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Linda, love support and prayers to you and your sweet Pa. tell him I said wassup and that I love him through you, his beautiful loving daughter.
Linda this will be an amazing time in your life. Hard, hard, hard but you have the strength and the will to see your dad through to the end of his journey here. Tell him that you will see him again in the blink of an eye and that you will be there to make his favorite breakfast and that you will laugh and enjoy it together.
Don't despair Linda. this is Life and all Life ends at some point and you have the gift of knowing that you did everything you could to make his Life wonderful and loving. You did everything and these weeks or days or hours will be a golden memory for you and bring you comfort when you thought no comfort was possible.
love all of you guys more than you could ever possibly know.
Cuz-Thank you for the incredibly beautiful and hysterical e-mails! So happy to hear your Wife's aunt is on the mend and without feeding tube! Hugs! Kim
Linda dearheart we are here for you and in your thoughts there is the hospital-have them bring in a a comfy chair and a blanket so you can get some rest-I sure hope the nurses are kind to you-your Pa knows how much you love him and what a great daughter you have been for him and I know he does not want to leave but God needs good souls with him. We all love you dear friend-you have made our world a better place for the rest of us.
What an amazing group of people here from my wonderful Cousin, Cuz, who keeps us rolling to the new folks who are just beginning to navigate these insane waters to us old salts who have been there and done that to the ones with the IDIOTsiblings who can't 'deal' with reality to to to.... you get it. Happy New Year! Brilliant voices on this thread. A pleasure to read and an honor to share this forum.
Thanks again to AgingCare for providing this service. Thank you also for the lovely giant coffee/tea/soup mug that was sent to this high end yacht yard (where I am the USS Charity Case) and wound up in the warehouse where boat parts arrive from all over the world. The storeroom guy, Gary, misread the return address and said 'it's from Aging Cream. I guess we all could use some of that.' I said, 'no... that's arriving next week in three separate boxes. The little box is eye cream called "Bag Away", the medium sized box will be face cream called "Jowl Be Gone" and the giant box will contain a vat of "Ass Off".'
Anyhoo, AC thx for the mug!
Well, I have a status report of my activities of last night:
Two dude boaters from up the dock hollered at your Cap'nBob and asked if I wanted to join them for cocktails and dinner at a very nice local restaurant. jazz trio, the whole works. so of course I said, Hell Yes.
We get there and I guess it was a Bourbon night (thanks again for that cake recipe Cuz) and when you're drinking with Jack and Jim you're drinking with my daddy so I knew that fun was on the horizon. About 2 cocktails into the evening, this ol boy Brad and this ol boy Randy start talking about 'Liquid Ass'. No kidding, I can't make this up. Now Brad used to be a cop and is now megawealthy with 2 helicopters and toys like that and Randy is a smooth talking New Car Manager at a nearby rice burner franchise. So both these ol boys are nutz which is all I'm saying. It turns out that ol Brad just happened to have a little squirt bottle of Liquid Ass in his brand new Dodge Extended Cab Pick em Up truck and we decided that it would be a good idea to take the Liquid Ass to a crowded bar and give it a test run.
We find a nice place with a rock band that is packed to the tits. We order a round and Brad puts a little squirt in the direction of a table of eight. Wow! That stuff really works! Smells like Sh!t! We have to move away from it and we play it off by waving our hands in front of our faces and acting all put out. The eight people at the table all get up one by one and the start looking at the bottom of their shoes and under the table for some errant turd that just happened to roll in. The waiters come out with a broom and dustpan and pull all the chairs out to sweep the invisible turd up and hopefully make the reek go away. The cloud has now reached out to 4 more tables and more people are looking at the bottoms of their shoes. The three of us have now moved further away and when one of the eight comes walking by I say, 'what in the world...?' and he says, 'Somebody sh!t their britches!'
I lost my mind. I haven't laughed that hard in 10 years I bet. I ended up laughing for about 2 hours and these ol boys just kept stoking the fires and I laughed and cried and choked and wiped my nose.
Please know that it does not escape me that most of you are putting up with your own version of Liquid Ass at home. Let me tell you that when you see other people put up with it it is Hilarious!
When you're weary Feeling small When tears are in your eyes I will dry them all I'm on your side When times get rough And friends just can't be found Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down When you're down and out When you're on the street When evening falls so hard I will comfort you I'll take your part When darkness comes And pain is all around Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down Sail on Silver Girl, Sail on by Your time has come to shine All your dreams are on their way See how they shine If you need a friend I'm sailing right behind Like a bridge over troubled water I will ease your mind.
Linda, sending you an extra "dream pillow", know that love is a gift given freely and you do just that for Pa and all of us. Sending my prayers your way today !
LindaHeart, "Did you ever know that you're my Hero, and everything I would like to be? I can fly higher than an eagle, cause You are the Wind Beneath my Wings." Blessings and Love, Christina xo
I like yours, too, Miz:) I remember when "Bridge Over Troubled Waters" came out. I was in high school and it was my favorite song. It is nice to see you and the Captain here. I can do without the LA, but if it makes Bobbie laugh that hard, Whoo Hoo--let the Healing Begin! I can imagine what Linda would say about liquid ass. hahahaha!!
Lilli and all: did you know that SecretSister's Dad passed on Dec. 9? I wrote on the Memorial thread that Lilli started that it should be viewed the same as "A Breath of Fresh Air", since it is a place of honor and remembrance--and the end result of why we all are here!!! Doesn't that make sense? Maybe someone with some PULL around here can get it done;) Miz, you have to tend to yourself and let others tend to themselves once in awhile. Do I have to sing, "50 ways to Leave your Caregiver Friends" to you? You slip out the back, Jack. Make a new Plan, Sam, no need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me. Get on the bus, Gus--NO NEED TO DISCUSS MUCH, just drop off the keys, Lee, and get yourself FREE!" So, tend to your own BIZ, MIZ!!! I hope that was correct. I have pretty good recall to just about every song ever written. Maybe a bit out of order. Well, we each have our talents. Whoo Hoo!! Where is my little chirpy Cricket today? I think she is tending to herself, too:) Love you girls and one crazy guy. BBL xo
I love it! Simon and Garfunkel are great. I think another suitable theme for this site would be from James Taylor.
When you're down and troubled and you need a helping hand and nothing, nothing is going right. Close your eyes and think of me and soon I will be there to brighten up even your darkest nights.
You just call out my name, and you know where ever I am I'll come running to see you again. Winter, spring, summer, or fall, all you have to do is call and I'll be there, you've got a friend.
Laughed so hard about the liquid ass, my sister came in to see what was so funny, Had to let her read it, as I was laughting to hard to tell her. You"re in my prayers Linda, and of course your Dad too. Happy New Year everyone.
Crickey Poo is here and you are right Christina I have been taking a little breather to care for myself. I slept in til 10:45 this morning! My body just said I'm tired and I'm going to sleep.
Bobbie, I need to know where you are in Florida so I can see if I can come visit you in the future. I would love to go out with last nights group with the can of LA! Omg, that was hilarious and that kind of mischief I can definitely get into!!
I want to offer up a prayer here for Linda and her Pa, so for those of you who don't believe in God perhaps you could say the prayer in your own words.. Dear God, please send your Angels to Linda and her Pa to comfort them with love, give them peace, physical rest and only those with tender hearts to be around them. Please help them both to find the strength to walk through the path they are on and give them your angels to walk with them, to give them courage and to know and feel the love you have for them and also the love we all here share for them. Amen
Hi Meanwhile! A Blessed and Happy New Year to you and Sis, and Indio:) Bee, I can hear my friend and I at the park in 1970, while he played his 12 string and I would sing James Taylor and Carole King songs. Elton John and the Beatles as their music started to change after St. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band!!! That will be my Heaven! with Frankie Baby and Dino, and Sammy:D
Carolyn, Lilliput created a thread in August 2011 for Memorials. If you type into search window: "My condolences to all who have lost a family member recently", it will come up and click on any entry. Again, I think it should be readily available so we can show support for our friends in grief.
Dear Linda, I have nothing to add to the beautiful words the other "sailors" have said, I only want to tell you that I always admired your capability to love... It is not so easy to love "always" a person who limits your freedom, who makes you feel tired, who makes you feel like escaping as far as possible... even if he/she is a parent. I am impatient, intolerant and when I read your posts I always feel ashamed of myself. This thing - love - is the most important thing that can happen between a parent and a child. It's not always so evident. You are in my thoughts and in my heart!
Christina: We really could use an official "In Memoriam" section on the website. Don't know how to go about contacting the powers that be here on AC. Maybe Bobbie will read this and know. I think it is a shame that we may miss the opportunity to offer our condolences to our loyal members because we have no place to post the passing of a loved one. I usually come upon other posts where someone mentions their loss, then post it to the Memoriam thread.
Also, how do we locate a member by their member name? I tried typing it in the general search box...works sometimes. That is a problem, too...after we read about someone's passing, it is difficult to find the member.
Anyway, if someone has a suggestion, I would appreciate it. In the meantime, if you read about a passing, post it (typing "In Memoriam" seems to work to.) If you know the member, leave a note of condolence on their wall.
Lilli, we will work on this. I know Bobbie will do what she can to get it in concrete. hehe Like cement tennis shoes for an anchor... a Weigh!!! So, as I mentioned, just from being nosy on the site this morning, I noticed SecretSister's post on her own wall:( That is too sad. Going over to give Mother her New Year's Eve manicure and to SING! But No "Auld Lang Syne". Always makes me cry. Think it's the melody/memory connection. Trying to get hubby to take us out for Mexican tonight so I can have a Cadillac margarita. Whoo Hoo! Otherwise, it's the old Two Buck Chuck from TJ's. haha! I LOVE YOU GIRLS AND GUY!!!! XOXOXOXOX
I know how to comment in the box at the bottom of the page with a comment about the question, but how do I comment on an individual's post? The only choices I see are "Give a star" and "Report this post"
Shelia-look to your left and you will see the person's icon and underneath there is a screen name. Click the icon or screen name and it will take you to their wall and you can post to them individually! Hope this helps! Hugs! Kim
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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Linda this will be an amazing time in your life. Hard, hard, hard but you have the strength and the will to see your dad through to the end of his journey here. Tell him that you will see him again in the blink of an eye and that you will be there to make his favorite breakfast and that you will laugh and enjoy it together.
Don't despair Linda. this is Life and all Life ends at some point and you have the gift of knowing that you did everything you could to make his Life wonderful and loving. You did everything and these weeks or days or hours will be a golden memory for you and bring you comfort when you thought no comfort was possible.
love all of you guys more than you could ever possibly know.
lovbob
Love you. xo
What an amazing group of people here from my wonderful Cousin, Cuz, who keeps us rolling to the new folks who are just beginning to navigate these insane waters to us old salts who have been there and done that to the ones with the IDIOTsiblings who can't 'deal' with reality to to to.... you get it.
Happy New Year!
Brilliant voices on this thread. A pleasure to read and an honor to share this forum.
Thanks again to AgingCare for providing this service. Thank you also for the lovely giant coffee/tea/soup mug that was sent to this high end yacht yard (where I am the USS Charity Case) and wound up in the warehouse where boat parts arrive from all over the world. The storeroom guy, Gary, misread the return address and said 'it's from Aging Cream. I guess we all could use some of that.'
I said, 'no... that's arriving next week in three separate boxes. The little box is eye cream called "Bag Away", the medium sized box will be face cream called "Jowl Be Gone" and the giant box will contain a vat of "Ass Off".'
Anyhoo, AC thx for the mug!
Well, I have a status report of my activities of last night:
Two dude boaters from up the dock hollered at your Cap'nBob and asked if I wanted to join them for cocktails and dinner at a very nice local restaurant. jazz trio, the whole works. so of course I said, Hell Yes.
We get there and I guess it was a Bourbon night (thanks again for that cake recipe Cuz) and when you're drinking with Jack and Jim you're drinking with my daddy so I knew that fun was on the horizon.
About 2 cocktails into the evening, this ol boy Brad and this ol boy Randy start talking about 'Liquid Ass'. No kidding, I can't make this up.
Now Brad used to be a cop and is now megawealthy with 2 helicopters and toys like that and Randy is a smooth talking New Car Manager at a nearby rice burner franchise. So both these ol boys are nutz which is all I'm saying.
It turns out that ol Brad just happened to have a little squirt bottle of Liquid Ass in his brand new Dodge Extended Cab Pick em Up truck and we decided that it would be a good idea to take the Liquid Ass to a crowded bar and give it a test run.
We find a nice place with a rock band that is packed to the tits. We order a round and Brad puts a little squirt in the direction of a table of eight.
Wow! That stuff really works! Smells like Sh!t! We have to move away from it and we play it off by waving our hands in front of our faces and acting all put out. The eight people at the table all get up one by one and the start looking at the bottom of their shoes and under the table for some errant turd that just happened to roll in. The waiters come out with a broom and dustpan and pull all the chairs out to sweep the invisible turd up and hopefully make the reek go away. The cloud has now reached out to 4 more tables and more people are looking at the bottoms of their shoes.
The three of us have now moved further away and when one of the eight comes walking by I say, 'what in the world...?' and he says, 'Somebody sh!t their britches!'
I lost my mind. I haven't laughed that hard in 10 years I bet. I ended up laughing for about 2 hours and these ol boys just kept stoking the fires and I laughed and cried and choked and wiped my nose.
We're taking the Liquid Ass out again tonight.
Happy New Year!
love you guys more than you know,
lovbob
lovbob
When you're weary Feeling small When tears are in your eyes I will dry them all I'm on your side When times get rough And friends just can't be found Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down When you're down and out When you're on the street When evening falls so hard I will comfort you I'll take your part When darkness comes And pain is all around Like a bridge over troubled water I will lay me down Sail on Silver Girl, Sail on by Your time has come to shine All your dreams are on their way See how they shine If you need a friend I'm sailing right behind Like a bridge over troubled water I will ease your mind.
love,
miz
"Did you ever know that you're my Hero, and everything I would like to be?
I can fly higher than an eagle, cause You are the Wind Beneath my Wings."
Blessings and Love,
Christina xo
I wrote on the Memorial thread that Lilli started that it should be viewed the same as "A Breath of Fresh Air", since it is a place of honor and remembrance--and the end result of why we all are here!!! Doesn't that make sense? Maybe someone with some PULL around here can get it done;)
Miz, you have to tend to yourself and let others tend to themselves once in awhile.
Do I have to sing, "50 ways to Leave your Caregiver Friends" to you?
You slip out the back, Jack. Make a new Plan, Sam, no need to be coy, Roy, just listen to me. Get on the bus, Gus--NO NEED TO DISCUSS MUCH, just drop off the keys, Lee, and get yourself FREE!" So, tend to your own BIZ, MIZ!!!
I hope that was correct. I have pretty good recall to just about every song ever written. Maybe a bit out of order. Well, we each have our talents. Whoo Hoo!!
Where is my little chirpy Cricket today? I think she is tending to herself, too:)
Love you girls and one crazy guy. BBL xo
When you're down and troubled and you need a helping hand and nothing, nothing is going right.
Close your eyes and think of me and soon I will be there to brighten up even your darkest nights.
You just call out my name, and you know where ever I am I'll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer, or fall, all you have to do is call and I'll be there, you've got a friend.
You"re in my prayers Linda, and of course your Dad too.
Happy New Year everyone.
Bobbie, I need to know where you are in Florida so I can see if I can come visit you in the future. I would love to go out with last nights group with the can of LA! Omg, that was hilarious and that kind of mischief I can definitely get into!!
I want to offer up a prayer here for Linda and her Pa, so for those of you who don't believe in God perhaps you could say the prayer in your own words..
Dear God, please send your Angels to Linda and her Pa to comfort them with love, give them peace, physical rest and only those with tender hearts to be around them. Please help them both to find the strength to walk through the path they are on and give them your angels to walk with them, to give them courage and to know and feel the love you have for them and also the love we all here share for them. Amen
Love you all very much,
Cricket
Bee, I can hear my friend and I at the park in 1970, while he played his 12 string and I would sing James Taylor and Carole King songs. Elton John and the Beatles as their music started to change after St. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club Band!!! That will be my Heaven! with Frankie Baby and Dino, and Sammy:D
Lilliput created a thread in August 2011 for Memorials. If you type into search window: "My condolences to all who have lost a family member recently", it will come up and click on any entry. Again, I think it should be readily available so we can show support for our friends in grief.
You are in my thoughts and in my heart!
Also, how do we locate a member by their member name? I tried typing it in the general search box...works sometimes. That is a problem, too...after we read about someone's passing, it is difficult to find the member.
Anyway, if someone has a suggestion, I would appreciate it. In the meantime, if you read about a passing, post it (typing "In Memoriam" seems to work to.) If you know the member, leave a note of condolence on their wall.
Lilli
So, as I mentioned, just from being nosy on the site this morning, I noticed SecretSister's post on her own wall:( That is too sad.
Going over to give Mother her New Year's Eve manicure and to SING! But No "Auld Lang Syne". Always makes me cry. Think it's the melody/memory connection.
Trying to get hubby to take us out for Mexican tonight so I can have a Cadillac margarita. Whoo Hoo! Otherwise, it's the old Two Buck Chuck from TJ's. haha!
I LOVE YOU GIRLS AND GUY!!!! XOXOXOXOX
With never a thought of sorrow;
The old goes out, but the glad young year
Comes merrily in tomorrow.
Happy New Year to all our wonderful friends on AC and the GO thread. May 2012 be a stellar year for all of us.