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SSK, actually I'm enrolling at ECU for their Social Work degree, (I'll do as much as I can online) because they house the North Carolina State University systems 'Institute on Aging' and my plan is to work that into a Caregiver Advocacy and Counseling career. If I survive.
Ted, you'll be well qualified with the dual degree, a BS in poop soup and a BA in social work. when my computer was acting up, I shut it off, when starting up hit F12, and did system restore to an earlier time, and it started working again. I had the neighbor help, though, and she's 26 and better at computers.
allshegot, Mom is on medicare, but that doesn't seem to pay for in home care unless it is "Home Health Care" that is medically neccesary, they won't cover sitter's, which is all I need.
Thanks, SSK. At the very least the online classes will keep my mind busy. I go to a "Family Mental Health Counselor" just so I can have some kind of shoulder to lean on with this, (I call him my 'paid family") but from talking to him I realized that there isn't any formal branch of the counseling profession that deals specifically with caregivers and their specific troubles. That's what I am aiming to do.
It's my 61st birthday today!!! Yeah, now I've gotta go share it with my doggie clients in the rainy mist of all things. Need to invent an umbrella for them too... Ya'll have a great day!
Welcome Dory! man, I hear you about the nobody knows what's going on in our houses... you are an angel and I'm happy you're here. Keep venting and stay sane!
Ted, your degree program is such a great idea. you would be a genius in that field (or any field you chose) and a well respected voice for caregivers. WooHoo.
ladeeda, is there any way you can establish a boundary with sil like mentioned earlier, to keep bg out of your face? I had a job one time where they valued me but one of the owners was an idiot and used me for venting. I spoke to the partner and told her that this was a no go and to keep the other owner away. They complied! Maybe I was just lucky. BG is SO low rent to be telling you to get better soon because it is costing her $. ugh. Drunk or no....
Linda! you sleeping on the couch with one eye open made a funny picture for me but I know it's not funny. My mom used to stare at me ALL the time. She would be staring away and giving me the heebie jeebies so I would turn anything I was doing into a show and she would end up laughing. That was better than the heebie jeebies. Making a show out of scrubbing a toilet or making dinner... Hey! that's show biz..... Mom also had no boundaries when it came to moving through the house and floating is a good term. Mom figured out that she could come up behind me when i was on the computer and would scare daylight under me. One time she walked in when Nik and I were 'busy' and i didn't know it until the next morning. she would forget that she just ate, but she didn't forget that!!! She was aphasic but she got her point across.... I said, Well mom, not every little noise needs to be investigated.... The look on her face was the funniest look I had ever seen on her!
ASG, sounds like good old dementia with the freak out over the towels. Screw it, there is no compass. Feel for ya, and that's the truth.
more later, got to go to work. love you guys and good to see you Flex!!! I know that you guys are fighting the fight of your lives.
Hey we can go to some backwater island but we don't have to die...... can live well and flourish! and STILL help caregivers! just sayin... Ted! you get the degree and I'll get the Captain's license.... ok, really going to work now.... lovbob
Good Morning Everyone! BJ, Happy Birthday! I hope you're able to do something nice for YOURSELF today. I want to read everybody's posts, but I have to work and my taxes still aren't done. :( Some issues with client 1099s. It's hard being self-employed sometimes. Ted, I had to go to a tool store with my hubby yesterday, Harbor Freight? (not sure if that is a national chain). Anyway, the first aisle I walked down had the door/window alarms for only $1.99 each! Bobbie, I can't believe your mom walked in on you. I guess that's showbiz too! This weekend, I made Chipped Beef on Biscuits for my uncle. He really loves that. Well, I browned the peaks of the drop biscuits and the world almost came to an end. You know, I try to do something nice and what do I get but grief. He complained about the biscuits saturday am, noon, pm, sunday, am, pm and yes he mentioned them again this morning. Maybe I need to up his OCD meds. AND by the way, the biscuits peaks were golden brown. He said they should be completely white, no brown at all. That's the way he likes them. I told him, I like them brown and in reply he said, well make sure they are completely white next time. Rrrrrrrrrr. There was a lot more to the story, but I just don't have time right now. I hope everyone has a good day.
Hey Ted, screw the pirates they can get their own rum. But we can totally run the caregiver respite cruises where we have voodoo classes for no show sibs....
Still! Happy happy birthday!
Careshare! love Harbor freight and now i guess your uncle's name is Pillsbury doughboy..... Mom used to make those drop biscuits and the tips were always golden brown. that's how you tell when they're done.
off to vet with the Cat, for her oil, lube and filter..... lovbob
Care, ARRRRGH found them on harbor frieght online but they are IN-STORE only and I don't have one around here, oh well still have to check out dollar tree and lowes. At least i know they are kind of common. THANKS ALL!
uhhh we need pirate ! we cant forget her ! she s our pirate and always will one and only pirate is allowed . she gets double shots of rum and a speical corner for her ..
Good Morning Friends, I have one minute. Told Mother I'd get her up in half hour and that was 20 minutes ago. TED, you sound very balanced:) I think when we are very up, that is just as bad as very down, even though we can get on a roll. 'Even Keel' with sense of humor is best, right? Saying this because I feel to be on the same roller coaster with you:) CARESHARE: you have a lovely disposition:) absolutely beautiful energy and soul. Thank you for spreading that to the crew. Miz: Thinking of you on your roller coaster. the right house will appear at the right time:) hugs. Linda of my Heart: House guests are like fish; after 3 days they stink. Wuv you:) BTW: Sister is coming for a visit today and bringing LOTS of goodies for me. Hasn't been here since first of February because of wind, rain, and 1 doctor's appointment. Oh yawn. SSK, Diane, ASG, Ladeeda, Captain, ET AL: BIG HUGS, LOVE Stillstanding: a very Happy Birthday to a gorgeous gal! Hope you have a wonderful day and that all your wishes come true. To ALL: Blessings upon your souls; you are the cream of the crop, the stars of Heaven, the ultimate in human beings. Love you very much, Christina
Hi what is gray goose Linda where is that street corner where you met hebby-just kidding Ted keep that picture that is how my cat feels when he see his cat diet food in his dish-he goes and reports his displeasure to my son. My mother is too sharp for her age but one year I sen her a basket of of fruit Edible arrangement and she raved and raved over so I sent it the next year and all she did was complain-she could have given to my sister and the other tenents in her building one couple is usually on food stamps what a fuss over than damn fruit and it was not cheap,
stillstanding happy birthday to you . hope its a good day for you ... good morning christina hope u have a good visit with ur sister and see what goodies she brought ya . ok off to walmart now ! :-(
Linda, I met hubby in 2007. I was divorced since 2000. Hubby and I lived in sin for 3 years and then got married about a year and a half ago. Something like that. So, I was "alone" for quite some time.
Happy Birthday Still, I am right behind you... I really thought we'd be having a lot more fun by now, didn't you????Hope you get to do something special.. Good news, the bone is healing and no surgery indicated. Bad news, another four weeks at least off my leg. Back on the walker, no weight bearing on right leg. He also showed me some PT to do, but said if I would do as he suggested It will heal with no complications.
Oh poor BG, she is going to have to pay to keep Ruth in the NH for at least another month. And yes I am getting my sad little salary but that is money that comes from Ruth's money. It is not costing BG a dime, I am on food stamps, so she doesn't even get my groceries.... Am going to wait for the right time and talk to sil about keeping her away from me when she is drunk. That is about all I can do that is professional. Many things go thru my mind to do, but naaaaa, she's not worth it. Ted, I would drive not fly. I would get there eventually, but there would just be so much to see, I would have to take my time. You live in SC don't you? Good ole south, that is where I am at my best.Congrats on going back to school. Yes, you would be professional, but one that has walked the walk. I'll be praying that all works out for you in this new adventure.... and yes I could keep mama happy. I would have her dancing and laughing, My heart hurts for all of you that never get a break. In many ways we have more resources here in Tx. and the smaller communities help out. there has to be a way, we just need to keep each other informed when we learn something new.
Well, love to all. Am going to be in bed everytime BG comes over, ya know, taking care of myself, so I don't cost her any more money....Bless her heart....
Morning everyone...........have been trying to read and catch up on posts and sounds like some of you are ready to take that long walk off the short pier.......easier said than done, but guys you must learn to start acting like turtles.....not hide your head....develop a tough shell. If you don't you will end up being the medicated ones! Small anatomy lesson here.....imagine the brain and when it's working properly there are electrical impulses shooting all over and taking our thought processes to the correct cell or cells....we think smell and that cell gets zapped, sight....same thing.....reach for something, same thing......as we age those cells start to die....go away....become a wall......so when the electrical impulse goes there it hits a blank wall so there is no response. As we age everything starts to slow down.....they get cold because lack of movement causes a blood slow down (heart doesn't pump as well or with an irregular beat), the body cannot generate it's own heat thus we gotta turn the thermostat up to boiling. We can shiver which causes heat and are able to turn fat into energy......the elderly don't have fat stores anymore. They don't breathe as deeply, lungs are starting to atrophy, so oxygen doesn't get circulated, especially those with heart conditions, and hence the brain is without a normal supply of oxygen and sugar. Brain doesn't work so well without sugar. There are still those cells that hold long-term memory....but as for new memories? Aren't there because the learning process is over. Those cells are dying and are not able to hold information. Routine, routine, routine is the answer....anything new scares the begeezus out of them! Out of the ordinary feels like one of us standing on a small rock in the middle of the ocean and told to find our way back to land. I would bawl like a baby and give up and sit down and promptly drown!
I keep a locked door between us and col...........if I didn't she would be wandering our house constantly.....my caregiving benefits only go so far. Yesterday was a bizarre day for her....took her meds down, helped her change undies, didn't need to because she was dry, but wanted to keep the routine....asked what she was having for dinner because I saw her usual bowl of "mush" (oatmeal) on the counter. She said "Dinner? I'm having breakfast....okay you are having breakfast for dinner? No I'm not, what time is it? It's 6:15 at night..............Oh, I thought it was morning and I've been asleep I guess.......the only thing I can figure is that she took a nap and woke up thinking it was morning....it was dreary, snowy all day and I guess she was confused. But by golly she had on make-up, complete with mascara!!!!!!!
I think someone asked about manic depressive disorder? I will get you some info straight from the "horse's mouth" so to speak.
Dory.....get a simple face mask to wear when emptying the potty....or cheaper, get a bottle of Vicks, smear some on your nostrils and that's what you will breathe.....I used to do that when I observed an autopsy.....works very well.
I know it's nearly impossible for some of you.....but try to figure out a way to create a "playpen" for your loved one.....keep them confined to an area where they feel comfortable....everywhere else is off limits. I've said this before and I will say it again.....your life CANNOT be relegated to the trash can just so you can make someones remaining yrs pleasant. God willing, you will still have a life after the care giving is over.....but not if you allow your sanity and health to wither.
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At Least I will also have the poop soup degree!
Does anybody hate bing as much as me?
when my computer was acting up, I shut it off, when starting up hit F12, and did system restore to an earlier time, and it started working again. I had the neighbor help, though, and she's 26 and better at computers.
SSK, another option is to hitch a ride to some backwater carribean island and drink rum til I die but I don't think I'll be able to even afford that.
Welcome Dory! man, I hear you about the nobody knows what's going on in our houses... you are an angel and I'm happy you're here. Keep venting and stay sane!
Ted, your degree program is such a great idea. you would be a genius in that field (or any field you chose) and a well respected voice for caregivers. WooHoo.
ladeeda, is there any way you can establish a boundary with sil like mentioned earlier, to keep bg out of your face? I had a job one time where they valued me but one of the owners was an idiot and used me for venting. I spoke to the partner and told her that this was a no go and to keep the other owner away. They complied! Maybe I was just lucky.
BG is SO low rent to be telling you to get better soon because it is costing her $. ugh. Drunk or no....
Linda! you sleeping on the couch with one eye open made a funny picture for me but I know it's not funny.
My mom used to stare at me ALL the time. She would be staring away and giving me the heebie jeebies so I would turn anything I was doing into a show and she would end up laughing. That was better than the heebie jeebies.
Making a show out of scrubbing a toilet or making dinner... Hey! that's show biz.....
Mom also had no boundaries when it came to moving through the house and floating is a good term. Mom figured out that she could come up behind me when i was on the computer and would scare daylight under me.
One time she walked in when Nik and I were 'busy' and i didn't know it until the next morning. she would forget that she just ate, but she didn't forget that!!! She was aphasic but she got her point across.... I said, Well mom, not every little noise needs to be investigated.... The look on her face was the funniest look I had ever seen on her!
ASG, sounds like good old dementia with the freak out over the towels. Screw it, there is no compass. Feel for ya, and that's the truth.
more later, got to go to work.
love you guys and good to see you Flex!!!
I know that you guys are fighting the fight of your lives.
lovbob
just sayin... Ted! you get the degree and I'll get the Captain's license....
ok, really going to work now....
lovbob
Wel, I'm expecting the helper to come in any minute , so will straighten up the house a bit before she gets here.
ssk
This weekend, I made Chipped Beef on Biscuits for my uncle. He really loves that. Well, I browned the peaks of the drop biscuits and the world almost came to an end. You know, I try to do something nice and what do I get but grief. He complained about the biscuits saturday am, noon, pm, sunday, am, pm and yes he mentioned them again this morning. Maybe I need to up his OCD meds. AND by the way, the biscuits peaks were golden brown. He said they should be completely white, no brown at all. That's the way he likes them. I told him, I like them brown and in reply he said, well make sure they are completely white next time. Rrrrrrrrrr. There was a lot more to the story, but I just don't have time right now. I hope everyone has a good day.
Still! Happy happy birthday!
Careshare! love Harbor freight and now i guess your uncle's name is Pillsbury doughboy..... Mom used to make those drop biscuits and the tips were always golden brown. that's how you tell when they're done.
off to vet with the Cat, for her oil, lube and filter.....
lovbob
It's good to have a plan!
I have one minute. Told Mother I'd get her up in half hour and that was 20 minutes ago. TED, you sound very balanced:) I think when we are very up, that is just as bad as very down, even though we can get on a roll. 'Even Keel' with sense of humor is best, right? Saying this because I feel to be on the same roller coaster with you:) CARESHARE: you have a lovely disposition:) absolutely beautiful energy and soul. Thank you for spreading that to the crew. Miz: Thinking of you on your roller coaster. the right house will appear at the right time:) hugs. Linda of my Heart: House guests are like fish; after 3 days they stink. Wuv you:) BTW: Sister is coming for a visit today and bringing LOTS of goodies for me. Hasn't been here since first of February because of wind, rain, and 1 doctor's appointment. Oh yawn.
SSK, Diane, ASG, Ladeeda, Captain, ET AL: BIG HUGS, LOVE
Stillstanding: a very Happy Birthday to a gorgeous gal! Hope you have a wonderful day and that all your wishes come true.
To ALL: Blessings upon your souls; you are the cream of the crop, the stars of Heaven, the ultimate in human beings.
Love you very much, Christina
good morning christina hope u have a good visit with ur sister and see what goodies she brought ya .
ok off to walmart now ! :-(
Good news, the bone is healing and no surgery indicated. Bad news, another four weeks at least off my leg. Back on the walker, no weight bearing on right leg. He also showed me some PT to do, but said if I would do as he suggested It will heal with no complications.
Oh poor BG, she is going to have to pay to keep Ruth in the NH for at least another month. And yes I am getting my sad little salary but that is money that comes from Ruth's money. It is not costing BG a dime, I am on food stamps, so she doesn't even get my groceries....
Am going to wait for the right time and talk to sil about keeping her away from me when she is drunk. That is about all I can do that is professional. Many things go thru my mind to do, but naaaaa, she's not worth it.
Ted, I would drive not fly. I would get there eventually, but there would just be so much to see, I would have to take my time. You live in SC don't you? Good ole south, that is where I am at my best.Congrats on going back to school. Yes, you would be professional, but one that has walked the walk. I'll be praying that all works out for you in this new adventure.... and yes I could keep mama happy. I would have her dancing and laughing,
My heart hurts for all of you that never get a break. In many ways we have more resources here in Tx. and the smaller communities help out. there has to be a way, we just need to keep each other informed when we learn something new.
Well, love to all. Am going to be in bed everytime BG comes over, ya know, taking care of myself, so I don't cost her any more money....Bless her heart....
Hugs across the miles...
I keep a locked door between us and col...........if I didn't she would be wandering our house constantly.....my caregiving benefits only go so far. Yesterday was a bizarre day for her....took her meds down, helped her change undies, didn't need to because she was dry, but wanted to keep the routine....asked what she was having for dinner because I saw her usual bowl of "mush" (oatmeal) on the counter. She said "Dinner? I'm having breakfast....okay you are having breakfast for dinner? No I'm not, what time is it? It's 6:15 at night..............Oh, I thought it was morning and I've been asleep I guess.......the only thing I can figure is that she took a nap and woke up thinking it was morning....it was dreary, snowy all day and I guess she was confused. But by golly she had on make-up, complete with mascara!!!!!!!
I think someone asked about manic depressive disorder? I will get you some info straight from the "horse's mouth" so to speak.
Dory.....get a simple face mask to wear when emptying the potty....or cheaper, get a bottle of Vicks, smear some on your nostrils and that's what you will breathe.....I used to do that when I observed an autopsy.....works very well.
I know it's nearly impossible for some of you.....but try to figure out a way to create a "playpen" for your loved one.....keep them confined to an area where they feel comfortable....everywhere else is off limits. I've said this before and I will say it again.....your life CANNOT be relegated to the trash can just so you can make someones remaining yrs pleasant. God willing, you will still have a life after the care giving is over.....but not if you allow your sanity and health to wither.
More info when "you know who" wakes up....:)
Love and Hugz to all!
Jam