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oh my lord , this is a sad night for us all , lili i am so sorry and hope you are surounded with bunch of angels , sending some of mine at your way . stillstanding - my heart is broken , sending some of my angels at your way and your mom is now in peace with her love ones up above . keep in touch and plz do come back . ure always a caregiver . love you ladies tons , xoxox
So sad with Brenda's mom passing and Lilli's so ill. These end of life decisions are especially difficult if our loves ones haven't told us explicitly and repeatedly and hopefully even written down what it is they want. I have long ago done all of these things so my children won't be left with these issues.
With Mom my heart, my brain, my eyes told me their was no point in trying to prolong the inevitable with modern medecine. And as Kuli said, those last few days with my mom, as hard as they were,will always be some of the most precious moments of my life.
I have a DNR on my fridge, and every time I look at it it just freaks me out, but I know it's what is best for mom. She is still too frail to have someone pumping on her chest. It would break her up inside. When the time comes tho it's going to be so hard not to try to save her in every way I can. I hate to even think about it.
StillStanding-I am so sorry about your Mom! Bless your heart! Just remember that even though she is not there physically, she will always be close to you in spirit! She will never be far away from you! Sending you much love and hugs!! Always here for you! Kim
still: Oh, I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. My heart goes out to you right now. I know you will miss her. But she is whole again and feels no pain. Sending you hugs and prayers....Lilli
I put Mom's DNR on a whitebard/corkboard on the wall in her room. Having it on the fridge was too much for me. I mean the fridge is supposed to be a happy place right?
Lilli we got your back we can all put that ol doc in the black hole-we know where it is-make noise until they listen to you and what is best for your Mom-act like a New Yorker
Morning all. Looks like a beautiful fall day here in the east. Going to spend it down by the Potomac with my sweetie once it warms up a bit, maybe even a picnic, and will carry all of you there with me right in my heart. Maybe take ALL of our worries and troubles and put them on a big fallen oak leaf and send them down the river? Do you think the river could handle that?
Have fun on the Potomac, Barb. Our street could handle a barge of trouble today for West coast. Rain and lots of wind. Hoping all of you have a special weekend; restful, healing, abundance in the important areas. If I were with you, I'd cook a huge platter of penne with caramelized onions, garlic, roasted asparagus, chicken, gorgonzola anc asiago cheeses, lots of perfectly golden garlic toast, and a fresh salad of romaine, arugala, tomatoes, avocado, green onions tossed with olive oil and lemon juice. Open up bottles of Chardonnay and Pinot Noir- and for teetotalers, I'll drink yours, no worries, a nice glass of Pellegrino on ice for you. And for dessert, a special canolli with Espresso. I woke up hungry. Haha. Well, I love to cook for my friends and family. I'm a universal mama. Love you girls. I'm going to put bacon in the oven this morning, a good brekkie for hb before golf. Yes, they are playing in the rain. Last year the group went to Cabo in a motorhome, but not safe with the machine gun toting guys in pick up trucks. Who knows what side they're on. Talk to y'all later. Hugs, Christina xo
SS, I am so very sorry. Lilli, I hope that your decision making will flow smoothly and know you will do it with love and compassion. So much sad news right now. Right before the holidays too. Better get offa here before I start crying. Everyone hang in there. Angels to you holding you tight.
Hope you are feeling stronger today SS. That first rush of pain eases as time goes by, but it feels like time is standing still when you are going through it. I hope our love and support will help to comfort you in the days ahead.
Christina, it's 3:30pm and I haven't had lunch yet so reading your post really stirred up my salivary glands. Goodness, just reading about it, I could almost taste it.
Rip, I enjoyed last nite so much. I went right to sleep and got up without a headache this morning. Wine and emailing is a great way to spend an evening!
My stepdaughter is coming over tonite and we're having pizza and a movie. My hub(her dad) and her hub are out of town on a job. So we're having a girls nite in. She watched mama for me this afternoon so I could go grocery shopping. It's a beautiful day here in GA. Temp around 70 and sun shining on the lovely fall leaves. It felt wonderful getting out for a couple of hours.
Speaking of leaves, Barb, yes put all our troubles on leaves and float them down the River of No Return. You can play the Marylin Monroe part.
Love you all. Have a pleasant afternoon if possible.
SS, I'm so sorry for the terrible sadness you and your family are experiencing. Lilli, we will bail you out if need be. Bust in the joint and show'em who's boss! I have spent 4 hours at the hospital with James and I support everyone's decision about a DNR for the elderly that are suffering.
I met the cardiologist in the hall this morning and we had a chance to talk. James is still in a very critical stage and if they can ween him from the dopamine, ween him from the balloon assist pump and finally the ventilator, we will be in good shape. If his heart still can't pump enough on its owm, they will need to transport him the the Medical Univ of SC for a left ventricular assist pump to be implanted. Then from there they can apply to the heart transplant program. This is going to be a long road. So now I will be a caregiver for two.
I have to admit guys I have only glanced over the postings in the last week. I apologize if I don't address everyone. I know we each have our own issues each and everyday. I hope those of you that can get outside in the beautiful fall weather can do so. I'll keep you all in my prayers for an easy night.
OMG Diane please don't apologize for anything!!! You have your hands so full! I can only imgine how busy and sad and just wanting to scraam you must be!!!
I have noticed that some folks here are so vey good at addressing each person -Iam not like that - I'd have to go back and read the posts twice and then take notes before i did that - my brain just doesn't work like that!
I think too much emotion, stress, worry has shifted it into low gea for non-essential tasks, and thats Ok with me (for now anyway).
It was a beautiful day at the Potomac. We drove over to the Virginia side and down to Riverbend Park in Fairfax off va 7. The woods were quiet and peaceful, there were some fellas fishing and young couples with their kids. We sat and watched a tiny woodpecker skittle up and down the braches of a tree that hung over the river for a long time.
Nice, peaceful day - and ALL of our worries were sent downriver and should be well into the Chesapeake by now - unless one of those pesky crows got hold of them. (I actually like crows a lot - they seem so uninhibited). So if we still got troubles, I say BLAME THE CROWS.
Oh Barb ....We were thinking of you as the downpour hit while in the forest. Little rivers gushing down our dirt trails so fast it wasn't even muddy! Thought of placing a leaves with everyone's trouble to float away. No crows but several eagles & some owls were probably watching.
I like the crows, too. They and the ravens are good totems. I talk to them When they are around. I am absolutely good for nothing today. Not forcing myself to do anything but clean up the kitchen and make the bed. Watched movies all day and had a bacon, tomato, avocado sandwich on wheat toast with mayo, salt and pepper, and a glass of milk. Wow. It is cold and dark, quiet and rainy, everything is gray. Mother sleeping all day too, so I'll go back mañana. Got out my capes and ponchos and boots and leggings. Omg. I am good for nothing. I am even too lazy to give you guys hugs today. I'm sorry. I'll make it up to you. Later. Zzzzzzzz
Good Evening :) It's been beautiful here all day. Our high was only around 78, I love it when the breezes aren't so warm.
StillStanding, my condolences on your Mothers passing. Like Barb said it is like time is standing still when someone we love dies. I'm glad you have your family around. You have my prayers for comfort and peace.
Lilli, I have your back. Want me to come raise some hell for you? Just say the word. If the Doctor is pressuring you get a second opinion. Maybe see if the Hospital has a Geriatric Doctor available.
Diane, Diane, I'm glad to hear that James is hanging in there. If you end up with another one to care for please find a way to get some help. I can't even imagine trying to care for 2 adult people at the same time. You can have my Angels. Please take care of yourself. *Hugs*
Christina, That's it, I'm coming for dinner! :)
Hi Miz, RIP, Jen, Barb, AnnT, Carolyn, Austin, Rossella, Deef, Kimmie and Linda. Love you all. Chirp Chirp Cricket
Want a laugh brought on my sheer absurdity? Check out the HowTo Handle Awkward Incontinence Incidences article on this site. And to thinksomeone is being paid to write this nonsense while i sit here in need of a job. . .
I was getting ready to travel tomorrow to be with my Mom. She was supposed to be discharged tomorrow.
I get a call from my brother. The hospital's social worker came in and threatened my brother because she says that my Mom does not want to leave the hospital to go to hospice.
I am POA and am sending the docs to him now.
I had my sib ask for the ombudsman (something I learned here)
Every few minutes someone is coming into Mom's room and asking her if she really understands what she is doing. They are trying to say that she does not understand what she is doing.
Now they are trying to say she isn't getting the care she needs!!!!! The social worker just keeps saying to my bro, "I'm documenting everything."
From the very moment she was admitted, they have been asking questions about her care and quizzing me and my bro.
I am just frazzled....anything else I need to know.
I appreciate it!
Hospitals suck, doctors suck, social workers suck x2
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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stillstanding - my heart is broken , sending some of my angels at your way and your mom is now in peace with her love ones up above .
keep in touch and plz do come back . ure always a caregiver . love you ladies tons , xoxox
These end of life decisions are especially difficult if our loves ones haven't told us explicitly and repeatedly and hopefully even written down what it is they want. I have long ago done all of these things so my children won't be left with these issues.
With Mom my heart, my brain, my eyes told me their was no point in trying to prolong the inevitable with modern medecine. And as Kuli said, those last few days with my mom, as hard as they were,will always be some of the most precious moments of my life.
Brenda, may your next few days be peaceful. Don't allow your sister to make things harder.
Be well ~
HugsCuz
love,
miz
Christina, it's 3:30pm and I haven't had lunch yet so reading your post really stirred up my salivary glands. Goodness, just reading about it, I could almost taste it.
Rip, I enjoyed last nite so much. I went right to sleep and got up without a headache this morning. Wine and emailing is a great way to spend an evening!
My stepdaughter is coming over tonite and we're having pizza and a movie. My hub(her dad) and her hub are out of town on a job. So we're having a girls nite in. She watched mama for me this afternoon so I could go grocery shopping. It's a beautiful day here in GA. Temp around 70 and sun shining on the lovely fall leaves. It felt wonderful getting out for a couple of hours.
Speaking of leaves, Barb, yes put all our troubles on leaves and float them down the River of No Return. You can play the Marylin Monroe part.
Love you all. Have a pleasant afternoon if possible.
Ann
SS, I'm so sorry for the terrible sadness you and your family are experiencing. Lilli, we will bail you out if need be. Bust in the joint and show'em who's boss! I have spent 4 hours at the hospital with James and I support everyone's decision about a DNR for the elderly that are suffering.
I met the cardiologist in the hall this morning and we had a chance to talk. James is still in a very critical stage and if they can ween him from the dopamine, ween him from the balloon assist pump and finally the ventilator, we will be in good shape. If his heart still can't pump enough on its owm, they will need to transport him the the Medical Univ of SC for a left ventricular assist pump to be implanted. Then from there they can apply to the heart transplant program. This is going to be a long road. So now I will be a caregiver for two.
I have to admit guys I have only glanced over the postings in the last week. I apologize if I don't address everyone. I know we each have our own issues each and everyday. I hope those of you that can get outside in the beautiful fall weather can do so. I'll keep you all in my prayers for an easy night.
Love ya,
Diane
I have noticed that some folks here are so vey good at addressing each person -Iam not like that - I'd have to go back and read the posts twice and then take notes before i did that - my brain just doesn't work like that!
I think too much emotion, stress, worry has shifted it into low gea for non-essential tasks, and thats Ok with me (for now anyway).
It was a beautiful day at the Potomac. We drove over to the Virginia side and down to Riverbend Park in Fairfax off va 7. The woods were quiet and peaceful, there were some fellas fishing and young couples with their kids. We sat and watched a tiny woodpecker skittle up and down the braches of a tree that hung over the river for a long time.
Nice, peaceful day - and ALL of our worries were sent downriver and should be well into the Chesapeake by now - unless one of those pesky crows got hold of them. (I actually like crows a lot - they seem so uninhibited). So if we still got troubles, I say BLAME THE CROWS.
No crows but several eagles & some owls were probably watching.
StillStanding, my condolences on your Mothers passing. Like Barb said it is like time is standing still when someone we love dies. I'm glad you have your family around. You have my prayers for comfort and peace.
Lilli, I have your back. Want me to come raise some hell for you? Just say the word. If the Doctor is pressuring you get a second opinion. Maybe see if the Hospital has a Geriatric Doctor available.
Diane, Diane, I'm glad to hear that James is hanging in there. If you end up with another one to care for please find a way to get some help. I can't even imagine trying to care for 2 adult people at the same time. You can have my Angels. Please take care of yourself. *Hugs*
Christina, That's it, I'm coming for dinner! :)
Hi Miz, RIP, Jen, Barb, AnnT, Carolyn, Austin, Rossella, Deef, Kimmie and Linda. Love you all. Chirp Chirp Cricket
I was getting ready to travel tomorrow to be with my Mom. She was supposed to be discharged tomorrow.
I get a call from my brother. The hospital's social worker came in and threatened my brother because she says that my Mom does not want to leave the hospital to go to hospice.
I am POA and am sending the docs to him now.
I had my sib ask for the ombudsman (something I learned here)
Every few minutes someone is coming into Mom's room and asking her if she really understands what she is doing. They are trying to say that she does not understand what she is doing.
Now they are trying to say she isn't getting the care she needs!!!!! The social worker just keeps saying to my bro, "I'm documenting everything."
From the very moment she was admitted, they have been asking questions about her care and quizzing me and my bro.
I am just frazzled....anything else I need to know.
I appreciate it!
Hospitals suck, doctors suck, social workers suck x2