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Book good for you what a jerk he is -you are a KAW for sure. Bobbie -people are still without power is some places-the next storm is due Wed-some rain and lots of wind are due-we were able to get gas ahead from CT for the generator and I am not driving very far until this next storm is over and the gas problem get solved the Gov. has promised to get more gas into the area-and since he live in this area that should happen.
Book, where do u work in a mental ward? It is none of his busy n that is very personal stuff he was asking. Good for you letting him know in a calm fashion way n being able to ignore him too. You handle it better than I would. Dtflex, haven't heard anything from tbailey.
Hey everyone. Lildeb- what's going on with you with the medical tests? Did i miss a post or comment. I hope everything is alright, let me know. I do feel better. Alot better. Today has been the best day yet so far, keeping my fingers crossed that it lasts. Thank you for the advice. You take care ok? hugs stormy Book- sending you prayers that you will feel alot better tomorrow. Cat- still thinking about you and your family. I hope you are doing as best as you can in a situation like this. My thoughts and prayers are with you! Hugs Diane- Good to hear from you. hugs Well, i am finally feeling normal. And i am able to eat now. Sis says she thinks i had the norovirus. It's a different strain of the stomach virus, with headaches, achy body and it lasts longer too. But i am glad that mess is gone!!!!! I finally had some energy today like a normal person would. I went to dads and done all the duties and chores for him, picked up connor from school, helped him with his homework, cooked supper, ate, washed dishes, folded two loads of clothes and put them up, cooked some cookies, bathed connor, got him ready for bed and read him a book. I couldn't have done all of that if i wanted to before taking the thyroid meds. I would love to know how long i have had this thyroid problem. Well, i will talk with all of you later on. I hope everyone has a goodnite and a good tuesday. Love and hugs stormy
Amen Jen!!! So sick of the phone calls and TV adds.Wonder how long it will take to tally all the votes. Don't know why they we all vote when it's the electoral college that makes the actual decision. Just think what could be done with all that campaign $$. Austin sorry to hear about your mom. Hoping we don't get too much of the white stuff on Wednesday night! Book, Poor you! Too bad they didn't keep your mom at the hospital for a few days. I hope all that OJ makes you feel better. Lildeb, Mom used to look for me all the time at the beginning. She would call me at work and tell me to come home because she couldn't breathe or whatever excuse sounded bad enough for me to go home. I was a half hour drive from home, so I would call my sister or sil to check on her. She would be fine, just having a panic attack. Now she is too far gone to notice if she is alone or not. Eldest daughter, a care giver is a care giver no matter how much or how little they have to do. It's still living with a very stressful situation. Let us know how you are doing. Stormy, definitely go easy on yourself. Give yourself time to feel better. Cat, Have a safe trip! Diane, sibs! The bane of our existence! My youngest brother showed up Sunday with his two kids, 5 and 11, and stayed for 4 hours. He bought lunch and that was good! But he also called the youngest of our sisters and she stopped by to see the kids and rile them up! By the time everyone left, Mom was in a state!!! Merry couldn't even get her to eat dinner. Too much activity and people for her to handle. By the way, my sister made a couple insulting remarks to me and ruined my day! Sorry you are dealing with that shit again! What a$$holes!! Jen, is it still cold there? Got the storm coming and it was in the low 40's with a good breeze today. Vacuumed out all the vents and turned the furnace on to make sure everything was okay. Got to finish cleaning up the yard and put the swing away before the storm, just on case! Talked to a former co-worker last night and we are meeting for breakfast tomorrow. I think! Bent down to get a pot to cook dinner and got really dizzy when I stood up. Still a bit dizzy and now I have a stiff neck! Sure hope I don't have to cancel tomorrow. Oh yeah, went into the cellar to cut some wood for my painting projects and used the compound miter saw to cut some pieces. Well, the blade was bad and the wood got shredded on the ends. Then I tried to use the scroll saw and the blade snapped! The blade holder went went flying across the cellar and it took me a while to find it. So I gave up and came back upstairs and did something else. Now I need to get a new blade so I can get going on my projects for the craft shows. Guess I should have checked out my equipment before now as I haven't used it since last year. Need to get all my saws and sanders cleaned up and oiled before I go any further. Tomorrow is another day! Bobbie!!!! Judy!!! and anyone I missed!!! Okay, bedtime for me. Still not sleeping well. Been hearing my pulse in my head when it's quiet, for the last couple weeks. Blood pressure is up a bit, but not too bad.
I thought I was going insane today, Deef. I could hear my pulse in my ears. Wha the heck is that? Is that what you mean when you say you can hear your pulse in your head? Like its banging a drum in your ear?
Deef - bummer that mom was not admitted to hospital. Respiratory guy told us that if she is admitted, he will recommend and replace mom's trache! He, too, noticed that it needed changing. Too bad....
Judy, only 1 time I heard the sound of my pulse. I just had my 1st surgery and on the 1st night home. I woke up like 3am with a very slow and loud "whoooom" sound. My gut instinct was: Do Not Move! I didn't dare move any part of my body. I knew instinctively that my heart was beating too slow and any movement would make it stop. So, I laid there listening to the slow but loud "whooooom". After a while, I decided if I was going to die, I would rather have it in my sleep. So, I went to sleep. I was a bit disappointed when I woke up the next morning...
Hi Stormy and all, I'm doing fine today compared to yesterday. I only now have a throaty sound voice. Of course, I've been taking DayQuil - one at breakfast and one at lunch. But I took it yesterday, and I was still miserable. Today, I feel soooo much better! I guess that flu shot worked in that it made the flu not take too long. But, man, that shot hurts! I had decided not to take it next year. But after this, I'm rethinking of doing it again next year....
Deefer where do you do your craft shows-I sister does them also many in PA have to tell you this story my sister was at one where they have a cafateria where the artisnss eat in the morning after setting up for the day before the show opens and also some attendees go there for breakfast-one day a lady said to her son remember if you do not stay in school this is how you will end up-my sister was pissed she has a masters degree and most of her friends are also college educated-she is an artisin so she could be home more when her kids were small and I know how hard it is-I help her and that work is hard especially setting up and tearing down then some jerk will ask it I buy two will I get a discount. I did one craft show for our senior center and said never agan.
Austin, I used to feel like that. I would go to the arts & craft fair yearly. I couldn't understand why an album would cost that much (where I can get it much cheaper, but plain, for less than $10.00 at a store.) Until my older sis complained how people would complain that she charges so much. She told me how silk is expensive, to buy the supplies, etc... Older sis does beautiful albums - done specifically with personal touches for the recipient. I asked if people pay her when they request for her to do it. She said no - too embarrass to ask for money since they just assume she is happy to do it for free. I used to sew clothes. Family liked it but I charged for services rendered. But, when I was making costume jewelry with beads - that is Time Consuming! After doing 2 necklaces and 1 bracelet, I gave up. I have No Patience for that! But, I did learn to appreciate that such tiny stuff (bracelet) is not worth $5.00! Oh, I made a 2-strand bracelet with different size beadings and bright color beads. Same with the necklace. I did a 2-strand beaded necklace (nothing big since I'm a small person). I've learned to appreciate the time and efforts people put into their arts/craft now. But, I still wouldn't want to spend $40.00 on an album.
Mu sister does wheat weaving and makes some inexpensive things and charges for the work entailed her prices are fair and she does better than most crafters and does so many shows that she has lots of friends in other crafters-I went to Maine with her and to West Virginia this year. The big one is Kriskindlemart in Bethleham PA starts now the week before Thanksgiving and goes for 6 weeks she also is at a farmers market during the year and gives classes at Kutztown during the summer. There is a lady that does such small beading it is amazing-my thing is to crochet items to donate but am getting a little tired of the shawls-hope we make our limit soon so I can get back to laprobes.
Deef: Take care of yourself. You are like a one man army.
Stormy: I am so happy you are feeling better. Over the flu and getting back your normal energy. Awesome!!
Leaving Friday to be with Rick and Cyn. Coming home the following Wednesday.
FYI: For those who have had an experience with mice getting into their cars, we are trying out a new strategy. Get a small mesh bag, saturate a couple of cotton balls with peppermint oil, but the cotton balls in the mesh bag and attach under the hood of your car. Mice don't like the smell and they will stay away.
We went to buy the peppermint oil and got the last bottle. The sales person said, "Yeah, we sell it very fast this time of year. People use it to deter mice getting into their car." Well, I was I had known this some years ago. Hope it works. Our garage smells like peppermint.
Hi Austin. I just do small local fairs now. The one on Saturday after Thanksgiving is at a church hall one town over from me and the weekend after is at the high school right here in town. It's run by the senior class to make $$. I don't make much but it gets me to paint and knit and I get out of the house with other people, for the day. I do the least complicated display that I can so that set up and breakdown are fast. My prices are more than fair for the detailed work that I do. I find that people who have very little $$ are by far my best customers and cherish what they buy. I will give them a break if they buy more and can't resist a hard luck story. Especially when it's a kid buying a gift for mom!. It's the ones who have lots of $$ that try to talk you down and really don't appreciate what you do. they will buy because it's the latest fad, then throw it in a garage sale next year! I've also gotten lots of great items for myself by trading with other vendors. mostly I go for the entertainment and interaction with other people. I am going to start working on stenciling some holiday signs that are already to go. Once I get a new saw blade, I can cut the other pieces I need and work on them. I have plenty of shawls, neck wraps, hats and felted purses done, so I just have a few knitted pieces to finish and block. I also have glass and wood ornaments to paint. Guess I'll be burning the midnight oil the next few weeks! I always wait until last minute and it's when I do my best work!! Mom finally had a good day today. Just her and the help with no distractions to confuse her. I actually met a friend for breakfast who surprised me by bringing along another of our former co-workers. I hadn't seen her since before her husband died over 4 years ago. She is 80 now and travels back and forth from family here in Mass., to daughter and son in New Jersey. They are still without power there and can't stay in their home until it is cleared for safety issues, etc. It was so great to see her! We actually sat and talked in the local Cracker Barrel restaurant for 3 hours! It was a nice break for me. Got to finish cleaning up the yard tomorrow and get the swing put in the cellar for the winter. Looking like we may get a few inches of wet snow from the storm, then warmer weather to melt it. At least I wasn't dizzy when I got up today and I felt better by the afternoon. Okay, I have 4 cats staring at me and begging for dinner. then It's off to bed! Glad to see everyone is feeling better!
My sister finds the smaller shows the most fun and not too expensive to pay for she also trades crafts and meets grate other crafters who become great friends.
It will be nice to not hear something I have to run to the computer and fact check and then find out it's a lie. Hope he doesn't go away mad, just hope he goes away.
Chilly on the boat this morning but the painting is coming along well. She will be cream colored with forest green trim and the teak will be varnished to a fine reddish gloss.
I wish Rosella would come because we always talked about how she would polish all the bronze fittings. It's finally time. For those of you who have been on the thread for awhile you know how hard it was to finally get here AND we have a long way to go to get the entire boat painted, caulked and varnished. She's looking good though! Will be ready for caregiver parties!
Hope you guys have as good a day as possible with all that you deal with. Love you all more than you'll ever know, lovbob
Bobbie!!! The boat sounds beautiful!!!! Hope I get to see it for real someday. Need to get out and do a few errands before the white stuff starts. Later!!!
Good to see you Capt. Bobbie-get yourself some rest girlfriend.AC thank you for fixing the problem not getting posts-goodjob. Bobbie get some rest -you hear. I am getting wood in for the wood stove -it is starting to get windy and some poor people do not still have power from the last storm.
So cold here, the white stuff is sticking to the roads and making it slippery already. Wind was blowing the stuff around when I picked up Mom at daycare. Made it even colder. It's been so warm here, us hearty New Englanders bodies have not adjusted to the cold season yet. Mom is sitting in front of a window and watching it snow. I figured it would hold her attention and calm her down a bit after her long day. Need to figure out 2 dinners. One for her and one for my husband before he goes out to play cards tonight. Hallelujah!!! He'll be gone for a couple hours!!! How is everyone else today? Jen, where are you? Book, Judy, meanwhile, Mame, Stormy, Sharyn, Christina, Cricket, how was the trip?
Hi Deefer we are getting the same weather-have a few inches but very wet and heavy-i guess I will be staying home tomarrow-was suppose to go to a luncheon but will not go out unless there is serious melting happening-having a freat time on facebook connecting with family members. It is too bad you have to cook diferently for each of them-I do not miss cooking for others at all and having to have meals ready at a certain time-I try to eat at the senior center twice a week so I can associate withs instead of in front of the TV-hope this storm is gone soon-so many around here are still without power from Sandy.
Hi Deef, Austin...flu relapse. I'm at work by self...both boss will be off-island for the weekend. Whooppee!! NOT!!! Immune system is low. I just took 1 Halls cough drop this morning, and got tingling lips. Later!
Grand master of the crazy parade checking in here. Took Mom AND Dad shopping again today. OMG. Dad wanders, confused, shuffling to his own drummer with the cart. Mom wanders off another direction, losing her cane everywhere (and then has to grab onto things when she realizes its gone and I have to go find it - she walks just fine till she misses it). As usual, the minute we got into the store, she started going into her "I'm dizzy and confused routine". I can predict it now, even the poor me look on her face. I lead the parade through the store. But, Dad gets sidetracked, blocks the aisle when he comes to a standstill for who knows what, then goes in another direction. I run after him and then lose Mom. A woman with a little boy in her cart looked at me after we passed each other a few times and said she thinks it'd be easier to shop with all 4 of her kids than my elderly parents. We had a good laugh, but then I lost BOTH parents and had to regroup, tell my dad to focus on my ass, and march ahead. My dad was throwing things into the cart at the checkout, not letting the bagger put things into bags. I had to grab and bag and try to get him to stop. The cashier thought it was funny. I'd rather have an enema on national TV than shop with them again. No lie. I've had enough.
Oh, jeez, Deef, Austin....snow. We had 91 degrees today. I'd love some snow! Book, you don't get a break! Hi, Cat! Bobbie, the colors for the boat sound nice!
So sorry for those of you in the northeast that you are having more stormy weather. It was overcast and breezy today so we only warmed up to the 50's. I slept late since mom had me at the ER lastnight after she fell. Luckily nothing broken but some bad skin tears and she is sore. I'm not sure if it's the weather, stress or tiredness that has me feeling blue today. My stupid family is still insisting I'm abusing my mother. They feel this fear and paranoia she is experiencing lately is my fault. They just can't seem to understand this is part of the dementia. At this point I would welcome an investigation from DSS so I could prove to these morons that mom is well cared for. As usual when I was at the hospital last night the doctor asked if I was a nurse since I seemed knowledgable and had bandaged her skin tears nicely. Why is it outsiders can see this yet the people that have known me all my life keep throwing out these accusations? The sibs are actually blaming me again for mom not being in a NH. THey were the ones that said they didn't have the funds to pay $7000 a month for a NH. I've been looking online at mobile/manufactured homes in the next town over. It is primarily rural area but still just a quick drive and I can be in the middle of everything. I think I can get approved for enough to buy that type of home. I know it won't be like my house now, but if I can get a place of my own I will move out and tell my brother and sister it's all their mess to sort out. Mom doesn't know me 95% of the time so it won't matter who is taking care of her, but it will make my brother and sister get off their asses. I'm tired of being their scape goat for everything.
I will try check in soon again, but right now I need to focus on this project. I hope everyone is feeling better and getting over the various ailments. Bobbie, the boat really sounds wonderful.
In really foul mood here so...I don't know, Mom has taken Fart Pants to get new dentures I went for the first app. she took him alone today. Thank God. Three hours in a car with him was unbearable. EVEN MOM rolled her window down as he farted and shit his pants again and again, naming streets, car models, reading off signs , trying to "help" with traffic, yes, go ahead pull out now ma theres a semi coming...on his side. he is back to staring at me and I am back to eating in three seconds flat and leaving. At least I can open the doors and windows now they are out.....
Now I just have to listen to Monty HOWLING LIKE HE HAS BEEN STABBED EVERY FOUR MINUTES FOR THREE HOURS!!!! Till Mom gets home. With take out, great, just what I like greasy fast food thats been sitting on shit pants lap for half an hour, oh sign me up....
i thought we weren't doing that anymore as shit pants refuses to chew and swallow properly we are slowly going to an all food prossess-or-ed diet so DADDDDEEEE won't feel bad. God I hope he dies soon!
Hope everyone is doing Ok where ever and what ever they are up against.
Judy - that was funny! Atleast you're getting some kind of workout exercise running after the parents. Just loved that comment from the mother of 4! FYI, my boss told me that Monday is a holiday. Really? He said yes. So, it's our off. (Really??? All these years Veteran's Day was never ever our office holiday). But, I was not about to Correct him on this. ;-) .... Unfortunately, I had to tell oldest sis that it's her holiday, too...I will stuck at home..wonder if I can pay niece to come in the morning to babysit?
Diane, do whatever is best for YOU! You have done your best for your mother. Obviously, your siblings know more than you. Therefore, go and look for a new home and you can still visit your mother. However...is any of your siblings willing to step up and DO something for your mother? I don't think so! They look at that $7000/month and NOBODY will want the hassle of trying to handle that. Instead, you're free - and they will love to just complain about you on and on and on.....So, go look for a place and figure out a plan with how you can Trick Your Siblings into taking over your mom. Once they get hooked, RUN!!! Sigh..I will hope really hard for you. Book
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Dtflex, haven't heard anything from tbailey.
Lildeb- what's going on with you with the medical tests? Did i miss a post or comment. I hope everything is alright, let me know. I do feel better. Alot better. Today has been the best day yet so far, keeping my fingers crossed that it lasts.
Thank you for the advice. You take care ok? hugs stormy
Book- sending you prayers that you will feel alot better tomorrow.
Cat- still thinking about you and your family. I hope you are doing as best as you can in a situation like this. My thoughts and prayers are with you! Hugs
Diane- Good to hear from you. hugs
Well, i am finally feeling normal. And i am able to eat now. Sis says she thinks i had the norovirus. It's a different strain of the stomach virus, with headaches, achy body and it lasts longer too. But i am glad that mess is gone!!!!! I finally had some energy today like a normal person would. I went to dads and done all the duties and chores for him, picked up connor from school, helped him with his homework, cooked supper, ate, washed dishes, folded two loads of clothes and put them up, cooked some cookies, bathed connor, got him ready for bed and read him a book. I couldn't have done all of that if i wanted to before taking the thyroid meds. I would love to know how long i have had this thyroid problem. Well, i will talk with all of you later on. I hope everyone has a goodnite and a good tuesday. Love and hugs stormy
Austin sorry to hear about your mom. Hoping we don't get too much of the white stuff on Wednesday night!
Book, Poor you! Too bad they didn't keep your mom at the hospital for a few days. I hope all that OJ makes you feel better.
Lildeb, Mom used to look for me all the time at the beginning. She would call me at work and tell me to come home because she couldn't breathe or whatever excuse sounded bad enough for me to go home. I was a half hour drive from home, so I would call my sister or sil to check on her. She would be fine, just having a panic attack. Now she is too far gone to notice if she is alone or not.
Eldest daughter, a care giver is a care giver no matter how much or how little they have to do. It's still living with a very stressful situation. Let us know how you are doing. Stormy, definitely go easy on yourself. Give yourself time to feel better.
Cat, Have a safe trip!
Diane, sibs! The bane of our existence! My youngest brother showed up Sunday with his two kids, 5 and 11, and stayed for 4 hours. He bought lunch and that was good! But he also called the youngest of our sisters and she stopped by to see the kids and rile them up! By the time everyone left, Mom was in a state!!! Merry couldn't even get her to eat dinner. Too much activity and people for her to handle. By the way, my sister made a couple insulting remarks to me and ruined my day! Sorry you are dealing with that shit again! What a$$holes!!
Jen, is it still cold there? Got the storm coming and it was in the low 40's with a good breeze today. Vacuumed out all the vents and turned the furnace on to make sure everything was okay.
Got to finish cleaning up the yard and put the swing away before the storm, just on case!
Talked to a former co-worker last night and we are meeting for breakfast tomorrow. I think! Bent down to get a pot to cook dinner and got really dizzy when I stood up. Still a bit dizzy and now I have a stiff neck! Sure hope I don't have to cancel tomorrow.
Oh yeah, went into the cellar to cut some wood for my painting projects and used the compound miter saw to cut some pieces. Well, the blade was bad and the wood got shredded on the ends. Then I tried to use the scroll saw and the blade snapped! The blade holder went went flying across the cellar and it took me a while to find it. So I gave up and came back upstairs and did something else. Now I need to get a new blade so I can get going on my projects for the craft shows. Guess I should have checked out my equipment before now as I haven't used it since last year. Need to get all my saws and sanders cleaned up and oiled before I go any further. Tomorrow is another day!
Bobbie!!!! Judy!!! and anyone I missed!!!
Okay, bedtime for me. Still not sleeping well. Been hearing my pulse in my head when it's quiet, for the last couple weeks. Blood pressure is up a bit, but not too bad.
Judy, only 1 time I heard the sound of my pulse. I just had my 1st surgery and on the 1st night home. I woke up like 3am with a very slow and loud "whoooom" sound. My gut instinct was: Do Not Move! I didn't dare move any part of my body. I knew instinctively that my heart was beating too slow and any movement would make it stop. So, I laid there listening to the slow but loud "whooooom". After a while, I decided if I was going to die, I would rather have it in my sleep. So, I went to sleep. I was a bit disappointed when I woke up the next morning...
Stormy: I am so happy you are feeling better. Over the flu and getting back your normal energy. Awesome!!
Leaving Friday to be with Rick and Cyn. Coming home the following Wednesday.
FYI: For those who have had an experience with mice getting into their cars, we are trying out a new strategy. Get a small mesh bag, saturate a couple of cotton balls with peppermint oil, but the cotton balls in the mesh bag and attach under the hood of your car. Mice don't like the smell and they will stay away.
We went to buy the peppermint oil and got the last bottle. The sales person said, "Yeah, we sell it very fast this time of year. People use it to deter mice getting into their car." Well, I was I had known this some years ago. Hope it works. Our garage smells like peppermint.
Hugs, Cat
I am going to start working on stenciling some holiday signs that are already to go. Once I get a new saw blade, I can cut the other pieces I need and work on them. I have plenty of shawls, neck wraps, hats and felted purses done, so I just have a few knitted pieces to finish and block. I also have glass and wood ornaments to paint. Guess I'll be burning the midnight oil the next few weeks! I always wait until last minute and it's when I do my best work!!
Mom finally had a good day today. Just her and the help with no distractions to confuse her. I actually met a friend for breakfast who surprised me by bringing along another of our former co-workers. I hadn't seen her since before her husband died over 4 years ago. She is 80 now and travels back and forth from family here in Mass., to daughter and son in New Jersey. They are still without power there and can't stay in their home until it is cleared for safety issues, etc. It was so great to see her! We actually sat and talked in the local Cracker Barrel restaurant for 3 hours! It was a nice break for me. Got to finish cleaning up the yard tomorrow and get the swing put in the cellar for the winter. Looking like we may get a few inches of wet snow from the storm, then warmer weather to melt it.
At least I wasn't dizzy when I got up today and I felt better by the afternoon.
Okay, I have 4 cats staring at me and begging for dinner. then It's off to bed!
Glad to see everyone is feeling better!
Just taking a break from the election returns. It's 8:30 pm on the West Coast. Going back to hear more. Everyone get a good night's sleep.
Love, Cat
Good one Deef!
It will be nice to not hear something I have to run to the computer and fact check and then find out it's a lie. Hope he doesn't go away mad, just hope he goes away.
Chilly on the boat this morning but the painting is coming along well. She will be cream colored with forest green trim and the teak will be varnished to a fine reddish gloss.
I wish Rosella would come because we always talked about how she would polish all the bronze fittings. It's finally time. For those of you who have been on the thread for awhile you know how hard it was to finally get here AND we have a long way to go to get the entire boat painted, caulked and varnished. She's looking good though!
Will be ready for caregiver parties!
Hope you guys have as good a day as possible with all that you deal with.
Love you all more than you'll ever know,
lovbob
Need to get out and do a few errands before the white stuff starts. Later!!!
Boat time!
lovbob
Mom is sitting in front of a window and watching it snow. I figured it would hold her attention and calm her down a bit after her long day.
Need to figure out 2 dinners. One for her and one for my husband before he goes out to play cards tonight. Hallelujah!!! He'll be gone for a couple hours!!!
How is everyone else today? Jen, where are you? Book, Judy, meanwhile, Mame, Stormy, Sharyn, Christina, Cricket, how was the trip?
So sorry for those of you in the northeast that you are having more stormy weather. It was overcast and breezy today so we only warmed up to the 50's. I slept late since mom had me at the ER lastnight after she fell. Luckily nothing broken but some bad skin tears and she is sore. I'm not sure if it's the weather, stress or tiredness that has me feeling blue today. My stupid family is still insisting I'm abusing my mother. They feel this fear and paranoia she is experiencing lately is my fault. They just can't seem to understand this is part of the dementia. At this point I would welcome an investigation from DSS so I could prove to these morons that mom is well cared for. As usual when I was at the hospital last night the doctor asked if I was a nurse since I seemed knowledgable and had bandaged her skin tears nicely. Why is it outsiders can see this yet the people that have known me all my life keep throwing out these accusations? The sibs are actually blaming me again for mom not being in a NH. THey were the ones that said they didn't have the funds to pay $7000 a month for a NH. I've been looking online at mobile/manufactured homes in the next town over. It is primarily rural area but still just a quick drive and I can be in the middle of everything. I think I can get approved for enough to buy that type of home. I know it won't be like my house now, but if I can get a place of my own I will move out and tell my brother and sister it's all their mess to sort out. Mom doesn't know me 95% of the time so it won't matter who is taking care of her, but it will make my brother and sister get off their asses. I'm tired of being their scape goat for everything.
I will try check in soon again, but right now I need to focus on this project. I hope everyone is feeling better and getting over the various ailments. Bobbie, the boat really sounds wonderful.
Take care and have a good night.
Love ya,
Diane
Now I just have to listen to Monty HOWLING LIKE HE HAS BEEN STABBED EVERY FOUR MINUTES FOR THREE HOURS!!!! Till Mom gets home. With take out, great, just what I like greasy fast food thats been sitting on shit pants lap for half an hour, oh sign me up....
i thought we weren't doing that anymore as shit pants refuses to chew and swallow properly we are slowly going to an all food prossess-or-ed diet so DADDDDEEEE won't feel bad. God I hope he dies soon!
Hope everyone is doing Ok where ever and what ever they are up against.
Jen "The Professional Grouse"
Diane, do whatever is best for YOU! You have done your best for your mother. Obviously, your siblings know more than you. Therefore, go and look for a new home and you can still visit your mother. However...is any of your siblings willing to step up and DO something for your mother? I don't think so! They look at that $7000/month and NOBODY will want the hassle of trying to handle that. Instead, you're free - and they will love to just complain about you on and on and on.....So, go look for a place and figure out a plan with how you can Trick Your Siblings into taking over your mom. Once they get hooked, RUN!!! Sigh..I will hope really hard for you. Book