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The mother of a 17-year-old girl was concerned that her daughter was having sex. Worried the girl might become pregnant and adversely impact the family's status, she consulted the family doctor. The doctor told her that teenagers today were very wilful and any attempt to stop the girl would probably result in rebellion. He then told her to arrange for her daughter to be put on birth control and until then, talk to her and give her a box of condoms. Later that evening, as her daughter was preparing for a date, the mother told her about the situation and handed her a box of condoms. The girl burst out laughing and reached over to hug her mother, saying,
'Oh Mom! You don't have to worry about that! I'm dating Susan!'
TUESDAY
A man went to church one day and afterward he stopped to shake the preacher's hand. He said, 'Preacher, I'll tell you, that was a damned fine sermon. Damned good!' The preacher said, 'Thank you sir, but I'd rather you didn't use profanity.' The man said, 'I was so damned impressed with that sermon I put five thousand dollars in the offering plate!'
The preacher said, 'No shit?'
WEDNESDAY
Brenda and Steve took their six-year-old son to the doctor. With some hesitation, they explained that although their little angel appeared to be in good health, they were concerned about his rather small penis. After examining the child, the doctor confidently declared, 'Just feed him pancakes. That should solve the problem.' The next morning when the boy arrived at breakfast, there was a large stack of warm pancakes in the middle of the table. 'Gee, Mom,' he exclaimed. 'For me?'
'Just take two,' Brenda replied. 'The rest are for your father.'
THURSDAY
One night, an 87-year-old woman came home from Bingo to find her 92-year-old husband in bed with another woman.. She became violent and ended up pushing him off the balcony of their 20th floor apartment, killing him instantly. Brought before the court, on the charge of murder, she was asked if she had anything to say in her defence. 'Your Honour,' she began coolly, 'I figured that at 92, if he could screw, he could fly.'
FRIDAY
A Doctor was addressing a large audience in Tampa . 'The material we put into our stomachs is enough to have killed most of us sitting here, years ago. Red meat is awful. Soft drinks corrode your stomach lining. Chinese food is loaded with MSG. High fat diets can be disastrous, and none of us realises the long-term harm caused by the germs in our drinking water. However, there is one thing that is the most dangerous of all and we all have eaten, or will eat it. Can anyone here tell me what food it is that causes the most grief and suffering for years after eating it?' After several seconds of quiet, a 75-year-old man in the front row raised his hand, and softly said,
'Wedding Cake.'
SATURDAY
Bob, a 70-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25-year-old blonde-haired woman who knocks everyone's socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm and who hangs over Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word. His buddies at the club are all aghast. At the very first chance, they corner him and ask, 'Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?' Bob replies, 'Girlfriend? She's my wife!' They are knocked over, but continue to ask. 'So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?' 'I lied about my age', Bob replies. 'What, did you tell her you were only 50?'
Bob smiles and says, 'No, I told her I was 90.'
SUNDAY
Groups of Americans were traveling by tour bus through Holland. As they stopped at a cheese farm, a young guide led them through the process of cheese making, explaining that goat's milk was used. She showed the group a lovely hillside where many goats were grazing. 'These' she explained, 'Are the older goats put out to pasture when they no longer produce.' She then asked, 'What do you do in America with your old goats?'
A spry old gentleman answered, 'They send us on bus tours!
Coconut Oil? For diarhea? Oh no. If it is used every day then, will it cause constipation? The reason I wonder is because my mother-in-law heard that coconut oil helps alzhiemers so she wants me to cook all of her husbands food with it. Should I be warry of how much to actually use?
Hello all, just checking in to say hello. Mom and I are doing well. I've been trying to keep up with what's going on with you all. Diane, I'm so sorry you are still having trouble with the family. Sometimes you just have to give up and walk away. I've had to do that with my brother. Haven't heard from him in months and don't expect to hear from him in the near future. I think all he wants to hear is that mom is gone. Well, I got news for him. She is fine and will probably be around for quite a while. He can just get over it. MW2.....honey, you've had enough to deal with without feeling guilty about sending out cards this year. Let someone else do it or just skip it. Listen to the wise voices on this thread, they're giving you good advice. Ross....sorry about kitty and you car getting soaked. You do have very unusual accidents. Never a dull moment at your place. Try not to work so hard. I know you have to, but try to get your rest too. Hello to Cricket, SS, Christina, Austin, Rip,Ted, Cuz, Golf, Angelhair welcome and hello, Jen, Miz, Bobbie hope you are well and getting some rest, Linda and Pa, I know I'm forgetting others forgive me I really don't have a good memory. Hope y'all enjoy your holidays, stay away from the fruit cake and spend time with deserving family. I hope all your parents, grandparents etc that you're careing for are calm and let you have some peace. Diane, it's sounds like James is on the mend. I'm so happy for you. I hope the new year brings new jobs for those who need them, which is just about all of us. Take care all of you. Love and many many hugs. Ann
Its a beautiful chilly Sunday morning in SC. I cant seem to get myself moving to go to church today. Still been under the weather with IBS. Seems like the worse I feel the more mom knows how to push my buttons and get on my every nerve. We did get to the concert last night and she seemed to enjoy it. I have tickets for another today, but right now I physically don't have it in me to take her. I feel like someone is trying to rip my guts out. I'm suffering from burn-out so bad and I don't know what direction to turn for help. The minute money is mentioned the siblings turn ugly. I can't put mom in respite care, because I don't have the money myself. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall and getting nowhere. Sorry I'm being so down. It's hard to be positive when you feel like crap both physically and mentally.
I hope the bakers had good luck with their cookies and fudge. I haven't done any baking yet since I need to find something that will be ok for James to eat when the other goodies are about.
angelhair: if you go to one of the many coconut oil websites, they warn that too much coconut oil can cause diarrhea. They recommend 3 tbs. per day. I have been taking 3+ a day, and have had no side effects at all...of course, everyone is different. So, if you have a senior who has had problems with constipation, co may help. C.O. is also used to ward off the effects of PD. So I use it as a preventative measure. On the other hand, I have heard that coconut macroons are good for diarrhea...for some reason the Archway brand is the best...who knew??
PS: as with all dietary supplements, make sure that you talk with your medical professional...some foods/supplements interact with prescription medicines. Some other side effects of c.o. are drying skin (if used topically) and heart palpatations. If you try the coconut oil, start out by adding small amounts and work your way up. There is a lot of information on the internet....
Angelhair, It's best to start out with 1 Tablespoon per day of Coconut oil and gradually increase the amount to the 3 Tbs. because some people have more sensitive digestive systems than others. Coconut oil works best when it is Virgin and I personally like organic. When starting to add it to ones diet it should not be taken on an empty stomach but with food. Coconut oil is the best oil to use for stir frying because it holds it's chemical form when heated at high temperatures unlike Olive Oil. Coconut oil is also good for boosting metabolism and helping one to maintain a healthy weight because it is easily digested and gives energy like carbohydrates whereas other fats from vegetables can be stored in the body. Many people with low thyroid, IBS, Chrones find improvement when switching over to Coconut Oil. It is still good to use moderation 1-3 Tbs a day with foods. For helping with diarrhea either use 1Tbs with food or 2 Macaroon cookies a day until it stops. Make sure you are using Virgin Coconut oil for best results. Good luck. :)
Morning All, After reading posts, my concern is with Diane and your IBS. I was diagnosed with Crohn's disease in 1978, and suffered greatly physically, which effected my emotional health. It almost killed me, but didn't, so you know what Nietzsche said: it makes you stronger. Diane, please take precautions and get healthy. The feelings of desperation is your brain begging you to take care of yourself. You simply must do it. I won't tell you the awful things my sister said from the beginning of my health problems, or after had surgery in '97. Just plain cruel, as Barb said, and for some reason, we get the shit from all sides. Haha. Please make a new year resolution to maximize your health. I'm holding you to it. Try papaya for the digestive enzymes and learn to avoid foods that are allergens. Do you have sinus problems? Also watch for histamines. Bottom line: see a good gastroenterologist and have extensive tests. Your mind will keep you going while your body heals. Email me anytime if I can help you further. Love all you beautiful caregivers. Have to get busy busy today. Love, Christina xo
Great now I have the cold, this is swell and I am sure it is him between the stress of care giving and the germs he brings in we are just splattered with sick every year! he just ooozed out of his hole (what used to be my room) and said "Good Morning Jenny" real cherry like as I avoid him so much it is rare he sees me...NOW lets see if he says good morning to mom who looks after his ass and doesn't wish him dead every day.... Yesterday when mom was wiped out and got up ate I took care of fart pants early morning necessaries and for my pains I got the over the shoulder leering look when I bent over (Sideways, away from his gaze) to re-fill the pet water bowls....Lovely, you fucking old pervert when are you gonna die?! Tonight! ?That would be swell! I have three younger cousins, all better looking than me...and it is me he has this disgusting abusive "attachment" to. I remember him being touchy feely when I was little and always wanting a kiss and when I was a teen he was always going into my room looking at stuff telling me fascinating informative things like "You see that there that's how worms mate." Yes grandma was right, now I see that she was always covering me up around him if I was wearing a v neck shirt or something and she said he had dirty books in the garage..I know I cleared em out.God when does this fucking end!? Me, I am not a prude but those disgusting fucking glances and staring are just making me sick! Let that fucking cold turn into pneumonia why drag it out? Eat some oranges going back to bed! Have a good sane week everyone!
Christine, you are such an inspiration, Always helping everyone else. Diane, I think Christine is right, you have to take care of yourself first. I know it is hard when you have other people depending on you. Cuz, I love your jokes. Especially the one about old goats. Both of the milk goats are in heat this morning. Driving the buck goat crazy. He is in the buck pen, bawling, like a sick moose, sticking his tongue out, and doing other disgusting things. it always make me laugh. Don't want to breed the 2 milkers this year, so the poor fellow is out of luck. Hope everyone has a quiet Sunday. Love Shirley
Jen, When FP's looks at you like that tell him to knock it off. I can understand your wanting to avoid him.. I totally understand that. You might be surprised how much better you will feel if you just turn around one day and say something like. "Stop looking at me you freakin pervert, I'm sick of it and shouldn't have to put up with it" and then leave the room. It can be totally liberating! But save that for another day when you're not sick. On this day just nurse yourself back to health and forget about ole fart pants. Love you girl. *Hugs*
oh ps. Jen.... I have someone come to help me do the heavy duty cleaning once in awhile and I've noticed that Dad stares at her ass when she is cleaning, then one day a couple months back Dad came to me and complained that she didn't spend enough time cleaning his room good enough. I told him that because he was staring at her ass it made her feel uncomfortable so she wants to get in and out of there fast, then I looked at him and said.. Dad you know Women can feel it when a man is looking at her in a sexual way....you know that don't you? He said no I didn't and then said he felt bad if he made her feel bad.... However the next time she came to clean and needed to get behind the chair he sits in she couldn't because she needed him to move out of it but he wouldn't... So I intervened and said "Dad you need to move out of the room now so she can clean" he says okay then didn't budge, so I repeated it and he said okay again but didn't budge.. so then I said even louder. DAD! and he says leave me alone.. and I had to say NO, get up and out of that chair right NOW. And I wasn't kidding and I said I'm not going to stop until you do it. He finally did. He is a bit of a pervert to.. I guess the moral of this story is that when dealing with the perverts in this world we have to get loud and put our foot down and demand what we have to when necessary. After all you have to live in that house.
omg Shirley I don't envy you with goats to care for. When I took care of my FIL Charlie before he died...this way years ago when we were living in PA, because he was pretty confined to sitting and would sit out on the front porch a lot I went over to one of the neighbors who had 2 baby goats and picked up one to take home to entertain Charlie.. All I can say is thank GOD they agreed to take it back when Charlie died! We had a billy goat with a long beard and omg do they stink.. he would piss in his beard (hubby told me it was how they attracted females) and all I could think is that is a pretty twisted form of nature for a female to be attracted to that stench! lol I used to look out the window of the car when driving in the country and say "oh look aren't they cute" but not anymore.. now I can still imagine that horrid smell.
One of our forum members "CallMeIshmael" just lost his grandmother two weeks ago. He has been a devoted caregiver for years and such a wonderful contributor in this forum, particularly for health and nutrition issues. I hope that he will stay in the forum.
Jen, I agree with Cricket. I hate to speak up about certain things because it is so easy for me to open my big mouth, BUT, since Cricket did it first, I second the motion. What have YOU got to LOSE? Perverts do NOT deserve respect. For God's sake, Jen! Come on. Let him have it and give him the opportunity to wallow in his own disgust. Don't you know every time he says, "Morning Jenny", in his sick mocking tone, he is reveling in how it bothers you and it Increases his POWER? Bull shit! We love you and would love for you to reclaim your own power over fp:) love you. Meanwhile2, everyone here helps everyone else. Sometimes I come across kind of bossy or overbearing. Sorry. About the goats: sorry to offend all you animal lovers, but it sounds absolutely disgusting to me! haha. I have a good idea what to do with the buck, but I know when to use discretion. Hey, minor detail : Christina with an A, or just call me Chris:) Later, Gators. xoxo PS: Where is MsM? Hugs to barb, Kimbo, LindaHeart, Miz, BJ, Selfish Sibs, Diane, rip, Jen, Cuz, Captain, Kuli, Ann, angelhair, Meanwhile, Deefer, Careshare:) et al xoxo
oh better yet..... go get a stinky goat for FP, lol Now that was Christina's idea... muhahaha got you Chris! I think we are all just having silly fun at FP's expense while Jen is "hopefully" sleeping and nursing herself back to sleep.
Years ago - back when dinos roamed the earth and I was a very shapely 21, I was hired as a sherrif's deputy The day I (along with the 7 men hired) walked into the squad room to be introduced to the entire force, over a hundred men, one of them said in a booming loud voice - "If they're going to fire us if we try to f*ck her, they might as well take my badge now".
And it was just the beginning. There were no sex discrimination laws then, and I was on my own. What I learned from the experience was to ignore such behavior, but only up to a certain point.
When my FIL started up talking about 'what I would look like naked' years ago when I was briefly caretaking for him after eye surgery - there was NO hesitation on my part to put him in his place. "I have NO interest in discussing anything sexual with you, and if it happens again, I will not only tell your son, but I will hurt you." Look them in the eye when you say it. Don't back down. They have to go to sleep sometime.
My rambling point is - you have to call them out. Even if its gone on for years it is never to late to say. "No more. Don't look at me like that. Don't talk to me like that. If you do it EVER again you're going to wish you hadn't." No one - not a parent or a sibling or a spouse - has the right to do this. And if you don't stand up for yourself, who else is going to?
Its the same thing with racist remarks. It never ceases to amaze me how people 'assume' I share their prejudices because I have a southern accent. And you have to call them on it. "Why would you think its ok to use hate speech (or racial slurs) around me? Because its not."
Yak yak yak - we drove over to WV for cigarettes and then went to the grocery. Really wanted to go for BBQ at Famous Daves (yum) but figured we could get a weeks worth of groceries for what we'd spend. Remember when you could have a decent sit down lunch for $5? Those days are gone forever.
Must begin the job search again - a lovely way to spend a Sunday afternoon don't you think? Remember when you got the Sunday paper and looked for jobs and mailed in your resume and a real person got it and called you up for an interview? Those day are gone too . . .
MsM: is there still racial prejudice in the south? I have not spent much time there, and here in California I have not seen it since the 60s. I was 13 during the Watts riots. It was scary. Then we had the Rodney King debacle, but we were out of state then. It is one of those topics we can't discuss, like politics and religion. Shhhh. All I know, I have real friends from every country, every race, and they are all wonderful to me. I don't get the racial thing. But I do have a problem with low life's and braggarts. And good for nothing siblings.
Christina, Racism is alive and well in SC. It's a driving force of the Tea Party here. Coming from the islands where race doesn't matter, it is a very odd experience for me. I have some older folks that travel with specific group leaders because they don't want to sit next to a black man at a theatre. There is no changing them when they are already in their 80's. It's sad to realize it still thrives.
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That is sad, why can't everyone just be nice to each other. The color of someone's sking does not define them or make them different. Just like being of different nationalities does not make one person inferior to another. And believe me, I should know. Where I grew up I was always called dirty names just because I had a little darker skin. I wouldn't go so far as to say Racism is a driving force of the Tea Party. That's kind of stereotypical. Just because someone is a member of a group does not make that person a racist. That's like saying all men or women are idiots because a few individuals have proven themselves to be. Or a whole church is bad because a couple individuals were insensitive jerks. Personally, I am not a member of the Tea Party. As of right now I'm pretty non-affiliated, but I do know quite a few individuals who are self- proclaimed tea party members who are in no way racist. I also know quite a few democrats and republicans who aren't racist; but I also know others from all three parties who say they aren't, but can't keep from sounding like they are. Yes, Racism is alive; and it is ugly and shameful. But we can choose how we respond to it.
In my experience racism is alive and well and not only in the south. The silver lining (there is always a silver lining) is that its not as institutionalized as in the past, people are more willing to call racists out than they once were, and today a small but growing number of minorities hold power within government and business. So there is reason to hope. Even George Wallace had a change of heart.
Re Tea Party? Those I know personally are absolutely racist, and a recent study by the Univ of Minnesota says “There is consistent and strong evidence of a correlation between racial negativity and Tea Party identification. It’s a fairly strong correlation and it’s been demonstrated across a number of independent surveys”.
Before I start an up roar I do need to clarify my comment about the Tea Party. When I said racism was a driving force behind the Tea Party, I was refering to the Tea Party in SC. I have no idea how it influences the rest of the country. It is sad that racism and prejudices are still prevalent in many areas.
Well y'all, my brother arrived at the door about an hour ago bearing goodies from Costco; two whole chickens, dolphin, a large pack of pork chops and english muffins. Ya think my telling him the church gave me a gift card for food made an impact? I guess I will accept an improvement however it came
Racism is alive and well here in Indiana! My husband is from Iran. We stare it right in the eyes everyday! After 9/11 it really surfaced in people! One person that we had been friends with for quite some time told us we would have to enter her house through the back door! Suddenly kids in the neighborhood were not allowed to associate with my daughter! Hannah was seven at the time! We also received vile calls from people at all hours! Strange because our number was not published so must have been people we knew! If I am alone and with a group of people, plenty have made comments in my presence about Middle Eastern folks! I speak up immediately and they are left red in the face! LOL We try to take it all in stride, but sometimes it is very difficult to do! It has been especially hard for Hannah who has a heart of gold and would do anything for another human being.
As for the Tea Party! Yes I think it is a racist movement! If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it is definitely a duck! Barb is right about the surveys that demonstrate a strong correlation between the two!
Love you all! Just wanted to share my personal experience!
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The mother of a 17-year-old girl was
concerned that her daughter was having sex.
Worried the girl might become pregnant and adversely impact the
family's status, she consulted the family doctor.
The doctor told her that teenagers today were very wilful and any
attempt to stop the girl would probably result in rebellion. He then
told her to arrange for her daughter to be put on birth control and
until then, talk to her and give her a box of condoms.
Later that evening, as her daughter was preparing for a date, the mother
told her about the situation and handed her a box of condoms.
The girl burst out laughing and reached over to
hug her mother, saying,
'Oh Mom! You don't have to worry about that! I'm dating Susan!'
TUESDAY
A man went to church one day and afterward
he stopped to shake the preacher's hand.
He said, 'Preacher, I'll tell you, that was a
damned fine sermon. Damned good!'
The preacher said,
'Thank you sir, but I'd rather you didn't use profanity.'
The man said, 'I was so damned impressed with that sermon I put five
thousand dollars in the offering plate!'
The preacher said, 'No shit?'
WEDNESDAY
Brenda and Steve took their six-year-old son to the doctor.
With some hesitation, they explained that although their little angel
appeared to be in good health, they were concerned about his rather small penis.
After examining the child, the doctor confidently declared, 'Just feed him pancakes. That should solve the problem.'
The next morning when the boy arrived at breakfast, there was a
large stack of warm pancakes in the middle of the table.
'Gee, Mom,' he exclaimed. 'For me?'
'Just take two,' Brenda replied. 'The rest are for your father.'
THURSDAY
One night, an 87-year-old woman came home from
Bingo to find her 92-year-old husband in bed with another woman..
She became violent and ended up pushing him off the balcony of their 20th floor apartment, killing him instantly.
Brought before the court, on the charge of murder, she was asked if she had anything to say in her defence.
'Your Honour,' she began coolly, 'I figured that at 92, if he could screw, he could fly.'
FRIDAY
A Doctor was addressing a large audience in Tampa .
'The material we put into our stomachs is enough to have killed most of us sitting here, years ago. Red meat is awful. Soft drinks corrode your stomach lining. Chinese food is loaded with MSG. High fat diets can be disastrous, and none of us realises the long-term harm caused by the germs in our drinking water. However, there is one thing that is the most dangerous of
all and we all have eaten, or will eat it. Can anyone here tell me what food it is that causes the most grief and suffering for years after eating it?'
After several seconds of quiet, a 75-year-old
man in the front row raised his hand, and softly said,
'Wedding Cake.'
SATURDAY
Bob, a 70-year-old, extremely wealthy widower, shows up at the Country Club with a breathtakingly beautiful and very sexy 25-year-old blonde-haired woman who knocks everyone's socks off with her youthful sex appeal and charm and who hangs over Bob's arm and listens intently to his every word. His buddies at the club are all aghast.
At the very first chance, they corner him and ask, 'Bob, how'd you get the trophy girlfriend?'
Bob replies, 'Girlfriend? She's my wife!'
They are knocked over, but continue to ask. 'So, how'd you persuade her to marry you?'
'I lied about my age', Bob replies.
'What, did you tell her you were only 50?'
Bob smiles and says, 'No, I told her I was 90.'
SUNDAY
Groups of Americans were traveling by tour bus through Holland.
As they stopped at a cheese farm, a young guide led them through
the process of cheese making, explaining that goat's milk was used.
She showed the group a lovely hillside where many goats were grazing.
'These' she explained, 'Are the older goats put out to pasture when they no longer produce.'
She then asked, 'What do you do in America with your old goats?'
A spry old gentleman answered, 'They send us on bus tours!
MW2.....honey, you've had enough to deal with without feeling guilty about sending out cards this year. Let someone else do it or just skip it. Listen to the wise voices on this thread, they're giving you good advice.
Ross....sorry about kitty and you car getting soaked. You do have very unusual accidents. Never a dull moment at your place. Try not to work so hard. I know you have to, but try to get your rest too.
Hello to Cricket, SS, Christina, Austin, Rip,Ted, Cuz, Golf, Angelhair welcome and hello, Jen, Miz, Bobbie hope you are well and getting some rest, Linda and Pa, I know I'm forgetting others forgive me I really don't have a good memory.
Hope y'all enjoy your holidays, stay away from the fruit cake and spend time with deserving family. I hope all your parents, grandparents etc that you're careing for are calm and let you have some peace.
Diane, it's sounds like James is on the mend. I'm so happy for you.
I hope the new year brings new jobs for those who need them, which is just about all of us.
Take care all of you. Love and many many hugs.
Ann
Its a beautiful chilly Sunday morning in SC. I cant seem to get myself moving to go to church today. Still been under the weather with IBS. Seems like the worse I feel the more mom knows how to push my buttons and get on my every nerve. We did get to the concert last night and she seemed to enjoy it. I have tickets for another today, but right now I physically don't have it in me to take her. I feel like someone is trying to rip my guts out. I'm suffering from burn-out so bad and I don't know what direction to turn for help. The minute money is mentioned the siblings turn ugly. I can't put mom in respite care, because I don't have the money myself. I feel like I'm banging my head against a wall and getting nowhere. Sorry I'm being so down. It's hard to be positive when you feel like crap both physically and mentally.
I hope the bakers had good luck with their cookies and fudge. I haven't done any baking yet since I need to find something that will be ok for James to eat when the other goodies are about.
Have a good day everyone wherever you are.
Love ya,
Diane
C.O. is also used to ward off the effects of PD. So I use it as a preventative measure.
On the other hand, I have heard that coconut macroons are good for diarrhea...for some reason the Archway brand is the best...who knew??
There is a lot of information on the internet....
After reading posts, my concern is with Diane and your IBS. I was diagnosed with Crohn's disease in 1978, and suffered greatly physically, which effected my emotional health. It almost killed me, but didn't, so you know what Nietzsche said: it makes you stronger. Diane, please take precautions and get healthy. The feelings of desperation is your brain begging you to take care of yourself. You simply must do it. I won't tell you the awful things my sister said from the beginning of my health problems, or after had surgery in '97. Just plain cruel, as Barb said, and for some reason, we get the shit from all sides. Haha. Please make a new year resolution to maximize your health. I'm holding you to it. Try papaya for the digestive enzymes and learn to avoid foods that are allergens. Do you have sinus problems? Also watch for histamines. Bottom line: see a good gastroenterologist and have extensive tests. Your mind will keep you going while your body heals. Email me anytime if I can help you further.
Love all you beautiful caregivers. Have to get busy busy today. Love, Christina xo
he just ooozed out of his hole (what used to be my room) and said "Good Morning Jenny" real cherry like as I avoid him so much it is rare he sees me...NOW lets see if he says good morning to mom who looks after his ass and doesn't wish him dead every day....
Yesterday when mom was wiped out and got up ate I took care of fart pants early morning necessaries and for my pains I got the over the shoulder leering look when I bent over (Sideways, away from his gaze) to re-fill the pet water bowls....Lovely, you fucking old pervert when are you gonna die?! Tonight! ?That would be swell! I have three younger cousins, all better looking than me...and it is me he has this disgusting abusive "attachment" to. I remember him being touchy feely when I was little and always wanting a kiss and when I was a teen he was always going into my room looking at stuff telling me fascinating informative things like "You see that there that's how worms mate." Yes grandma was right, now I see that she was always covering me up around him if I was wearing a v neck shirt or something and she said he had dirty books in the garage..I know I cleared em out.God when does this fucking end!? Me, I am not a prude but those disgusting fucking glances and staring are just making me sick! Let that fucking cold turn into pneumonia why drag it out? Eat some oranges going back to bed! Have a good sane week everyone!
Diane, I think Christine is right, you have to take care of yourself first. I know it is hard when you have other people depending on you.
Cuz, I love your jokes. Especially the one about old goats. Both of the milk goats are in heat this morning. Driving the buck goat crazy. He is in the buck pen, bawling, like a sick moose, sticking his tongue out, and doing other disgusting things. it always make me laugh. Don't want to breed the 2 milkers this year, so the poor fellow is out of luck. Hope everyone has a quiet Sunday. Love Shirley
So sorry for his loss....
Lilli
We love you and would love for you to reclaim your own power over fp:) love you.
Meanwhile2, everyone here helps everyone else. Sometimes I come across kind of bossy or overbearing. Sorry. About the goats: sorry to offend all you animal lovers, but it sounds absolutely disgusting to me! haha. I have a good idea what to do with the buck, but I know when to use discretion.
Hey, minor detail : Christina with an A, or just call me Chris:) Later, Gators. xoxo
PS: Where is MsM? Hugs to barb, Kimbo, LindaHeart, Miz, BJ, Selfish Sibs, Diane, rip, Jen, Cuz, Captain, Kuli, Ann, angelhair, Meanwhile, Deefer, Careshare:) et al xoxo
And it was just the beginning. There were no sex discrimination laws then, and I was on my own. What I learned from the experience was to ignore such behavior, but only up to a certain point.
When my FIL started up talking about 'what I would look like naked' years ago when I was briefly caretaking for him after eye surgery - there was NO hesitation on my part to put him in his place. "I have NO interest in discussing anything sexual with you, and if it happens again, I will not only tell your son, but I will hurt you." Look them in the eye when you say it. Don't back down. They have to go to sleep sometime.
My rambling point is - you have to call them out. Even if its gone on for years it is never to late to say. "No more. Don't look at me like that. Don't talk to me like that. If you do it EVER again you're going to wish you hadn't." No one - not a parent or a sibling or a spouse - has the right to do this. And if you don't stand up for yourself, who else is going to?
Its the same thing with racist remarks. It never ceases to amaze me how people 'assume' I share their prejudices because I have a southern accent. And you have to call them on it. "Why would you think its ok to use hate speech (or racial slurs) around me? Because its not."
Yak yak yak - we drove over to WV for cigarettes and then went to the grocery. Really wanted to go for BBQ at Famous Daves (yum) but figured we could get a weeks worth of groceries for what we'd spend. Remember when you could have a decent sit down lunch for $5? Those days are gone forever.
Must begin the job search again - a lovely way to spend a Sunday afternoon don't you think? Remember when you got the Sunday paper and looked for jobs and mailed in your resume and a real person got it and called you up for an interview? Those day are gone too . . .
I don't want much for Christmas, I just want the person reading this to be happy .
Friends are the fruit cake of life- some nutty, some soaked in alcohol, some sweet but mix them together and they're my friends.
Love ya.
Re Tea Party? Those I know personally are absolutely racist, and a recent study by the Univ of Minnesota says “There is consistent and strong evidence of a correlation between racial negativity and Tea Party identification. It’s a fairly strong correlation and it’s been demonstrated across a number of independent surveys”.
As for the Tea Party! Yes I think it is a racist movement! If it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, it is definitely a duck! Barb is right about the surveys that demonstrate a strong correlation between the two!
Love you all! Just wanted to share my personal experience!