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Thanks Meanwhile! the steroids have kicked in and I'm eating everything in sight. The neck is loosening up a bit and my head doesn't hurt so badly, but boy am I a bitch on wheels now! Those pills have some kick to them!!! Time to check on Mom and get my sorry a$$ to bed. BIL coming to Mom's with his 95 year old mom for lunch. He's getting us all fish and chips dinners. I just have to supply the drinks and dessert. Night everyone!
Austen I is here everynight reading all the posts. I don't reply to most of the posts cause I'm not a caregiver and really don't know what advice to give out so I just try to lighten up a dark day by posting some jokes if I get any that night. Sometimes I get stuff that I wouldn't post on here so I kind of filter out the bad stuff. I have posted a couple that upset a few people so now I really watch what I send out cause you guys are a great group of people that have been there and done it in the caregiving realm. If it were'nt for you caregivers a lot of moms and dads would be placed in nursing homes and forgot about. We built some additions to nursing homes years ago and I could not believe how some of the people were treated etc from what I could see through windows as I climbed up to the roof etc. You gals are amazing for what you do even though it hurts both phiscally and mentaly ( I went braindead on those last to words) Thanx for all the work you gals do and you will be rewarded when the time comes. Lov ya all and thanx for letting me be a part of this thread. luvCuz
I can relate to being grossed out and now freaked out today. My car would not start this morning. My mother has an SUV that never really leaves the driveway. I asked to use her car, got on I-95 heading to work, and a huge flipping spider crawled out of the dashboard and bit my leg. I almost wrecked. I was swatting in a panic, hoping that I killed it or at least scared it away.....and that's when I took a nice long look around me. The entire inside of the vehicle had webs. I am terrified of spiders. I immediately pulled off the interstate and did the "WTF is on me" dance. I had to get to work. I begged my maintenance director to have someone inspect the car when I got to work. I headed to the director of nursing and spent several hours getting treated for a nasty spider bite and allergic reactions. Maintenance cleaned my car out (God bless them) and as I gathered strength and courage to get back in that car and return home, my mother with wine in her hand, proceeded to yell at me for making her car smell funny. I couldn't help it. I flipped her off and went inside the house.
Hi everyone: Spent most of the day with my dad. He was given morphine last night for the first time due to agitation. We had a nice time together. He ate no breakfast but had some lunch with me. We went into the family room and I closed the door so it was peaceful. We turned on a cooking show and laughed about fish tacos. I love them, but once when my parents were both living next door they watched for food channel and the topic was fish tacos. They just though that was disgusting. Not two minutes later, I came in their front door and announced we were having fish tacos for dinner. They just cracked up. I shared that with my dad and he just laughed.
I told my dad today that he was getting really skinny. I asked him if he was looking forward to being with my mom and he said, "yes". I asked him if he was looking forward to seeing Houchy, his dog and he smiled. I asked him if he was afraid, and he broke out in a big smile and said NO.
We had a nice time together. I hug him and tell him that I love him. We hold hands and he holds my hand really tight. I rub his neck and he drifts off to sleep. In the family room, I recline his wheelchair and put a big chair cushion under his feet so he can stretch his legs out. I get a blanket from his room and cover him up. He's so calm and happy during our time together. I'm so grateful that my presence brings him comfort. I hate leaving him.
Sending you all the best for each day ahead. Love, Cat
I'm fine, Cat. Thanks for asking. My mother would survive the plague; she lived through the depression. I work in a psych facility, so everyone had a great laugh at my extreme irrational fear of spiders...until they saw the spider infestation in that car. The maintenance crew gave me a "play-by-play" of the types of spiders that were along for the ride. Just what I wanted to hear. haha
Cat that is so great that you and you dad can spend time together-I dad only tolerated us when we were little he was an alcoholic and mom was as mean as a junk yard dog life was not a whole lot of fun growing up-my dad died at 50 he was in Japan right after the bombs were droped the GI's did not get meals they had to go out and raid farms for food to eat so they were all exposed to radiation-most of his army buddies died young.
Good Morning Crew, Welcome to the thread Renee (riamborn)! I'm so glad to hear your maintenance people cleaned out your Mothers car! And TG you weren't bit by a recluse! Hang in there with your Mom, she sounds like a handful.
I had a bad experience at the obgyn once years ago but it turned out to be worse for him than for me. I was pregnant with my second daughter and was looking for the right doctor so I went in and the doctor had me on the table to do a pelvic exam. He was sitting in one of those stool like chairs with wheels on them and when he examined me he was so damn rough that I instinctively (evil cricket existed back then too) kicked him in the head so hard that he and the stool flew backwards and hit the wall so hard that the stool flipped over and he landed on his ass. I got up and told him to get out! I got dressed and left. Then I went to the next doctor on my list and he was Doc Perfect so he delivered my daughter and later my two grandsons. Jen I'm sorry you were abused by that doctor. I wouldn't think anything at all about it if you were to sue them. I totally understand your wanting to get drunk! You were traumatized! I wish there was something more I could say or do to help you. If you need to talk more about it feel free to email me. I too am a sexual abuse survivor (from my early teens). cricketinafryingpan at comcast dot net.
I already wrote a lot so I won't say much more other than get well from those headaches and sinus infections and watch out of the centipedes, spiders, and any other critters! Love you all. *´¨) ¸.•´¸.•*´¨) ¸.•*¨) (¸.•´ (¸.•` ¤ Chirp Chirp Cricket Hugsღ
Now, that's what I'm talking about!!!!!! I love the evil Cricket. I can just see that doc going backwards at warp speed and hitting the wall. I bet that foot to the head taught him more than any lectures he attended. Cat
I'm here Jen. I'm guilty of lurking again. Just been very stressed trying to keep the utilities on. The house phone had been disconnected, but I still have my cell phone. I took mom to a free show Spirit of America. It was very well presented and we all enjoyed it. The Colonial Life Arena has a lot to learn about accommodating disabled people. I fed mom and now she is in bed because she is exhausted from the outing. I'm pretty tired too since I had to stand for the first half of the show and dragging mom in and out of the car. It sounds like everyone has their own trials a tribulations to deal with right now. Jen, definitely file a complaint and consider sueing that incompetent ass that thinks he is a doctor. Cat, my prayers are with you and your dad on this journey. Mame, lildeb, deefer, tbailey, bobbie, cuz, austin and anyone I managed to leave out, I hope you are having as good a day possible. I'm looking forward to some cooler weather tomorrow. I plan to open the house and air it out. I also need to wage another war on the roaches that will not die! Have a good evening and I'll check in tomorrow.
Jen if they ask you to go in say no but you will ask your lawyer if he will go in to talk to them-it will scare the---- out of them for sure. Or you can tell them you have a kick ass lady from NY who will be glad to come in to talk to them.
Jen: Here's a thought. Let's go in as a group. Sherry, practice that kick to the head. I'll bring some clamps and a mask. Oh, yeah, my 2x4 too. Austin, bring some lubricant. If we feel sorry for them, we'll use it. We'll make sure they are all sitting on roller chairs. Haha, we will have them bouncing off the walls. Need some extra hands to get them in the stirrups. Meanwhile, with all of your horse experience, I'm sure you can help there.
Now I am completely untrained as a physician, but I know I can locate a vagina before assaulting surrounding areas with intrusive instruments. In the case of a male gyn, I'm sure I can locate an asshole too. This isn't flippin brain surgery.
What in the world is wrong with these docs who are so insensitive. Love to give them a taste of their own medicine.
Hello everyone: I want to let you know that my sweet dad passed away this evening at 5:05 PM. Last Friday I was with him and he would laugh at something I said and eat a little lunch for me. I told him, "Dad you are getting skinny" and he just smiled. I asked him if he was looking forward to being with mom and he said, "Yes." I asked him if he was looking forward to seeing his dog, Houchy, and he just smiled. I asked him if he was afraid and he laughed and said, "No." We spent about 4 hours together and it was really a nice visit.
On Saturday, things had changed quite a bit. He was able to eat a few bites for me, but could not respond verbally to anything I asked him. He just did not seem to have the power to form a word. I knew then that we had turned another corner. After a bit he seemed to shiver. I put more blankets on him, but then called the nurse. She give him some morphine and we got him into bed.
On Sunday, he was completely non-responsive and seemingly in an unconscious state. He had not urinated during the previous night. He was also running a fever. I spent the day and most of the evening by his side then went home to get some sleep. I had called his doctor that day also, so his morphine schedule would be clearly followed. My dad was very peaceful and comfortable when I left him and I expected to get a call during the night saying he had passed. I knew he realized that I was with him and loved him, but I just had to go home.
This morning I was back bright and early and I will be forever grateful that he passed in my presence. I held his hand when he took his last breath and then had a moment of prayer, giving his soul into God's loving arms and thanking him for letting me be with my Dad at the moment of his passing.
I would have been ok if my dad had passed last night, knowing that he was comfortable and peaceful; and that I can not stay up for 36 hours straight. It was yesterday that I truly was sorry that I didn't have siblings close by who could hold the bedside vigil.
I'm not saying that it was God's will that I be by my dad's side when he passed. I tend to think that God gives nature it's right to exist, after all he created it. So for those who could not be present at the time of a loved ones passing, please know that you were there in spirit and thought and love.
I am just so grateful that I was able to share that moment with my dad. It was healing for me.
Thank you, all my very dear friends, for your support and heartfelt wishes to me and my dad over the past many months. You are my soul mates and my heart mates.
Cat, the days and months ahead will be hard sometimes. Try to remind yourself, of the happy times. You are a wonderful daughter. I'm sure your Dad would want you to be happy and at peace. Love, Shirley
rlamborn, Omg!!!! I am scared to almost death of spiders too. I don't know if it is their creepy so many legs on eye balls that roll around but I would had a wreck if one was on me. Can't stand those flying big ass cock roaches either. Spiders r my worst. I know they have a purpose on life but I cannot stand them. I hope the bite wound heals quickly n if that car was not cleaned by someone else, I would had not gotten in it either. I feel u big-time for I can related to be terrified of spiders n just talking about those things give me chills. I would had flipped the mom off too n probable would had grabbed her wine n dranked it and I don't drink. Good for you.
Cat, sorry about your dad n his health but I am glad to hear that he is not scared n ready to go when his time comes. I know it has to be very hard on you n saying a prayer to give you strength during these times.
Does that include dumb dentists too? I was young n my mom told me that I was going to lose all my teeth because of diabetes type one. Of course, she did not have much education herself n of course I listen to her for she was my mom. so, when my top teeth started getting bad n painful, I had went to this supposely specialize dentist. Well, he told me that he would have to take all my top teeth out at once for they were bad. So, I fell for it around my age of 30's n felt so bad afterward for here I was with false top teeth at such a young age. Well, I had to go back because a couple of my bottom teeth were in pain n he mention that he would have to take them all out at once too. I asked him, "can you not save some of my bottom teeth for it was only a couple that were hurting?" His reply was, " I don't save teeth, I just pull them." OMG! What a dumbass I was for going to see him!!!! I left n started to ask around for another dentist n found one n he has saved at least 7 of my bottom teeth n he said he probable could had saved some of my top too. What a dumbass I was for letting that other dentist pull all my top teeth for I thought he knew what he was doing. Well, I guess he did but he could had at least mention about seeing another dentist about saving some of them. Ah!!! Too late now but I have learned to get a second opinion.
Lildeb, I work for a dentist that looks at pulling a tooth like he is losing a patient. He is very good at extractions, but he would much rather save a tooth. He even went back to school to learn how to use a laser for gum surgery.
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Here's a little poem for you.
Another year has passed
and we're all a little older.
Last summer felt hotter
and winter seems much colder.
There was a time not long ago
when life was quite a blast.
Now I fully understand
about 'Living in the Past'
We used to go to weddings,
football games and lunches.
Now we go to funeral homes,
and after-funeral brunches.
We used to have hangovers,
from parties that were gay.
Now we suffer body aches
and while the night away.
We used to go out dining,
and couldn't get our fill.
Now we ask for doggie bags,
come home and take a pill.
We used to often travel
to places near and far.
Now we get sore asses
from riding in the car.
We used to go to nightclubs
and drink a little booze.
Now we stay home at night
and watch the evening news.
That, my friend is how life is and now my tale is told.
So, enjoy each day and live it up...
before you're too damned old!
I told my dad today that he was getting really skinny. I asked him if he was looking forward to being with my mom and he said, "yes". I asked him if he was looking forward to seeing Houchy, his dog and he smiled. I asked him if he was afraid, and he broke out in a big smile and said NO.
We had a nice time together. I hug him and tell him that I love him. We hold hands and he holds my hand really tight. I rub his neck and he drifts off to sleep. In the family room, I recline his wheelchair and put a big chair cushion under his feet so he can stretch his legs out. I get a blanket from his room and cover him up. He's so calm and happy during our time together. I'm so grateful that my presence brings him comfort. I hate leaving him.
Sending you all the best for each day ahead. Love, Cat
I had a bad experience at the obgyn once years ago but it turned out to be worse for him than for me. I was pregnant with my second daughter and was looking for the right doctor so I went in and the doctor had me on the table to do a pelvic exam. He was sitting in one of those stool like chairs with wheels on them and when he examined me he was so damn rough that I instinctively (evil cricket existed back then too) kicked him in the head so hard that he and the stool flew backwards and hit the wall so hard that the stool flipped over and he landed on his ass. I got up and told him to get out! I got dressed and left. Then I went to the next doctor on my list and he was Doc Perfect so he delivered my daughter and later my two grandsons. Jen I'm sorry you were abused by that doctor. I wouldn't think anything at all about it if you were to sue them. I totally understand your wanting to get drunk! You were traumatized! I wish there was something more I could say or do to help you. If you need to talk more about it feel free to email me. I too am a sexual abuse survivor (from my early teens). cricketinafryingpan at comcast dot net.
I already wrote a lot so I won't say much more other than get well from those headaches and sinus infections and watch out of the centipedes, spiders, and any other critters! Love you all.
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any one heard fro Diane?....
It sounds like everyone has their own trials a tribulations to deal with right now. Jen, definitely file a complaint and consider sueing that incompetent ass that thinks he is a doctor. Cat, my prayers are with you and your dad on this journey. Mame, lildeb, deefer, tbailey, bobbie, cuz, austin and anyone I managed to leave out, I hope you are having as good a day possible. I'm looking forward to some cooler weather tomorrow. I plan to open the house and air it out. I also need to wage another war on the roaches that will not die! Have a good evening and I'll check in tomorrow.
Love ya,
Diane
MM spiders coming in here colder it gets but I CAN'T close the windows I just can't...
Thank you all for your support and listening to me complain.
Did mail my letter, I imagine I will get a call back, but they better not expect me to come back in to discuss things...
Today’s Truth – Ambition is a poor excuse for not having enough sense to be lazy.
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His wife was screaming at him: "Leave! Get out of this house!" she ordered.
As he was walking out the door she yelled, "I hope you die a slow and painful death!"
So he turned around and replied, "So now you want me to stay?"
Now I am completely untrained as a physician, but I know I can locate a vagina before assaulting surrounding areas with intrusive instruments. In the case of a male gyn, I'm sure I can locate an asshole too. This isn't flippin brain surgery.
What in the world is wrong with these docs who are so insensitive. Love to give them a taste of their own medicine.
Love you, Cat
On Saturday, things had changed quite a bit. He was able to eat a few bites for me, but could not respond verbally to anything I asked him. He just did not seem to have the power to form a word. I knew then that we had turned another corner. After a bit he seemed to shiver. I put more blankets on him, but then called the nurse. She give him some morphine and we got him into bed.
On Sunday, he was completely non-responsive and seemingly in an unconscious state. He had not urinated during the previous night. He was also running a fever. I spent the day and most of the evening by his side then went home to get some sleep. I had called his doctor that day also, so his morphine schedule would be clearly followed. My dad was very peaceful and comfortable when I left him and I expected to get a call during the night saying he had passed. I knew he realized that I was with him and loved him, but I just had to go home.
This morning I was back bright and early and I will be forever grateful that he passed in my presence. I held his hand when he took his last breath and then had a moment of prayer, giving his soul into God's loving arms and thanking him for letting me be with my Dad at the moment of his passing.
I would have been ok if my dad had passed last night, knowing that he was comfortable and peaceful; and that I can not stay up for 36 hours straight. It was yesterday that I truly was sorry that I didn't have siblings close by who could hold the bedside vigil.
I'm not saying that it was God's will that I be by my dad's side when he passed. I tend to think that God gives nature it's right to exist, after all he created it. So for those who could not be present at the time of a loved ones passing, please know that you were there in spirit and thought and love.
I am just so grateful that I was able to share that moment with my dad. It was healing for me.
Thank you, all my very dear friends, for your support and heartfelt wishes to me and my dad over the past many months. You are my soul mates and my heart mates.
Love, Cattails
lovCuz
My condolences on the loss of your beloved father. You are a wonderful daughter.
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