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Thanks to Miz, Rip, Godhelpus and Verystressed for your kind words over the loss of my Rusty. I took him to the vet Saturday morning and held him as the vet gave the injection. It was quick and painless. I held him for the longest time afterward just bawling my eyes out.
I lost my 21 year old cat Tyson on April 30th, so two of my babies in such a short time. Rosellla, like you I have loved and lost many kitties over the years. I am such a sucker for stray animals. At one time I got overwhelmed and had 13 cats!
My sister is in town visiting from Seattle. I hadn't been on the computer since Friday so it has taken some time to catch up with everyones post. Sounds like our human loved ones are doing better than our pets.
Bobbie, can we have pets on the boat? We need at least 1 cat for each bunk. Don't work too hard on the Barbara B. It is supposed to be enjoyment!
Have a good night everyone and I will check-in tomorrow.
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Hi everyone,I've missed alot of animal stories.We've had a few animal crisis of lately also.Our family member lucky dog[who rode on the wheelchair with my dad,later upgraded to4-wheeler ]got ran over.Couldn't believe it,still can't.I felt like my dad got ran over, it was his dog,I was suppose to protect.The snake ate the chicks.The bunnies got out and got eatten by the dogs.The dogs who seemingly made friends with my daughters black cat decided to do her and her two kittens in,I think can't find them.The black bull I got last year appears to be gay or disinterested in the girl cows-----no babies.I'm sorry for the animals that didn't make it and thankful for the ones that did.Besides my daughter, animals are about the only things that make sense to me anymore.I'm glad to see others with animal friends and family.A very large owl in hanging out nearby,do they attack cats?Our cats were out door cats,my daughter saved it when she was 3 or 4-her first real pet,she's hoping it'll return,I have a feeling something bad has happen to her.
Rossella,your tattoo looks like my daughters cat,was your cat black also.She hasn't read too much on here lately,she came home from camp with mono,pink eye and a sinus infection-all in one week----don't know how that has happened.Isolated her,now she's ok. and in school again.We usually take a trip to St. Augustine right before school ,but because of the mono,we didn't do it this year and she saw where Bobbie was docked in St. Augustine,thought her timing for getting sick-sucked.I told her once she gets underway good in school,she can share some St. Augustine stories.Back to animal stories,we rescued a fawn one time and do you know you have to wipe its behind to make it live or it can't relieve itself.You have to stimulate the glands-we used wet wipes-so elder care can come in handy for other things also.
You are having difficult times... What happened to the fawn, you released him after saving him? About your cats, they could be hidden somewhere because they are afraid of the dogs. They could reappear, even after one week or more. I had a cat (a neutralised female!) who came home every 10 days or two weeks, she stayed a while and she left, and she went on like this for years; I think she had another family, maybe two more families besides me. Another story: a neighbour told me that my black cat went hunting mice at his house every night. I was very surprised because he never hunted mice when he was at home with me. I guess he behaved like this because he knew I was sorry that he killed mice, and he did not want to disappoint me, so he hunted elsewhere. Cats are so strange... But they are so resourceful. And black cats are magic.
The fawn was a male so we released him,didn't want to neuter him.Males can be dangerous.We let him go when we thought he could maintain and after hunting season.I wish that cat would stroll back up,she was very smart and always cautious of those dogs,but lately started to take chances.I haven't found her body,but her desire was to be a house cat,so she was always at the door wanting in.The only thing that slowed the dogs down was the heat,we had one cool night,thats when she disappeared,thats why I'M thinking dogs.In the woods,it could be alot of things to get them also.I didn't realized cats lived so long until I read ya'lls posts.My daughter thinks black cats are magical also.
I have been reading this thread for some time...started at the beginning & got to post 500...and have now started at the end & am going backwards, so I feel I already know each of you! A few of us have talked before. Is it ok with everybody if I stow away with you guys??
I am an avid animal lover! Recently lost our kitty, Bandit, of 20 years. She was AMAZING!!! When my favorite aunt found out that she had cancer she came to live with me & my husband, who has been diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. My aunt had always had a great relationship with Bandit, who she called BlamBlam. My aunt declined pretty fast and we had to bring in a hospital bed that we set up in our livingroom so she wouldn't be sequestered by herself in another room most of the time. Bandit had such a wonderful intuition & would hop up on my aunt's bed. She mostly stayed at her feet & my aunt said that it kept her feet warm. Some people, my ultra clean Mother, would want Bandit to get down, but my aunt, we called her ML, would say to leave her alone & she was a comfort to her. Bandit would get down only long enough to eat & potty & then would go right back to ML's feet. She stayed like that for months until 3 days before my aunt passed. Bandit hopped down & wouldn't get back up on the bed. Since she was 20 years old I even picked her up & placed her back on the bed, but she would then hiss at me & jumped down as if she knew what was coming! My aunt passed & Bandit passed not long after that. It's as though she had fulfilled her mission in life!
Thanks for letting me share that...I know all of you will understand!
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That was a great cat story. I've had cats and dogs and a bird and a couple turtles and am still thinking about getting an 'able seacat'. Still mulling it over.
There's a cat on a boat on the next dock and I was thinking about going over there and seeing the reality of enclosed area + cat.
Tennessee, I hope your kitty comes back soon and I'm sorry that your daughter was made sick by the camp. jeeze. Still in St Augustine over this weekend!! Got room for ya both! Drive out Fri night. We'll be sea trialing radar on Sat or Sunday (cool boat ride) and then back to the dock. When i get the boat back to NJ I want to find a place on the boat for that beautiful angel you sent for my mom's funeral. Thank you again for that. It was the single gift my mom recieved that made me go WOW. Leave it up to you to know that you have to wipe a fawn's butt. Your depth of knowledge is amazing.
ok Miz: how was the first day?? SS: what's up my Northern friend? Pirate! Jsome. how's it going? Hey Italia! When you coming to help me polish the teak?? Ok...there's some brass too..... Maxine! Godhelps! Deef! Flex! Sorry about the kitty. Ow sux bad.
Hi Bobbie, thank you for the welcome! I must have missed something or didn't go back far enough...Bobbie, I am SO sorry about your Mom!!! Are you OK??? Can we do anything for YOU???
Wow again!! Finally took sister to airport on Saturday. The 3 week visit was great, but very tiring. Going to be a lot of poop soup around here tonight! I have a colonoscopy scheduled for tomorrow morning. Yuck!!! All I do is clean Mom's poopy butt, now I have mine to deal with!*#*! It has taken me a while to read all the posts again. We are cat lovers too. Someone moved out of the neighborhood 3 or 4 years ago and left a female to have at least 2 litters a year. I found a 5 week old female roaming in our yard almost 2 years ago. I kept talking to her and gave her a name so she would come when I called her. She was very tiny and probably the runt. After about 2 weeks she let me grab her. She immediately began to purr up a storm. I put her down, and fed her, but she wouldn't let me touch her for a couple days. I finally called the vet and asked if I could bring her in to be tested if I could catch her. My daughter has 5 rescues that roam between our 2 apartments and could not keep her if she was sick. My husband cannot stand to lose pets, and after our last lop eared rabbit died, it broke his heart! He said no more pets. Well, I caught her again and took her to be tested and brought her home. My husband came home that night and luckily she wrapped herself around his legs and cuddled right up to him. It was love at first sight. Mamma had another litter the last week of July 2009. This time we believe she only had 2 kittens. One was caught and placed in a home. The other was kept hidden by Mamma until late fall. She has always come to our back door for food, and eventually steered the little guy this way. he was staying in the neighbors garage during the cold winter nights, and came here to eat. It took me several weeks to get him used to me, and my husband. Other strays started to bully him and my husband decided we should take him in. Hello! This is a man who said no pets for years!!!. Well, it took me a few days to lure him onto the back porch. That was Feb. 1st. He went nuts when the door closed and even bloodied his mouth when he crashed into the window while trying to escape. Long story, short, the vet couldn't see him for 3 days, so we put food, water, litter, and blankets with a hot water bottle, on the porch for him. We named him Butterball because he was so small and round. Not anymore! He is a gorgeous 12 pounds of beautiful gray tabby! Also, has some tan in his markings. Vet says this is very unusual for a male. He eats constantly, is very lovable, and talks and chirps all the time! we are so lucky to have them in our lives. I have added Butter and Brindle"s picture for all of you to see. Pets are the best thing! They love us no matter what, and can be very soothing in stressful times.
Where are you adding these pictures? Am I missing something??? Welcome VeryStressed. I hope you'll find less stress hanging out here. I'm loving all your animal stories. I grew up with dogs, and once had a cat. I love petting other people's fuzzy pets. We don't/won't have one with all the allergies in our fam. Bobbie, how goes the boating life?
Hubby and I are hosting a Tea Party Patriots Yard Party this Friday. We are first timers, and will be merging another city's dis-banded group with ours. We have state and national coverage, with an open invitation, (many invited) and 5 confirmed guest speakers. We know of 40+ people coming for sure...and I'm all excited!
That was a great cat story,I feel as though I'M a bad cat parent,i don't think I ever had one to make it to ten.My dads dog[lucky] was a great comfort to my dad,He would sleep with him and seem to know if he was feeling bad,he would snuggle against his back and when daddy became completely bed ridden and he had a [movement] in the middle of the night-Lucky would be covered in poop also,so he got a few 3 o'clock in the morning baths along with my dad.[my brothers resented the dogs also]My dad had 22 stray dogs,he or we were caring for-LUCKY was the only house dog,thats why he was lucky-he was consistently saying ' The more that I'm around people the more I liked my dogs'.He said he named her after Lucky Stripes cigerettes,that he smoked before going in the army.He would say'LUCKY,LUCKY MY LITTLE GIRL,LUCKY,LUCKY LUCKY MY LITTLE PEARL----- BOBBIE,Did you go to the fort.Elizabeth a 10 year old ghost likes to hang by the gates of St. Augustine.She wanted to be the gate keeper,we haven't seen her ,but we still look for her.My daughter wants me to inform you about the great chocolate shops in the old district.Right now my daughter would like to go to Flagler college,but she still has a couple of years to decide.We were getting ready to head to St. Augustine last thurs. but the lawyer found a reason to see me friday,then he cancel at last minute.You know lawyers are very important,its always about them and their schedule,no one elese matters.I don't think she got mono at camp,the doc.thought she got it at school and the hectic fun at camp-kicked it in.She said you can carry the virus around for months without having any sign,they had several people with mono at school.She said she hasn't ate or drank after anyone,so I don't know how she got it. A couple of weeks ago I lost my dads house and farm,I signed everything to be signed,the brother the lawyer signed all of his papers,but the brother who did the sueing has not signed his yet-still dragging it out.Even though it is not a done-deal legally yet,because he will not sign,he has forsale signs everywhere.I think it is cruel how they are letting him prolong our misery and not go on with our lives.I know that his lawyers want him to sign,because they don't get paid until he does.I can honestly say that was the poorest value I ever received for my dollar.Paying someone 250.dollars a hour for poor service and no control,Never returned phone calls ignored E-MAILS-didn't know what was going on from minute to minute.If you paid a dollar for a bad hamburger,you can take it back-How do you get you money value from a lawyer-once you sign on the dotted line,they spend money on what they see fit,they ruin lives daily-for profit-they stick together like the bunch of theives that they are.I will be happy to rid myself of these legal crooks-I tell you what- a suit does not make a man.You can throw some varnish on a piece of crap-but it is still crap only varnished.Bobbie,I hope you are getting to enjoy St. Augustine while you are there.
Furry kids are soooo wonderful. Our boy coos like a pidgeon when we touch him during commercials.lol. He lays on the back of the sofa between us under his "heat lamp" but he's getting too big to perch there. He is also a long haired black cat, but there is NOTHING magical about him. lol. He has a 17" tail & carries it quite proudly strait up most of the time. Our little coward does a low crawl into the basement whenever there are loud vehicles or thunder. Trash day is always traumatic for him with the three trucks that come by. Tenn, Sorry about your daughter & will pray for health to return soon. Close proximaty at camp to so many other kids.... You have to stimulate all mammal foundlings if they are not yet weened. We found some abandoned kitties once and I had to stick their faces into the food to get them to eat. What a mess!! At first I put them under the faucet to clean them but was affraid they would get pneumonia, so I put them in my lap & let our 85lb doberman lick them clean (she thought she was a cat anyhow & LOVED babies). Within 3 days they were grooming themselves. lol. Must have had something to do with the tounge that was as big as they were.
D?, I would think that owls could/would go after kittens but not full grown cats (too big). Hope your wandering kitties come home soon. When I was a child my monsterous tom cat had four families on the block and he got three square meals a day from us. Mom would even fry him an egg for breakfast. He would also chase dogs out of our yard. lol
What a timely poem. "the childhood was not prefect,... but its over..." How very profound and woke me right up!!!! Thank you. I REALLY needed that. As the Bible says "Forgetting what lies behind and pressing on toward the future". Sometimes the King James version is too subtle for me but I get it eventually.
GOD bless all of HIS children....the furry & feathered ones too.
Owls can attack cats if they are big enough. Sorry you have had so much sadness lately. I have had a few pets and it never gets easier losing them. It takes a piece of your heart every time one passes away.
Verystressed, I was too but not so much now after finding the wonderful folks here in this forum. They have been a true blessing. Hoping you become Lessstressed here. SS, Happy Tuesday Sis. B321, Hi Capt. A ship's cat is a must. My brother had one on his boat. He lived on his boat so the cat never left. Jsome, Thanks again. Tenn, Sorry to hear your sib is that way. We may not get justice in this world, but if they only knew what was waiting for them in the next......Eternity is a looooooong time. Sounds like your Dad is a wonderful character. My condolences on his pup. They can be so tender when we are ill.
Just the other day, a gentleman who works with our dads at the nursing home, (who's also Mayor) and a great all-around guy said he misses the Eden Philosophy being utilized there. When my dad first moved there, a neighborhood cat roamed the halls from room to room. There were also two resident poodles. The seniors loved them all. He said he misses that, and thinks they are important for the residents. The cat got sick, and went home with a nurse, to later pass away. The puppies started biting, so had to go home with another nurse. And so it goes. Family can bring pets in to visit, with some limitations. I know the elderly patients love the pets and children, too. It adds spark and life to their day.
Godhelpus, thanks for being refreshing! Love your posts.
Tennessee, hope your daughter is feeling better soon. Will say a prayer for her.
SS.MY daughter has a little Yorkie and they do not shed and are suppose to be o.k with people with allergys.Thats what I'm told anyway-it is true about the shedding.The lawyer was suppose to call,secretary called instead,I told her it is diffucult to work with someone who changes what they say from conversation to conversation.Two weeks now stress is caused by trying to retrieve her toys she had from her dead father and SANTA clause.Any decent lawyer or judge would order those toys back to her and this is the brother who never spent one night caregiving-called or even went to the funeral.the legal system could care less about my dad-me or my daughter,but they loved being able to profit from you.This is a bunch of overly educated big ole men,hurting a child through her toys.My own lawyer tried to fix it where me and my daughter would be down there alone with that boy,no neighbors,no law enforcement.For some reason they do not have to abid by the same rules as us.I am pretty sure ya'll are as sick of hearing about those aweful people as I am talking about them.I feel more dirty having to deal with those lawyers than I EVER felt cleaning up poop for my dad.His poop was cleaner than those poor excusses of mankind who think they are so above us all.Atleast cleaning up poop has some honour about it.I felt good about my self before I started reading these posts and even better after the fact.I am glad to know there is compassion out there still.I hate the numbers of siblings that don't contribute,but am glad I'm not the only one.My first biggest obstacle was getting over that my family wasn't perfect as I first thought, It took me two years to get over the fact that the brothers only cared about the monetary gain and not our father,BUT ITS LIKE YA'LL SAID WHY WASTE TIME ON WORRYING ABOUT DEADBEATS-THEY ARE WHO THEY ARE.Caregiving is hard enough as is..Suppose to get the toys tomorrow,we will see what happens.
This sucks!! Got a headache, can't take aspirin. Hungry, can't eat!! So, I will try to catch up with everyone. On the subject of state aid to caregivers. Mass. has a program called Caring Homes. It is for people who live with and take care of family members. You can get paid up to $50/day, as long as they are on MassHealth Insurance. Unfortunately, the case manager from our elderly services says that all the RICH folk around Boston find ways to get their parents on this, so their $ does not get used up!! This causes a shortage of funds for the real needy! Go figure. Rip, Like your attitude and stories! My house is also cluttered and messy. My sibs can't understand why I don't get it cleaned up, what with Merry coming 35 hours a week. and 3 days of daycare. I guess I don't need to clean up after Mom, cook all her meals, do the mountains of laundry, keep track of her many scripts, etc., etc. My sister was here for 3 weeks and couldn't believe all that is involved in caring for an elderly parent. She told off a few of our sibs when they made comments about how I deal with Mom and everything else. Cleaning up after myself is the hardest! Dtflex, Hope your sister is able to give you some relief. As for Mom's meds going missing, keep them with you. Just dose out what she needs for the day. Sorry about Rusty. It is so sad to lose a pet! Austin, If you find an easy way to de-clutter, let me know!!! Jsomebody, Sorry you have to put up with mom and grandpa. You are too young to have so much on your shoulders! The sprinkler is a great idea. Hope kitty is feeling better. Mine are in the house all the time. Too many sick strays in the neighborhood. As for phone calls, I miss then all the time. I forget to take my portable with me when I'm with Mom. Farmangel, Wishing for a full moon is nice, but deadly for dementia people. Mom is always nastier during a full moon! Miz, How's the new job? Bikini? Haven't been in one of those for 30 years! It would be a hoot though!!!! SS, Sorry about your Mom's caregiver, even though she probably deserves her! Merry is like one of the family, and even brings her grandchildren with her once in a while. Mom loves kids, and they are good company for her, especially since her own kids and grandkids don't show up. Moms1, I got Seroquel for Mom, but it makes her too sleepy. Daycare was ready to throw her out because she is sooo OCD, that she can't stop for 5 seconds. i get a call at least once a week to tell me she got into trouble again! Even 2 zanax 3 times a day, doesn't slow her down. Linda, Pa leaning left again? Mom does that too. Sometimes it means a UTI, and others, she is just tired. Not sure how to deal with this at times. Mom can't sit still, and is in a wheelchair because she can't walk alone anymore. She is always bending to the floor to pick up tiny pieces of food, lint, etc. By the end of the day, she is unable to stand up straight. Bobbie321, Do you need a chief cook and bottle washer? That would be me, just let me know when you are near Mass.! Pirate, Sounds like you are running out of rope! Body aches I know well. Mostly it is from lack of REM sleep. We all need that deep restorative sleep to heal our bodies after long tiring days. I have RLS, so I do not sleep well and have constant pain. Stress doesn't help! As for the caregiver, you shouldn't have to clean up after her, but if she is good with Mom and doesn't complain. don't get rid of her. Another will be hard to find. I at least have some support from family, I wish all of us could be there to help you! Rossella, I know what you mean about slim and athletic Mom. Mine is 114 lbs. and strong as an ox! She has been hallucinating for more than 4 years. She talks to people at the table and even offers them her food. She has a baby at least once a week, and accused me of hiding her kids in the attic, yesterday! As for the remote, we looked for hers for 2 weeks and couldn't find it. Merry came in one day and handed it to me. Mom had put it in her bag one day, and it took Merry 2 weeks to notice it! As for your brother, I have 2 of 3 that don't visit very often. Their excuse is they can't stand to see her like this! Wish we could use that line!!! Hope I didn't miss anyone. I'm off to do errands, then home to prep for procedure for tomorrow. Take care everyone.
Your right, cant be surprised anymore! When my grandmother leaves the bathroom and that OH SO GROSS smell gets to you, you know you are in for a mess!I love her, but I dont wish that on anyone!
When we first gave Mom Seroquel it seemed to hit her hard, but she got over that quickly. Now it just calms her a bit. The doctor did tell me there is a similar one that doesn't make them too sleepy. Not sure what it was. Did you try anything else.
We really needed her to stay in DayCare, even though it is only 2 days. Glad we persisted, she does love it now.
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Give her a gentle hug from me!
alzheimersplaybook.com
She said it is helping her family with dealing.
Might be something to look at.
Thanks to Miz, Rip, Godhelpus and Verystressed for your kind words over the loss of my Rusty. I took him to the vet Saturday morning and held him as the vet gave the injection. It was quick and painless. I held him for the longest time afterward just bawling my eyes out.
I lost my 21 year old cat Tyson on April 30th, so two of my babies in such a short time. Rosellla, like you I have loved and lost many kitties over the years. I am such a sucker for stray animals. At one time I got overwhelmed and had 13 cats!
My sister is in town visiting from Seattle. I hadn't been on the computer since Friday so it has taken some time to catch up with everyones post. Sounds like our human loved ones are doing better than our pets.
Bobbie, can we have pets on the boat? We need at least 1 cat for each bunk. Don't work too hard on the Barbara B. It is supposed to be enjoyment!
Have a good night everyone and I will check-in tomorrow.
Love y'all,
Diane
I wanted to share this beautiful poem with you.
MAYA ANGELOU'S'
BEST POEM EVER
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own,
even if she never wants to or needs to...
something perfect to wear if the employer,
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a youth she's content to leave behind....
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and one who lets her cry...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..........
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal,
that will make her guests feel honored....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
a feeling of control over her destiny...
how to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to quit a job,
break up with a lover,
and confront a friend without;
ruining the friendship....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW....
when to try harder.... and WHEN TO WALK AWAY...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
that her childhood may not have been perfect...but it's over.....
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more....
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW.. .
whom she can trust,
whom she can't,
and why she shouldn't take it personally...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...
be it to her best friend's kitchen table..
or a charming Inn in the woods....
when her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year
About your cats, they could be hidden somewhere because they are afraid of the dogs. They could reappear, even after one week or more. I had a cat (a neutralised female!) who came home every 10 days or two weeks, she stayed a while and she left, and she went on like this for years; I think she had another family, maybe two more families besides me.
Another story: a neighbour told me that my black cat went hunting mice at his house every night. I was very surprised because he never hunted mice when he was at home with me. I guess he behaved like this because he knew I was sorry that he killed mice, and he did not want to disappoint me, so he hunted elsewhere. Cats are so strange... But they are so resourceful. And black cats are magic.
I have been reading this thread for some time...started at the beginning & got to post 500...and have now started at the end & am going backwards, so I feel I already know each of you! A few of us have talked before. Is it ok with everybody if I stow away with you guys??
I am an avid animal lover! Recently lost our kitty, Bandit, of 20 years. She was AMAZING!!! When my favorite aunt found out that she had cancer she came to live with me & my husband, who has been diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. My aunt had always had a great relationship with Bandit, who she called BlamBlam. My aunt declined pretty fast and we had to bring in a hospital bed that we set up in our livingroom so she wouldn't be sequestered by herself in another room most of the time. Bandit had such a wonderful intuition & would hop up on my aunt's bed. She mostly stayed at her feet & my aunt said that it kept her feet warm. Some people, my ultra clean Mother, would want Bandit to get down, but my aunt, we called her ML, would say to leave her alone & she was a comfort to her. Bandit would get down only long enough to eat & potty & then would go right back to ML's feet. She stayed like that for months until 3 days before my aunt passed. Bandit hopped down & wouldn't get back up on the bed. Since she was 20 years old I even picked her up & placed her back on the bed, but she would then hiss at me & jumped down as if she knew what was coming! My aunt passed & Bandit passed not long after that. It's as though she had fulfilled her mission in life!
Thanks for letting me share that...I know all of you will understand!
verystressed, welcome home kiddo. Hang with us and vent on and laugh and cry.
That was a great cat story. I've had cats and dogs and a bird and a couple turtles and am still thinking about getting an 'able seacat'. Still mulling it over.
There's a cat on a boat on the next dock and I was thinking about going over there and seeing the reality of enclosed area + cat.
Tennessee, I hope your kitty comes back soon and I'm sorry that your daughter was made sick by the camp. jeeze.
Still in St Augustine over this weekend!! Got room for ya both! Drive out Fri night. We'll be sea trialing radar on Sat or Sunday (cool boat ride) and then back to the dock.
When i get the boat back to NJ I want to find a place on the boat for that beautiful angel you sent for my mom's funeral. Thank you again for that. It was the single gift my mom recieved that made me go WOW.
Leave it up to you to know that you have to wipe a fawn's butt. Your depth of knowledge is amazing.
ok Miz: how was the first day??
SS: what's up my Northern friend?
Pirate!
Jsome. how's it going?
Hey Italia! When you coming to help me polish the teak?? Ok...there's some brass too.....
Maxine!
Godhelps!
Deef!
Flex!
Sorry about the kitty. Ow sux bad.
Rip! going out to measure the letters now!
lovbob
lovbob
It has taken me a while to read all the posts again.
We are cat lovers too. Someone moved out of the neighborhood 3 or 4 years ago and left a female to have at least 2 litters a year. I found a 5 week old female roaming in our yard almost 2 years ago. I kept talking to her and gave her a name so she would come when I called her. She was very tiny and probably the runt. After about 2 weeks she let me grab her. She immediately began to purr up a storm. I put her down, and fed her, but she wouldn't let me touch her for a couple days. I finally called the vet and asked if I could bring her in to be tested if I could catch her. My daughter has 5 rescues that roam between our 2 apartments and could not keep her if she was sick.
My husband cannot stand to lose pets, and after our last lop eared rabbit died, it broke his heart! He said no more pets. Well, I caught her again and took her to be tested and brought her home. My husband came home that night and luckily she wrapped herself around his legs and cuddled right up to him. It was love at first sight.
Mamma had another litter the last week of July 2009. This time we believe she only had 2 kittens. One was caught and placed in a home. The other was kept hidden by Mamma until late fall. She has always come to our back door for food, and eventually steered the little guy this way. he was staying in the neighbors garage during the cold winter nights, and came here to eat. It took me several weeks to get him used to me, and my husband. Other strays started to bully him and my husband decided we should take him in. Hello! This is a man who said no pets for years!!!. Well, it took me a few days to lure him onto the back porch. That was Feb. 1st. He went nuts when the door closed and even bloodied his mouth when he crashed into the window while trying to escape.
Long story, short, the vet couldn't see him for 3 days, so we put food, water, litter, and blankets with a hot water bottle, on the porch for him. We named him Butterball because he was so small and round. Not anymore! He is a gorgeous 12 pounds of beautiful gray tabby! Also, has some tan in his markings. Vet says this is very unusual for a male. He eats constantly, is very lovable, and talks and chirps all the time! we are so lucky to have them in our lives. I have added Butter and Brindle"s picture for all of you to see.
Pets are the best thing! They love us no matter what, and can be very soothing in stressful times.
Hubby and I are hosting a Tea Party Patriots Yard Party this Friday. We are first timers, and will be merging another city's dis-banded group with ours. We have state and national coverage, with an open invitation, (many invited) and 5 confirmed guest speakers. We know of 40+ people coming for sure...and I'm all excited!
Our boy coos like a pidgeon when we touch him during commercials.lol. He lays on the back of the sofa between us under his "heat lamp" but he's getting too big to perch there. He is also a long haired black cat, but there is NOTHING magical about him. lol. He has a 17" tail & carries it quite proudly strait up most of the time. Our little coward does a low crawl into the basement whenever there are loud vehicles or thunder. Trash day is always traumatic for him with the three trucks that come by.
Tenn, Sorry about your daughter & will pray for health to return soon. Close proximaty at camp to so many other kids....
You have to stimulate all mammal foundlings if they are not yet weened. We found some abandoned kitties once and I had to stick their faces into the food to get them to eat. What a mess!! At first I put them under the faucet to clean them but was affraid they would get pneumonia, so I put them in my lap & let our 85lb doberman lick them clean (she thought she was a cat anyhow & LOVED babies). Within 3 days they were grooming themselves. lol. Must have had something to do with the tounge that was as big as they were.
D?, I would think that owls could/would go after kittens but not full grown cats (too big). Hope your wandering kitties come home soon. When I was a child my monsterous tom cat had four families on the block and he got three square meals a day from us. Mom would even fry him an egg for breakfast. He would also chase dogs out of our yard. lol
What a timely poem. "the childhood was not prefect,... but its over..." How very profound and woke me right up!!!! Thank you. I REALLY needed that. As the Bible says "Forgetting what lies behind and pressing on toward the future". Sometimes the King James version is too subtle for me but I get it eventually.
GOD bless all of HIS children....the furry & feathered ones too.
SS, Happy Tuesday Sis.
B321, Hi Capt. A ship's cat is a must. My brother had one on his boat. He lived on his boat so the cat never left.
Jsome, Thanks again.
Tenn, Sorry to hear your sib is that way. We may not get justice in this world, but if they only knew what was waiting for them in the next......Eternity is a looooooong time.
Sounds like your Dad is a wonderful character. My condolences on his pup. They can be so tender when we are ill.
Godhelpus, thanks for being refreshing! Love your posts.
Tennessee, hope your daughter is feeling better soon. Will say a prayer for her.
So, I will try to catch up with everyone.
On the subject of state aid to caregivers. Mass. has a program called Caring Homes. It is for people who live with and take care of family members. You can get paid up to $50/day, as long as they are on MassHealth Insurance. Unfortunately, the case manager from our elderly services says that all the RICH folk around Boston find ways to get their parents on this, so their $ does not get used up!! This causes a shortage of funds for the real needy! Go figure.
Rip, Like your attitude and stories! My house is also cluttered and messy. My sibs can't understand why I don't get it cleaned up, what with Merry coming 35 hours a week. and 3 days of daycare. I guess I don't need to clean up after Mom, cook all her meals, do the mountains of laundry, keep track of her many scripts, etc., etc. My sister was here for 3 weeks and couldn't believe all that is involved in caring for an elderly parent. She told off a few of our sibs when they made comments about how I deal with Mom and everything else. Cleaning up after myself is the hardest!
Dtflex, Hope your sister is able to give you some relief. As for Mom's meds going missing, keep them with you. Just dose out what she needs for the day. Sorry about Rusty. It is so sad to lose a pet!
Austin, If you find an easy way to de-clutter, let me know!!!
Jsomebody, Sorry you have to put up with mom and grandpa. You are too young to have so much on your shoulders! The sprinkler is a great idea. Hope kitty is feeling better. Mine are in the house all the time. Too many sick strays in the neighborhood. As for phone calls, I miss then all the time. I forget to take my portable with me when I'm with Mom.
Farmangel, Wishing for a full moon is nice, but deadly for dementia people. Mom is always nastier during a full moon!
Miz, How's the new job? Bikini? Haven't been in one of those for 30 years! It would be a hoot though!!!!
SS, Sorry about your Mom's caregiver, even though she probably deserves her! Merry is like one of the family, and even brings her grandchildren with her once in a while. Mom loves kids, and they are good company for her, especially since her own kids and grandkids don't show up.
Moms1, I got Seroquel for Mom, but it makes her too sleepy. Daycare was ready to throw her out because she is sooo OCD, that she can't stop for 5 seconds. i get a call at least once a week to tell me she got into trouble again! Even 2 zanax 3 times a day, doesn't slow her down.
Linda, Pa leaning left again? Mom does that too. Sometimes it means a UTI, and others, she is just tired. Not sure how to deal with this at times. Mom can't sit still, and is in a wheelchair because she can't walk alone anymore. She is always bending to the floor to pick up tiny pieces of food, lint, etc. By the end of the day, she is unable to stand up straight.
Bobbie321, Do you need a chief cook and bottle washer? That would be me, just let me know when you are near Mass.!
Pirate, Sounds like you are running out of rope! Body aches I know well. Mostly it is from lack of REM sleep. We all need that deep restorative sleep to heal our bodies after long tiring days. I have RLS, so I do not sleep well and have constant pain. Stress doesn't help! As for the caregiver, you shouldn't have to clean up after her, but if she is good with Mom and doesn't complain. don't get rid of her. Another will be hard to find. I at least have some support from family, I wish all of us could be there to help you!
Rossella, I know what you mean about slim and athletic Mom. Mine is 114 lbs. and strong as an ox! She has been hallucinating for more than 4 years. She talks to people at the table and even offers them her food. She has a baby at least once a week, and accused me of hiding her kids in the attic, yesterday! As for the remote, we looked for hers for 2 weeks and couldn't find it. Merry came in one day and handed it to me. Mom had put it in her bag one day, and it took Merry 2 weeks to notice it! As for your brother, I have 2 of 3 that don't visit very often. Their excuse is they can't stand to see her like this! Wish we could use that line!!!
Hope I didn't miss anyone. I'm off to do errands, then home to prep for procedure for tomorrow.
Take care everyone.
OK so far here, waiting on dr calls, keeping eye on CLEO.
Thank you all for your support and concern and listening to me grouse.
We really needed her to stay in DayCare, even though it is only 2 days. Glad we persisted, she does love it now.