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stuffy nose yep me t oo christina . blew em all snott out , hack hack . can i have some of ur nasonex plz . ? must been going around , funny how ure a so many thousands of miles away from me and we got em stuffy nose , nyquil may do me good ? books mmm couldnt read books , my eyes wanders off too much , dean knootze , gawd i used to read his books many years ago , till i started workin 3rd shift couldnt read at all and to this day i still cant read . i miss reading , waaaaaaa . am going to try to sign up for chatt room . seems like i am on the go , be here then im gone , i would love to hang out with ya all . will try if i have the time . whats for supper ? i have no clue , damn it ! wish i have a nanny maid here to cook for me . christina can u come over and cook for me ? :-) . im hungry .... meow at ya all later , think my daughter is comin over tnite to do her laundry , so wil see what i ll be up to . u all have a happy friday evening , flex - i was thinking , are u takin care of ur huney bun also ? ure gonna wear urself out ! mom and boyfriend oh my goodness , well i did it when hubby had open heart and i took care of dad and hubby , keeps ya hopping like a bunny rabbit ..... boy oh boy .. im with ya girl .... now whats for supper ????
I joined a book club and was interduced to some great writers that I would not have read on my own then get others by the same author on my own. Elizebeth Berg I think is great. Our last book was Tuesday with Morrie which I thought was excellent and now am readingA case of need by Michael Cricgton he wrote Jurassic Park -he has since died. Our senior center has loads of books from people downsizing so I always have loads of books at home waiting for me to read. We are having colder weather here lately.
So comforting to see you Bobbie. Sitting here with Mother, nothing makes sense. She is intense, nervous, but everything is jumbled. Once in a while she says oh oh, I love you. Today she said she felt so lucky. If only, I wish I could understand what she means.it's killing me
Hi Everyone. For those of you not on Facebook we have an additional kitty on a temporary basis. He was on our porch last night when I went out to smoke. Has a collar but no chip and is not neutered. I have put an ad on Craigslist and the local paper. He is in our basement because the other two cats are freaked out by him. He is so so loving and sweet and meows and meows. Our kitties are now locked out of their basement. Needless to say I didn't really sleep well last night but you all know what that is like. :) I so hope someone reads the paper tomorrow morning and calls us. He is totally black so we are going to have anyone that calls describe his collar cause some bad people do bad stuff to black cats. He was very hungry when we found him but looks well care for. Just thought I would update ya all. Wish us luck. :) I feel like this is so trivial compared to what all of you are going through but I just wanted to tell yas. Love Yous!!
Bobbie, great to see you! Christina I can't wait to try the recipe of "my" penne. Before, you have to post it, yes. Ann, I am in love with Atticus Finch. You are right, that is a beautiful book. And I loved the movie too. It's one of the few cases where I like the book and the movie, too. Miz, if you decide to keep the kitten, you will need just a little bit of patience to "introduce" him to Sassy and Sandy. And of course you will have to neutralize him otherwise they will always be scared.
Wow Bobbie, you read all the posts?!? that must have taken you forever!! It's good to hear from you :) Christina, I know what your Mom meant when she said she was so lucky.. she meant because she had you there with her :P Miz, I think that its wonderful to see the love in all things small and great. More people should understand the significances of the love between people and pets. I hope that no matter how overwhelming life's experiences are that we never belittle the importance of all life. I hope if the owner is good that they find the kitten, they will be so grateful to you. If not the owner lets hope someone good will want him. I'm to tired tonight to check out the chat room. Good night all, love you. Cricket
Hey, thanks Cricket. I can figure out some things she is trying to say, but I do better with objective situations; those I am connected with in mind and purpose. Oh Miz, I would love an affectionate little black kitten to make Sanura jealous, or maybe bring out her maternal instinct. Haha. Two is enough, one is enough for me. Hubby whines about shedding. Ho hum. NO one sheds more than he. He he LindaHeart, I am not doing a lot of reading these days, but I keep those books nearby. I'm with ya, babe, in the "focus department". I think Miz agrees. I can read the Bible for inspiration any time, a verse here and there-- a word to inspire. That 's what it's there for. To sit for 2 hours, reading for enjoyment? Not there yet. Five years ago I was in school reading and writing all hours. B C. I'll get back to it. Ok. Tonight, Penne Rosella becomes a reality. Got to get on my laptop for that-- the printed "e" is worn out. Too many "heehee"s. Hoho. Night Night, All. Xoxo
JEWISH DIVORCE.... A Jewish daughter says to her mother, "I'm divorcing Irv." All he Wants is sex, sex and more sex. My vagina is now the size of a 50-cent piece When it used to be the size of a nickel." Her mother says, "You're married to a multi-millionaire businessman, You live in an 8 Bedroom mansion You drive a $250,000 Ferrari, You get $2,000 a week allowance, You take 6 vacations a year and You want to throw all that away... Over 45 cents?" Now that's a Jewish mother!!!
Better than a Flu Shot! Miss Beatrice,The church organist,Was in her eightiesAnd had never been married. She was admired for her sweetness and kindness to all.One afternoon the pastorcame to call on her and she showed him into her quaintsitting room.She invited him to have aseat while she prepared tea...As he sat facing her old Hammond organ,the youngminister noticed a cut glass bowl Sitting on top of it.The bowl was filled with water,and in the water floated. of allthings,a condom!
When she returnedWith tea and scones,theybegan to chat. The pastortried to stifle his curiosityAbout the bowl of water and its strange floater, but soon it got the better of him and he could no longer resist.'Miss Beatrice', he said,'I wonder if you would tell me about this?Pointing to the bowl.'Oh, yes,' she replied, 'Isn't it wonderful? I was walkingthrough the park a fewmonths ago and I foundthis little package on the ground.The directions saidTo place it on the organ,Keep it wet and that it would prevent the spread of disease. Do you know I haven't had the flu all winter.
A beautiful Saturday in Maryland with highs expected near 60 - so off and out with me. The long dark winter approaches so need to grab that sunlight as we can.
Hope we can all catch up - maybe even chat - tonight? Its good to have people to tell your troubles to. Love you guys!
Your stories are way funnier than mine. My husband has started biting on those little sponge things you use to clean his mouth. We get into a tug of war, until I start laughing, then he will laugh, and I can get it out of his mouth. Thank you, Mariesmom, for telling me about this site.
Good Morning my Darling Friends:) Welcome, meanwhile. May I refer to you as "back at the ranch"? No, that it a bit much. I shall call you MW, which are the same initials as my hubby and daughter. Happy Saturday:) I have posted Penne Rosella. It is recipe #22--isn't that good to know? When we find a recipe, we can add the number of it next to the name, and find it easier. I think I'll post my garlic toast next. It is better than most restaurants, maybe because I use half butter, half olive oil. Yes, it shall be recipe #23. Large raindrops coming down, Polka dot sidewalk. We have a soccer game to go to at 9 for the little guy, but they may cancel. He is only 4. haha. My daughter is getting engaged in January to a great guy who has a 4 year old. It is a secret, however, so don't tell her. He's taking her to Vegas to Brad Paisley concert and propose. I think we are going to be there--but I prefer to see Sting or Tony Bennet. Even Tom Jones, as I like him better "the second time around". I'm not a country girl, although most of you know that my husband is an ex-Bull Rider. YEEHAW!!! and our daughter is very much like her Dad--country-leaning, wholesome, loving. We are excited. Maybe he will start paying her auto insurance and extra allowance when she asks. hahaha. I'm serious! Well, gotta go. They are not canceling the soccer game. Gonna toughen those little guy up. That's what I like to see. No sissy soccer players. I'd like to find a team for "older women". I love to fight for the ball. Talk to y'all later. LOVE YOUXOXOXO
I would like to tell you a little about my husband. He decided last June that he didn't want anymore tests or treatments, and started planning a party. We ordered a keg of beer, and half dozen pizzas, a friend brought barbeque goat. He told people it was Christmas party (in July). So one of our good friends showed up in a Santa suit, with cowboy boots, and western hat (we live in Texas), sang El Rancho Grande in really bad spanish. My husband told me this was what he wanted instead of a funeral service. He really enjoyed the party.
good afternoon you all . meanwhile- welcome ... christmas in july sounds wonderful ! i love parties and watch everybody havin a good time . those are the best ... helped my hubby splittin wood , got 2 ricks out of em and decided we have done enuff . my neck is stiff and i just feel so worn out . got meatloaf made and its now bakin in the oven . dad s begin so good . stayed in his bed all day while i help hubby split wood . pa is perkin up and lookin better everyday . he ate his bfast in the kitchen and then said he wanted to go back to bed after he ate . he slept and slept . i think he was awake allnight watching tv , in daze i bet . cloudy and very cool outside , looks like a good day to nap but nope cant do that . dont want to burn my meatloaf . maybe ill nap after supper , where is kim ? am worried about her . hope shes ok . maybe i shall pray for her . bugs the crap out of me not knowin if shes ok or what ... :( love you all .. xoxo
Yes, I am worried about Kimbo, too. Been thinking of her non-stop the last 3 days. Maybe school activities with her daughter? I am missing everyone today. I am cleaning my stone kitchen floor, so no mop and go. Have to seal it, too. Not too much to say--very cold and windy, raining off and on today, Posted a couple of recipes. Hmmm, Meatloaf, LindaHeart. Maybe I'll post my recipe for Meatloaf and Swedish meatballs. I am bored, looking for something to do. Are you going to have mashed potatoes with the meatloaf? We're having salad tonight, with GARLIC TOAST, recipe # 23. I quit making it for hubby because neither of us were losing weight, but we're not losing no matter what we do, so I'm making it tonight. Neener. MW: I like the bumper sticker that says: "Don't Mess With TEXAS" WhooHoo!!! Love you, Girlfriends, and Cuz:D Hope all are having a peaceful day. Christina xo
Thought I would let you know that the uncle of mine and bobbie's passed away this morning. He had a major stroke and the doctors took him off the life support because there was know brain activity. It was a good thing cause I won't want to be hooked up to all that stuff iif it wouldn't help. So that makes three in one week. Hopefully thats the end of this for awhile. luvCuz
Thanks everyone, this has been so much help, in keeping my sanity right now. My husband keeps trying to get up, he is such a fighter. I have him on a mattress on the floor, in the kitchen. It has been the only way I can keep him from falling this last week. The hospice nurse sort of did a double take when she saw it. I told her, he is a Marine, she understood. He has a bumber sticker on his truck that says "When it absolutely, positively must be destroyed overnight- Marines" Cuz, I can't imagine how hard your last week has been. I agree with the no life support in that situation. I wouldn't want it either, and my husband didn't want any. Darn, what do you say to people when they lose someone close?
Christina: thanks for posting the recipes...nyom, nyom, nyom...."garlic on french bread, and chicken with penne...these are a few of my fav-or-ite things"
Meanwhile: Welcome....boy have you found your way to a great group... So sorry about the hub, (like his bumper sticker though...being a Marine will help, I'm sure) Had so many elder relatives that have passed...the one thing that really helped them and made me feel like I was doing something to ease their passage was to surround them with things they liked. Think of all the senses: nice music, colorful comforters and soft blankets, scents (candles, diffusers, lavendar, natural smells), and any special foods that they can tolerate. So sorry that you and your family are going through this trying time. So many folks here with good advice...come back.
Cuz: So sorry for your family...same happened to us a few years ago...seemed like it would never end...didn't want to answer the phone.
Linda: feeling better, hon? Meowing yet?
MsM, Miz, annt, Kim (where fort art thou?), Bobbie, if you are peering in, take care cap'n, Rosella, Rip, and all....how's your evening?
Cuz - my thoughts are with you and yours. This has been an incredibly hard week for your family
meanwhile - I'm so glad you joined us - I had a feeling you would fit right in! Now thats my kind of caregiving - doing what you need to do to make life easier for yourself and protect the ones you love! Pull him right into the kitchen! I would love someone to do that for me.
We say a lot of different things here in an effort to comfort one another at a time of loss. The religous folks seem to have it easier with comforting words. I'm not at all religous so I tend to stammer around - but it doesn't matter - we grieve together, we do our best to comfort one another. I'm a firm believer in simply showing up being half the battle. And we show up for each other!
Does someone have Kims email or phone number?
Linda I thought of you today when we were out in the mountain country looking for the graves to photograph. There was a stack of cut wood as tall and half as wide as a house way up on yonder hillside!
We made a lot of folks happy today for sure. Photographed and posted 16 gravesites for families far away. I truly love doing this as it brings together two of my favorite things. History - the old churches and inscriptions and locales - and loving families who care about the people that passed before them.
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books mmm couldnt read books , my eyes wanders off too much , dean knootze , gawd i used to read his books many years ago , till i started workin 3rd shift couldnt read at all and to this day i still cant read . i miss reading , waaaaaaa .
am going to try to sign up for chatt room . seems like i am on the go , be here then im gone , i would love to hang out with ya all . will try if i have the time .
whats for supper ? i have no clue , damn it !
wish i have a nanny maid here to cook for me . christina can u come over and cook for me ? :-) . im hungry ....
meow at ya all later , think my daughter is comin over tnite to do her laundry , so wil see what i ll be up to .
u all have a happy friday evening ,
flex - i was thinking , are u takin care of ur huney bun also ? ure gonna wear urself out ! mom and boyfriend oh my goodness , well i did it when hubby had open heart and i took care of dad and hubby , keeps ya hopping like a bunny rabbit .....
boy oh boy .. im with ya girl ....
now whats for supper ????
miz
Christina I can't wait to try the recipe of "my" penne. Before, you have to post it, yes.
Ann, I am in love with Atticus Finch. You are right, that is a beautiful book. And I loved the movie too. It's one of the few cases where I like the book and the movie, too.
Miz, if you decide to keep the kitten, you will need just a little bit of patience to "introduce" him to Sassy and Sandy. And of course you will have to neutralize him otherwise they will always be scared.
Christina, I know what your Mom meant when she said she was so lucky.. she meant because she had you there with her :P
Miz, I think that its wonderful to see the love in all things small and great. More people should understand the significances of the love between people and pets. I hope that no matter how overwhelming life's experiences are that we never belittle the importance of all life. I hope if the owner is good that they find the kitten, they will be so grateful to you. If not the owner lets hope someone good will want him.
I'm to tired tonight to check out the chat room. Good night all, love you. Cricket
Oh Miz, I would love an affectionate little black kitten to make Sanura jealous, or maybe bring out her maternal instinct. Haha. Two is enough, one is enough for me. Hubby whines about shedding. Ho hum. NO one sheds more than he. He he
LindaHeart, I am not doing a lot of reading these days, but I keep those books nearby. I'm with ya, babe, in the "focus department". I think Miz agrees. I can read the Bible for inspiration any time, a verse here and there-- a word to inspire. That 's what it's there for. To sit for 2 hours, reading for enjoyment? Not there yet. Five years ago I was in school reading and writing all hours. B C. I'll get back to it.
Ok. Tonight, Penne Rosella becomes a reality. Got to get on my laptop for that-- the printed "e" is worn out. Too many "heehee"s. Hoho. Night Night, All. Xoxo
A Jewish daughter says to her mother, "I'm divorcing Irv."
All he Wants is sex, sex and more sex.
My vagina is now the size of a 50-cent piece
When it used to be the size of a nickel."
Her mother says,
"You're married to a multi-millionaire businessman,
You live in an 8 Bedroom mansion
You drive a $250,000 Ferrari,
You get $2,000 a week allowance,
You take 6 vacations a year and
You want to throw all that away...
Over 45 cents?"
Now that's a Jewish mother!!!
Shot!
Miss Beatrice,The church organist,Was in her eightiesAnd had never been married. She was admired for her
sweetness and kindness to all.One afternoon the pastorcame to call on her and she showed him into her quaintsitting room.She invited him to have aseat while she prepared tea...As he sat facing her old Hammond organ,the youngminister noticed a cut glass
bowl Sitting on top of it.The bowl was filled with water,and in the water floated. of allthings,a condom!
When she returnedWith tea and scones,theybegan to chat. The pastortried to stifle his curiosityAbout the bowl of water and its
strange floater, but soon it got the better of him and he could no longer resist.'Miss Beatrice', he said,'I wonder if you would tell me about this?Pointing to the bowl.'Oh, yes,' she replied, 'Isn't it
wonderful? I was walkingthrough the park a fewmonths ago and I foundthis little package on the
ground.The directions saidTo place it on the organ,Keep it wet and that it would prevent the spread of disease.
Do you know I haven't had the flu all winter.
Love and Hugs to you all.
Ann
Hope we can all catch up - maybe even chat - tonight? Its good to have people to tell your troubles to. Love you guys!
I have posted Penne Rosella. It is recipe #22--isn't that good to know? When we find a recipe, we can add the number of it next to the name, and find it easier.
I think I'll post my garlic toast next. It is better than most restaurants, maybe because I use half butter, half olive oil. Yes, it shall be recipe #23.
Large raindrops coming down, Polka dot sidewalk. We have a soccer game to go to at 9 for the little guy, but they may cancel. He is only 4. haha. My daughter is getting engaged in January to a great guy who has a 4 year old. It is a secret, however, so don't tell her. He's taking her to Vegas to Brad Paisley concert and propose. I think we are going to be there--but I prefer to see Sting or Tony Bennet. Even Tom Jones, as I like him better "the second time around". I'm not a country girl, although most of you know that my husband is an ex-Bull Rider. YEEHAW!!!
and our daughter is very much like her Dad--country-leaning, wholesome, loving.
We are excited. Maybe he will start paying her auto insurance and extra allowance when she asks. hahaha. I'm serious!
Well, gotta go. They are not canceling the soccer game. Gonna toughen those little guy up. That's what I like to see. No sissy soccer players. I'd like to find a team for "older women". I love to fight for the ball. Talk to y'all later. LOVE YOUXOXOXO
meanwhile- welcome ... christmas in july sounds wonderful ! i love parties and watch everybody havin a good time . those are the best ...
helped my hubby splittin wood , got 2 ricks out of em and decided we have done enuff . my neck is stiff and i just feel so worn out . got meatloaf made and its now bakin in the oven .
dad s begin so good . stayed in his bed all day while i help hubby split wood . pa is perkin up and lookin better everyday . he ate his bfast in the kitchen and then said he wanted to go back to bed after he ate . he slept and slept . i think he was awake allnight watching tv , in daze i bet .
cloudy and very cool outside , looks like a good day to nap but nope cant do that . dont want to burn my meatloaf . maybe ill nap after supper ,
where is kim ? am worried about her . hope shes ok . maybe i shall pray for her . bugs the crap out of me not knowin if shes ok or what ... :(
love you all .. xoxo
MW: I like the bumper sticker that says: "Don't Mess With TEXAS" WhooHoo!!!
Love you, Girlfriends, and Cuz:D Hope all are having a peaceful day. Christina xo
luvCuz
luvCuz
Cuz, I can't imagine how hard your last week has been. I agree with the no life support in that situation. I wouldn't want it either, and my husband didn't want any. Darn, what do you say to people when they lose someone close?
Meanwhile: Welcome....boy have you found your way to a great group...
So sorry about the hub, (like his bumper sticker though...being a Marine will help, I'm sure) Had so many elder relatives that have passed...the one thing that really helped them and made me feel like I was doing something to ease their passage was to surround them with things they liked. Think of all the senses: nice music, colorful comforters and soft blankets, scents (candles, diffusers, lavendar, natural smells), and any special foods that they can tolerate. So sorry that you and your family are going through this trying time. So many folks here with good advice...come back.
Cuz: So sorry for your family...same happened to us a few years ago...seemed like it would never end...didn't want to answer the phone.
Linda: feeling better, hon? Meowing yet?
MsM, Miz, annt, Kim (where fort art thou?), Bobbie, if you are peering in, take care cap'n, Rosella, Rip, and all....how's your evening?
Lilli
meanwhile - I'm so glad you joined us - I had a feeling you would fit right in! Now thats my kind of caregiving - doing what you need to do to make life easier for yourself and protect the ones you love! Pull him right into the kitchen! I would love someone to do that for me.
We say a lot of different things here in an effort to comfort one another at a time of loss. The religous folks seem to have it easier with comforting words. I'm not at all religous so I tend to stammer around - but it doesn't matter - we grieve together, we do our best to comfort one another. I'm a firm believer in simply showing up being half the battle. And we show up for each other!
Does someone have Kims email or phone number?
Linda I thought of you today when we were out in the mountain country looking for the graves to photograph. There was a stack of cut wood as tall and half as wide as a house way up on yonder hillside!
We made a lot of folks happy today for sure. Photographed and posted 16 gravesites for families far away. I truly love doing this as it brings together two of my favorite things. History - the old churches and inscriptions and locales - and loving families who care about the people that passed before them.