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Jen, I found the perfect place to send FP. It is out in the middle of the desert, miles from nowhere (about 30 miles to Mexico), and it is called "Breaking Wind Ranch".
What a night!!!!! Mom threw a 2-hour temper tandrum last night. As I was getting her to her feet her legs went from under her. Luckily I was still holding on to her so I was able to gently lower her to the floor. I got the hoyer lift and got her to bed. I was trying to remove the sling from under her and of course the heavy strap scraped her arm and she got another skin tear. All while she is fighting me I got it cleaned up, put antibiotic ointment and a bandage on it. Mom raised holy hell that she needed EMS and to go to the hsopital. Once I knew she was safe in bed I just let her have her tandrum until she fell asleep. I am exhausted this morning since the exursion of getting her off the floor caused me to cough even more, my chest feels raw. I feel like I'll never get over this cold as long as I have to care for mom. I may have to go ahead and see a doc in the box to get over this crap. I know others are sick or waiting on test results. I hope everyone will get better soon. I'm going to try get a nap while the caregiver is hear today. Have as good a day possible.
Jen – when I first read the STRESS post, I had to reread #7. Finally understood. That’s a sad comment. My family will not see it as that way. More like – better you than me!
Diane – I still have the flu. I think I keep getting relapses because I’m NOT RESTING! Like all caregivers, how can we truly rest and give our body a chance to heal if we keep wearing it down every day? I’m coughing a lot. I feel so bad for you. Your mom is going to get worse. Maybe at that time, you will Finally be approved for help? No venting is a Trivial Matter! Your caregiving is somewhat still in the beginning. So, your venting will be based on your mom’s current stage. Just as my mom’s is on the later stages (should be in hospice service) and father is in the Very Beginning stage. Vent, vent and vent. Get all those bad stuff out of you. HUGS!!!
Mame – let me think about your post. The first time I read it…I disagreed. Maybe if I read it enough, I will finally see that point of view. What popped in my head …. is that we are a glutton for punishment….(the half empty glass view.)
Hi all n hope everyone is doing well. My older brother had came from Fl to KY to buy a few babies n on his way back home he decide to stop by here. He was very tired so had him stay over-night along with my rib roast which turns out great from the crock-pot, the meat just fell off the bone. Cook some collard greens, corn-bread n some fresh carrots. Yum,yum. The mnl didn't have to chew too much to eat the roast either. I made pancakes n pork chop ham for breakfast n the brother ate it up plus some. He will be staying another night which I am so happy for I know I wasn't going to be able to make it down their for a visit for awhile. Not sure if he will be leaving tomorrow so we will play by here. I told him that, I was not going to let him leave. He is the one I stay with in Fl when I visit my dad n family. I had left only for about 20 mintues to the store yesterday to pick up odds/ends n had message from Atlanta on my house phone to call them back for my result. So, I try to call n got no-one so, left a message. Of course, they r not going to call today for I stayed home all day. My brother said that if it was bad then they would had gotten a hold of me one way or another. We will continue to look at no news is good news. I hope everyone has a great weekend. ; )
I'm number 2, and 5. Book- thanks for the post, it was cute!! Things to think about huh? I am sorry i am behind on posts, but have you had your MRI yet? If so, have you heard any results? I am sorry you are still sick. I know it sucks. I stayed sick alot last year with chest colds. I would get one every month like clockwork. I have read online that people say if you put vicks vapor rub on your chest upper back and the soles of your feet that it will get rid of the cold or at least help it alot. People swear by this. I just know that if you get to feeling bad enough, you will try about anything. Or i will. Just make sure you wash all that stuff off before you go outside the next day. I hope you feel better soon!!! Diane- I am so sorry that you are still sick too and that you are having a time with your mom. It just makes it that much harder to have to care for them when you feel like hell yourself. I hope your mom will behave for you to get some rest and i hope you feel better soon too.
Well, i have been kinda busy cause i am trying to plan connor's 6th birthday party its going to be the sunday after thanksgiving. And i just got hold of the girl that i was going to get to make his cake and she says that she can't make it that weekend. So it looks like it is up to me and sis. We have made his other cakes in the past and i guess we do alright. I just hope this one turns out. He is wanting a lego ninja birthday cake. So i have been looking at cakes online trying to get a idea about how to decorate it. Well, i will talk with ya'll later. Love and hugs stormy
Lil deb- Let us know when you hear something from the results. Have you called the dr yet to see if they have gotten the results? Sometimes or most of the time you have to call these drs. I hope you are doing alright. You take care!!! Love and hugs stormy
Lildeb....your bro was buying babies? Huh? Did I read that wrong? I'm so confused (doesn't take much). Waiting to hear about your results. Collard greens and corn bread... I wish we lived closer! Stormy, good luck on that cake... a lego ninja cake? Oh, boy. Where do you start on that one? I'm sitting here trying to picture it, so I google image searched "lego ninja cake"... wow! Can you take a picture of your cake and use it as an avatar so we can see how it came out? Meanwhile... I laughed out loud at FP's new place.. Breaking Wind Ranch! I think there's real place named Poopoo in Hawaii too. Seeing that FP likes Hawaiian music, that'd be a good place for him too. Anywhere away from Jen is a good place (Hi, Jen!). Book, I'm number 1 on that list. I'm mostly the statue. Burned - I hope things look up for you. Mame - I like your comment and I'm no where near the level of caregiving most of you do. Diane - I can't even imagine how hard that tantrum was to endure. Sending you some love. I read your comment with my mouth hanging open. Hello's to Austin and Cricket!
Pahaha Meanwhile. Hmmn might give off the impression of nuclear testing i n the desert....could be serious....
Mom picked up DVDs at the library for fart pants and she put in Blue Hawaii for him after dinner.....SO guess what he put on his stereo AFTER the movie ended?....
Heres a pathetic snippet of my life. after being sick three days and having to say home and mom mad she had to run errands alone. We went and did the regular shopping different day. I had my period messy heavy messy painful never mind. had to use bathrooms at Wal mart And Safeway. got blood on my skirt. I asked her if there was blood on my skirt she said yes but only a little I got up said she said it was NO big deal and we finished shopping, me bleeding in pain menstrual blood on my clothes...nothin. Why should it matter. I am no one any any way.
yes Kill me now...
I really just can't take much more here.
Oh and the fuel pump died, so now mom is reeling from a unexpected $750.00 bill eh. She went ahead and bought the Safeway pre made thanksgiving dinner. me, I am glad. one less week of her being frazzled worried flustered trying to make everything perfect....may have a second thought though now I bet. She just told me she invited my sexually abusive ex brother the cop to dinner as his wife is going out of town with kids. so yet another year of at the table with the perverts. God it is like I am living a Greek tragedy. when i was a teenager I spent every holiday for seven years in my room listening to holiday dinners just to get away from them. Now I am NOT afraid of them any more. Just annoyed I have to deal with the a holes. Been sick and tried literally all week. see if it goes away. I don't know. got a mess of books at library today so happy to have them.
bobbie how is your boat angel? tings going good on the East Coast? Gaze at a sun rise for me...Thank you. Jen
Jen you are so much more than your family realizes. More than the 7 on the list. I liked #20. Hope everyone gets to feeling better. Deb, hope you get good news on your lab tests.
Well, atleast you guys are one of those numbers. Most of those – I have to work on…especially # 2 and 4. Even the car I bought cannot be pushed! (#8).
Stormy, had the results come in – Normal except some kind of sinus infection on my upper frontal something. Doc didn’t even treat me for that sinus infection! I bet that sinus is the one that’s giving me headaches! Anyway, I asked for a referral for…Therapy. Sigh…I Will Not Take Pills! I will be doing some calling on Monday and figure out how to ask the boss for 1 ½- 2-hr leave for each therapy. I hope I can afford these visits after the insurance runs out. Even before he told me the results, I asked him if I can get a referral for therapy. He finally agreed that it’s Stress…(which I kept trying to tell him but if you all recall – he said that would be Last Resort.)
Yes, Lildeb, your brother was “buying” babies? Or did your computer do an “auto correct” and typed it wrong? He’s trying to adopt?
Hi Jen…so sad, your life…I guess we all have our own burdens – unique to each of us. Yesterday, I was typing a comment about wanting to sleep forever and ever….decided that it’s not nice and makes me sound suicidal. I’m not but…there’s nothing wrong with wishing for death. I read your comments and feel sad about it. I can’t remember what my relative(s) did to us girls while young. We blocked it in our memory – up to now. We don’t even want to remember it…makes life easier to live if you don’t remember what terrible things were done to you as a child. Just keep venting and venting.
Glad to be back home. I've been catching up on some yard work, cutting back lavender plants while weather permits. I'm a bit late getting things done in the yard so hoping for no rain today. It poured last night for a little while and the wind was blowing. Hoping I can get back outside today.
The memorial service for my nephew was really nice. Lots of people showed up and it was standing room only. Lots of 30 somethings. Dameron had a lot of friends. It was a very emotional day and also exhausting for Rick and Cyn. Everyone went to their home after the service. It was a step by step in getting each requirement of the day over and then, finally, it was done. It was a very long day and evening.
We were able to spend a lot of one on one time with Rick and Cyn in the remaining days we were there. Went to the coast one day and got them out of the house. Spent a lot of time sitting at the kitchen table playing a dominoes game we use to play all the time. Lots of conversation and lots of laughter at times. Also some tears. My sil is having a hard time with the what if's. Our hearts just break for them and we hated leaving them on Wednesday.
Meanwhile, I loved your Breaking Wind Ranch. That just cracked me up. Since it's so close to the Mexican border, maybe border patrol could enlist his services and let him work his magic in some of the underground tunnels used by illegals. They could play a few minutes of Hawaiian music as a warning before detonation.
Speaking of bad gas. My poor sister-in-law has problems with that now since she underwent surgery for colon cancer. If she knows she is going to fart, she will quickly move away from us so we are not exposed. My brother in law teases her about it all the time, as do the grand kids. Nothing to be done about it so good to be able to laugh. Rick was telling us about being in the meat department at the grocery store when Cyn had a gas passing episode. He said they quickly moved to another isle, but could still see the meat department. He said a lady walked into the meat department and her legs buckled as she walked into the invisible cloud. "Dropped her right there in the meat department." Of course he is exaggerating, but we all had a good laugh.
Lildeb: I hope you get your test results soon and that they are good. Please let us know as soon as you get them. I'm praying good news for you.
Diane: Can't imagine a two hour tantrum. You must be exhausted. Please hang in there and try to take good care of yourself. Sending you lots of love and white light.
Cricket: Thanks for sharing about your trip and your new school venture. Wow, lots of hours to study, but you will do well because your heart is in it and you have the most amazing positive attitude. I am really excited for you.
Bobbie: Drop us a note. Hope the boat angel is doing well.
Jen: My heart goes out to you. Someday he will be gone and we can only hope that it will be a big event that takes him in a matter of seconds. No lingering, just a sudden and quick departure.
Stormy: Conner is going to be six years old. Wow. I'm sure his party will be a big success. How are you feeling now? Hoping you are full of energy and life is easier to handle.
Judy, my friend, so sorry to hear about the bearded dragon. A friend of mine had one for a number of years and was meticulous in it's care, but the same thing happened to her. It's always sad to lose a pet. Hope you are feeling better.
Book: Thanks for the hug. I'm glad to know your tests came back with no serious issues. Maybe you could try a nettie pot for your sinus infection. Just be sure to use distilled water in it, not tap water. Lots of people find it helps a lot with sinus issues. Proud of you on the therapy route. I know it's a big step for you.
Liinda: Always good to hear from you. I hope things are going better for you and that each day includes some happiness for you.
Well I finally went to the Minute Clinic and spent 3 hours to be diagnosed with bronchitis, a sinus infection and ear infection. I just picked up my antibiotic and cough medicine. I sure hope this works to get me better.
Cat- I have a friend who had major heart surgery. The medication she has to take for her heart has a side effect – lots of gas. She has to drink a lot of water to help keep her blood thin. But, she lets out gas (at both ends) constantly. She told me that she takes ginger pills all the time – in order to keep the gas odorless. It works cuz one time she had to let loose when we were in the elevator. Didn’t smell it at all.
Diane – wow – 3 infections at one time. Hope that antibiotic works. My current doc had prescribed penicillin. Didn’t work. Went to the gyne for something else and my gyne was surprised that I had penicillin. He prescribed antibiotic that I take for 3 days. Worked! Hope you get better, too!!
I hope my fellow sickies are recuperating. I spent the night coughing as usual. I woke up to mom acting crazy as ever. I really am not up to caring for her right now. Even the doc at Minute Clinic said I need to get a break from caregiving. On the bright side my brother did do something nice. He bought me a turkey and cranberry sauce to fix for Thanksgiving and a pumpkin pie. He does try. I'm really ready for the holidays just to come and go. I feel so empty and alone at this time of year. I know I need to make my own traditions, but it just reminds me of how much I've lost. I will try make it a nice Thanksgiving for mom even though she won't remember or care. Shit I'm crying now. Next I'll be coughing until I throw up. Try have a good day everyone. Love ya
DT, I'm sorry you're feeling sick and down about the holidays. This will be my first one with no family. It won't be the same but I look at it as just another day. I'll take a nap and the day will go faster. Then I look forward to the tomorrow. I don't like the holidays either. Even if your mom doesn't care or remember, there maybe still apart of her that at least appreciates the attempt you are making.
THAT one bugs me forever D. Everyone I know that knows fart pants thinks he is JUST the sweetest lil old man! I want to strangle them. Thank you for the support guys, just crapolla deal here for me, it has to end eventually. one way or t'other.
I am glad the funeral was nice, He had a lot of friends any how and they will miss him.
Jen, it's been crapola here too. At least I don't have the nasty history you have with FP, but the person my mother has become is a complete pain in the ass! Tonights fixation was that there was a plane crash and I wasn't helping the children on board. WTF! Then I put a cough drop in my mouth. Mistake! She then went off because she thought the menthol smell was chemicals from the plane crash and they were going to harm her. She starts to yell and scream at me and i just feel like I've been sucked into the insanity. Hopefully she is going to sleep tonight. I've got a headache from coughing so freakin much so I'm going to try get to bed early. I've only taken 3 antibiotics so far but no improvement. Jen, you might try some ginger snap cookies and see if that would FP's pollution control. I have a really easy recipe. Let me see if this thing will let me cut and paste it here for you.
Grandma's Gingersnaps
1 cup shortening 1/4 cup butter or margarine 1/3 cup molasses 1 2/3 cups sugar 2 eggs 4 cups all-purpose flour 3 teaspoons baking soda 2 teaspoons ground cinnamon 1 teaspoon salt 1 teaspoon ground cloves 1 teaspoon ground ginger Additional sugar
1. Heat oven at 350 degrees. Melt shortening and butter in 1-quart saucepan over low heat. Cool 15 minutes. 2. Mix shortening mixture, molasses, 1 2/3 cups sugar and the eggs in a large bowl until well blended. Stir in remaining ingredients except additional sugar. 3. Shape dough into 1-inch balls. Roll in sugar. Place about 2 inches apart on ungreased cookie sheet. 4. Bake 10 to 12 minutes or until set. Cool 1 to 2 minutes; remove from cookie sheet to wire rack.
VARIATION: For giant gingersnaps, shape dough by rounded measuring tablespoonfuls or using #24 ice-cream scoop into balls. Bake 12 to 15 minutes.
SPECIAL TOUCH: Melt 3 packages (6ounces each) white baking bar, broken up and 1 tablespoon shortening. Dip half of each cookie into melted mixture; sprinkle with chopped crystalized ginger. Place on waxed paper until coating is set.
Wow!!! Lose track for a few days and find everyone is falling apart!! So sorry to hear everyone is so sick. Diane, I sure hate a cols combined with asthma. Coughing and throwing up seem to go hand in hand, oh yeah, peeing my pants every time I cough too! Thought I was getting a cold myself, earlier in the week, so I started taking zinc pills and felt better. Hoping to stay this way too. Mom had a bad day at daycare on Friday. She was leaning severely to the right all day and when she got home. I think her UTI from last month never went completely away. The last 3 nights she has been waking up due to holding her breath and waking me up when she has a "mouth" fart. I swear she will tear the skin on her cheeks some day from puffing them up so much when she doesn't open her mouth to breath. This is another sign of a UTI. The paid caregivers all came last week with colds and I thought sure Mom would catch one from them, but so far that hasn't happened. Now I have to call the doctor tomorrow and see if they will call in another script for UTI without seeing her or needing a specimen. I don't want to have to deal with that through the holiday, as the office will be closed on Wednesday afternoon until next Monday! I have been up to my elbows in paint every second I get. I now have 4 dozen ornaments done and will start stenciling holiday signs tomorrow. I have plenty of things knitted and have to make a couple stands to display my felted purses and shawls. Oh yeah, and cook for Thanksgiving too! Diane, did you ever get meds for your mom's UTU? It definitely sounds like she has one for sure! If she gets much worse, get her to the ER so they can get a urine with a catheter. If it is a raging UTI, and it is not treated, it could kill her, so please try to get her doctor to make sure. Every time my Mom gets that crazy, they tell me her urine is contaminated so they couldn't get a result. That's when I get her to the ER and it's always a UTI. Hope you can get yourself some much needed rest and can get your mom straightened out. Book, sinus is tough to deal with. Have you ever tried saline nasal spray? I use it all the time when I have a cold or stuffy nose. You can use it as much as you need and it does provide immediate relief for me. Glad you are going to therapy. Stormy, that cake sounds like a tough one to do. Have you ever worked with fondant? You could roll it out and push it onto a real Lego to form the shape, then place them on the cake. My daughter is a baker and decorates kid's cakes all the time. I will ask her if she has ever done a Lego cake. Lildeb, glad to hear your biopsy was fine. Judy, no black ice here yet, but damn cols at night! Linda!!! Ready for turkey day? Meanwhile and Mame, good to see you both posting. Jen, what can I say? Hate the thought that you have to sit at the same table with your brother! Wish you could be here with us. No perverts allowed! Had a great sunset 2 nights ago and got lots of pictures. When I get them downloaded on my computer, I'll send you some. Bobbie!!!! Where are you? Hope you aren't overworking yourself on that boat! Okay, time to pack it in. Been painting all evening and suspect Mom will keep me up tonight.
A man calls home to his wife and says, "Honey, I've been invited to fly to Canada with my boss and several of his friends to go fishing, for the long weekend. This is a good opportunity for me to get that promotion I've been wanting, so could you please pack enough clothes for a three-day weekend. And also, would you get out my rod and tackle box from the attic? We're leaving at 4:30 pm from the office and I'll swing by the house to pick-up my things. Oh! And please pack my new navy blue silk pajamas."
The wife thinks this sounds a bit odd, but, being the good wife, she does exactly what her husband asked.
Following the long weekend he returns home a little tired, but, otherwise, looking good. The wife welcomes him home and asks if he caught many fish?
He says, "Yes! Lots of walleyes, some bass, and a few pike." "But", he said, "why didn't you pack my new blue silk pajamas, like I asked you to do?"
You'll love the answer.
The wife replies,"I did, they're in your tackle box". Never, Never, Never Ever TRY to Outsmart a WOMAN !!!
Hey Ladies and gents, have we got any gents on here? Judy- I will post pics of the cake and the party, i hope you are doing well these days. Deef- thanks for the fondant idea, me and sis have been putting our heads together about this cake and i am sure you have heard about this. A cake image topper. Well, we have ordered one for connor's cake, i just hope that it comes in, in time for his party. We just found it on the net this weekend. They look really cool and neat looking and connor liked the picture that he picked out on the computer. I am planning on just buying a cake from the grocery store cause me and sis cakes always come out a little uneven on the top. You can still send me the info on the fondant just in case this image cake topper doesn't get here in time but i sure hope it does. I will be stressing like a wild woman!!!! Thanks Book- I know about those sinus infections they are from hell!!!! I had one, one time and i cried for days until i got the meds in my system. It felt like someone was taking a hammer to my head. You need to get some meds for that. I hope you feel better soon. Cuz- that was a good one!!! Cat- I hope you are doing ok, i know that you have had a rough patch of it for the last little while. Take care. Diane- I am sorry but when you said that part about your mom thinking your cough drop was fuel from the plane i just busted out laughing. I know its not funny, but that must have been one strong cough drop. I do hope that you feel better soon. Oh and i know what you mean about the elders acting fine with company, my dad does the same thing too. Especially around the doctors. I told my brother one time that we should just not clean dad up,meaning (shaving, combing the hair, cleaning the neck, new clothes) cause he goes in to see the drs and he looks like he just stepped out of the bandbox, no wonder they always say he is doing fine........... He don't look sick and he sure doesn't act like it around the drs. ugh............
Well i know i am going to be foolish by the time sunday night gets here, i already told sis i might have to pull a drunk. Between having this birthday party and thanksgiving and having to cook for my house and dads. Lord, be with me........... My stress level is going to be out the roof!!!! Well, i need to get to bed 5:30 comes early in the morning. Ya'll have a good monday if there is such a thing. Love and hugs stormy.
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to still be standing
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to celebrate
Thanks for the nice comments Deef, Lildeb, Bobbie and Bookworm. I'm to busy to say much right now but wanted to stop in to at least say hello. xoxo
Diane – I still have the flu. I think I keep getting relapses because I’m NOT RESTING! Like all caregivers, how can we truly rest and give our body a chance to heal if we keep wearing it down every day? I’m coughing a lot. I feel so bad for you. Your mom is going to get worse. Maybe at that time, you will Finally be approved for help? No venting is a Trivial Matter! Your caregiving is somewhat still in the beginning. So, your venting will be based on your mom’s current stage. Just as my mom’s is on the later stages (should be in hospice service) and father is in the Very Beginning stage. Vent, vent and vent. Get all those bad stuff out of you. HUGS!!!
Mame – let me think about your post. The first time I read it…I disagreed. Maybe if I read it enough, I will finally see that point of view. What popped in my head …. is that we are a glutton for punishment….(the half empty glass view.)
xoxo
Book- thanks for the post, it was cute!! Things to think about huh? I am sorry i am behind on posts, but have you had your MRI yet? If so, have you heard any results? I am sorry you are still sick. I know it sucks. I stayed sick alot last year with chest colds. I would get one every month like clockwork. I have read online that people say if you put vicks vapor rub on your chest upper back and the soles of your feet that it will get rid of the cold or at least help it alot. People swear by this. I just know that if you get to feeling bad enough, you will try about anything. Or i will. Just make sure you wash all that stuff off before you go outside the next day. I hope you feel better soon!!!
Diane- I am so sorry that you are still sick too and that you are having a time with your mom. It just makes it that much harder to have to care for them when you feel like hell yourself. I hope your mom will behave for you to get some rest and i hope you feel better soon too.
Well, i have been kinda busy cause i am trying to plan connor's 6th birthday party its going to be the sunday after thanksgiving. And i just got hold of the girl that i was going to get to make his cake and she says that she can't make it that weekend. So it looks like it is up to me and sis. We have made his other cakes in the past and i guess we do alright. I just hope this one turns out. He is wanting a lego ninja birthday cake. So i have been looking at cakes online trying to get a idea about how to decorate it. Well, i will talk with ya'll later. Love and hugs stormy
Stormy, good luck on that cake... a lego ninja cake? Oh, boy. Where do you start on that one? I'm sitting here trying to picture it, so I google image searched "lego ninja cake"... wow! Can you take a picture of your cake and use it as an avatar so we can see how it came out?
Meanwhile... I laughed out loud at FP's new place.. Breaking Wind Ranch! I think there's real place named Poopoo in Hawaii too. Seeing that FP likes Hawaiian music, that'd be a good place for him too. Anywhere away from Jen is a good place (Hi, Jen!).
Book, I'm number 1 on that list. I'm mostly the statue.
Burned - I hope things look up for you.
Mame - I like your comment and I'm no where near the level of caregiving most of you do.
Diane - I can't even imagine how hard that tantrum was to endure. Sending you some love. I read your comment with my mouth hanging open.
Hello's to Austin and Cricket!
Mom picked up DVDs at the library for fart pants and she put in Blue Hawaii for him after dinner.....SO guess what he put on his stereo AFTER the movie ended?....
Heres a pathetic snippet of my life. after being sick three days and having to say home and mom mad she had to run errands alone. We went and did the regular shopping different day. I had my period messy heavy messy painful never mind. had to use bathrooms at Wal mart And Safeway. got blood on my skirt. I asked her if there was blood on my skirt she said yes but only a little I got up said she said it was NO big deal and we finished shopping, me bleeding in pain menstrual blood on my clothes...nothin. Why should it matter. I am no one any any way.
yes Kill me now...
I really just can't take much more here.
Oh and the fuel pump died, so now mom is reeling from a unexpected $750.00 bill eh. She went ahead and bought the Safeway pre made thanksgiving dinner. me, I am glad. one less week of her being frazzled worried flustered trying to make everything perfect....may have a second thought though now I bet. She just told me she invited my sexually abusive ex brother the cop to dinner as his wife is going out of town with kids. so yet another year of at the table with the perverts. God it is like I am living a Greek tragedy. when i was a teenager I spent every holiday for seven years in my room listening to holiday dinners just to get away from them. Now I am NOT afraid of them any more. Just annoyed I have to deal with the a holes. Been sick and tried literally all week. see if it goes away. I don't know. got a mess of books at library today so happy to have them.
bobbie how is your boat angel? tings going good on the East Coast? Gaze at a sun rise for me...Thank you. Jen
hi to everyone.
Stormy, had the results come in – Normal except some kind of sinus infection on my upper frontal something. Doc didn’t even treat me for that sinus infection! I bet that sinus is the one that’s giving me headaches! Anyway, I asked for a referral for…Therapy. Sigh…I Will Not Take Pills! I will be doing some calling on Monday and figure out how to ask the boss for 1 ½- 2-hr leave for each therapy. I hope I can afford these visits after the insurance runs out. Even before he told me the results, I asked him if I can get a referral for therapy. He finally agreed that it’s Stress…(which I kept trying to tell him but if you all recall – he said that would be Last Resort.)
Yes, Lildeb, your brother was “buying” babies? Or did your computer do an “auto correct” and typed it wrong? He’s trying to adopt?
Hi Jen…so sad, your life…I guess we all have our own burdens – unique to each of us. Yesterday, I was typing a comment about wanting to sleep forever and ever….decided that it’s not nice and makes me sound suicidal. I’m not but…there’s nothing wrong with wishing for death. I read your comments and feel sad about it. I can’t remember what my relative(s) did to us girls while young. We blocked it in our memory – up to now. We don’t even want to remember it…makes life easier to live if you don’t remember what terrible things were done to you as a child. Just keep venting and venting.
Hi Cricket, Meanwhile, Judy and Linda! =)
Glad to be back home. I've been catching up on some yard work, cutting back lavender plants while weather permits. I'm a bit late getting things done in the yard so hoping for no rain today. It poured last night for a little while and the wind was blowing. Hoping I can get back outside today.
The memorial service for my nephew was really nice. Lots of people showed up and it was standing room only. Lots of 30 somethings. Dameron had a lot of friends. It was a very emotional day and also exhausting for Rick and Cyn. Everyone went to their home after the service. It was a step by step in getting each requirement of the day over and then, finally, it was done. It was a very long day and evening.
We were able to spend a lot of one on one time with Rick and Cyn in the remaining days we were there. Went to the coast one day and got them out of the house. Spent a lot of time sitting at the kitchen table playing a dominoes game we use to play all the time. Lots of conversation and lots of laughter at times. Also some tears. My sil is having a hard time with the what if's. Our hearts just break for them and we hated leaving them on Wednesday.
Meanwhile, I loved your Breaking Wind Ranch. That just cracked me up. Since it's so close to the Mexican border, maybe border patrol could enlist his services and let him work his magic in some of the underground tunnels used by illegals. They could play a few minutes of Hawaiian music as a warning before detonation.
Speaking of bad gas. My poor sister-in-law has problems with that now since she underwent surgery for colon cancer. If she knows she is going to fart, she will quickly move away from us so we are not exposed. My brother in law teases her about it all the time, as do the grand kids. Nothing to be done about it so good to be able to laugh. Rick was telling us about being in the meat department at the grocery store when Cyn had a gas passing episode. He said they quickly moved to another isle, but could still see the meat department. He said a lady walked into the meat department and her legs buckled as she walked into the invisible cloud. "Dropped her right there in the meat department." Of course he is exaggerating, but we all had a good laugh.
Lildeb: I hope you get your test results soon and that they are good. Please let us know as soon as you get them. I'm praying good news for you.
Diane: Can't imagine a two hour tantrum. You must be exhausted. Please hang in there and try to take good care of yourself. Sending you lots of love and white light.
Cricket: Thanks for sharing about your trip and your new school venture. Wow, lots of hours to study, but you will do well because your heart is in it and you have the most amazing positive attitude. I am really excited for you.
Bobbie: Drop us a note. Hope the boat angel is doing well.
Jen: My heart goes out to you. Someday he will be gone and we can only hope that it will be a big event that takes him in a matter of seconds. No lingering, just a sudden and quick departure.
Stormy: Conner is going to be six years old. Wow. I'm sure his party will be a big success. How are you feeling now? Hoping you are full of energy and life is easier to handle.
Judy, my friend, so sorry to hear about the bearded dragon. A friend of mine had one for a number of years and was meticulous in it's care, but the same thing happened to her. It's always sad to lose a pet. Hope you are feeling better.
Book: Thanks for the hug. I'm glad to know your tests came back with no serious issues. Maybe you could try a nettie pot for your sinus infection. Just be sure to use distilled water in it, not tap water. Lots of people find it helps a lot with sinus issues. Proud of you on the therapy route. I know it's a big step for you.
Liinda: Always good to hear from you. I hope things are going better for you and that each day includes some happiness for you.
Sending love and white light to all of you. Cat
Take care of yourselves!
Diane – wow – 3 infections at one time. Hope that antibiotic works. My current doc had prescribed penicillin. Didn’t work. Went to the gyne for something else and my gyne was surprised that I had penicillin. He prescribed antibiotic that I take for 3 days. Worked! Hope you get better, too!!
On the bright side my brother did do something nice. He bought me a turkey and cranberry sauce to fix for Thanksgiving and a pumpkin pie. He does try. I'm really ready for the holidays just to come and go. I feel so empty and alone at this time of year. I know I need to make my own traditions, but it just reminds me of how much I've lost. I will try make it a nice Thanksgiving for mom even though she won't remember or care. Shit I'm crying now. Next I'll be coughing until I throw up.
Try have a good day everyone. Love ya
Thank you for the support guys, just crapolla deal here for me, it has to end eventually. one way or t'other.
I am glad the funeral was nice, He had a lot of friends any how and they will miss him.
Ginger pills huh? Can they be baked in cookies?
Have a sane warm safe week everyone!
Opened the grape jelly Kathy! Excellent!
Grandma's Gingersnaps
1 cup shortening
1/4 cup butter or margarine
1/3 cup molasses
1 2/3 cups sugar
2 eggs
4 cups all-purpose flour
3 teaspoons baking soda
2 teaspoons ground cinnamon
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon ground cloves
1 teaspoon ground ginger
Additional sugar
1. Heat oven at 350 degrees. Melt shortening and butter in 1-quart saucepan over low heat. Cool 15 minutes.
2. Mix shortening mixture, molasses, 1 2/3 cups sugar and the eggs in a large bowl until well blended. Stir in remaining ingredients except additional sugar.
3. Shape dough into 1-inch balls. Roll in sugar. Place about 2 inches apart on ungreased cookie sheet.
4. Bake 10 to 12 minutes or until set. Cool 1 to 2 minutes; remove from cookie sheet to wire rack.
VARIATION:
For giant gingersnaps, shape dough by rounded measuring tablespoonfuls or using #24 ice-cream scoop into balls. Bake 12 to 15 minutes.
SPECIAL TOUCH:
Melt 3 packages (6ounces each) white baking bar, broken up and 1 tablespoon shortening. Dip half of each cookie into melted mixture; sprinkle with chopped crystalized ginger. Place on waxed paper until coating is set.
Have a good night all!
So sorry to hear everyone is so sick. Diane, I sure hate a cols combined with asthma. Coughing and throwing up seem to go hand in hand, oh yeah, peeing my pants every time I cough too! Thought I was getting a cold myself, earlier in the week, so I started taking zinc pills and felt better. Hoping to stay this way too.
Mom had a bad day at daycare on Friday. She was leaning severely to the right all day and when she got home. I think her UTI from last month never went completely away. The last 3 nights she has been waking up due to holding her breath and waking me up when she has a "mouth" fart. I swear she will tear the skin on her cheeks some day from puffing them up so much when she doesn't open her mouth to breath. This is another sign of a UTI. The paid caregivers all came last week with colds and I thought sure Mom would catch one from them, but so far that hasn't happened. Now I have to call the doctor tomorrow and see if they will call in another script for UTI without seeing her or needing a specimen. I don't want to have to deal with that through the holiday, as the office will be closed on Wednesday afternoon until next Monday!
I have been up to my elbows in paint every second I get. I now have 4 dozen ornaments done and will start stenciling holiday signs tomorrow. I have plenty of things knitted and have to make a couple stands to display my felted purses and shawls. Oh yeah, and cook for Thanksgiving too!
Diane, did you ever get meds for your mom's UTU? It definitely sounds like she has one for sure! If she gets much worse, get her to the ER so they can get a urine with a catheter. If it is a raging UTI, and it is not treated, it could kill her, so please try to get her doctor to make sure. Every time my Mom gets that crazy, they tell me her urine is contaminated so they couldn't get a result. That's when I get her to the ER and it's always a UTI. Hope you can get yourself some much needed rest and can get your mom straightened out.
Book, sinus is tough to deal with. Have you ever tried saline nasal spray? I use it all the time when I have a cold or stuffy nose. You can use it as much as you need and it does provide immediate relief for me. Glad you are going to therapy.
Stormy, that cake sounds like a tough one to do. Have you ever worked with fondant? You could roll it out and push it onto a real Lego to form the shape, then place them on the cake. My daughter is a baker and decorates kid's cakes all the time. I will ask her if she has ever done a Lego cake.
Lildeb, glad to hear your biopsy was fine.
Judy, no black ice here yet, but damn cols at night!
Linda!!! Ready for turkey day?
Meanwhile and Mame, good to see you both posting.
Jen, what can I say? Hate the thought that you have to sit at the same table with your brother! Wish you could be here with us. No perverts allowed! Had a great sunset 2 nights ago and got lots of pictures. When I get them downloaded on my computer, I'll send you some.
Bobbie!!!! Where are you? Hope you aren't overworking yourself on that boat!
Okay, time to pack it in. Been painting all evening and suspect Mom will keep me up tonight.
A man calls home to his wife and says, "Honey, I've been invited to fly to Canada with my boss and several of his friends to go fishing, for the long weekend. This is a good opportunity for me to get that promotion I've been wanting, so could you please pack enough clothes for a three-day weekend. And also, would you get out my rod and tackle box from the attic? We're leaving at 4:30 pm from the office and I'll swing by the house to pick-up my things. Oh! And please pack my new navy blue silk pajamas."
The wife thinks this sounds a bit odd, but, being the good wife, she does exactly what her husband asked.
Following the long weekend he returns home a little tired, but, otherwise, looking good. The wife welcomes him home and asks if he caught many fish?
He says, "Yes! Lots of walleyes, some bass, and a few pike." "But", he said, "why didn't you pack my new blue silk pajamas, like I asked you to do?"
You'll love the answer.
The wife replies,"I did, they're in your tackle box".
Never, Never, Never Ever TRY to Outsmart a WOMAN !!!
Judy- I will post pics of the cake and the party, i hope you are doing well these days.
Deef- thanks for the fondant idea, me and sis have been putting our heads together about this cake and i am sure you have heard about this. A cake image topper. Well, we have ordered one for connor's cake, i just hope that it comes in, in time for his party. We just found it on the net this weekend. They look really cool and neat looking and connor liked the picture that he picked out on the computer. I am planning on just buying a cake from the grocery store cause me and sis cakes always come out a little uneven on the top. You can still send me the info on the fondant just in case this image cake topper doesn't get here in time but i sure hope it does. I will be stressing like a wild woman!!!! Thanks
Book- I know about those sinus infections they are from hell!!!! I had one, one time and i cried for days until i got the meds in my system. It felt like someone was taking a hammer to my head. You need to get some meds for that. I hope you feel better soon.
Cuz- that was a good one!!!
Cat- I hope you are doing ok, i know that you have had a rough patch of it for the last little while. Take care.
Diane- I am sorry but when you said that part about your mom thinking your cough drop was fuel from the plane i just busted out laughing. I know its not funny, but that must have been one strong cough drop. I do hope that you feel better soon. Oh and i know what you mean about the elders acting fine with company, my dad does the same thing too. Especially around the doctors. I told my brother one time that we should just not clean dad up,meaning (shaving, combing the hair, cleaning the neck, new clothes) cause he goes in to see the drs and he looks like he just stepped out of the bandbox, no wonder they always say he is doing fine........... He don't look sick and he sure doesn't act like it around the drs. ugh............
Well i know i am going to be foolish by the time sunday night gets here, i already told sis i might have to pull a drunk. Between having this birthday party and thanksgiving and having to cook for my house and dads. Lord, be with me........... My stress level is going to be out the roof!!!! Well, i need to get to bed 5:30 comes early in the morning. Ya'll have a good monday if there is such a thing. Love and hugs stormy.