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mariesmom - happy u found her email and hope all is well at her way . thanks and let me know whats up ...aww u so sweet thinkin of me and the wood :-)
lilli - meowwwwww , heehee , im good . tired , been a long day , slavin away with firewood , and fixed big supper too , feelin like a lit nappy poo .
christina - nope no mash taters , made sweet white creamy corn , cheesey potatoes , meatloaf and spagahti with cream of broclic in it , yummie , good dinner ,
cuz and bobbie - am so sorry for ur losses , big hugs to you guys ,
gues i shall go lay down . am pooped out .
i shall come back later tnite , havent set up the chat room yet . ill try to do that tnite , dependin on whats going on here , love u all xoxo
Again, welcome MW2. We love getting new caregivers here. So much encouragement and support. I love the idea of the mattress in the kitchen. I will put my mom's bed in the sunroom when it comes to that.
Mom's still in a stall. We went out for awhile today. The weather was beautiful! Just went to the library for a few movies and to the store, but it was good getting her out. It's harder now. She's much weaker this last couple of weeks. Still eating very well tho. Still having a lot of pain, so she gets her percocet 4 times a day.
I've been in an eating mood yesterday and today. I've gotta stop this!!! I'm miserable right now. So stop with the food talk already!! jk..... Christina, you sound like you're writing for a gormet magazine.
Barb, I hope you hear from Kim. I may shoot her an email too. Hope she's just busy with good stuff, not bad stuff.
Jen, how are you? Maxine ??? Linda, you will be sore tomorrow if you chopped wood today. I hope you just watched that man of yours do it. Don't ya just love to watch a man chop wood? Something really sexy about that.
My hubby is still out of town so it's just mommy and me. He'll be home tomorrow nite. It's a little easier when he's here. At least I can go to the store without loading up the wheelchair etc. and forcing mom to go out. Even on a beautiful day like today, she didn't want to go. She's tired out I guess.
Cuz, I'm sorry for all your losses this week. So emotional for you and Bobbie. Take care of yourself, we all need you. And hug Cap'n Bobbie for me. It is definitely Boat Time!!
Love you all. Hope you have a smooth evening. MW2, kiss that sweet man for all of us.
Hi guys. Sorry I worried you! Dad has fallen twice in the past few days! He has a sprained wrist but no breaks! I've just been on pins and needles! Keep checking on him and when he gets up I hold my breathe! He is supposed to keep a little light on in the living room and he keeps turning it off! When he gets up to go anywhere can't see and falls! I turn light on and he turns it off! Back and forth all the time! I am just down and worn out! Never know what he will do next! Grateful that there was no break cause his brain can't take anymore anesthesia! He is so stubborn! Trying to keep my patience, but it is wearing thin! Keep waiting to hear a crash! After that crash, don't know what I am gonna find! He is constantly on the move especially in the evenings! Won't just sit and watch his TV! By myself with Hannah every night from six until eight in the morning! Then Ron has to sleep until two in the afternoon! Mostly just me here! Scary sometimes! Dad is now watching a war film for the moment! Probably old WWII film. Hope it will keep him occupied for a little bit!
Thanks Barb and Christina for checking up on me! Been in my shell for a while! Linda, sorry I worried you! I will check in from now! I promise!
I read through some of the posts! J54 so sorry for your loss! My deepest condolences to you! Bless your heart and know that my thoughts are with you!
Cuz, sorry for yet another loss for you and Bobbie! After my Mom died there were so many deaths we were constantly attending a funeral. It seemed non stop for a while! Many hugs to you and the family!
Diane, so happy James is getting better and stronger every day! Take care of yourself too! You are way past due for a break!
Rosella, saw fb picture of your new pup! He and Luke our big black dog look like twins! I will e-mail a pic of Luke to you! He came to us at a time we needed to be distracted too! He sure came to us at the right time!
Cricket, hope you are doing good! Is your Dad still shadowing you? Can still hear the TV and light is on! Maybe Dad will keep the light on!
We only have the floor left to lay in the apartment! We are going to lay it! That will be a comedy in the making itself! Shouldn't be too hard though! Wish us luck on that! I will feel so much better when Dad is there! Flatness everywhere and I will be able to monitor him better! Let's see, we have been working on this apartment since June and it is now November! Most people could have built an entie house by now, but it had to go as we could afford to get things done! Finally almost finished!
Damn it, he turned the TV off and the light off again too! Have to go in again and turn the light on again! Otherwise I will hear another crash!
Miz,Rip,Deef, Ann,Jen, Austin, Lilli, hello! I love all of you and promise I will check in from now on no matter what! Love and many hugs! Kimmy,Kimbo,Kim
Ann, it's the cold weather making us hungry. Really, I'm not just writing, I'm eating it, too. Tonight, just making a salad with romaine, chicken, tomatoes, avocado, little boiled new potatoes. Very light and healthy. But you know what I have been craving? Chocolate cream pie with lots of whipped cream. Maybe because I gave up alcohol my body is missing the sugar. Lock me up, now, Please. I will not make one or buy one, but maybe a little chocolate pudding with cool whip. Who needs the crust, right? Even my husband said he has no energy today. No, it would not be sexy to watch him chop wood. You sure have a good libido, Ann. LindaHeart, soak in the tub, take an advil and nighty night. You will feel mahvelous in the morning. Cuz, more condolences to you and yours. The say that souls pass in 3s. Now get ready for some new babies in the family. That always happens in our family. Something positive and joyful should come from loss and pain. I wish that for you all. Well, whoever is here, we keep the crew together, batten down the hatches, and keep watch until all the crew is back with us. That's what we do, when one or more are missing, and until al hands are on deck. Love you all, Peace. xo
Kim, So good to hear from you. I know what you mean about the falls. Mom still gets up and tries to walk on her own and I'm constantly running over to catch her before she falls. If I'm in the room I have to get up every time she does and that's a lot! She still thinks she has to go pee every half hour. I think it's just some place to go. It doesn't matter what I'm in the middle of I have to stop and go walk with her. This week I'm practically holding her up cause she's so weak. If it keeps going like this she'll be back in the wheelchair soon. We have a construction site at our house too. David started the front deck and ramp last Feb and it still is not finished so don't feel too bad. Money and time...and his depression. It will get done when it gets done I guess. Jen, sorry about the poop pee patch. Yes, life goes on....and on....and on...... Nite yall. Again.
Cuz, what a week you're having! We are here for you. Sending prayers your way.
MW, welcome. I'm glad to meet you. The mattress in the kitchen? We all do what we have to do to get the job done. Your Husband sounds like a sweetheart.
Christina, the recipes sound wonderful! You can definitely be the Crews Chef! One of these days when I allow myself to splurge on Pasta and Bread I will make those recipes. For the time being my splurges are very small. I have a ways to go and it's not just a few pounds like most, lol If I don't crack the whip on myself no one will. Keep posting those recipes though you have great ones!
Everyone get some good sleep tonight. Love you all. Chirp! Cricket
Kim can you put a small lamp up high in the room - perhaps above a bookshelf?
I explained to my children when they were young that if no one ever died, there would not be room for new people to come into the world. People like them. This simple explanation worked for them - and it always worked for me too.
I'm geting to bed early for a change. Hope you guys pass a peaceful, uneventful night.
Been reading everyones posts. Going to try and get to bed, but just leaving long enough to grab a shower got my husband all upset. He is getting more and more confused, but calms down when I talk to him. May be a long night. His bed is actually between the kitchen and dining room. Kitchen ,dining room and living room are all open to each other, and I sleep in a bedroom off the living room, so he is just a few feet away. It is just the 2 of us, so that makes it easier to move stuff around. I guess we were lucky, in that he went from getting around without help, to bed ridden in 1 day. Of course, part of why I put the mattress on the floor, was because he could get up enough to fall out of bed, but was not strong enough to get up off the floor. Don't know how you manage such constant attention. Take care, and good night.
Meanwhile2 welcome aboard you are and will meet the greatest people here I have been here for years about 1 yr before the husband died and the 2 and 1/2 since-I could not leave my friends here who all saved my sanity during the last year of caregiving we laugh we cry seldom any more get angery with each other. I think in Tuesdays with Morrie they had a party before he passed I read so many books it might have been from another-I think it is a great idea if you know ahead of time. Around here more often creamations are done and memorial services are held later that is what I did we had just talked about that about 2 weeks prior to his passing because I was starting the medicaide paperwork and we agreed on doing that - in NY you need a health directive where you put down your wishes for end of life-when we knew there was no hope of recovery we discontinued life support it was a comfort to know that is what he wanted. Cuz I am so sorry the the loss of your and Bobbie's uncle. Kim good to have you back-you know this family worries about it's members. I hope everyone has a better day today and your burdens are lighter. Cap'n take care if you are reading this.
It's pouring outside here in South Florida, if were lucky it will cool things off a bit.
How is everyone doing today? All is quiet in my house and I'm enjoying it. I'm thinking about everyone here. Since it's Sunday I will try to log into chat a few times throughout the day if anyone wants to chat. It's hard to get motivated to do much when the weather is like this.
AnnT, How are you and how is your Mom today? Diane, what are you up to? Lilli, anything going on with you? Kimmy, is your Dad any better today? What do you think about getting a light that is motion detected? Linda, thanks for the hug yesterday. How's your Muscles today? You know it's way better to be sore from using those muscles than it is to be sore from mega STRESS. Jen, sorry about the poop :( You are an inspiration to us all, and I really mean that! Cuz, are you getting a little rest today? I sure hope so. Barb, I really like touring cemetery stones to.. people put the most incredible things on them. Once we read one and it said "Everyone kiss my ass" haha He didn't have any anger issues! MW, I hope you got some sleep last night. I'm glad you're here with us. Austin, I'm so glad you stayed here! RIP, I love the pictures on your FB page! Christina, What's for breakfast?
Just got time for a quick good morning to you all. I got a conference call at 10am that's in 5 mins. Most of you know I'm a JW and we have our meetings on Sunday and Tuesday. Since I'm home bound with mama, I listen on the phone. No door to door waking up my neighbors on Saturday mornings for me for a while.Ha!
Love you all. I went to chat site a couple of time last nite but no one was home. I think we kept missing each other. My son and dil are coming over tonight for a glass of wine or 3 tonight. Tomorrow I will have 3 of my 8 yr old grandsons here. Can you say "Granny's crazy?".....
Thank you so much for all the hugs. We had a quiet night after all, hope everyone else did as well. Just finished giving hubby a morning sponge bath. Was the first time the depends and the hospital pad managed to catch everything. Usually have to change all the sheets, and blanket. He doesn't like that hospital pad, manages to pull it out from under his rear and throw it across the room. This morning he managed to bite the sponge mouth cleaner off the stick. I was afraid he would choke on it. Took forever to get him to spit it back out. We are listening to Front porch fellowship, on the radio. My husband always liked country and blue grass music. We have a great friend, that has been here helping me everyday last week. He is a fellow Marine, call him Indio. Indio stays with Sam while I go to work (just half days now). I told Indio last Friday to go do something else this weekend, and relax. He called last night to check, said he felt guilty for not coming over, and he is coming today no mattter what. Bless his heart. I don't know what I would do without friends like Indio. And, now all of you have welcomed me into your support group. Cricket, wish you could send some of your rain out here to West Texas. Kim, would duct tape on the light switch work? Or maybe one of those trouble lights with the clamp, put a CF, or low watt bulb that wouldn't get too hot, and you could clip on the door frame? Hope everyone has a good day.
Morning Crew, From the Galley. Cheese and onion omelets, fresh fruit: strawberries, bananas, blueberries, pear. Hubby also has an Enhlish muffin, I don't eat bread. That's what I'm fixing y'all this morning. For you vegans, here's the cheerios. Haha! Roasting a pork shoulder for dinner, everyone wants carnitas, beans and rice -cold weather carbs. Ok, that's enough. I hope everyone slept well last night, hope Ann and Diane's Moms; Linda, Cricket, Kim's Dads, Lilli and Ted's Moms, and MW's hubby are happy campers this morning, and all past caregivers are at peace knowing they gave their all for loved ones. I'm thinkng of ALL of you:) Going to see my Mom later this morning, see if there's any improvement with resuming Exelon patch. It rained here last night and looks like more. Hope you all have a great Sunday. Love, Christina xo
Hi Everyone! I was busy the past few days with the kids visiting. 2 mo. old Olivia was a joy! She is smiling now and is a happy baby. I have some pictures on FB. It was wonderful to have the 5 of them here with us.
Wow. I spent more time in the kitchen! Home made mac and cheese, a really great meat loaf, broccoli and salad on Friday. Sausage and leeks strata was a real hit on Saturday morning. They asked me to reheat the leftovers for lunch and they made wraps, too! Rib roast with Cabernet Sauvignon au jous, mashed potatoes, peas, salad and pumpkin roll for dessert last night. Can you believe the kids ate a large jar of Quesa and a bag of tortilla chips and 2 lbs of shrimp during the evening after all that dinner? I was amazed!
Nicole's BF, Dave, brought cigars for the guys and they sat around a fire last night to have some male bonding. I told Paul to be prepared before he went out with the guys. We've been anticipating Dave asking Nicole to marry him. Last night, he asked Paul if he approved!
We are thrilled. He's a great young man and they make a great couple. Dave said he thought a 2013 wedding would be planned. It was hard not to say anything to Nicole last night, but we managed.
They all left for home about an hour ago. I am sad they are gone, but frankly, I'm exhausted! So is Paul...In fact, he's asleep on the sofa right now. lol
Mom, oh my. I need to get on the phone with her early this afternoon. We spoke briefly last night and she is really confused about something but insisted it could wait until I had "more time". Heaven help me.
I read through some of the posts and I'm so pleased to have all of you in my life. I'll catch up on all of them as time (and my energy) permits. In the meantime, know that I am thinking of you and wishing you peaceful moments and some "you" time today. MW, you are a real inspiration here. Thanks, Mariesmom, for bringing your friend to us. Cricket, Christina, Jam, Ro, Joan, Cuz, Linda, and everyone else feel the hugs across the miles.
Cg, Let's post our meatloaf recipes on Favs. Mine has lots of veggies in it. I'll go there and finish talking about food. That is why it's there. I'll give you a head's up on your wall about it. Hugs, Christina
Congrats to Christina and Carolyn for the new sons in law! It is funny you knew it before your daughters. Christina I will read your recipe right away - If I find the thread! Cuz sorry about this new loss in your family. It's really being a hard time for you, too. Meanwhile, you are very sweet with your husband. I am not as sweet with my mother anymore. Tonight, she opened and closed her purse 1000 times, for 2 hours, taking out what was inside and putting back inside what was outside. I was sort of mesmerized by what she did, but at a certain point I felt like putting "her" in the purse (and never open the purse again). My mother is not a Marine but she has the strength and the stamina of one. Kim, sorry for your father. I know very well the problem when they fall. I don't know if you remember that last summer I had to take my mother to the hospital before dawn, and I can't drive in the night, I don't see anything, so it was a high risk journey to the hospital. Cricket, I love the story of the man who wrote on his grave "Kiss my ass". I think I will write on mine "At last, she can sleep....."
I know it's gross, but I had to laugh at the hairbrush story. They all do things like this - maybe it will help to remember how confused and scared they are most of the time. I say this, recalling the time I accidentally used Crest toothpaste instead of Preparation H (and I'm not suffering from dementia - I think!)! I told a friend about it and she admitted brushing her teeth with Preparation H once.
Ros, type in Favorite Recipes at Search Site. Cricket was so good and Irganized to start the thread:) Chirpy hugs! Ann, I will do the meatloaf in a sec. Baking some oatmeal cookies for football watching hubby. He wants to turn the heat up. I said run up and down the stairs a couple of times to get your blood out of your butt and moving. That's ok, he works hard. I just can't sit for longer than half hour. Gotta do something. Might relax. Our neighbor is a Marine, great guy, same age as my son. He's in A right now, his wife and I hang out, go to pier one, nursery, margaritas on Taco Tuesday. I have so much respect and admiration for the Marines. We are planing a golf tournament for Feb when he comes back. WhooHoo! Semper Fi! Git er done!!
Hi Quakerite! That's funny about the prep H. I would do that too if I didn't have my glasses on. I have taken a black permanent marker and put a big S on my shampoo bottle and a C on the conditioner. I have tried so many times to wash my hair with conditioner....it doesn't work. Also if I wear my glasses when I clean house I will never finish.....see too much dirt. Everything looks cleaner without my glasses. Welcome aboard. Hope you stay around and join our merry group of stressed out caregivers.
Ahoy, ya'll. I found no one on chat last night either.
I love military men, I am from a family of them (self included) and my favorite cousin Paul was a Marine.
Oh Ann i love thinking of the big C and S bottles in your shower - I should do the same.
I am so glad ya'll are posting recipes. We get tired of he same old thing don't we?
Just back from a lovely day of cemteries, mountains and rivers. I put a handful of great pics on FB. That is a great blue heron standing in the Shanandoah River. (Had it been warmer I would have waded in and gotten an even better shot). I was only able to get 6 good family grave shots today - but 5 of those were 'forgotten' graves, not listed in the cemetery at all. But now they are and this makes me happy.
On the way home I did something I haven't done since I lived in the south - I stopped roadside and bought a pound of shrimp from a truck! They are jumbo 'North Carolina' shrimp and I have never hear of these. They are beautiful, and the woman who sold them said they'd been selling fresh never frozen seafood in the same place for 16 yrs, so I am looking forward to it. BUT I have no shrimp boil and no inclination to go after any - you gourmets have any ideas for a homemade shrimp boil? I'd like to do a shrimp cocktail, please. I'm going to clean them now.
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lilli - meowwwwww , heehee , im good . tired , been a long day , slavin away with firewood , and fixed big supper too , feelin like a lit nappy poo .
christina - nope no mash taters , made sweet white creamy corn , cheesey potatoes , meatloaf and spagahti with cream of broclic in it , yummie , good dinner ,
cuz and bobbie - am so sorry for ur losses , big hugs to you guys ,
gues i shall go lay down . am pooped out .
i shall come back later tnite , havent set up the chat room yet . ill try to do that tnite , dependin on whats going on here ,
love u all xoxo
Mom's still in a stall. We went out for awhile today. The weather was beautiful! Just went to the library for a few movies and to the store, but it was good getting her out. It's harder now. She's much weaker this last couple of weeks. Still eating very well tho. Still having a lot of pain, so she gets her percocet 4 times a day.
I've been in an eating mood yesterday and today. I've gotta stop this!!! I'm miserable right now. So stop with the food talk already!! jk..... Christina, you sound like you're writing for a gormet magazine.
Barb, I hope you hear from Kim. I may shoot her an email too. Hope she's just busy with good stuff, not bad stuff.
Jen, how are you? Maxine ??? Linda, you will be sore tomorrow if you chopped wood today. I hope you just watched that man of yours do it. Don't ya just love to watch a man chop wood? Something really sexy about that.
My hubby is still out of town so it's just mommy and me. He'll be home tomorrow nite. It's a little easier when he's here. At least I can go to the store without loading up the wheelchair etc. and forcing mom to go out. Even on a beautiful day like today, she didn't want to go. She's tired out I guess.
Cuz, I'm sorry for all your losses this week. So emotional for you and Bobbie. Take care of yourself, we all need you. And hug Cap'n Bobbie for me. It is definitely Boat Time!!
Love you all. Hope you have a smooth evening. MW2, kiss that sweet man for all of us.
Nite,
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Thanks Barb and Christina for checking up on me! Been in my shell for a while!
Linda, sorry I worried you! I will check in from now! I promise!
I read through some of the posts! J54 so sorry for your loss! My deepest condolences to you! Bless your heart and know that my thoughts are with you!
Cuz, sorry for yet another loss for you and Bobbie! After my Mom died there were so many deaths we were constantly attending a funeral. It seemed non stop for a while! Many hugs to you and the family!
Diane, so happy James is getting better and stronger every day! Take care of yourself too! You are way past due for a break!
Rosella, saw fb picture of your new pup! He and Luke our big black dog look like twins! I will e-mail a pic of Luke to you! He came to us at a time we needed to be distracted too! He sure came to us at the right time!
Cricket, hope you are doing good! Is your Dad still shadowing you? Can still hear the TV and light is on! Maybe Dad will keep the light on!
We only have the floor left to lay in the apartment! We are going to lay it! That will be a comedy in the making itself! Shouldn't be too hard though! Wish us luck on that! I will feel so much better when Dad is there! Flatness everywhere and I will be able to monitor him better! Let's see, we have been working on this apartment since June and it is now November! Most people could have built an entie house by now, but it had to go as we could afford to get things done! Finally almost finished!
Damn it, he turned the TV off and the light off again too! Have to go in again and turn the light on again! Otherwise I will hear another crash!
Miz,Rip,Deef, Ann,Jen, Austin, Lilli, hello! I love all of you and promise I will check in from now on no matter what! Love and many hugs! Kimmy,Kimbo,Kim
I will not make one or buy one, but maybe a little chocolate pudding with cool whip. Who needs the crust, right? Even my husband said he has no energy today. No, it would not be sexy to watch him chop wood. You sure have a good libido, Ann. LindaHeart, soak in the tub, take an advil and nighty night. You will feel mahvelous in the morning.
Cuz, more condolences to you and yours. The say that souls pass in 3s. Now get ready for some new babies in the family. That always happens in our family. Something positive and joyful should come from loss and pain. I wish that for you all.
Well, whoever is here, we keep the crew together, batten down the hatches, and keep watch until all the crew is back with us. That's what we do, when one or more are missing, and until al hands are on deck. Love you all, Peace. xo
Bobbie great to see you are here with us, know you always are in spirit!
Still alive and Grousing here...can now add poop on the floor next to the ever wet pee patch...lalalalal life goes on....
Good weekend all....
So good to hear from you. I know what you mean about the falls. Mom still gets up and tries to walk on her own and I'm constantly running over to catch her before she falls. If I'm in the room I have to get up every time she does and that's a lot! She still thinks she has to go pee every half hour. I think it's just some place to go. It doesn't matter what I'm in the middle of I have to stop and go walk with her. This week I'm practically holding her up cause she's so weak. If it keeps going like this she'll be back in the wheelchair soon.
We have a construction site at our house too. David started the front deck and ramp last Feb and it still is not finished so don't feel too bad. Money and time...and his depression. It will get done when it gets done I guess.
Jen, sorry about the poop pee patch. Yes, life goes on....and on....and on......
Nite yall. Again.
MW, welcome. I'm glad to meet you. The mattress in the kitchen? We all do what we have to do to get the job done. Your Husband sounds like a sweetheart.
Christina, the recipes sound wonderful! You can definitely be the Crews Chef! One of these days when I allow myself to splurge on Pasta and Bread I will make those recipes. For the time being my splurges are very small. I have a ways to go and it's not just a few pounds like most, lol If I don't crack the whip on myself no one will. Keep posting those recipes though you have great ones!
Everyone get some good sleep tonight. Love you all. Chirp! Cricket
I explained to my children when they were young that if no one ever died, there would not be room for new people to come into the world. People like them. This simple explanation worked for them - and it always worked for me too.
I'm geting to bed early for a change. Hope you guys pass a peaceful, uneventful night.
It's pouring outside here in South Florida, if were lucky it will cool things off a bit.
How is everyone doing today? All is quiet in my house and I'm enjoying it. I'm thinking about everyone here. Since it's Sunday I will try to log into chat a few times throughout the day if anyone wants to chat. It's hard to get motivated to do much when the weather is like this.
AnnT, How are you and how is your Mom today? Diane, what are you up to? Lilli, anything going on with you? Kimmy, is your Dad any better today? What do you think about getting a light that is motion detected? Linda, thanks for the hug yesterday. How's your Muscles today? You know it's way better to be sore from using those muscles than it is to be sore from mega STRESS. Jen, sorry about the poop :( You are an inspiration to us all, and I really mean that! Cuz, are you getting a little rest today? I sure hope so. Barb, I really like touring cemetery stones to.. people put the most incredible things on them. Once we read one and it said "Everyone kiss my ass" haha He didn't have any anger issues! MW, I hope you got some sleep last night. I'm glad you're here with us. Austin, I'm so glad you stayed here! RIP, I love the pictures on your FB page! Christina, What's for breakfast?
Chirp Chirp Cricket
Love you all. I went to chat site a couple of time last nite but no one was home. I think we kept missing each other. My son and dil are coming over tonight for a glass of wine or 3 tonight. Tomorrow I will have 3 of my 8 yr old grandsons here. Can you say "Granny's crazy?".....
TTYL
We are listening to Front porch fellowship, on the radio. My husband always liked country and blue grass music.
We have a great friend, that has been here helping me everyday last week. He is a fellow Marine, call him Indio. Indio stays with Sam while I go to work (just half days now). I told Indio last Friday to go do something else this weekend, and relax. He called last night to check, said he felt guilty for not coming over, and he is coming today no mattter what. Bless his heart. I don't know what I would do without friends like Indio. And, now all of you have welcomed me into your support group.
Cricket, wish you could send some of your rain out here to West Texas.
Kim, would duct tape on the light switch work? Or maybe one of those trouble lights with the clamp, put a CF, or low watt bulb that wouldn't get too hot, and you could clip on the door frame?
Hope everyone has a good day.
I hope everyone slept well last night, hope Ann and Diane's Moms; Linda, Cricket, Kim's Dads, Lilli and Ted's Moms, and MW's hubby are happy campers this morning, and all past caregivers are at peace knowing they gave their all for loved ones. I'm thinkng of ALL of you:) Going to see my Mom later this morning, see if there's any improvement with resuming Exelon patch. It rained here last
night and looks like more. Hope you all have a great Sunday. Love, Christina xo
WhooHoo!!!
2 mo. old Olivia was a joy! She is smiling now and is a happy baby. I have some pictures on FB. It was wonderful to have the 5 of them here with us.
Wow. I spent more time in the kitchen! Home made mac and cheese, a really great meat loaf, broccoli and salad on Friday. Sausage and leeks strata was a real hit on Saturday morning. They asked me to reheat the leftovers for lunch and they made wraps, too! Rib roast with Cabernet Sauvignon au jous, mashed potatoes, peas, salad and pumpkin roll for dessert last night. Can you believe the kids ate a large jar of Quesa and a bag of tortilla chips and 2 lbs of shrimp during the evening after all that dinner? I was amazed!
Nicole's BF, Dave, brought cigars for the guys and they sat around a fire last night to have some male bonding. I told Paul to be prepared before he went out with the guys. We've been anticipating Dave asking Nicole to marry him. Last night, he asked Paul if he approved!
We are thrilled. He's a great young man and they make a great couple. Dave said he thought a 2013 wedding would be planned. It was hard not to say anything to Nicole last night, but we managed.
They all left for home about an hour ago. I am sad they are gone, but frankly, I'm exhausted! So is Paul...In fact, he's asleep on the sofa right now. lol
Mom, oh my. I need to get on the phone with her early this afternoon. We spoke briefly last night and she is really confused about something but insisted it could wait until I had "more time". Heaven help me.
I read through some of the posts and I'm so pleased to have all of you in my life. I'll catch up on all of them as time (and my energy) permits. In the meantime, know that I am thinking of you and wishing you peaceful moments and some "you" time today.
MW, you are a real inspiration here. Thanks, Mariesmom, for bringing your friend to us.
Cricket, Christina, Jam, Ro, Joan, Cuz, Linda, and everyone else feel the hugs across the miles.
Cuz sorry about this new loss in your family. It's really being a hard time for you, too.
Meanwhile, you are very sweet with your husband. I am not as sweet with my mother anymore. Tonight, she opened and closed her purse 1000 times, for 2 hours, taking out what was inside and putting back inside what was outside. I was sort of mesmerized by what she did, but at a certain point I felt like putting "her" in the purse (and never open the purse again). My mother is not a Marine but she has the strength and the stamina of one.
Kim, sorry for your father. I know very well the problem when they fall. I don't know if you remember that last summer I had to take my mother to the hospital before dawn, and I can't drive in the night, I don't see anything, so it was a high risk journey to the hospital.
Cricket, I love the story of the man who wrote on his grave "Kiss my ass". I think I will write on mine "At last, she can sleep....."
Our neighbor is a Marine, great guy, same age as my son. He's in A right now, his wife and I hang out, go to pier one, nursery, margaritas on Taco Tuesday. I have so much respect and admiration for the Marines. We are planing a golf tournament for Feb when he comes back. WhooHoo! Semper Fi! Git er done!!
Ann
I love military men, I am from a family of them (self included) and my favorite cousin Paul was a Marine.
Oh Ann i love thinking of the big C and S bottles in your shower - I should do the same.
I am so glad ya'll are posting recipes. We get tired of he same old thing don't we?
Just back from a lovely day of cemteries, mountains and rivers. I put a handful of great pics on FB. That is a great blue heron standing in the Shanandoah River. (Had it been warmer I would have waded in and gotten an even better shot).
I was only able to get 6 good family grave shots today - but 5 of those were 'forgotten' graves, not listed in the cemetery at all. But now they are and this makes me happy.
On the way home I did something I haven't done since I lived in the south - I stopped roadside and bought a pound of shrimp from a truck! They are jumbo 'North Carolina' shrimp and I have never hear of these. They are beautiful, and the woman who sold them said they'd been selling fresh never frozen seafood in the same place for 16 yrs, so I am looking forward to it. BUT I have no shrimp boil and no inclination to go after any - you gourmets have any ideas for a homemade shrimp boil? I'd like to do a shrimp cocktail, please. I'm going to clean them now.