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Cattail, welcome back n we miss you too. Glad your Grandaughter's wedding turn out to be great and it sounded beautiful from what little details you have given us. Of course it's just 2am. ; ) Maybe once you go pick up your children from the vet n they get done hooping n hollering n licking you to death that, you will give us more detail about the wedding. Too bad we cannot view pictures on here, darn! Glad you had a great time n welcome back.
Diane I am so sorry they gave you the wrong form-sometimes I wonder about the people they hire-I know when I had to call with questions I would get different answers on different days-in my job if I did not know the answer I would say that and then find out the right but I notice nw days no one wants to admit they do not know the answer and just make up something-I hope things go more smoothly from here on in this process.
Cat, glad you enjoyed your granddaughters wedding. Good to have you back. Good luck with the medicaid forms Diane. Try not to pull your hair out. Tim, do keep in touch. I'm sure Laura, and her daughter were better off for having you in their lives, even for a little while. Lean on your friends, and let them know what you want. Love Shirley
Welcome back Cat, it sounds like you had a wonderful time being there for your Granddaughter's Wedding. We are glad to have you back here with us and we missed you too.
Diane, whew! As usual the process is a pain in the butt but yay! for there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I really hope that they get it right this time and you get some help.
Meanwhile2, the wisdom you show as a result of your willingness to accept the changes that life brings is such a good example to us all. I am so glad that you are still here with us.
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A little more about the wedding. One of the things that really impressed me was how cool and calm Amanda stayed during the week before her wedding. Same is true of Brad, her now husband. There were plenty of friends and family coming into North Dakota for this wedding and they started arriving last Tuesday. Brad and Amanda made arrangements at central locations, like our hotel one evening, so everyone could come there and get together. Her younger brothers could go swimming in the pool (others did also) and we could all hang out together and catch up. When we went to breakfast, she just let everyone know the place and time. People came and went and the kids just stayed and visited with everyone. It actually worked out really well.
After the rehearsal, there was the usual rehearsal dinner, but instead of limiting it to just the bridal party, they included all out of town family and friends. It was at Brad's parents house and was a simple and fun pot luck type event held in the yard. Perfect weather, stayed in the 70's the whole time.
Wedding was at 4PM Saturday. The ceremony was really touching and Amanda looked so beautiful. At the reception, Amanda and Brad had their first dance and on the second song, she danced with her father and grandfather (my hubby). Brad and Amanda spent the evening dancing with friends and family and visiting with everyone in attendance. I was just very impressed with both of them at how gracious and caring they were to all who shared their special event.
We picked up the dogs yesterday and they managed fine in our absence. This boarding facility is excellent. There were 3 other Shelties there, so Kelly (owner) put them together during the day. Shelties are very fond of other Shelties so it was a happy little group that enjoyed being together. Marcus & Mattie also got to nap on a big doggie bed in the office during the day and spend time with Kelly when she was working at the front desk. Note this place is locked at all times. You can't come in the front door of the office unless all dogs are secured behind baby gates. Every inch of the place is on TV monitors at all times. Dogs are not locked in cages. They have a ton of fenced areas to play and be out of doors and are always supervised. At night Marcus and Mattie have their own room to sleep in which include beds and a sofa. Marcus (who is a rescue dog and afraid of men) even warmed up to Kelly's husband and let him pet and fuss on him.
So, everyone did well and we are home and happy. Thanks for caring and missing me.
Diane: I am so sorry about the Medicaid snafu. Take a deep breath and keep going forward. Unfortunately, sometimes you just have to accept that systems take time to navigate and things take longer than they should. It's not ok, but there isn't a darn thing you can do about it but to keep on it. I am praying that you will have a quick turn around on this second attempt. Keep your chin up and know that we are all pulling for you.
Tim: I'm sorry for the loss you feel and about the daughter going to live with her inept dad. I do appreciate Meanwhile's comment that you were there at such a critical time in Laura's life and in the lives of her children. We will be thinking of you and hope you stay in touch.
Cricket: Hope all is well with you and that your dad is behaving.
We had a care meeting at the NH today regarding my dad. He seems to be disconnecting from people and not doing as much for himself as he did at home. Although he can't do much of anything, he did always feed himself and now staff is having to help with that. It depends on how alert he is feeling on any given day and it seems to be more up and down now.
Tomorrow, hubby and going to go see him at lunchtime and bring cheese burgers. We are also taking the dogs with us. One of my dad's favorite things was to feed the dogs at the breakfast table when he was with us. Both of the moochers would be poised on each side of him, just waiting for him to drop something or offer a handout.
My dad has done this all his life with his dogs. Personally, I don't want a drooling dog watching me eat and don't allow it, but when my dad was with us we just let that rule go out the window. So tomorrow it will be lunch for 5. I hope that cheers him up and can be worked into the schedule on a regular basis.
Cat I am so very glad you take the dogs to the NH that is a great gift not only to your father but the other residents -the NH my husband was in most of the time allowed dogs and I would ask their owners to please go into see my husband while they were there and most of the time they would at times they did not want to be bother and my good friend who now is in AL had a visit from a vol. at the NH she was at just before she left and it was so presious I almost cried-good for you girlfriend.
I have been hiding from the world and out of contact with all my online friends for way too long!!! So sorry for my absence. It has been a crazy summer here! Way too hot for me to function.
Mom is slowing down more each day. She never used to look tired, but does by afternoon almost every day now. She still eats well, when we can get her attention and she'll open her mouth. She walks very little with assistance. Her knees are always bent and she can't get her feet to move. I drive my car into the yard now so that the passenger door is facing the house. I haul her down the 2 stairs off her porch, in her wheelchair, then park her close to the car so I can lift her off her chair and into the car. This is sometimes quite the challenge, as she will not bend at the waist to sit! She is still at daycare 3 days a week for 6 hours and I have Merry on the other 4 days.
My oldest sister, Eileen, stayed with us for 2 weeks at the end of July into August. It was great to have her company as always. She bought all the food and essentials while she was here. Mom's diapers and pads and body wash and wipes, as well as toilet paper and paper towels. She gets really upset when she hears how often our other sibs stop by to visit or check to see if I need help. we all know that never happens!!! Of course they all showed up a couple times while she was here because they know she provides food and I do the cooking. It was Mom's birthday and no one came to see her or even brought her a gift. Guess they figure she has no clue, so why bother wasting their money.
I've been able to use the pool more than usual this summer because of the heat, but still had to schedule my time around Mom. My husband is still out of work and done with unemployment compensation. He is now collecting social security and we have an appointment at the local hospital after Labor Day, to apply for health insurance. We do not have any for now. The garden was doing well until we got torrential rains the last 2 weeks. Now my tomatoes are rotting before they ripen. My solution is to make salsa and can it. So far I have made 2 batches of salsa and plan on doing more. Found this killer recipe online! I've also made blueberry, strawberry, peach, and peach melba jam. We just picked the concord grapes today and will be making grape jam this weekend. It's exhausting work, but well worth the effort in the end. Our raspberry plants are yielding a good crop this year, so it raspberry jam in the near future!
Things were pretty bleak for a while. There was a hold up in Mom's LTC reimbursement checks for a while and cash was very short. I was really getting worried about finances and couldn't think beyond that for a few months. Then summer came with a vengeance and now it's jam and canning season. And of course there is the never ending husband over my shoulder!!!! That takes up way too much of my time! Although my health has been okay physically, the mental side of it has suffered some lately, but I'm starting to get back to my old self as the cooler weather revives me. As always, my restless legs are keeping me from getting enough sleep, maybe a bit more so than usual.
So, I just wanted to apologize to all my good friends and let you know a bit of what's been going on here with me. I hope all of you are well and taking care of yourselves as best you can. Know that I do care and think about all of you often and will try to get my sorry ass to communicate more from now on!
Hi Kathy, Good to see you online again! I understand about feeling overwhelmed and stretched too thin. I've been fretting about what we are going to eat after Saturday and the pastor showed up today with a giftcard for the grocery! Thank you Lord!! Between mom being in the donut hole and the sibs no longer contributing financially, it has been a tough few months. I'm not sure what your prescription drugs are like, but my boyfriend has found some great coupons through goodrxdotcom. We just picked up his plavix from Walmart with the coupon for $17 instead of $81. Maybe that can help you out some too. I may have to come visit next summer to learn how to can. I only had a small raised garden and I've had plenty of tomatoes, green beans, green peppers, eggplant and cucumbers. If I had a large garden I would have been in trouble. I'm glad your sister was able to visit you and your mom. I know it must have been wonderful to have the company.
I hope everyone else is hanging in there and staying out of the black hole. I found out from the social worker at the doctor's office that I still dont have the right medicaid application for for mom. It just amazes me the bureaucratic bs that you must go through to try and get help. Bobbie, when are you going to be on spreecast again?
GOD HAS SUCH A SENSE OF HUMOUR A woman was at work when she received a phone call that her small daughter was very sick with a fever. She left work and stopped by the pharmacy to get some medication. She got back to her car and found that she had locked her keys in the car. She didn't know what to do. She called home and told the baby sitter what had happened. The baby sitter told her that the fever was getting worse.
She said: "You mightfind a coat hanger and use that to open the door." The woman looked around and found an old rusty coat hanger that had beenleft on the ground, possibly by someone else who at some time had lockedtheir keys in their car. She looked at the hanger and said: "I don't know how to use this. "She bowed her head and asked God to send her HELP. Within five minutes a beat up old motorcycle pulled up. A bearded man who was wearing an old biker skull rag on his head.The woman thought: "This is what you sent to help me?"However, she was desperate.The man got off of his cycle and asked if he could help.She said: "Yes, my daughter is very sick. I stopped to get her some medication and I've locked my keys in my car. I must get home to her. Please, can you use this hanger to unlock my car?"He said: "Sure." He walked over to the car, and in less than a minute the car was opened.She hugged the man and through her tears she said: "Thank You SO Much! You are a very nice man."The man replied: "Lady, I am NOT a nice man. I just got out of PRISON yesterday, I was in prison for car theft." The woman hugged the man again and with sobbing tears criedout loud: "Oh, thank you God! You even sent me a Professional!!" Is GOD good or what!!??
Kathy: It's good to hear from you. I think about you often and confess to some worry when you don't check in. What a stressful time you've had. Both you and Diane have sure been through the mill. Sending you prayers and best wishes, Cat.
Just before the funeral services, the undertaker came up to the very elderly widow and asked, 'How old was your husband?' '98,' she replied: 'Two years older than me' 'So you're 96,' the undertaker commented. She responded, 'Hardly worth going home, is it?'
Hi everyone, Cat I loved hearing all the details about your family and the critters! Both my husband and father feed the dogs from the table.. I feel the same way as you about it but I tolerate it because they are hopeless. Diane, social workers and the system...the whole thing just really sucks. Cat is right you have to just keep pressing forward.. About the webinar.. last I spoke with Bobbie she was working on the possibility of changing the format around to internet radio and that we most likely wouldn't have a webinar this week for venting. I will be doing the webinar tonight for our weight loss support group and am looking forward to that. I hope you can come too. Deef! I am so glad to see you back. I missed you but hey girlfriend we all need to press the pause button now and then and sometimes we (as in many of us) have to find it first!! I am so happy for you and your Mom that at least you have your sister Eileen to show up and actually help sometimes. I'm glad you're here but don't pressure yourself about being here all the time when you can't. We all have to give and take what we can when we can. Hey Cuz, that story was great. xo *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
Ty so much guys and gals ..ya its tough but I'm still breathing I guess that's the key ..I guess I would be in trouble if I stopped :) well things are ok I don't remember if I told.ya guys but I went back to work AND My newi w client keeps me very busy which is nice he's 30 so very active but the night's are hard so now Igot a new one for stories ... So he's a parapeligic and he has two wheel chair vans well one was in the.shop getting the controls removed to turn it into a caregiver driven van the other as they were on vacation the slider door fell off...still trying to figure that one out but he deffinetly keeps me on my get ...well I truely appreciate you all and Ty once again
Kathy I am so sorry for all you are going through-we will keep you out the that darn black hole-you must be exhausted with all the canning-think how good those things will be this winter. Tim -glad youstoped in and I hope you are not working too hard-good to hear from you.
Hey, I'm busier than a one legged man at an ass kicking contest.... But, I miss you guys. Reading along but never have much time to comment and say hi. xx
Tim take care of yourself-I did not realize you were in the health care field-you must be an RN-I worked with a nurse who became Chris Reeves - Superman's- main nurse who was in charge his aids and nurses and his travel schedule.
Tim, do take care of yourself. Staying busy is not a bad thing. Stuff can sort of creep up on you and make you feel like your drowning sometimes, and it is just easier to keep moving. I know I worried people around me after my husband died. I couldn't stop moving, couldn't sleep, It is still hard, but time makes it a little easier to deal with.
i have to say I giggled when reading the post from the beginning. I just got my mother, who is already driving me crazy! I asked her to leave the bathroom door open when she finished using the restroom (because the toilet runs constantly and I need to manually stop it). I walk down the hall and see her sitting on the toilet, popping, with the door wide open! Not only am I grossed out because she insists on me looking at her stool, but she is in plain sight of my husband!!! Luckily he didn't see her! OMFG! I don't know how much I can take of her leaving pooppy diapers, wipes and dirty tissues all over the house! WTF?!
Stressed247. Welcome n join the crowd. Vent all u must n vent some more. Hey, be thankful at least she don't grab it out of the toilet bowl like my mil does sometimes just to prove she is not constipated as she squashes it between her fingers. Yuck!!!!. Maybe your mom only understood part of the sentence n that may be, leave it open? I am sorry that your mom has cancer. This site is pretty good for emotional support. Hang in there.
My parents still live next door (Thank God), but when they come to visit, they both refuse to shut the bathroom door when they are in there. What is the problem??
Hey my Husband will use the hall bathroom and he rarely shuts the damn door! The other day one of the dogs pushed the door all the way open and he says to the dog..hey, can't I get some privacy here. I walked by and said "if you want privacy shut the door" Doh!!! No he doesn't have any excuse like AD. I think he is secretly an exhibitionist. My stepson grew out of it ...TG! Anyway, welcome to the thread "stressed247" and hold on to your seat because you're in for a wild ride, lol Linda my "shitzofrantic" friend we are going to be fine with the storm. We've been through much worse. Thanks for thinking about me, love you. xoxo Tim, come post in here at night... don't be lonely. I'm usually checking in here once a day. xoxo Well I'm off to go move everything off the patio and around the pool so it doesn't all get blown into the pool, lol I'll keep everyone posted as to the storm. Love you all. *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
Let's hope that the storm is a "banana" storm (winds strong enough to only knock down bananas trees and nothing else.) However, like all storms, it will bring the rain and hence the flooding...Hope you all have your emergency supplies just in case the power goes out...
I really thought I'm beginning to get the hang of dealing with dad's poop mess. I didn't freak out this morning. His clothes and laundry are still outside the porch waiting for me to splash off the excess poop before going in the washer...I really thought I handled it well...Except as I was posting here, I started crying...I guess I'm NOT handling it well. ....I just really, really, really hate dealing with pampers and pooh that is NOT in the pampers where it belongs. Can you believe, even when I showed it to my dad that he touched his poop and left it on the bedsheet (and pants, and shirt and bedpad), he Still insists it's not poop....Sorry, I just needed to vent because sooner or later I'm going to Have to deal with those yucky clothes outside. Ugh!!!
Bookworm, I can imagine how you feel because I remember how distraught I felt dealing with mom when she had the stomach virus. She and everything in her bed was covered in poop. At least that was a brief episode and not everyday like you are facing. Sending love and support across the miles.
Bookworm: I don't know what religion you are and I don't care. Let me guarantee you, there is a place in heaven with your name on the door. Good God, you have so much shit (no pun intended) on you plate. I am so thankful that you are here with us and posting and helping so many. You are an amazing person. Hang in there and cry any time you feel the need. We are always here for you and we all love you very much.
Diane: Everytime I see your picture it still makes me laugh my ass off. It is absolute perfection. You are solid gold and I love you to bits.
Cricket: I don't know what we would do with out you.
Linda: Good to hear your voice, even if the words are short and it took a hurricane to bring you to the surface. Hope you are ok.
Thanks, Diane, Cat. I really do appreciate it. I teared up reading it. I only cry when I'm depress. I get depress when I hit the poopy stage.
I was a bit down today. Fave sis and the kids and grandkids came. Usually I play with the grands. Today, I just wasn't in the mood. I carried them and then quickly gave them back. Usually sis and I will talk but I was a bit quiet so they left early. I wanted to wash all the dirty laundry that's pooh-free first before I do the gross one. As I was hanging the clothes, bro from next door came.
Bro came over because he's concerned that I hired a paid stranger caregiver for the parents when I'm at work on Saturday. He's worried that she might go through the bedrooms or get dad to sign things. I said in frustration (remember, he's the oldest boy with 3 grown children living with him next door), "What do you want me to do?! None of the family wants to help! If you find someone who's willing, fine. I'll pay them. But nobody wants to do it. So, I have to hire a stranger. And yes, I'm aware that outsider caregivers can get the aged person to sign papers. I don't care! This house and land is not going to me. So, it doesn't matter to me if dad signs papers. Plus she cleans! She cleaned our restroom, the kitchen, the porch and just yesterday, she washed the curtains."
I know my family. When dad dies, bro of next door will move in with the "intention to help me care for mom." When he moves in, the whole family will move in. Then he will rent out his place. Even with everyone here, they will all do their disappearing act and I will be left caring for mom and any little ones. They move in, I will move out - without mom. Then my 2 brothers in the states will just have to come back home and wrestle this house/land from oldest bro. Oldest bro will win. I want nothing of this family drama when dad dies.
So, now bro is worried about dad giving away the house/land. Maybe now, he will push for one of his kids to move in and help. When bro mentioned this last year, I had looked at my nephew and told him straight out, that when they move in, they will help with the grandparents and the bills. If they want air con in their bedroom, they will have to buy it and help pay the power bill. I guess that's why nephew never moved in. I'm not his father. I don't expect slackers here. You move in - you help. No job? then go and get one. I don't care if it's at MacD. I will not put up with his B.S. like his parents. He's over 20 years old, has a girlfriend and a child - and both of them have no interest in getting jobs.
Sorry, I'm going on and on. It's because I'm now feeling guilty for hiring a stranger. Oldest bro is very good at that. But, I'm tired.. Tired of everything. They won't help but they bring "concern" that dad will sign something. Then do something! Help me! ...
I'm tired. I'm signing off. Time to change their pampers, etc....When done, I will reward myself with ice cream and lots of chocolate sundae on top. Eat it slowly to enjoy the flavor and make it last. I'm venting...I hope I feel better tomorrow. I will if dad does Not Touch his pampers tonight. I sure hope he doesn't!!!
Book I am so sorry for you I am glad you stuck to your guns-what does he expect you to do cut yourself in half to get everything-don't suggest it to him he probably will say yes-if they move in you move out even going to a shelter would be better for you while you regrouped-have a dish of ice cream for me.
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Tim, do keep in touch. I'm sure Laura, and her daughter were better off for having you in their lives, even for a little while. Lean on your friends, and let them know what you want. Love Shirley
Diane, whew! As usual the process is a pain in the butt but yay! for there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I really hope that they get it right this time and you get some help.
Meanwhile2, the wisdom you show as a result of your willingness to accept the changes that life brings is such a good example to us all. I am so glad that you are still here with us.
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A little more about the wedding. One of the things that really impressed me was how cool and calm Amanda stayed during the week before her wedding. Same is true of Brad, her now husband. There were plenty of friends and family coming into North Dakota for this wedding and they started arriving last Tuesday. Brad and Amanda made arrangements at central locations, like our hotel one evening, so everyone could come there and get together. Her younger brothers could go swimming in the pool (others did also) and we could all hang out together and catch up. When we went to breakfast, she just let everyone know the place and time. People came and went and the kids just stayed and visited with everyone. It actually worked out really well.
After the rehearsal, there was the usual rehearsal dinner, but instead of limiting it to just the bridal party, they included all out of town family and friends. It was at Brad's parents house and was a simple and fun pot luck type event held in the yard. Perfect weather, stayed in the 70's the whole time.
Wedding was at 4PM Saturday. The ceremony was really touching and Amanda looked so beautiful. At the reception, Amanda and Brad had their first dance and on the second song, she danced with her father and grandfather (my hubby). Brad and Amanda spent the evening dancing with friends and family and visiting with everyone in attendance. I was just very impressed with both of them at how gracious and caring they were to all who shared their special event.
We picked up the dogs yesterday and they managed fine in our absence. This boarding facility is excellent. There were 3 other Shelties there, so Kelly (owner) put them together during the day. Shelties are very fond of other Shelties so it was a happy little group that enjoyed being together. Marcus & Mattie also got to nap on a big doggie bed in the office during the day and spend time with Kelly when she was working at the front desk. Note this place is locked at all times. You can't come in the front door of the office unless all dogs are secured behind baby gates. Every inch of the place is on TV monitors at all times. Dogs are not locked in cages. They have a ton of fenced areas to play and be out of doors and are always supervised. At night Marcus and Mattie have their own room to sleep in which include beds and a sofa. Marcus (who is a rescue dog and afraid of men) even warmed up to Kelly's husband and let him pet and fuss on him.
So, everyone did well and we are home and happy. Thanks for caring and missing me.
Diane: I am so sorry about the Medicaid snafu. Take a deep breath and keep going forward. Unfortunately, sometimes you just have to accept that systems take time to navigate and things take longer than they should. It's not ok, but there isn't a darn thing you can do about it but to keep on it. I am praying that you will have a quick turn around on this second attempt. Keep your chin up and know that we are all pulling for you.
Tim: I'm sorry for the loss you feel and about the daughter going to live with her inept dad. I do appreciate Meanwhile's comment that you were there at such a critical time in Laura's life and in the lives of her children. We will be thinking of you and hope you stay in touch.
Cricket: Hope all is well with you and that your dad is behaving.
We had a care meeting at the NH today regarding my dad. He seems to be disconnecting from people and not doing as much for himself as he did at home. Although he can't do much of anything, he did always feed himself and now staff is having to help with that. It depends on how alert he is feeling on any given day and it seems to be more up and down now.
Tomorrow, hubby and going to go see him at lunchtime and bring cheese burgers. We are also taking the dogs with us. One of my dad's favorite things was to feed the dogs at the breakfast table when he was with us. Both of the moochers would be poised on each side of him, just waiting for him to drop something or offer a handout.
My dad has done this all his life with his dogs. Personally, I don't want a drooling dog watching me eat and don't allow it, but when my dad was with us we just let that rule go out the window. So tomorrow it will be lunch for 5. I hope that cheers him up and can be worked into the schedule on a regular basis.
Hugs to everyone, Cat
online friends for way too long!!! So sorry for my absence. It has
been a crazy summer here! Way too hot for me to function.
Mom is slowing down more each day. She never used to look tired, but
does by afternoon almost every day now. She still eats well, when we
can get her attention and she'll open her mouth. She walks very little
with assistance. Her knees are always bent and she can't get her feet
to move. I drive my car into the yard now so that the passenger door
is facing the house. I haul her down the 2 stairs off her porch, in
her wheelchair, then park her close to the car so I can lift her off
her chair and into the car. This is sometimes quite the challenge, as
she will not bend at the waist to sit! She is still at daycare 3 days
a week for 6 hours and I have Merry on the other 4 days.
My oldest sister, Eileen, stayed with us for 2 weeks at the end of
July into August. It was great to have her company as always. She
bought all the food and essentials while she was here. Mom's diapers
and pads and body wash and wipes, as well as toilet paper and paper
towels. She gets really upset when she hears how often our other sibs
stop by to visit or check to see if I need help. we all know that
never happens!!! Of course they all showed up a couple times while she
was here because they know she provides food and I do the cooking. It
was Mom's birthday and no one came to see her or even brought her a
gift. Guess they figure she has no clue, so why bother wasting their
money.
I've been able to use the pool more than usual this summer because of
the heat, but still had to schedule my time around Mom. My husband is
still out of work and done with unemployment compensation. He is now
collecting social security and we have an appointment at the local
hospital after Labor Day, to apply for health insurance. We do not
have any for now. The garden was doing well until we got torrential
rains the last 2 weeks. Now my tomatoes are rotting before they ripen.
My solution is to make salsa and can it. So far I have made 2 batches
of salsa and plan on doing more. Found this killer recipe online! I've
also made blueberry, strawberry, peach, and peach melba jam. We just
picked the concord grapes today and will be making grape jam this
weekend. It's exhausting work, but well worth the effort in the end.
Our raspberry plants are yielding a good crop this year, so it
raspberry jam in the near future!
Things were pretty bleak for a while. There was a hold up in Mom's LTC
reimbursement checks for a while and cash was very short. I was really
getting worried about finances and couldn't think beyond that for a
few months. Then summer came with a vengeance and now it's jam and
canning season. And of course there is the never ending husband over
my shoulder!!!! That takes up way too much of my time! Although my
health has been okay physically, the mental side of it has suffered
some lately, but I'm starting to get back to my old self as the cooler
weather revives me. As always, my restless legs are keeping me from
getting enough sleep, maybe a bit more so than usual.
So, I just wanted to apologize to all my good friends and let you know
a bit of what's been going on here with me. I hope all of you are well
and taking care of yourselves as best you can. Know that I do care and
think about all of you often and will try to get my sorry ass to
communicate more from now on!
Love Kathy (Deefer)
I hope everyone else is hanging in there and staying out of the black hole. I found out from the social worker at the doctor's office that I still dont have the right medicaid application for for mom. It just amazes me the bureaucratic bs that you must go through to try and get help. Bobbie, when are you going to be on spreecast again?
Have a good night all!
Love ya,
Diane
A woman was at work when she received a phone call that her small daughter was very sick with a fever.
She left work and stopped by the pharmacy to get some medication.
She got back to her car and found that she had locked her keys in the car.
She didn't know what to do.
She called home and told the baby sitter what had happened.
The baby sitter told her that the fever was getting worse.
She said: "You mightfind a coat hanger and use that to open the door."
The woman looked around and found an old rusty coat hanger that had beenleft on the ground, possibly by someone else who at some time had lockedtheir keys in their car.
She looked at the hanger and said: "I don't know how to use this.
"She bowed her head and asked God to send her HELP. Within five minutes a beat up old motorcycle pulled up.
A bearded man who was wearing an old biker skull rag on his head.The woman thought: "This is what you sent to help me?"However, she was desperate.The man got off of his cycle and asked if he could help.She said: "Yes, my daughter is very sick. I stopped to get her some medication and I've locked my keys in my car. I must get home to her. Please, can you use this hanger to unlock my car?"He said: "Sure." He walked over to the car, and in less than a minute the car was opened.She hugged the man and through her tears she said: "Thank You SO Much! You are a very nice man."The man replied: "Lady, I am NOT a nice man. I just got out of PRISON yesterday, I was in prison for car theft."
The woman hugged the man again and with sobbing tears criedout loud: "Oh, thank you God! You even sent me a Professional!!"
Is GOD good or what!!??
Just before the funeral services, the undertaker came up to the very elderly widow and asked, 'How old was your husband?'
'98,' she replied: 'Two years older than me'
'So you're 96,' the undertaker commented.
She responded, 'Hardly worth going home, is it?'
Cat
Diane, social workers and the system...the whole thing just really sucks. Cat is right you have to just keep pressing forward.. About the webinar.. last I spoke with Bobbie she was working on the possibility of changing the format around to internet radio and that we most likely wouldn't have a webinar this week for venting. I will be doing the webinar tonight for our weight loss support group and am looking forward to that. I hope you can come too.
Deef! I am so glad to see you back. I missed you but hey girlfriend we all need to press the pause button now and then and sometimes we (as in many of us) have to find it first!! I am so happy for you and your Mom that at least you have your sister Eileen to show up and actually help sometimes. I'm glad you're here but don't pressure yourself about being here all the time when you can't. We all have to give and take what we can when we can.
Hey Cuz, that story was great. xo
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Anyway, welcome to the thread "stressed247" and hold on to your seat because you're in for a wild ride, lol
Linda my "shitzofrantic" friend we are going to be fine with the storm. We've been through much worse. Thanks for thinking about me, love you. xoxo
Tim, come post in here at night... don't be lonely. I'm usually checking in here once a day. xoxo
Well I'm off to go move everything off the patio and around the pool so it doesn't all get blown into the pool, lol I'll keep everyone posted as to the storm. Love you all.
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I really thought I'm beginning to get the hang of dealing with dad's poop mess. I didn't freak out this morning. His clothes and laundry are still outside the porch waiting for me to splash off the excess poop before going in the washer...I really thought I handled it well...Except as I was posting here, I started crying...I guess I'm NOT handling it well. ....I just really, really, really hate dealing with pampers and pooh that is NOT in the pampers where it belongs. Can you believe, even when I showed it to my dad that he touched his poop and left it on the bedsheet (and pants, and shirt and bedpad), he Still insists it's not poop....Sorry, I just needed to vent because sooner or later I'm going to Have to deal with those yucky clothes outside. Ugh!!!
Diane: Everytime I see your picture it still makes me laugh my ass off. It is absolute perfection. You are solid gold and I love you to bits.
Cricket: I don't know what we would do with out you.
Linda: Good to hear your voice, even if the words are short and it took a hurricane to bring you to the surface. Hope you are ok.
Love to all, ,Cattails
I was a bit down today. Fave sis and the kids and grandkids came. Usually I play with the grands. Today, I just wasn't in the mood. I carried them and then quickly gave them back. Usually sis and I will talk but I was a bit quiet so they left early. I wanted to wash all the dirty laundry that's pooh-free first before I do the gross one. As I was hanging the clothes, bro from next door came.
Bro came over because he's concerned that I hired a paid stranger caregiver for the parents when I'm at work on Saturday. He's worried that she might go through the bedrooms or get dad to sign things. I said in frustration (remember, he's the oldest boy with 3 grown children living with him next door), "What do you want me to do?! None of the family wants to help! If you find someone who's willing, fine. I'll pay them. But nobody wants to do it. So, I have to hire a stranger. And yes, I'm aware that outsider caregivers can get the aged person to sign papers. I don't care! This house and land is not going to me. So, it doesn't matter to me if dad signs papers. Plus she cleans! She cleaned our restroom, the kitchen, the porch and just yesterday, she washed the curtains."
I know my family. When dad dies, bro of next door will move in with the "intention to help me care for mom." When he moves in, the whole family will move in. Then he will rent out his place. Even with everyone here, they will all do their disappearing act and I will be left caring for mom and any little ones. They move in, I will move out - without mom. Then my 2 brothers in the states will just have to come back home and wrestle this house/land from oldest bro. Oldest bro will win. I want nothing of this family drama when dad dies.
So, now bro is worried about dad giving away the house/land. Maybe now, he will push for one of his kids to move in and help. When bro mentioned this last year, I had looked at my nephew and told him straight out, that when they move in, they will help with the grandparents and the bills. If they want air con in their bedroom, they will have to buy it and help pay the power bill. I guess that's why nephew never moved in. I'm not his father. I don't expect slackers here. You move in - you help. No job? then go and get one. I don't care if it's at MacD. I will not put up with his B.S. like his parents. He's over 20 years old, has a girlfriend and a child - and both of them have no interest in getting jobs.
Sorry, I'm going on and on. It's because I'm now feeling guilty for hiring a stranger. Oldest bro is very good at that. But, I'm tired.. Tired of everything. They won't help but they bring "concern" that dad will sign something. Then do something! Help me! ...
I'm tired. I'm signing off. Time to change their pampers, etc....When done, I will reward myself with ice cream and lots of chocolate sundae on top. Eat it slowly to enjoy the flavor and make it last. I'm venting...I hope I feel better tomorrow. I will if dad does Not Touch his pampers tonight. I sure hope he doesn't!!!