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Ugh. Jen/Grouse.... FP sounds delightful. NOT. I guess my day seemed pretty shitty (no pun) until I read about yours. I'd much rather be grand master of the crazy parade than deal with FP. I feel for you. How old is FP? I actually looked into how old my aunts were when they died so I'd have an idea of how long I'd have to endure mother-dearest for. She's 86. Her sisters lived to be 90 and 93. O..M...G....
Judy, I am still laughing at: I'd rather have an enema on national TV than shop with them again. No lie. I've had enough.
Yup, it gets to that....
Diane I wish your sibs would just knock it off. Idjits.
Book! take care of yourself kiddo! Been there with the tingly lips after a Halls drop.
Jen! keep grousing, venting, griping, bitching and airing out everything! I am always so happy to hear from you and I know that you are dealing with the UnDealable. ugh. Love you Jen.
Deef!! I have a space heater on but I can't even wrap my brain around snow. Snow on this boat would be more slippery than catsh!! on linoleum. Break my ass.
OK, there's a row of blowboats (sailboats) docked in the water in the next yard. A guy had climbed almost all the way up his mast and 150 yards out a powerboat went by at about 30 kts. The huge wake reached his boat and she began to roll back and forth and that guy had the ride of his life. He made it but we all thought he was going to get dunked for sure.
Austin! thanks as always for the love gf. And don't break your back with the woodstove! Personally I love a woodstove and I always enjoyed putting the wood up and the whole ritual of lighting a fire, etc. Some boats have woodstoves but not this one. Space heaters and wooly socks.
linda! I have the sox you gave me! good ones because they have that tread. Thank you again for those! Let us know how you're doing. Love to you and Helen and Debbie.
Cricket! Tell us about your trip! Christine sent me that great book and I know you guys had a good time. Hope you made it home safe and sound and we all would love to hear from you too!
Cuz!! How's the weather up there? Freezing any appendages off yet?
Stormy, it is so good to hear some good news for a change. I am glad u r feeling much better but please don't over do it. It already sounds like u just done a 3days of work already in one day. ; ) I'll be fine I just got to go to Atlanta at Piedmont Hospital where I had my transplant 10 yrs ago. ; ) They r going to do a biopsy on the tx kidney n send it off to Emory Hospital to see what is causing my creatine increasing for the past two- three or four months. It not sky high but it has been climbing. It should be a half or one day thing n then we should be able to leave. I just know that after the procedure I am have to lay down for 4 hrs. I guess to make sure the bleeding has stopped once they take a sample. As long as I don't get stuck there then I am doing fine n I feel fine anyway. Just some tiredness n that can be anything. Deef, I thought the same thing about those electoral votes. It seems like our votes don't even matter. That was a huge amount $ they used for their campaigns. I could find useful places n people to put that money to good use n that is from both sides of the runners. i hope u get your craft equipment in top shape n squeaky oil ready so that u can use it. Book, I think we all would like to die in r sleep but hey, you cannot go anywhere anytime soon for we our all now just getting to know you n we like you very much. You cannot go anywhere anytime soon. Just take your DayQuil n eat a little at a time to get your strength back up. Before u know it, you will be back on your feet.
I hope everyone can get a restful night sleep. I think, I am actually getting a wee nervous for i snack when I get worried. Just hoping everything runs smoothly during my kidney biopsy. Trying to keep myself altogether. I will take the mnl to her Niece at 10pm tonight so we don't have to worry about her around 4iswh in the morning when we have to get up n be out on the road by 5am. Did I mention nothing to eat nor drink after midnight so that means no coffee-no Caffeine. Ah!!! i will more than likely be doing the driving up their for hubby stays up too late. He has to do the driving on the way back. ; ) Of course, I would rather like to drive but they said no driving. As for those in the blizzard snow-Ohio n New York I hope yall are safe n don;t freeze your butts off. y'all can keep all that cold snow. ; )
Judy: If anyone can lead an interesting parade, it's you. Still get a laugh about Fang at the dentist, telling family secrets out loud in the waiting room.
I sometimes wonder about Karma. Were we all ax murderers in a previous life? Judy, maybe that's why Lizzie Borden sticks in your mind.
Jen, gag me with a forklift. I can't imagine. What the heck does he eat to produce such fumes? Maybe you could just put a cork up his ass and hasten the decay from within.
Bobbie, the boat sounds amazing. Sending love to you and the boat angel.
Deef: Hang in there. The cold is coming.
Diane: Whatever you can do for your mental and physical health is the thing to do. You are more important than anything else. You know, I am now thinking more of the future and the possible need to move away from this place I love. Ten acres, 2 houses is a lot to take care of as the years move on. I'm not as pressured as you are at this time, but I'm just saying that simplifying your life is freedom in many ways, even if it has it's sad side.
Book, Diane's mom could qualify for medicaid, but then Diane would lose the home. Hope you feel better.
Boarding the dogs tomorrow in the am. Driving to Seattle in the afternoon and staying the night. Catching the flight Friday am to Ca to be with family and will get back Wednesday. Please don't take this the wrong way, but it saddens me to pay for flights, board the dogs ($350.00), leave my peaceful life, etc, etc all for a sad and tragic event. Would have loved to do all of this for a happy time away.
Can't control what life brings our way. Just have to be grateful for those we love and the opportunity to be by their sides.
Hasten the decay from within...God I like the sound of that! pahahaahehehhee
probably lead to some sort of massive explosion that'd wipe out three city blocks.
He is 91, and going string Judy....He has outlived every friend relative and what not of his age.... AND neither of his parents nor his grandparents lived past 60!!!!
My usual gag line is he has a book in his room three steps a day to live to be 120. (This is a real book)
If they are 1. Never wash your hands. (Or anything else for that matter)
2. Moan and bitch and complain about everything.
3. Play the same four records over and over again.....
Well, ya'll have got me cracked up here with ya'll talking about- crazy parades, doing a enema on tv, and fartpants. Hehe........ Jen- girl it sounds like he is trying to pickle/preserve his stinky ass so he can live longer, it might be good for him but hell for the ones that have got to stick around and endure the fumes. Yucky!!! And i know dads parents they died in their early 60's and dad will turn 80 in march. Make you wonder how long are they going to be here. Bobbie- The boat sounds wonderful, when can we go for a ride, we need a one way ticket outta caregiving hell. Can you fit all of us on there? The boat really does sound nice it's been a long time since i been on one. Last time was a cruise about 25 years ago. Deef-I wish we could get some snow. Oh my Connor bug would love that!!! So would Stormy. We rarely get snow here maybe once in the winter time and it's usually only a couple of inches. Send some this way!!!!!! Book- Sorry you are having a relapse, maybe you can get some rest and sleep monday. Call somebody in and take a tylenol pm and go to bed. Or can you take tylenol pm? I know i am already starting to stress about connor being out of school for the holidays (thanksgiving) that means that i am going to have to carry him with me to dads and my stress level always go up when i have to deal with dad and connor together. I don't know what it is but it's like connor tries to push my buttons while we are over there. I just hate having to carry him over there. It just brings back memories of me having him over there for those 12 hour days when he was 3 yrs old. Well got to get off of this subject it's depressing me!!!!!!!!!! I hope you feel better tomorrow book! hugs Diane- Good luck with finding a new place, sounds like a good plan. Let the sibs see what you have been going through. Me and my sis look after dad and our brother hardly ever comes by. He and dad never got along much. I've never really gotten along with dad. I just do what i got to do when i am over there and then i am gone. So i know about the sib not helping out. And it sucks!!! Judy- I can just see you walking around trying to find your mom and dad in the store. Lord, how do you do it? I would need a drink when i got home. And a smoke. Come to think of it, i think i would take the 4 kids over the 2 wandering parents also. At least i could pile all of them in the buggy and dare them to move, can't really do that with the parents, and if you did, boy i bet you would be getting some weird looks!!!!! Hehe..... Cat- i am sorry that your chance to get away is going to be a depressing one. That really sucks. And a costly one on top of that too!!! But i will still be thinking of you and the family. I can't even imagine what the parents are going through. So sad :-( hugs Lil deb- I will keep you in my prayers that everything goes alright with the biopsy. I am sorry you are having to go through this. And i know i hate it when i can't have my coffee in the mornings, my day goes to hell when i can't have it when i get up. So i know how you feel. But just keep thinking positive thoughts and know that we all are here thinking about you and praying for you!!! Many hugs to you. Good Luck. Well, i know i forgot some just know i am thinking of you all and i hope you all know i appreciate the support all of you have given me over the last couple of weeks. I am glad that i am feeling better too!!!! So ya'll have a good nite and a good thursday! love and hugs stormy
Austin, that wood stove sounds like a lot of work, but I bet it's cozy! Still snowing and blowing here and the ground is covered now, but not much accumulation. A quick scrape with the shovel tomorrow morning should clean it up fast. Book, I sure hope you get to rest on your day off! Seems like even when we have the time, we don't catch up on sleep. Judy, Mom used to have anxiety attacks in the grocery store and start to hyperventilate, drool and get nauseous! I would have to leave the cart and take her home. The last time we took her to a public place was about 2 years ago after a neurologist visit. We went to Taco Bell for lunch and part way through, we caught her just as she was pulling her shirt off over her head!!! Merry and I picked up and hustled her out of there pronto!! We never laughed so hard when we saw the expressions on the other patrons faces as we left. 91, Wow! Not for me. I would rather have the snow than the extreme heat. Had enough of that this summer! Diane, Sorry your mom fell again. Those skin tears can be nasty. Hope they glued them for you. I used to have the doctor glue and stitch mom, because she would pick at the bandages until they came off, then she would pick at the tear! If you still want to keep her at home, maybe you should go the wheelchair route like I did. Very few incidents with Mom after that. She got used to being strapped in after a while and it's so much easier for all of us to deal with her. Just a suggestion if your plan doesn't work out. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you! Lildeb, hope your biopsy goes well. Sounds like an ouchy coming your way! At least you can rest the night before you have to get up so early. Good luck!! Jen, maybe you should donate Fartpants to the government for "fossil fuel" testing. Something that old and deadly could be a real ASSet. As for the same 4 records over and over, why don't you nuke them for 10 minutes. I'm sure they would sound much better! As for him leering at you, tell mom you refuse to sit at the same table as he does at meal time. I don't blame you for getting away from that FDOM!!! Okay, time to feed 4 hungry cats, then bed! Night everyone!!!
Jen, my boys have played football in the AZ heat. The coach used to say that they all smelled like they had swamp ass or mud butt and demanded that they showered after practice. Mud butt reminded me of FP. I used to laugh at the coach saying crap (no pun) like that. Now, it'll remind me of FP. And Hawaiian music. Ooooh, nooooo! I sometimes wish that people had expiration dates, so we'd know when we/them are headed for the great dirt nap.
Two great white sharks swimming in the ocean spied survivors of a sunken ship. "Follow me son" the father shark said to the son shark and they swam to the mass of people.
"First we swim around them a few times with just the tip of our fins showing." And they did.
"Well done, son! Now we swim around them a few times with all of our fins showing." And they did.
"Now we eat everybody." And they did.
When they were both gorged, the son asked, "Dad, why didn't we just eat them all at first? Why did we swim around and around them?"
His wise father replied, "Because they taste far better without the shit inside!"
No need to thank me, I just try to learn something new every day.
Hey bobbie. Last time I checked I think I had them all. We still sleep with the bedroom window open a bit. Temps have been around 27 in the morning and in the 50's. Their talkin maybe 60's for the weekend then the cold front moves in for good I think and they are even talkin the white stuff for next week. evryone doin ok up here. Joyce's mom (94) has a case of upper bronkeial cough but is doin ok. Aunt Hank still goes out to rake leaves everyday but is slowing down big time. Keep warm cause I'd hate to have to come down and warm ya up. Hugs to ya. LoveCuz
Cat – I guess Diane doesn’t qualify if staying at the home for so many years, Medicaid will not take it? I read that here somewhere. I could have misunderstood. These things are just so complicated – spending down, gifts, 5 years, payback gifts, etc…
Stormy – that was funny about the impossibility of piling the parents and telling them to not move or else you would get weird looks. I was thinking more along the lines that your parents will embarrass you and say, “Who are you, Young Lady, to tell your parents what to do! We raised you better than that! Disrespectful to your own parents!” And then, they will proceed to do what THEY want to do. And for sure, people will be giving you the Rotten look (or call APS for elderly abuse).
Lildeb – HUGS!!! to you for what you’re going through. I hope it’s not so bad at all!
Austin – I was laughing as I read your mom’s undressing at Taco Bell. At least you both found it funny at the time it happened. I would be torn between being embarrassed or laughing about it.
I just called the clinic to follow-up on the head catscan. The insurance came back NOT approving the heat catscan. Instead they recommended that I get a head MRI – which is what they approved. Can imagine an INSURANCE making that decision from spending MORE on a procedure? From catscan to MRI. The first time I had major headaches for 2 weeks in a row (woke up,all day, went to sleep with headaches), the catscan came back negative. Next major headaches, my doc tried for neck MRI to see if I have a dislocated disk. Insurance denied saying that they do not cover MRI. This same insurance, now confirming an MRI when the original request was a catscan. Go figure…All well, go with the flow...Will update you all as it occurs.
DEEF: Donating FP to the government for "fossil fuel testing." I'm LMAO. Talk about FRACKING. Poor Jen has to deal with it every day. JEN, does the water in your faucet come out on fire?
Now Stormy mentioned FP sounded like he was trying to pickle and preserver his fumy ass. OK, let's go with the flow. (no pun intended) Give him an enema with extra crushed cloves. After all the holidays are coming. Better yet, just put crushed cloves in his pants. Maybe it will make the smell and spread some cheer.
Bobbie I was going to ask about the boat angel-I missed so much being away two times.Diane I think that house is a good idea tell the sibs in two weeks someone else will have to step up-if you mention NH it might wake them up to the fact that all their money if they have any will go to the government for medicaide and they may be willing to finally help.
Dodged another bullet here! Got about an inch of the white stuff and it already melted off the front steps and sidewalk. Town ordinance requires that sidewalks in front of residential property has to be cleared within 48 hours. As I have tenants, I have to get out right away and clear things up. Have a 60' driveway on one side of the house and a short one on the other side. Both are against the house, with fences on the other side on the property lines. It is very challenging to keep the driveways clear. All the snow has to go either to the front of the house or into the yard. We have to park our cars in the driveways all winter due to narrow streets and a town wide parking ban. So, lots of shoveling and car moving, there are 5 cars between us all, all winter long. We have a snow blower, but have to get the cars out of the way to get it to the front of the house, so we are slaves to our shovels all winter. Can't wait to drag Mom and wheelchair to and from the car for daycare all winter! Help just called. Kids have a 2 hour delay, so she will be late. Guess I'm on my own getting Mom up and running today. Later!
Deef I am so sorry you have all that work to do woth the snow along with everything else you have to do I am very lucky until 2 yrs ago I did my own drive with my baby snow blower but started falling down too much so my son does mine or my nice neighbor and just do not go out after 25 yrs having to get to work no excuces it is nice not to have to deal with the weather woes now.
I was very pleased that after I wrote a note about not getting AC notifications in my inbox they got back to me right away and fixed the problem-thank you AC.
Just a quick hello. Thank you for your encouragement and suggestions. Mom does not qualify for Medicaid because between her SS, a pension and her LTC insurance she earns too much money to qualify. The house we live in was placed in a trust about 6 or 7 years ago so that doesn't effect medicaid. I am mom's POA but unless the court can declare mom as incompetent I cannot force her to sell the house or go into a NH. I don't know if this is the same around the country, but it applies in SC. Medicaid is a federal agency but each state administers their program making each state different from the other. Mom is looking a little brighter this morning but we have a replacement caregiver today. Just having a new person with mom sets her extra nutso. I can't complain because unlike the folks in NJ, NY and CT, I have electricity, a roof over my head and food on the table. I'll count my many blessings.
I have to get running for the day. For those under the weather, take care of yourself and feel better. Those up north with snow I hope it doesn't cause too many issues for your day. Have as good a day as possible.
good morning all . austin - im about ready to fire up the woodstove . didnt have them fired up yet cuz my sister complains she cant breath in those heats , waaaaaa now shes gone to her boyfriends for the weekend i guess i shall get it fired up .
bobbie - am glad u like the sox s , i love em , they keep my feet warm ahhh . wish i could be on the boat with ya and paint . after leavin my hubby a few time , it just kills him he cant stand it with me begin gone too long lol . called my sis in texas , shes so sick . man i wish i could go there and hang out with her , maybe get her allbetter ? first need to gather up about 10 ricks of wood and i bet i can go down there ? shall wait n see .
i am still not working other than clean my house lol . i dont want to deal with people at work . been there and done that and it just sucks . people can be so mean ..
jen - hang in there sis . maybe he ll catch one hevvla bad colds after begin out n about in his shitty pants . man oh man . whats wrong with monty ? howlin crying ? ? big hugs to u jenny looo .
you all try to have a happy day , fog is loomin over here , 2 hours delay for kids , daughter called said shes not going to work today , her son is sick with sore throat . oh boy his sister was just over it last week . school starts and now every child is loaded with germs , blahhhhhhh . i dont think i could ever be thier teacher . woo . love you all . xoxo
Linda good to hear from you-we survived the two storms -ready for spring-I used the wood stove this morning it was nice-tomarrow hope to get back to my normal life after the wedding and the funeral it has been about 6 weeks since I have spent any time at our senior center..
Chilly here this morning on the boat. Have sanded out the window frames and have decided to seal them with clear resin epoxy and then varnish to protect from the sun. Just couldn't bring myself to paint over them. Classic boat gets classic trim.
Hope everyone is doing as well as they can with the circumstances they are dealing with.
Jen!! Deef!! Austin!!
Wonder why Cricket doesn't check in? We've been asking for her for weeks! Hope you're ok Cricket.
Hey Bobbie, I wouldn't paint that beautiful wood either! You must be exhausted from all that work. The sanding alone will kill you. Hope you continue to make progress and keep warm in the process. Read something on FB last night that made me sad. A lady who was a neighbor forever, is going to be put in NH by her kids. She is in her early 90's and lost her husband to dementia a couple years ago. Not long after he passed, her kids got her into senior housing here in town. She was always a whiner and complainer about her health and life in general, but would drop everything to help her family. She had a heart attack last year and nearly died because her family thought she was just trying to get attention again. She was in the hospital for a couple weeks and then rehab. I visited her there once and listened to her usual complaints and found out that one of her daughters had not spoken to either of her parents for over 12 years, due to something insulting that her mom said to her. She did slip into her dad's room at the NH just before he passed, but still did not see her mom. Poor lady cries all the time because she can't remember what she said so long ago. This ladies 5 children would not be where they are if it weren't for their parents giving them $$ whenever they needed it. They even sold their house to the youngest son years ago, and gave the $$ to the others. Now she is at a point where she can't live alone and no one will take her in. I just think it's so sad that they are going to place her right before the holidays. It's a sure bet that no one will take her home for Thanksgiving or X-mas. Both of her older daughters are at home and have never worked, but will not help her. The youngest son and daughter have been checking on her and cleaning her place since she has been there and the oldest son's wife does her laundry, but has her elderly parents to keep an eye on too. When I spoke to her at the NH last year, she was so sad that she was only able to keep a few of her possessions in her little apartment. Her children either threw out or gave away everything else. Pretty sad! My sil keeps wanting to go through my fil's things and do work in his house so she doesn't have to deal with it all at once when he is gone. We told her to leave everything alone until he's gone. No need for him to feel like he is being hurried along! He should be comfortable and surrounded by all the things he is familiar with. Sorry for the long babble, just sad for someone who is feeling abandoned by their family.
Just a quick checkin. Still out of work, but doing volunteer work at my son's high school. I have trouble believing that he has gotten so old and so tall! Hugs to all of you who were so supportive in 2011 when my mom passed away suddenly. Hanging in there with the in-laws. They still think that moving within 60 miles but not calling means that they are close to my husband...ah, well. Helen
Hi everyone. Another weekend rolling in! CNY expected nothing and got nothing from that storm. Is cold tho! But will be 60 on Sunday! Gonna put the Christmas lights on the house so I won't have to do it in a couple weeks and freeze my fingers off. Last football game of the season for my son tomorrow. Hope it is a good game! Now the family will vanish and I will have to beg (or pay)for time away on a Saturday! :( Just going throught these emotional ups and downs lately and haven't had the energy to write... Just tired I guess. And mom has been sick. She is doing pretty good for her-and is getting better. It is just tiresome and stressful. I need a nap. Been good reading your posts. I was picturing a TV show about Caregivers reading about the chase scene in the store....made me laugh out loud! The Fartpants scene would only be good if we had smellivision so ppl could really understand! HaHa Anyway-have a good one all! Mame
Hi Y'all, Mom is doing better since her fall on Tuesday. As usual the trip to the ER has gotten me sick. I want to say it's just my asthma and it will go away, but it has been getting worse all day. Yesterday was the one year anniversary of James heart attack. We wanted to take tomorrow to celebrate his "second birthday" but that went out the window when I had to stay home with mom this week and now I'm sick.I have so much to be grateful for yet I'm feeling rather blue. I just wanted to wish you all a great weekend and please remember to take care of yourselves.
Just thought I would pass along some family news. A cousin of bobbie and me had a heart attack this week. I think he is 62. Because of the heart attack and possible stroke he is blind in one eye and his one side is messed up. He had nine kids but only a couple still live at home. He drove truck for close to 40 years now. When I find out more I will let ya know. luvCuz
'What majestic trees!' 'What powerful rivers!' 'What beautiful animals!' He said to himself.
As he was walking alongside the river, he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him.
He turned to look. He saw a 7-foot grizzly bear charge towards him.
He ran as fast as he could up the path. He looked over his shoulder & saw that the bear was closing in on him.
He looked over his shoulder again, & the bear was even closer.
He tripped & fell on the ground.
He rolled over to pick himself up but saw that the bear was right on top of him, reaching for him with his left paw & raising his right paw to strike him.
At that instant moment, the Atheist cried out: 'Oh my God!'
Time stopped. The bear froze. The forest was silent.
As a bright light shone upon the man, a voice came out of the sky.
'You deny my existence for all these years, teach others I don't exist and even credit creation to cosmic accident.' 'Do you expect me to help you out of this predicament?'
'Am I to count you as a believer?'
The atheist looked directly into the light, and said: 'It would be hypocritical of me to suddenly ask you to treat me as a Christian now, but perhaps you could make the BEAR a Christian?'
'Very well', said the voice.
The light went out. The sounds of the forest resumed. And the bear dropped his right paw, brought both paws together, bowed his head & spoke:
'Lord bless this food, which I am about to receive from Thy bounty through Christ our Lord, Amen.'
Bobbie – maybe cricket is busy with FB? Deef – It’s sad isn’t it how much parents do for their kids, and then when it’s the parent’s turn to need help, the kids either ignore (as it’s Not Their Problem) or dump them at NH (and never visit.) That’s why I keep telling sis and oldest bro to quit babying their adult kids. Can you believe bro-of-next-door wants to build an apartment for his kids? so that when he dies, they own something? I told him that they’re adults (age 28, 26, 24) and should be out of his house, have a job (both sons do NOT have a job but living off the parents) and supporting their own family (2 of his kids have 2 kids each, youngest boy had 1 child, 2 of his 3 kids have their spouse also living at bro’s house.) Big bro just shook his head and looked at me as if I’m heartless. He doesn’t know this but his kids don’t like him. They will not take care of him when he gets ill/old.
Cuz, thanks for the update. 62 years old and a heart attack. Sounds more like a stroke if he’s affected b one side of his body. My mom’s youngest brother (uncle) and my mom’s sister’s son (cousin) both had a heart attack this year. My cousin almost died. As soon as they were able to stabilize him, they medivac him to the mainland. But, Both of them are walking. My dad had a stroke last year, his left side is messed up. He can’t move his left arm at all (could but refused therapy). So, if it’s a stroke, please let your family know that your uncle must have physical therapy within 1 year of the stroke. It will be very painful but sooooo worth it! If he delays therapy after that 1 year mark, his disability might be permanent.
And Cuz, that was one very wicked humor you just posted! I was trying to imagine How the bear would be Christian… ;)
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Diane... Your house idea sounds like a great plan. No kidding. I hope it works for you. The siblings need to help out. Keep us posted.
I'd rather have an enema on national TV than shop with them again. No lie. I've had enough.
Yup, it gets to that....
Diane I wish your sibs would just knock it off. Idjits.
Book! take care of yourself kiddo! Been there with the tingly lips after a Halls drop.
Jen! keep grousing, venting, griping, bitching and airing out everything! I am always so happy to hear from you and I know that you are dealing with the UnDealable.
ugh. Love you Jen.
Deef!! I have a space heater on but I can't even wrap my brain around snow. Snow on this boat would be more slippery than catsh!! on linoleum. Break my ass.
OK, there's a row of blowboats (sailboats) docked in the water in the next yard. A guy had climbed almost all the way up his mast and 150 yards out a powerboat went by at about 30 kts. The huge wake reached his boat and she began to roll back and forth and that guy had the ride of his life. He made it but we all thought he was going to get dunked for sure.
Austin! thanks as always for the love gf. And don't break your back with the woodstove! Personally I love a woodstove and I always enjoyed putting the wood up and the whole ritual of lighting a fire, etc. Some boats have woodstoves but not this one. Space heaters and wooly socks.
linda! I have the sox you gave me! good ones because they have that tread. Thank you again for those! Let us know how you're doing. Love to you and Helen and Debbie.
Cricket! Tell us about your trip! Christine sent me that great book and I know you guys had a good time. Hope you made it home safe and sound and we all would love to hear from you too!
Cuz!! How's the weather up there? Freezing any appendages off yet?
The Boat Angel says hi to everyone.
love you guys.
lovbob
Deef, I thought the same thing about those electoral votes. It seems like our votes don't even matter. That was a huge amount $ they used for their campaigns. I could find useful places n people to put that money to good use n that is from both sides of the runners. i hope u get your craft equipment in top shape n squeaky oil ready so that u can use it.
Book, I think we all would like to die in r sleep but hey, you cannot go anywhere anytime soon for we our all now just getting to know you n we like you very much. You cannot go anywhere anytime soon. Just take your DayQuil n eat a little at a time to get your strength back up. Before u know it, you will be back on your feet.
I hope everyone can get a restful night sleep. I think, I am actually getting a wee nervous for i snack when I get worried. Just hoping everything runs smoothly during my kidney biopsy. Trying to keep myself altogether. I will take the mnl to her Niece at 10pm tonight so we don't have to worry about her around 4iswh in the morning when we have to get up n be out on the road by 5am. Did I mention nothing to eat nor drink after midnight so that means no coffee-no Caffeine. Ah!!! i will more than likely be doing the driving up their for hubby stays up too late. He has to do the driving on the way back. ; ) Of course, I would rather like to drive but they said no driving. As for those in the blizzard snow-Ohio n New York I hope yall are safe n don;t freeze your butts off. y'all can keep all that cold snow.
; )
I sometimes wonder about Karma. Were we all ax murderers in a previous life? Judy, maybe that's why Lizzie Borden sticks in your mind.
Jen, gag me with a forklift. I can't imagine. What the heck does he eat to produce such fumes? Maybe you could just put a cork up his ass and hasten the decay from within.
Bobbie, the boat sounds amazing. Sending love to you and the boat angel.
Deef: Hang in there. The cold is coming.
Diane: Whatever you can do for your mental and physical health is the thing to do. You are more important than anything else. You know, I am now thinking more of the future and the possible need to move away from this place I love. Ten acres, 2 houses is a lot to take care of as the years move on. I'm not as pressured as you are at this time, but I'm just saying that simplifying your life is freedom in many ways, even if it has it's sad side.
Book, Diane's mom could qualify for medicaid, but then Diane would lose the home. Hope you feel better.
Boarding the dogs tomorrow in the am. Driving to Seattle in the afternoon and staying the night. Catching the flight Friday am to Ca to be with family and will get back Wednesday. Please don't take this the wrong way, but it saddens me to pay for flights, board the dogs ($350.00), leave my peaceful life, etc, etc all for a sad and tragic event. Would have loved to do all of this for a happy time away.
Can't control what life brings our way. Just have to be grateful for those we love and the opportunity to be by their sides.
Love and white light, Cat
probably lead to some sort of massive explosion that'd wipe out three city blocks.
He is 91, and going string Judy....He has outlived every friend relative and what not of his age.... AND neither of his parents nor his grandparents lived past 60!!!!
My usual gag line is he has a book in his room three steps a day to live to be 120. (This is a real book)
If they are 1. Never wash your hands. (Or anything else for that matter)
2. Moan and bitch and complain about everything.
3. Play the same four records over and over again.....
He has got it made.
Jen- girl it sounds like he is trying to pickle/preserve his stinky ass so he can live longer, it might be good for him but hell for the ones that have got to stick around and endure the fumes. Yucky!!! And i know dads parents they died in their early 60's and dad will turn 80 in march. Make you wonder how long are they going to be here.
Bobbie- The boat sounds wonderful, when can we go for a ride, we need a one way ticket outta caregiving hell. Can you fit all of us on there? The boat really does sound nice it's been a long time since i been on one. Last time was a cruise about 25 years ago.
Deef-I wish we could get some snow. Oh my Connor bug would love that!!! So would Stormy. We rarely get snow here maybe once in the winter time and it's usually only a couple of inches. Send some this way!!!!!!
Book- Sorry you are having a relapse, maybe you can get some rest and sleep monday. Call somebody in and take a tylenol pm and go to bed. Or can you take tylenol pm? I know i am already starting to stress about connor being out of school for the holidays (thanksgiving) that means that i am going to have to carry him with me to dads and my stress level always go up when i have to deal with dad and connor together. I don't know what it is but it's like connor tries to push my buttons while we are over there. I just hate having to carry him over there. It just brings back memories of me having him over there for those 12 hour days when he was 3 yrs old. Well got to get off of this subject it's depressing me!!!!!!!!!! I hope you feel better tomorrow book! hugs
Diane- Good luck with finding a new place, sounds like a good plan. Let the sibs see what you have been going through. Me and my sis look after dad and our brother hardly ever comes by. He and dad never got along much. I've never really gotten along with dad. I just do what i got to do when i am over there and then i am gone. So i know about the sib not helping out. And it sucks!!!
Judy- I can just see you walking around trying to find your mom and dad in the store. Lord, how do you do it? I would need a drink when i got home. And a smoke. Come to think of it, i think i would take the 4 kids over the 2 wandering parents also. At least i could pile all of them in the buggy and dare them to move, can't really do that with the parents, and if you did, boy i bet you would be getting some weird looks!!!!! Hehe.....
Cat- i am sorry that your chance to get away is going to be a depressing one. That really sucks. And a costly one on top of that too!!! But i will still be thinking of you and the family. I can't even imagine what the parents are going through. So sad :-( hugs
Lil deb- I will keep you in my prayers that everything goes alright with the biopsy. I am sorry you are having to go through this. And i know i hate it when i can't have my coffee in the mornings, my day goes to hell when i can't have it when i get up. So i know how you feel. But just keep thinking positive thoughts and know that we all are here thinking about you and praying for you!!! Many hugs to you. Good Luck. Well, i know i forgot some just know i am thinking of you all and i hope you all know i appreciate the support all of you have given me over the last couple of weeks. I am glad that i am feeling better too!!!! So ya'll have a good nite and a good thursday! love and hugs stormy
Book, I sure hope you get to rest on your day off! Seems like even when we have the time, we don't catch up on sleep.
Judy, Mom used to have anxiety attacks in the grocery store and start to hyperventilate, drool and get nauseous! I would have to leave the cart and take her home. The last time we took her to a public place was about 2 years ago after a neurologist visit. We went to Taco Bell for lunch and part way through, we caught her just as she was pulling her shirt off over her head!!! Merry and I picked up and hustled her out of there pronto!! We never laughed so hard when we saw the expressions on the other patrons faces as we left. 91, Wow! Not for me. I would rather have the snow than the extreme heat. Had enough of that this summer!
Diane, Sorry your mom fell again. Those skin tears can be nasty. Hope they glued them for you. I used to have the doctor glue and stitch mom, because she would pick at the bandages until they came off, then she would pick at the tear! If you still want to keep her at home, maybe you should go the wheelchair route like I did. Very few incidents with Mom after that. She got used to being strapped in after a while and it's so much easier for all of us to deal with her. Just a suggestion if your plan doesn't work out. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you!
Lildeb, hope your biopsy goes well. Sounds like an ouchy coming your way! At least you can rest the night before you have to get up so early. Good luck!!
Jen, maybe you should donate Fartpants to the government for "fossil fuel" testing. Something that old and deadly could be a real ASSet. As for the same 4 records over and over, why don't you nuke them for 10 minutes. I'm sure they would sound much better! As for him leering at you, tell mom you refuse to sit at the same table as he does at meal time. I don't blame you for getting away from that FDOM!!!
Okay, time to feed 4 hungry cats, then bed! Night everyone!!!
I sometimes wish that people had expiration dates, so we'd know when we/them are headed for the great dirt nap.
Two great white sharks swimming in the ocean spied survivors of a sunken ship.
"Follow me son" the father shark said to the son shark and they swam to the mass of people.
"First we swim around them a few times with just the tip of our fins showing."
And they did.
"Well done, son! Now we swim around them a few times with all of our fins showing."
And they did.
"Now we eat everybody." And they did.
When they were both gorged, the son asked, "Dad, why didn't we just eat them all at first?
Why did we swim around and around them?"
His wise father replied, "Because they taste far better without the shit inside!"
No need to thank me, I just try to learn something new every day.
LoveCuz
Stormy – that was funny about the impossibility of piling the parents and telling them to not move or else you would get weird looks. I was thinking more along the lines that your parents will embarrass you and say, “Who are you, Young Lady, to tell your parents what to do! We raised you better than that! Disrespectful to your own parents!” And then, they will proceed to do what THEY want to do. And for sure, people will be giving you the Rotten look (or call APS for elderly abuse).
Lildeb – HUGS!!! to you for what you’re going through. I hope it’s not so bad at all!
Austin – I was laughing as I read your mom’s undressing at Taco Bell. At least you both found it funny at the time it happened. I would be torn between being embarrassed or laughing about it.
I just called the clinic to follow-up on the head catscan. The insurance came back NOT approving the heat catscan. Instead they recommended that I get a head MRI – which is what they approved. Can imagine an INSURANCE making that decision from spending MORE on a procedure? From catscan to MRI. The first time I had major headaches for 2 weeks in a row (woke up,all day, went to sleep with headaches), the catscan came back negative. Next major headaches, my doc tried for neck MRI to see if I have a dislocated disk. Insurance denied saying that they do not cover MRI. This same insurance, now confirming an MRI when the original request was a catscan. Go figure…All well, go with the flow...Will update you all as it occurs.
Now Stormy mentioned FP sounded like he was trying to pickle and preserver his fumy ass. OK, let's go with the flow. (no pun intended) Give him an enema with extra crushed cloves. After all the holidays are coming. Better yet, just put crushed cloves in his pants. Maybe it will make the smell and spread some cheer.
Help just called. Kids have a 2 hour delay, so she will be late. Guess I'm on my own getting Mom up and running today. Later!
Just a quick hello. Thank you for your encouragement and suggestions. Mom does not qualify for Medicaid because between her SS, a pension and her LTC insurance she earns too much money to qualify. The house we live in was placed in a trust about 6 or 7 years ago so that doesn't effect medicaid. I am mom's POA but unless the court can declare mom as incompetent I cannot force her to sell the house or go into a NH. I don't know if this is the same around the country, but it applies in SC. Medicaid is a federal agency but each state administers their program making each state different from the other.
Mom is looking a little brighter this morning but we have a replacement caregiver today. Just having a new person with mom sets her extra nutso. I can't complain because unlike the folks in NJ, NY and CT, I have electricity, a roof over my head and food on the table. I'll count my many blessings.
I have to get running for the day. For those under the weather, take care of yourself and feel better. Those up north with snow I hope it doesn't cause too many issues for your day. Have as good a day as possible.
Love ya,
Diane
austin - im about ready to fire up the woodstove . didnt have them fired up yet cuz my sister complains she cant breath in those heats , waaaaaa now shes gone to her boyfriends for the weekend i guess i shall get it fired up .
bobbie - am glad u like the sox s , i love em , they keep my feet warm ahhh . wish i could be on the boat with ya and paint . after leavin my hubby a few time , it just kills him he cant stand it with me begin gone too long lol .
called my sis in texas , shes so sick . man i wish i could go there and hang out with her , maybe get her allbetter ?
first need to gather up about 10 ricks of wood and i bet i can go down there ? shall wait n see .
i am still not working other than clean my house lol . i dont want to deal with people at work . been there and done that and it just sucks . people can be so mean ..
jen - hang in there sis . maybe he ll catch one hevvla bad colds after begin out n about in his shitty pants . man oh man . whats wrong with monty ? howlin crying ? ?
big hugs to u jenny looo .
you all try to have a happy day , fog is loomin over here , 2 hours delay for kids ,
daughter called said shes not going to work today , her son is sick with sore throat . oh boy his sister was just over it last week . school starts and now every child is loaded with germs , blahhhhhhh . i dont think i could ever be thier teacher .
woo .
love you all . xoxo
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Chilly here this morning on the boat. Have sanded out the window frames and have decided to seal them with clear resin epoxy and then varnish to protect from the sun. Just couldn't bring myself to paint over them. Classic boat gets classic trim.
Hope everyone is doing as well as they can with the circumstances they are dealing with.
Jen!! Deef!! Austin!!
Wonder why Cricket doesn't check in? We've been asking for her for weeks! Hope you're ok Cricket.
Alright, helper on boat so have to go.
lovbob
Read something on FB last night that made me sad. A lady who was a neighbor forever, is going to be put in NH by her kids. She is in her early 90's and lost her husband to dementia a couple years ago. Not long after he passed, her kids got her into senior housing here in town. She was always a whiner and complainer about her health and life in general, but would drop everything to help her family. She had a heart attack last year and nearly died because her family thought she was just trying to get attention again. She was in the hospital for a couple weeks and then rehab. I visited her there once and listened to her usual complaints and found out that one of her daughters had not spoken to either of her parents for over 12 years, due to something insulting that her mom said to her. She did slip into her dad's room at the NH just before he passed, but still did not see her mom. Poor lady cries all the time because she can't remember what she said so long ago.
This ladies 5 children would not be where they are if it weren't for their parents giving them $$ whenever they needed it. They even sold their house to the youngest son years ago, and gave the $$ to the others. Now she is at a point where she can't live alone and no one will take her in. I just think it's so sad that they are going to place her right before the holidays. It's a sure bet that no one will take her home for Thanksgiving or X-mas. Both of her older daughters are at home and have never worked, but will not help her. The youngest son and daughter have been checking on her and cleaning her place since she has been there and the oldest son's wife does her laundry, but has her elderly parents to keep an eye on too.
When I spoke to her at the NH last year, she was so sad that she was only able to keep a few of her possessions in her little apartment. Her children either threw out or gave away everything else. Pretty sad! My sil keeps wanting to go through my fil's things and do work in his house so she doesn't have to deal with it all at once when he is gone. We told her to leave everything alone until he's gone. No need for him to feel like he is being hurried along! He should be comfortable and surrounded by all the things he is familiar with.
Sorry for the long babble, just sad for someone who is feeling abandoned by their family.
Just going throught these emotional ups and downs lately and haven't had the energy to write... Just tired I guess. And mom has been sick. She is doing pretty good for her-and is getting better. It is just tiresome and stressful. I need a nap.
Been good reading your posts. I was picturing a TV show about Caregivers reading about the chase scene in the store....made me laugh out loud! The Fartpants scene would only be good if we had smellivision so ppl could really understand! HaHa
Anyway-have a good one all! Mame
Mom is doing better since her fall on Tuesday. As usual the trip to the ER has gotten me sick. I want to say it's just my asthma and it will go away, but it has been getting worse all day.
Yesterday was the one year anniversary of James heart attack. We wanted to take tomorrow to celebrate his "second birthday" but that went out the window when I had to stay home with mom this week and now I'm sick.I have so much to be grateful for yet I'm feeling rather blue.
I just wanted to wish you all a great weekend and please remember to take care of yourselves.
Love ya,
Diane
When I find out more I will let ya know.
luvCuz
An atheist was walking through the woods.
'What majestic trees!'
'What powerful rivers!'
'What beautiful animals!'
He said to himself.
As he was walking alongside the river, he heard a rustling in the bushes behind him.
He turned to look. He saw a 7-foot grizzly bear charge towards him.
He ran as fast as he could up the path. He looked over his shoulder & saw that the bear was closing in on him.
He looked over his shoulder again, & the bear was even closer.
He tripped & fell on the ground.
He rolled over to pick himself up but saw that the bear was right on top of him, reaching for him with his left paw & raising his right paw to strike him.
At that instant moment, the Atheist cried out:
'Oh my God!'
Time stopped.
The bear froze.
The forest was silent.
As a bright light shone upon the man, a voice came out of the sky.
'You deny my existence for all these years, teach others I don't exist and even credit creation to cosmic accident.'
'Do you expect me to help you out of this predicament?'
'Am I to count you as a believer?'
The atheist looked directly into the light, and said: 'It would be hypocritical of me to suddenly ask you to treat me as a Christian now, but perhaps you could make the BEAR a Christian?'
'Very well', said the voice.
The light went out. The sounds of the forest resumed. And the bear dropped his right paw, brought both paws together, bowed his head & spoke:
'Lord bless this food, which I am about to receive from Thy bounty through Christ our Lord, Amen.'
Deef – It’s sad isn’t it how much parents do for their kids, and then when it’s the parent’s turn to need help, the kids either ignore (as it’s Not Their Problem) or dump them at NH (and never visit.) That’s why I keep telling sis and oldest bro to quit babying their adult kids. Can you believe bro-of-next-door wants to build an apartment for his kids? so that when he dies, they own something? I told him that they’re adults (age 28, 26, 24) and should be out of his house, have a job (both sons do NOT have a job but living off the parents) and supporting their own family (2 of his kids have 2 kids each, youngest boy had 1 child, 2 of his 3 kids have their spouse also living at bro’s house.) Big bro just shook his head and looked at me as if I’m heartless. He doesn’t know this but his kids don’t like him. They will not take care of him when he gets ill/old.
Cuz, thanks for the update. 62 years old and a heart attack. Sounds more like a stroke if he’s affected b one side of his body. My mom’s youngest brother (uncle) and my mom’s sister’s son (cousin) both had a heart attack this year. My cousin almost died. As soon as they were able to stabilize him, they medivac him to the mainland. But, Both of them are walking. My dad had a stroke last year, his left side is messed up. He can’t move his left arm at all (could but refused therapy). So, if it’s a stroke, please let your family know that your uncle must have physical therapy within 1 year of the stroke. It will be very painful but sooooo worth it! If he delays therapy after that 1 year mark, his disability might be permanent.
And Cuz, that was one very wicked humor you just posted! I was trying to imagine How the bear would be Christian… ;)