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Hey everybody, I am still here. I just don't have time to come on very often. I opened my e-mail and found that I had over 300 e-mails. Which is a lot for me. Life seems to be getting back to normal since the passing of FIL. Had to run MIL to the hospital for extreme abdominal pains two nights ago. It was either her chrones flaring up or her diverticulitous. Anyway, didn't get home until 5:30am. She is feeling much better now and even went to work today. The family is good. Husband is still cooking and enjoying it. He got a raise, which always helps. He is such a sweet heart. He brings me these delicious salads that he puts together at work for me to take for lunch the next day. Usuall he includes a note that says he loves me, good luck, or just to have a great day. Reminds me of when we were first married 15 years ago. Anyway, I am enjoying school. I find that I really enjoy my chosen proffession; and I am doing well with it. The kids are enjoying summer. My oldest went to youth conference for the first time. She had a lot of fun. My second oldest was sick last night. I think she didn't get enough fluids, but she is better now. My third oldest is great, although he still loves to torment his sisters, not to mention annoy the hell out of his Nana. My youngest is getting so big. I just noticed yesterday that she could rinse the dishes without the stool. When we first moved here she couldn't even reach the faucet. Can I just say wow? My brother in law and his cousin who were sharing a house have been having financial difficulty so they are going to come stay with us for a while. GGIL is doing well. She turned 97 in May, but we never got to celebrate her birthday because of FIL passing on her birthday. I'm going have to talk to MIL about that and see what we can arrange. GGIL is still working three days a week, and loving it, but she does seem like she gets a lot more tired. She extended to work for two more years. We tried to convince her to cut down to two days a week, but she would have none of it. You know? I just realized that my acronym for Great-Grandmother-In-Law(GGIL) sounds like GIGGLE. Funny. Well, I had better get back to the grind, I have a quiz in Anatomy tomorrow to study for and I've got a bunch of moving things around to do. Bye
Happy Sunday All, or for some of us lets just pretend it's happy, LOL
Cuz, I hope the tick bite turns out to be nothing at all. Next time you go on a fishing trip go to Louisiana, they have the best fishing of any place I've been. We lived down in the Bayou South of New Orleans for a year and my Husband would never come home without less than 20 big Redfish.
Cattails, I hope you have a better day today! You poor thing.
Angelhair, It's great to hear from you and that your studies are progressing. And more family moving in with you? Girl, I don't know how you do it. You and your Husband must just have big old hearts!
Diane, It's good to see you hanging in there too! *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
Cattail, I have had my depression moments for Iam not all positive all the time but I do try each day. By the hubby gets home from work, the positivity crap is gone and the bitc_ seems to sneak out. "We R only Human." As for your sis, I would call that sister of yours n drop dear daddy over their for a couple of days n take hubby or just yourself on a mini-break. Maybe that will open her eyes n then maybe she be more to help out or maybe not. I say go for it n take a break to breathe n enjoy the fresh air. As for grass, I am soooooooooooooo jealous. We have had some type of bugs that killed r grass last year and the hot sun. Hubby, been taking pieace of grass from the side and trying to get it to plant so far it is working but some rain would be nice. Btw, what the world r u feeding your dad to have the sh*ts all the time? lol. sorry, but the true story was a bit funny n yet sad for you. I really would consder that sister n fairly-world n bring her up to the real-world with her dad.
Cuz, i hope that is not a bad tick of course there is no good tick, that was dumb. anyway, I hope you don't get sick from it. Another thing in the woods which r aweful is those freaking 'red bugs!' You be itching for ever even after a shower n then your putting on clear finger nail polish to kill them. Now, they have something for it on the shelves. I'm sorry you didn't catch any fish. Did you have your mouth right while fishing? Did you remember to spit on the worm? lol Maybe, next time you will catch the one that got away.
I had a ok night zzzzzzzzzzzzz for I only got up 3 times to tinkle. So far I have been lucky with the mnl when it comes to being independent to the bathroom by herself. I will count my blessing for I do not see how y'all doing it. I guess, it something that has to be done or no one else is going to do deal with it. How in the world R we so lucky to be the chosen ones I do not know. I think it just makes us that more stronger n caring than others.
cattails- you had me grinin , sounds like me all over again takin care of pa and his toliet , i grinned so big when u said he needed to scoot back a lit more . yep pa did the same thing ! sit on his jewels . pa dont u know ure sittin on it , uhh no why ,? oh my those were the days !!! i miss my daddy ... you all i sure hope u have a lazy sunday today . im dealing with chichers , how ya spell that ,? i believe its alot worst than ticks , them chic lit thing gets up in my private area and digs into my skin , damn bastards ! pullin weeds and wham private area just become a motel area .
am going to have my grandson over in about an hr , we prob will stay inside , too hot outside and the grass is turnin brown . take care you guys !! xoxo
Linda: You make me grin too. Actually, you make me LMAO with your" I pullin weeds and wham private area just become a motel area." I remember you talking about those chiggers before. My heart sure goes out to you. Hugs, Cattails
Lildeb: My sis lives 2 states away. If she was local I do think she would help, but the distance is a problem. She hasn't been up to visit since my dad had his stroke last July. Just the way it is. Thanks for your "big shit-ass hug". You had me laughing and I needed that. Cattails
Linda, the chiggars r the same the thing I think as those pesty biting red-bugs.. you can keep those thangs. I hope your granson don't get those little bugers. keep him inside.
Cattail, all the more reason you should take a 'whole week off,' instead of a two little days off. I make a personal drive to sis house n of course, make a call in advance that you r bringing daddy to her place for Father's Day. Then, drop him off like a sack of tators for awhile or let her handle him while you stay with her and let her get the opportunity to enjoy the crap-litteraly. ; ) I know dad shouldn't be treated like a sack of tator but you need a break to keep you from going crazy. Well, it getting dark n rumbling so maybe just maybe we will get a drop or two of rain for the grass.
I'm with Linda, I would gladly wipe my Sam's butt again if I could have him back. Still, sorry about all the mess, Cattails. Linda, I used to live in Missouri, and the chiggers would eat me up. Found if I sprinkled a little sulfur in my clothes, especially around the waist band, would keep the chiggers away. Cuz, we had a horse get tick fever once. I probably have some of the medicine we gave him still around. Would be happy to send you some, but you might have to adjust the dose.
It is 99 degrees here today. Need to mow the grass, but waiting for it to cool off a little. Even got my cement pond cleaned out and the leaks patched. It is filling up now. It should be ready to jump in by tomorrow.
Ah Meanwhile, you've got a little swimming hole? that sounds great!
I say we have Evil Cricket write a generic note for each of us to use for the sibs at the first available opportunities. Then all we have to do is take them to sibs and pin the notes on them. LOL Others will have no appreciation for what we do unless they are faced with it themselves for a few days....or at least a week!
Just when you think it can't get worse...it does....Care giving the toughest job you'll ever loathe..... Mom goes to the trouble of making Daddddeeee favorite food for this 91st, and a little cake and decorates it and of course he has a huge coughing choking fit and then (and no, I am not surprised) refuses to have any cake...You want to hurt my mom, reject her cooking...That about do it... I go walk my dog, get back he is on card number two......................................................................................................................................................................................Yes, can I leave now?
He's been looking at me for three days waiting for mt to say something about his hair cut, you know what there is of his hair, waiting for me to say how good it looks....Isn't it enough he gets to mentally masturbate to pictures of his great grand child, age 5, just leave me alone!!!! Today he has blood on his arm tell mom (lies) always blame something else the wheel chair the carpet the shoes......He crabs while she tried to clean it up and wrap it. now in cackling at W C Fields. I just want this to end...and who doesn't...well the bad for some any way, for me, I am afraid it is all bad....
It is just enough God enough.....I've had enough, no thank you I've had enough...
Ah more banging next door, been two months of that, and he does it at 3 AM like he thinks we wont notice....Just when is this over, having gallbladder issues, can that kill me? Pleasant thought....
Have a sane week everyone, what ever that may mean now....
Jen: I think there is a special place for men who hurt children and have no remorse. Fart Pants has a rack over the fire pit with his name on it. He'll be crackling instead of cackling.
Meanwhile: I'm so sorry you are missing your Sam. I don't want to even imagine what it would be like to lose my husband. I'm really sorry.
Linda: Sorry you are missing your dad, but glad my comments made you smile.
Lildeb: I couldn't take my dad to where my sibs live. The trip is way too far for him to travel safely. I really think it would do him in. I know it would do me in. Can you imagine the bathroom issues on the 2 hour drive to the airport, at the airport, on the plane and then another 2 hours plus to where my sibs live? There is not enough lavender.
Cricket: Put me down for 3 notes to sibs.
Diane: Sending good thoughts your way for a decent week.
Bobbie: Hope you are doing ok and that Florida rain storm didn't reach you.
Angelhair: Good to hear from you and so happy you are loving your classes.
Sorry I have been such a sour ass lately. Been struggling with nightmares and insanity like that and thanks everyone for being here and I am sorry but I roared at the 'sitting on the boys' routine... omg Hilarious and ya, only funny if you're not the one polishing the stones.
Cuz!! any news? how do you feel? I remember getting a tick in my navel at one of the summer reunions in Mich. I don't think anyone knew back then how dangerous they were. My dad came at me with a lit cigarette, poked the tick in the butt and when the tick yanked his head out to see wtf daddy popped him off and stepped on him. Hoo-rah. Let us know how it's going Cuz. Shrimpin season coming up down here but I know you don't like to sweat and man oh man this is a place for making gravy for sure.
With the RA I can't have shrimp or anything like that cause it will make it flare. I am doing my homework to understand what I can and can't eat so I don't hurt anymore than I have to. No beer, wine which is ok I can live without. Nightshades so potatoes, tomatoes, mushrooms, peppers.. alright, ok I can do. It will be ok and I have it so much easier than anyone else; just have the head issues to get sorted out and that will come.
I went online to look for a support group last week and found a handful of caregiver support groups which I thought was fantastic. That alone would have made such a difference in my world but they didn't exist then as Austin and a few others will tell you. I thought about going but realized that I would have cried all night so I found another online group called Meetup. They have people who are interested in film, restaurants etc so I signed up for 2 groups (all women!), went out Friday night and had a blast. Just what I needed to get out of my head. All of the women had amazing backstories and here's one of them: One was married for 18 years with an 18 year old daughter. This lady was in the process of a divorce when her husband got sick and died. He changes his will at the last minute and leaves the entire estate to his 18 year old daughter. The mother and the daughter used to be very close but of course the money (a lot of it) has ruined that relationship. Since Florida is NOT a community property state, the State of Florida doesn't recognize the 18 year marriage and the fact that the wife helped him achieve the wealth in the first place. The wife is nearly destitute and the daughter is in the process of kicking her out of her home because the daughter spent so much time with her dying father who was obviously angry at the mother and the daughter is consumed with grief and making crazy decisions. The decisions under duress thing again.... And there goes another amazing story of what human beings can do to each other.
Cricket, thanks for being here. Ya I would go to the movies with you in a heartbeat.
Angelhair! good luck on your test I have a feeling that you're going to Ace it. FLEX! I told a story on here awhile back about making dinner and mom coming around the corner naked from the waist down with a Depends full of brownies. She had a look on her face that was: Check THIS out... eh? eh? I told her, 'nice job' and she took her compliment and strolled off with head held high. I was on her heels just to make sure that the Depends didn't wind up in the pillowcase.
Linda! I have cried for the last 3 days for my mom and dad. Just because I gripe about the caregiving doesn't mean I didn't love them. Miss my mom and dad very much and time is doing its thing by beginning to take away the bad and leaving the precious. Tough road but we all end up traveling it one way or another.
DEEF! I dunno, just like saying: DEEF! Tell Rip wassup!
Jen! omg, you have suffered way more than your share or my share or anyone's share.
Cattails, the rain storm got me good on Saturday and by Sunday it was setting up to come at me again. Since I am working on the exterior of the boat there are are areas that are unprotected by paint or caulk and covered by painters tape and plastic to get through the weather. That stuff only goes so far. The boat angel texted me and told me that there was more rain coming and to get the boat under the covered shed. I had been trying to get my boat under that thing for months. So I made a call to the yard boss and begged and he sent a guy and he and I got her moved. We were under for just 5 minutes and this huge squall moved over us and stalled for a few hours. It rained farm animals. Safe and sound and what a relief.. I had been stressing that for months and months.
I took off all the tape and plastic to start the process of the boat drying out. This morning we pulled her into the sun and I will stay here until about 3pm when the rain is supposed to come again and then we will pull her back undercover for the night.
The guy who was helping me on the boat was a constant source of pain. Finally accomplished what I needed to with him and think I can get by without having to deal with him on a daily basis anymore. He's very good at what he does but everyone here shies away from him because he's no fun to hang out with. This job is tough enough without making it worse by being a pain in the ass.
Just so you guys know, when I am deep in the boat shed I have no Internet.... Also have a new phone number.
Christine!! How is it going? Any news on classes, gardens, the bridal trail?
OK, off to do a humidity check on the pilothouse roof....
Love you guys way more than you'll ever know. lovbob
Bobbie: Excellent idea to get involved in a group. What a wonderful face to face diversion. I envy those woman, having you in their midst and really commend you for taking that step. You need to be with people, especially women. So glad you had a blast at last Friday's get together.
I'm not trying to pry, Bobbie, but why don't you talk about the decisions you make under duress here. Talk about your nightmares and what is going on with your emotional life. Get it out in the open because I think keeping it all inside lets it build up and it has to come out somewhere. Talk about it, VENT about it and maybe that will give you some release from the nightmares.
Glad you are now undercover from the rain. Get what sunshine you can today and then take shelter for the next squall.
Bobbie great to hear from you I am sorry about your RA and hope you found a good rhumatoligist I find the tiredness gets me more than the pain of course the husband never gave me a break I also have fibromyalagia and polymyalagia which was the worse for me that pain was overwhelming until I got on the meds for it on board. I am almost up to not mowing my lawn at this point but still trying to hang in there.
jen - yes god this is enuff for jen ! plz lord .. jen said its enuff enuff enuff . damn it all . i would take all the lit girls pictures out of his room . oh lord that man just is not right at all , blindfold him ! do u live on hills ? geeze , i be takin him for a stroll and let go of the wheelchair ! watch him fly ! love u jen , ure a good person and ur ears are hearin everything . draggin you down . find u a bob segar and jam with him .... bobbie - i am so happy that ure getting out more . proud of you sis . im getting out more myself too . am going camping this weekend and i shall enjoy .. praying that you all have a calm day , love you ! xoxo
Hi all! Happy Monday....ick.. Well, the weather held out on Saturday for my get together with my highschool girl friends! We BBQ'd and had a bonfire and drank and talked...and laughed! It is so funny to see where each person is in their life with the whole caregiving thing! Just like on here! One friends mom died a year ago-and she always used to say that my mom was 6 months behind everything her mother did...guess that isn't true anymore! Most recently she had to put her Aunt in a NH. She could not take her -it was hard and long with her own mom... One is taking care of her dad-but he is still in his home. Two are on the cusp-going to mom's house, taking her shopping etc...it is only a matter of time before they will need more help... I wouldn't want to talk anyone out of caring for someone-but I did talk at length with one of my girl friends about how hard it is. I can tell she is thinking about taking her mom in. Bobbie-you had just written about the stress on the caregivers life/health and I told her about that. I told her to come on this website and do a little reading before she commits! It was a good visit with the girls and a beautiful night with fireflies etc! My hubby was a huge help and told each one of the girls that I need to do this more and to come back any Sat night!!! My bro took care of mom with my hubby and mom was completely out of sorts at bedtime. She would NOT turn out the light and go to bed till she saw me. Hubby said, "she is out at the fire and may not be in for an hour"! She sat on the side of the bed waiting! He said he was NOT going to make me come in, she was safe and she could fall asleep or wait. I have to chuckle cause it is so not like him! But it was great!!! As soon as she saw me, she was fine. And went right off to sleep! The next day she kept saying how happy she was that I had fun with my friends! It is 92 degrees in my backyard right now! In the house it is 87! Gonna go back in and sit with mom in the AC! Gotta refill the dogs water bowl!!!! See ya! Mame
Mame: So glad you had a wonderful time with your girlfriends. Isn't it a blessing to have friends you've shared your life with close by. You go thorough so many things, school, marriage, kids, etc., and now you are able to share parent health issues and losses. I think that is so connecting and comforting. I'm really happy you have that special circle of friends.
You know, I have never seen fireflies. I think they must be so beautiful. Gonna put that on my bucket list. Hugs, Cattails
Hi all, I'm just stopping in to say hello and see how everyone's doing today..
Geez, Jen! I feel your pain from Florida! Since my Father's stroke he is turning into more of a sex pervert himself and I can relate. However my Dad isn't hitting on me TG! He just embarrasses me by hitting on every other woman that comes into the house and all the women everywhere I take him. His Dementia has progressed since the stroke, we are in the Middle stages now. He's more delusional and argumentative, not fun.
Hi Linda and Bobbie....please send me your phone numbers please please please! You think I want to call once in awhile? LOL Love you both!
Diane, Keep hanging in there. I'm glad your new Doctor is working with you on the meds, and with regards to the Brother...at least it calmed down for now. You have my support.
Cattails, you are a blessing here for many of us. Thanks for being here with an interests to helping others. Your attentiveness to others is appreciated.
Hi Austin, Meanwhile2, Lildeb, Mame, Igor, and of course CUZ, oh btw Cuz.... thanks for that email about the marvels of the human body, Now every time Evil Cricket sees a man she is scoping out the size of his Thumbs! HAH!
Also Hi to anyone else reading but not posting currently. Hang in there and I'm not talking about with a noose! *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
Navel tick eeewwww.....Hope you are doing better there bobbie, been having nightmares myself again. Woke up from one where mom fell down the basement steps because I turned the light off and she feel on her neck I call 911 no one ever comes to help...I decided to go hang myself in the garage...lovely dream....Have a stiff neck now, any wonder....
Heard back from local theatre group...play has too many characters for them, so they have taken a pass...yes hits just keep coming...Hope to at least get a little feed back. please people. Something, anything would help...
Got school pics of cousins girl, will not be showing them to mom, if she asks for copies for grandpa I will have to hang myself in the garage...I just cant take anymore....I just can't....
Iam glad I don't have to wipe any asses yet, I know my day will be coming. However, I just love cleaning sh*t off by the toliet paper n the handle of toliet bowl. Love it, love it. I just mopped n cleaned the whole bathroom with some good ole pine oil n cleaned too. Plus, for some reason I'm picking up small balls of toleit paper n no it did not have any poo on it but she could had wipe with it. I have caught her sitting with one foot on toliet seat while trying to dig poo out of her ass! I guess, I will have to start asking her every other day if her bowl movement was long slender or rounded turds. That way I can give her the powder stuff to keep her regulated. Boy, I was never taught this in my four degree in sociology. For some reason the mnl had to touch hubby's bread on his plate while I was fixing dinner. So, I just threw it to the birds outside. He ask why I threw his bread out n I said, "do u really want to know?" He said no thanks as I gave him that sh*tty grin. ; 0 Hubby was already told before about the turd in toliet deal. Now that I have been tramatized, I cannot keep that thought out of my mind.
After the mnl ate, I guess she washes out her false teeth but she won't let me put them in a container to really get them clean. Anyway, she leaves spit particles in the sink that was once sparkly clean in the bathroom!!!! Ah!!!!! So, I ask hubby, "Did you spit in the bathroom sink?" I'm so.... bad. ; 0 So, he goes in their n gets his mom to clean it out n she arguing that she don't do that n bla.... Next, I hear hubby being loud, "don't put your hand on it." I like to die laughing for I had a flash back of her crabbing that turd in the toliet to prove to me she wasn't constipated. lol Next, I had the opportunity to clean peanut butter off the handle of the refrig. Lets just say it was peanut butter okay. n it was on the counter where she made herself peanut butter n saltine crackers. So, my house smells a little along with some peanut butter n rotten sweet potatos because it exploded in my microwave. Tomorrow has to be a better day. Lord give me strength.
Oh dear Jen.... if it comes down to that go in Fartpants room and gather up all his dirty shit and go outside and burn it! What's he gonna do about it anyway? you can out run the old fart, LOL Please don't hang yourself! Hey do you have your play posted somewhere on line? I will give it a read and tell you who to axe if you want. I still think you should write a play based on all of us here (kind of like "the help" except instead of maids....caregivers) I know it would be a big hit! Dark Comedy with a Sisterhood forum holding it all together.. I would pay to see it. And who knows it could be such a hit that Oprah might give us all a Respite in Hawaii or something. Wouldn't that be awesome!
Change of Subject, Has anyone heard from Ted and how he's doing since his Mother died? I hope he is okay. I sent a brief email to him but haven't heard back.
Cricket, I haven't heard anything on here n I hope he is doing okay. As for your post above Ted, you got me cracking laughing out loud n I needed that too. I was going to tell Jsomebody that it one aweful dream, but your is a lot better with the humor,. I would love to go to that Dark Comedy play n you probable have Oprah lol. Im sorry I had to go back n read it again about, "if it comes down to that go in Fartpants room and gather up all his dirty sh*t and go outside and burn it! What's he gonna do about it anyway? you can out run the old fart, LOL Please don't hang yourself!" Love it.. have a good night all n Somebody, don't eat whatever you ate that night so u don't have another nightmare.
Actually, Jen, with the number of baby boomers taking care of parents, a play concerning said subject would be a total sell out. Think about all the different parents and all the different adult child caregivers. Think about the back stories behind all the characters. It would be riveting, hilarious, heart wrenching, infuriating and everything in between. A real microcosm of the human condition.
It's only 9:30am and I am exhausted already! Mom had me up before dawn and jumping up every 5 minutes for one trivial or imaginary thing after another. Then the aide called in sick so I can't get mom ready in time for her appointment with the doctor. Last night my oven decided to die while I was trying to bake a carrot cake. Lildeb, Jen and everyone else here, you know what it feels like when everything is going wrong!!!! Jen, stay with us girl. I cant imagine hving to deal with FP, but we need you.
Now that I'veblown off my steam, let me see what I can actually get done today. Sending you all hugs and angels to get you through the day.
Jen, I'd sign a waiver, and I bet everyone else would also! xoxo
Diane, Getting tired first thing in the morning is a sure sign of exhaustion.. If it all gets to overwhelming just stop everything and take some deep breaths and tell yourself it's okay to not do it all, just do what you can and it is good enough! I'm with you in spirit. Angels to you dear Jen xoxo
Lildeb, we would all be hanging ourselves if we didn't have a sense of humor. About eating and nightmares....it's absolutely true. A sure recipe for a nightmare is to eat and then go to bed. Technically we are supposed to not eat 3 hours before going to bed....but as caregivers that's not always doable.
Here's a thought for the day... Each one of us has a beautiful light within that radiates who we really are, it is our living inner spirit that allows us to shine and each one of us is unique, each one of us has our own presence that is a gift to the world. Lets not let the down side of caregiving put out our light but rather lets do the best we can with what is in front of us right now, today and forget about the past, don't think about the future. Lets stay in the now and do the best we can and let our lights shine. *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
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Cuz, I hope the tick bite turns out to be nothing at all. Next time you go on a fishing trip go to Louisiana, they have the best fishing of any place I've been. We lived down in the Bayou South of New Orleans for a year and my Husband would never come home without less than 20 big Redfish.
Cattails, I hope you have a better day today! You poor thing.
Angelhair, It's great to hear from you and that your studies are progressing. And more family moving in with you? Girl, I don't know how you do it. You and your Husband must just have big old hearts!
Diane, It's good to see you hanging in there too!
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As for your sis, I would call that sister of yours n drop dear daddy over their for a couple of days n take hubby or just yourself on a mini-break. Maybe that will open her eyes n then maybe she be more to help out or maybe not. I say go for it n take a break to breathe n enjoy the fresh air.
As for grass, I am soooooooooooooo jealous. We have had some type of bugs that killed r grass last year and the hot sun. Hubby, been taking pieace of grass from the side and trying to get it to plant so far it is working but some rain would be nice. Btw, what the world r u feeding your dad to have the sh*ts all the time? lol. sorry, but the true story was a bit funny n yet sad for you. I really would consder that sister n fairly-world n bring her up to the real-world with her dad.
Cuz, i hope that is not a bad tick of course there is no good tick, that was dumb. anyway, I hope you don't get sick from it. Another thing in the woods which r aweful is those freaking 'red bugs!' You be itching for ever even after a shower n then your putting on clear finger nail polish to kill them. Now, they have something for it on the shelves. I'm sorry you didn't catch any fish. Did you have your mouth right while fishing? Did you remember to spit on the worm? lol Maybe, next time you will catch the one that got away.
I had a ok night zzzzzzzzzzzzz for I only got up 3 times to tinkle. So far I have been lucky with the mnl when it comes to being independent to the bathroom by herself. I will count my blessing for I do not see how y'all doing it. I guess, it something that has to be done or no one else is going to do deal with it. How in the world R we so lucky to be the chosen ones I do not know. I think it just makes us that more stronger n caring than others.
oh my those were the days !!!
i miss my daddy ...
you all i sure hope u have a lazy sunday today .
im dealing with chichers , how ya spell that ,? i believe its alot worst than ticks , them chic lit thing gets up in my private area and digs into my skin , damn bastards ! pullin weeds and wham private area just become a motel area .
am going to have my grandson over in about an hr , we prob will stay inside , too hot outside and the grass is turnin brown .
take care you guys !! xoxo
Cattail, all the more reason you should take a 'whole week off,' instead of a two little days off. I make a personal drive to sis house n of course, make a call in advance that you r bringing daddy to her place for Father's Day. Then, drop him off like a sack of tators for awhile or let her handle him while you stay with her and let her get the opportunity to enjoy the crap-litteraly. ; ) I know dad shouldn't be treated like a sack of tator but you need a break to keep you from going crazy.
Well, it getting dark n rumbling so maybe just maybe we will get a drop or two of rain for the grass.
Cuz, we had a horse get tick fever once. I probably have some of the medicine we gave him still around. Would be happy to send you some, but you might have to adjust the dose.
It is 99 degrees here today. Need to mow the grass, but waiting for it to cool off a little. Even got my cement pond cleaned out and the leaks patched. It is filling up now. It should be ready to jump in by tomorrow.
I say we have Evil Cricket write a generic note for each of us to use for the sibs at the first available opportunities. Then all we have to do is take them to sibs and pin the notes on them. LOL Others will have no appreciation for what we do unless they are faced with it themselves for a few days....or at least a week!
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Mom goes to the trouble of making Daddddeeee favorite food for this 91st, and a little cake and decorates it and of course he has a huge coughing choking fit and then (and no, I am not surprised) refuses to have any cake...You want to hurt my mom, reject her cooking...That about do it... I go walk my dog, get back he is on card number two......................................................................................................................................................................................Yes, can I leave now?
He's been looking at me for three days waiting for mt to say something about his hair cut, you know what there is of his hair, waiting for me to say how good it looks....Isn't it enough he gets to mentally masturbate to pictures of his great grand child, age 5, just leave me alone!!!!
Today he has blood on his arm tell mom (lies) always blame something else the wheel chair the carpet the shoes......He crabs while she tried to clean it up and wrap it. now in cackling at W C Fields. I just want this to end...and who doesn't...well the bad for some any way, for me, I am afraid it is all bad....
It is just enough God enough.....I've had enough, no thank you I've had enough...
Ah more banging next door, been two months of that, and he does it at 3 AM like he thinks we wont notice....Just when is this over, having gallbladder issues, can that kill me? Pleasant thought....
Have a sane week everyone, what ever that may mean now....
Meanwhile: I'm so sorry you are missing your Sam. I don't want to even imagine what it would be like to lose my husband. I'm really sorry.
Linda: Sorry you are missing your dad, but glad my comments made you smile.
Lildeb: I couldn't take my dad to where my sibs live. The trip is way too far for him to travel safely. I really think it would do him in. I know it would do me in. Can you imagine the bathroom issues on the 2 hour drive to the airport, at the airport, on the plane and then another 2 hours plus to where my sibs live? There is not enough lavender.
Cricket: Put me down for 3 notes to sibs.
Diane: Sending good thoughts your way for a decent week.
Bobbie: Hope you are doing ok and that Florida rain storm didn't reach you.
Angelhair: Good to hear from you and so happy you are loving your classes.
Hugs to all, Cattails.
Sorry I have been such a sour ass lately. Been struggling with nightmares and insanity like that and thanks everyone for being here and I am sorry but I roared at the 'sitting on the boys' routine... omg Hilarious and ya, only funny if you're not the one polishing the stones.
Cuz!! any news? how do you feel? I remember getting a tick in my navel at one of the summer reunions in Mich. I don't think anyone knew back then how dangerous they were. My dad came at me with a lit cigarette, poked the tick in the butt and when the tick yanked his head out to see wtf daddy popped him off and stepped on him.
Hoo-rah.
Let us know how it's going Cuz. Shrimpin season coming up down here but I know you don't like to sweat and man oh man this is a place for making gravy for sure.
With the RA I can't have shrimp or anything like that cause it will make it flare. I am doing my homework to understand what I can and can't eat so I don't hurt anymore than I have to. No beer, wine which is ok I can live without. Nightshades so potatoes, tomatoes, mushrooms, peppers.. alright, ok I can do.
It will be ok and I have it so much easier than anyone else; just have the head issues to get sorted out and that will come.
I went online to look for a support group last week and found a handful of caregiver support groups which I thought was fantastic. That alone would have made such a difference in my world but they didn't exist then as Austin and a few others will tell you. I thought about going but realized that I would have cried all night so I found another online group called Meetup. They have people who are interested in film, restaurants etc so I signed up for 2 groups (all women!), went out Friday night and had a blast. Just what I needed to get out of my head.
All of the women had amazing backstories and here's one of them:
One was married for 18 years with an 18 year old daughter. This lady was in the process of a divorce when her husband got sick and died. He changes his will at the last minute and leaves the entire estate to his 18 year old daughter. The mother and the daughter used to be very close but of course the money (a lot of it) has ruined that relationship. Since Florida is NOT a community property state, the State of Florida doesn't recognize the 18 year marriage and the fact that the wife helped him achieve the wealth in the first place.
The wife is nearly destitute and the daughter is in the process of kicking her out of her home because the daughter spent so much time with her dying father who was obviously angry at the mother and the daughter is consumed with grief and making crazy decisions. The decisions under duress thing again.... And there goes another amazing story of what human beings can do to each other.
Cricket, thanks for being here. Ya I would go to the movies with you in a heartbeat.
Angelhair! good luck on your test I have a feeling that you're going to Ace it.
FLEX! I told a story on here awhile back about making dinner and mom coming around the corner naked from the waist down with a Depends full of brownies. She had a look on her face that was: Check THIS out... eh? eh?
I told her, 'nice job' and she took her compliment and strolled off with head held high. I was on her heels just to make sure that the Depends didn't wind up in the pillowcase.
Linda! I have cried for the last 3 days for my mom and dad. Just because I gripe about the caregiving doesn't mean I didn't love them. Miss my mom and dad very much and time is doing its thing by beginning to take away the bad and leaving the precious. Tough road but we all end up traveling it one way or another.
DEEF! I dunno, just like saying: DEEF! Tell Rip wassup!
Jen! omg, you have suffered way more than your share or my share or anyone's share.
Cattails, the rain storm got me good on Saturday and by Sunday it was setting up to come at me again. Since I am working on the exterior of the boat there are are areas that are unprotected by paint or caulk and covered by painters tape and plastic to get through the weather. That stuff only goes so far. The boat angel texted me and told me that there was more rain coming and to get the boat under the covered shed. I had been trying to get my boat under that thing for months. So I made a call to the yard boss and begged and he sent a guy and he and I got her moved. We were under for just 5 minutes and this huge squall moved over us and stalled for a few hours. It rained farm animals. Safe and sound and what a relief.. I had been stressing that for months and months.
I took off all the tape and plastic to start the process of the boat drying out. This morning we pulled her into the sun and I will stay here until about 3pm when the rain is supposed to come again and then we will pull her back undercover for the night.
The guy who was helping me on the boat was a constant source of pain. Finally accomplished what I needed to with him and think I can get by without having to deal with him on a daily basis anymore. He's very good at what he does but everyone here shies away from him because he's no fun to hang out with. This job is tough enough without making it worse by being a pain in the ass.
Just so you guys know, when I am deep in the boat shed I have no Internet....
Also have a new phone number.
Christine!! How is it going? Any news on classes, gardens, the bridal trail?
OK, off to do a humidity check on the pilothouse roof....
Love you guys way more than you'll ever know.
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I'm not trying to pry, Bobbie, but why don't you talk about the decisions you make under duress here. Talk about your nightmares and what is going on with your emotional life. Get it out in the open because I think keeping it all inside lets it build up and it has to come out somewhere. Talk about it, VENT about it and maybe that will give you some release from the nightmares.
Glad you are now undercover from the rain. Get what sunshine you can today and then take shelter for the next squall.
Keep safe and well. Hugs, Cattails.
jen - yes god this is enuff for jen ! plz lord .. jen said its enuff enuff enuff . damn it all . i would take all the lit girls pictures out of his room . oh lord that man just is not right at all , blindfold him ! do u live on hills ? geeze , i be takin him for a stroll and let go of the wheelchair ! watch him fly !
love u jen , ure a good person and ur ears are hearin everything . draggin you down . find u a bob segar and jam with him ....
bobbie - i am so happy that ure getting out more . proud of you sis . im getting out more myself too .
am going camping this weekend and i shall enjoy ..
praying that you all have a calm day , love you ! xoxo
Well, the weather held out on Saturday for my get together with my highschool girl friends! We BBQ'd and had a bonfire and drank and talked...and laughed! It is so funny to see where each person is in their life with the whole caregiving thing! Just like on here! One friends mom died a year ago-and she always used to say that my mom was 6 months behind everything her mother did...guess that isn't true anymore! Most recently she had to put her Aunt in a NH. She could not take her -it was hard and long with her own mom... One is taking care of her dad-but he is still in his home. Two are on the cusp-going to mom's house, taking her shopping etc...it is only a matter of time before they will need more help... I wouldn't want to talk anyone out of caring for someone-but I did talk at length with one of my girl friends about how hard it is. I can tell she is thinking about taking her mom in. Bobbie-you had just written about the stress on the caregivers life/health and I told her about that. I told her to come on this website and do a little reading before she commits! It was a good visit with the girls and a beautiful night with fireflies etc! My hubby was a huge help and told each one of the girls that I need to do this more and to come back any Sat night!!! My bro took care of mom with my hubby and mom was completely out of sorts at bedtime. She would NOT turn out the light and go to bed till she saw me. Hubby said, "she is out at the fire and may not be in for an hour"! She sat on the side of the bed waiting! He said he was NOT going to make me come in, she was safe and she could fall asleep or wait. I have to chuckle cause it is so not like him! But it was great!!! As soon as she saw me, she was fine. And went right off to sleep! The next day she kept saying how happy she was that I had fun with my friends!
It is 92 degrees in my backyard right now! In the house it is 87! Gonna go back in and sit with mom in the AC! Gotta refill the dogs water bowl!!!! See ya! Mame
You know, I have never seen fireflies. I think they must be so beautiful. Gonna put that on my bucket list. Hugs, Cattails
Geez, Jen! I feel your pain from Florida! Since my Father's stroke he is turning into more of a sex pervert himself and I can relate. However my Dad isn't hitting on me TG! He just embarrasses me by hitting on every other woman that comes into the house and all the women everywhere I take him. His Dementia has progressed since the stroke, we are in the Middle stages now. He's more delusional and argumentative, not fun.
Hi Linda and Bobbie....please send me your phone numbers please please please! You think I want to call once in awhile? LOL Love you both!
Diane, Keep hanging in there. I'm glad your new Doctor is working with you on the meds, and with regards to the Brother...at least it calmed down for now. You have my support.
Cattails, you are a blessing here for many of us. Thanks for being here with an interests to helping others. Your attentiveness to others is appreciated.
Hi Austin, Meanwhile2, Lildeb, Mame, Igor, and of course CUZ, oh btw Cuz.... thanks for that email about the marvels of the human body, Now every time Evil Cricket sees a man she is scoping out the size of his Thumbs! HAH!
Also Hi to anyone else reading but not posting currently. Hang in there and I'm not talking about with a noose!
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Heard back from local theatre group...play has too many characters for them, so they have taken a pass...yes hits just keep coming...Hope to at least get a little feed back. please people. Something, anything would help...
Got school pics of cousins girl, will not be showing them to mom, if she asks for copies for grandpa I will have to hang myself in the garage...I just cant take anymore....I just can't....
For some reason the mnl had to touch hubby's bread on his plate while I was fixing dinner. So, I just threw it to the birds outside. He ask why I threw his bread out n I said, "do u really want to know?" He said no thanks as I gave him that sh*tty grin. ; 0 Hubby was already told before about the turd in toliet deal. Now that I have been tramatized, I cannot keep that thought out of my mind.
After the mnl ate, I guess she washes out her false teeth but she won't let me put them in a container to really get them clean. Anyway, she leaves spit particles in the sink that was once sparkly clean in the bathroom!!!! Ah!!!!! So, I ask hubby, "Did you spit in the bathroom sink?" I'm so.... bad. ; 0 So, he goes in their n gets his mom to clean it out n she arguing that she don't do that n bla.... Next, I hear hubby being loud, "don't put your hand on it." I like to die laughing for I had a flash back of her crabbing that turd in the toliet to prove to me she wasn't constipated. lol
Next, I had the opportunity to clean peanut butter off the handle of the refrig. Lets just say it was peanut butter okay. n it was on the counter where she made herself peanut butter n saltine crackers. So, my house smells a little along with some peanut butter n rotten sweet potatos because it exploded in my microwave. Tomorrow has to be a better day. Lord give me strength.
Change of Subject, Has anyone heard from Ted and how he's doing since his Mother died? I hope he is okay. I sent a brief email to him but haven't heard back.
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As for your post above Ted, you got me cracking laughing out loud n I needed that too. I was going to tell Jsomebody that it one aweful dream, but your is a lot better with the humor,. I would love to go to that Dark Comedy play n you probable have Oprah lol. Im sorry I had to go back n read it again about, "if it comes down to that go in Fartpants room and gather up all his dirty sh*t and go outside and burn it! What's he gonna do about it anyway? you can out run the old fart, LOL Please don't hang yourself!" Love it.. have a good night all n Somebody, don't eat whatever you ate that night so u don't have another nightmare.
Cattails
Try and have a good day, everyone.
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Now that I'veblown off my steam, let me see what I can actually get done today. Sending you all hugs and angels to get you through the day.
Gah, I journal about all this...if I printed it I'd be sued....
Thank you ALL for the support, It means a lot to me....
Diane, Getting tired first thing in the morning is a sure sign of exhaustion.. If it all gets to overwhelming just stop everything and take some deep breaths and tell yourself it's okay to not do it all, just do what you can and it is good enough! I'm with you in spirit. Angels to you dear Jen xoxo
Lildeb, we would all be hanging ourselves if we didn't have a sense of humor. About eating and nightmares....it's absolutely true. A sure recipe for a nightmare is to eat and then go to bed. Technically we are supposed to not eat 3 hours before going to bed....but as caregivers that's not always doable.
Here's a thought for the day...
Each one of us has a beautiful light within that radiates who we really are, it is our living inner spirit that allows us to shine and each one of us is unique, each one of us has our own presence that is a gift to the world. Lets not let the down side of caregiving put out our light but rather lets do the best we can with what is in front of us right now, today and forget about the past, don't think about the future. Lets stay in the now and do the best we can and let our lights shine.
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