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Thanks, Everyone. Now I'm less paranoid about being nuts. It Is What It Is.
Christina, Man, o' Man are you the perceptive one! You are right on target with stuff I just couldn't see. I know that i do feel hyper-sensitive, always waiting for the next shoe to drop, or mom to drop, or I forgot to pay the water bill and it is no more, or, or, or.... Thanks for being a clear head for me. I guess I just get so wound up in this I get confused about what is happening around me and with me. Someone once wondered if dementia is contagious, but I think it's like sympathy pains, or a contact high, or like when you start speaking with a british accent after listening to the BBC.
Jam, I haven't been to the doc in a while. If you really think it might be depression I'll ask about it. But I just remembered someone once telling me that "If you hang around crazy long enough, crazy starts to look sane."
oh crap i said ram instead of jam . sorry jam , feelin like rammin or jammin , :-) got pa fed , now he s happy camper . still raining out , great !!! heard it suppose to get warmer too , wooohoo am so ready ...
Ted, you are absolutely correct in that quote......but yeah I think you are looking at the Big D. How can you not? You have gone through so much with that sister of yours, the wonderful, but stress-filled days with your mother, the work situation, the housing worry.......oh my I admire you a lot! I know there are a lot of men who do what you do, but let's face it, you are the minority. Most men would run for the hills if faced with care-giving. After a while the stresses of the daily care start to wear on us, add to that the lack of sleep, lack of proper nutrition, lack of social contact....knowing our day will revolve around poop, pee, puke, drool, mumbling, screaming, whining, crying.....whenever I start to feel myself sliding toward that infinite black hole, I put myself back on a regimen of Lexapro until I can look at that hole and say "yeah, come and get me now....hah hah"!!!!! I won't allow myself to become dependent upon it to make me a happy person all the time....just when I need that little boost back up then I can look at the col and say it's another day.....instead of "where's the pillow"?
lori- i went back and read some things , saw u mention about the noise ! my dad does that too , i hated it when i hav eto get him up and he would belch or burp real loud and i walk right into it . blah sometimes i tasted it !@ #4@!2# pity terrible . gosh this weather is not helpin me any ! louie ( my cat) has a appt at 230 ! lucky i called i thought 3 or 330 , she said oh no its 230 . oh gosh glad i called . i hope it stops rainin then . i hate taking louie to the vet , its like takin care of a lion ! he hates the vet and the car ride . cries all the way there and all the way home and then he s mad at me for few days . ah well im the caregiver , isnt that my job ?
I hope you don't think I THINK we should all be Mary Poppins, because I DON'T, and I'm sorry if I offended anyone with my "no arguing" post. We all come from different places, and I am going to vent the way I need to. I have had my share of depression in my life, mostly from being told that I was the problem in my family, because I did not go along with the bs and made big waves and talked about stuff. Something in my soul and personality told me at a very young age that I better take care of myself to survive because I was not going to be like the rest of them. Look at me now-- I'm the caregiver, I'm the responsible one, but I still have a life. I have a good husband, one good kid and (one that is a snotty little shit right now but I think he'll come around) and I am looking to the hope of the future, because I won't look back anymore. I have come to terms with the past, and I am dealing with the present with all my strength and ability. I am tired, but I am putting one foot in front of the other and turning down the monitor so I don't hear every little snore, whine, moan, "OMG, I'm gonna die here"--yes, you probably will, and it will be the right time. BUT, until then, I am detaching from her, and I have to survive MY WAY. Hope you all understand. I am not a tough bitch, but sometimes I am. Love you. Christina
Why is it the belching bothers me? My girls used to have burping contests........real ladies....lol it never bothered me. Her belching does. Last night my husband told me that while I was outside, he and col were still eating, she did it at the table. He about lost it. I have talked to her about talking to the dr about her "gas" issues to no avail. She said beans and onions cause it.......alot more than beans and onions cause her BO!
Hi all, I can relate to the cycles Ted is talking about. Just start feeling good and "normal" but by the end of the day still stuck in the same situation. I had tried antidepressants in the past but didn't like them. Worth a try, though. I remember it was hard to stop taking them once the system gets used to them, there is a withdrawal. I tried prozac, and paxil. What scares me now is the PTSD I've heard about. Maybe I can get it over with now and feel good after. I think I am the one who started the applesauce thing, and I'm getting sick of it now. I tried to type, pills in applesauce, and typed pissl in applesauce by mistake. Funny , though. well, that's all I can think of at the moment. hope all are doing OK today. love, ssk
christina - u have a point there . cant aruge with the demente , i done enuff of that when dad wanted the car keys , he would get me so upset that id bawled right there at the trailer full of old folks . out on the porch waa waa waa . he d yell at me GIVE ME THE KEYS NOW DAMN IT LINDA ! i grab me a beer out ofthe cooler and take off walking , hopin and prayin that a cop doesnt come on this road and arrest me for havin beer in my hand and walkin . id talk to dad till i was blue in the face , about takin hand full of pills and driving , maybe run over some old woman or men , even moms or kids !!! NAHH i wont do that ! it was every day ! give me the keys now give me give me . im glad its all over now whew thank u jesus . now he says ohi gotta go to work !!! i dont aruge about that , ijust say ok lets get u fed and clothes on and id take him out for joy ride and hes happy camper . blah i hate aruging , no point in that . not to me anyway . xoxo
ssk - piss n applesauce , hey dont feel bad about not spelling it right , hell i just called jam - ram ! the other night i was typin away and went back to look . alot of em wasnt spaced and alot of em was spelled wrong , had to fix it . then send it off then reread em again oh crap , nothings perfect , but anyway ssk . u did good and had us all smiling and now we have something to look fwrd to it obmaj , piss n applesauce , SHAME ON YOU SHAME ON YOU !!! i just love it all . makes me smile everytime .. maybe j somebody can make a song out of those ugh ? jsomebody- ure good ! i wish i could send u a plane ticket and have u come stay here ... i ll pay u 100 a week ! instead of month ! what the hell !!! greedy , go steal fp s billfold will ya ! take some money out there and blame it on ur mom . :-) or the dog ate it ??? love you !!! xoxo
Christina , If there are any Pollyanna's out there, I have a spray for them. I spray it, they either turn into one of us or they melt, like the witch in the Wizard of OZ. You are right about the argueing, at least with someone who has Alz/Dem. I just go to Ruth's world, she no longer lives in mine. How simple is that??!!! Your life sounds alot like mine. You are perfect just the way you are. If people get offended, they usually don't stay long. If that didn't upset them something else would. Hugs across the miles from Chaquita......
ssk, funny how things get started. Kind of of like the "telephone" game. The end seems to have a purpose and more meaning than the accidental beginning. heehee How's the ramp coming along? How's Mom? HUGS
ssk - please don't be offended by the piss 'n applesauce. I know how it happenedand it was just wonderful!! How could we cope if not for the laughter, right? ted - sure could be the Big D. I am taking lexapro to keep my mom alive, high blood pressure pills, high colestrol pills, hormones to keep my hubby alive, and I smoke, but I'm also taking welbutrin to quit, (Yeah, right!) Would drink, but I am a cheap drunk.......I go from sober to commode-huggin drunk in 2 min. Probably the worst is the confinement. I can't go anywhere without mom wanting to go with me. But I need to be away by myself sometimes. I am also kind of OCD. I am counting to see how much money I would make in a day at 5 cents per face fart every time I help mom up out of her chair. Ooops, sorry....not. Gotta feed her again.......
Kim, I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time... What's up w/. that hospital? When my mother was released because of her illness her doctor had made all the arrangements for the rehab facility! All I had to do was drive her over there... I'd give that doctor of hers a good thrashing! That can't be proper protocol for that hospital shame on them for making more hell for you...
yeah ... be nice to Christina! She weilds the shears. I can imagine us all with Mohawks fi we annoy her.
Sskpe - I like the PissN'Applesauce! You should be proud! Already a design is in progreess, only in your case you deserve the credit. *Do we get credits for exhausted typos? We all knoew what you were talking of with the pill crusher & hiding those damn pills ... You added a delightful dimension that will always make me smile when I see either pills, piss or applesauce. Note to memory: Add that to the grocery list.
Webmaster? Are you reading this? An article about the CNN deal? That's oneI'd like to read altho my charge doesn't have the condition. I'm continually stunned when people ask about me & I mention caring for Dad 24/7, blah, blah, blah ... Just how many people are acquainted or personally dealiing with someone involved with the disease.
20 years ago you rarely heard of it. Now with all the media available lets get it out ther. Maybe it will come back to help us?
Bonnie O ~ Thanks so much for checking in! We are always open for you anytime & you know the FB thing too. Whine, vent, bitch! Often it's all you can do. Pressure cooker life we live ... consider us a release valve?
Peach. Today I hope to see your icon pop up ... Please??? Kuli too.
HA! I just noticed the "Flag as Innappropriate" icon in the bottom right of each comment box! How long has that been there? I can't think of anything that would be innappropriate for this thread but c'mon, let's see who can get flagged first! 123...GO!
Ha! Ted! that's been there from the beginning!! thanks for getting the correct CNN infor to allshesgot.
If Ted's no King......I know I'm no Queen..... but I do know that all of you guys are angels!!!! Princess angels or bitch angels, but angels!! I kind of like Bitch Angel. ok... need a set of lyrics sung to the tune of Earth Angel.....
hey Ted - be careful... you may see 11,249 little flags! (they've alawys been hiding there. Part of the template ) Looky too! 199 authors! I wonder where the Pollyannas are ... suffering gag reflexes after a dose of us?
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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Christina, Man, o' Man are you the perceptive one! You are right on target with stuff I just couldn't see. I know that i do feel hyper-sensitive, always waiting for the next shoe to drop, or mom to drop, or I forgot to pay the water bill and it is no more, or, or, or....
Thanks for being a clear head for me. I guess I just get so wound up in this I get confused about what is happening around me and with me. Someone once wondered if dementia is contagious, but I think it's like sympathy pains, or a contact high, or like when you start speaking with a british accent after listening to the BBC.
love the BBC joke. it's true....
Kimaz! sorry about your ordeal..awful what are they thinking?
glad you're here with us and can vent it out. hope it helps.
Jam, love the glider!
Linda!
ok, really going to work on the boat.... I swear......
love you guys,
lovbob
got pa fed , now he s happy camper .
still raining out , great !!! heard it suppose to get warmer too , wooohoo am so ready ...
Love ya,
Jam
Worry does not empty tomorrow of it's sorrows; worry empties tody of it's STRENGTH!
Easier said than done sometimes........or alot
gosh this weather is not helpin me any !
louie ( my cat) has a appt at 230 ! lucky i called i thought 3 or 330 , she said oh no its 230 . oh gosh glad i called . i hope it stops rainin then . i hate taking louie to the vet , its like takin care of a lion ! he hates the vet and the car ride . cries all the way there and all the way home and then he s mad at me for few days . ah well im the caregiver , isnt that my job ?
I am not a tough bitch, but sometimes I am.
Love you. Christina
It's age, I know,
but youth i miss.
I think I am the one who started the applesauce thing, and I'm getting sick of it now. I tried to type, pills in applesauce, and typed pissl in applesauce by mistake. Funny , though.
well, that's all I can think of at the moment.
hope all are doing OK today.
love, ssk
id talk to dad till i was blue in the face , about takin hand full of pills and driving , maybe run over some old woman or men , even moms or kids !!! NAHH i wont do that ! it was every day ! give me the keys now give me give me . im glad its all over now whew thank u jesus . now he says ohi gotta go to work !!! i dont aruge about that , ijust say ok lets get u fed and clothes on and id take him out for joy ride and hes happy camper .
blah i hate aruging , no point in that . not to me anyway . xoxo
the other night i was typin away and went back to look . alot of em wasnt spaced and alot of em was spelled wrong , had to fix it . then send it off then reread em again oh crap , nothings perfect , but anyway ssk . u did good and had us all smiling and now we have something to look fwrd to it obmaj , piss n applesauce , SHAME ON YOU SHAME ON YOU !!! i just love it all . makes me smile everytime ..
maybe j somebody can make a song out of those ugh ?
jsomebody- ure good ! i wish i could send u a plane ticket and have u come stay here ... i ll pay u 100 a week ! instead of month ! what the hell !!! greedy , go steal fp s billfold will ya ! take some money out there and blame it on ur mom . :-) or the dog ate it ??? love you !!! xoxo
You are right about the argueing, at least with someone who has Alz/Dem. I just go to Ruth's world, she no longer lives in mine. How simple is that??!!!
Your life sounds alot like mine. You are perfect just the way you are. If people get offended, they usually don't stay long. If that didn't upset them something else would.
Hugs across the miles from Chaquita......
How's the ramp coming along? How's Mom? HUGS
ted - sure could be the Big D. I am taking lexapro to keep my mom alive, high blood pressure pills, high colestrol pills, hormones to keep my hubby alive, and I smoke, but I'm also taking welbutrin to quit, (Yeah, right!) Would drink, but I am a cheap drunk.......I go from sober to commode-huggin drunk in 2 min.
Probably the worst is the confinement. I can't go anywhere without mom wanting to go with me. But I need to be away by myself sometimes.
I am also kind of OCD. I am counting to see how much money I would make in a day at 5 cents per face fart every time I help mom up out of her chair. Ooops, sorry....not.
Gotta feed her again.......
Sskpe - I like the PissN'Applesauce! You should be proud! Already a design is in progreess, only in your case you deserve the credit. *Do we get credits for exhausted typos?
We all knoew what you were talking of with the pill crusher & hiding those damn pills ...
You added a delightful dimension that will always make me smile when I see either pills, piss or applesauce.
Note to memory: Add that to the grocery list.
Webmaster? Are you reading this? An article about the CNN deal? That's oneI'd like to read altho my charge doesn't have the condition.
I'm continually stunned when people ask about me & I mention caring for Dad 24/7, blah, blah, blah ... Just how many people are acquainted or personally dealiing with someone involved with the disease.
20 years ago you rarely heard of it. Now with all the media available lets get it out ther. Maybe it will come back to help us?
Bonnie O ~ Thanks so much for checking in! We are always open for you anytime & you know the FB thing too. Whine, vent, bitch! Often it's all you can do. Pressure cooker life we live ... consider us a release valve?
Peach. Today I hope to see your icon pop up ... Please???
Kuli too.
I can't think of anything that would be innappropriate for this thread but c'mon, let's see who can get flagged first!
123...GO!
thanks for getting the correct CNN infor to allshesgot.
If Ted's no King......I know I'm no Queen..... but I do know that all of you guys are angels!!!! Princess angels or bitch angels, but angels!!
I kind of like Bitch Angel.
ok... need a set of lyrics sung to the tune of Earth Angel.....
Bitch angel, bitch angel....
I'm just a fool........
lovbob
be careful... you may see 11,249 little flags!
(they've alawys been hiding there. Part of the template
)
Looky too! 199 authors!
I wonder where the Pollyannas are ...
suffering gag reflexes after a dose of us?