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p.s. 2: After I got the electricity bill, my mother produced a sticky poop which I don't know which number is in the list of Headbanger, I'll check it out. It was a very good day! (for the new ones: Headbanger is one of us, a very very funny lady who now is on vacation. She made a list of all kinds of poops. I have saved it, so if you are interested, I can copy it for you).
Good Morning, Where are you Rossella? I'm on the US east coast. It's 6:50am here. I just had my iced coffee and coffee cake. I hope you have a great time in Paris. And lhard, I hope you enjoy your Segar concert. I'm getting caught up with all my work and if I get my taxes done this weekend, I might be able to have a little fun myself. Pirate, my Uncle doesn't make a lot of noise with his breathing, but he makes a smacking noise, like he's got peanut butter stuck to the roof of his mouth. I think its a nervous habit. He always does it when we go to see a doctor and sometimes does it at home. My husband walks around making the smacking noise too which gets me really mad. He thinks my Uncle is completely deaf, but he's not. Besides, he is getting hearing aids next week, so my hubby needs to stop. He's so ornery.
Actually, my wake-up call was......red.... red.......red.....redneck ........cry.......cry....crybaby.....redneckcrybabyredneckcrybaby... bless her heart, she doesn't know why she does that. Says she can't talk right in the mornings. But, I'n hangin in there, like a hair in a biscuit.
Today is a busy cleaning, laundry day. May not hear much from me...which may not be a bad thing ~ ~ (wink, wink)
Morning All, You all had a busy day Thursday here. Pirate, I got off the freeway at RB Blvd to get gas and sent out a prayer to you about 5:30 yesterday on my way home. My Dad's side was German Danish and I am named after my GM, Christina Maria. I forget the few words we were taught except Gesundheit, and "das is da fusboden'--but I think I learned that in college when I thought I wanted to learn German. It was a night class and the instructor was so boring. I remember my old Uncle Herman who owned a deli on Van Ness in SF and lived above it with Tante and many birds, and everything smelled like salami:) Maybe I'll see you Monday, if you want me to come up. Rosella: maybe you could get one of those heater/looks like a fireplace that the Amish manufacture? Pretty inexpensive and also to run. They wheel around. One of our cgs used to drive for the Amish in Ohio and she said they are fantastic. Look online--lol we live online anymore, si? If I can find the website I'll write on your wall. They advertise on tv in states. Ladeeda--I have seen a few other nicknames for you: LaLaLa, l Laleeda--so cute. But to me, you will always be Chaquita. Banana Nana? hey, it's a new one... Linda: check the mail today, maybe tomorrow. Miz: I hear you. I knew I was good for something around here. ssk: how doin'? thinking of you:) hugs Captain Bobbie: hope you know I'm not a thumper. I'm too imperfect and struggling, and unwilling to surrender. If I have offended YOU with any religious references, I am Eternally sorry. I heard something this morning that made sense to me, and it's something I have heard before and resisted. I knew it was true, but still so angry and hurt over my family of origin. I need to forgive them all. None of them have the awareness, and it is just hurting me. ***I know that God will not ask us to do anything, unless it will make our lives better.*** I have a lump in my throat, I am trying to jump off the diving board but I don't want to feel the cold water. My Mother cries in her bed sometimes in the early morning, and I have to force myself to comfort her. I do, and she appreciates it, but I resent her wanting to give me affection. It is too late. I don't want anything from her. Yet, this is something God wants me to do, take care of her until she dies. I will. What is it that you want me to learn, God?! Oh, I know the answer, I just don't want to hear it. I am making a DECISION to be responsible for her, and to FORGIVE her and my siblings, but I don't feel anything. I will do the right thing, and pray that it is for some greater good, something I don't see or feel. Bare my soul? I only do that with my best friends. Love, christina
good morning all, I've been straightening out things with the VNA so I can get them to come in and do their job so I can do mine. They are going to come in twice daily morning and late afternoon and get mom changed and are going to do that while she is in bed so they won't hurt their backs. I left when they came in and did my thing and let them do their's, I feel good about it. Ladee, my back has been sore the past few days, and I have had to " do nothing" and it is really hard to do! I hope your knee gets better soon. Rossella, it will be fun to have another person from Italy on the site. I hope you have a great time on your break.
Remember, it's obvious your mother has dementia. She no longer thinks the way an adult would think. Get another toothbrush and giggle about what has happened. We love working with dementia, just for that reason. My father kept taking apart night-lites looking for where the light comes from. Expect more things to happen as the brain deteriorates more and above all.....don't correct her, like you'd do for a child. Your mother no-longer makes new memories, attempts at correction will fall on deaf ears, and that will only frustrate you and add to the downfall of your health by the stress involved. If you can't separate yourself from the stress it's possible you may need serious medical intervention. Find a good place to take care of her and visit her often.
Bobbie - I was catching up on some old posts, (I do try to keep up with everyone's story even if I don't post, I'm still out here!!!) Anyway, I read your post about willing to "disembowel" anyone who is mean to us on this thread. Disembowel! What a great word!!! I just love it! Let's ALL say it together, "disembowel"!!!! Cold here today but sunny..... Have a glorious day everyone!!
Hi SS! Think of you always. Cold and rainy here! disembowel? Is that what is happening here? Now I get it. Wow- it only took 2 years for someone to figure out the toothbrush thing. I am impressed. But still DE pressed.
omg. I did it again. I am very sorry. last few days my laptop and our service is very slow. No excuses. One more, and I'm OUT. i know it. oh, hurry hurry, they said.
F-n-A...Larry are you friends with skydiver...gezusssssss h christ....got here before Bobbie this time. Who the f was that directed to now...all of us. I think dude we have learned all that already...go away! New memories my arse...I thought my mom a new way to move her buns closer to the pillows so she lays down right and she remembers.....1 2 3...schoootch...123 schootch....so go away. Medical intervention...YEAH..veeeeeeeh.....ah....wooosh....there's my medicine....and a Lambrusco! Passing to the next caregiver who wants it....! veeeeeeeeh....ah....wooosh...LOL LOL.
Rossella the more the merrier on the Nut Boat! lol.....we are all cocoanuts now anywho! Oh I bought a little heater for the patio for the wintertime..it looks like an old fashioned coal fireplace cute..and I thought it made my electrical bill high, but then I found my dads' recliner in the patio had the heat on for days...so that might have done it.
Now that I have been staying overnight at moms been showering over here....and b/f too and he uses water too much, and the caregiver is always washing washing washing..too much...so gonna tell her to cool it on washloads and scrubbing...geesh...she can be hard headed and not listen sometimes...but will put my foot in her butt if she don't listen...she's about ready to tear up the house if I don't watch her...she stresses me out sometimes more than mom.
Christina oh wow...RB blvd is a close exist to mom's house, well you have to get off on RB and then take Prarie to either Torrance blvd or Carson St and then to mom's street. I will email you.
Well at least mom was out last night still out and it's 8:51, I am sure she will wake up around 10 ish. Social worker is to stop by today with options and nurse said she is stopping by as well to talk about the sundowning. I guess the trick is to give them those meds early. 2 halperidols and 1 thorazine...wow..oh and a ativan in the beefaroni...lol...did the trick but had to listen to all that breathing on the baby monitor.
Every thing bugs us when we're wiped out, Pirate. Every little thing. We notice things like they are magnified. We are gonna get together after the weekend. I promise
Christina my friend do not be DEpressed...you are amongst collegues and friends here...and we all send big big big big hug. Go for a mini shopping trip...I did that on Wed and it helped. I bought a fancier type of sweat pant...lightweight with embroidery on the leg and then a couple of still fancier tops to wear on top. Got tired of the clothes I was around mom's everyday looked dumpy after awhile.
is it good...we go to Alpine Village of the 110 on Torrance blvd. Its right by the interchange of the 405 and 110, you can see the big sign off the freeway.
Ooooh, Larry, larry, larry. Yes, we "LOVE working with dementia" too. Otherwise we never would have found this thread. So GO, Larry, have yourself some giggles. You can rest assured that we will also.
Thanks, Pirate. Just can't get any sleep and it's killing me. I just discovered what is happening here with dble posts: i post, the words don't disappear in this box. BTW: today is International Waffle Day. Eggo's are 75 years old. I made one for Mother with her scrambled egg. My favorite waffle is the one at the Sheraton on Molokai. Has ground macadamias, crushed pineapple and whipped cream. Let's go.
Thank you pirate for addressing Larry. Now I see what ya'll mean about someone who rings the doorbell and runs, Christina. Wasn't he a little behind the times? veeeeeeeeee ............AH............woooooooooosh...back to you......sure read a lot didn't he........Wake up Bobbie!! Bless his little heart! Let's give him applesauce!
Ted, How you doin', pal? Missed you yesterday. I spent most of the day taking mom to the bathroom. I might be in trouble...I do need a little guidance here. I already figured out on my own that I can't correct mom, but sometimes I forget...like this morning when I told her she didn't wipe after she pooped. Today she realizes it!! And she doesn't understand why when she never did that before. How do I handle that? I kinda brushed it off, like she's never been 83 before....and things change with time, etc. Who has that kind of experience? Gotta go....on call.
No, Seeme, let's give him piss instead. Good King Terd was a merry old Soul, and a merry old soul was he, He called for the wipes, and he flushed all the pipes, and a very POOPED King was he. But at least, he is here, with us--who love him dearly:) Hugs, christina P.S: Hey Larry: WE DON'T NEED ANY, THANKS!
Hey Seeme, everybody. I'm doing ok, still fighting off the blues but i guess that is just the way it's gonna be. I could never correct my mom. ever. so I guess I learned young how to get around things like that. Nowadays I just do what needs doing and she doesn't really give me any trouble anymore anyway. That's why I was a little shocked when she snapped during a sundowners bit. She just doesn't have it in her anymore, usually.
Seeme: you have to start doing it for her. so important. one more thing. la la la I am going crazy, are you?! Get some Cottenelle wet wipes, flushable. But, they must stay clean, or UTIs come to visit. We are fastidious with Mother, but she has kidney failure and low sodium count cuz she pees so much and now she has more aches, and if you ask her how is the pain today she forgets. so, don't know if she really has pain or it is a memory. forgotten.
Lol, yes, thanks Pirate, Ted & See. Larry, I know you mean well, but you're handing out old information. Plus, do you realize that you barked 5 orders in your post? blah blah blah. Ted, your post is almost a poem. Maybe: Ooooh, Larry, larry, larry. Yes, we "LOVE working with dementia" too. Otherwise we never would have found this thread. So GO, Larry, GO, run through the meadow of daisies have yourself some giggles. You can rest assured that we will too. :)
I loved the poems. I think all of you should come and help me with these houses. This way I could laugh instead of feeling like crying. The weekend now means lots of work. We pulled everything out of moms attic last weekend and now we have to go through it. It took up most of the floor in 4 rooms. Maybe we will get lucky and find that one special item. I hope everyone has a great weekend!
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After I got the electricity bill, my mother produced a sticky poop which I don't know which number is in the list of Headbanger, I'll check it out. It was a very good day!
(for the new ones: Headbanger is one of us, a very very funny lady who now is on vacation. She made a list of all kinds of poops. I have saved it, so if you are interested, I can copy it for you).
I hope you have a great time in Paris.
And lhard, I hope you enjoy your Segar concert.
I'm getting caught up with all my work and if I get my taxes done this weekend, I might be able to have a little fun myself.
Pirate, my Uncle doesn't make a lot of noise with his breathing, but he makes a smacking noise, like he's got peanut butter stuck to the roof of his mouth. I think its a nervous habit. He always does it when we go to see a doctor and sometimes does it at home. My husband walks around making the smacking noise too which gets me really mad. He thinks my Uncle is completely deaf, but he's not. Besides, he is getting hearing aids next week, so my hubby needs to stop. He's so ornery.
Actually, my wake-up call was......red.... red.......red.....redneck
........cry.......cry....crybaby.....redneckcrybabyredneckcrybaby...
bless her heart, she doesn't know why she does that. Says she can't talk right in the mornings. But, I'n hangin in there, like a hair in a biscuit.
Today is a busy cleaning, laundry day. May not hear much from me...which may not be a bad thing ~ ~ (wink, wink)
You all had a busy day Thursday here. Pirate, I got off the freeway at RB Blvd to get gas and sent out a prayer to you about 5:30 yesterday on my way home. My Dad's side was German Danish and I am named after my GM, Christina Maria. I forget the few words we were taught except Gesundheit, and "das is da fusboden'--but I think I learned that in college when I thought I wanted to learn German. It was a night class and the instructor was so boring. I remember my old Uncle Herman who owned a deli on Van Ness in SF and lived above it with Tante and many birds, and everything smelled like salami:) Maybe I'll see you Monday, if you want me to come up.
Rosella: maybe you could get one of those heater/looks like a fireplace that the Amish manufacture? Pretty inexpensive and also to run. They wheel around. One of our cgs used to drive for the Amish in Ohio and she said they are fantastic. Look online--lol we live online anymore, si? If I can find the website I'll write on your wall. They advertise on tv in states.
Ladeeda--I have seen a few other nicknames for you: LaLaLa, l Laleeda--so cute. But to me, you will always be Chaquita. Banana Nana? hey, it's a new one...
Linda: check the mail today, maybe tomorrow.
Miz: I hear you. I knew I was good for something around here.
ssk: how doin'? thinking of you:) hugs
Captain Bobbie: hope you know I'm not a thumper. I'm too imperfect and struggling, and unwilling to surrender. If I have offended YOU with any religious references, I am Eternally sorry.
I heard something this morning that made sense to me, and it's something I have heard before and resisted. I knew it was true, but still so angry and hurt over my family of origin. I need to forgive them all. None of them have the awareness, and it is just hurting me.
***I know that God will not ask us to do anything, unless it will make our lives better.*** I have a lump in my throat, I am trying to jump off the diving board but I don't want to feel the cold water. My Mother cries in her bed sometimes in the early morning, and I have to force myself to comfort her. I do, and she appreciates it, but I resent her wanting to give me affection. It is too late. I don't want anything from her.
Yet, this is something God wants me to do, take care of her until she dies. I will.
What is it that you want me to learn, God?! Oh, I know the answer, I just don't want to hear it.
I am making a DECISION to be responsible for her, and to FORGIVE her and my siblings, but I don't feel anything. I will do the right thing, and pray that it is for some greater good, something I don't see or feel.
Bare my soul? I only do that with my best friends.
Love, christina
Ladee, my back has been sore the past few days, and I have had to " do nothing" and it is really hard to do! I hope your knee gets better soon.
Rossella, it will be fun to have another person from Italy on the site.
I hope you have a great time on your break.
Larry
Anyway, I read your post about willing to "disembowel" anyone who is mean to us on this thread. Disembowel! What a great word!!! I just love it! Let's ALL say it together, "disembowel"!!!!
Cold here today but sunny.....
Have a glorious day everyone!!
Peace out,
SS
disembowel? Is that what is happening here? Now I get it.
disembowel? Is that what is happening here? Now I get it.
Wow- it only took 2 years for someone to figure out the toothbrush thing. I am impressed. But still DE pressed.
One more, and I'm OUT. i know it.
oh, hurry hurry, they said.
Rossella the more the merrier on the Nut Boat! lol.....we are all cocoanuts now anywho! Oh I bought a little heater for the patio for the wintertime..it looks like an old fashioned coal fireplace cute..and I thought it made my electrical bill high, but then I found my dads' recliner in the patio had the heat on for days...so that might have done it.
Now that I have been staying overnight at moms been showering over here....and b/f too and he uses water too much, and the caregiver is always washing washing washing..too much...so gonna tell her to cool it on washloads and scrubbing...geesh...she can be hard headed and not listen sometimes...but will put my foot in her butt if she don't listen...she's about ready to tear up the house if I don't watch her...she stresses me out sometimes more than mom.
Christina oh wow...RB blvd is a close exist to mom's house, well you have to get off on RB and then take Prarie to either Torrance blvd or Carson St and then to mom's street. I will email you.
Well at least mom was out last night still out and it's 8:51, I am sure she will wake up around 10 ish. Social worker is to stop by today with options and nurse said she is stopping by as well to talk about the sundowning. I guess the trick is to give them those meds early. 2 halperidols and 1 thorazine...wow..oh and a ativan in the beefaroni...lol...did the trick but had to listen to all that breathing on the baby monitor.
Yes, we "LOVE working with dementia" too.
Otherwise we never would have found this thread.
So GO, Larry, have yourself some giggles.
You can rest assured that we will also.
I just discovered what is happening here with dble posts: i post, the words don't disappear in this box.
BTW: today is International Waffle Day. Eggo's are 75 years old.
I made one for Mother with her scrambled egg. My favorite waffle is the one at the Sheraton on Molokai. Has ground macadamias, crushed pineapple and whipped cream. Let's go.
............AH............woooooooooosh...back to you......sure read a lot didn't he........Wake up Bobbie!! Bless his little heart! Let's give him applesauce!
Good King Terd was a merry old Soul, and a merry old soul was he, He called for the wipes, and he flushed all the pipes, and a very POOPED King was he.
But at least, he is here, with us--who love him dearly:)
Hugs, christina
P.S: Hey Larry: WE DON'T NEED ANY, THANKS!
I'm doing ok, still fighting off the blues but i guess that is just the way it's gonna be.
I could never correct my mom. ever. so I guess I learned young how to get around things like that. Nowadays I just do what needs doing and she doesn't really give me any trouble anymore anyway. That's why I was a little shocked when she snapped during a sundowners bit. She just doesn't have it in her anymore, usually.
But, they must stay clean, or UTIs come to visit. We are fastidious with Mother, but she has kidney failure and low sodium count cuz she pees so much and now she has more aches, and if you ask her how is the pain today she forgets. so, don't know if she really has pain or it is a memory. forgotten.
Larry, I know you mean well, but you're handing out old information. Plus, do you realize that you barked 5 orders in your post? blah blah blah.
Ted, your post is almost a poem.
Maybe: Ooooh, Larry, larry, larry.
Yes, we "LOVE working with dementia" too.
Otherwise we never would have found this thread.
So GO, Larry, GO, run through the meadow of daisies
have yourself some giggles.
You can rest assured that we will too.
:)
I hope everyone has a great weekend!