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Linda, you are so right. If they give you grief, about not bringing your Dad in, get an advocate with the dept of aging. That is who got the Doctor here to get off their butts and make a house call for my husband.
Linda, the trick with all these services is to never take anything at face value if it doesn't feel right. They depend on you just nodding your head then doing everything yourself.
Hospice is a benefit for which your Dad and all of has worked for all of our lives. It isn't a "gift" so don't let the docs treat it that way. Docs no nothing of home care or what it takes to qualify for hospice. If they can't prescribe pills or surgery they haven't a clue.
You really have to fight for this for your Dad. It will give you respite to and let you concentrate on making him comfortable and happy. That is your job right now...let hospice do the rest. If you get the right company, they are great. They will bring all that he needs right to your home.
Good luck..let me know if you need any thing else....
Linda, I would absolutely refuse to take your poor pa out in this cold in his condition to see a doctor. That is just absurd!! They need to come take care of him. They can send someone to draw blood. Now is the time to make his and your lives as easy and pain free as possible. I wish I was there. I would tell them in no uncertain terms!! Man that pisses me off so much. Love You, Girlfriend. And, I love your new word (new to me anyways). shitofranic :))
LindaHeart, xoxoxoxo Tell the doctor to order a home blood test. They will send tech to the house. Pa has Tricare, I hope? They pay for everything. That's right, Linda, tell those bastards to "come and get it". Leave Pa alone and let him rest. Tickle tickle. Man, I can't remember the last time I got tickled, but I can live without it. Thanks anyway:D Just think if Lilli and I were traveling all over the continent and making agencies tow the line. I have my machine gun, she has her calculator, our brazen attitudes. This country would run a whole lot better. We'll take Jen with us and she can argue while we um, calculate. Get her out of the house. Huh, Jen?
There's no getting me outa the house.... I am doomed doomed doomed...He is in the bathroom.... CHILI last night....we will all be dead in five four three two.......
cricket you had me laughin ! love ya girl . christina i have some dynomite here woo hoo , lets go kick some hinneys lalala .
hey dad sure was puttin me to work ! he wante dto sit in recliner after begin in it all day , i said no ure going to bed . he said no and pointed the recliner i tld him i wasnt about to get him up again to go for bed . u have tv in there and u be more comfty in bed . go him in bed and my back went pop . then he wanted to go to bathroom , uhhhh no pa . golly liftin 180 lbs man around geeze ! i just dont want him layin in bed all day but i will if i have to . most ofthe times he wants to stay in bed , so thats good . ok gotta shut this down and you all have a good night sleep . love you all tons . xoxox
Dear God, Thank you for adding Xanax and Paxil to my life over 15 years ago, it's SUREEEEEEEEE comin in handy now - all those saved up bottles. Love, Kat
Linda -yes put your foot down about taking him to doc visits and blood work -they can send someone to the house-I had to put my foot down with the husband-no more unnessasary doc visits just because he was bored and liked the attention.
hello good morning , just a quickie here . called the dr and told t he nurse about it all . she said she s suprise that the hospital did not set up the hospices since dr there had ordered one . said he has appt on 18 th and on the 19 th she was blown away , she said she ll get back with me after meowin at the dr all about it and let me know what he says . sooo yep it sure is shitofranic lalalala . love you all and have a great day woo woo . xoxox
Looking good this morning, I'm still here and didn't get kicked off the site after the graphic posts last night, lol
Omg, I had to put a sweatshirt on when I took the dogs out this morning! Whahaha!! Just goading those of you living where it's really really cold. Before you have a "shitofrantic" moment let me say; I lived in PA for 5 yrs so I remember what real cold is like. Linda I love that word and promise to use it a lot. :) Just a little suggestion about Pa's doc... if he doesn't follow through and get hospice out to you instead of expecting you to bring Pa in, FIRE him. Call Hospice yourself and they will have their own doc come to you. Remember there is always another way and there are always people out there who will help. In the meanwhile how about getting yourself a back-brace? It might help. You might even be able to go to Wallyworld and find one of those waist belts to give your back some support, Lord knows you need it..."pop" omg! that is not good.
Thank you Lilli and Carolyn for the New Years wishes through emails.
Jen, are you still alive? I hope no one lit a match and you all when BOOM!
got a ph call returned back to me . yep they got all settled and pa is getting hospices . theyre suppose to call me today . austin - u made me smile . ure a sweetheart love u bunches . cricket ! ure cold !! yep bro said its cold down there and he is wearing long johns , lol ... bobbie looo !! hope ure warm . kitty keep ur feet warm wont she ? hug her for me and tell her to hug u back for me . ill keep u guys update on hospice s thangs . but i think i am going to bundle up in my coverhauls and go walk my bandit . sheba is needing to go poop bad but she wont do it near the house she wants to g down the street , phhhhhhhht i aint walkin in that cold wind last night , sorry girl .. alright got all my bills paid . gawd ! it realy adds up ! fkin bullshit . have a merry day and have a shitofranic day lalala . xoxoxo
Hi everyone....no I've not fallen off the face of the earth. Mom is now in rehab trying to learn to walk again with her broken hip. She is doing her best, but I'm not really hopeful that she will walk. I've decided that I just cannot place her in a NH if the rehab doesn't work. I'll have to deal with it at home as I always have. God help me!
I'm afraid I haven't kept up with what's going on here. I just haven't had the time or when I get home at night I just want to drop dead.
My goodness we have so many new ones on the thread now. Hello to you all and welcome. This is a great place to be. Hello to all my old friends...you know who you are so I won't tax my muddled brain trying to name everyone. I love you guys!!
I'm taking a half day off to get a little house work done so I had better get to work. I'm sure Mom is fretting over my not being there. She wants me there every minute. She has stopped eating unless I'm there to help her, but today she'll just have to do without me for a while.
Hang in the everyone...Know what you are talking about, doctor insanity and just the inevitable of this is my job right now...Hope your burdens are not too great but I know what they are in many ways though not in all....still kickin' here...Adult Day Health Day so he is out of the house at least...
Linda,I have an extra back brace, They run close to $100, but they really help. I would be more then glad to send it to you, if ya want it, e-mail me your address-love ya-hugs
Linda-Happy to hear hospice is coming to your house! Good news! Sun shine outside!
I will have a shitofranic night! Dad still sleeping! He will be up around 10pm tonight! Worn out physically and mentally! Dad did get up once today! Had taken off depends and noticed a huge wet spot on his sweat pants! Got him cleaned and changed! He seems out of it completely in the day and more with it at night! We bought some spiced rum for egg nog just used a little! Had it out on kitchen counter! Christmas day noticed the level had gone down by half! When Dad got up to open his presents in the afternoon, he was acting really weird! Walking was more impaired than normal. Took him up to get shower, and he started gagging like he was going to throw up! Smelled like rum! Mystery solved! Rum now hidden in a dark corner of the cabinet! Got to go! Wanted to check in with you all! Laying floor in the apartment! Not too hard, just physically draining with everything else! Laundry going non-stop! Love you all! XXOO
nance - thank you for offerin me ur back brace , i have one around here somewhere . its realy not in my lower back , it is upper back under the shoulder blade . i ve always had that pblm , once a great while my lower back will hurt . as for now its my upper back by the shoulder blade , thank you nance and bless ur heart for offering me the brace , xoxo hospice called and they re comin out tmr at 1030 . tld my sis in law , shes gonna see if she can get off work and come here too , she wants to hear what the hospices are gonna say , prevent my head going around and around . i bundle up and took the dogs for a walk . it was nice and the dogs were so happy . hubby called ask me if i feel like cookin i said well i can but not realy so hes brinin home papa john bq chicken pizza , havent had that in a long time . he s a sweetheart . annt- bless ur heart for wantin to keep mom at home once rehab is over . i know the feeling and that is why dad is here . he hated it at rehab and do did i . i just hope and pray my kids will do what ive done for my pa . but if they do throw me in nursng home i guess i ll die quicker ugh ? ok coffee s ready and gonna stand by the door and greet my hubby , he returned back to work today after begin on vacation for 3 weeks . :-) , house so quite without him here , love you all u have a great day . xoxoxo
Linda I see you are organizing yourself and saying to the doctors what they deserve. Good for you! Sometimes you have to scream a little bit, to be heard! I am having a peaceful hour in my room after a crazy day. The two daughters of one of my helpers have decided to sleep at my house tonight. They are sleeping in the same room as my mother's, because it is the warmest one. I hear them screaming and fighting and I just hope they don't wake my mother up, because otherwise tomorrow it will be a hell of a day. I am too tired to go into the other room and tell them to stop. You know, sisters... Always love/hate between them. Now I hear silence. Are they watching TV or they have killed each other? I will check tomorrow morning. I am going to bed now. Good nite everybody. My mother tonight is the less insane in the house. And this is hard to say, as yesterday she put 2 syringes in my boots. She found the syringes in the car (we had bought them to give her antibiotics) and she hid them in my boots. (Do you remember Ladeeda, the bananas and the butter knives?) I am lucky she hadn't opened the packaging! Otherwise it would have been very painful. Another story of ordinary madness....
Inner Peace If you can start the day without caffeine, If you can always be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains, If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles, If you can eat the same food every day, and be grateful for it, If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time, If you can take criticism and blame without resentment, If you can conquer tension without medication, If you can relax without alcohol, If you can sleep without the aid of drugs THEN YOU ARE PROBABLY THE FAMILY DOG!
Hi guys my good friend that I visit in the nursing home is on the way to passing -she sees her late husband -I probably will never have a conversation with her-her sister tried to wake her up and she seemed anoyed-my husband worked with her husband in the 60's and I worked with her and her daughter and sister in 74 on-sheseems at peace-she had bee n in the nursing home for about 15 years and her heart is not in staying here -she wants to be with her late husband and I know God will get her there soon-she was an amazing nurse and person and her daughter is amazing-I feel sad but know she wants to leave-she was anoyed when her sister wanted her to wake up today-I pray that our God takes me before I go though wha she has gone through-our world is better for her being here with us-but she needs to go to heaven to be with her husbandshe has been a good friend and a good person-but I am sad to lose her-W innie I love you-knowing you has made me a better person.
Hello everyone. I hope you all had a great Christmas and New Year. We were so busy I never got a chance to sit at the computer let alone check my e-mail. I had a total of 432 unread emails! Holy smokes! Any way, I hope you all had terrific holidays. Gotta go now. Love you all.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
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Hospice is a benefit for which your Dad and all of has worked for all of our lives. It isn't a "gift" so don't let the docs treat it that way. Docs no nothing of home care or what it takes to qualify for hospice. If they can't prescribe pills or surgery they haven't a clue.
You really have to fight for this for your Dad. It will give you respite to and let you concentrate on making him comfortable and happy. That is your job right now...let hospice do the rest. If you get the right company, they are great. They will bring all that he needs right to your home.
Good luck..let me know if you need any thing else....
Lilli
Just think if Lilli and I were traveling all over the continent and making agencies tow the line. I have my machine gun, she has her calculator, our brazen attitudes. This country would run a whole lot better. We'll take Jen with us and she can argue while we um, calculate. Get her out of the house. Huh, Jen?
Duck and cover....
Lilli
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Now that that's out of the way I feel happier!
Man, we are feisty tonight...
christina i have some dynomite here woo hoo , lets go kick some hinneys lalala .
hey dad sure was puttin me to work ! he wante dto sit in recliner after begin in it all day , i said no ure going to bed . he said no and pointed the recliner i tld him i wasnt about to get him up again to go for bed . u have tv in there and u be more comfty in bed . go him in bed and my back went pop . then he wanted to go to bathroom , uhhhh no pa . golly liftin 180 lbs man around geeze !
i just dont want him layin in bed all day but i will if i have to . most ofthe times he wants to stay in bed , so thats good .
ok gotta shut this down and you all have a good night sleep .
love you all tons . xoxox
called the dr and told t he nurse about it all . she said she s suprise that the hospital did not set up the hospices since dr there had ordered one . said he has appt on 18 th and on the 19 th she was blown away , she said she ll get back with me after meowin at the dr all about it and let me know what he says .
sooo
yep it sure is shitofranic lalalala .
love you all and have a great day woo woo . xoxox
Looking good this morning, I'm still here and didn't get kicked off the site after the graphic posts last night, lol
Omg, I had to put a sweatshirt on when I took the dogs out this morning! Whahaha!!
Just goading those of you living where it's really really cold. Before you have a "shitofrantic" moment let me say; I lived in PA for 5 yrs so I remember what real cold is like. Linda I love that word and promise to use it a lot. :) Just a little suggestion about Pa's doc... if he doesn't follow through and get hospice out to you instead of expecting you to bring Pa in, FIRE him. Call Hospice yourself and they will have their own doc come to you. Remember there is always another way and there are always people out there who will help. In the meanwhile how about getting yourself a back-brace? It might help. You might even be able to go to Wallyworld and find one of those waist belts to give your back some support, Lord knows you need it..."pop" omg! that is not good.
Thank you Lilli and Carolyn for the New Years wishes through emails.
Jen, are you still alive? I hope no one lit a match and you all when BOOM!
Have a good day everyone, you to Kimmy, lol
Love Cricket
austin - u made me smile . ure a sweetheart love u bunches .
cricket ! ure cold !! yep bro said its cold down there and he is wearing long johns , lol ... bobbie looo !! hope ure warm . kitty keep ur feet warm wont she ? hug her for me and tell her to hug u back for me .
ill keep u guys update on hospice s thangs . but i think i am going to bundle up in my coverhauls and go walk my bandit . sheba is needing to go poop bad but she wont do it near the house she wants to g down the street , phhhhhhhht i aint walkin in that cold wind last night , sorry girl ..
alright got all my bills paid . gawd ! it realy adds up ! fkin bullshit .
have a merry day and have a shitofranic day lalala . xoxoxo
I'm afraid I haven't kept up with what's going on here. I just haven't had the time or when I get home at night I just want to drop dead.
My goodness we have so many new ones on the thread now. Hello to you all and welcome. This is a great place to be.
Hello to all my old friends...you know who you are so I won't tax my muddled brain trying to name everyone. I love you guys!!
I'm taking a half day off to get a little house work done so I had better get to work. I'm sure Mom is fretting over my not being there. She wants me there every minute. She has stopped eating unless I'm there to help her, but today she'll just have to do without me for a while.
Love to you all,
Ann
I will have a shitofranic night! Dad still sleeping! He will be up around 10pm tonight! Worn out physically and mentally! Dad did get up once today! Had taken off depends and noticed a huge wet spot on his sweat pants! Got him cleaned and changed! He seems out of it completely in the day and more with it at night! We bought some spiced rum for egg nog just used a little! Had it out on kitchen counter! Christmas day noticed the level had gone down by half! When Dad got up to open his presents in the afternoon, he was acting really weird! Walking was more impaired than normal. Took him up to get shower, and he started gagging like he was going to throw up! Smelled like rum! Mystery solved! Rum now hidden in a dark corner of the cabinet! Got to go! Wanted to check in with you all! Laying floor in the apartment! Not too hard, just physically draining with everything else! Laundry going non-stop! Love you all! XXOO
hospice called and they re comin out tmr at 1030 . tld my sis in law , shes gonna see if she can get off work and come here too , she wants to hear what the hospices are gonna say , prevent my head going around and around .
i bundle up and took the dogs for a walk . it was nice and the dogs were so happy . hubby called ask me if i feel like cookin i said well i can but not realy so hes brinin home papa john bq chicken pizza , havent had that in a long time . he s a sweetheart .
annt- bless ur heart for wantin to keep mom at home once rehab is over . i know the feeling and that is why dad is here . he hated it at rehab and do did i . i just hope and pray my kids will do what ive done for my pa . but if they do throw me in nursng home i guess i ll die quicker ugh ?
ok coffee s ready and gonna stand by the door and greet my hubby , he returned back to work today after begin on vacation for 3 weeks . :-) , house so quite without him here ,
love you all u have a great day . xoxoxo
I am having a peaceful hour in my room after a crazy day. The two daughters of one of my helpers have decided to sleep at my house tonight. They are sleeping in the same room as my mother's, because it is the warmest one. I hear them screaming and fighting and I just hope they don't wake my mother up, because otherwise tomorrow it will be a hell of a day. I am too tired to go into the other room and tell them to stop. You know, sisters... Always love/hate between them. Now I hear silence. Are they watching TV or they have killed each other? I will check tomorrow morning. I am going to bed now. Good nite everybody. My mother tonight is the less insane in the house. And this is hard to say, as yesterday she put 2 syringes in my boots. She found the syringes in the car (we had bought them to give her antibiotics) and she hid them in my boots. (Do you remember Ladeeda, the bananas and the butter knives?) I am lucky she hadn't opened the packaging! Otherwise it would have been very painful.
Another story of ordinary madness....
If you can start the day without caffeine,
If you can always be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,
If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,
If you can eat the same food every day, and be grateful for it,
If you can understand when your loved ones are too busy to give you any time,
If you can take criticism and blame without resentment,
If you can conquer tension without medication,
If you can relax without alcohol,
If you can sleep without the aid of drugs
THEN YOU ARE PROBABLY THE FAMILY DOG!
Year. We were so busy I never got a chance to sit at the computer let alone check my e-mail. I had a total of 432 unread emails! Holy smokes! Any way, I hope you all had terrific holidays. Gotta go now. Love you all.