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KT - My name is Sue and I live midway between Raleigh, NC and the coast. My mom is living with me and my hubby, at his suggestion, although I was her favorite of 6 kids, and knew she would come to me. Dad died 5 yrs. ago. Since 2001 when she had a brain aneurysm and stroke (and some brain damage) mom has never been alone. She no longer walks, can stand for a little while, and I see signs of early dementia and now hard of hearing. She is 83.
I couldn't have children, so I always worked. Hubby is retired military and now works for the city in waste water management (so he knows his poop.) My stress comes mostly from her lack of hygiene - things that would have shamed her before , she constantly calls me for everything, must be wheeled everywhere, and I get up 4-7 times a night with her. I have one helper who stays here 2 nites a week. All other family lives in Illinois doing their own thing. I miss adult conversation and interaction. And I am always tired. Our last 2 dogs were put down almost 2 yrs ago and I miss their love.
I am also new to this site and still read profiles to keep people straight. I read hundred of posts before I spoke up to see where things were going. I felt like someone else finally "got it". And the stories made me laugh, not in fun, but in empathy. My situation could be worse. This group has given me encouragement, patience, and a greater sense of peace and sanity. My mom would be horrified if she knew I was on a sith like this. I love her dearly, but getting your first child at 55 is something even she doesn't know about.
Hey Kat, I am new here too, less than a month so you and I can hold hands and learn together :) I live in Chandler, AZ taking care of a mother who has had heart transplant, stroke, and now cancer. Two kids, 21 and 17 (And Chaquita baby, please come and kick him around a bit. He needs it.) I don't get here every day and don't always post but I feel already like I do when you see a good friend you have missed for years, you can just slip back in and vent and everyone loves you and accepts you.
Hats off and oreo cookies and milk to all of you creamy middles!
miz- down in the dump u are . too much going on at once for u guys , i feel ur sadness and emptyness , takes a while to heal , my hugs and kisses to u . remmy u can always text me . i wanted to do it for the past few days but didnt want to interupt you all . kim-seemeride- . youre a sweet heart too . now ive learn about u guys which i didnt know before . i am too the last child out of 6 kids and sure enuff pa knew he come and stay with me . always a pleasure . enjoyin my dad after missing him for years , only see eachother once a year . now 3 yrs 24/7 :-)
Rossella! good idea! Jam, Seemer, Kim, Linda! GREAT POSTS!!
KT! Don't fly away, fly on the wall! There are a bunch of 'new' people here, as in haven't been around this thread for very long. We learn more about each other just by sharing what's going on starting.... now! Ladeeda is still relatively new as well as Kima and Lori and Seemeride and now we would be sad if they weren't here! don't let being new stop you from jumping in. the aforementioned ladies and more just jumped in and shared what was going on in their lives and we reached out and grabbed them before they fell too far, just like Miz and others reached out to grab me before I fell too far.
I remember how upset and crazy these folks were when they found this thread. Collectively there is a net here that creates a soft place to fall for the worn caregiver and pretty soon you are part of the net for others.
Those around from inception are Miz, lhardebeck, austin (whom we call Maxine, 'cause she calls herself Maxine) kelleybean, pamela and a few others who have either completed their missions or just fallen off for whatever reason. some of them exchanged email addresses with me and we keep up with each other that way.
I just went back and read the first 200 posts, some have been edited out for whatever reason but it only took a very short time and you can see how all of this fell into place as part of my backstory. some of the edits were some bible thumpers and I don't do bible thumpers and a straight up ahole that I threw off the 'boat' deeper into the thread. Other than that it's been a great group of people with terriffic advice and a flatbed truck worth of support.
I kept dreaming about boats while I was in the final stages with my mom. I made the decision on this thread to sell everything after mom passed and get a big boat. And that is exactly what happened. The boat in the above picture is the Barbara B, named for my mom. She is a 58' Monk Roughwater capable of crossing an ocean. We are still in refit at a beautiful yard in the SE. It usually takes about a year to refit a boat of this size and we are almost finished!! The original purpose of the Barbara B was to be a respite vessel for caregivers on this thread who have completed their missions. That means hosting them On Board. It is important to me to keep on telling folks that there is a light at the end of the tunnel because I was so depressed and sick with all of the craziness of caregiving that in the beginning of it all, 04 and 05, I was sucidal. this site wasn't here yet, I joined in Oct of 09, and there still wasn't a place to vent about the sheer grossness of it all and I knew I couldn't be alone, so I wrote the beginning of the Grossed Out thread in Feb of 2010 and it resonated with other folks and here we are.
I guess what's important is to know that if you're stressed, sad, pissed, happy, delirious, whatever, you just get up on here and Vent! don't worry about knowing everybody's backstory and if you want some great caregiving advice, page through the thread by saving the browser address of the page you're on so you don't have to keep going back to the beginning. OR, just say: wtf do I do about this?? and one by one we will get on and put in our 2 cents. I have used that tecnique a LOT! There are some brilliant voices on this thread and many different situations have been hit on at least once.
These women (Ted wasn't around yet) saved my butt through the end stages of caregiving for my mom, her death, the MOUNTAIN of work I had to do to resolve her business (still have one more GIANT task and then I am free, hopefully...I'll explain the hopefully in about 2 months and when you guys hear it you'll know why I am SO stressed out).
Hurt Feelings: ssk, I'm sorry that your feelings have been hurt on here... and if I hurt them please forgive me. when many stressors are present, like with me over the last few days, feelings are raw.
I agree that we shouldn't have to 'tiptoe' around, but any kind of mean shit to each other under the guise of 'humor' is not welcome ever. next. Best way to handle it is to call it at the moment and move on. Sorry if that steps on toes but that is the way this thread has been run since inception and I ain't changing it now. on the other hand I will personally disembowel any outsider who attacks anyone on this thread.
that being said, thank you Ted and Seemer for being so kind to me when you found out I was sad. I really appreciate it because I, just like the rest of us, still carry a heavy burden even though my mother is dead.
We are folks under tremendous stress, whether we are still actively caregiving or our charges have died and we are still on to lend a hand to the new guys. After caregiving, many of us will and have experienced PTSD. I am PTSD personally and boy it sux. Doing my best.
so KT, there you go in a nutshell as far as bob and the thread itself. Your MIL sounds like a jewel and I love the fact that your husband is the champ bass catcher! My Cousin, Cuz, has a great bass boat up in the state shaped like a Mitten.... He's the resident joke guy and Cuz! missed you last night!
I love the fact that Seemer and Ted can get together and that some of our caregivers have met. I have hosted 2 caregivers on the boat so far. One was awful and a real snatch and the other was Miz! and her husband and that was great. I would have Miz back on the boat in a heartbeat. I look forward to drinking coffee and margueritas with Linda (lhardebeck)!! WooHoo. I look forward to hosting each and every one of you, new guys, been around for some time guys... if you choose to come to the boat.
Miz!! I know how sad you are and please know that we all are sending the angels to you every second. Like Ladeeda says: we have to love each other even more and boy is she right. Ladeeda! A welcome voice on the thread and kiddo, I hope your knee heals well and I am happy that the family is going to let Ruth stay in the NH until you are better.
I am worried so much for BonnieO. Has anyone been able to talk to her? Bonnie! tell us! Worried also about Pirate, Flex, DEEF!!!, whom I know is going through Hell on Earth and some others that we have not heard from for a few days. c'mon crew.. check in so we know you're alive and kicking!
Seemer, Pirate will disappear for awhile and then check in. She really has her hands full with her job and mom and it's getting to be time for her..... the placement decision is the hardest. My experience with it is in the first posts. We send angels to the sick and sad, grieving and isolated, angels all around. I hand out stars all day... makes you feel good to get some stars!
pirate !! where are you !!! woried sick ! maybe shes busy gettingher mom into a nursing home ? she was suppose to be going back to work after havin time off , jsomebody , u re havin me worry about u already . thats the thing , meet so many lovin caregivers who is just like the rest of us and we end up cherrish our friendship and now worry about one to another if we dont hear from them waaaaa. deefer , deflex , peachie . we re missing you very bad ! pirate , missin and worry about you too much . ok i need to get off here ! need to clean clean . nobody wanna help ? lol xoxo
ya, Linda, what you said!! I think of Jen often. Wow what a situation there. KT, jsomebody is a genius of a writer and has a way tough row to hoe. Wait until you meet Headbanger when she returns from India in April. What a funny funny woman! Love you Miz.
Good Morning All you Beautiful People: That greeting usually means I am in a really good, thoughtful writing mood. NOT this morning. I ache, I slept while Mother was whining again, so I am wondering how much stress she put herself through. Miz: recovering, balancing Blessings to you and Hubby. Miss you, sweet angel, today you are the "angel" on the wall. One fly is enough, right KT?! Little by little, you transform from a fly to an angel. I am at about 'dragonfly' at this point. Only been here since first week of December!!! Before caregiving, time flew by--right, girls and guy? Amazing how time slows down...drags on...must be from getting up every couple of hours and not getting enough sleep, listening to whining and me me me stuff all the time. Anyway, KT, we had our first meeting on another thread, and I'm glad you joined us:) xo I started to rewrite my profile yesterday because I erased it one day when I was feeling invisible, due to stress. After I wrote it and reread it, I erased it again because I hate my life story. Some of the good things are: I am a singer, designer-of kitchens, baths and landscape, home gardener, have a wonderful husband, 2 great kids, but my son is in the Schitt family currently. I am highly sensitive, sense earthquakes, which makes me really weird, have taught Bible study and pray like crazy. I have help during the day with Mother, but not at night. If I did what a lot of the Angels here do--alone, begging for help--I would NOT be able to do it, I don't think. I say that, but I am a very conscientious person, high standards, doing the right thing is not negotiable to me, so please God, protect my precious caregivers. I have 2 living siblings who do not help. My sister is a mini-mother. oooo. I'm not available after this gig. Anyway, I'm taking care of my 93 yr old Mother in our home, suggested by MY husband--who I thought really loved me, but is a generous, caring man who lost HIS Mother when he was 11, so he thinks ALL Mothers must be wonderful. He has since seen shadows of why my therapy bill was so high for 40 years. She has macular degeneration, and dementia, but we are not sure at what stage because she is a great manipulator, and since she is a Narcissist, we think maybe she milks every little weakness for all she can. I depressed now. I woke up thinking about BonnieO--I'm glad she checked in. I'm praying for your circumstances, Bonnie:)-- and Pirate, who I have emailed several times and offered to come see her/help her/ have lunch, but she must be busy with Mom. I'm driving up that way today for a job, but it's raining and I do not like driving among the messes, I mean masses. I love you guys. Have great day, have fun here. I'll read and "catch up" later. HUGS to ALL, prayers for those not feeling well, for whatever reason. God is busy here. Christina
Ted ~ how are things this morning? I think we might should start a thread called "Backstreet" where we can all share a bit more about our selves & situations, recall our many 'special events' on board. Lord knows we've had somne great ones!
I really enjoyed re-defining those who updated, Thanks for the open start, Rossella! I'd like to add she is a lady with incredible insight & I wish she had the time to write her book.
Yikes ~ I'd like to add more but looked at the clock. Try to reach the doctor ... Need more fuel too. Coffee is nearly empty. Do I dare pour another? The cost of my primary fuels have increased. Gas & coffee. Well, coffee. I'm miss driving but not traffic. I justify every mile now to stay nearby to Sir. Like many of us, I'm in this alone so his life & comfort is in my hands day & night.
Pretty much the only changes to my ragged profile created tearfully last June - I've lost 3 beloved, long living pets & recently welcomed a delightful rescue dog into our lives! Sir is still beloved, sometimes cranky & needy, but dearly loved & tenderly cared for. He enjoys some of the 'thread stories' along with us.
Not dead neither is he unfortunately. Jsomebody here the bitter pill. I get up and rush to do the med stuff for my PUG and try to avoid grandfather...never works, "Good Morning Jenny..." He says sicko cheerry like like here I am another day and you still have to put up with me being a useless piece of shit pervert...so I reply glumly...under breath "when you are dead, it will be a... "Good Morning Granpa" audible.......and if he hears it all, I do not care any more....
Hello to Kathy and rip and miz and Cristina, Ted and bobbie...respite boat is right! Linda and Diane and newbies and oldbies and middlebies...
FNA..JUST WAS TYPING A LONG POST HIT A FN KEY AND POOF LOST EVERYTHING...DANG IT..HATE KEYBOARDS ON LAPTOPS..THIS HAPPENS ALL THE TIME...NOW I HAVE TO REMEMBER WHAT I FREAKING WROTE..DAMN IT
hi there ! jsomebody and pirate ! now im worry free ! pirate damn it i hate it when i fillin what i said then oh crap i forgot someone s name i go back and then get the name and go back to where i was and its gone !!! happens everytime i try to remind myself ya cant do that !!! wonder why it does that ? it should still be there when i come back but nope , anyway hope u have time to repeat and remmy what ya said , lol ok i done my bath and that is it ! oh wait a min itook dad to bathroom and put him inbed cuz its more comfy that recliner he says . now must go do some slave work .. xoxo
Back from the phone, more coffee plus the ebb & flow of the urinary collection bag. What a pleasure ... Vanishing posts happens to me often, Pirate! Is it an Acer? Odd key board for me, the non typist. I went back to 'old sticky keys'. I miss many "F"s ... keeps my language in check I guess.
Nice to see you're here with us, PirateGirl.
Kuli & Deefer are both dealing with deep stuff. Think of them today ... Nice to see you, Miz! Hope your seas are calm.
FN-A took me over an hour to read all the posts since my last posts! Harde and I are over here in the corner smoking a dobbie...veeeeeeh....wooosh...who's next? LOL. Seem I remember those ugly masks hooked up to a bong seems like a boy thing - always thought the bongs were for the dudes. I remember my boyfriend when I was 18 made a bong out of a cardboard tube and painted it black and wrote godzilla on the side. LOL...come out to Cali where pot clinics are everwhere and they legalized having an ounce and 3 plants I believe and no ticket...but you gotta have prescript...which is buttarse easy to get I hear!
Ted and Christina seems you followed suit with me on having a nervous breakdown...are you guys better today?
I was having a tough time with my mom's sundowning...oh before I forget ...I had to call the fire dept on Sunday night...tried to take mom into the toitey on the wheelchair and stood her up and she went sideways hit her head on the counter and had a big black walnut on her noggin...when fire boys got here it was huge and suggested she go to emergency before I knew it there was about 8 fire guys/gals or paramedics...they are only 10 houses down the street..hospital is one street up...so before I knew it she was gone out the door...went up the street to emergency and met up with her and bf met me there...they did catscan...ekg...chest x rays...then 2 hours later (was hoping they would keep her overnight) said she was good to go home...ice...and tylenol and rest...said it was only skin bump no bleeding into the brain....
Well her sundowning is getting worse and worse..it's mentally horrific for me to handle...those dead staring eyes and tossing and turning and figeting and nervous creepy energy...sometimes I get really mad when she calls me( well either her dead sisters names of Elizabeth or Anna) sometimes my name....depends on what state she is in....during the day she is cohesive and then the sundowning comes and it's like ONE FLEW OVER THE CUCKOO'S NEST. On tuesday eve I gave her 2 halperdols....around 4...and then around 5 in her soup I ground up an over the counter sleep aid..well the entire evening she was tossing and turning and figeting with the covers and panting and staring at me with those dead eyes making me feel guilty....she kept calling like every 1/2 to 1 hour...8 oclock...9 oclock..9:30...11:00...at 4:00 I had enough and grabbed the newly prescirbed THORAZINE...and gave her one...then the rest of the night she was out till 10:30... Last night the sundowning started early again...and gave her her regular psych meds along with a Thorazine....with dinnnertime....around 6 it took 2 hours of this creepy shit going on again till around 8 so we slipped out and went to Booger King to get the fish sandwichs I like so much. So she was good the rest of the eve...and still sleeping
What I do if I have to go back to a post and and I have written stuff is "copy" what I have already posted. Saved me lots of times of being pissed off that I lost everything. Just a little tip.
Hi Pirate, I'm driving up the coast today. If I can leave early, I'll stop by, if it's convenient. Call me and let me know around 2, OK? Yeah, I'm just wiped out since the earthquakes and whatever is going on. Mother is not too bad, and remembering things lately. Maybe I am "letting down", because of it? Still getting up with her 2 or 3 times a night, but she is just thirsty, not delusional. Psychiatrist is "pleased" with her responses and behavior, asked if she is sleeping. Well, she doesn't seem to be bothered by waking up every few hours, but how about ME? I can;t get back to sleep right away, because I can hear her, and anticipate when she will want to get up again!!! He just said, "OH". Yea f you too, doc. It's a terrible job. I hate it. But, I'm not jumping out of any windows, BOAT. instead of "yet", I say "boat". LOL Love you guys. Hi Jen, rip, bobbie, ssk, Miz, etc.
KT, I too am a newbie to this site, a little over a month. On a day when I was in tears on what we did and what the next gazillion years of my life are going to be....it made me laugh and realize that what I was feeling was okay.
My situation is different than most everyone on here. Sometimes I feel like I need to suck it up and thank my lucky stars I am not at where alot others on this site are at now.....but my time is coming. My mom is 66 (acts more like 86 most of the time) and still able to drive and get out and about. ....I know so what am I complaining about.
For almost 23 years my mom lived acrossed the street from us. We mowed her yard, shoveled snow and took care of everything. (I have one sister who is usually MIA when it comes to helping mom) My husband and I decided we wanted to move to the country and closer to our girls, but what about mom. Mom suffers from depression and we were afraid if we moved ......plain and simple she would die. So we told her what we wanted to do and told her what we were willing to do and let the choice be hers. After 15 months of looking for a house we bought one and moved her with us. We still have a bunch more to move and 2 houses to get ready to sell.
Ok it doesn't sound so bad but what I forgot was living across the street I could hide if I didn't want to deal with her. I forgot how bad she can be. How mean and nasty, the guilt trips, poor me attitude, the sighs, the silent treatment and the hygiene.......oh the hygiene. I mourn for the mom i used to have. I love her but I don't like the person she has become....and of course that makes me feel guilty.
Hi All, I temporarily changed my profile pic....I know most of you have a sense of humor, so you'll be able to take it. Finally got a big box of latex gloves and now my Uncle says he doesn't need me to wipe his butt anymore. :) So I have them for future use. Jsome, your grandpa must be awful to deal with...so intrusive. One time I got too close to a guy in a NH and he grabbed my breast. I was shocked. It happened years ago, when I didn't know to stay far away from certain patients. Christina, I'm a highly sensitive person too. I get sensation overload very easily and get migraines often. Luckily triptans have saved my life. I didn't know about the earthquake though! Ted, I read your profile and I'd like to slap your sister silly. All I can say is I hope karma works. Pirates, I went through a couple nights of non-stop calls, but it has stopped. Is this happening night after night? And Bobbie, I hope you're having fun on your boat. We have a wee canoe. :) I hope everyone is doing well or at least hanging in there.
Hey ya'll, thanks for the "angel net" you all provided for me yesterday. Apparently I need it, as I feel much better today. I don't know if I will need surgery, and I would not just take the Dr.;s word for it anyway. He would have to explain why. It has been three weeks, slap a cast on it and let's be done with this drama. Kt,,, I am a live in caregiver for a 93 yr. old late stage Alz. She is currently in the NH as I got a broken knee in a sundowning episode with her. I love her, she is all things Alz. and I love her anyway. The name Chaquita came about when she was having a really rough night, and after many hours of her trying to leave the house, down she went, and I had been needing to change her diaper (or fresh pants as I call them) I decided to get her changed while she was down. She was fighting me, ect., I finally got the pants undone on one side, and to my great surprise, she had a banana and three butter knives in her pants.......so needless to say we had days of fun on that one. Keep posting that is how we all get to know each other. And when you don't know what we are talking about, just ask. Hope everyone else is ok this morning, will come back later and get caught up. Again, thanks for yesterday AC family , hugs across the miles...
pirate ! im ready to go back in the corner again are you ? lol went to postoffice thinkin they open back up again 130 , oh crap had to sit and wait for half hr while i waited on pirate so we could sneak off in some corner . :-) muscles in my back is flarin up again , dman it , it doesnt get any better . pirate , since ur mom has hit her head and black eyes , dementia flares up , i know it did to my dad , it does more damages than good , but now he seems to have gotten more calm , he tried to wipe his own butt while hubby and i stood outside of the door so he could have privacy to do his bm , bam loud awful noise ! oh noooo , he said i tried to wipe my own but i lean too far i guess , . poor guy , busted his eye brows , lucky no hospitals . 2 black eyes , oh mygosh . i felt so bad and learned my lesson , do not leave his side anymore or park his wheelchair beside him so he can t lean over , if he does fall he be layin on the wheelchair . well he doesnt even dare try to wipe his own butt , ok gonna go in garage and smoke me some cancer , huby wll be home soon then ineed to go shopping for weekends food to feed every body for the weekend . christina come on over ! :-)
Does anyone have a pillow I can borrow? I need it for myself....I got my hair trimmed at 11 then the col had her appt at 12:30 so I was at the salon till 3 pm....the whole friggin day.....then I get home to a letter from my long term disability carrier that says I owe them $4800 because I'm getting a retirement pension.............dumb-asses I told them last year I would be getting retirement and it would start in August and I think the letter I sent them got fried along with the computer when it died. Here let me just pull that out of my a** for you........dickheads. Add to that the almost $7000 we owe for taxes.....what else can go wrong? Col pants as dry as the desert after her outing today....oh I must be getting better.......how about proof positive that you sit on your butt all day long and just pee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG......wait until it finally clicks that her hot rollers are gone. She didn't bother to take morning meds until I found them at 4 pm.....let's hope the Ativan kicks in real quick. It's way past 5 o'clock....I'm after more rum and coke. Glad to see from everyone......will check back later when my brain settles down.
ohhell i need a pillow too ! been runnin in town and forgot few things , i hate shopping for bdays , daughter bday friday another daughter b day monday , granddaughter s bday onmonday also and then sons b day is next week sunday . on top of that my in laws are comin tmr and i havent got anything shit done here ! daughter s bday is tmr and shes like we ll have it at moms ! now everybodys a comin over . im stressing out ! pirate where are you ! i need that corner . jam the ram , sounds like to me ure gonna have to give col the meds instead of her takin it . she prob doesnt know to take them , my dad wouldnt take it if i tell him dont forget ur meds , i have to give it to him , put it in pissnapplesauce ., sounds like to me ure gonna have to start givin it to her and maybe she wont be so outta hand ? just a thought ... miz- im sorry ure pmsin , i know those things and i hated it , have not had em ove r 4 yrs now , stil dealin with menopause , oh lord im just so plump worn out . my shows gonna be on here soon , think i ll go flop on the couch and hope pa doesnt start whiney . goodnight you all xoxoxo
Was post here...sore lower back and cranky, have some Dove in basement so I eat four of those and go back to bed. Works for me...Ah the healing power of chocolate....
I liked very much each one of your posts, ladies... I am sorry for all of you that are going through (particularly) hard times. I received a bill, tonight, of 400 euros (electricity) and as soon as I got it, I put my head against the fridge and thought I wanted to die. This 3-days trip to Paris I am going to make is really crazy, because I'll have to pay the extra-hours to the ladies and I will lose 3 days of work, but, what the f**k! I haven't been out for 2 years. Linda, I think I will relax and I will not think of what happens at home... It's just 3 days! Anyway, my brother can come here if there are major problems. Christina I am glad you are going to see Pirate. It seems she needs a hand, and you are very sweet to go there even if you have problems of your own. Good night everybody a big kiss to all of you
Oh damn Christina I missed you...by the time I read everything this morning and lost my post...and reposted had to get ready cause caregiver was arriving and then the home health aide...and then I made a trip with about 9 or 10 trashbags full of mommo stuff for the thrift shop guy and then popped into the dollar store....ah I love the dollar store...mmm mmm good. I needed parakeet seed and bought that and about 25 bucks more of stuff...lol. Sooo did not get back online till now. Christina we will hook up somehow I promise!!!
Oh..by the way passing the doobie back over to Harde...veeeeeeeh ...........ah......woooooooooooooooosh...mmmmm mmm good stuff Maynard..LOL...wink.
OKAY NOW FOR FIREWORKS that I forgot on my RE-POST...grrrrr grrr sniff sniff...grrrrr okay Bobbie you were right to get mad at skydiver..yep....obviously they did not read enough posts....damn one hit wonders that we have trouncining in here guess it makes them feel good and superior to add their lamearesed 2 cents worth. Okay where were they on this thread and others where I HAVE MENTIONED take your family member to get pysch meds prescribed from a psych. I mentioned that plenty of time....F U skydiver....due to my ended up in the pysch ward 2 years ago that started my fun adventure down the rabbit hole...I saw the pysch meds Depakote, Risperdal, Mirtazpine and Lorazapam as neede work. So sticking my tongue out at skydiver...you didn't tell me nuthing I already did not know or shared here and on other posts. So there...raspberries..
Okay...veeeeeeh...ah....woooosh..passing back to Harde...
Okay (starting to sound like a canuck from Strange Brew...hey I am a canuck..lol)....I talked to the nurse this afternoon about these fn meds...I said how can I wait hours for these to work..she said I have to always use them not just wait for sundowning and I can use the Halperidol and the Thorazine together...so around 4:30 gave her 2 Hals and a Thor...then about a 1/2 later she was wailing...then I said what....hmmm I said how about eating...so I stashed a Ativan in it and then the rest of the pysch meds....well so far quiet..hmmm crossing my fingers...WOULD HAVE HELPED IF THEY EXPLAINED THIS SHIT BETTER!..LOL.
Hey Lori sorry to tell you dear..but nope you FIT IN JUST FINE...know that story of a CONTROLLING mother as well..oh yes! Rip glad you missed me upstairs gal! Aren't you glad there are better commercials being produced lately? My favorite is the two audi commericals with the mansion and goodnight...and the Rich Prison.
Ladeeeeeeda....LOL...I missed that whole thread about bananas...glad you reiterated...LOL...was she saving them butter knives from escape from dementia/alz prison...?
Yeah our charges look at us like we enslaved them...my mom said to me on Sunday night....during the sundowning madness....GET ME OUT OF THIS BOX....she hates the handrails on the hosp bed...sorry but you gotta have them...the other night during a sundowning or was it in the morning confusion she had her flippin feet hanging over...ready to get out...guess it was morn cause she said she had to pee...geeez h christ...wild woman..guess it's the Barbarian in the german blood eh? wink
geeezus how do you get the smell of their pee and poo out your nostrils...geezes...it's old people gross with a tinge of meds and Miralax...LOL
veeeeeeh.......ah................................wooosh...passing back to Harde
Oh yes Pirate, she was using one to try and unlock the door. Where and when she got the other two I have no idea. And the banana, all I do is shake my head , somethings we just don't need to know. I forget who nicknamed me Chaquita, but it fits. HB had a lot of material there for awhile. I do miss HB, hope she is having a great time, but miss her. Am going to see Ruth tomorrow, BG says NH is keeping her medicated...I will go see for myself and give the little meanie kisses, I do miss her. I have not had to run after her for a couple of weeks now, so I can miss her. I don't think she will have so many problems like before because they have her on meds. Still don't know about the knee, am waiting for Dr. to make an appointment with Orthopedic Dr. then onward.. Family has to keep Ruth in NH until I can take care of her again. Just ready to get on with it. Rossella, you are right, take your trip, the bills will be there when you get back. Or it would have come in while you were gone, and you wouldn't have known and still had a great time... Enjoy yourself..
Jsomebody, you are so right, chocolate is the best legal drug we can get...enjoy..
miz how are things with you? You are in my thoughts daily,. lots of prayers still being sent your way.
Rip,,,, how is Sir? And how are you??????? love ya Hope everyone gets some kind of rest tonite. hugs across the miles. Ladee Chaquita
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I couldn't have children, so I always worked. Hubby is retired military and now works for the city in waste water management (so he knows his poop.) My stress comes mostly from her lack of hygiene - things that would have shamed her before , she constantly calls me for everything, must be wheeled everywhere, and I get up 4-7 times a night with her. I have one helper who stays here 2 nites a week. All other family lives in Illinois doing their own thing. I miss adult conversation and interaction. And I am always tired. Our last 2 dogs were put down almost 2 yrs ago and I miss their love.
I am also new to this site and still read profiles to keep people straight. I read hundred of posts before I spoke up to see where things were going. I felt like someone else finally "got it". And the stories made me laugh, not in fun, but in empathy. My situation could be worse. This group has given me encouragement, patience, and a greater sense of peace and sanity. My mom would be horrified if she knew I was on a sith like this. I love her dearly, but getting your first child at 55 is something even she doesn't know about.
Enough about me. I hope you check back soon.
Hello, everyone,
Sue
Hats off and oreo cookies and milk to all of you creamy middles!
Is it usual for pirate to go missing? She sure was blue last time we heard.
I took meds on time--lol--maybe they were fresher on the bottom of the bottles. Working so far!
kim-seemeride- . youre a sweet heart too . now ive learn about u guys which i didnt know before . i am too the last child out of 6 kids and sure enuff pa knew he come and stay with me . always a pleasure . enjoyin my dad after missing him for years , only see eachother once a year . now 3 yrs 24/7 :-)
Rossella! good idea!
Jam, Seemer, Kim, Linda! GREAT POSTS!!
KT! Don't fly away, fly on the wall!
There are a bunch of 'new' people here, as in haven't been around this thread for very long. We learn more about each other just by sharing what's going on starting.... now!
Ladeeda is still relatively new as well as Kima and Lori and Seemeride and now we would be sad if they weren't here!
don't let being new stop you from jumping in.
the aforementioned ladies and more just jumped in and shared what was going on in their lives and we reached out and grabbed them before they fell too far, just like Miz and others reached out to grab me before I fell too far.
I remember how upset and crazy these folks were when they found this thread. Collectively there is a net here that creates a soft place to fall for the worn caregiver and pretty soon you are part of the net for others.
Those around from inception are Miz, lhardebeck, austin (whom we call Maxine, 'cause she calls herself Maxine) kelleybean, pamela and a few others who have either completed their missions or just fallen off for whatever reason. some of them exchanged email addresses with me and we keep up with each other that way.
I just went back and read the first 200 posts, some have been edited out for whatever reason but it only took a very short time and you can see how all of this fell into place as part of my backstory. some of the edits were some bible thumpers and I don't do bible thumpers and a straight up ahole that I threw off the 'boat' deeper into the thread. Other than that it's been a great group of people with terriffic advice and a flatbed truck worth of support.
I kept dreaming about boats while I was in the final stages with my mom. I made the decision on this thread to sell everything after mom passed and get a big boat. And that is exactly what happened. The boat in the above picture is the Barbara B, named for my mom. She is a 58' Monk Roughwater capable of crossing an ocean. We are still in refit at a beautiful yard in the SE. It usually takes about a year to refit a boat of this size and we are almost finished!!
The original purpose of the Barbara B was to be a respite vessel for caregivers on this thread who have completed their missions. That means hosting them On Board. It is important to me to keep on telling folks that there is a light at the end of the tunnel because I was so depressed and sick with all of the craziness of caregiving that in the beginning of it all, 04 and 05, I was sucidal. this site wasn't here yet, I joined in Oct of 09, and there still wasn't a place to vent about the sheer grossness of it all and I knew I couldn't be alone, so I wrote the beginning of the Grossed Out thread in Feb of 2010 and it resonated with other folks and here we are.
I guess what's important is to know that if you're stressed, sad, pissed, happy, delirious, whatever, you just get up on here and Vent! don't worry about knowing everybody's backstory and if you want some great caregiving advice, page through the thread by saving the browser address of the page you're on so you don't have to keep going back to the beginning.
OR, just say: wtf do I do about this?? and one by one we will get on and put in our 2 cents. I have used that tecnique a LOT!
There are some brilliant voices on this thread and many different situations have been hit on at least once.
These women (Ted wasn't around yet) saved my butt through the end stages of caregiving for my mom, her death, the MOUNTAIN of work I had to do to resolve her business (still have one more GIANT task and then I am free, hopefully...I'll explain the hopefully in about 2 months and when you guys hear it you'll know why I am SO stressed out).
Hurt Feelings:
ssk, I'm sorry that your feelings have been hurt on here... and if I hurt them please forgive me.
when many stressors are present, like with me over the last few days, feelings are raw.
I agree that we shouldn't have to 'tiptoe' around, but any kind of mean shit to each other under the guise of 'humor' is not welcome ever. next. Best way to handle it is to call it at the moment and move on. Sorry if that steps on toes but that is the way this thread has been run since inception and I ain't changing it now.
on the other hand I will personally disembowel any outsider who attacks anyone on this thread.
that being said, thank you Ted and Seemer for being so kind to me when you found out I was sad. I really appreciate it because I, just like the rest of us, still carry a heavy burden even though my mother is dead.
We are folks under tremendous stress, whether we are still actively caregiving or our charges have died and we are still on to lend a hand to the new guys.
After caregiving, many of us will and have experienced PTSD. I am PTSD personally and boy it sux. Doing my best.
so KT, there you go in a nutshell as far as bob and the thread itself.
Your MIL sounds like a jewel and I love the fact that your husband is the champ bass catcher! My Cousin, Cuz, has a great bass boat up in the state shaped like a Mitten.... He's the resident joke guy and Cuz! missed you last night!
I love the fact that Seemer and Ted can get together and that some of our caregivers have met.
I have hosted 2 caregivers on the boat so far. One was awful and a real snatch and the other was Miz! and her husband and that was great. I would have Miz back on the boat in a heartbeat.
I look forward to drinking coffee and margueritas with Linda (lhardebeck)!! WooHoo. I look forward to hosting each and every one of you, new guys, been around for some time guys... if you choose to come to the boat.
Miz!! I know how sad you are and please know that we all are sending the angels to you every second.
Like Ladeeda says: we have to love each other even more and boy is she right. Ladeeda! A welcome voice on the thread and kiddo, I hope your knee heals well and I am happy that the family is going to let Ruth stay in the NH until you are better.
I am worried so much for BonnieO. Has anyone been able to talk to her? Bonnie! tell us!
Worried also about Pirate, Flex, DEEF!!!, whom I know is going through Hell on Earth and some others that we have not heard from for a few days. c'mon crew.. check in so we know you're alive and kicking!
Seemer, Pirate will disappear for awhile and then check in. She really has her hands full with her job and mom and it's getting to be time for her..... the placement decision is the hardest. My experience with it is in the first posts.
We send angels to the sick and sad, grieving and isolated, angels all around.
I hand out stars all day... makes you feel good to get some stars!
lovbob
maybe shes busy gettingher mom into a nursing home ? she was suppose to be going back to work after havin time off ,
jsomebody , u re havin me worry about u already .
thats the thing , meet so many lovin caregivers who is just like the rest of us and we end up cherrish our friendship and now worry about one to another if we dont hear from them waaaaa.
deefer , deflex , peachie . we re missing you very bad ! pirate , missin and worry about you too much .
ok i need to get off here ! need to clean clean . nobody wanna help ? lol xoxo
KT, jsomebody is a genius of a writer and has a way tough row to hoe.
Wait until you meet Headbanger when she returns from India in April. What a funny funny woman!
Love you Miz.
lovbob
Miz: recovering, balancing Blessings to you and Hubby. Miss you, sweet angel, today you are the "angel" on the wall.
One fly is enough, right KT?! Little by little, you transform from a fly to an angel. I am at about 'dragonfly' at this point. Only been here since first week of December!!! Before caregiving, time flew by--right, girls and guy? Amazing how time slows down...drags on...must be from getting up every couple of hours and not getting enough sleep, listening to whining and me me me stuff all the time. Anyway, KT, we had our first meeting on another thread, and I'm glad you joined us:) xo
I started to rewrite my profile yesterday because I erased it one day when I was feeling invisible, due to stress. After I wrote it and reread it, I erased it again because I hate my life story. Some of the good things are: I am a singer, designer-of kitchens, baths and landscape, home gardener, have a wonderful husband, 2 great kids, but my son is in the Schitt family currently. I am highly sensitive, sense earthquakes, which makes me really weird, have taught Bible study and pray like crazy. I have help during the day with Mother, but not at night. If I did what a lot of the Angels here do--alone, begging for help--I would NOT be able to do it, I don't think. I say that, but I am a very conscientious person, high standards, doing the right thing is not negotiable to me, so please God, protect my precious caregivers. I have 2 living siblings who do not help. My sister is a mini-mother. oooo. I'm not available after this gig.
Anyway, I'm taking care of my 93 yr old Mother in our home, suggested by MY husband--who I thought really loved me, but is a generous, caring man who lost HIS Mother when he was 11, so he thinks ALL Mothers must be wonderful. He has since seen shadows of why my therapy bill was so high for 40 years. She has macular degeneration, and dementia, but we are not sure at what stage because she is a great manipulator, and since she is a Narcissist, we think maybe she milks every little weakness for all she can.
I depressed now.
I woke up thinking about BonnieO--I'm glad she checked in. I'm praying for your circumstances, Bonnie:)-- and Pirate, who I have emailed several times and offered to come see her/help her/ have lunch, but she must be busy with Mom. I'm driving up that way today for a job, but it's raining and I do not like driving among the messes, I mean masses.
I love you guys. Have great day, have fun here. I'll read and "catch up" later. HUGS to ALL, prayers for those not feeling well, for whatever reason. God is busy here. Christina
how are things this morning? I think we might should start a thread called "Backstreet" where we can all share a bit more about our selves & situations, recall our many 'special events' on board. Lord knows we've had somne great ones!
I really enjoyed re-defining those who updated, Thanks for the open start, Rossella! I'd like to add she is a lady with incredible insight & I wish she had the time to write her book.
Yikes ~ I'd like to add more but looked at the clock. Try to reach the doctor ...
Need more fuel too. Coffee is nearly empty. Do I dare pour another? The cost of my primary fuels have increased. Gas & coffee. Well, coffee. I'm miss driving but not traffic. I justify every mile now to stay nearby to Sir. Like many of us, I'm in this alone so his life & comfort is in my hands day & night.
Pretty much the only changes to my ragged profile created tearfully last June - I've lost 3 beloved, long living pets & recently welcomed a delightful rescue dog into our lives! Sir is still beloved, sometimes cranky & needy, but dearly loved & tenderly cared for. He enjoys some of the 'thread stories' along with us.
Cheers ~
Rip&Pets
Hello to Kathy and rip and miz and Cristina, Ted and bobbie...respite boat is right! Linda and Diane and newbies and oldbies and middlebies...
now im worry free !
pirate damn it i hate it when i fillin what i said then oh crap i forgot someone s name i go back and then get the name and go back to where i was and its gone !!! happens everytime i try to remind myself ya cant do that !!! wonder why it does that ? it should still be there when i come back but nope ,
anyway hope u have time to repeat and remmy what ya said , lol
ok i done my bath and that is it ! oh wait a min itook dad to bathroom and put him inbed cuz its more comfy that recliner he says .
now must go do some slave work .. xoxo
Vanishing posts happens to me often, Pirate! Is it an Acer? Odd key board for me, the non typist. I went back to 'old sticky keys'. I miss many "F"s ... keeps my language in check I guess.
Nice to see you're here with us, PirateGirl.
Kuli & Deefer are both dealing with deep stuff. Think of them today ...
Nice to see you, Miz! Hope your seas are calm.
Where is Ladee???
Harde and I are over here in the corner smoking a dobbie...veeeeeeh....wooosh...who's next? LOL. Seem I remember those ugly masks hooked up to a bong seems like a boy thing - always thought the bongs were for the dudes. I remember my boyfriend when I was 18 made a bong out of a cardboard tube and painted it black and wrote godzilla on the side. LOL...come out to Cali where pot clinics are everwhere and they legalized having an ounce and 3 plants I believe and no ticket...but you gotta have prescript...which is buttarse easy to get I hear!
Ted and Christina seems you followed suit with me on having a nervous breakdown...are you guys better today?
I was having a tough time with my mom's sundowning...oh before I forget ...I had to call the fire dept on Sunday night...tried to take mom into the toitey on the wheelchair and stood her up and she went sideways hit her head on the counter and had a big black walnut on her noggin...when fire boys got here it was huge and suggested she go to emergency before I knew it there was about 8 fire guys/gals or paramedics...they are only 10 houses down the street..hospital is one street up...so before I knew it she was gone out the door...went up the street to emergency and met up with her and bf met me there...they did catscan...ekg...chest x rays...then 2 hours later (was hoping they would keep her overnight) said she was good to go home...ice...and tylenol and rest...said it was only skin bump no bleeding into the brain....
Well her sundowning is getting worse and worse..it's mentally horrific for me to handle...those dead staring eyes and tossing and turning and figeting and nervous creepy energy...sometimes I get really mad when she calls me( well either her dead sisters names of Elizabeth or Anna) sometimes my name....depends on what state she is in....during the day she is cohesive and then the sundowning comes and it's like ONE FLEW OVER THE CUCKOO'S NEST. On tuesday eve I gave her 2 halperdols....around 4...and then around 5 in her soup I ground up an over the counter sleep aid..well the entire evening she was tossing and turning and figeting with the covers and panting and staring at me with those dead eyes making me feel guilty....she kept calling like every 1/2 to 1 hour...8 oclock...9 oclock..9:30...11:00...at 4:00 I had enough and grabbed the newly prescirbed THORAZINE...and gave her one...then the rest of the night she was out till 10:30...
Last night the sundowning started early again...and gave her her regular psych meds along with a Thorazine....with dinnnertime....around 6 it took 2 hours of this creepy shit going on again till around 8 so we slipped out and went to Booger King to get the fish sandwichs I like so much. So she was good the rest of the eve...and still sleeping
I'm driving up the coast today. If I can leave early, I'll stop by, if it's convenient. Call me and let me know around 2, OK?
Yeah, I'm just wiped out since the earthquakes and whatever is going on. Mother is not too bad, and remembering things lately. Maybe I am "letting down", because of it? Still getting up with her 2 or 3 times a night, but she is just thirsty, not delusional.
Psychiatrist is "pleased" with her responses and behavior, asked if she is sleeping. Well, she doesn't seem to be bothered by waking up every few hours, but how about ME? I can;t get back to sleep right away, because I can hear her, and anticipate when she will want to get up again!!! He just said, "OH". Yea f you too, doc.
It's a terrible job. I hate it. But, I'm not jumping out of any windows, BOAT. instead of "yet", I say "boat". LOL
Love you guys. Hi Jen, rip, bobbie, ssk, Miz, etc.
My situation is different than most everyone on here. Sometimes I feel like I need to suck it up and thank my lucky stars I am not at where alot others on this site are at now.....but my time is coming. My mom is 66 (acts more like 86 most of the time) and still able to drive and get out and about. ....I know so what am I complaining about.
For almost 23 years my mom lived acrossed the street from us. We mowed her yard, shoveled snow and took care of everything. (I have one sister who is usually MIA when it comes to helping mom) My husband and I decided we wanted to move to the country and closer to our girls, but what about mom. Mom suffers from depression and we were afraid if we moved ......plain and simple she would die. So we told her what we wanted to do and told her what we were willing to do and let the choice be hers. After 15 months of looking for a house we bought one and moved her with us. We still have a bunch more to move and 2 houses to get ready to sell.
Ok it doesn't sound so bad but what I forgot was living across the street I could hide if I didn't want to deal with her. I forgot how bad she can be. How mean and nasty, the guilt trips, poor me attitude, the sighs, the silent treatment and the hygiene.......oh the hygiene. I mourn for the mom i used to have. I love her but I don't like the person she has become....and of course that makes me feel guilty.
Finally got a big box of latex gloves and now my Uncle says he doesn't need me to wipe his butt anymore. :) So I have them for future use.
Jsome, your grandpa must be awful to deal with...so intrusive. One time I got too close to a guy in a NH and he grabbed my breast. I was shocked. It happened years ago, when I didn't know to stay far away from certain patients.
Christina, I'm a highly sensitive person too. I get sensation overload very easily and get migraines often. Luckily triptans have saved my life. I didn't know about the earthquake though!
Ted, I read your profile and I'd like to slap your sister silly. All I can say is I hope karma works.
Pirates, I went through a couple nights of non-stop calls, but it has stopped. Is this happening night after night?
And Bobbie, I hope you're having fun on your boat. We have a wee canoe. :)
I hope everyone is doing well or at least hanging in there.
Kt,,, I am a live in caregiver for a 93 yr. old late stage Alz. She is currently in the NH as I got a broken knee in a sundowning episode with her. I love her, she is all things Alz. and I love her anyway. The name Chaquita came about when she was having a really rough night, and after many hours of her trying to leave the house, down she went, and I had been needing to change her diaper (or fresh pants as I call them) I decided to get her changed while she was down. She was fighting me, ect., I finally got the pants undone on one side, and to my great surprise, she had a banana and three butter knives in her pants.......so needless to say we had days of fun on that one. Keep posting that is how we all get to know each other. And when you don't know what we are talking about, just ask.
Hope everyone else is ok this morning, will come back later and get caught up.
Again, thanks for yesterday AC family , hugs across the miles...
went to postoffice thinkin they open back up again 130 , oh crap had to sit and wait for half hr while i waited on pirate so we could sneak off in some corner . :-)
muscles in my back is flarin up again , dman it , it doesnt get any better .
pirate , since ur mom has hit her head and black eyes , dementia flares up , i know it did to my dad , it does more damages than good , but now he seems to have gotten more calm , he tried to wipe his own butt while hubby and i stood outside of the door so he could have privacy to do his bm , bam loud awful noise ! oh noooo , he said i tried to wipe my own but i lean too far i guess , . poor guy , busted his eye brows , lucky no hospitals . 2 black eyes , oh mygosh . i felt so bad and learned my lesson , do not leave his side anymore or park his wheelchair beside him so he can t lean over , if he does fall he be layin on the wheelchair . well he doesnt even dare try to wipe his own butt ,
ok gonna go in garage and smoke me some cancer , huby wll be home soon then ineed to go shopping for weekends food to feed every body for the weekend .
christina come on over ! :-)
Col pants as dry as the desert after her outing today....oh I must be getting better.......how about proof positive that you sit on your butt all day long and just pee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! OMG......wait until it finally clicks that her hot rollers are gone. She didn't bother to take morning meds until I found them at 4 pm.....let's hope the Ativan kicks in real quick.
It's way past 5 o'clock....I'm after more rum and coke.
Glad to see from everyone......will check back later when my brain settles down.
Love and Hugz,
Ram the Jam or is it Jam the Ram
im stressing out ! pirate where are you ! i need that corner .
jam the ram , sounds like to me ure gonna have to give col the meds instead of her takin it . she prob doesnt know to take them , my dad wouldnt take it if i tell him dont forget ur meds , i have to give it to him , put it in pissnapplesauce ., sounds like to me ure gonna have to start givin it to her and maybe she wont be so outta hand ? just a thought ...
miz- im sorry ure pmsin , i know those things and i hated it , have not had em ove r 4 yrs now , stil dealin with menopause ,
oh lord im just so plump worn out . my shows gonna be on here soon , think i ll go flop on the couch and hope pa doesnt start whiney .
goodnight you all xoxoxo
I received a bill, tonight, of 400 euros (electricity) and as soon as I got it, I put my head against the fridge and thought I wanted to die.
This 3-days trip to Paris I am going to make is really crazy, because I'll have to pay the extra-hours to the ladies and I will lose 3 days of work, but, what the f**k! I haven't been out for 2 years. Linda, I think I will relax and I will not think of what happens at home... It's just 3 days! Anyway, my brother can come here if there are major problems.
Christina I am glad you are going to see Pirate. It seems she needs a hand, and you are very sweet to go there even if you have problems of your own.
Good night everybody a big kiss to all of you
Oh..by the way passing the doobie back over to Harde...veeeeeeeh ...........ah......woooooooooooooooosh...mmmmm mmm good stuff Maynard..LOL...wink.
OKAY NOW FOR FIREWORKS that I forgot on my RE-POST...grrrrr grrr sniff sniff...grrrrr okay Bobbie you were right to get mad at skydiver..yep....obviously they did not read enough posts....damn one hit wonders that we have trouncining in here guess it makes them feel good and superior to add their lamearesed 2 cents worth. Okay where were they on this thread and others where I HAVE MENTIONED take your family member to get pysch meds prescribed from a psych. I mentioned that plenty of time....F U skydiver....due to my ended up in the pysch ward 2 years ago that started my fun adventure down the rabbit hole...I saw the pysch meds Depakote, Risperdal, Mirtazpine and Lorazapam as neede work. So sticking my tongue out at skydiver...you didn't tell me nuthing I already did not know or shared here and on other posts. So there...raspberries..
Okay...veeeeeeh...ah....woooosh..passing back to Harde...
Okay (starting to sound like a canuck from Strange Brew...hey I am a canuck..lol)....I talked to the nurse this afternoon about these fn meds...I said how can I wait hours for these to work..she said I have to always use them not just wait for sundowning and I can use the Halperidol and the Thorazine together...so around 4:30 gave her 2 Hals and a Thor...then about a 1/2 later she was wailing...then I said what....hmmm I said how about eating...so I stashed a Ativan in it and then the rest of the pysch meds....well so far quiet..hmmm crossing my fingers...WOULD HAVE HELPED IF THEY EXPLAINED THIS SHIT BETTER!..LOL.
Rip glad you missed me upstairs gal! Aren't you glad there are better commercials being produced lately? My favorite is the two audi commericals with the mansion and goodnight...and the Rich Prison.
Ladeeeeeeda....LOL...I missed that whole thread about bananas...glad you reiterated...LOL...was she saving them butter knives from escape from dementia/alz prison...?
Yeah our charges look at us like we enslaved them...my mom said to me on Sunday night....during the sundowning madness....GET ME OUT OF THIS BOX....she hates the handrails on the hosp bed...sorry but you gotta have them...the other night during a sundowning or was it in the morning confusion she had her flippin feet hanging over...ready to get out...guess it was morn cause she said she had to pee...geeez h christ...wild woman..guess it's the Barbarian in the german blood eh? wink
geeezus how do you get the smell of their pee and poo out your nostrils...geezes...it's old people gross with a tinge of meds and Miralax...LOL
veeeeeeh.......ah................................wooosh...passing back to Harde
Am going to see Ruth tomorrow, BG says NH is keeping her medicated...I will go see for myself and give the little meanie kisses, I do miss her. I have not had to run after her for a couple of weeks now, so I can miss her. I don't think she will have so many problems like before because they have her on meds.
Still don't know about the knee, am waiting for Dr. to make an appointment with Orthopedic Dr. then onward.. Family has to keep Ruth in NH until I can take care of her again. Just ready to get on with it.
Rossella, you are right, take your trip, the bills will be there when you get back. Or it would have come in while you were gone, and you wouldn't have known and still had a great time... Enjoy yourself..
Jsomebody, you are so right, chocolate is the best legal drug we can get...enjoy..
miz how are things with you? You are in my thoughts daily,. lots of prayers still being sent your way.
Rip,,,, how is Sir? And how are you??????? love ya
Hope everyone gets some kind of rest tonite. hugs across the miles. Ladee Chaquita