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Once there was a man who lost one of his arms in an accident. He became very depressed because he had loved to play Golf .
One day in his despair, he decided to commit suicide. He got on an elevator and went to the top of a building to jump off.
As he was standing on the ledge looking down, he saw this man skipping along, whooping and kicking up his heels. He looked closer and saw that the man didn't have any arms at all.
He started thinking, what am I doing up here feeling sorry for myself, I still have one good arm to do things with. There goes a man with no arms skipping down the sidewalk so happy, and going on with his life.
He hurried down and caught up with the man with no arms. He told him how glad he was to see him because he had lost one of his arms and felt useless and was going to kill himself. He thanked him again for saving his life and said he knew he could make it with one arm if that guy could go on with no arms.
The man with no arms began dancing and whooping and kicking up his heels again. He asked, 'Why are you so happy anyway?'
He said, "'I'm NOT happy.
My balls itch."
Stories like this just makes one want to cry...how heart-warming.
The testicles of a Texas midget hurt and ached almost all the time.
The midget went to the doctor and told him about his problem. The doctor told him to drop his pants and he would have a look.
The midget dropped his pants. The doctor stood him up Onto the examining table, and started to examine him.
The doctor put one finger under his left testicle And told the midget to turn his head and cough, the usual method To check for a hernia.
"Hmm..." mumbled the doctor, and as he put his finger under the Right testicle, he asked the midget to cough again. "Aha!" said the doctor, and reached for his surgical scissors....
Snip-snip-snip-snip on the right side... Then Snip-snip-snip-snip on the left side.
The midget was so scared he was afraid to look, but noted With amazement that the snipping did not hurt.
The doctor then told the midget to walk around the Examining room to see if his testicles still hurt.
The midget was absolutely delighted as he walked around and discovered his testicles were no longer aching.
The doctor said, "How does that feel now?"
The midget replied, "Perfect Doc, and I didn't Even feel it. What did you do?"
The doctor replied; "I cut two inches off the top of your cowboy boots...."
I had lunch with 2 of my unmarried friends. One is engaged, one is a mistress, and I have been married for 20+ years.
We were chatting about our relationships and decided to amaze our men by greeting them at the door Wearing a black bra, stiletto heels and a mask over our eyes. We agreed to meet in a few days to exchange notes..
Here's how it all went.
My engaged friend: The other night when my boyfriend came over he found me with a black leather bodice, tall stilettos and a mask. He saw me and said, 'You are the woman of my dreams. I love you.' Then we made passionate love all night long.
The mistress: Me too! The other night I met my lover at his office and I was wearing a raincoat, under it only the black bra, heels and Mask over my eyes. When I opened the raincoat he didn't say a word, but he started to tremble and we had wild sex all night.
Then I had to share my story: When my husband came home I was wearing the black bra, Black stockings, stilettos and a mask over my eyes. When he came in the door and saw me he said,
Wow! the toilet story! Loved it Kimmy! Need you on the boat big time!
Rossella, I remember that part in American Beauty and yes, it generates a good feeling. I know that you have had a rough winter with so much loss. The winter is gone in about another 6 weeks and you will feel better and better I bet. Then you will go and put your toes in the sea. the best healer!
Cuz, you sick so and so. thank God you're here. How's everybody?
Ucantcare2much, good to see you here and ya, without humor we are screwed, blued and tattooed! I know when I was in the trenches caring for my mom I kept saying to myself that there's got to be a joke in here somewhere..... somewhere...
all of you caregivers are incredible as you all well know. And Cuz too!
The Boat Angel has to go back to the hospital tomorrow for 2 or 3 rounds of chemo. Insane. Meanwhile, even though he is sick he keeps the galley spotless and is always polite and sweet. He is depressed of course, who wouldn't be, and thanks Cricket for the iPod idea. The difference in caring for an 89 year old demented parent and a 54 year old cancer patient is staggering. This one is in his right mind and helpful when he can be and when he can't it's because of the aftereffects of chemo and the cancer itself. I am pulling out the Macrobiotic tricks that I learned years ago and have saved my own bacon with more than once. He is a Southern boy through and through and is having a little trouble adjusting to something that isn't sweet tea and fried chicken. Last night, his head throbbing, I put a mix of Sesame oil and grated Ginger on the spots that hurt and just lightly rubbed until I could feel his breathing change and he fell asleep. Worked better than Excedrin haha. of course you have to put a towel down and he smelled like he fell into a wok at the China House but so what.
Hopefully the chemo will work, he will respond and get better and now that he is in a supportive environment and not suffering alone perhaps that will make a positive difference also.
ok, off to make myself some Joe. just had my Macrobiotic 'morning drink' and now am going to balance it out with some kick butt coffee.
love you guys and thx for your patience with me while I attempted to overcome the grieving process of my mom, the house and all of the memories and now this new period where I am caring for a sick person and a boat! This is my New Normal.
Ugh.....I'm back. No matter what I type, I know someone on this thread is going say --- been there, done that. That's why I write. So thank you in advance! Dad's medicare coverage runs out on Friday so we decided that he will stay in the NH and private pay until we spend down to medicaid. I convinced him and Mom that it was the right thing to do since he needs lots of care to function (in every way) and there is no room in a one bedroom apartment for a full time caregiver, which is what he would need. That's all ok. Now, I'm meeting with a lawyer this week to discuss how to legally spend down to medicaid. If anyone has any good links for me to read up on this, I would appreciate it. And my stupid a$$ sibling has reared it's ugly head (hasn't called or written to me since October '10 when I asked for help and she said no), because she heard we are spending all their money (except for what Mom is allowed as the community spouse), and there won't be any for her. I cried so hard last night knowing what is ahead for Dad. But I know it is the right thing for him. Mom has hip surgery in a few weeks and will be at the same home rehabbing. Then she'll go home and he won't. That will be a tough one.
Gloomy day here in western PA but it is warmer than usual. I have laundry staring me in the face and a load of paperwork to do. It's been difficult to file paid bills etc. because I couldn't see the tabs very well - so I let it pile up. ugh. Well,, at least I have some time before I have to pull the tax information together.
Cricket, good luck on the exam! You go girl! I agree with you - Kim is a super hero! Oh, by the way , Cricket, how on earth do you do the art thing? It intrigues me! Jsome - red hair - now there's a statement! Glad you are doing something for yourself. Ucant - keep on laughing. There's nothing wrong with laughing - in fact, it's great medicine. I even laugh with mom when she's telling me about her hallucinated visitors.. She has dementia and I can't change her reality, so I make jokes sometimes to redirect her thinking. It works - for both of us because I get depressed listening to how sad her life is believing the hallucinated people ignore and disrespect her. So I say - Laugh out loud and often! Ksobhie - I loved the Groundhog movie mention. You brought a thought to my mind - my life is like that movie, too. Scary thought! That's why we caregivers have to cherish the little "good" things or rainbows that appear now and again.
I will tell you that I had a rainbow the other day. I told Mom I was going to reconcile her bank account and just send her a report that she can file. Instead of arguing with me, she said "I appreciate all you do for me". I almost fainted!
On that note, I am smiling because of that little happy moment and now I will tackle the laundry. ((hugs))) and happy thoughts of all of you! Carolyn
SS ask your lawyer about spousal refusal it is legal in NY and a friend of mine was able to get some of her husbands pensio-it is worth a try-you made the right decision -pick a nursing home near by so you can pop in often-once the staff knows you it will be better-and a box of cookies once in a whilestay away from Danish butter cookies-they get tons of them because they are cheaper.
That's awesome Jsomebody. I just went and had four inches taken off of my hair also. I also got all of my facial waxing done, which I have to say is a vast improvement. It's been over three months since my last hair cut and it was getting rather shaggy. To be trimmed and tidy. How nice to feel like myself again.
Heard a good story that I thought you guys might like.
~ Never Judge Anyone ~
A doctor entered the hospital in a hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call ASAP, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block. He found the boy’s father going and coming in the hall waiting for the doctor. Once seeing him, the dad yelled: “Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have the sense of responsibility?” The doctor smiled and said: “I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came the fastest I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work” “Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??” said the father angrily The doctor smiled again and replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Bible “From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace” “Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father. The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, “Thank God! Your son is saved!” And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If you have any question, ask the nurse!!” “Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left. The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.” NEVER JUDGE ANYONE because you never know how their life is and as to what is happening or what they’re going through.
Pam's Story In a recent email, I read about a woman named Pam, who knows the pain of considering abortion. More than 24 years ago, she and her husband Bob were serving as missionaries to the Philippines and praying for a fifth child. Pam contracted amoebic dysentery, an infection of the intestine caused by a parasite found in contaminated food or drink. She went into a coma and was treated with strong... antibiotics before they discovered she was pregnant. Doctors urged her to abort the baby for her own safety and told her that the medicines had caused irreversible damage to her baby. She refused the abortion and cited her Christian faith as the reason for her hope that her son would be born without the devastating disabilities physicians predicted. Pam said the doctors didn't think of it as a life, they thought of it as a mass of fetal tissue. While pregnant, Pam nearly lost their baby four times but refused to consider abortion. She recalled making a pledge to God with her husband: If you willgive us a son, we'll name him Timothy and we'll make him a preacher. Pam ultimately spent the last two months of her pregnancy in bed and eventually gave birth to a healthy baby boy August 14, 1987. Pam's youngest son is indeed a preacher. He preaches in prisons, makes hospital visits, and serves with his father's ministry in the Philippines. He also plays football. Pam's son is Tim Tebow. The University of Florida's star quarterback became the first sophomore in history to win college football's highest award, the Heisman Trophy. His current role as quarterback of the Denver Broncos has provided an incredible platform for Christian witness. As a result, he is being called The Mile-High Messiah. Tim's notoriety and the family's inspiring story have given Pam numerous opportunities to speak on behalf of women's centers across the country. Pam Tebow believes that every little baby you save matters.
Angelhair thank you so much for sharing that story-I know a young lady whose grandparents wanted her to be abored because it was not convient for their daughter to be pregnant and thank God her mother decided to have her-she is a blessing to many of us.
If any of you have already heard this I apologize, but it was so funny that I just had to share it.
If you didn't see this on the Tonight show, I hope you're sitting down when you read it. This is probably the funniest date story ever, first date or not!!! We have all had bad dates but this takes the cake.
Jay Leno went into the audience to find the most embarrassing first date that a woman ever had. The winner described her worst first date experience. There was absolutely no question as to why her tale took the prize! She said it was midwinter...Snowing and quite cold... and the guy had taken her skiing in the mountains outside Salt Lake City, Utah. It was a day trip (no overnight). They were strangers, after all, and had never met before. The outing was fun but relatively uneventful until they were headed home late that afternoon. They were driving back down the mountain, when she gradually began to realize that she should not have had that extra latte. ! ! They were about an hour away from anywhere with a rest room and in the middle of nowhere! Her companion suggested she try to hold it, which she did for a while. Unfortunately, because of the heavy snow and slow going, there came a point here she told him that he had better stop and let her go beside the road, or it would be the front seat of his car. They stopped and she quickly crawled out beside the car, yanked her pants down and started. In the deep snow she didn't have good footing, so she let her butt rest against the rear fender to steady herself. Her companion stood on the side of the car watching for traffic and indeed was a real gentleman and refrained from peeking. All she could think about was the relief she felt despite the rather embarrassing nature of the situation. Upon finishing however, she soon became aware of another sensation. As she bent to pull up her pants, the young lady discovered her buttocks were firmly glued against the car's fender. Thoughts of tongues frozen to poles immediately came to mind as she attempted to disengage her flesh from the icy metal. It was quickly apparent that she had a brand new problem, due to the extreme cold. Horrified by her plight and yet aware of the humor of the moment, she answered her date's concerns about' what is taking so long' with a reply that indeed, she was 'freezing her butt off' and in need of some assistance! He came around the car as she tried to cover herself with her sweater and then, as she looked imploringly into his eyes, he burst out laughing. She too, got the giggles and when they finally managed to compose themselves, they assessed her dilemma. Obviously, as hysterical as the situation was, they also were faced with a real problem. Both agreed it would take something hot to free her chilly cheeks from the grip of the icy metal! Thinking about what had gotten her into the predicament in the first place, both quickly realized that there was only one way to get her free. So, as she looked the other way, her first time date proceeded to unzip his pants and pee her butt off the fender. As the audience screamed in laughter, she took the Tonight Show prize hands down. Or perhaps that should be 'pants down’. And you thought your first date was embarrassing. Jay Leno's comment... 'This gives a whole new meaning to being pissed off. Oh and how did the first date turn out? He became her husband and was sitting next to her on the Leno show.
hi there folks . shitofranic here ... letting you all know that i am thinking of you and wove you all . rossella . u made me smile when u said i am happy when i etc . yep happy go lady we are . lalala. pa s acting like a dead man . i ck him , his skin is kinda hard and cool but he s breathing . bath lady came and gave him spnoge bath , it was all wa wa wa . then i fixed him bfast , kept his eyes closed while i fed him , ate very little , drank very little . back to actin like a dead man . i dont like that one bit . makin me sad . oh mercy sakes . love you all and bobbie give ur angel boat a big hug for me . shitofranic needs to go to town . cvs here i come . needing more drugs to keep us alive woo woo whooo . yack at ya later gators xoxoxo
I am just checking in... Major snowstorms are expected the next days and a temperature drop... I only have 4 dogs and 5 cats now and we are all gathering around the stove. I am not used to cold weather!
I got brave enough to go for a walk with super girl again today. Sort of cheated though. We weren't finished before lunch until 12:15, so I knew we only had time for a 30 minute walk. I managed an even longer walk last Sunday. Got to take the horses for a ride on an old mining trail thru the Christmas Mountians, in the Big Bend Park. It was a 16 mile trail, with a 5000 foot change in elevation. I'm so out of shape, just had to get off and walk. Ended up walking almost 4 miles. My horse appreciated that. Now I have shin splints, but it was worth it. Beautiful ride. Congrats on your B Cricket. Not bad at all. Your Boat Angel is lucky to have you. Sorry your Dad is doing worse, Linda. I know how hard it is to watch. Rosella, hope your cold spell isn't too bad. I 'm not sure if you have me beat on pets or not, can I count my barn animals? Thanks for the laughs Cuz. OK this is bad, but someone sent it to my boss (I work for a Dentist). I man comes to the Dentist to get a tooth pulled. But when the Dentist starts to give him a shot, the man says, "no way, I hate needles". So the Dentist turns on the nitrous oxide gas, and the man says "I can't stand the gas mask, it makes me feel like I'm suffocating". So the Dentist asks if the patient can take a pill. The man says that would be fine, no problem taking pills. So the Dentist leaves the room and comes back with a bottle of Viagra. The patient is surprised, says " I didn't know viagra worked as a pain killer". Dentist, says "It doesn't, but it will give you something to hang onto while I pull your tooth.
Hello everyone. Congrats Cricket, pretty cool. And to everyone else that I don't know that well - hope your day is stress free and happy. I haven't been on here for awhile and I just wanted to keep my seat on the boat. I love reading all your posts. We had a caregiver the other day so we could go to the Super Bowl festivities, wonderful day away. Well mom was trying to change her depend and she had a real load in there and I guess it spilt out on the bed and down her leg. The caregiver told me about it over and over (there was corn in there). I apologized over and over and finally said "well I guess that is part of your job, right" and she just shrugged. Isn't that what caregivers are suppose to do?
That is her job for peat sakes-I am glad you gave her the answer-I did worse while a nurse and never got 25 dollars an hour doing it and then went home to a sick husband.
Thanks everyone, I'm glad you posted golfhard! I was wondering where you were. And it's terrible how someone with the caregiving profession will go on and on like that about the job, maybe she needs to change professions. Austin many of them aren't even satisfied with $25 an hour!
For anyone who wants a good green juice recipe I am going to go post mine at "recipes" It's great for energy!
Hi Everyone, I checked out the Green juice! Is that what you have been living on this last week? Super energy, Cricket. Congratulations on your test. I took my midterm in Bio Anthropology this morning. Mostly essay and it was scary but fun:) Golf, so nice to see you. Hope you are feeling better. Did you get your caregiver through an agency? There are online registries for caregivers--like caregiverneeded.com and care.com. I found all three of Mother's caregivers there and they were great. You need to interview them after you determine what your criteria are. Have questions ready to ask and know the answer you want to hear, then see how they respond. You are the boss. What about changing the depends?I have no patience with good for nothing people. Next. Going to do Mother's manicure then get my own pedicure today. I found out in class today that my longer second toe is an inherited deformity, and now that I also have Morton's Neuroma, I am doomed. haha Nanu, Nanu. Gotta go. Takes forever to do Mother's manicure anymore. Difficult to polish nails because she cannot hold still:( I'm going to try anyway. Looks prettier. TTYL, Hugs and Love to ALL!!! Christina xo.
Cricket how do you manage to make all those drawings. Girls, I had 20 cats at the beginning of 2010. I lost 15! (between the ones who live at home and the others who live outside, of course). I think it's understandable that I love more the ones who live inside, we have a stronger relationship. I lost almost all of them! Very hard those 2 years, and those last months especially. It's very cold here, we are awaiting the snow. Tomorrow I am going to Rome and I hope I can take some pictures of Rome under the snow, it should be beautiful. I had 5 sweaters on top of another today, and the anorak. I looked like the Michelin Man. I couldn't even move. I bought pellets, kerosene, food because we could be isolated the next days. My mother the Iron Woman doesn't even feel the cold.
Rossella, I wish you warmth from the inside and I'll see you in Rome. I'll be flying by in my dreams. Look up and you'll think you see a shooting star. And no, Cricket, I will Not be on a broom. "O Solo Mio, it's cold up here, Rosella Bella, be of good cheer, Tomorrow, it WILL be warm, you'll do some swimming, no MORRRRe forelorn" Or something like that. I know, now you'll be humming that tune off and on a day and into the shower. Elvis just left the building. I just gave Mother her manicure while she talked to some guy she did not want to be in her room. She held still and her nails are perfect. Too cold here for her walk. We had a pear and now she is starting to wake up. Have a good evening y'all. xo
meanwhile - i love what u just did , horses and those good walks and horse appreciate you to walk side by side . i bet u talk to him too dont ya . we all here are so kinded heart i tell ya ! austin - did u find the man u fell in love with yet ? gone out to eat here lately ? takes ur food to take home to eat later lol lol . men men men !!
hey i love that dentist joke lol . that made me smile . angelhair - love what u posetd , i read em agin and again ,
christina - you better get u some b grades . elvis be comin back in and sing u some bbbbb then slip an a along there too . heeheee , u did nails today ! hell i did too , clip pa s toenails and smother his feet with coconut oil . ohhhhhhhhhhhh felt so good . was going to do his finger nails then but didnt cuz my sis in law andmy aunt stop by , had a good visit ...
cricket - happy for u to get an b , thats is realy close to an a . if it was me i be havin an f lalala , i do not care , i dislike school . always have and always will . walk in the school building im sick already ! beh like jen would say .... :-)
rossella - more cats will come by and meow at ya . few more dogs too . you have a big heart ! opens ur arms to any creature god created for u . hope you stay warm and have plenty of cigg and food till spring rolls in .
ground hog just woke up the wrong side of bed and says we re havin 6 more weeks of winter . well hell .
nurse came and said pa is declinin more and i said ure talkin months ? she said no im talking weeks . :-( . broke my heart and sis just sobb and sobb . wow , happens so fast ..... bro s all heart broken cuz he lives so far away ... i think im going to tell him to come up soon . just a feeling i have .. i love each one of you guys . i think about each one of you everyday . where is annt ???? selfishsibblings , jenny louuuuu . pamela !!!! i always see her name at the first page , top line aww lord !! love it and i sure miss her .
goodnight folks and will try to post again soon . it seems i dont have time to be on puter anymore . wow go go go .. goodnight xoxoxo
And went red as well. looks crazy but I like it, one wash in regular shampoo to soften it and it'll be fine.
Gonna put down the new carpet/rug in fp room tomorrow while he is at adult day health. Hope it helps some with the stink. maybe now that he is permanently in Depends, less urine will hit the floor. we shall see...or smell. and then...nope...he had diarrhea some time today and it is all over the rug...well so we start fresh with a new one and he can befoul that. It is what it is...
Pro choice here, glad the baby was healthy after all that...
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Once there was a man who lost one of his arms in an accident. He became very depressed because he had loved to play Golf .
One day in his despair, he decided to commit suicide. He got on an elevator and went to the top of a building to jump off.
As he was standing on the ledge looking down, he saw this man skipping along, whooping and kicking up his heels. He looked closer and saw that the man didn't have any arms at all.
He started thinking, what am I doing up here feeling sorry for myself, I still have one good arm to do things with. There goes a man with no arms skipping down the sidewalk so happy, and going on with his life.
He hurried down and caught up with the man with no arms. He told him how glad he was to see him because he had lost one of his arms and felt useless and was going to kill himself. He thanked him again for saving his life and said he knew he could make it with one arm if that guy could go on with no arms.
The man with no arms began dancing and whooping and kicking up his heels again. He asked, 'Why are you so happy anyway?'
He said, "'I'm NOT happy.
My balls itch."
Stories like this just makes one want to cry...how heart-warming.
The testicles of a Texas midget hurt and ached almost all the time.
The midget went to the doctor and told him about his problem.
The doctor told him to drop his pants and he would have a look.
The midget dropped his pants. The doctor stood him up
Onto the examining table, and started to examine him.
The doctor put one finger under his left testicle
And told the midget to turn his head and cough, the usual method
To check for a hernia.
"Hmm..." mumbled the doctor, and as he put his finger under the
Right testicle, he asked the midget to cough again.
"Aha!" said the doctor, and reached for his surgical scissors....
Snip-snip-snip-snip on the right side... Then
Snip-snip-snip-snip on the left side.
The midget was so scared he was afraid to look, but noted
With amazement that the snipping did not hurt.
The doctor then told the midget to walk around the
Examining room to see if his testicles still hurt.
The midget was absolutely delighted as he walked around and discovered his testicles were no longer aching.
The doctor said, "How does that feel now?"
The midget replied, "Perfect Doc, and I didn't
Even feel it. What did you do?"
The doctor replied;
"I cut two inches off the top of your cowboy boots...."
I had lunch with 2 of my unmarried friends.
One is engaged, one is a mistress, and I have been married for 20+ years.
We were chatting about our relationships and decided to amaze our men by greeting them at the door
Wearing a black bra, stiletto heels and a mask over our eyes. We agreed to meet in a few days to exchange notes..
Here's how it all went.
My engaged friend:
The other night when my boyfriend came over he found me with a black leather bodice, tall stilettos and a mask.
He saw me and said, 'You are the woman of my dreams.
I love you.' Then we made passionate love all night long.
The mistress:
Me too! The other night I met my lover at his office and I was wearing a raincoat, under it only the black bra, heels and Mask over my eyes. When I opened the raincoat he didn't say a word, but he started to tremble and we had wild sex all night.
Then I had to share my story:
When my husband came home I was wearing the black bra, Black stockings, stilettos and a mask over my eyes.
When he came in the door and saw me he said,
(you are going to love this…..
"What's for dinner, Zorro?"
Wow! the toilet story! Loved it Kimmy! Need you on the boat big time!
Rossella, I remember that part in American Beauty and yes, it generates a good feeling. I know that you have had a rough winter with so much loss. The winter is gone in about another 6 weeks and you will feel better and better I bet. Then you will go and put your toes in the sea. the best healer!
Cuz, you sick so and so. thank God you're here. How's everybody?
Ucantcare2much, good to see you here and ya, without humor we are screwed, blued and tattooed! I know when I was in the trenches caring for my mom I kept saying to myself that there's got to be a joke in here somewhere..... somewhere...
all of you caregivers are incredible as you all well know. And Cuz too!
The Boat Angel has to go back to the hospital tomorrow for 2 or 3 rounds of chemo. Insane.
Meanwhile, even though he is sick he keeps the galley spotless and is always polite and sweet. He is depressed of course, who wouldn't be, and thanks Cricket for the iPod idea.
The difference in caring for an 89 year old demented parent and a 54 year old cancer patient is staggering. This one is in his right mind and helpful when he can be and when he can't it's because of the aftereffects of chemo and the cancer itself.
I am pulling out the Macrobiotic tricks that I learned years ago and have saved my own bacon with more than once. He is a Southern boy through and through and is having a little trouble adjusting to something that isn't sweet tea and fried chicken.
Last night, his head throbbing, I put a mix of Sesame oil and grated Ginger on the spots that hurt and just lightly rubbed until I could feel his breathing change and he fell asleep. Worked better than Excedrin haha. of course you have to put a towel down and he smelled like he fell into a wok at the China House but so what.
Hopefully the chemo will work, he will respond and get better and now that he is in a supportive environment and not suffering alone perhaps that will make a positive difference also.
ok, off to make myself some Joe. just had my Macrobiotic 'morning drink' and now am going to balance it out with some kick butt coffee.
love you guys and thx for your patience with me while I attempted to overcome the grieving process of my mom, the house and all of the memories and now this new period where I am caring for a sick person and a boat!
This is my New Normal.
lovbob
Luv u all.
-SS
Cricket, good luck on the exam! You go girl! I agree with you - Kim is a super hero! Oh, by the way , Cricket, how on earth do you do the art thing? It intrigues me!
Jsome - red hair - now there's a statement! Glad you are doing something for yourself.
Ucant - keep on laughing. There's nothing wrong with laughing - in fact, it's great medicine. I even laugh with mom when she's telling me about her hallucinated visitors.. She has dementia and I can't change her reality, so I make jokes sometimes to redirect her thinking. It works - for both of us because I get depressed listening to how sad her life is believing the hallucinated people ignore and disrespect her. So I say - Laugh out loud and often!
Ksobhie - I loved the Groundhog movie mention. You brought a thought to my mind - my life is like that movie, too. Scary thought! That's why we caregivers have to cherish the little "good" things or rainbows that appear now and again.
I will tell you that I had a rainbow the other day. I told Mom I was going to reconcile her bank account and just send her a report that she can file. Instead of arguing with me, she said "I appreciate all you do for me". I almost fainted!
On that note, I am smiling because of that little happy moment and now I will tackle the laundry. ((hugs))) and happy thoughts of all of you! Carolyn
~ Never Judge Anyone ~
A doctor entered the hospital in a hurry after being called in for an urgent surgery. He answered the call ASAP, changed his clothes and went directly to the surgery block.
He found the boy’s father going and coming in the hall waiting for the doctor. Once seeing him, the dad yelled:
“Why did you take all this time to come? Don’t you know that my son’s life is in danger? Don’t you have the sense of responsibility?”
The doctor smiled and said:
“I am sorry, I wasn’t in the hospital and I came the fastest I could after receiving the call…… And now, I wish you’d calm down so that I can do my work”
“Calm down?! What if your son was in this room right now, would you calm down? If your own son dies now what will you do??” said the father angrily
The doctor smiled again and replied: “I will say what Job said in the Holy Bible “From dust we came and to dust we return, blessed be the name of God”. Doctors cannot prolong lives. Go and intercede for your son, we will do our best by God’s grace”
“Giving advice when we’re not concerned is so easy” Murmured the father.
The surgery took some hours after which the doctor went out happy, “Thank God! Your son is saved!”
And without waiting for the father’s reply he carried on his way running. “If you have any question, ask the nurse!!”
“Why is he so arrogant? He couldn’t wait some minutes so that I ask about my son’s state” Commented the father when seeing the nurse minutes after the doctor left.
The nurse answered, tears coming down her face: “His son died yesterday in a road accident, he was in the burial when we called him for your son’s surgery. And now that he saved your son’s life, he left running to finish his son’s burial.”
NEVER JUDGE ANYONE because you never know how their life is and as to what is happening or what they’re going through.
...I'll try again tomorrow."
Thomas S. Monson
Pam's Story
In a recent email, I read about a woman named Pam, who knows the pain of considering abortion. More than 24 years ago, she and her husband Bob were serving as missionaries to the Philippines and praying for a fifth child. Pam contracted amoebic dysentery, an infection of the intestine caused by a parasite found in contaminated food or drink. She went into a coma and was treated with strong... antibiotics before they discovered she was pregnant.
Doctors urged her to abort the baby for her own safety and told her that the medicines had caused irreversible damage to her baby. She refused the abortion and cited her Christian faith as the reason for her hope that her son would be born without the devastating disabilities physicians predicted. Pam said the doctors didn't think of it as a life, they thought of it as a mass of fetal tissue.
While pregnant, Pam nearly lost their baby four times but refused to consider abortion. She recalled making a pledge to God with her husband: If you willgive us a son, we'll name him Timothy and we'll make him a preacher.
Pam ultimately spent the last two months of her pregnancy in bed and eventually gave birth to a healthy baby boy August 14, 1987. Pam's youngest son is indeed a preacher. He preaches in prisons, makes hospital visits, and serves with his father's ministry in the Philippines. He also plays football. Pam's son is Tim Tebow.
The University of Florida's star quarterback became the first sophomore in history to win college football's highest award, the Heisman Trophy. His current role as quarterback of the Denver Broncos has provided an incredible platform for Christian witness. As a result, he is being called The Mile-High Messiah.
Tim's notoriety and the family's inspiring story have given Pam numerous opportunities to speak on behalf of women's centers across the country. Pam Tebow believes that every little baby you save matters.
If you didn't see this on the Tonight show, I hope you're sitting down when you read it. This is probably the funniest date story ever, first date or not!!! We have all had bad dates but this takes the cake.
Jay Leno went into the audience to find the most embarrassing first date that a woman ever had. The winner described her worst first date experience.
There was absolutely no question as to why her tale took the prize!
She said it was midwinter...Snowing and quite cold... and the guy had taken her skiing in the mountains outside Salt Lake City, Utah.
It was a day trip (no overnight). They were strangers, after all, and had never met before. The outing was fun but relatively uneventful until they were headed home late that afternoon.
They were driving back down the mountain, when she gradually began to realize that she should not have had that extra latte. ! ! They were about an hour away from anywhere with a rest room and in the middle of nowhere! Her companion suggested she try to hold it, which she did for a while. Unfortunately, because of the heavy snow and slow going, there came a point here she told him that he had better stop and let her go beside the road, or it would be the front seat of his car.
They stopped and she quickly crawled out beside the car, yanked her pants down and started. In the deep snow she didn't have good footing, so she let her butt rest against the rear fender to steady herself. Her companion stood on the side of the car watching for traffic and indeed was a real gentleman and refrained from peeking. All she could think about was the relief she felt despite the rather embarrassing nature of the situation.
Upon finishing however, she soon became aware of another sensation. As she bent to pull up her pants, the young lady discovered her buttocks were firmly glued against the car's fender. Thoughts of tongues frozen to poles immediately came to mind as she attempted to disengage her flesh from the icy metal. It was quickly apparent that she had a brand new problem, due to the extreme cold.
Horrified by her plight and yet aware of the humor of the moment, she answered her date's concerns about' what is taking so long' with a reply that indeed, she was 'freezing her butt off' and in need of some assistance! He came around the car as she tried to cover herself with her sweater and then, as she looked imploringly into his eyes, he burst out laughing. She too, got the giggles and when they finally managed to compose themselves, they assessed her dilemma. Obviously, as hysterical as the situation was, they also were faced with a real problem.
Both agreed it would take something hot to free her chilly cheeks from the grip of the icy metal! Thinking about what had gotten her into the predicament in the first place, both quickly realized that there was only one way to get her free. So, as she looked the other way, her first time date proceeded to unzip his pants and pee her butt off the fender.
As the audience screamed in laughter, she took the Tonight Show prize hands down. Or perhaps that should be 'pants down’. And you thought your first date was embarrassing. Jay Leno's comment... 'This gives a whole new meaning to being pissed off.
Oh and how did the first date turn out? He became her husband and was sitting next to her on the Leno show.
rossella . u made me smile when u said i am happy when i etc . yep happy go lady we are .
lalala.
pa s acting like a dead man . i ck him , his skin is kinda hard and cool but he s breathing . bath lady came and gave him spnoge bath , it was all wa wa wa . then i fixed him bfast , kept his eyes closed while i fed him , ate very little , drank very little . back to actin like a dead man .
i dont like that one bit . makin me sad .
oh mercy sakes .
love you all and bobbie give ur angel boat a big hug for me .
shitofranic needs to go to town . cvs here i come . needing more drugs to keep us alive woo woo whooo .
yack at ya later gators xoxoxo
Nothing new and exciting here. Just wanted to stop in and let you know I'm thinking of you and appreciate each and everyone of you.
Love ya,
Diane
Hi everyone, I hope everyone is safe and warm tonight. Linda give Pa a hug from me and here's one for you to {{{{{{Linda}}}}}}
I passed my test today, not with flying colors but hey I got a B :)
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I managed an even longer walk last Sunday. Got to take the horses for a ride on an old mining trail thru the Christmas Mountians, in the Big Bend Park. It was a 16 mile trail, with a 5000 foot change in elevation. I'm so out of shape, just had to get off and walk. Ended up walking almost 4 miles. My horse appreciated that. Now I have shin splints, but it was worth it. Beautiful ride.
Congrats on your B Cricket. Not bad at all. Your Boat Angel is lucky to have you.
Sorry your Dad is doing worse, Linda. I know how hard it is to watch.
Rosella, hope your cold spell isn't too bad. I 'm not sure if you have me beat on pets or not, can I count my barn animals?
Thanks for the laughs Cuz.
OK this is bad, but someone sent it to my boss (I work for a Dentist).
I man comes to the Dentist to get a tooth pulled. But when the Dentist starts to give him a shot, the man says, "no way, I hate needles". So the Dentist turns on the nitrous oxide gas, and the man says "I can't stand the gas mask, it makes me feel like I'm suffocating". So the Dentist asks if the patient can take a pill. The man says that would be fine, no problem taking pills. So the Dentist leaves the room and comes back with a bottle of Viagra. The patient is surprised, says " I didn't know viagra worked as a pain killer". Dentist, says "It doesn't, but it will give you something to hang onto while I pull your tooth.
And it's terrible how someone with the caregiving profession will go on and on like that about the job, maybe she needs to change professions. Austin many of them aren't even satisfied with $25 an hour!
For anyone who wants a good green juice recipe I am going to go post mine at "recipes" It's great for energy!
Love you all XOXOXOXOX
Cricket
I checked out the Green juice! Is that what you have been living on this last week? Super energy, Cricket. Congratulations on your test. I took my midterm in Bio Anthropology this morning. Mostly essay and it was scary but fun:)
Golf, so nice to see you. Hope you are feeling better. Did you get your caregiver through an agency? There are online registries for caregivers--like caregiverneeded.com and care.com. I found all three of Mother's caregivers there and they were great. You need to interview them after you determine what your criteria are. Have questions ready to ask and know the answer you want to hear, then see how they respond. You are the boss. What about changing the depends?I have no patience with good for nothing people. Next.
Going to do Mother's manicure then get my own pedicure today. I found out in class today that my longer second toe is an inherited deformity, and now that I also have Morton's Neuroma, I am doomed. haha Nanu, Nanu.
Gotta go. Takes forever to do Mother's manicure anymore. Difficult to polish nails because she cannot hold still:( I'm going to try anyway. Looks prettier.
TTYL, Hugs and Love to ALL!!!
Christina xo.
Girls, I had 20 cats at the beginning of 2010. I lost 15! (between the ones who live at home and the others who live outside, of course). I think it's understandable that I love more the ones who live inside, we have a stronger relationship. I lost almost all of them! Very hard those 2 years, and those last months especially.
It's very cold here, we are awaiting the snow. Tomorrow I am going to Rome and I hope I can take some pictures of Rome under the snow, it should be beautiful. I had 5 sweaters on top of another today, and the anorak. I looked like the Michelin Man. I couldn't even move. I bought pellets, kerosene, food because we could be isolated the next days.
My mother the Iron Woman doesn't even feel the cold.
I wish you warmth from the inside and I'll see you in Rome. I'll be flying by in my dreams. Look up and you'll think you see a shooting star. And no, Cricket, I will Not be on a broom. "O Solo Mio, it's cold up here, Rosella Bella, be of good cheer, Tomorrow, it WILL be warm, you'll do some swimming, no MORRRRe forelorn"
Or something like that. I know, now you'll be humming that tune off and on a day and into the shower. Elvis just left the building.
I just gave Mother her manicure while she talked to some guy she did not want to be in her room. She held still and her nails are perfect.
Too cold here for her walk. We had a pear and now she is starting to wake up.
Have a good evening y'all. xo
austin - did u find the man u fell in love with yet ? gone out to eat here lately ? takes ur food to take home to eat later lol lol . men men men !!
hey i love that dentist joke lol . that made me smile .
angelhair - love what u posetd , i read em agin and again ,
christina - you better get u some b grades . elvis be comin back in and sing u some bbbbb then slip an a along there too . heeheee , u did nails today ! hell i did too , clip pa s toenails and smother his feet with coconut oil . ohhhhhhhhhhhh felt so good . was going to do his finger nails then but didnt cuz my sis in law andmy aunt stop by , had a good visit ...
cricket - happy for u to get an b , thats is realy close to an a . if it was me i be havin an f lalala , i do not care , i dislike school . always have and always will . walk in the school building im sick already ! beh like jen would say .... :-)
rossella - more cats will come by and meow at ya . few more dogs too . you have a big heart ! opens ur arms to any creature god created for u . hope you stay warm and have plenty of cigg and food till spring rolls in .
ground hog just woke up the wrong side of bed and says we re havin 6 more weeks of winter . well hell .
nurse came and said pa is declinin more and i said ure talkin months ? she said no im talking weeks . :-( . broke my heart and sis just sobb and sobb . wow , happens so fast .....
bro s all heart broken cuz he lives so far away ... i think im going to tell him to come up soon . just a feeling i have ..
i love each one of you guys . i think about each one of you everyday . where is annt ???? selfishsibblings , jenny louuuuu . pamela !!!! i always see her name at the first page , top line aww lord !! love it and i sure miss her .
goodnight folks and will try to post again soon . it seems i dont have time to be on puter anymore . wow go go go .. goodnight xoxoxo
Gonna put down the new carpet/rug in fp room tomorrow while he is at adult day health. Hope it helps some with the stink. maybe now that he is permanently in Depends, less urine will hit the floor. we shall see...or smell. and then...nope...he had diarrhea some time today and it is all over the rug...well so we start fresh with a new one and he can befoul that. It is what it is...
Pro choice here, glad the baby was healthy after all that...