkies?
(Sebastian will always be a hero, large or little)
Also, in my location of MicroSoft millionaires & Starbucking Buckaroos, it's not uncommon to see children indulged beyond comprehension.
Is there as disclaimer in small print in the credits?
Remember this the next time you have major surgery and
need a blood transfusion!! This is good to know!!
MEDICAL RESEARCH
Australian Medical Association researchers have foundthat patients needing blood transfusions may benefit
from receiving chicken blood rather than human blood..
It tends to make the men cocky and the women lay better....
Just thought you'd like to know.
BLESSED ARE THOSE WHO ARE CRACKED,
FOR THEY ARE THE ONES WHO LET IN THE LIGHT!
OK, I'll be going to my room now.
Cousin said a lady patient she "looks after" fifteen minutes a day, three days a week. PAH ha ha, puts her dentures in the toilet to save water for cleaning them...should be so lucky...
Hope everyone is OK. Agree in midst of crisis use your habits they are familiar and even if not health a comfort one needs, quit when life is going smoothly and you can focus on healthy changes.
FP had dr app. nothing new, just old, nothing nothing nothing...
Jam, You head the nail on the head a few posts back and really expressed clearly what a lot of us go through. I'd be more precise about when but it seems the date/time stamps are gone again.
I had myself a GREAT time the last day or two, helping out with the Banners, art, props, etc for the town's Mardi gras celebration! It felt soooo good to be doing that stuff again! I miss work so much. Going back in this morning to install it all, mom has been real good about my being out of the house for a few hours at a time. I think if she knew how much I enjoyed it, she would be acting differently.
Bobbie, I missed the show, (I'll catch it on Hulu someday) but after reading the comments here I find it an absolutely beautiful image that these are the folks who were celebrating your B'day on the boat with you! with the little one curled up asleep on your lap no less! Love you and if you care for them, then so do I! (I promise not to spill the beans to ET.)
HB, May the road rise to meet you, May the wind be always at your back....
Everyone, Pardon me for a bit while see if I can eek out another satisfaction filled day!
Be Strong!
love,
miz
Love ya,
Jam
what's up with that AC??
please put them back and for everybody's sake please don't edit this thread unnecessarily.
What may not look important to you could be very important to others.
lovbob
sure they left the meat and I shouldn't get wierd.
Was getting ready to see who got boat time for 11000!
and they DID put the numbers back!! yay.
lovbob
She has dementia with Parkinson like symptoms. Hence tremors.
Probably 8 yrs ago she was on of a series of meds Detrol being one as well as klopopin. Klonopin doses was .05 x3 a day. Tooooo much. Cut back to .05 @ bedtime. Has worked well till now. In Nov she fell the first time in 1 1/2yrs. Had a bedside chair. Second fall end of Jan. Both while going to potty. After that I had her start alerting me if she needed to get up. Very, very reluctantly she complied. THIS is when I realized how often she was really getting up. Spoke with PC, he ordered PT and change to Vesicare. During this change of meds she saw Neuro. Believing our problem was pee meds, no changes in meds. Yesterday I decided she was not getting into enough deep sleep to get rest before she was awake to pee. Last night I increased her klonopin by 1/2. She went to bed @ 9:00p She got up 2x!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Once @ 12m and then 3:45a. No wetting the bed, dry as a bone at 8:00am. WHOOO FREAKIN HOOO!!! I am going to try this the rest of the week and if it seems to work let PC/Neuro know so that they can increase her script. I hope I don't have to fight them over this. I shouldn't, should I? It is not that big of an increase. She had the first GOOOD nights sleep in a long time and so did I, (in comparison). This I can do!!!!! Thanks again all, keep your fingers crossed!!!!
Trust your instincts. You'll be the first to know if something is amiss. This makes sense!
Meds work differently for every body.