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Sharon, I am so sorry to hear of your mom's passing. Please keep writing. You can help others who are going through what you went through. Hugs to you.
I do not know if this is an answer for those with elders with frequent UTI but we use to use sitz bath for thos with rectal surgery it was like a small bowl that you put into the toilet and either put in warm water or had a set up with water hanging in a bag with tubing that slowly put water over the area of the person but just the bowl thing filled with warm water would probably be effective and those who use a commode just filling it with soap water and letting them sit on it might work any thing to soak the area might cut down on UTI-just a thought-drug store might still sell sits bath-I have seen something advertised to add to the toilet to provide water to be sprayed to the person sitting on the toilet and it is suppose to be easy to convert the toilet and then get it back to normal easily-hope this might help someone.
Afternoon all. Rainy, gloomy day here in the East. Thinking about all of you and especially those dealing with the raw, soul-churning grief of new loss.
Morning Friends, Sharon, vent and grieve and eventually you will find your next purpose. Don't worry about it. Just stay here with us and you are surrounded with Angels who understand like no others and you can rest. Blessings to you:) My girlfriend and I were discussing the benefits of vinegar for many ailments. Apple cider vinegar, especially the unfiltered kind you buy in health food stores, can be drunk in a glass of water to alleviate UTIs. When Mother came back from the first care home, she had terrible athlete's foot (!!!) Soaked her feet in vinegar in a foot bath, then every day would wipe her feet with a cotton pad drenched with vinegar after her shower at home. Her skin looked so good. I check her feet every visit, take off her socks and slippers. Vinegar is a good all-round cure. Also give Vitamin C at night for elder, as it changes the PH of urine and will minimize growth of bacteria. Remember that Sugar and Alcohol GROWS the bad bacteria. Boy, if that were the case with me, I'd be raging. heehee I signed up for chat. Since my time zone is way off from most of you, and lately I am to bed early, not sure when I will find you, but when it's meant to be, tra la. Code name: SuperChristina. haha Mother's doctor is out of town until after TG, so we are waiting to resume the Exelon patch. Last week my sister showed up for a visit on a day when my daughter visited, but she left before M got there. I had asked her to simply let me know what days she is coming so I can arrange my schedule--meaning: not go when she is there. I hate to "remind" her, as that makes me look like a nag, but it's too confusing for Mother to have multiple visits in one day. Do you think I should say something? I'll bet she is not worried about it. Not a biggie, but still another example of her disregard for me. Diane, hope Mom is OK after the fall. Can you put guardrails on her bed? We did that for Mother, and she could use them to pull herself up, but it kept her in bed without falling. I slept much better knowing she could not get out and fall down. Rosella, I think we think of Italy as being warm because of all the HOT Italians!! Si? Also, the healthy diet, wine, espresso, garlic, EVOO--aids in an optimum metabolism, burning the carbs to warm your bod. Eat more pasta, Regina Bella:) I will post my potato asparagus frittata recipe and Penne with caramelized onions, etc. on Fav.Recipes later. First, I need to go do Mother's manicure. I got there yesterday and she would not wake up, yet she was talking slightly when I spoke to her. She had been especially vocal yesterday morning and they gave her an Ativan. It worked this time. Sometimes it does not. Ay yi yi. Anyway, I like to do her manicure every other week, and having the podiatrist go to the house and cut her toenails. I hope you all have a good day. I'll check off and on when I have a minute to chat. Love, Christina xo
Afternoon everyone, Cuz, I'm so sorry about the deaths in your family. Please give Bobbie my love and consider yourself and Bobbie hugged tightly.
A lot of good advice on the thread last night and today. Thanks y'all.
Christina....I cut my mom's toe nails myself. I should get hazardous duty pay for that. I have some cutters that look almost like wire cutters and am certain to wear my glasses (should have safety glasses). Once a piece of toenail flew up and hit me on the face and left a mark! I soak her feet in Epsom Salt first but boy those things are like Rino horns. I read in AARP that Vicks Vapo Rub is good to use for toenail fungus. They claim that it helped 15 out of the 18 people they tested. It's cheap enough too. I may try that. I alway sterilize my cutters before and after. That's one job I could do without.
I haven't been to the recipe site yet so I'll look for it. Also haven't looked for the chat site. I'll hve to look it up too.
Sharon, I'm very sorry you lost your mother last month. I can't imagine how hard that must have been. Please keep posting and let us know how you're doing.
One of you, Barb or Cricket? mentioned my fb pictures. Yes, I was so excited to get out for the evening that I got my stepdaughter to take our picture. She kept saying...."now stand this way, now that way..ha!" She was as excited for us as I was. That sweater I was wearing was new, only had it three years and never wore it. That's how often we get out. Jeeze!!! I have tons of clothes I never wear anymore cause I don't go anywhere except the store and the doctor. I know you all can relate. My life is lived in sweat pants. I don't even wear a bra unless I'm going to the Dr. I just wear denim shirts with pockets over my tank tops. So dressing up that night was a treat. Even tho it was just jeans and a sweater.
Its rainy here and over 80 degrees. Turned the heat off and opened the windows. It was in the 40s last week. Georgia! Gotta love it! Does a change in the weather REALLY make people sick? Speak up you nurses. I keep hearing that time after time. I thought it was germs and viruses and my sil that make me sick. Does weather contribute to that?
Rip, I'll be knocking back a glass or two tonight and ckn my email. Or maybe the chat line if the time zone isn't too different. My hub had to take off to his parents this morning and won't be back til Sunday nite. "All by myself....don't wanna be...all by myself...annneee more........" Oh well you get the picture. I wish they would put a time stamp on our posts instead of just 30mis ago etc. Then we would know what the difference is without trying to figure it out. I got enough to figure out besides trying to know what time it was when you guys make a comment. For instance it's 1:50pm here right now....afternoon. What time do you guys have? Sorry, my blonde (over my gray) roots are showing. And can you still use that excuse if you are a dyed blonde? Just saying.......
I'll go now and try to look up those other sites. Later..... Ann
Ann its 1:59 here in DC a few hours north! Rainy and warm had to turn on the AC. You guys supposed to get storms.
Re germs: My understanding is we tend to get sick more with cold and flu virus in winter because we are cooped up more with others and thus have more exposure to one another's 'cooties'. My kids would always get sick first week of school - you could bet on it - home with me all summer and then bam - into close quarters with all those unclean hands and snotty noses.
Extremes of hot and cold and sudden changes do effect health (in some people) along with changes in relative humidity. The most common cold-causing viruses survive better when humidity is low and thats usually in the colder months of the year. Cold weather also may make the nasal passages drier and more vulnerable to viral infection.
When my girls were babies, and when Mom was with me - no one held or touched them if they were not feeling well, and NEVER without washing their hands first. (I shudder every time I see a newborn at store with Mommy).
I kept wipes in my purse when I took Mom out, and used them frequently. Never liked or used the anti-bacterial stuff unless it was all I had - my reading says it does more harm than good. Knocking on wood here but I seldom get a cold - and have only had the flu twice. (Mom seldom had a cold her entire life and never the flu that i know of. Never was in the hospital for illness either). I do get allergic sniffing and sneezing! Seems more in the past few yrs than I ever had.
Sharon, sorry for your grief. I haven't found the post where you were talking about it. Diane I am happy for James but shoot, your mother falls. Can't you have a moment of peace, girl? I'm tired and I think I am going to sleep. I have no urgent works to do, so... Good night.
I believe washing your hands with good old soap is the answer and a lot of people get sick after the winter holidays so not getting enough rest and the stress of the holidays are the reason-just do not get crazy about Christmas and remember the reason for the season. Linda heart where are you I have not seen your post in days-hope you all have a restful night and that your burdens are lighter tomarrow.
Hi gals This was printed in the little handout that we recieved ar out cousin-in-laws funeral today. There was no author for it and no I'm not this good. I can't take credit for this.
I'm Free
Don't greive for me, for now I'm free I'm following the path God laid for me. I took His hand when I heard Him call I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day To laugh, to love, to work or play Tasks left undone must stay that way I've found that peace at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void Then fill it with remembered joy. A freindship shared, a laugh, a kiss. Ah, yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow. My life has been full, I savored much, Good freinds, good times, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all to brief Don't lengthen it now with undue grief. Lift up your heart and share with me; God wanted me now; He set me free.
LovCuz ps I hope this will help those who have lost a love one hugs again Cuz
Thanx jen,barb,ann,miz and austin for the hugs I really appreciate them. I'm glad you gals have let me share your posts. I have another funeral for the wife's aunt Kay on wednesday. Benn a rough week but like the poem said Be not burdened with times of sorrow wish for the sunshine tomorrow. luv ya all Cuz
cuz - am sorry to hear about u losing love ones , and as ur poem said i am free now . thats is a good poem . hugs to you dear ,,,
i was so weak all day today , slept most of the day too . got it in my neck also . just dont feel good . am hoping tmr brings me good days , pa is doing ok , same ole crap , has anyone gotten a email from agincare wanting our home address ? thought they do not ask for those ? may send us a speical holiday gift , is that for real ? am lit errie about that . you all have a goodnight sleep and i ll try to be happy go tmr . maybe that fly did piss n shit in my coffee ? makin me sick , barf barf . love you all ... xoxo
Linda...I hope you are feeling better today. I once had what I thought was a bad crick in my neck and the Dr said it was a virus. What????? I never heard of that. Anyway, I hope you're better today. Maybe Pa will let you rest today too. And yes I think we all got that email. Just telling me I'll get a surprise in the mail doesn't cut it. I get a surprise every time I pull my light bill out of the mailbox. Surprise doesn't necessarily mean good. I don't trust it myself. Unless they explain what it's all about, I'm not giving out my address.
Cuz...that poem was lovely. But with your sweet spirit, I do believe you could have written it.
Morning-- I did not say "good". LindaHeart, I know that virus. Ever since I got flu shot in Oct. I have not felt that good. Both ears still very sore. Hey, there must be something wring with me cause I replied with my address and said Thank You. Haha! I think the best of people's intentions. Doesn't mean I have never been surprised-- you know. I think people care like I do, that they are sincere, honest, then whammo, and I am shocked, can believe it, try to rationalize it in my mind. Haha--Suckerrrrr!!! Linda, take care of yourself. As Austin said, after the holidays and the big letdown is sick time. Funny how we all seem to be having an extended letdown and it lasts all year. Keep airborne handy, green tea, echinacea, lemons, and some good dark chocolate. Did y'all chat? Been going to bed super early and sleeping, going to get coffee now and wake up. Love you bunches. C xoxo
Good morning my darlings, Mother was laid to rest yesterday... The funeral home called and said there was a possibility that they could not bury her because of the tornado's and high winds that were hitting us here in Montgomery. I told them we would continue then asked all the family and extended family to join in a prayer to ask for sunshine and calm winds. When we got to the funeral home within fifteen minutes people were coming in and telling everyone to come outside to see the miracle... The clouds were departing and the sun was shinning!!! Yes, there is a God. Love to you all and may a quiet peace be upon you all today. Much love, BJ
BJ: that is such a touching story...did all go well? Linda: take care of yourself first....or we'll come over with big vats of chicken soup Christeeenah: voted against the flu shot this year...feels like playing the lottery Lilli
good mornin ! . feelin better today , thanks u guys , love ya tons .... i had a whole glass full of coins and was sorting out dimes nickles pennies and quaters , i think it messed up my neck , bendin my neck down too much and lookin down to see if that pennie is real . with onecent on the back of it and squink my eyes to see the year on it , ahh cant see ! need new glasses , then i did a yoga strech out my body and man it all popped out like crazy ohhh yeah baby . then sis said u better stop that u ll be so sore tmr , well she was right lol . brought me down big time .. flu shot ! i love my flu shot , without it i be going out with both ends , barfin and crappin at the same time . ohh no way oh say so , gotta have my flu shot ... tummy virus kills me . i know some cant have it cuz it makes em sick . then they get sicker without it . damn if u damn if u dont ....
stillstanding - i am so happy that the prayers cleared up into a purtty day for the funeral service and shes laid to rest on a sunny day . isnt that great . hope each day you get stronger and happier knowing mom is in the most beautiful place and is not suffering any more . big hugs to you dear ...
pa seems to be perking up again . his sack is so red and raw from pee and crap on it . what is the best cure for it ? dont tell me apple cider vingear , god that would just burn him ! whoa !!!
christina - try chewin some gum , maybe that ll help move ur ears around , i have that tmj whatever its called , i have to chew gum to knock off that naggin ear ache , sometime a q-tip dip in achahol (sp) and just rub em in ur ear canal calms the pains .
anybody ready to be a slavery in the kitchen for thanksgiving ? man i wish i have a teamworker here with me and we d get dinner served in no time . i miss my sis in law . we re great teamworker . we cleaned out pa s bdrm and fal lala we were done ! she wash my dishes and i dried em and poof its all done . i told her this morning to get back over here ! lol . she lives about 1 and half hr drive , wish we didnt live too far away from eachother . sniffff . alrighty i best catch up on my laundry , you all have a happy day and meow alot too . xoxox
thanks flex . where do u buy those balmex at ? how is ur huney bun ? hope he s graduated from hospital and headin home real soon . and how are you doing ? worried about mom and worried about ur man . time for a margaritta , happy that he is better . its pretty scary i know , i have been on that route too many times with my hubby . i always tell the lord that he can not have him cuz he s mine ! :-) xoxo
Fantastic, BJ!! Bless your Heart, God loves to show those miracles to faithful souls and makes the doubters give a second thought, hmmm? Scratch their head...haha! Love it, Babydoll. "You are a good daughter"-- that's what Bobbie always says to us:(-- and you stayed strong and steady to the completion of your Mom's life. Wow-- how do you feel? Did your sister make a spectacle? The beautiful day and your prayer dissolved and negativity, I'm sure. It is amazing how a regeneration occurs when we allow the positive to rule our situations. We just need to step back and know we cannot control everything. Have a good day, everyone. Going for a walk in 57 degrees, blue sky, no clouds. Birdies chirping. bbl. Hugs, Christina xo
Balmex in the babycare section at the drugstore. I always liked Destin a lot and kept in handy for "netherland" irritations.
So glad the sun shone and the wind stilled for your Moms funeral. Had you heavy on my mind when I saw the storms marching through. Daughter down near Auburn had enough standing water in he back yard to open a shipyard she reports.
Today is the 2 month anniversary of Mom's death. Seems a long time ago already in many ways. Its like you're running a race at breakneck speed and you can't possibly stop for anything and then you round a corner and bam - you slap the finish line - and too suddenly its all over. And all you can do is walk it off, and wait to catch your breath again . . .
I couldn't sleep at all last night - seriously. I read til 2am and was still awake at 5am and can't imagine what caused it. Still I did sleep from 5ish til 9ish - and in the interim last night worked on the family tree and caught up with correspondence.
I am glad we have a chat room - but can't seem to catch anyone in it. I've been checking in around 10pm east coast time.
Everyone please accept my apologies for not being able to talk coherently in chat last night. At first it was funny but it got worse later and the whole left side of my keyboard went dead on me and I couldn't type any of those letters so I had to just make a mouse exit. Sorry Barb.
Christina, ah a walk sounds wonderful to me right now but it's almost 90 outside and very humid so that's out. I want last weeks weather back dammit!
Linda, I'm glad your better but keep doing those stretches everyday because they really do help with muscle aches. I used to do Sports Massage Therapy for many years so I know the muscles and what is good for them. Is your Pa scratching and itchy? I don't know what to put on it but if he is itchy and scratching he might have a yeast infection. That is what happened to my Dad when he wasn't cleaning himself good enough. The Doctor prescribed a cream for it. You might want to try to let him air out during the day when he is awake and can tell you he needs to urinate. Poor guy, your Pa looks like such a sweetheart. I hope you are able to get him fixed up. Tell me if he is itching and I will go do some research for you on home remedy's. I have an excellent site for all good information but we can't post links here.
Kimmy, Jen, Rossella, RIP, Miz, AnnT, Carolyn, Lilli, Diane, Austin, Kuli and Cristina hugs to all you ladies. You to Ted and Cuz.
StillStanding, I loved hearing about your experience. It really shows how powerful prayers are when we all join together. I really believe in the power of prayer and know that when we all pray for each other here it really does have a comforting affect on us. Thanks for sharing your experience. I pray for you to be comforted and have peace.
Cuz, thanks for sharing the poem, it's wonderful. Keep a copy of it in your pocket to help you get through this week. You and your family have my prayers. Tell Bobbie she is still in my prayers as well.
Still alive here, sun bright and windy nice day really...Could be better but then it would be a hassle, cops and hospital and funeral home and all that...whatever. pervert dies when he dies.... Mom running an errand and ocd like she is going into battle. she is getting really vague and forgetful. God please I can't take anymore I will bail....
Hi to everyone and hope the weekend goes well for all. Am sharing out the sunshine here if anyone has a cloudy day there....
Linda, try Calmoseptine. Hospice told me about it. They use it for anything from diaper rash to surgical wounds. It's very good. You have to ask for it at the pharmacy they don't just put it out on the shelves but you don't have to have a rx for it.
Mom has gained weight so I guess she's eating ok. I did change her schedule tho. We eat dinner at 4pm now cause she wants to go to bed as soon as it gets dark. In spite of the weight gain and good health as far as we know, she's weaker. I don't understand it. She can barely walk sometimes and looks spacy a lot. She's not dehydrated and I don't think she has a UTI. She's on Macrodantin a low dose antibiotic for the utis. When nurse is here she perks up so nurse doesn't see it. I took her for a ride today while the sun was out and it was warm. She didn't enjoy it at all. Just wanted to go home and lie down. She's sleeping more too. I'm wondering if the antidepressant has stopped working for her. Everything else is good. Her bp is better than mine and oxygenation is 98%. I don't know.....
BJ, I'm glad the weather straightened up for the funeral. Funerals are hard enough without dismal weather adding to it.
Ann, I think the lack of interest is their world shrinking, closing in. Our perceptions are still outward, so we don't relate. If Mom 's demands are less, that makes our job simpler on some levels. Mine is in a new phase. I'm trying to accept each new phase, but the developments are so confusing, i am too tired to question it anymore. I am not complacent, but I find my new ability to "accept" dementia changes is less stressful than trying to figure it out. Once we try everything and cover the bases, then it is what it is. I hope you know what I'm getting at. Not preaching. Love and Hugs:)
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Sharon, vent and grieve and eventually you will find your next purpose. Don't worry about it. Just stay here with us and you are surrounded with Angels who understand like no others and you can rest. Blessings to you:)
My girlfriend and I were discussing the benefits of vinegar for many ailments. Apple cider vinegar, especially the unfiltered kind you buy in health food stores, can be drunk in a glass of water to alleviate UTIs. When Mother came back from the first care home, she had terrible athlete's foot (!!!) Soaked her feet in vinegar in a foot bath, then every day would wipe her feet with a cotton pad drenched with vinegar after her shower at home. Her skin looked so good. I check her feet every visit, take off her socks and slippers. Vinegar is a good all-round cure. Also give Vitamin C at night for elder, as it changes the PH of urine and will minimize growth of bacteria. Remember that Sugar and Alcohol GROWS the bad bacteria. Boy, if that were the case with me, I'd be raging. heehee
I signed up for chat. Since my time zone is way off from most of you, and lately I am to bed early, not sure when I will find you, but when it's meant to be, tra la.
Code name: SuperChristina. haha
Mother's doctor is out of town until after TG, so we are waiting to resume the Exelon patch. Last week my sister showed up for a visit on a day when my daughter visited, but she left before M got there. I had asked her to simply let me know what days she is coming so I can arrange my schedule--meaning: not go when she is there. I hate to "remind" her, as that makes me look like a nag, but it's too confusing for Mother to have multiple visits in one day. Do you think I should say something? I'll bet she is not worried about it. Not a biggie, but still another example of her disregard for me.
Diane, hope Mom is OK after the fall. Can you put guardrails on her bed? We did that for Mother, and she could use them to pull herself up, but it kept her in bed without falling. I slept much better knowing she could not get out and fall down.
Rosella, I think we think of Italy as being warm because of all the HOT Italians!! Si? Also, the healthy diet, wine, espresso, garlic, EVOO--aids in an optimum metabolism, burning the carbs to warm your bod. Eat more pasta, Regina Bella:)
I will post my potato asparagus frittata recipe and Penne with caramelized onions, etc. on Fav.Recipes later. First, I need to go do Mother's manicure. I got there yesterday and she would not wake up, yet she was talking slightly when I spoke to her. She had been especially vocal yesterday morning and they gave her an Ativan. It worked this time. Sometimes it does not. Ay yi yi. Anyway, I like to do her manicure every other week, and having the podiatrist go to the house and cut her toenails.
I hope you all have a good day. I'll check off and on when I have a minute to chat.
Love, Christina xo
Cuz, I'm so sorry about the deaths in your family. Please give Bobbie my love and consider yourself and Bobbie hugged tightly.
A lot of good advice on the thread last night and today. Thanks y'all.
Christina....I cut my mom's toe nails myself. I should get hazardous duty pay for that. I have some cutters that look almost like wire cutters and am certain to wear my glasses (should have safety glasses). Once a piece of toenail flew up and hit me on the face and left a mark! I soak her feet in Epsom Salt first but boy those things are like Rino horns. I read in AARP that Vicks Vapo Rub is good to use for toenail fungus. They claim that it helped 15 out of the 18 people they tested. It's cheap enough too. I may try that. I alway sterilize my cutters before and after. That's one job I could do without.
I haven't been to the recipe site yet so I'll look for it. Also haven't looked for the chat site. I'll hve to look it up too.
Sharon, I'm very sorry you lost your mother last month. I can't imagine how hard that must have been. Please keep posting and let us know how you're doing.
One of you, Barb or Cricket? mentioned my fb pictures. Yes, I was so excited to get out for the evening that I got my stepdaughter to take our picture. She kept saying...."now stand this way, now that way..ha!" She was as excited for us as I was. That sweater I was wearing was new, only had it three years and never wore it. That's how often we get out. Jeeze!!! I have tons of clothes I never wear anymore cause I don't go anywhere except the store and the doctor. I know you all can relate. My life is lived in sweat pants. I don't even wear a bra unless I'm going to the Dr. I just wear denim shirts with pockets over my tank tops. So dressing up that night was a treat. Even tho it was just jeans and a sweater.
Its rainy here and over 80 degrees. Turned the heat off and opened the windows. It was in the 40s last week. Georgia! Gotta love it!
Does a change in the weather REALLY make people sick? Speak up you nurses. I keep hearing that time after time. I thought it was germs and viruses and my sil that make me sick. Does weather contribute to that?
Rip, I'll be knocking back a glass or two tonight and ckn my email. Or maybe the chat line if the time zone isn't too different. My hub had to take off to his parents this morning and won't be back til Sunday nite. "All by myself....don't wanna be...all by myself...annneee more........" Oh well you get the picture. I wish they would put a time stamp on our posts instead of just 30mis ago etc. Then we would know what the difference is without trying to figure it out. I got enough to figure out besides trying to know what time it was when you guys make a comment. For instance it's 1:50pm here right now....afternoon. What time do you guys have? Sorry, my blonde (over my gray) roots are showing. And can you still use that excuse if you are a dyed blonde? Just saying.......
I'll go now and try to look up those other sites.
Later.....
Ann
Re germs: My understanding is we tend to get sick more with cold and flu virus in winter because we are cooped up more with others and thus have more exposure to one another's 'cooties'. My kids would always get sick first week of school - you could bet on it - home with me all summer and then bam - into close quarters with all those unclean hands and snotty noses.
Extremes of hot and cold and sudden changes do effect health (in some people) along with changes in relative humidity. The most common cold-causing viruses survive better when humidity is low and thats usually in the colder months of the year. Cold weather also may make the nasal passages drier and more vulnerable to viral infection.
When my girls were babies, and when Mom was with me - no one held or touched them if they were not feeling well, and NEVER without washing their hands first. (I shudder every time I see a newborn at store with Mommy).
I kept wipes in my purse when I took Mom out, and used them frequently. Never liked or used the anti-bacterial stuff unless it was all I had - my reading says it does more harm than good. Knocking on wood here but I seldom get a cold - and have only had the flu twice. (Mom seldom had a cold her entire life and never the flu that i know of. Never was in the hospital for illness either). I do get allergic sniffing and sneezing! Seems more in the past few yrs than I ever had.
Diane I am happy for James but shoot, your mother falls. Can't you have a moment of peace, girl?
I'm tired and I think I am going to sleep. I have no urgent works to do, so... Good night.
I'm Free
Don't greive for me, for now I'm free
I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took His hand when I heard Him call
I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day
To laugh, to love, to work or play
Tasks left undone must stay that way
I've found that peace at the close of day.
If my parting has left a void
Then fill it with remembered joy.
A freindship shared, a laugh, a kiss.
Ah, yes, these things I too will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow
I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My life has been full, I savored much,
Good freinds, good times, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all to brief
Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me;
God wanted me now; He set me free.
LovCuz
ps I hope this will help those who have lost a love one hugs again
Cuz
Be not burdened with times of sorrow wish for the sunshine tomorrow.
luv ya all Cuz
i was so weak all day today , slept most of the day too . got it in my neck also . just dont feel good . am hoping tmr brings me good days ,
pa is doing ok , same ole crap ,
has anyone gotten a email from agincare wanting our home address ? thought they do not ask for those ? may send us a speical holiday gift , is that for real ?
am lit errie about that .
you all have a goodnight sleep and i ll try to be happy go tmr .
maybe that fly did piss n shit in my coffee ? makin me sick , barf barf .
love you all ... xoxo
And yes I think we all got that email. Just telling me I'll get a surprise in the mail doesn't cut it. I get a surprise every time I pull my light bill out of the mailbox. Surprise doesn't necessarily mean good. I don't trust it myself. Unless they explain what it's all about, I'm not giving out my address.
Cuz...that poem was lovely. But with your sweet spirit, I do believe you could have written it.
Hope all caregivers have a peaceful day today.
Love and Hugs to you all.
Ann
Hey, there must be something wring with me cause I replied with my address and said Thank You. Haha! I think the best of people's intentions. Doesn't mean I have never been surprised-- you know. I think people care like I do, that they are sincere, honest, then whammo, and I am shocked, can believe it, try to rationalize it in my mind. Haha--Suckerrrrr!!!
Linda, take care of yourself. As Austin said, after the holidays and the big letdown is sick time. Funny how we all seem to be having an extended letdown and it lasts all year. Keep airborne handy, green tea, echinacea, lemons, and some good dark chocolate. Did y'all chat? Been going to bed super early and sleeping, going to get coffee now and wake up. Love you bunches. C xoxo
Mother was laid to rest yesterday... The funeral home called and said there was a possibility that they could not bury her because of the tornado's and high winds that were hitting us here in Montgomery. I told them we would continue then asked all the family and extended family to join in a prayer to ask for sunshine and calm winds. When we got to the funeral home within fifteen minutes people were coming in and telling everyone to come outside to see the miracle... The clouds were departing and the sun was shinning!!! Yes, there is a God. Love to you all and may a quiet peace be upon you all today. Much love, BJ
Linda: take care of yourself first....or we'll come over with big vats of chicken soup
Christeeenah: voted against the flu shot this year...feels like playing the lottery
Lilli
i had a whole glass full of coins and was sorting out dimes nickles pennies and quaters , i think it messed up my neck , bendin my neck down too much and lookin down to see if that pennie is real . with onecent on the back of it and squink my eyes to see the year on it , ahh cant see ! need new glasses , then i did a yoga strech out my body and man it all popped out like crazy ohhh yeah baby . then sis said u better stop that u ll be so sore tmr , well she was right lol .
brought me down big time ..
flu shot ! i love my flu shot , without it i be going out with both ends , barfin and crappin at the same time . ohh no way oh say so , gotta have my flu shot ... tummy virus kills me . i know some cant have it cuz it makes em sick . then they get sicker without it . damn if u damn if u dont ....
stillstanding - i am so happy that the prayers cleared up into a purtty day for the funeral service and shes laid to rest on a sunny day . isnt that great . hope each day you get stronger and happier knowing mom is in the most beautiful place and is not suffering any more . big hugs to you dear ...
pa seems to be perking up again . his sack is so red and raw from pee and crap on it . what is the best cure for it ? dont tell me apple cider vingear , god that would just burn him ! whoa !!!
christina - try chewin some gum , maybe that ll help move ur ears around , i have that tmj whatever its called , i have to chew gum to knock off that naggin ear ache , sometime a q-tip dip in achahol (sp) and just rub em in ur ear canal calms the pains .
anybody ready to be a slavery in the kitchen for thanksgiving ? man i wish i have a teamworker here with me and we d get dinner served in no time . i miss my sis in law . we re great teamworker . we cleaned out pa s bdrm and fal lala we were done ! she wash my dishes and i dried em and poof its all done . i told her this morning to get back over here ! lol . she lives about 1 and half hr drive , wish we didnt live too far away from eachother . sniffff .
alrighty i best catch up on my laundry , you all have a happy day and meow alot too . xoxox
and how are you doing ? worried about mom and worried about ur man . time for a margaritta , happy that he is better .
its pretty scary i know , i have been on that route too many times with my hubby . i always tell the lord that he can not have him cuz he s mine ! :-)
xoxo
It is amazing how a regeneration occurs when we allow the positive to rule our situations. We just need to step back and know we cannot control everything. Have a good day, everyone. Going for a walk in 57 degrees, blue sky, no clouds. Birdies chirping. bbl. Hugs, Christina xo
So glad the sun shone and the wind stilled for your Moms funeral. Had you heavy on my mind when I saw the storms marching through. Daughter down near Auburn had enough standing water in he back yard to open a shipyard she reports.
Today is the 2 month anniversary of Mom's death. Seems a long time ago already in many ways. Its like you're running a race at breakneck speed and you can't possibly stop for anything and then you round a corner and bam - you slap the finish line - and too suddenly its all over. And all you can do is walk it off, and wait to catch your breath again . . .
I couldn't sleep at all last night - seriously. I read til 2am and was still awake at 5am and can't imagine what caused it. Still I did sleep from 5ish til 9ish - and in the interim last night worked on the family tree and caught up with correspondence.
I am glad we have a chat room - but can't seem to catch anyone in it. I've been checking in around 10pm east coast time.
Love you guys
Christina, ah a walk sounds wonderful to me right now but it's almost 90 outside and very humid so that's out. I want last weeks weather back dammit!
Linda, I'm glad your better but keep doing those stretches everyday because they really do help with muscle aches. I used to do Sports Massage Therapy for many years so I know the muscles and what is good for them. Is your Pa scratching and itchy? I don't know what to put on it but if he is itchy and scratching he might have a yeast infection. That is what happened to my Dad when he wasn't cleaning himself good enough. The Doctor prescribed a cream for it. You might want to try to let him air out during the day when he is awake and can tell you he needs to urinate. Poor guy, your Pa looks like such a sweetheart. I hope you are able to get him fixed up. Tell me if he is itching and I will go do some research for you on home remedy's. I have an excellent site for all good information but we can't post links here.
Kimmy, Jen, Rossella, RIP, Miz, AnnT, Carolyn, Lilli, Diane, Austin, Kuli and Cristina hugs to all you ladies. You to Ted and Cuz.
StillStanding, I loved hearing about your experience. It really shows how powerful prayers are when we all join together. I really believe in the power of prayer and know that when we all pray for each other here it really does have a comforting affect on us. Thanks for sharing your experience. I pray for you to be comforted and have peace.
Cuz, thanks for sharing the poem, it's wonderful. Keep a copy of it in your pocket to help you get through this week. You and your family have my prayers. Tell Bobbie she is still in my prayers as well.
Sending my love to all of you,
Cricket
Mom running an errand and ocd like she is going into battle. she is getting really vague and forgetful. God please I can't take anymore I will bail....
Hi to everyone and hope the weekend goes well for all. Am sharing out the sunshine here if anyone has a cloudy day there....
Mom has gained weight so I guess she's eating ok. I did change her schedule tho. We eat dinner at 4pm now cause she wants to go to bed as soon as it gets dark. In spite of the weight gain and good health as far as we know, she's weaker. I don't understand it. She can barely walk sometimes and looks spacy a lot. She's not dehydrated and I don't think she has a UTI. She's on Macrodantin a low dose antibiotic for the utis. When nurse is here she perks up so nurse doesn't see it. I took her for a ride today while the sun was out and it was warm. She didn't enjoy it at all. Just wanted to go home and lie down. She's sleeping more too. I'm wondering if the antidepressant has stopped working for her. Everything else is good. Her bp is better than mine and oxygenation is 98%. I don't know.....
BJ, I'm glad the weather straightened up for the funeral. Funerals are hard enough without dismal weather adding to it.
Hope you all have a pleasant evening.
Love ya!
Ann
Any chatters?
Envious of your weather, Chirp. 37F & raining here.
Deefer reported the NASA diapers are keeping mom dry overnight! Less laundry. Deef ~ don't wear yourself out. We miss you! .... huh, Jen?