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Judy and Deb and all you other animal savers and wailers: You are my heroes. I've had cats, dogs, owls, crows, dove, etc. If we ever want to swap stories, I've got some good ones to tell you. Our owl, baby-baby, was an amazing guy/gal? We raised him from a baby with literally no feathers. He was the ugliest thing I ever saw. Kind of a fraggle looking freak. He was given no odds for survival, but we did out best and he grew to be healthy. We had a big indoor/ outdoor cage for him, but sometimes we would let him stay free in our house. He loved to sit on a big plant stand and we would toss little stuffed toys and let him swoop down on them. Sometimes, I just could not stand to put him in his cage at night and my hubby would say, "OK, let's let him stay in the house on the plant stand." He just looked so happy and peaceful there. So we would turn off the lights and go upstairs to go to bed. This silly owl would be asleep, but when we turned off the lights, it was like, "Well if you are going up stairs to bed, I'm going with you." He would fly up the stairs behind us and roost on the door to our bedroom. I feel like a total fool telling you this, but we would play Mr. Wiggley, which meant that Warren would wiggle his toes under the covers of the bed and Baby would say, "looks like kill to me" and swoop down on his toes. Somehow, Baby knew that we were not really road kill and he would never use the full force of his talons and beak. He knew it was just his crazy parents playing games with him and he would make this little giggle, like he was having such a fun time. In the morning, when we woke up, first thought is where is the owl. Not on the door, no where in sight. So down the hall Warren would go and out of nowhere came Baby, landing on his shoulder and giving his sweet giggle.
Our vet would come to our home to see Baby. He was a joy to behold, but we knew that he needed to be free and learn to hunt for real. We placed him with a rehab owl place that received dead baby chicks from foster farms. Every day there were 80 barn owls lined up for their food while they were given the time to learn to truly hunt their prey and make their way in the natural world. I pray baby found his way and enjoyed the company of his own and eventually found a mate. What a precious creation of God he was.
Now please don't think that my house is a pig pen. I truly do keep a clean camp, but I did, on occasion, make room for a creature of God to have it's freedom. The owl was never as messy as two long haired Shelties I currently have running in and out all the time.
Blessings to all you have a heart for animals. Love you, Cat.
good morning, I"m taking a break from sorting thru Mom's stuff, and my stuff. I set the timer for 60 min at a time and work at it, then take a break. Cat, I enjoyed reading your baby owl story. :)
I feel so blessed to be around the truly wonderful people here. Cat I love the baby Owl story! Judy, I hate how people can just walk by an animal who obviously needs help. We saw this earlier in the year with a pigeon at the boat launch. It had a broken wing and vultures were starting to circle and people would just walk right by! We didn't have anything to put it in but a shrimp bucket but at least we got it out of harms way and the local wildlife preserve people came and got it. It cut our outing time in half but it was well worth it! Seems like it's been forever since that happened now. It's time to get out on the boat with my Husband for a few hours. There's nothing like breathing in fresh air and soaking up some sun while moving out to sea on a boat on a beautiful day. I hope you all are enjoying this day and get a little time for yourself in somehow. xoxo Cricket
You know, I really hate pigeons, Cricket, but I would've had to put him in my shrimp bucket too! What is with people who are just so callous that they can block out another critter's suffering? My mother, for as difficult and negative as she can be, always let us kids bring in an injured animal. Other kids in the neighborhood would bring injured or baby animals to our house when their parents wouldn't allow it. We had squirrels and birds (lived in the city, so not much more than that) around the house a lot in shoe boxes, bird cages, fish tanks. Kept a kitten that was thrown out of a bus window one day. She wasn't hurt, but my brother was pretty shocked to see her chucked out the window like a little flying fur ball and land in front of him. He tucked the terrified little thing in his jacket and brought her home. Our family dog was a half starved stray who used beg for food at the gas station that my dad used to go to. She joined the family of misfits and I swear, she was grateful. What an awesome dog she was. When my brother got hit by a car, she sat next to him on the road until help came. I wish I could go on a boat - lucky you! Fresh air, sunshine and the ocean... Sounds like heaven.
Cat, I loved the baby owl story. My husband once rescued a full grown great horned owl, that burned its wing on an electrical transformer. He had to stop the guy that was with him from killing it with a shovel. He brought it home and put it in a rabbit hutch. It was quite wild,but fed it raw meat for a couple of months. The feathers grew back, and we took it out the the Pecos river, where it flew away without so much as a backwards glance. Beautiful bird. We raised a baby raven one time too. He hung around all summer, kept stealing things from the neighbors. Anything bright and shiny he would carry home and stash in his tree. Even got the neighbors car keys one time. He would come and land on your shoulder. But, we let him fly off come fall.
I think we all have hearts to care for stray animals, injured or neglected and that is also why we are the ones caring for our loved ones. We caregivers really are gifted with large hearts. We are also old souls to see things beyond the surface. Not many people in this world are willing to look past what is important to themselves and their own goals "to get" and see what is really important in life. Experiencing the frailty of life or the end of life with another human being we all come to know how love is what really matters to all of us in the end.
I do feel really fortunate to be able to go out in the boat even for a couple of hours to get a break and enjoy the wind, sun and fresh air. I am going to try to take some pictures and I will share them over on our facebook page, maybe even take a mini video to post if conditions and time allow me to do it. *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
Hope you guys are having a good Labor Day Weekend and I for one, am really craving weenies. haha And then a roll of Tums. oof.
I saw this story earlier about a daughter who was attacked by her dad. If you are a caregiver with a mean parent please don't let your guard down.....
New York (CNN) -- A New York man was arrested after police say he poured acid on his daughter, burning her skin and sending her to the hospital in critical condition. As one of the primary caretakers of Jerome Lynch, 69, Darlene Lynch, 49, was checking on her father in his Brooklyn apartment early Saturday afternoon, when seemingly out of nowhere, the elder Lynch came up behind her and poured acid on her face and down her body, according to Dominique Goodwin, the man's niece. "Our family just doesn't understand," Goodwin said. "He's not incompetent. He's totally aware of what he did. We just don't know why." Goodwin said Jerome Lynch had suffered a stroke several years ago, leading to a slur in his speech and a need for a cane or walker to get around. Goodwin added that her family has no idea where he got the acid. Police believe the corrosive substance was actually a cleaning solution that contained 98% sulfuric acid. According to Goodwin, Darlene Lynch suffered burns over 50% of her body -- on her face and over her left side. At one point, it was feared she might lose her left eye, but Goodwin says her cousin is now able to see out of it. An emergency medical team took the daughter to NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital in critical condition after the attack. NYPD spokesman Sgt. John Buthorn said Sunday that Jerome Lynch had been arrested and charged with felony assault. Information about his arraignment and legal representation were not immediately available.
Everyone's crazy. Stay safe and I love you guys way more than you'll ever know. lovbob
I read the story on CNN this morning, about the man that poured acid on his daughter. Very scary. Mother has another UTI, and she isn't even in diapers. I don't even want to know about her bathroom habits. I'm such a terrible daughter, but then she was a terrible mother. I offered to get her some cranberry juice, but she doesn't want it, she would rather be sick, so she can go whining to the doctor tomorrow. Sorry about the poop, Diane.
Meanwhile you are not a terrible daughter-the doc will tell her what you are telling her but if she thinks like my Mom she has hero worship for the doc especially if he is about 100 yrs old and if he isn't she may not respect him.
Just got back from next door.. Mom fell, and wouldn't let Dad help her up. She peed all over herself, the chair, the floor. Had to get the wheelchair, and get her into bed, Clean her up, plus everything else. She doesn't want to go to the hospital, so I'm going to spend the night at their house. Better go, have to pack my toothbrush.
Judym, I don't know how people can be so cruel shooting animals with bb's! I can just picture you going by n picking up that bunny after he sitting their about 20mint. Yes, I do remember that show. You are an amazing person n especially for animals. Hey, someone got to do it so i guess that mean us.
Cattail, an owl without hair omg! I would love to see a picture of that. Is he like one of those hairless cats? They freak me out the way they look. That was funny when you mention u turned out the lights n he follow yall upstairs. That was cute about the toe deal under the cover. I could not believe what I read that their were 80 barn owls, omg! No, we don't think your place is dirty for I have 3 dogs n 3 cats. The dogs comes n goes outside but my two cats stay inside unless they r on a harness outside while I babysit them outside.
Cricket, i hear you for all those people would had lost was a little of their time. My mom rescued a pigeon n called him petie, n he flew through house all over the place n he had his own little roosting spot, the cabinet drawer. I do believe that us all caregivers have to have the biggest heart for the stuff we do for other people. I would love to see some pictures where do I look on fb? Mine is Debbie Starks. I did get some of Rugrats pictures on fb.
Meanwhile, I bet the neighbor was not too happy to know yall had a little critter theif for shiny objects like car keys. cute. Bobbie, I hear ya for I had two hot-dogs n some tums. Don't you just love the second after taste. yuck! But it was good at the time. ; ) However, that story is just sick for her dad to do such a thing to his daughter, sick, sick, evil! Sad for the daughter n I hope she recovers physicallly n emotionally.
Spoke with my daddy last night for about 20minuets n he was stuffing his face around 8:30pm n that was good to hear. he sound very happy. he does have short term memory loss. Yet, he said he tried to talk to r stepma about gettting out of bed n she went off on him. So, I think her older bro's r coming down from New York to see if they can get her motivated. She is eating a little but refuses to get out of the bed n even to the bathroom according to what my dad said. I also have one of my brothers had checked on both as well. The bill for the rehab for my dad those 3wks r little over 40G's. Hopefully, Medicare will pay some n maybe his Medicaid will kick in. As for SM, her's is already over 60g's n counting for she don't try to help herself. Ah!!! She only 63. What gives with her? I know she has a little dementia but we haven't heard anything else medically. It so hard to help someone that won't help themselves. Anyway, we had a okay weekend for holiday, nothing special just relaxing a little. A little is better than none in my book. ; ) I hope eveyone else had a little relaxing weekend too.
All of our animals r either from pound or found from where someone had dropped them off. My little big girl Vera the very spoiled n talkie cat was rescued from the river along with 2 other kittens. I had my husband drive all the way back home to get a cage n took r left over chicken n donuts from that morning n we caught each one of them. We kept Vera for she was limping real bad n looked pretty rough so we took her to the vet. She is now just fine n did I say she was very, very spoiled. She's my girl.
Oh Meanwhile!!! Been there, done that so many times! A UTI can make them so crazy! We always know with Mom because she leans to the left in her chair and when we try to walk her to the toilet. Her urine is very dark and smells horrible. She talks out of her head and can't take commands as simple as sit. Might be best to take her to the ER. They can get a urine with a catheter and it will be clean. They will also give her IV antibiotics and fluids if she needs them. Just the IV antibiotics should have her acting more normal by the next morning. Mom used to fall all the time when she had a UTI, before I got her the wheelchair. Just ordered Mom a case of Wellness Briefs again. I can't stress enough how much they have saved me in time and laundry! Also, I always wash Mom's smelly clothes in hot water with Arm and Hammer soap powder with baking soda. I never have a problem with her things being smelly. Diane, poor you! Is it c-diff again? Have her meds been changed? Mo is usually the oposite because of all her meds, and the PD makes it hard for her to know when she has to go. When she finally does, it just falls out because of the sheer size and weight of the poo. The toilet gets plugged up all the time. The plunger is always handy!!! That's my gross tidbit for the night!!! Off to apply for state funded health insurance tomorrow! Sure hope we qualify!
Lildeb: Try to picture a little skeleton of a bird with some down, mainly fuzz. What you notice is the eyes, the feet and the beak. He was so young, he couldn't stand up. As they say, "he had a face only a mother could love" but I loved him. One day, when he was more feathered, I took him outside on the grass to just enjoy the outdoors. We had a bunny at the time, bunny with an attitude, and he ran wild in our yard. Baby was sitting by my side when bunny hopped over to investigate. Bunny was quite bold and sniffed baby and got in his face. Baby tweaked Bunny's nose with his beak. Bunny was not the least bit hurt, but he was pissed. Bunny did the cutest, evil thing. He raised his bunny lips and displayed his teeth. I shooed Bunny away. Poor baby reached over to my hand and held on to my fingernail with his beak. It was the closest thing to a hug and wish for protection that he could display to me. I pulled him close and snuggled him up to me. I whispered where I thought his ears might be, "Don't worry, when you grow up you can hunt him."
Bunny lived to a ripe old age. He shared the yard with our dog and played with our cats. Baby was the only one who ever tweaked his nose and bunny had a memory like an elephant. Whenever we took Baby in the yard, bunny was on the spot with his teeth bared. Crazy rabbit.
Update on my dad. He has improved. He is eating more as long as I am there to feed him. His Lasix has been discontinued temporarily and that has helped with the dehydration. On of my bothers is here to visit. He is going to the facility and feeding my dad, so I am getting a much needed reprieve from that daily requirement. He does have pneumonia in both lungs, but he is improved regardless of that fact. Hey, I don't know what's going to happen this week or next, but eventually it's going to happen. I hate to tell sibs, "Be here asap if you want to see dad before he passes." And then they come and he is improved. They look at me like, what's the problem. Eh?
I don't know and I am tired. We had a good two days being sweat balls in our yard and getting more of the 8 year plan accomplished. With the help of our tractor, we moved a bunch of rock from their resting place to where they need to be on a long slope/rock garden area. It just has to get done and the best thing is that most of it is done. We just need to put in the finishing touches. I know there are more years of work here than we have left in our lives, but it feels so good to make our home our own. Another 20 yards of mulch and we will be in good stead come spring.
Love to have some time to look after us. Love all of you to pits. Cat
Cat, I just love reading your animal stories. You could definitely write a children's book with all your stories if you wanted to. xoxo Litdeb, I went to facebook to send you a friend request and their are 30+ Debbie Starks there. LOL Send me a friend invite..my page name is Sherry Emery. I am 54 silver hair and wearing a black and white striped shirt, the picture is a face picture but you can see part of my shirt if you are looking. I will watch for your invite. xoxo Shirley, keep that toothbrush close to you at all times!! xoxo Deef, thanks again for sharing your knowledge with us! When Dad has to start wearing a diaper it will be those wellness briefs for sure! xoxo Bobbie, that poor woman. How does one ever get over the trauma that ones father causes like that? I believe we can never go back when something like that happens, the one way through it is to go forward. So devastating! How is your eye doing? I hope it's healed up. I miss you. xoxo We managed to get out of here yesterday for a few hours and get out on the water. It felt so good. I just sat on the boat and soaked it all up. Didn't do a darn thing for 3 hours! I needed that. I had a neighbor and friend checking in on Dad for me. This friend is also a paramedic. First time I ever asked someone for help with dad other than my husband. It felt weird but I guess it's going to be something I will have to do more of in time so it's good to start now. *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
Cat, Your Father probably perked up as a result of seeing everyone. Lets hope the affects continue to last. I'm glad he is feeling better. The good thing about you getting everyone out to see him is that at least they get to see him while he is able to enjoy them and them him. You did them all a favor even if they don't know it yet. Following your instincts is always best. xoxo
Just saw this and had to post it. Haven't read up on any comments since last night so I hope no one's having a crisis and I'm posting jokes like an insensitive idiot. ----------------------------- When Beethoven passed away, he was buried in a churchyard. A couple days later, the town drunk was walking through the cemetery and heard some strange noise coming from the area where Beethoven was buried. Terrified, the drunk ran and got the priest to come and listen to it. The priest bent close to the grave and heard some faint, unrecognizable music coming from the grave. Frightened, the priest ran and got the town magistrate.
When the magistrate arrived, he bent his ear to the grave, listened for a moment, and said, "Ah, yes, that's Beethoven's Ninth Symphony, being played backwards."
He listened a while longer, and said, "There's the Eighth Symphony, and it's backwards, too. Most puzzling." So the magistrate kept listening; "There's the Seventh... the Sixth... the Fifth..."
Suddenly the realization of what was happening dawned on the magistrate; he stood up and announced to the crowd that had gathered in the cemetery, "My fellow citizens, there's nothing to worry about. It's just Beethoven decomposing."
Thanks, for the joke Judy. Can always use something to laugh about. Mom is better this morning, Doctor appointment after lunch. I'm going to order some of those wellness briefs, just to have on hand. Most of the time Mom and Step Dad are very independent. But, Mom gets these UTI's ever since she had her bladder reattached. She is a surgery addict. I had to have a talk with her Doctor, and tell him she just wants the attention. It is so hard to tell when she is really sick, or just wanting attention. She is such a hyperchondriac, and a drama Queen.
Cricket, so glad you got to relax on the boat. You deserve it. Cat, so sorry about your Dad, the waiting, and not knowing what will happen next, is so hard. Bookworm, Diane, you guys alright? Everyone else too. Spent all afternoon at the Doctors office. Took her 2 hours to pee in the cup. The ;nurse tried to get her to drink water, but she doesn't like city water, it has chlorine in it. I had to go get her some bottled water, and then she thought that tasted funny. So I went back to the store and got her sugar free all natural cranberry drink, but that was too sour. 3rd trip to the store, a strawberry Zero. Miracles, she liked the zero. Drank it and peed in the #%^& cup. Oh, well, it was better that sitting at the Doctors office. Of course she has a UTI. Will have to get her some more of the strawberry Zeros. If she doesn't start drinking something, she will have to go to the hospital and get an IV, and probably a catheter. Sorry about the venting, I have it pretty easy most of the time. I'm afraid this is just shades of what is to come though.
Meanwhile you are so patient with your mother -after two times I would have said unladylike things . My husband was addicted to doctures and surgery also -around here many docs are surgery happy so he always found one to do one more back surgery -he expected to be like a 20 yr. old again -after a surgeon got to know him they would not take him on again because he would mess up the surgery somehow like after shoulder surgery he carried big logs out of the wood -the doc had told him to be very careful but did not tell him not to carry huge logs -one under each arm-so he did and on and on.
FYI, I'm worried about Bookworm. She hasn't posted in 37 hours and her wall is turned off right now, so can't send her a message. I'm praying she's ok. More prayers are always helpful. Cat
Hang in there. You are the chosen ones to care for your loved one. If you didn't love them you wouldn't be there for them. I take life one day at a time. When I lost my dad.....I lost part of my life, when I do lose my mom....it will take most of me since I have cared for both. Then and only then will I decide to move forward and try to make a life for me. For now...its for my mom...no regrets.
I wanted to tell you that Bookworm had communicated with Ladee that she is taking a break as she is feeling overwhelmed. I didn't realize that she actually had posted that to Ladee. Cat
Hi Crew, Just stopping in to say hello. I've been reading everyone's post and just pondering some decisions on my own. I officially changed to a part-time employee today. I just can't continue to do it all without support from the family. I'm going to lose my healthcare benefits since I can't afford COBRA. It's a scary thought. Now I just need to decide how I will work my 20 hours a week, 4 hours x 5 days or 7 hours x 3 days. My bosses have been very kind to try work things out for me. I took mom for a walk in her wheelchair after dinner and she seemed to enjoy it. My cat Tuxedo walked the whole distance following behind us. When we came home I had to help mom get to her recliner because she is having a lot of difficulty with her legs not responding. Because I held her firmly andgot her to her seat she got pissed off with me. Instead she wants me to hold her up for 20 minutes and hope that her legs may or may not respond and actually move. Once again damned if you do and damned if you dont. I know my back can't handle holding her up for 20 minutes. I'm going to check-out a caregiver support group near to my home tomorrow. I understand the group is small, but the leader is very good. I'll give it a try and see if I fit with the group. They only meet once a month and I think I can convince my brother to sit with mom for 90 minutes. I hope you all have a good night and I'll check-in soon again.
Diane good for you joining a caregiver support group. I met a lady at the one I went years ago -and we became close friends. Now I attend another one at our Senior Center as a former caregiver and it is very good-you will learn what is available locally to help with caregiving and just talking to others going through the journey is really good-let us know how it goes.
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Our vet would come to our home to see Baby. He was a joy to behold, but we knew that he needed to be free and learn to hunt for real. We placed him with a rehab owl place that received dead baby chicks from foster farms. Every day there were 80 barn owls lined up for their food while they were given the time to learn to truly hunt their prey and make their way in the natural world. I pray baby found his way and enjoyed the company of his own and eventually found a mate. What a precious creation of God he was.
Now please don't think that my house is a pig pen. I truly do keep a clean camp, but I did, on occasion, make room for a creature of God to have it's freedom. The owl was never as messy as two long haired Shelties I currently have running in and out all the time.
Blessings to all you have a heart for animals. Love you, Cat.
Cat, I enjoyed reading your baby owl story. :)
I wish I could go on a boat - lucky you! Fresh air, sunshine and the ocean... Sounds like heaven.
I do feel really fortunate to be able to go out in the boat even for a couple of hours to get a break and enjoy the wind, sun and fresh air. I am going to try to take some pictures and I will share them over on our facebook page, maybe even take a mini video to post if conditions and time allow me to do it.
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Hope you guys are having a good Labor Day Weekend and I for one, am really craving weenies. haha
And then a roll of Tums. oof.
I saw this story earlier about a daughter who was attacked by her dad. If you are a caregiver with a mean parent please don't let your guard down.....
New York (CNN) -- A New York man was arrested after police say he poured acid on his daughter, burning her skin and sending her to the hospital in critical condition.
As one of the primary caretakers of Jerome Lynch, 69, Darlene Lynch, 49, was checking on her father in his Brooklyn apartment early Saturday afternoon, when seemingly out of nowhere, the elder Lynch came up behind her and poured acid on her face and down her body, according to Dominique Goodwin, the man's niece.
"Our family just doesn't understand," Goodwin said. "He's not incompetent. He's totally aware of what he did. We just don't know why."
Goodwin said Jerome Lynch had suffered a stroke several years ago, leading to a slur in his speech and a need for a cane or walker to get around.
Goodwin added that her family has no idea where he got the acid.
Police believe the corrosive substance was actually a cleaning solution that contained 98% sulfuric acid.
According to Goodwin, Darlene Lynch suffered burns over 50% of her body -- on her face and over her left side. At one point, it was feared she might lose her left eye, but Goodwin says her cousin is now able to see out of it.
An emergency medical team took the daughter to NewYork-Presbyterian Hospital in critical condition after the attack.
NYPD spokesman Sgt. John Buthorn said Sunday that Jerome Lynch had been arrested and charged with felony assault. Information about his arraignment and legal representation were not immediately available.
Everyone's crazy. Stay safe and I love you guys way more than you'll ever know.
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Mother has another UTI, and she isn't even in diapers. I don't even want to know about her bathroom habits. I'm such a terrible daughter, but then she was a terrible mother. I offered to get her some cranberry juice, but she doesn't want it, she would rather be sick, so she can go whining to the doctor tomorrow.
Sorry about the poop, Diane.
Cattail, an owl without hair omg! I would love to see a picture of that. Is he like one of those hairless cats? They freak me out the way they look. That was funny when you mention u turned out the lights n he follow yall upstairs. That was cute about the toe deal under the cover. I could not believe what I read that their were 80 barn owls, omg! No, we don't think your place is dirty for I have 3 dogs n 3 cats. The dogs comes n goes outside but my two cats stay inside unless they r on a harness outside while I babysit them outside.
Cricket, i hear you for all those people would had lost was a little of their time. My mom rescued a pigeon n called him petie, n he flew through house all over the place n he had his own little roosting spot, the cabinet drawer. I do believe that us all caregivers have to have the biggest heart for the stuff we do for other people. I would love to see some pictures where do I look on fb? Mine is Debbie Starks. I did get some of Rugrats pictures on fb.
Meanwhile, I bet the neighbor was not too happy to know yall had a little critter theif for shiny objects like car keys. cute.
Bobbie, I hear ya for I had two hot-dogs n some tums. Don't you just love the second after taste. yuck! But it was good at the time. ; ) However, that story is just sick for her dad to do such a thing to his daughter, sick, sick, evil! Sad for the daughter n I hope she recovers physicallly n emotionally.
Spoke with my daddy last night for about 20minuets n he was stuffing his face around 8:30pm n that was good to hear. he sound very happy. he does have short term memory loss. Yet, he said he tried to talk to r stepma about gettting out of bed n she went off on him. So, I think her older bro's r coming down from New York to see if they can get her motivated. She is eating a little but refuses to get out of the bed n even to the bathroom according to what my dad said. I also have one of my brothers had checked on both as well. The bill for the rehab for my dad those 3wks r little over 40G's. Hopefully, Medicare will pay some n maybe his Medicaid will kick in. As for SM, her's is already over 60g's n counting for she don't try to help herself. Ah!!! She only 63. What gives with her? I know she has a little dementia but we haven't heard anything else medically. It so hard to help someone that won't help themselves. Anyway, we had a okay weekend for holiday, nothing special just relaxing a little. A little is better than none in my book. ; ) I hope eveyone else had a little relaxing weekend too.
All of our animals r either from pound or found from where someone had dropped them off. My little big girl Vera the very spoiled n talkie cat was rescued from the river along with 2 other kittens. I had my husband drive all the way back home to get a cage n took r left over chicken n donuts from that morning n we caught each one of them. We kept Vera for she was limping real bad n looked pretty rough so we took her to the vet. She is now just fine n did I say she was very, very spoiled. She's my girl.
Just ordered Mom a case of Wellness Briefs again. I can't stress enough how much they have saved me in time and laundry! Also, I always wash Mom's smelly clothes in hot water with Arm and Hammer soap powder with baking soda. I never have a problem with her things being smelly.
Diane, poor you! Is it c-diff again? Have her meds been changed? Mo is usually the oposite because of all her meds, and the PD makes it hard for her to know when she has to go. When she finally does, it just falls out because of the sheer size and weight of the poo. The toilet gets plugged up all the time. The plunger is always handy!!!
That's my gross tidbit for the night!!! Off to apply for state funded health insurance tomorrow! Sure hope we qualify!
Bunny lived to a ripe old age. He shared the yard with our dog and played with our cats. Baby was the only one who ever tweaked his nose and bunny had a memory like an elephant. Whenever we took Baby in the yard, bunny was on the spot with his teeth bared. Crazy rabbit.
I don't know and I am tired. We had a good two days being sweat balls in our yard and getting more of the 8 year plan accomplished. With the help of our tractor, we moved a bunch of rock from their resting place to where they need to be on a long slope/rock garden area. It just has to get done and the best thing is that most of it is done. We just need to put in the finishing touches. I know there are more years of work here than we have left in our lives, but it feels so good to make our home our own. Another 20 yards of mulch and we will be in good stead come spring.
Love to have some time to look after us. Love all of you to pits. Cat
Litdeb, I went to facebook to send you a friend request and their are 30+ Debbie Starks there. LOL Send me a friend invite..my page name is Sherry Emery. I am 54 silver hair and wearing a black and white striped shirt, the picture is a face picture but you can see part of my shirt if you are looking. I will watch for your invite. xoxo
Shirley, keep that toothbrush close to you at all times!! xoxo
Deef, thanks again for sharing your knowledge with us! When Dad has to start wearing a diaper it will be those wellness briefs for sure! xoxo
Bobbie, that poor woman. How does one ever get over the trauma that ones father causes like that? I believe we can never go back when something like that happens, the one way through it is to go forward. So devastating! How is your eye doing? I hope it's healed up. I miss you. xoxo
We managed to get out of here yesterday for a few hours and get out on the water. It felt so good. I just sat on the boat and soaked it all up. Didn't do a darn thing for 3 hours! I needed that. I had a neighbor and friend checking in on Dad for me. This friend is also a paramedic. First time I ever asked someone for help with dad other than my husband. It felt weird but I guess it's going to be something I will have to do more of in time so it's good to start now.
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When Beethoven passed away, he was buried in a churchyard. A couple days later, the town drunk was walking through the cemetery and heard some strange noise coming from the area where Beethoven was buried. Terrified, the drunk ran and got the priest to come and listen to it. The priest bent close to the grave and heard some faint, unrecognizable music coming from the grave. Frightened, the priest ran and got the town magistrate.
When the magistrate arrived, he bent his ear to the grave, listened for a moment, and said, "Ah, yes, that's Beethoven's Ninth Symphony, being played backwards."
He listened a while longer, and said, "There's the Eighth Symphony, and it's backwards, too. Most puzzling." So the magistrate kept listening; "There's the Seventh... the Sixth... the Fifth..."
Suddenly the realization of what was happening dawned on the magistrate; he stood up and announced to the crowd that had gathered in the cemetery, "My fellow citizens, there's nothing to worry about. It's just Beethoven decomposing."
Mom is better this morning, Doctor appointment after lunch. I'm going to order some of those wellness briefs, just to have on hand. Most of the time Mom and Step Dad are very independent. But, Mom gets these UTI's ever since she had her bladder reattached. She is a surgery addict. I had to have a talk with her Doctor, and tell him she just wants the attention. It is so hard to tell when she is really sick, or just wanting attention. She is such a hyperchondriac, and a drama Queen.
Cat, so sorry about your Dad, the waiting, and not knowing what will happen next, is so hard.
Bookworm, Diane, you guys alright? Everyone else too.
Spent all afternoon at the Doctors office. Took her 2 hours to pee in the cup. The ;nurse tried to get her to drink water, but she doesn't like city water, it has chlorine in it. I had to go get her some bottled water, and then she thought that tasted funny. So I went back to the store and got her sugar free all natural cranberry drink, but that was too sour. 3rd trip to the store, a strawberry Zero. Miracles, she liked the zero. Drank it and peed in the #%^& cup. Oh, well, it was better that sitting at the Doctors office. Of course she has a UTI. Will have to get her some more of the strawberry Zeros. If she doesn't start drinking something, she will have to go to the hospital and get an IV, and probably a catheter.
Sorry about the venting, I have it pretty easy most of the time. I'm afraid this is just shades of what is to come though.
Just stopping in to say hello. I've been reading everyone's post and just pondering some decisions on my own. I officially changed to a part-time employee today. I just can't continue to do it all without support from the family. I'm going to lose my healthcare benefits since I can't afford COBRA. It's a scary thought. Now I just need to decide how I will work my 20 hours a week, 4 hours x 5 days or 7 hours x 3 days. My bosses have been very kind to try work things out for me.
I took mom for a walk in her wheelchair after dinner and she seemed to enjoy it. My cat Tuxedo walked the whole distance following behind us. When we came home I had to help mom get to her recliner because she is having a lot of difficulty with her legs not responding. Because I held her firmly andgot her to her seat she got pissed off with me. Instead she wants me to hold her up for 20 minutes and hope that her legs may or may not respond and actually move. Once again damned if you do and damned if you dont. I know my back can't handle holding her up for 20 minutes.
I'm going to check-out a caregiver support group near to my home tomorrow. I understand the group is small, but the leader is very good. I'll give it a try and see if I fit with the group. They only meet once a month and I think I can convince my brother to sit with mom for 90 minutes.
I hope you all have a good night and I'll check-in soon again.
Love ya,
Diane