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Linda09 I know what you are dealing with. Last week I went for three days before my wife called the doc and he put me on some musle relaxers 3 times a day. It took almost another 3 days before I could really breathe good myself. During this time though I had to help a friend move 3 rooms of furniture. I never told him how sore I was I just did it and then I just laid on the floor for the next 5 days before it went away. Hugs to ya gal and I will try to telepath the pain away from ya cause I still got 4 days of pills left and if it helps ya there ya go. luvCuz
I can't take the credit for this one cause it came from Rip but I had to share with you all. lovCuz
Last week, I took my grand children to a restaurant. My six year old grand-son asked if he could say grace.
As we bowed our heads he said, "God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Nana gets us for desert. And liberty and justice for all! Amen!"
Along with the laughter from the other customers nearby, I heard a woman remark, "That's what's wrong with this country. Kids today don't even know how to pray. Asking God for ice cream! Why, I never!"
Hearing this my grand-son burst into tears and ask me, "Did I do it wrong? Is God mad at me?"
As I held him and assurd him that he had not done a terrible job, and God was certainly not mad at him, an elderly gentleman approached the table. He winked at my grand-son and said, "I happen to know that God thought that was a great prayer."
"Really?" my grand-son asked.
"Cross my heart," the man replied.
Then, in a theatrical whisper, he added (including the woman whose remark had started the whole thing) "Too bad she never asks God for ice cream. A little ice cream is good for the soul sometimes."
Naturally, I bought my grand children ice cream at the end of the meal. My grand-son stared at his for a moment, and then dos something I will remember the rest of my life.
He picked up his sundae and, without a word, walked over and placed it in front of the woman. With a big smile he told her, "Here this is for you. shove it up your ass you grouchy old bitch!"
Hi all. I hope you all had a nice Christmas! Barb, I must have come on to the boat after you wrote that the first time, so thanks for sharing. It's wonderful. And its true. Thank you all. I hope you haven't forgotten me. I know I don't write in that often. I'm in a bad place and i can only deal with so many things a day. Right now, I'm on hold with the hospital as my Dad too a nasty fall on Thursday before Christmas and is still recovering. Nothing broken just very weak...We are trying to get him transferred to a short term rehab place so he can gain his strength back. And I've been getting the run around about Medicare coverage and so forth and had to fight everyone along the way. i know my Mom is scared that this is it for him. ....couldn't even finish writing this....just got the call they put him in intensive care with a stomach bleed. oh, boy....here we go....luv u all.
Good Morning After, My Beautiful Friends, Welcome, lynmac1: that is what we're here for: to keep your sanity afloat through good cheer, VENTING, communicating with thoughtful, intelligent, compassionate, been there/done that/ still doing that Care Givers! Whoo Hoo! We get saner and saner here at Grossed Out, more confident and Loved, so Come Aboard, Matey! I am thinking of you all the last few days, names and actual or imagined faces whizzing across my forehead. Oh, my gosh, sometimes I think if you were in front of me physically I would SQUEEZE YOU TO PIECES!!! I love you so much! It was a lovely Christmas here. I may have had one too many mimosas--the kids call them "Mom-mosas", I was crying as I opened a couple of presents, but I realized how much thought went into them from my beloved family. I thought, "There is no way I can complain about them not cooking, or helping to clean up when they are here, because they appreciate so much what I do for the family...I got a wonderful mat to put on the kitchen floor, which is stone, from my future son in law. Listen, I am not going to remain Cinderelli in the kitchen, OK. It's the aftermath of Christmas, my weakened state from mimosas. Champagne does that to me. haha I am starting my new routine immediately: Walking every morning before I sit down to my computer, drinking lots of water all day, eating my small but frequent protein meals. No sweets, no wine, no bread and similar starches. I will do it. Barb, we were on Pacific Coast Highway as I was re-rereading your repost, and It was so lovely. We parked the car and walked down to a little cove. i took a few photos and sent to Cricket. Maybe she will post them wherever you girls post stuff. We went to see Mother around 3 and took her for a good long walk around several blocks. She was animated and aware that Marv was there, and reacted to my son's phone call while we were walking. It was "all good." When she hears a man's voice, she seems better. Going to work in yard today and clean things up after the winds and rain. Have a good one, my Friends. Love you, Christina xo
Hi all! Climbing aboard after an extended melt down followed by a long week of travel on the East Coast. I thought about all of you and hope you have some wonderful memories of this December 2011.
I've read some of the posts - with my new sclera lens I can see much better! What a Christmas gift this is!!!! ;-) I am still under the specialists care, but I am hoping that in January she'll sign the form which will allow me to try to renew my drivers license. Pray for that one, please!
So, in my reading I saw some sadness, tragety and some good news as well. I want to get back into the flow here again but hubby is on break from his teaching responsibilities at the college until mid January. I'll do what I can in the meantime.
We did celebrate Christmas early with our children and grand daughters in NY and then traveled to the Phildelphia PA area for a few days to have time with our son, 2 yr old grand daughter an some siblings.
That was followed by a trip to Mom's in Cape May for a few days and a doctor's appt. with her. This doc is not really invested in caring for Mom, in my opinion. It was like pulling teeth to get him to even ask Mom relevant questions - I had to prod and push for him to address her dementia and memory problems! The good news is, Mom realizes she can't drive anymore after totaling the car on 12/12. She currently has visiting nurses twice a week (maybe until the end of Feb) but they are in and out of there within 45 minutes at most. We are still trying to persuade Mom that she needs some in home assistance but so far, she's not allowing it. The Doctor told her she must get a Life Line alert system or some thing similiar. So far, she's "considering it" but not convinced she wants it.
Thanks to my wonderful hubby, I think I'm back on keel as far as Mom is concerned - though nothing is really resolved. My cousins, daughter, best friend, and a neighbor are well intentioned, I'm sure, but harping on me about their opinion that Mom "should be moved to an AL facility immediately whether she wants to or not". I wish it were as easy as they want it to be!
Got to run for now to get some dinner going. Left over turkey - yum! I think I'll make a shephards pie tonight.
Hope all had a great Christmas! Dad is a happy camper with his new electronic cigarette! He is still sundowning and I wish he would engage in activities in the day, but he refuses to get out of bed! He refused to participate in activities while Rehab too! Oh well that is just Dad! Whatever.................Love you all! Kim
Bobbi, hope you get to feeling better soon! Take it easy! XXOO
Hi everyone, I'm just stopping in to say hi....HI :) I'm tired tonight from the last couple of days so I don't have much to say (haha that's a first). I hope everyone is well and resting. Carolyn, I'm glad your back. Kimmy, yay, electric cigs! Welcome Lynmac :) Love and hugs to all of you.
Hi! Linda I am so sorry about your back. It is time you go to a doctor and see what you can do. I am sure this is something related just to your muscles and nerves and there is nothing else, but you have to check and find a treatment! SS: nobody has forgotten you. I am sorry for your very complicated Christmas. Christina on the contrary I am happy you had a good Christmas. Take your time to clean the house and so on. Carolyn I hope you find a good solution for your mother. I know it's not easy. My mother is always very quiet and I don't know if this is still a consequence of the flu or I have to consider this situation as permanent. I don't know if she even realized we had a family meeting today. She was completely absent. I wonder if we have arrived to another stage of the disease. I haven't given her a Seroquel for 5 days now - If you think that until last week we had to give her 3 in order to calm her down! I don't know what to expect. My family meeting with my cousins was not very good because I felt like an alien among them. Our life, our feelings are so different now that I couldn't really talk to anybody. It seemed to me we came from different worlds. But they were very sweet. I have become too cynic for the rest of the world! Anything I said they looked at me as if I were a monster. They don't know I became a cynic to defend myself from excessive sorrow! I am glad Christmas is over anyway!
Merry belated Christmas to everyone! I just discovered this site a few days ago. It's been such a blessing to talk to everyone here. You are all so kind. We have to be since we are taking care of people. It's hard to find nice communities online, and sometimes you really need to reach out for help when there's no one and the internet's the only place to go. I'm glad this site is here, because it's not just a place that says "Are you a care taker? Make sure to take care of yourself!" It's real people, coming together, helping each other with advice and emotional support and love. Thank you all so much. Merry Christmas again!
I'll confess, I ended up with an older woman at a bar last night. She looked pretty good for a 60-year-old. In fact, she wasn't too bad at all, and I found myself thinking she probably had a really hot daughter. We drank a couple of beers, and she asked if I'd ever had a Sportsman's Double? 'What's that? I asked. 'It's a mother and daughter threesome,' she said. As my mind began to embrace the idea, and I wondered what her daughter might look like, I said, 'No, I haven't.' We drank a bit more, then she said with a wink, 'tonight's your lucky night'. We went back to her place. We walked in. She put on the hall light and shouted upstairs:
We have reached a new low. Last night I woke up at around 4 am. Grandma was in the bathroom. I knocked on the door and said I had to go. Instead of hurrying as she normally does, she said, "Can you use a pail?" She then handed me a little cooking tin through the door. We responded by grabbing the commode in her room (which she refuses to use) and put it in my room. Now we are using it when she is in the bathroom, which is about 68% of the time.
These elders keep us on our toes-I once said to my son about my mother -how can one 92 yr old cause such trouble-her behaivor is horrible and she seems to feel entitled to do as she wants and is so dependent on others-you would think she would be grateful-one time she got made and called a AL place and after she found out what it cost she settled down for a while.
Hey, bookie! 68%, huh? I think it's amazing you can figure out the time GM is hogging the bathroom! Doesn't that drive you nuts? Stick around, and you will save your sanity! We are sane here about 53.7% of the time. Whoo Hoo!! Up at 6, hubby gone at 4:30 today. I'm babysitting today. Cheerios all over the place. Crunch. We'll go to Spectrum and ride the carosel, get frozen yogurt. Gavin likes to watch people--ah, a kid like me, and not blood related. What a Blessing. Love to you all. Have a good day:) Christina xo
Bookworm, I had a good chuckle when I read that you took GM's porta potty and put it in your room. Now that was not only accepting the situation but doing something to solve your problem with it, Love it! If I haven't said it Welcome to the forum, you are a great addition. :)
Bookworm - Welcome! this site has saved my live - no joking- when I was at the lowest of the low. We've all been through so many phases and it seems someone here is always at your phase, somewhere along the way. We are blessed!
My Dad is still is ICU. If they can figure out why he has a stomach bleed, we might be able to get him stable and admitted to rehab to gain his strength back. I really don't know which way this will go. We shall see. love to all. i am holding on. Went to work out today, that felt good, and now need to get some work done. No vacation for the sole proprietor!!
Always welcome here SS. lots of people come and go and come back, I think this is for when you need it, and even if you disappear for a bit it is still here waiting when you came back. hello to lynmac and bookworm any other new posters. Been here about two years even myself. Really helps to vent and grouse and talk to people who KNOW the situations...
I think putting the porta pottie in ones own room while an elder refuses to use it and ties up the lav about sums up the experience of care giving, literally and figuratively; frustration, adaptation, fear, hope. A truly Taking it Day by Day situation.... Hope everyone is well and having a sane week after the hols. Prayers and Good Thoughts for those who are not. Jen
SS: sorry to hear that dad is still in ICU...I hope you can get him outta there as soon as they find out what is going on...does he have ulcers? Rehab is good....focus is on getting people on their feet. Have you talked with hospice folks yet? They are a lifesaver... Keep us posted. Lilli
Hi all, it's warm and rainy here. I've been cleaning, cooking, laundry and reading in between all day. Dad's been a little cranky but other than that he is doing fine. I recently listened to an audio book by Marianne Williamson titled "family relationships" that has helped me tremendously with coping with the care of my Dad. It gave me a better perspective of the whole care giving experience with him. Anyway, I wanted to share that with you.
Linda, I hope you're back is calming down. If it persists you might want to go see a Chiropractic doctor and or a good medically trained Massage Therapist. I'm not a doctor however I have worked with them for years and it sounds like a bulging disc in your Thoracic Spine. The Chiropractor can order and or do the imaging tests to determine what's wrong. Anyway, they hurt like hell and if the problem is in the Thoracic Spine (mid-back) area it can affect your breathing. I have one in my low back that acts up once or twice a year and it's hell, I know. When mine acts up I got get adjustments at the Chiropractors and some deep tissue massage therapy and in about a week it starts to ease up.
How is everyone else doing? Anyone else glad that Xmas is over?
Yes, me- glad christmas is over. Eyeing my mantle, rearranging my kitchen already. Is it Spring yet? haha. LindaHeart, have you called the doc yet? Sending you big warm energy vibes to heal your muscles. It is so nice to see many people here today, oldies and newbies. Love you:) xo
ss I hope your Dad is better soon-it is good that he is in ICU that is the best place in a hospital for a pt. needing close observation-my best thought go out to you and I hope the staff is as good as one of the ICU's my husband was in-I got a chance to see our 3 local hospitals and the worse was the one he worked in 21 yrs. and I did 25 yrs-they were turned down for the Magnat distinction and with good reason my reports to the health department may have helped that-the one I thought was the best of the 3 got it which was great.
Yes, thank goodness Christmas is over!!!!! I so hope the New Year will be so much better than 2011. We managed to get through Christmas without any family arguments. Mom, James and I had a quiet Christmas Day. My mom did go over to the evil nephews yesterday with my brother, but it gave me a couple hours off. James and I went to Steinmart to spent our giftcard. Today we went to the grocery to spend the other giftcard. I'm still learning to cook low-fat and low-sodium for James, but its forcing me to think outside the box and try new recipes. Dr. Oz website has some good recipes as well as the Mayo Clinic website. I found an interesting muffin recipe on the Cooking Light website that I want to try. I managed to forget a few ingredients so I'll try baking them tomorrow.
Well I had better get off of here and get dinner on the table. Baked chicken, leftover squash casserole, rice & beans and sauteed spinach.
Hugs to everyone. I'll be joining this thread because of all you wonderful gal/guys that have so much love and inspiration and great advise. I've been on AC for 2 years or more, but really just looked at the early messages. I thought this was kind of a private thread about a cruise :) The caregiving is taking a slow toll on my health and I need a warm comfy place to share with you all. And I hope I can be helpful and caring right back at you. Suzie
just a quickie here , took dad to ER this afternoon . they admitted him . he has copd infected lungs and uti and congistive heart failer , theyre pumppin him with antibodi . my mil and bil is still here , thought they were going home today but they decided to stay a bit longer , so im staying at th ehospital tnite cuz i cant be so far from dad while he s sick . so u all say a prayers for him , thanks im doing ok . my back is alright . goodnight love you all xoxo
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Last week, I took my grand children to a restaurant. My six year old grand-son asked if he could say grace.
As we bowed our heads he said, "God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if
Nana gets us for desert. And liberty and justice for all! Amen!"
Along with the laughter from the other customers nearby, I heard a woman remark, "That's what's wrong
with this country. Kids today don't even know how to pray. Asking God for ice cream! Why, I never!"
Hearing this my grand-son burst into tears and ask me, "Did I do it wrong? Is God mad at me?"
As I held him and assurd him that he had not done a terrible job, and God was certainly not mad at him, an
elderly gentleman approached the table. He winked at my grand-son and said, "I happen to know that God
thought that was a great prayer."
"Really?" my grand-son asked.
"Cross my heart," the man replied.
Then, in a theatrical whisper, he added (including the woman whose remark had started the whole thing)
"Too bad she never asks God for ice cream. A little ice cream is good for the soul sometimes."
Naturally, I bought my grand children ice cream at the end of the meal. My grand-son stared at his for a moment,
and then dos something I will remember the rest of my life.
He picked up his sundae and, without a word, walked over and placed it in front of the woman.
With a big smile he
told her, "Here this is for you. shove it up your ass you grouchy old bitch!"
Thank you all. I hope you haven't forgotten me. I know I don't write in that often. I'm in a bad place and i can only deal with so many things a day.
Right now, I'm on hold with the hospital as my Dad too a nasty fall on Thursday before Christmas and is still recovering. Nothing broken just very weak...We are trying to get him transferred to a short term rehab place so he can gain his strength back. And I've been getting the run around about Medicare coverage and so forth and had to fight everyone along the way. i know my Mom is scared that this is it for him. ....couldn't even finish writing this....just got the call they put him in intensive care with a stomach bleed. oh, boy....here we go....luv u all.
-SS
Welcome, lynmac1: that is what we're here for: to keep your sanity afloat through good cheer, VENTING, communicating with thoughtful, intelligent, compassionate, been there/done that/ still doing that Care Givers! Whoo Hoo! We get saner and saner here at Grossed Out, more confident and Loved, so Come Aboard, Matey!
I am thinking of you all the last few days, names and actual or imagined faces whizzing across my forehead. Oh, my gosh, sometimes I think if you were in front of me physically I would SQUEEZE YOU TO PIECES!!! I love you so much!
It was a lovely Christmas here. I may have had one too many mimosas--the kids call them "Mom-mosas", I was crying as I opened a couple of presents, but I realized how much thought went into them from my beloved family. I thought, "There is no way I can complain about them not cooking, or helping to clean up when they are here, because they appreciate so much what I do for the family...I got a wonderful mat to put on the kitchen floor, which is stone, from my future son in law.
Listen, I am not going to remain Cinderelli in the kitchen, OK. It's the aftermath of Christmas, my weakened state from mimosas. Champagne does that to me. haha
I am starting my new routine immediately: Walking every morning before I sit down to my computer, drinking lots of water all day, eating my small but frequent protein meals. No sweets, no wine, no bread and similar starches. I will do it.
Barb, we were on Pacific Coast Highway as I was re-rereading your repost, and It was so lovely. We parked the car and walked down to a little cove. i took a few photos and sent to Cricket. Maybe she will post them wherever you girls post stuff.
We went to see Mother around 3 and took her for a good long walk around several blocks. She was animated and aware that Marv was there, and reacted to my son's phone call while we were walking. It was "all good." When she hears a man's voice, she seems better.
Going to work in yard today and clean things up after the winds and rain. Have a good one, my Friends. Love you, Christina xo
I've read some of the posts - with my new sclera lens I can see much better! What a Christmas gift this is!!!! ;-) I am still under the specialists care, but I am hoping that in January she'll sign the form which will allow me to try to renew my drivers license. Pray for that one, please!
So, in my reading I saw some sadness, tragety and some good news as well.
I want to get back into the flow here again but hubby is on break from his teaching responsibilities at the college until mid January. I'll do what I can in the meantime.
We did celebrate Christmas early with our children and grand daughters in NY and then traveled to the Phildelphia PA area for a few days to have time with our son, 2 yr old grand daughter an some siblings.
That was followed by a trip to Mom's in Cape May for a few days and a doctor's appt. with her. This doc is not really invested in caring for Mom, in my opinion. It was like pulling teeth to get him to even ask Mom relevant questions - I had to prod and push for him to address her dementia and memory problems! The good news is, Mom realizes she can't drive anymore after totaling the car on 12/12. She currently has visiting nurses twice a week (maybe until the end of Feb) but they are in and out of there within 45 minutes at most. We are still trying to persuade Mom that she needs some in home assistance but so far, she's not allowing it. The Doctor told her she must get a Life Line alert system or some thing similiar. So far, she's "considering it" but not convinced she wants it.
Thanks to my wonderful hubby, I think I'm back on keel as far as Mom is concerned - though nothing is really resolved. My cousins, daughter, best friend, and a neighbor are well intentioned, I'm sure, but harping on me about their opinion that Mom "should be moved to an AL facility immediately whether she wants to or not". I wish it were as easy as they want it to be!
Got to run for now to get some dinner going. Left over turkey - yum! I think I'll make a shephards pie tonight.
Hugs and love to all across the miles. Carolyn
Bobbi, hope you get to feeling better soon! Take it easy! XXOO
Welcome Lynmac :) Love and hugs to all of you.
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SS: nobody has forgotten you. I am sorry for your very complicated Christmas.
Christina on the contrary I am happy you had a good Christmas. Take your time to clean the house and so on.
Carolyn I hope you find a good solution for your mother. I know it's not easy.
My mother is always very quiet and I don't know if this is still a consequence of the flu or I have to consider this situation as permanent. I don't know if she even realized we had a family meeting today. She was completely absent. I wonder if we have arrived to another stage of the disease. I haven't given her a Seroquel for 5 days now - If you think that until last week we had to give her 3 in order to calm her down! I don't know what to expect.
My family meeting with my cousins was not very good because I felt like an alien among them. Our life, our feelings are so different now that I couldn't really talk to anybody. It seemed to me we came from different worlds. But they were very sweet. I have become too cynic for the rest of the world! Anything I said they looked at me as if I were a monster. They don't know I became a cynic to defend myself from excessive sorrow!
I am glad Christmas is over anyway!
I'll confess,
I ended up with an older woman at a bar last night.
She looked pretty good for a 60-year-old.
In fact, she wasn't too bad at all,
and I found myself thinking she probably had a really hot daughter.
We drank a couple of beers,
and she asked if I'd ever had a Sportsman's Double?
'What's that? I asked.
'It's a mother and daughter threesome,' she said.
As my mind began to embrace the idea,
and I wondered what her daughter might look like,
I said, 'No, I haven't.'
We drank a bit more, then she said with a wink,
'tonight's your lucky night'.
We went back to her place.
We walked in.
She put on the hall light and shouted upstairs:
'Mom...you still awake?'
Up at 6, hubby gone at 4:30 today. I'm babysitting today. Cheerios all over the place. Crunch. We'll go to Spectrum and ride the carosel, get frozen yogurt. Gavin likes to watch people--ah, a kid like me, and not blood related. What a Blessing. Love to you all. Have a good day:) Christina xo
My Dad is still is ICU. If they can figure out why he has a stomach bleed, we might be able to get him stable and admitted to rehab to gain his strength back. I really don't know which way this will go. We shall see. love to all. i am holding on. Went to work out today, that felt good, and now need to get some work done. No vacation for the sole proprietor!!
-SS
I think putting the porta pottie in ones own room while an elder refuses to use it and ties up the lav about sums up the experience of care giving, literally and figuratively; frustration, adaptation, fear, hope. A truly Taking it Day by Day situation....
Hope everyone is well and having a sane week after the hols. Prayers and Good Thoughts for those who are not. Jen
Keep us posted.
Lilli
Linda, I hope you're back is calming down. If it persists you might want to go see a Chiropractic doctor and or a good medically trained Massage Therapist. I'm not a doctor however I have worked with them for years and it sounds like a bulging disc in your Thoracic Spine. The Chiropractor can order and or do the imaging tests to determine what's wrong. Anyway, they hurt like hell and if the problem is in the Thoracic Spine (mid-back) area it can affect your breathing. I have one in my low back that acts up once or twice a year and it's hell, I know. When mine acts up I got get adjustments at the Chiropractors and some deep tissue massage therapy and in about a week it starts to ease up.
How is everyone else doing? Anyone else glad that Xmas is over?
It is so nice to see many people here today, oldies and newbies. Love you:) xo
Yes, thank goodness Christmas is over!!!!! I so hope the New Year will be so much better than 2011. We managed to get through Christmas without any family arguments. Mom, James and I had a quiet Christmas Day. My mom did go over to the evil nephews yesterday with my brother, but it gave me a couple hours off. James and I went to Steinmart to spent our giftcard. Today we went to the grocery to spend the other giftcard. I'm still learning to cook low-fat and low-sodium for James, but its forcing me to think outside the box and try new recipes. Dr. Oz website has some good recipes as well as the Mayo Clinic website. I found an interesting muffin recipe on the Cooking Light website that I want to try. I managed to forget a few ingredients so I'll try baking them tomorrow.
Well I had better get off of here and get dinner on the table. Baked chicken, leftover squash casserole, rice & beans and sauteed spinach.
Love ya,
Diane
my mil and bil is still here , thought they were going home today but they decided to stay a bit longer , so im staying at th ehospital tnite cuz i cant be so far from dad while he s sick . so u all say a prayers for him , thanks
im doing ok . my back is alright . goodnight love you all xoxo
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