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AND drink some mean ole maragritta and soakin up the sun . had about an hr nap , my body slept but my mind was awake , i hate it when it does that . i didnt feel good at all today , felt so weak and done nothing all day after grandbabies left . oldest daughter called said mom !! i have a good fire going come on over ! ah no honey i dont feel good , sorry, snifff i think my sinus is on its way to make me sick , when i feel so blah then its telling me im gonna be sick real soon . mmm guess i shall start takin some nyquill ugh ? ask dad if he s ready for bed , he said no . i sat on the floor by him and held his hand . started to get teary eyes , im gonna miss him when he goes to meet momma , i cant stand it the thought of losing him , i ll be a basketcase ! thats when i ll have to hunt for barabra b .. dad said he wants to stay up a lit bit longer , :-) . he s like a lit boy . bless his heart , miz i do hope u gets to go bye bye next weekend , it;ll do u some good . i know it did me good . but then it felt like i never went anywhere when i got home , its all a dreammmm. lol ,
oh miz ill smoke with ya . im trying to cut way back down , soon it;ll be ten bucks a pack ! whatthehell ! that will just cuases alot of mean people on the rise ! steal , break in , rob your ciggy , shit ill have to hang on to it and hide to smoke , aint that crazy ! think i ll raise my own ciggy , :-)
Had a breather today my sister took my mom so that I could go to a graduation party didnt get home until now, she os staying overnight even though I got five phone call while I was away that she was acting up had to tell her to be good and I would pick her up tom for church it was nice getting out
i've been on the boat with the Captain for 3 days now and he's going through all the systems. We leave tomorrow for St. Augustine for a few repairs and then North.
RIP!! Almost There!! We'll probably do the renaming up in St Augustine! easy peasy 2 day cruise. This boat really moves. Slow.
Build for Comfort and not for Speed.
Like me.
Flex!! got to do the Teak rails!! Wanna do some teak in Charleston?
Rosella, you hang in there, you'll be here before you know it. until then work like hell to make it funny and warm because it sux so bad.
Pirate, you and Rip the Stitch are going to have the West Coast handled.
Miz, SS, Linda, Tennessee battling those lawyers; Tennessee, please say hello to your daughter for me.
My mom will wipe her rectum with her hand if left alone in the bathroom, doesn't do it as long as I stay with her. My daughter worked in an Alzheimer's care facility and would comment that the paitents seemed to have feces slinging parties almost every night.
Yes, wiping herself is something Mom just doesn't seem to be capable of. If you catch her right as she leaves the bathroom you can avert a problem. If not, it could get ugly.
Hi Bobbie. If you plan to cross the ocean and arrive to Civitavecchia which is the biggest port in Center Italy, I shall be there with my bottle of champagne! Until that moment, we follow you with our imagination and lots of smiles
Tonight, my mother (whom I had left alone for 5 minutes because I was cooking) went to the bathroom, took away her diaper and left it on the chair, and then she carefully shut the window and the door. When I went to the bathroom after half an hour it seemed a gas chamber! I see that all of us have to stand the same pleasant things!!!!
I think that, ummm, how to talk about this without seeming crude. I think perhaps the reason she goes 4 times in a hour is that she needs a bit of "help". Besides she doesn't want to sit down for that long so she goes, we clean up, she goes, we clean up, etc. etc. I am afraid to give her anything to quicken the process because I may cause a larger problem.
I do feel better knowing it is a part of the disease not just our particular situation.
Yes, are we a delightful group of people! Where else can you talk of such wonderous things like p*ss, sh*t & tears?
I know my brothers haven't a clue, yet they say the "understand"!!! HaHaHaHahHa ...
When was the last time they cleaned their father at 3 AM, or made a rush to the emergency room, fixed him a meal, poured him coffee 8 times a day, or ... beware ... this is really horrible ... lit a cigarette for him???
They are much too sensible to smoke, yet when Dad joined the army at age 20 they gave the troups packs of cigarettes! Bad - Nasty ... but I've been known to enjoy them too.
Especially to cover the stench of elder diarhea ... did I spell that right? I should since it is an frequent "event".
oh ... & the awesome arorma of piss as I drain his urinary collection bag. Lofting thru the house, impregnating every porous surface & scrap of fabric!
How often have they gagged & puked in the middle of cleaning up? Oh ... let me think .... once? But I led the clean up team since they had no idea what to do. Couldn't even figure out how to put medical gloves on. "This one didn't fit my right hand so I must try another". HOnest! He has a master's degree but could flip a simple latex glove over. Maybe he was smart enough to stall while I did the yucky work. I must have a PHd in caregiving by now.
Yes, friends, we do have our 'pleasures' in life, don't we?
Lord knows the constant demands of what we deal with daily. They sure don't & care not to hear about it!
Dad just phoned feeling sorry for himself b.c he can't light a cigarette. Its the last one which means a trip to the store. Will I ever finish the laundry & dishes & cleaning the bathroom???
The saga will continue ..... I have my "Grossed out" friends who have their own problems to deal with ... together!
Carry on comrades! They say we will be rewarded ... Sh****T!!! I want an award right now!
We are getting very creative on the poo-poo subject. I think we have to imagine that it is nice and pleasant, as though we were picking flowers. When I put my mother under the shower I start to sing "We have to wash the car!" and she is always angry at me. Maybe we could invent and patent a cleaning machine, a fully automated one, (let's think of it - we would become millionaires)
QUICK ~ Hurry Bobbie, before the precious info is deleted! I'll be sending similar stuff when the ship hits port.
Freinds, do you realize we are almost at the 2,300th post on this thread? All because of Bobbie's familiar tag line?
Big applause to our seafaring friend!!!! YAY!!! Bobbie of lovbob! Barabara B hits the Pacific Coast. Sail ON!!!
I have enjoyed every single moment of this new online experience. This thread is like a good book I can't put down. Having new friends stay in contact is an absolute thrill! You know who you are! I love having a wall where you send sweet messages! My first wall ... ever! I'm internet stupid.
I frequently hide from Dad & work just to read of all your fabulous' adventures! which I consider my sanity break.
I am hoping that no one has been offended by my rather 'delicate' excretment posts. We all know it.
There are historic elder care events that have occurred in my lifetime - my Grammy pulling a gun on the substitute Meals on Wheels driver ... I posted the story somewhere ... She also grew pot among her tomato plants, had all kind of home improvements in trade.
She was the widow of the sheriff so it was pretty funny.
My educated brothers with their heads HUA (elsewhere, so to say) who mean well but haven't a clue to eldler care compassion ... They follow Mary's lead & don't do Sh*t!
Love the tricks & tips we have all shared ...
Yet the deep down panic I feel ~ we all share ~ to have every one here relate to that, & ... OK, the Crap ... I was looking for a deeper word involing the unsettling elements of elder care, & what do I come up with?
CRAP! Frank Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond" got away with it on the TV hit series, so I shall use it here since it is good enough for the censors. The filthy, smelly, unforgiven CRAP that we deal with.
I read recently a post that mentioned the people here tend to complain alot. No Crap! I thought of an acronym. Caregivers Responding and Providing ... lame. Help me do better. Doesn't have the bite I want - What can we do with the S word? Stretch your creative minds & we'll find one for PISS .... oops, just did. People in Serious Situations.
I love that we laugh & tease here, but the brutal reality is that WE ALL are responsible for the life of a loved one.
It dibilitates us, causes anger, fear ... do I dare say ... agitation. I have never felt such dispair & irratibility until trying to cope with my father, frustrated while losing the aging battle.
Everyone on this site is compassionate! I realize I'm drifting but my cell phone keeps ringing for father's needs ... I continue to scamper upstairs to light a smoke, pour coffeee, change the TV channel .... anything he desires. How about this or that? He is so bored!
I must cook his dinner. I am not a chef. Been there, done lots for guests. my ex & steps. All it means to me is cleaning pots, pans & dishes, wrapping leftovers for the fridge which will likey rot . Give me take out! Send a pizza! Mom spoiled him rotton with her low cholsteral cooking, fish, fresh organic veggies - she got the Ovarian Cancer & we lost her. He is still here & thriving on my lousy cooking! So much for that theory of avoiding cancer by eating well.
Avoidance over now ... I shall trudge up the stairs & provide a passable Sunday meal which he will enjoy b.c it is a Costco pot roast with mashed potatos, sans vegetables.
I wish you all well & look forward to the 2,300th post on this thread.
They ask for more, and we give more and more... The more they are complaining and demanding, the more we squeeze our brain to make them happy. This is why we are so tired. From time to time we should stop, we should say to ourselves that we are doing enough, more than enough, and we should be (healthily) selfish... We should learn how to say "Wait!" and, occasionally, even "No!" And stop feeling guilty because we don't reach perfection.
Saying "NO"!!! What a lovely concept! How many times do we ever say NO to a parent. I believe Jsomebody started a thread about that, but her NO was dealing with her wacko grandfather & maybe her mother. (it he desreves the title of Grand Pa. He seems to be a Grand Prick)
I said NO today, & still feel guilty about it. Cigarette. Light me a cigarette ...
I have my heavy work & his highness wanted a channel change & a smoke. I was up to my elbows potting plants, watering them & soakeing the garden when he demanded his fix. I stopped rushing to cater to him. I said the "N" word.
He patiently waited, but stilll .... My damn NO word pissed him off. Enough of that. He will have pot roast tonight when I feel like cooking it & he will enjoy enjoy it.
I tried to design a dog door, similar to a car wash, when the wet pet entered. Tried those fantastic "soak it up" towels *as seen on TV, the ones that wick moisture from anything nearby,.. Crap for the purpose I tried them. Kind of like a car wash. Flunked dog door. They still came inside very wet.
However ... Thinking forward to a spray wash for our seniors! A conveyor belt that sends them into a wash & rinse cycle. No hands involved. Just a spray that hits them everywhere, soaps them, rinses them & They come out clean & refreshed. Into a luxurious hotel robe so they won't whine at us. What a dream!
Reminds me of my dream to be wealthy for a week. Not concerned with elder care, mortages, utility bills & those daily needs like food,bathing & everything else associated with elder care. Yes ... you know ... the disrespect.ful comments & crap of our parents.
I've always claimed that poverty builds character. I'm proof!
Would I risk being rich for a week ... willing to try ~ not worrying about my father if someone else could take charge. HA! Having the wealth to have a vacation. To purchase stylish clothing & a nice car. Buy food which is of my choosing, Living my life as I'd like it to be .... simply a safe day off?
I wonder if my heart would change?
If that dream were dumped in my lap today, I don't think I could let go & enjoy. I am so entwined with Dad's needs it has become my life.
Nobody can care for him like I do syndrome. He is totally dependent on me & refuses to think anyone else could care for him. I feel stuck & obligated. If I should take a couple of days off ... I think he would give up b.c I am not there for his every need. Anyone else feel this way?
Hey Rossella ... I believe you were the 2,300 poster on this thread! I wonder if there is a prize?
Cheers all ~ Need to zap his pot roast dinner & try to sneak peas into the mashd potoatos for those damn vitamins. I wish he were happy ..... Yippeeeeeeeeeeee I now will cook via the microwave!
Had a nasty like that this week, when my grandfather was having diarrhea it was literally poop soup and he'd leave his open diaper in the trash and I'd have to wash off the walls and toilet and take that out side as well, and my mom wonders why I spray Oust in every room he has been in more than three minutes!
I'll catch up with you guys hopefully tomorrow. Going to my second interview this morning. Yikes!! Wish I was going on the boat instead. :) Have a wonderful day!!
miz ,, wish u the very best on gettin the job !! bless ur heart , am doing ok here . pa still sleeping so is my sister and my daughter , uh i woke up 8 am and started doing dishes and laundry , wow , feeling burst of enegery ! after begin sick all weekend , glad im all better . hang in there ! before u know it we be riding on barbara b ... have a safe sailing bobbie !! xoox
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had about an hr nap , my body slept but my mind was awake , i hate it when it does that . i didnt feel good at all today , felt so weak and done nothing all day after grandbabies left .
oldest daughter called said mom !! i have a good fire going come on over ! ah no honey i dont feel good , sorry, snifff
i think my sinus is on its way to make me sick , when i feel so blah then its telling me im gonna be sick real soon . mmm guess i shall start takin some nyquill ugh ?
ask dad if he s ready for bed , he said no . i sat on the floor by him and held his hand . started to get teary eyes , im gonna miss him when he goes to meet momma , i cant stand it the thought of losing him , i ll be a basketcase ! thats when i ll have to hunt for barabra b ..
dad said he wants to stay up a lit bit longer , :-) . he s like a lit boy . bless his heart ,
miz i do hope u gets to go bye bye next weekend , it;ll do u some good . i know it did me good . but then it felt like i never went anywhere when i got home , its all a dreammmm.
lol ,
think i ll raise my own ciggy , :-)
she os staying overnight even though I got five phone call while I was away that she was acting up had to tell her to be good and I would pick her up tom for church it was nice getting out
i've been on the boat with the Captain for 3 days now and he's going through all the systems. We leave tomorrow for St. Augustine for a few repairs and then North.
RIP!! Almost There!! We'll probably do the renaming up in St Augustine!
easy peasy 2 day cruise. This boat really moves. Slow.
Build for Comfort and not for Speed.
Like me.
Flex!! got to do the Teak rails!! Wanna do some teak in Charleston?
Rosella, you hang in there, you'll be here before you know it. until then work like hell to make it funny and warm because it sux so bad.
Pirate, you and Rip the Stitch are going to have the West Coast handled.
Miz, SS, Linda, Tennessee battling those lawyers; Tennessee, please say hello to your daughter for me.
All of you guys. Deef,
love you guys and this is going to happen.
just be on the boat, baby.
lovbob
My daughter worked in an Alzheimer's care facility and would comment that the paitents seemed to have feces slinging parties almost every night.
Until that moment, we follow you with our imagination and lots of smiles
I do feel better knowing it is a part of the disease not just our particular situation.
I know my brothers haven't a clue, yet they say the "understand"!!!
HaHaHaHahHa ...
When was the last time they cleaned their father at 3 AM, or made a rush to the emergency room, fixed him a meal, poured him coffee 8 times a day, or ... beware ... this is really horrible ... lit a cigarette for him???
They are much too sensible to smoke, yet when Dad joined the army at age 20 they gave the troups packs of cigarettes! Bad - Nasty ... but I've been known to enjoy them too.
Especially to cover the stench of elder diarhea ... did I spell that right? I should since it is an frequent "event".
oh ... & the awesome arorma of piss as I drain his urinary collection bag. Lofting thru the house, impregnating every porous surface & scrap of fabric!
How often have they gagged & puked in the middle of cleaning up?
Oh ... let me think .... once? But I led the clean up team since they had no idea what to do. Couldn't even figure out how to put medical gloves on.
"This one didn't fit my right hand so I must try another".
HOnest! He has a master's degree but could flip a simple latex glove over.
Maybe he was smart enough to stall while I did the yucky work.
I must have a PHd in caregiving by now.
Yes, friends, we do have our 'pleasures' in life, don't we?
Lord knows the constant demands of what we deal with daily. They sure don't & care not to hear about it!
Dad just phoned feeling sorry for himself b.c he can't light a cigarette.
Its the last one which means a trip to the store.
Will I ever finish the laundry & dishes & cleaning the bathroom???
The saga will continue .....
I have my "Grossed out" friends who have their own problems to deal with ... together!
Carry on comrades! They say we will be rewarded ...
Sh****T!!! I want an award right now!
Cheers ~
Over & out for now ~
Thanks for listening ....
Rip, the flabergasted Stitch
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I think we have to imagine that it is nice and pleasant, as though we were picking flowers. When I put my mother under the shower I start to sing "We have to wash the car!" and she is always angry at me. Maybe we could invent and patent a cleaning machine, a fully automated one, (let's think of it - we would become millionaires)
I'll be sending similar stuff when the ship hits port.
Freinds, do you realize we are almost at the 2,300th post on this thread?
All because of Bobbie's familiar tag line?
Big applause to our seafaring friend!!!!
YAY!!! Bobbie of lovbob! Barabara B hits the Pacific Coast.
Sail ON!!!
I have enjoyed every single moment of this new online experience. This thread is like a good book I can't put down.
Having new friends stay in contact is an absolute thrill! You know who you are! I love having a wall where you send sweet messages! My first wall ... ever!
I'm internet stupid.
I frequently hide from Dad & work just to read of all your fabulous' adventures! which I consider my sanity break.
I am hoping that no one has been offended by my rather 'delicate' excretment posts. We all know it.
There are historic elder care events that have occurred in my lifetime -
my Grammy pulling a gun on the substitute Meals on Wheels driver ...
I posted the story somewhere ...
She also grew pot among her tomato plants, had all kind of home improvements in trade.
She was the widow of the sheriff so it was pretty funny.
My educated brothers with their heads HUA (elsewhere, so to say) who mean well but haven't a clue to eldler care compassion ...
They follow Mary's lead & don't do Sh*t!
Love the tricks & tips we have all shared ...
Yet the deep down panic I feel ~ we all share ~ to have every one here relate to that, & ... OK, the Crap ... I was looking for a deeper word involing the unsettling elements of elder care, & what do I come up with?
CRAP! Frank Barone (Everybody Loves Raymond" got away with it on the TV hit series, so I shall use it here since it is good enough for the censors.
The filthy, smelly, unforgiven CRAP that we deal with.
I read recently a post that mentioned the people here tend to complain alot.
No Crap!
I thought of an acronym. Caregivers Responding and Providing ... lame. Help me do better. Doesn't have the bite I want -
What can we do with the S word? Stretch your creative minds & we'll find one for PISS .... oops, just did.
People in Serious Situations.
I love that we laugh & tease here, but the brutal reality is that WE ALL are responsible for the life of a loved one.
It dibilitates us, causes anger, fear ... do I dare say ... agitation. I have never felt such dispair & irratibility until trying to cope with my father, frustrated while losing the aging battle.
Everyone on this site is compassionate!
I realize I'm drifting but my cell phone keeps ringing for father's needs ... I continue to scamper upstairs to light a smoke, pour coffeee, change the TV channel .... anything he desires.
How about this or that?
He is so bored!
I must cook his dinner. I am not a chef. Been there, done lots for guests. my ex & steps. All it means to me is cleaning pots, pans & dishes, wrapping leftovers for the fridge which will likey rot .
Give me take out! Send a pizza! Mom spoiled him rotton with her low cholsteral cooking, fish, fresh organic veggies - she got the Ovarian Cancer & we lost her.
He is still here & thriving on my lousy cooking! So much for that theory of avoiding cancer by eating well.
Avoidance over now ... I shall trudge up the stairs & provide a passable Sunday meal which he will enjoy b.c it is a Costco pot roast with mashed potatos, sans vegetables.
I wish you all well & look forward to the 2,300th post on this thread.
What a lovely concept! How many times do we ever say NO to a parent.
I believe Jsomebody started a thread about that, but her NO was dealing with her wacko grandfather & maybe her mother.
(it he desreves the title of Grand Pa. He seems to be a Grand Prick)
I said NO today, & still feel guilty about it. Cigarette. Light me a cigarette ...
I have my heavy work & his highness wanted a channel change & a smoke. I was up to my elbows potting plants, watering them & soakeing the garden when he demanded his fix.
I stopped rushing to cater to him.
I said the "N" word.
He patiently waited, but stilll .... My damn NO word pissed him off.
Enough of that. He will have pot roast tonight when I feel like cooking it & he will enjoy enjoy it.
I tried to design a dog door, similar to a car wash, when the wet pet entered. Tried those fantastic "soak it up" towels *as seen on TV, the ones that wick moisture from anything nearby,..
Crap for the purpose
I tried them.
Kind of like a car wash.
Flunked dog door. They still came inside very wet.
However ...
Thinking forward to a spray wash for our seniors!
A conveyor belt that sends them into a wash & rinse cycle. No hands involved. Just a spray that hits them everywhere, soaps them, rinses them & They come out clean & refreshed.
Into a luxurious hotel robe so they won't whine at us.
What a dream!
Reminds me of my dream to be wealthy for a week.
Not concerned with elder care, mortages, utility bills & those daily needs like food,bathing & everything else associated with elder care. Yes ... you know ... the disrespect.ful comments & crap of our parents.
I've always claimed that poverty builds character. I'm proof!
Would I risk being rich for a week ... willing to try ~ not worrying about my father if someone else could take charge.
HA!
Having the wealth to have a vacation.
To purchase stylish clothing & a nice car.
Buy food which is of my choosing,
Living my life as I'd like it to be .... simply a safe day off?
I wonder if my heart would change?
If that dream were dumped in my lap today, I don't think I could let go & enjoy. I am so entwined with Dad's needs it has become my life.
Nobody can care for him like I do syndrome. He is totally dependent on me & refuses to think anyone else could care for him.
I feel stuck & obligated.
If I should take a couple of days off ... I think he would give up b.c I am not there for his every need.
Anyone else feel this way?
Hey Rossella ... I believe you were the 2,300 poster on this thread!
I wonder if there is a prize?
Cheers all ~
Need to zap his pot roast dinner & try to sneak peas into the mashd potoatos for those damn vitamins.
I wish he were happy .....
Yippeeeeeeeeeeee I now will cook via the microwave!
Vent on .......
Rip
Swallowing Dramamine, coffee, bagel and cream cheese. Headed to the fuel dock and offshore.
More in a couple days when we get to St. Augustine. Wish us fair winds.
Deef! got the info and Rip thanks and love you all and I think I'm excited.
Thanks again Rip the Stitch!!
lovbob
love,
miz
am doing ok here . pa still sleeping so is my sister and my daughter , uh i woke up 8 am and started doing dishes and laundry , wow , feeling burst of enegery ! after begin sick all weekend ,
glad im all better .
hang in there ! before u know it we be riding on barbara b ...
have a safe sailing bobbie !! xoox