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Speaking of pie...I made 4 sweet potato pies friday. Been giving them away to friends and family. My two youngest sons love them. I can't keep them around the house or I'll eat them. Don't need to do that! They're very good. Light and fresh. Not a bunch of spices in them so the potato flavor comes thru. Actually only butter, sugar, eggs, and vanilla with a sm can of evap milk and the potaoes of course. Easy easy pie.
My night out was great. Had a nice steak and went to a movie. then walked around walmart for a while and came home. It was nice not to have to hurry back.
I'm up with RLS right now. Just took a second dose of my med for it. Hope it kicks in soon. I really can't stand that feeling!
Mom is going to bed earlier and earlier these days. She won't eat any dinner and just wants to go to bed around 5 pm. Somethings going on with her but I can't put my finger on it. She's losing ground for some reason. The nurse should come tomorrow and I'll talk to her about it.
Love you all. Hope you have an uneventful evening.
Ann your FB photo was lovely of you and hubby. Thanks for sharing.
On your sweet potato pies, do you bake or boil the potatoes before mashing? Like you, I make a simple pie - back home I would make my pies on Wednesday, and make extra to take to the rescue mission. -- In Mom's last year I changed her eating schedule to accomodate her increasing erractic sleep patterns. (She would sleep most of the time for days, then be awake mostly 24/7 for days) Waking her up to feed her did not always work, and when she was too sleepy she would absolutely refuse food (as she should have!). Still, until her final month, she never refused food when repeatedly offered, and without exception would clean her plate.
This last year was when I switched almost exclusively to the Gerber Toddler Entrees as the base of her meal. It was always ready, she really liked the taste and the dozen or so different varieties (including things like different raviolis, chicken, spaghetti) and l as I trusted the nutrition value because I fed gerber to my babies.
At around $2.00 a meal, her meal prep became quick and easy - and if she woke at midnight wanting to eat it could be ready in minutes and prepared by any of us with no hassle. All these meals were supplemented with additional fruit cups, fresh fruit,veggie cups, bread and butter, etc. This worked well for us.
She ate two'large' meals a day then, one about 10am the other around 4pm. Snacks (a cheese or jelly sandwich, a cup of soup or mac and cheese) were offered midday, mid evening, and often as an incentive to "bedtime". After too many incidences with spilled milk, juice and the ants, Mom only had water as a beverage (in a sip cup with a straw), and the occassional milkshake which she loved.
When Hospice came, they were surprised at how robustly healthy Mom was in her size and coloring and very normal blood pressure. She never did lose any weight in her arms (where they measure).
I say all this to suggest maybe its time to mix things up to prompt a renewed interest in food! Or if she's able, a new place to eat it - by a window, or even in front of the TV! Whatever it takes to fuel her appetite.
Love you guys. Do let me know if you are interested in the doing the 'chat' thing. RIP and I found a lovely room to meet in.
Hi Barb, I like the chat option and saved the email so when I get the time one of these nights I will set it up and let you know. I love the idea of a chat room for all of us so we can talk live with each other when we need it. The only problem that might interfere with it would be the time factor. We don't all have the same minutes to sit down and that's where the postings works out well. But even so I think it's a good option and it could really be a big help in a time of need, so I'm all for it. Thanks for setting it up. I should see you soon on there circumstances and Memory allowing, LOL
Cuz I loved the "I believe" post so much that I pasted it to the Caregiver Affirmations thread so anyone looking there can enjoy it as well. Thanks for posting that. It's a great reminder for all of us to focus on what's really important in life.
I went to site and did basic sign up, but couldn't finish. Is there going to be an official group name and do we need that to sign up? Somebody please send me an email explaining. I am all over today, but hope tonight to get to it. I started to post earlier and got distracted. Ann, hope you will post Sweet Potato Pie recipe on Favorite Recipes thread:) more later. Hugs xo
Christina if you use your birthdate for your password at the site it doesn't let you do it. try changing it. I signed up for the chat today also.
AnnT please do post your recipe :) Sweet Potatoes are one of the sweets I allow myself to have because of all the good nutrients in them.
Today I was reading an article on the different urine smells related to another illness and learned that a strong sour odor can mean a UTI. I wanted to share that with everyone here in hopes that this inf. might be used to help identify UTI's in our elderly folks. *Hugs* Cricket
Hey everyone. Thought I would jump in real quick and tell you that bobbie and my cuz Jr lost his wife this past weekend to cancer and my wife lost her aunt Sunday. We also have two uncle's on mine and bobbies side that aren't going to be around much longer. One is in hospice and the other is in the hospital with a major stroke and basically on life support. If I hear anything more I will let ya know when I get back on tonight. I did call bobbie and let her know cause I think her muter is still down. luvCuz
Cuz, sorry to hear about the passings in your family. It's hard enough to deal with one at a time! You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers. (((hugs))) BEE
Hey guys, saw the post for UTI's. My mom gets them quiet often because she does not clean well and doesn't allow me to clean her either. Not to mention most of the time she simply will not drink water or juices.
However with that said please read up on ACV (apple cider vinegar.) IF you can get them to drink i think they said a teaspoon of ACV with juice or something it is supose to add just the right amount of acid that bacteria will not grow. I notice that if i can get a small glass of juice...just like 4 ounces and add the ACV and tell mom it is for her stomach she will drank it down. But you have to be careful because it is a little hard on stomach. Also, they have cranberry pills, you take 4 a day. I know most of us already take too many pills, but it has seemed this time around to help mom. And every so often when mom ask for toliet paper i will take a wet warm wash cloth and dip it in ACV and give it to her to wipe. This too get rid of any bacteria that could be on the outside. It seems to be a fighting battle with the elderly. Which is one of the factors that took my Dad.
And YES the sour oder does mean infection, that and discolored urine. Also i notice that mom has many accidents with urinating in the bed before she can get up, which is a sign. Being very irritable, confused, and little sassy can be a big sign. Be sure if you have a test done and you do have UTI get it cultered. Because i think everytime mom has had one the antibotic given was resistant to the bacteria and would not kill it, so they had to give a different one. Sulfer anitbotics are hard on the stomach too and should not be took with dailry. Sugar aids in growth of bacteria as well as too much dairy. Once they start taking the antibotic you should give yogurt with asidolphis (not sure if spelled right) and this will offset any yeast infections. All the anitbotics makes mom groggy, but once off the antibotic she is back to normal and feeling good again. Cranberry juice and pomgrannit and blueberry are good too, as long as they are 100% juice. you can add a little water to them. The juice cocktails WILL NOT work, filled with sugar and NOT enough to protect the bladder.
Cuz, I am sorry for your lose and my heart goes out to you. It is never easy to say goodbye. But oneday we shall meet them again and be in ALL good health. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family! (((((((HUGGS))))))
Bee,cricket,myra,cristina,kim,flex,kuli Thanks for the support. We have a funeral tommorro at 11:00am for out cousin-in-law she was 67 and after we get out of that one we go to the funeral home where the wife's aunt is. Been a rough week but you gals are still number one on my list for what you are doing and have done. I'll still be here every night checking up on whats been going down. Been doing this for over a year now and I'm not going to stop. Your a great group of gals and Ted also. I bee back tommorro with some laughs if I get any. Hugs to ya all. LuvCuz
I wish all well on here but momma passed away on the 13th of oct.......So ty for all the support....but not sure i am any good to anyone anymore...Hugs sharon
Sorry I don't remember which one of you took a turtle on vacation and then put her back where she had found her. I wonder what the turtle has retained of that experience. I think she says to her children: "I went on vacation. With a nice family. Do you know what a vacation is? No?" Linda do you still have flies at home? Do they wear sweaters? We have snow temperature in the night (the "warm Italy" is a lie!!!!) so the bugs have left me for winter. God bless them.
CC - I'm so very sorry for your loss. My dad passed on Oct 26th. I imagine you, like I, are in the middle of not only loss of a parent but loss of what became your life's purpose. Don't go away from here. We are your friends - the ones who have been here through thick and thin and continue to be here for each other; the ones, the ONLY ones, who truly understand what caregivers go through. It's ok to be quiet for awhile, to not post every day - we, you and I, are grieving and that takes time. But continue to read - you may find, like I have, that you want to post, that you DO have something to offer as your friends here are making end of life decisions, as your friends here lose their parents. Stay with us. You will never find a more understanding, more supportive, more caring group of people. Hugs ~ Kuli
CC, I can only imagine how lost you must feel right now. You're still in a state of shock. I know it's been awhile since you posted on this thread, but stay with us. Kuli, Miz, Rip, Still, Bobbie and Marie are on the other side of caregiving and can relate to your stage. We're here for you.
Mom took a spill last night. Not quite sure what happened, but I heard a comotion in her bedroom and found her on the floor. I had to call and wake my brother up to help me get her off the floor. I checked her over and didn't see or feel anything unusual. I'm sure she will be sore today though. On the bright side, I managed to get 6 glorious hours of sleep. I think this is the longest I have slept since James was in the hospital. PT managed to get him on his feet and walking the halls yesterday. Its amazing how the body can go through so much in 9 days.
The darkness of night is leaving the skies and the start of another day is here. I hope today is an "easy" day for us all.
Cuz I am so sorry for the death of Cuz Jr.s wife and your wife's aunt. When you talk to Bobbie again tell her we miss her and love her. CC I hope you stay with us if you can. You have been a good friend to all of us. I find this group so enjoyable even though my steady caregiving role is over but all those years are still fresh in my mind. You probably will find you will want to come here to keep with with what is going on with others-we have quite a number of former caregivers here and you will be helpful to others. Flex I hope you Mom will be ok and hope James will continue to get stronger.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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My night out was great. Had a nice steak and went to a movie. then walked around walmart for a while and came home. It was nice not to have to hurry back.
I'm up with RLS right now. Just took a second dose of my med for it. Hope it kicks in soon. I really can't stand that feeling!
Mom is going to bed earlier and earlier these days. She won't eat any dinner and just wants to go to bed around 5 pm. Somethings going on with her but I can't put my finger on it. She's losing ground for some reason. The nurse should come tomorrow and I'll talk to her about it.
Love you all. Hope you have an uneventful evening.
On your sweet potato pies, do you bake or boil the potatoes before mashing?
Like you, I make a simple pie - back home I would make my pies on Wednesday, and make extra to take to the rescue mission.
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In Mom's last year I changed her eating schedule to accomodate her increasing erractic sleep patterns. (She would sleep most of the time for days, then be awake mostly 24/7 for days) Waking her up to feed her did not always work, and when she was too sleepy she would absolutely refuse food (as she should have!). Still, until her final month, she never refused food when repeatedly offered, and without exception would clean her plate.
This last year was when I switched almost exclusively to the Gerber Toddler Entrees as the base of her meal. It was always ready, she really liked the taste and the dozen or so different varieties (including things like different raviolis, chicken, spaghetti) and l as I trusted the nutrition value because I fed gerber to my babies.
At around $2.00 a meal, her meal prep became quick and easy - and if she woke at midnight wanting to eat it could be ready in minutes and prepared by any of us with no hassle. All these meals were supplemented with additional fruit cups, fresh fruit,veggie cups, bread and butter, etc. This worked well for us.
She ate two'large' meals a day then, one about 10am the other around 4pm. Snacks (a cheese or jelly sandwich, a cup of soup or mac and cheese) were offered midday, mid evening, and often as an incentive to "bedtime". After too many incidences with spilled milk, juice and the ants, Mom only had water as a beverage (in a sip cup with a straw), and the occassional milkshake which she loved.
When Hospice came, they were surprised at how robustly healthy Mom was in her size and coloring and very normal blood pressure. She never did lose any weight in her arms (where they measure).
I say all this to suggest maybe its time to mix things up to prompt a renewed interest in food! Or if she's able, a new place to eat it - by a window, or even in front of the TV! Whatever it takes to fuel her appetite.
Love you guys. Do let me know if you are interested in the doing the 'chat' thing. RIP and I found a lovely room to meet in.
Cuz I loved the "I believe" post so much that I pasted it to the Caregiver Affirmations thread so anyone looking there can enjoy it as well. Thanks for posting that. It's a great reminder for all of us to focus on what's really important in life.
AnnT please do post your recipe :) Sweet Potatoes are one of the sweets I allow myself to have because of all the good nutrients in them.
Today I was reading an article on the different urine smells related to another illness and learned that a strong sour odor can mean a UTI. I wanted to share that with everyone here in hopes that this inf. might be used to help identify UTI's in our elderly folks. *Hugs* Cricket
luvCuz
However with that said please read up on ACV (apple cider vinegar.) IF you can get them to drink i think they said a teaspoon of ACV with juice or something it is supose to add just the right amount of acid that bacteria will not grow. I notice that if i can get a small glass of juice...just like 4 ounces and add the ACV and tell mom it is for her stomach she will drank it down. But you have to be careful because it is a little hard on stomach. Also, they have cranberry pills, you take 4 a day. I know most of us already take too many pills, but it has seemed this time around to help mom. And every so often when mom ask for toliet paper i will take a wet warm wash cloth and dip it in ACV and give it to her to wipe. This too get rid of any bacteria that could be on the outside. It seems to be a fighting battle with the elderly. Which is one of the factors that took my Dad.
And YES the sour oder does mean infection, that and discolored urine. Also i notice that mom has many accidents with urinating in the bed before she can get up, which is a sign. Being very irritable, confused, and little sassy can be a big sign. Be sure if you have a test done and you do have UTI get it cultered. Because i think everytime mom has had one the antibotic given was resistant to the bacteria and would not kill it, so they had to give a different one. Sulfer anitbotics are hard on the stomach too and should not be took with dailry. Sugar aids in growth of bacteria as well as too much dairy. Once they start taking the antibotic you should give yogurt with asidolphis (not sure if spelled right) and this will offset any yeast infections. All the anitbotics makes mom groggy, but once off the antibotic she is back to normal and feeling good again. Cranberry juice and pomgrannit and blueberry are good too, as long as they are 100% juice. you can add a little water to them. The juice cocktails WILL NOT work, filled with sugar and NOT enough to protect the bladder.
Hope this helps someone. Myra
LuvCuz
Linda do you still have flies at home? Do they wear sweaters? We have snow temperature in the night (the "warm Italy" is a lie!!!!) so the bugs have left me for winter. God bless them.
The darkness of night is leaving the skies and the start of another day is here. I hope today is an "easy" day for us all.
Love ya,
Diane