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This is a group which would appreciate my last day with "Rose", my client with Dementia. She was having trouble having a bowel movement,so I gave her peaches while I made breakfast. In the afternoon my efforts were rewarded. Very, well rewarded. I managed to get the diarrhea filled Depends off of her without getting anything on her clothing or legs. My pride was short lived. I realized I'd be cleaning those spots on the carpet later. I asked her to step back into the shower for clean up, which is when I saw the toilet seat. Looked like an orange sponge had exploded all over it. Anyway - after the half shower, I was drying her and directed her back to the toilet seat for dressing when I noticed that toilet seat. Oh... no... and then she started pooping again. So, I had one hand on a small towel under her butt, and a large bath towel in my other hand reaching toward the toilet seat, to wipe the stuff off before she sat down. Problem was, I only have so much room between my right and left hands.... I smiled at her and said "If only I had that third hand right now". I managed to keep a hold on her and swipe most of the orange explosion from the toilet seat before safely guiding her to the security of that seat. I got her dressed in PJ's, and into her wheelchair, at which point this 96-year-old lady just shut down. She stopped responding to my questions, and looked like she was "checked out". I positioned her in front of her TV in her room, while I cleaned up the aftermath of the bathroom. It was my last day with her, and boy I went out with a BANG! I'll never forget having no gloves, a hand under her butt, and the amazing reach for the toilet seat with the other hand while basically doing the splits. A day in the life of a caregiver... I applaud you all!
I had a similar situation this evening, but it's not my last day by any means. On the brighter side, from a humor standpoint,I thought I'd share this: My dad had a TIA on July 1 last year. He was hospitalized and gradually doing better. On July 3rd (Sunday) I was with him at the hospital as I had been everyday. He was much better and very chipper. He said he'd never had so many women with their hands on his penis. Of course he needed to use a hand urinal while he was there and he peed a lot. He was so upbeat and like himself that I could have taken him home right then, but it was a holiday weekend and they were keeping him for another day. The next morning I went in to see him and he had suffered a major stroke. Much rehab followed and now he lives with us. He's 89 and can do nothing for himself. Still I will always remember his quick wit and sense of humor.
sleepless in indiana .. woke up to coughing and coughin and wondering if i have whoppin cough ? it is horrible ?? can u see me coughin my head off at the funeral ? oh lord i best get my hindend to dr , gonna try to get in today . i feel like shitofranic .
you all thank you for your kind words and the hugs and thinking about you . it sure is heart touchin to know i have so many good crews here and am giving you all a big cyber hugs !!! i love you all ....... bro s family arrived yesterday praying and hoping there be snow . it did spit out some fluried while waiting for them to arrive and it stop when they were getting closer , i woke up a big ago and saw snow out there , thinking and hopin they ll wake up and see it and feel like its cmas again . i shall call them here soon . they all load up and went to the hotel . i wanted them to stay here but they felt i need to be along , maybe my coughing scared em al away . oh mercy sakes .
ruth - u had me grinning , and grinning , that sounded like me and my pa . it was nightmare in poopy farm ... it was the day of family reunion and trying to make pa look at his best and we wounded up smelling like a hog farm . oh those were the days ...
it was very hard for me to go in dad s bdrm , i had my sis go pick out his clothes then sis in law wanted to see some things i took her in pa s room tried so hard not to look at his bed . she ask me if i wanted her to help me clear out his stuff i told her no i dont even want to be in here , we zoomed outta there . yes i do need to go see my dr . maybe theres some magic wand dr will have to make me a healthy lady again . ohh i miss my daddy :( i miss him so terrible . waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. the veiwing is 11 to 1 , service starts at 1 . it sounds awful to have it quick and simple . that is what dad would have wanted . its suppose be 60 degree weds . dad has giving us a warm day and he has givin fla gangs snow they were hoping to see . think maybe he ll let me win the lottery ? heehee . im smelling cat liter and i have 2 laundry basket piled up high and some of it is dad s clothes , what am i supoose to do with it ? sobbing ...... love you all xoxoxo
Aww, Linda :( Stay outta Pa's room for awhile and try to focus on resting as much as you can.. I wish I were there to help you take care of yourself or at least give you a massage! I can just imagine how sore your ribs must be.. and I think seeing a doctor is the right thing for you to do. Don't worry yourself about getting through the day for Pa's services, if you feel like breaking down just do it and to heck with what anyone else thinks...you do whatever you feel like doing. Love you Linda.. Shitofranic girl!
Good Evening Crew, I am back. Welcome to the new folks and thanks for stopping by and venting. Vent and Live!
The boat angel is still in the hospital, they started giving him morphine, he was allergic to that and now they have him on something else. He is very swollen from the treatments and doesn't have any idea when he will be able to get out of there. Thanks everyone for your prayers and angels and thanks for your support of yours truly as well. This has been insane.
I finally got the new computer as the other one was totally shot out. Moving on. wish we could replace our broken selves as easily.
Linda, love you and I join the others in sending you condolences and saying that you are an amazing daughter and your Pa is happy with your mom and J. Free at Last.
Christina! thanks for being such a cool social director!
more later you guys... have computer boat stuff I need to be handling. love you all more than you'll ever know. lovbob
Oh Linda, I wasn't sure your dad had died. But remember this and it is so true, you will see him again. I will send you a poem I wrote for my friend but it aplies to everyone. Will send it by email. You will have to stay busy for a while like never before. Don't let you thoughts go to when he was so sick, but to a time when he was happy and how he loved you. That is what I try to do. But sometimes that even is too much too. You will have to find your own grouund in dealing with his death. He is happy like he has never been before because he is with the Lord. Love ya!
Good morning crew, Just wanted to stop in and say hello and let you know I'm thinking of you all with your struggles. Mom is getting better each day until the crisis. I'm off to work to try make a living. Love ya, Diane
Good Morning Friends!! My heart is with Linda too..As I was praying this morning I was struck by Jesus promise of peace beyond our understanding.As I tried to wrap my heart and head around that promise I kept thinking of Linda and of her Pa.....Bobby I watered the darned plant and killed my best idea!! (See Food Abatement ) Glad your computer woes are over..no kidding to have the 'fix' wand. Hope your loved one is having a better day today. Cricket! so good to see you this morning too...( not that everyone checked in today..but I did!!) Hope your Lucky is healing too... I have been working alot lately , which is a double edged scheme. I get out of the house....Dad is forced to be more independent,( He is perfectly capable but much prefers to have me do everything FOR him.) The weather here is FAB today...supposed to be sunny and mid 60's..I got alot of houseowrk done before 8AM and I am taking a L-O-N-G walk outside.Take good care friends....Mary Beth
Good Morning! It is a beautiful 70 degrees outside with a gentle breeze here in South Florida and I'm loving it! Bobbie..whoopee your back online! Mary Beth enjoy that long walk :) I have more things to do than the time to do them today, as usual but I keep reminding myself to remove the word "need" from my thoughts and replace it with the word "choose" to eliminate the feeling of being on a treadmill and to remind myself that I am not a slave to this life but rather I choose what I will do, I am in control of my choices. With that thought in mind everyone make it a great day today! Love you all...Cricketღ
Tired here too, just counting days. He is getting weaker and not in a drug induced sort of way...if it leads to immobility that is it for home care here. If I can't life a 70 pound bag of traction sand I can't lift him of the toilet and God I do not wish too! Mom has already taking to wiping his ass to some degree..and yes the stress is taken out on me...beh....count down....tests back no heart condition, glad to know, what next...Stay sane everyone...A lot of people could NOT do what we do....
That's right, Jen, glad your heart is good. I am hoping same is true for mine. We simply have heart-ache and prolonged stress. Big Hugs. LindaHeart laid her Pa to rest today. Much Love, dear Friend. Hope all crew have paid their respects to our precious GF.xo Captain is back, her silence is worrying me, however. Boat Angel on my heart and in my prayers. Tough times. xo Igore, hope things are leveling out for you. Do you have a stressful job? Hope Mom is doing well and your wife is a happy camper. Whoohoo! Cricket was so perky this morning, I could not follow her. Haha! Love you! Chirp! Been studying and feeling anxious about my final. Mañana. Then, one sib in my family who could not do the job that Jen referred to is landing. Oh Joy. Will have to hide the beer and my laptop, set a up a smoking station somewhere in the lower 40. No offense:) I am an ex-smoker and a vocalist, so I cannot handle it. Austin and Selfish Sibs: are you back? Thinking of you on the road. xo Diane, you and Mom over the delibs? Everything is temporary:) TG xo
Haha correcting a typo I hit submit. I was not finished. Long winded girl that I am. KimBo! Annt! meanwhile2! Angelhair! cattails! Mary Beth! Current Crew! Check in and let us know your latest, how you are coping, ideas, whatevah! Thinking of a lot more friends who are not here anymore, but you are loved and remembered. Maybe the next cruise... Margaritaville on the Boat? Oh yea!! Xoxo
Good Morning Crew, I have tried to do my thing of adding what used to be stars... clicking on the 'Like this' and it won't let me! Least of my issues. Thanks you guys, Christina and Jen and Cricket and Maryb and Cuz and everyone and I am just dazed and crazed.
Linda! I hope you are coping with the ordeal of everything. You are so sweet and beautiful and you know that you are truly loved by all of us on this site, much less just this thread.
The Boat Angel is still in the hospital only now he is in ICU on dialysis. The treatments are killing him. It's all so sad as well all know. He's in tremendous pain and so all I can wish is that he gets better or is relieved of the pain and suffering. One way or the other I hope he finds peace. He says he still wants to be on this boat and go where I go but he is in agony.
I love you guys and can't concentrate on much. more later. lovbob
Hey Christine! Thanks for looking for me..it has been a roller coaster and I do read the threads, but when I am in a funk, I dont want to be negative... I have become more and more resentful and Im trying to manage it. You guys know, it can be so hard sometimes.. Bobbie all the best to you....and continued healing for Linda..Cricket your sense of humor is awesome....I think we are very similar and honestly if we didnt laugh, we'd lose our minds!! I have to share with you guys..I have 6 brothers, and only one of them has offered support...We live in rural Ohio and my BEST, oldest brother( who lives in San Francisco) often sends me packages, occaisionally a box of Godiva truffles, books for my Dad, and generous gift for my birthday with instructions to PLEASE do something for myself...well I bought a PINK Susan Komen cruiser bicycle and it is FAB..It just arrived yesterday and my hubby put it all together and I took 2 rides in the balmy 60 degress ( in March!) This vehicle to escape holds so many possibilities and will be good for my heart in more ways than one...I am looking forward to spring and the renewal the season promises. Wishing each of you a wonderful day.....Mary Beth
Hey, Mary Beth we all have been resentful and show it in many ways. Best to ride your bike and let the wind blow through your hair. You could have a good scream, then laugh, and enjoy your moment of freedom and your ability to enjoy it! Bobbie, I am with you regarding Boat Angel. If his will to be with you on the Boat is greater than the other, so shall it be. Love a strong will and I pray he gets that enjoyment. Omg. Can't write anymore. Must go finish studying and do my best. Love all you beautiful --and handsome -- caregivers. Hugs, Christina xo
cuz49341, What makes it even scary is that these are suppose to be the next generation to lead, work and run r country. Bobbie, I am so sorry that he is in the ICU and on dialysis. I hope he find peace soon and I hope you are doing okay. Try to get some rest and I know that is easier said than done. Everyone else, I hope y'all r doing fine today and its suppose to be very nice here in GA. I just got up early this morning and snuck across the street to try and get at least one room clean a bit before the trash man runs and before the mnl wakes up. I had a couple of times took the mnl with me to her ole house to go through her stuff and we brought a lot of stuff back. However, while over their she was wanting to hang on to everything and I mean everything. Stuff that would never fit her again and lingerie, oh please. I can't even imagin the 80 yr old mnl wearing this stuff anymore and they look pretty ruff.So, that is why I had to sneak out and get some of it done. Needless to say, I found bottles of medicine that was two yrs old that she had hidding and several pills in drawers and in shoes. I knew she wasn;t taking some and picking only certain ones out. I m glad she is with us now. Well, I got 4 garbages done but still their is all kind of stuff in just one of the bedrooms. Plastic lids that use to go to sandwich meat containers, pot lids, and holes in shoes and etc. I am keeping her good stuff and I will bring it over to our house later. Now, I got to see if I can talk her into getting out of the house to get dogfood and catfood. I try by treating her out to one of her places she likes to eat. ; ) hey, u gotta do what ya gotta do. Something I learned through caretaking. Hope you all have a blessed day. ; )
hi there you all . purrty day yesterday and windy but warm . buried pa . bro was suppose to get the flag but he passed it down to me . says im the one deserve it , aww touched my heart . my mind was in twight zone , i was good , i didnt fall apart there . pa had me hold my chin up and be strong . i was pretty much in daze . took some cough surup and feelin a nice buzz going and dozin off while the preacher was preachin , shook my head and told myself wake up !!! whoa . my house is a wreck . told myself today s the day but its raining and black clouds loomin over my head , im thinkin mmm bed ?? am glad yesterday was a good day to bury pa . today would have been horrible , rain , dark clouds would make me fall apart , i am still sleeping on the couch . hopin to hear pa crying , needing something . oh lord . i love you all and thank you so much for ur kind words and thinking of me and bunch of hugs , love you guys . i will be around now and then . bobbie - i am happy to hear u got a new puter and it shall last u a good long while . gotta keep in touch . many hugs to u bobbie and ur boat angel , xoxox christina - meow .... margaritta time ? keep up with the good grades . love u tons xoxo i gotta get my ass in 1 st gear mmm maybe 2nd ? be my luck i ll crawl in bed . my head is still spinin . xoxoxo
Hey Linda, give your self time, don't feel rushed, when it is time you know it, and it will slowly be the past but always apart of you.
Bobbi sorry to hear your friend is suffering so much. I hope it stops soon too....
Christina, hanging in there... know what you mean about heart pain and stress...Those can cause heart attacks, just a boon to find one has not had one nor is prone to them...Still this life will kill me eventually one way or another.
Had my aunt call my mom not a mo' too soon God she's neen pissy for three days and it seems to be AT me...I made dinner, you know to help out, one less thing for her to do...It was 11 minutes late, she was pissed the whole time...You know her need for control and perfection will be the death of her, but NOT me. Let her do it all, it is her choice. She quit her job she has ALL DAY LONG now, so do it your self mother!
Least she got to vent when my aunt called...
I am going back to bed. Too upset to eat, don't want to be near mom while she is this pissy...I walked to 7 11 picking up aluminum cans and flashing traffic I am sure...I'M wearing underwear! Kiss my fat ass!
Lotto tickets to dream and murder mysteries to escape...Spring is here, hope it is everywhere...Jen
Haha Jen! I just read everyone's posts but I'm to tired to write much..I'll be back in the morning.."catch you on the flip side" nighty night everyone, sweet dreams of Margarita's and the crews all aboard! Chirp Chirp!
Good Evening Crew, I'm on the boat after a day of errands that included getting a pneumatic dual action 6" sander. And it's heavy so I guess the next thing I'll be crying about is how I hurt from sanding decks. woohoo
The boat angel is still in the hospital but just texted saying to give the kitty a hug and that he hopes to see us soon. That is good if he is getting out... I hope...
I see that there's a few new folks and welcome to you all.
Kind of out of energy and have to go back on top of the boat and tape off for rain. I have seams open. Talked to the yard boss about putting the boat in the covered wet paint slip. Kind of disgusting in there but would be dry spot while I paint boat. Next week is supposed to be good weather so maybe I can finish the pilothouse roof. I already ache haha.
Thanks for the hugs you guys. Flex, Kuli, ssk, ksobie, selfish sib, austin, guys go to that wall I am telling you thanks so much and I didn't name everybody. My wall is beautiful because of you all. It really helps and I'm sorry that I haven't been more supportive of everyone in the last few months. I have read each and every word that's been written but just like some of you all I can't bring myself to write that much. I am a hot mess.
My Cousin Vinny Train going by. Have the doors open and the Cat's got the owl ears on.
Love you Linda and I hope you are coping with the grief of losing your beloved Pa. You are so dear to all of us and I can't wait to see you again on the boat!
OK off to the open seams. love you guys way more than you'll ever know.
My mom-in-law has been an experience for me as well. I learned real quick that the tooth brushes and towels my husband and I use go in our 1/2 bath and the door is locked (It takes a little piece of wire to unlock so we keep it above on the door trim) she has Dementia :( I have to soak and scrap the poop out of her finger nails almost daily. I call her my 126lb 3 yr old
Lindy, don't feel bad, I call mom Baby Huey after a full day of lifting and pulling. Thankfully mom doesn't get poop under her nails, but thats because I wipe her butt. She probably has snott on her hands since she is forever blowing or wiping her runny nose. Mom is 169lbs and often acts like a toddler going through the terrible twos.
Those of you that have been keeping up with me and mom, this is the same old same old. At least mom is over the stomach virus and complications. Cleaning up diarhea is one nasty job.
B/f had a test yesterday and we found out one of his heart valves is leaking pretty badly. The cardiologist and surgeon are going to pow wow and decide if he needs surgery right away or whether it can wait another 6 months. Scares the crap out of me considering he nearly died in November.
Otherwise life is the same. Lots of work with student travel for the Spring. My brother has been helping me out a lot with staying with mom in the afternoons so I can work later. I'm very greatful for the help and maybe he will have a better understanding of what my life is like.
Have a good night everyone. I don't post often, but I do read everyone's post. remember to take care of yourselves.
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woke up to coughing and coughin and wondering if i have whoppin cough ? it is horrible ?? can u see me coughin my head off at the funeral ? oh lord i best get my hindend to dr , gonna try to get in today . i feel like shitofranic .
you all thank you for your kind words and the hugs and thinking about you . it sure is heart touchin to know i have so many good crews here and am giving you all a big cyber hugs !!! i love you all .......
bro s family arrived yesterday praying and hoping there be snow . it did spit out some fluried while waiting for them to arrive and it stop when they were getting closer , i woke up a big ago and saw snow out there , thinking and hopin they ll wake up and see it and feel like its cmas again . i shall call them here soon . they all load up and went to the hotel . i wanted them to stay here but they felt i need to be along , maybe my coughing scared em al away . oh mercy sakes .
ruth - u had me grinning , and grinning , that sounded like me and my pa . it was nightmare in poopy farm ... it was the day of family reunion and trying to make pa look at his best and we wounded up smelling like a hog farm . oh those were the days ...
it was very hard for me to go in dad s bdrm , i had my sis go pick out his clothes then sis in law wanted to see some things i took her in pa s room tried so hard not to look at his bed . she ask me if i wanted her to help me clear out his stuff i told her no i dont even want to be in here , we zoomed outta there .
yes i do need to go see my dr . maybe theres some magic wand dr will have to make me a healthy lady again .
ohh i miss my daddy :( i miss him so terrible . waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.
the veiwing is 11 to 1 , service starts at 1 . it sounds awful to have it quick and simple . that is what dad would have wanted . its suppose be 60 degree weds . dad has giving us a warm day and he has givin fla gangs snow they were hoping to see . think maybe he ll let me win the lottery ? heehee .
im smelling cat liter and i have 2 laundry basket piled up high and some of it is dad s clothes , what am i supoose to do with it ? sobbing ......
love you all xoxoxo
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The boat angel is still in the hospital, they started giving him morphine, he was allergic to that and now they have him on something else. He is very swollen from the treatments and doesn't have any idea when he will be able to get out of there.
Thanks everyone for your prayers and angels and thanks for your support of yours truly as well. This has been insane.
I finally got the new computer as the other one was totally shot out. Moving on. wish we could replace our broken selves as easily.
Linda, love you and I join the others in sending you condolences and saying that you are an amazing daughter and your Pa is happy with your mom and J. Free at Last.
Christina! thanks for being such a cool social director!
more later you guys... have computer boat stuff I need to be handling.
love you all more than you'll ever know.
lovbob
Just wanted to stop in and say hello and let you know I'm thinking of you all with your struggles. Mom is getting better each day until the crisis. I'm off to work to try make a living.
Love ya,
Diane
I have been working alot lately , which is a double edged scheme. I get out of the house....Dad is forced to be more independent,( He is perfectly capable but much prefers to have me do everything FOR him.)
The weather here is FAB today...supposed to be sunny and mid 60's..I got alot of houseowrk done before 8AM and I am taking a L-O-N-G walk outside.Take good care friends....Mary Beth
LindaHeart laid her Pa to rest today. Much Love, dear Friend. Hope all crew have paid their respects to our precious GF.xo
Captain is back, her silence is worrying me, however. Boat Angel on my heart and in my prayers. Tough times. xo
Igore, hope things are leveling out for you. Do you have a stressful job? Hope Mom is doing well and your wife is a happy camper. Whoohoo!
Cricket was so perky this morning, I could not follow her. Haha! Love you! Chirp!
Been studying and feeling anxious about my final. Mañana. Then, one sib in my family who could not do the job that Jen referred to is landing. Oh Joy. Will have to hide the beer and my laptop, set a up a smoking station somewhere in the lower 40. No offense:) I am an ex-smoker and a vocalist, so I cannot handle it.
Austin and Selfish Sibs: are you back? Thinking of you on the road. xo
Diane, you and Mom over the delibs? Everything is temporary:) TG xo
KimBo! Annt! meanwhile2! Angelhair! cattails! Mary Beth! Current Crew! Check in and let us know your latest, how you are coping, ideas, whatevah!
Thinking of a lot more friends who are not here anymore, but you are loved and remembered. Maybe the next cruise... Margaritaville on the Boat? Oh yea!! Xoxo
I don't know whether to laugh or cry...
You, who worry about Democrats versus Republicans -- relax, here is
our real problem.
In a Purdue University classroom, they were discussing the
qualifications to be President of the United States .. It was pretty
simple. The candidate must be a natural born citizen of at least 35
years of age.
However, one girl in the class immediately started in on how unfair
was the requirement to be a natural born citizen. In short, her
opinion was that this requirement prevented many capable individuals
from becoming president.
The class was taking it in and letting her rant, and not many jaws hit
the floor when she wrapped up her argument by stating, "What makes a
natural born citizen any more qualified to lead this country than one
born by C-section?"
Yep, these are the same kinds of 18-year-olds that are now voting in
our elections! They breed, and they walk among US...
Lord -- we need more help than we thought we did!
I have tried to do my thing of adding what used to be stars... clicking on the 'Like this' and it won't let me!
Least of my issues.
Thanks you guys, Christina and Jen and Cricket and Maryb and Cuz and everyone and I am just dazed and crazed.
Linda! I hope you are coping with the ordeal of everything. You are so sweet and beautiful and you know that you are truly loved by all of us on this site, much less just this thread.
The Boat Angel is still in the hospital only now he is in ICU on dialysis. The treatments are killing him. It's all so sad as well all know. He's in tremendous pain and so all I can wish is that he gets better or is relieved of the pain and suffering. One way or the other I hope he finds peace. He says he still wants to be on this boat and go where I go but he is in agony.
I love you guys and can't concentrate on much. more later.
lovbob
I have become more and more resentful and Im trying to manage it. You guys know, it can be so hard sometimes.. Bobbie all the best to you....and continued healing for Linda..Cricket your sense of humor is awesome....I think we are very similar and honestly if we didnt laugh, we'd lose our minds!!
I have to share with you guys..I have 6 brothers, and only one of them has offered support...We live in rural Ohio and my BEST, oldest brother( who lives in San Francisco) often sends me packages, occaisionally a box of Godiva truffles, books for my Dad, and generous gift for my birthday with instructions to PLEASE do something for myself...well I bought a PINK Susan Komen cruiser bicycle and it is FAB..It just arrived yesterday and my hubby put it all together and I took 2 rides in the balmy 60 degress ( in March!) This vehicle to escape holds so many possibilities and will be good for my heart in more ways than one...I am looking forward to spring and the renewal the season promises.
Wishing each of you a wonderful day.....Mary Beth
Bobbie, I am with you regarding Boat Angel. If his will to be with you on the Boat is greater than the other, so shall it be. Love a strong will and I pray he gets that enjoyment.
Omg. Can't write anymore. Must go finish studying and do my best.
Love all you beautiful --and handsome -- caregivers. Hugs, Christina xo
Bobbie, I am so sorry that he is in the ICU and on dialysis. I hope he find peace soon and I hope you are doing okay. Try to get some rest and I know that is easier said than done.
Everyone else, I hope y'all r doing fine today and its suppose to be very nice here in GA. I just got up early this morning and snuck across the street to try and get at least one room clean a bit before the trash man runs and before the mnl wakes up. I had a couple of times took the mnl with me to her ole house to go through her stuff and we brought a lot of stuff back. However, while over their she was wanting to hang on to everything and I mean everything. Stuff that would never fit her again and lingerie, oh please. I can't even imagin the 80 yr old mnl wearing this stuff anymore and they look pretty ruff.So, that is why I had to sneak out and get some of it done. Needless to say, I found bottles of medicine that was two yrs old that she had hidding and several pills in drawers and in shoes. I knew she wasn;t taking some and picking only certain ones out. I m glad she is with us now. Well, I got 4 garbages done but still their is all kind of stuff in just one of the bedrooms. Plastic lids that use to go to sandwich meat containers, pot lids, and holes in shoes and etc. I am keeping her good stuff and I will bring it over to our house later. Now, I got to see if I can talk her into getting out of the house to get dogfood and catfood. I try by treating her out to one of her places she likes to eat. ; ) hey, u gotta do what ya gotta do. Something I learned through caretaking. Hope you all have a blessed day. ; )
purrty day yesterday and windy but warm . buried pa . bro was suppose to get the flag but he passed it down to me . says im the one deserve it , aww touched my heart . my mind was in twight zone , i was good , i didnt fall apart there . pa had me hold my chin up and be strong .
i was pretty much in daze . took some cough surup and feelin a nice buzz going and dozin off while the preacher was preachin , shook my head and told myself wake up !!! whoa .
my house is a wreck . told myself today s the day but its raining and black clouds loomin over my head , im thinkin mmm bed ?? am glad yesterday was a good day to bury pa . today would have been horrible , rain , dark clouds would make me fall apart ,
i am still sleeping on the couch . hopin to hear pa crying , needing something . oh lord .
i love you all and thank you so much for ur kind words and thinking of me and bunch of hugs , love you guys . i will be around now and then .
bobbie - i am happy to hear u got a new puter and it shall last u a good long while . gotta keep in touch . many hugs to u bobbie and ur boat angel , xoxox
christina - meow .... margaritta time ? keep up with the good grades . love u tons xoxo
i gotta get my ass in 1 st gear mmm maybe 2nd ? be my luck i ll crawl in bed . my head is still spinin . xoxoxo
Bobbi sorry to hear your friend is suffering so much. I hope it stops soon too....
Christina, hanging in there... know what you mean about heart pain and stress...Those can cause heart attacks, just a boon to find one has not had one nor is prone to them...Still this life will kill me eventually one way or another.
Had my aunt call my mom not a mo' too soon God she's neen pissy for three days and it seems to be AT me...I made dinner, you know to help out, one less thing for her to do...It was 11 minutes late, she was pissed the whole time...You know her need for control and perfection will be the death of her, but NOT me. Let her do it all, it is her choice. She quit her job she has ALL DAY LONG now, so do it your self mother!
Least she got to vent when my aunt called...
I am going back to bed. Too upset to eat, don't want to be near mom while she is this pissy...I walked to 7 11 picking up aluminum cans and flashing traffic I am sure...I'M wearing underwear! Kiss my fat ass!
Lotto tickets to dream and murder mysteries to escape...Spring is here, hope it is everywhere...Jen
Chirp Chirp!
I'm on the boat after a day of errands that included getting a pneumatic dual action 6" sander. And it's heavy so I guess the next thing I'll be crying about is how I hurt from sanding decks. woohoo
The boat angel is still in the hospital but just texted saying to give the kitty a hug and that he hopes to see us soon. That is good if he is getting out... I hope...
I see that there's a few new folks and welcome to you all.
Kind of out of energy and have to go back on top of the boat and tape off for rain. I have seams open.
Talked to the yard boss about putting the boat in the covered wet paint slip. Kind of disgusting in there but would be dry spot while I paint boat. Next week is supposed to be good weather so maybe I can finish the pilothouse roof. I already ache haha.
Thanks for the hugs you guys. Flex, Kuli, ssk, ksobie, selfish sib, austin, guys go to that wall I am telling you thanks so much and I didn't name everybody. My wall is beautiful because of you all. It really helps and I'm sorry that I haven't been more supportive of everyone in the last few months. I have read each and every word that's been written but just like some of you all I can't bring myself to write that much. I am a hot mess.
My Cousin Vinny Train going by. Have the doors open and the Cat's got the owl ears on.
Love you Linda and I hope you are coping with the grief of losing your beloved Pa.
You are so dear to all of us and I can't wait to see you again on the boat!
OK off to the open seams.
love you guys way more than you'll ever know.
BOAT!
lovbob
Anyhoo, it looks like a lot to me and it means a lot. thanks.
I have to soak and scrap the poop out of her finger nails almost daily. I call her my 126lb 3 yr old
Those of you that have been keeping up with me and mom, this is the same old same old. At least mom is over the stomach virus and complications. Cleaning up diarhea is one nasty job.
B/f had a test yesterday and we found out one of his heart valves is leaking pretty badly. The cardiologist and surgeon are going to pow wow and decide if he needs surgery right away or whether it can wait another 6 months. Scares the crap out of me considering he nearly died in November.
Otherwise life is the same. Lots of work with student travel for the Spring. My brother has been helping me out a lot with staying with mom in the afternoons so I can work later. I'm very greatful for the help and maybe he will have a better understanding of what my life is like.
Have a good night everyone. I don't post often, but I do read everyone's post. remember to take care of yourselves.
Love ya,
Diane