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Hi everyone. Not much to say today and a lot to do. Waiting for the snow to reach us. We are only expecting 9 inches... darn... was wishing for a good blizzard! Schools are closing after school activities around here so I guess that is when we should start seeing the snow! Walked the dogs early and ran out to buy bird seed. It went up in price a lot! Hope the deer don't return and eat it!!!
Deef-be careful on the roof! If it is a wet snow it will be heavy on the roof-so I understand the need to get it off. Do you have a roof rake or is your roof flat? Keep us posted! Flex-ENJOY your respite!!!! I am happy for you. Lildeb and Sharyn-I completely understand the concerns of having people in your home...I am so lucky to have a great neighbor-for the winter months anyway-who comes. And mom loves her! (She does seasonal work in spring/summer.) The daycare has worked out $$ wise cause mom is such a late sleeper so she only goes half days...I just wish it was closer to us. Nothing and no one is perfect-(except us of course-when it comes to taking care of our loved ones anyway)!!! It is not easy to take that plunge and have a stranger in your house. I took pictures of anything of value of mom's and hid stuff etc when I did have a lady I didn't know coming in. It made me feel better... We even thought about placing cameras around to make sure they were taking good care of her... then I found the daycare and my neighbor...less anxiety for me. Grouse all you want Jen! Get it out!!! We are here for ya! Tahiti-take me away!
Cat, thanks... I always worry if I mention God or Jesus ppl will think I am a bible thumper or something... I am not. I do believe and go to Church and I would never want to push it on anyone-but sometimes it just fits! And Stormy-whether it is a devotional religious book or just a positive thinking book it can help to improve a mood or outlook! Anything to help us get thru the day!
Well, I thought I didn't have much to say but I guess I did. ;) Stay warm and safe and dry everyone! Hugs to everyone! Mame
Just got word the state is shutting down roads at 4PM. My daughter is working a half hour away from here and was supposed to work until 4. I sure hope they get the message and shut the store down in time for everyone to get home before 4. It's still snowing lightly and the wind is blowing pretty good. I just topped off the birdfeeders as they have been feeding like crazy since the snow started. It's supposed to get really heavy after 3 and stay like that for quite a while. Got my cellphone, camera and e-reader all charging just in case the power goes out. I have a feeling there will be some great pictures waiting to be taken! If we lose power, we can all stay upstairs with my daughter who has an old gas and gas stove in the kitchen for heat, and an old gas room furnace in the living room. So they will have heat and can cook too! And there is always beer on tap! Now we just have to do some nail biting while waiting for my daughter to get home! Catch everyone later!
I miss the excitement of a big snowstorm. When I was 5 or so and it would snow and knock out the power, the morning after mom would use the Coleman stove on the back steps of the kitchen (row house) and make bacon. The aroma went up and down the alleyway and people would show up with coffee, etc. Wow. Ow. Sweet memories.
Sometimes I fight the feeling of being ripped off because I can't walk back into that memory. I know better. Space Time Continuum and all of that.
ok you guys stay safe and sound and if anyone gives you any sh!t break out the flyswatter.
Took mom to the Presbyterian Home an she freaked out! She sobbed and said I was abandoning her and that she could never trust me again, etc, etc, etc. I am emotionally exhausted plus getting sick. I'm coughing my head off and have a bad headache. So much for a fun respite. I will be at home since we can't afford to go anywhere, but at least I can take care of me. Stay safe and warm all of you in the path of the blizzard.
Deef, hope your daughter makes it home in the snow storm, and everyone is staying safe and warm. We have wind warnings here (up to 70 mph), but just blowing dust around, and it isn't cold. Mame, your son sounds great. It is hard to find anyone that can do physical work anymore. Sorry have to go, the dog won't leave me alone, she wants her supper. Take care, hope everyone has a good weekend, Love Shirley
Stormy, u must be getting what we had yesterday with all that rain. I too heard that NY n Boston was suppose to get it real bad with that white stuff. Not sure if it was your dad or your sister's hubby with the long-term diabetes with the foot ulcer? Either way, I hope your sister is able to get some rest in between taking care of those two men. Deef, stay off the roof! It is too dangerous right now with all that snow. Cat, you r so right. Only one person that is perfect n it sure isn't any of us or anyone else on this Earth. Everyone n the nasty blizzard mess, please be careful. I hope everyone can have a peaceful weekend.
Diane, sorry your respite break didn't work out. Sound like your mom is related to my mil with the abandonment n sobbing stuff. I hope u r able to take a break for yourself at home so just maybe that nasty cough will go away so u can enjoy your weekend. I know easier said than done but, try to get some rest. Sending you a warm cyber hug. Shirley, 70mph wind is something! Have u seen any dirt tornadoes? Not sure what they r called but I have seen three small ones in a old crop field when traveling from GA to FL. I wander where the poor little bird go for shelter? I know I am weird thinking about the poor birds.
Concern Question Anyone: The mil been going to the bathroom a lot n one time I could hear cabinet doors shutting. My concern is that I am wandering if she is looking for something for her butt. Because, she would ask me about a suppository n I would tell her she has to wait until 8pm at night before she can have one. What do you do if u think she is plundering n bathroom for something n you don't won't her to put let say, Fixodent or something else back their on her butt that don't belong? I have one big wooden cabinet that cannot be removed n a few sliding drawers, two that r attached to the sink. She found out how to open the latch that I had on bottom door in her room. I feel I need to do something to protect her for their is not use n telling her Not to do it for she just forget within 15minutes. Help for some advice.
Lildeb-I never let mom go to the bathroom alone... she doesn't mind-in fact she likes to chit chat while she is going...haha.. When I lived in Mississippi-we called those little tornados-"dirt devils". Very cool to see!
Flex-did you leave your mom there and you are going to be home taking care of yourself? Or did you bring her home? Just clarifying... Mom always thinks I am leaving her at the daycare but they always say they have no beds and the help goes home at 5! When she was in the Nursing Home for rehab-we put a big sign on the wall with the words "GOAL:To get stronger and go home". We kept having to point it out to her...but it was there. Maybe if she continues they could put a board up with the days she will be there and mark them off each day or something with the last day saying you are coming to pick her up. Just a thought. But I know it must have been terribly hard for you to hear her like that. Breaks our hearts! We feel for ya!
Deef! Hold on tight! Hope you can check in with us soon!
Bobbie-are you a trekkie???? I loved Star Trek-The Next Generation. We own all of the DVD's!!!
Meanwhile-my husband always says the genes passed to our son were for a farmer of some kind of work horse! He will not be able to sit at a desk that is for sure!!! He lifts weights and is the strongest man on his college football team. He does work hard to be strong but it does seem to come naturally too. :)
We have a few inches of snow here. We are really missing out on the storm as we are too far inland. They say we will get 8 or 9 inches by morning but that is nothing compared to what the East Coast is getting! And the wind they are getting and will get! Wow! Fun night. Not! Stay safe all! Mame
Yes, dirt devils, but they usually show up on a calm day, come out of nowhere. Stepmother is getting worse. My poor stepsister. Her brother is an RN, and he is in charge of the medical decisions. He has his mom on a respirator, and now dialysis. Doctor doesn't think she will get better. On the other hand, my mother has finally decided to get her butt out of the wheelchair, and start walking again. I know I should be nicer to her, but she is such a hypochondriac. She has had every surgery she could talk a doctor into doing. Her health is too bad to do more surgeries, she was so disappointed when they told her that. Everyone. stay safe and warm. Shirley
Just got back inside from making my first official Snow Angel of 2013!!! Took pictures and e-mailed out to Jen, Bobbie and Rip. Hard to see as everything is so white and the snow is coming down in buckets now. No dirt devils here, but plenty of snow angels flying around. I shoveled the front walk as an excuse to go out and play. I couldn't stand looking out at all that beautiful snow. I would have taken a walk, but the wind is whipping so hard, it takes the breath right out of your mouth! So peaceful with no traffic or noise except for the storm. Wish I still had my cross country skis! I'd be heading down the road right this very minute! Husband is whining about all the snow and cold. Wimp!!! we have about 8" already. Daughter got home fine as we only had about a half inch at that point. She said the roads were wet from all the traffic heading home so they could be off the roads by 4PM. LilDeb, yes, Mame is right, sit with MIL when she is in the bathroom. Safer for you both that way. Been sitting with Mom for 4 years now because she would fall when either sitting down on the toilet, or getting back up. And she would get into all kinds of things in her bedroom while the door was closed. It's a lot easier if there is a mess in their pants too. Diane, hope you left your mom there, and I hope you told them not to bother you unless it is an absolute emergency. Mom will get over it and may even find she likes the change after a couple days. Take care of yourself and try not to over think leaving her there. You need the rest for sure! Shirley, that is some kind of wind! Visited my sister when they lived in Colorado Springs and I remember the sand storms rolling across the flat plains and right through their house. got into any tiny crack or crevice it could and left a layer of dust in the entire house. Bobbie, ahhh! row houses! We have them all over the center of town. they were built by the companies that owned the mills in this town. Google Ware, ma. sometime. It was a mill town and the history of how it became known as "THe Town That Can't Be Licked" is talked about. most of the mills have either burned down or shut down over the years. We had a shoe mill. athletic foot gear mill, woolen mill, dress making factory, knitting mill, wire mill and a paper mill. the last 2 are more recent and still running. The river that goes right through the middle of the town was the main power source back then and the reason the town ended up as a "mill" town. This house is an old Otis Company boarding house where the employees lived. Sharyn, I've been signing all Mom's medical paperwork for 5 years now. Brother and sister are her medical proxies and sister is POA, but I'm the one that gets all her medical information and handles all her paperwork. In other words, I do all the work, they got the titles! Okay by me, just trying to keep things in order here. Hope you can get things straightened out for all of you soon. Okay, the fresh air is getting to me, so I will say goodnight as I have to get up before Mom so I can help clean out all the snow! the roof will be easy as the snow is dry and light and fluffy!
We got 12" over night here in Michigan. Blew out the driveway and sidewalks for the whole court. Then I shoveled the roof again. It was some heavy s---. The I drove 23 miles south and raked my sister-in-laws roof, she had maybe 12" +. That took me 4 hours. The temp was around 36 so ya didn't need the coat on while pulling the rake. bobbie Mike and ma are down in Orlando tonight. Ma is staying with Carolyn and Mike is in a motel. So far they are having a great time. Talked about going to the Keys. I think Uncle Harolds son Bob lives down there somewhere. He got your number so who knows when he will hook up with you. Wish we could make the journey but someday. Love ya Cuz
Followed mom to the bathroom in the middle of the night; she was coming out of the bathroom by the time I got there; when I got her back to bed, I went to go to use the bathroom myself, and noticed that the, um, scent was way stronger than it should have been...turned on the light and looked around: Aww, no! She had, instead of using the toilet, sat on the edge of the bathtub and deposited a big one. *Sigh* I must be adapting faster than I thought, because my first thought was "Eww!" and my second thought fast on the heels of the first one was "Thank God it's where it will be easy to clean up!" *Laughs at absurdity of the situation*^^
Noticing one of her students was making faces at the other children, Mrs Smith smiled sweetly and said, "Johnny, when I was a child, I was told that is I made ugly faces, that my face would freeze that way."
Johnny looked up and replied, "Well, Mrs Smith, you can't say they didn't warn you."
Ther is a dangerous virus being passed around electronically, orally and by hand... This virus is called Weary-Overload=Recreational-Killer (WORK). If you recieve WORK from any of your colleages, your boss or anyone else via any means, DO NOT TOUCH IT. This virus will wipe out your private life completly.
If you should come into contact with WORK, put your jacket on and take two good friends to the nearest grocery store. Purchase the antidote known as Work-Isolating-Neutralizer-Extract (WINE) or Bothersome-Employer-Elimination-Rebooter (BEER). Take the antidote repeatedly until WORK has been completely eliminated from your system.
Holy sh!t!!! Just got up about 15 minutes ago.What a mess!!!!! Haven't seen this much snow all at one time, in years!!! There must be 3 feet of snow blown up against the front of the house and my car is buried! Correction, I just went out the front door and the pile snow pushed back from the street is closer to 3 1/2 feet deep and a good 5 feet across from the front steps. Don't know how we will get all this cleaned up, but more importantly, where we will put it all! If I was 30 years younger, I would have no problem and would already be out there pecking away at the snow. It's still coming down and blowing like crazy, so I'm going to sit with my coffee and just admire the view for now. Got the camera charged up and ready for picture taking. I will try to get some onto the FB page of the group later today, that is if I'm still breathing!! Holy Snowachusettes!!!
Athena-it is great how our perspective of gross changes over time! Things that made us gag-do so no longer.... Thank God!
Deef-Snowachussets! Love it! Be careful!!! Glad the snow is fluffy tho. I thought it would be wet so close to the ocean.
Cuz-stealing the joke about WORK for my Facebook page! I read your jokes to hubby and now he is looking jokes up on the internet! Thanks for the silliness!
We got about 8 inches like they said we would. Snowplows woke me up about 4am. UGH. Mom, the dog, snoring hubby, snowplows...it is alwasy something! It looks pretty out there. Wish we weren't so far on the outskirts of the storm! Supposed to rain Monday...yuck. There is something so pleasant about a freshly fallen snow...glad you got to make snow angels Deef!
How you feeling today Flex?? Austin, Bobbie, Lildeb, Stormy, Cat, Jen, Linda, Sharyn, Meanwhile-how you all doin? Anyone else I missed-hello! Drop us a note-or two letters-what did Bobbie say-LM-(that is for Lurking Mode I presume??) Have a decent day. Mame
Wind is still howling here, but 70 degrees. I would like to see that much snow, but not for very long. Hope everyone's power stays on. Indio helped me haul 1200 pounds of hay home for the horses. It was all in one big bale. Tied it to the gate post to pull it out of the truck, then used the truck to push it in the barn. Still waiting for news about my stepmother. Her son has to make the decisions, I can sit here and say I would do it differently, but wouldn't want to be in his shoes right now either.
I'm still coughing and spluttering. My asthma kicked in through the night so I woke up at 4am unable to breathe. Thankfully my inhaler got me going again. Mom is still at the Presbyterian Home. She still isn't a happy camper, but I need to get some rest and kick this crud! My brother is such a wimp he won't visit mom because he is afraid she will beg him to take her home. Mom told the pastor today that the food tasted like sawdust and didn't taste like that man's cooking (meaning James). James had a good chuckle when he heard that. Jen, I was thinking about you as I ate my chinese food tonight. I ordered in because I didn't want to cook or to go out. It's only 7:30pm but I think my bed is calling. Good night dear ones.
Mame, she goes one too many times to the bathroom for me to stay behind her. I thought about moving this door from r hall way so I can catch her when she does go into the bathroom. I bet out of a whole day that, she has probable went to the bathroom over 30-50 times for what ever reason. That snow has already killed a little boy while he was in a car, while his dad was shoveling snow. Then, I think it said he went into cardiac-arrest. Prayers for that family. Plus, a lot of them without power. That was the name of them, 'Dirt-devils.' Shirley, sorry that your SM not doing good. Respirator n dialysis don't sound good. Prayers for your family n SM. On the other hand, that is good news that your mom is trying to get up n walk a little on her own. I hope u have a nice weekend.
Anyone every hear about a "toilet seat cover?" Not the tissue type or the plastic toilet seats for they get cracked n can hurt. Shoot, here is the webpage that I found one place that carries them, easycomforts. I was thinking about ordering it for the mil for she always complains the toilet seat is either too cold or too hard for her. Anyone else ever use one of these things?
Took 5 of us 6 hours to clean out around the house. 2 hours just to dig out the cars! there is so much snow that we only plowed a narrow path down the sidewalk in front of the house. The rest is a 4 foot high pile of snow from the road and sidewalks. Exhausted and going to bed after I feed the cats. It's 12 degrees out and the stars are shining bright, but at last, the nasty wind we had all day has died down for the night. We have another couple hours of cleanup to do tomorrow so the rain doesn't cause damage on Monday. Definitely the most snow from one storm since 1978. I may even go sledding tomorrow! Got to do that at least once every winter. Night everyone. I'm falling asleep where I sit!
Two women were sitting next to each other at a bar. After a while, one looks at the other and says, 'I can't help but think, from listening to you, that you're from Ireland .'
The other woman responds proudly, 'Yes, I sure am!'
The first one says, 'So am I! And where about in Ireland are ya from?'
The other woman answers, 'I'm from Dublin , I am.'
The first one responds, 'So, am I!! And what street did you live on in Dublin ?'
The other woman says, 'A lovely little area. It was in the west end. I lived on Warbury Street in the old central part of town.'
The first one says, 'Faith and begorrah it's a small world. So did I! So did I! And what school did ya go to?'
The other woman answers, 'Well now, I went to Holy Heart of Mary, of course.'
The first one gets really excited and says, 'And so did I! Tell me, what year did you graduate?'
The other woman answers, 'Well, now, let's see. I graduated in 1964.'
The first woman exclaims, 'The Good Lord must be smiling down upon us! I can hardly believe our good luck at winding up in the same pub tonight! Can you believe it? I graduated from Holy Heart of Mary in 1964 me self!'
About this time, Michael walks into the bar, sits down, and orders a beer.
Brian, the bartender, walks over to Michael shaking his head and mutters, 'It's going to be a long night tonight.'
Michael asks, 'Why do you say that, Brian?'
Brian answers, 'The Flanagan twins are drunk again!'
Deef, have fun sledding tomorrow. That sounds like so much fun. Deb, I bought my mother a padded toilet seat for her birthday. Got it at the hardware store. Diane, hope you get to feeling better. If your Mom was in her right mind, I know she would want you to take care of yourself first.
Woke up to -1 this morning, but now it's in the mid 20's. Need to get out soon and finish cleaning up before the messy rain gets here tomorrow! Sore and aching today, but once I get outside things will loosen up again. Athena, sounds like the Clorox commercial with the little boy who finally goes by himself. Proudly tells his mom what he has done and she goes to look in the toilet and finds nothing. Then he points to the tub and she grabs the Clorox! Mame, 8" sounds pretty good to me right about now! Meanwhile, I used to have lop eared rabbits and would by a bale of hau for the once and a while. The regular size ones are pretty heavy, but that one you got is monstrous! One of my younger sisters has 2 horses and gets hay deliveries that she stores in the barn. She used to live at and work on a horse rescue farm. They boarded her horses in exchange for her work. She would get up at 5 every morning and do her work there, then head to her main job as head of grounds and facilities for a local bank. I don't know how she did all that! Sorry about your step mom. Hope they can do something to make her comfortable. LilDeb, I don't care for those soft toilet seats. Just me, but I would think as they start to get some wear, that they would be a good breeding ground for bacteria. That's just my opinion. Plus when it's hot, I imagine my butt sticking to it! Susan!!!! How are you? Hope California is working out for you! Do you have a job and place of your own yet? So glad to here from you and don't you feel guilty about missing out on this mess! If you were home, you would have it much worse than us and would probably have no power for days. Be glad you are way out there in the warm sun! Diane, sure hope you are feeling better today! A cold is bad enough, but add asthma on top of that and it's a nightmare! Time to get Mom some lunch and then get going outside. Have to clean the snow off the pool cover. Don't want all that extra weight on it when it rains!
It was a month ago yesterday that mom passed away...I was starting to feel a little sorry for myself. But decided I wasn't going to do that..I needed to get out of the house and focus on something else. Last week the local elementary school burned down over night...it was a total loss. I know it wasn't the school my kids went to, but they did have a connection with one of the teachers at that school. In fact when the local news were reporting on it, we saw him on camera. Both of my kids 19 and 18 years old and my nephew almost 18, had Mr. D. for a 5th grade teacher. After seeing the devastation at the school, the kids and I wanted to do something. So we gathered up books and school supplies and met up with Mr. D. in a portable classroom and stayed there for 4 hours helping him set up his new class. It was so fun and wonderful to do something selfless for someone. He so greatly appreciated it and gave me a sense of pride that my kids were there doing the work right beside me. They made me realize that my mom's legacy of love is caring is in them too. After the afternoon was over we went back home and talked about the day. We all talked about volunteering more. I think that is where my path is taking me...back to school to volunteer. The satisfaction it gave me yesterday made my heart smile. I l loved it when my kids were smaller and yesterday brought it all back. I know I am rattling on...sorry about that but I just wanted to share my day. Thanks for listening. God Bless.
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Deef-be careful on the roof! If it is a wet snow it will be heavy on the roof-so I understand the need to get it off. Do you have a roof rake or is your roof flat? Keep us posted!
Flex-ENJOY your respite!!!! I am happy for you.
Lildeb and Sharyn-I completely understand the concerns of having people in your home...I am so lucky to have a great neighbor-for the winter months anyway-who comes. And mom loves her! (She does seasonal work in spring/summer.) The daycare has worked out $$ wise cause mom is such a late sleeper so she only goes half days...I just wish it was closer to us. Nothing and no one is perfect-(except us of course-when it comes to taking care of our loved ones anyway)!!! It is not easy to take that plunge and have a stranger in your house. I took pictures of anything of value of mom's and hid stuff etc when I did have a lady I didn't know coming in. It made me feel better... We even thought about placing cameras around to make sure they were taking good care of her... then I found the daycare and my neighbor...less anxiety for me.
Grouse all you want Jen! Get it out!!! We are here for ya! Tahiti-take me away!
Cat, thanks... I always worry if I mention God or Jesus ppl will think I am a bible thumper or something... I am not. I do believe and go to Church and I would never want to push it on anyone-but sometimes it just fits! And Stormy-whether it is a devotional religious book or just a positive thinking book it can help to improve a mood or outlook! Anything to help us get thru the day!
Well, I thought I didn't have much to say but I guess I did. ;) Stay warm and safe and dry everyone! Hugs to everyone! Mame
It's still snowing lightly and the wind is blowing pretty good. I just topped off the birdfeeders as they have been feeding like crazy since the snow started. It's supposed to get really heavy after 3 and stay like that for quite a while. Got my cellphone, camera and e-reader all charging just in case the power goes out. I have a feeling there will be some great pictures waiting to be taken!
If we lose power, we can all stay upstairs with my daughter who has an old gas and gas stove in the kitchen for heat, and an old gas room furnace in the living room. So they will have heat and can cook too! And there is always beer on tap!
Now we just have to do some nail biting while waiting for my daughter to get home! Catch everyone later!
Hope your daughter made it home in time.
I miss the excitement of a big snowstorm.
When I was 5 or so and it would snow and knock out the power, the morning after mom would use the Coleman stove on the back steps of the kitchen (row house) and make bacon.
The aroma went up and down the alleyway and people would show up with coffee, etc. Wow. Ow.
Sweet memories.
Sometimes I fight the feeling of being ripped off because I can't walk back into that memory. I know better.
Space Time Continuum and all of that.
ok you guys stay safe and sound and if anyone gives you any sh!t break out the flyswatter.
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Love ya,
Diane
We have wind warnings here (up to 70 mph), but just blowing dust around, and it isn't cold.
Mame, your son sounds great. It is hard to find anyone that can do physical work anymore.
Sorry have to go, the dog won't leave me alone, she wants her supper.
Take care, hope everyone has a good weekend, Love Shirley
Deef, stay off the roof! It is too dangerous right now with all that snow.
Cat, you r so right. Only one person that is perfect n it sure isn't any of us or anyone else on this Earth.
Everyone n the nasty blizzard mess, please be careful. I hope everyone can have a peaceful weekend.
Shirley, 70mph wind is something! Have u seen any dirt tornadoes? Not sure what they r called but I have seen three small ones in a old crop field when traveling from GA to FL. I wander where the poor little bird go for shelter? I know I am weird thinking about the poor birds.
Concern Question Anyone: The mil been going to the bathroom a lot n one time I could hear cabinet doors shutting. My concern is that I am wandering if she is looking for something for her butt. Because, she would ask me about a suppository n I would tell her she has to wait until 8pm at night before she can have one. What do you do if u think she is plundering n bathroom for something n you don't won't her to put let say, Fixodent or something else back their on her butt that don't belong? I have one big wooden cabinet that cannot be removed n a few sliding drawers, two that r attached to the sink. She found out how to open the latch that I had on bottom door in her room. I feel I need to do something to protect her for their is not use n telling her Not to do it for she just forget within 15minutes. Help for some advice.
Flex-did you leave your mom there and you are going to be home taking care of yourself? Or did you bring her home? Just clarifying... Mom always thinks I am leaving her at the daycare but they always say they have no beds and the help goes home at 5! When she was in the Nursing Home for rehab-we put a big sign on the wall with the words "GOAL:To get stronger and go home". We kept having to point it out to her...but it was there. Maybe if she continues they could put a board up with the days she will be there and mark them off each day or something with the last day saying you are coming to pick her up. Just a thought. But I know it must have been terribly hard for you to hear her like that. Breaks our hearts! We feel for ya!
Deef! Hold on tight! Hope you can check in with us soon!
Bobbie-are you a trekkie???? I loved Star Trek-The Next Generation. We own all of the DVD's!!!
Meanwhile-my husband always says the genes passed to our son were for a farmer of some kind of work horse! He will not be able to sit at a desk that is for sure!!! He lifts weights and is the strongest man on his college football team. He does work hard to be strong but it does seem to come naturally too. :)
We have a few inches of snow here. We are really missing out on the storm as we are too far inland. They say we will get 8 or 9 inches by morning but that is nothing compared to what the East Coast is getting! And the wind they are getting and will get! Wow! Fun night. Not! Stay safe all! Mame
Stepmother is getting worse. My poor stepsister. Her brother is an RN, and he is in charge of the medical decisions. He has his mom on a respirator, and now dialysis. Doctor doesn't think she will get better.
On the other hand, my mother has finally decided to get her butt out of the wheelchair, and start walking again. I know I should be nicer to her, but she is such a hypochondriac. She has had every surgery she could talk a doctor into doing. Her health is too bad to do more surgeries, she was so disappointed when they told her that.
Everyone. stay safe and warm. Shirley
Daughter got home fine as we only had about a half inch at that point. She said the roads were wet from all the traffic heading home so they could be off the roads by 4PM. LilDeb, yes, Mame is right, sit with MIL when she is in the bathroom. Safer for you both that way. Been sitting with Mom for 4 years now because she would fall when either sitting down on the toilet, or getting back up. And she would get into all kinds of things in her bedroom while the door was closed. It's a lot easier if there is a mess in their pants too.
Diane, hope you left your mom there, and I hope you told them not to bother you unless it is an absolute emergency. Mom will get over it and may even find she likes the change after a couple days. Take care of yourself and try not to over think leaving her there. You need the rest for sure!
Shirley, that is some kind of wind! Visited my sister when they lived in Colorado Springs and I remember the sand storms rolling across the flat plains and right through their house. got into any tiny crack or crevice it could and left a layer of dust in the entire house.
Bobbie, ahhh! row houses! We have them all over the center of town. they were built by the companies that owned the mills in this town. Google Ware, ma. sometime. It was a mill town and the history of how it became known as "THe Town That Can't Be Licked" is talked about. most of the mills have either burned down or shut down over the years. We had a shoe mill. athletic foot gear mill, woolen mill, dress making factory, knitting mill, wire mill and a paper mill. the last 2 are more recent and still running. The river that goes right through the middle of the town was the main power source back then and the reason the town ended up as a "mill" town. This house is an old Otis Company boarding house where the employees lived.
Sharyn, I've been signing all Mom's medical paperwork for 5 years now. Brother and sister are her medical proxies and sister is POA, but I'm the one that gets all her medical information and handles all her paperwork. In other words, I do all the work, they got the titles! Okay by me, just trying to keep things in order here. Hope you can get things straightened out for all of you soon.
Okay, the fresh air is getting to me, so I will say goodnight as I have to get up before Mom so I can help clean out all the snow! the roof will be easy as the snow is dry and light and fluffy!
bobbie Mike and ma are down in Orlando tonight. Ma is staying with Carolyn and Mike is in a motel. So far they are having a great time. Talked about going to the Keys. I think Uncle Harolds son Bob lives down there somewhere. He got your number so who knows when he will hook up with you. Wish we could make the journey but someday. Love ya Cuz
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If I was 30 years younger, I would have no problem and would already be out there pecking away at the snow.
It's still coming down and blowing like crazy, so I'm going to sit with my coffee and just admire the view for now. Got the camera charged up and ready for picture taking. I will try to get some onto the FB page of the group later today, that is if I'm still breathing!!
Holy Snowachusettes!!!
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Athena-it is great how our perspective of gross changes over time! Things that made us gag-do so no longer.... Thank God!
Deef-Snowachussets! Love it! Be careful!!! Glad the snow is fluffy tho. I thought it would be wet so close to the ocean.
Cuz-stealing the joke about WORK for my Facebook page! I read your jokes to hubby and now he is looking jokes up on the internet! Thanks for the silliness!
We got about 8 inches like they said we would. Snowplows woke me up about 4am. UGH. Mom, the dog, snoring hubby, snowplows...it is alwasy something! It looks pretty out there. Wish we weren't so far on the outskirts of the storm! Supposed to rain Monday...yuck. There is something so pleasant about a freshly fallen snow...glad you got to make snow angels Deef!
How you feeling today Flex?? Austin, Bobbie, Lildeb, Stormy, Cat, Jen, Linda, Sharyn, Meanwhile-how you all doin? Anyone else I missed-hello! Drop us a note-or two letters-what did Bobbie say-LM-(that is for Lurking Mode I presume??) Have a decent day. Mame
Indio helped me haul 1200 pounds of hay home for the horses. It was all in one big bale. Tied it to the gate post to pull it out of the truck, then used the truck to push it in the barn.
Still waiting for news about my stepmother. Her son has to make the decisions, I can sit here and say I would do it differently, but wouldn't want to be in his shoes right now either.
I'm still coughing and spluttering. My asthma kicked in through the night so I woke up at 4am unable to breathe. Thankfully my inhaler got me going again. Mom is still at the Presbyterian Home. She still isn't a happy camper, but I need to get some rest and kick this crud! My brother is such a wimp he won't visit mom because he is afraid she will beg him to take her home. Mom told the pastor today that the food tasted like sawdust and didn't taste like that man's cooking (meaning James). James had a good chuckle when he heard that.
Jen, I was thinking about you as I ate my chinese food tonight. I ordered in because I didn't want to cook or to go out. It's only 7:30pm but I think my bed is calling. Good night dear ones.
That snow has already killed a little boy while he was in a car, while his dad was shoveling snow. Then, I think it said he went into cardiac-arrest. Prayers for that family. Plus, a lot of them without power.
That was the name of them, 'Dirt-devils.'
Shirley, sorry that your SM not doing good. Respirator n dialysis don't sound good. Prayers for your family n SM. On the other hand, that is good news that your mom is trying to get up n walk a little on her own. I hope u have a nice weekend.
Anyone every hear about a "toilet seat cover?" Not the tissue type or the plastic toilet seats for they get cracked n can hurt. Shoot, here is the webpage that I found one place that carries them, easycomforts.
I was thinking about ordering it for the mil for she always complains the toilet seat is either too cold or too hard for her. Anyone else ever use one of these things?
Two women were sitting next to each other at a bar. After a while, one looks at the other and says, 'I can't help but think, from listening to you, that you're from Ireland .'
The other woman responds proudly, 'Yes, I sure am!'
The first one says, 'So am I! And where about in Ireland are ya from?'
The other woman answers, 'I'm from Dublin , I am.'
The first one responds, 'So, am I!! And what street did you live on in Dublin ?'
The other woman says, 'A lovely little area. It was in the west end. I lived on Warbury Street in the old central part of town.'
The first one says, 'Faith and begorrah it's a small world. So did I! So did I! And what school did ya go to?'
The other woman answers, 'Well now, I went to Holy Heart of Mary, of course.'
The first one gets really excited and says, 'And so did I! Tell me, what year did you graduate?'
The other woman answers, 'Well, now, let's see. I graduated in 1964.'
The first woman exclaims, 'The Good Lord must be smiling down upon us! I can hardly believe our good luck at winding up in the same pub tonight! Can you believe it? I graduated from Holy Heart of Mary in 1964 me self!'
About this time, Michael walks into the bar, sits down, and orders a beer.
Brian, the bartender, walks over to Michael shaking his head and mutters, 'It's going to be a long night tonight.'
Michael asks, 'Why do you say that, Brian?'
Brian answers, 'The Flanagan twins are drunk again!'
Diane, hope you get to feeling better. If your Mom was in her right mind, I know she would want you to take care of yourself first.
Athena, sounds like the Clorox commercial with the little boy who finally goes by himself. Proudly tells his mom what he has done and she goes to look in the toilet and finds nothing. Then he points to the tub and she grabs the Clorox!
Mame, 8" sounds pretty good to me right about now!
Meanwhile, I used to have lop eared rabbits and would by a bale of hau for the once and a while. The regular size ones are pretty heavy, but that one you got is monstrous! One of my younger sisters has 2 horses and gets hay deliveries that she stores in the barn. She used to live at and work on a horse rescue farm. They boarded her horses in exchange for her work. She would get up at 5 every morning and do her work there, then head to her main job as head of grounds and facilities for a local bank. I don't know how she did all that! Sorry about your step mom. Hope they can do something to make her comfortable.
LilDeb, I don't care for those soft toilet seats. Just me, but I would think as they start to get some wear, that they would be a good breeding ground for bacteria. That's just my opinion. Plus when it's hot, I imagine my butt sticking to it!
Susan!!!! How are you? Hope California is working out for you! Do you have a job and place of your own yet? So glad to here from you and don't you feel guilty about missing out on this mess! If you were home, you would have it much worse than us and would probably have no power for days. Be glad you are way out there in the warm sun!
Diane, sure hope you are feeling better today! A cold is bad enough, but add asthma on top of that and it's a nightmare!
Time to get Mom some lunch and then get going outside. Have to clean the snow off the pool cover. Don't want all that extra weight on it when it rains!
Last week the local elementary school burned down over night...it was a total loss. I know it wasn't the school my kids went to, but they did have a connection with one of the teachers at that school. In fact when the local news were reporting on it, we saw him on camera. Both of my kids 19 and 18 years old and my nephew almost 18, had Mr. D. for a 5th grade teacher.
After seeing the devastation at the school, the kids and I wanted to do something. So we gathered up books and school supplies and met up with Mr. D. in a portable classroom and stayed there for 4 hours helping him set up his new class. It was so fun and wonderful to do something selfless for someone. He so greatly appreciated it and gave me a sense of pride that my kids were there doing the work right beside me. They made me realize that my mom's legacy of love is caring is in them too.
After the afternoon was over we went back home and talked about the day. We all talked about volunteering more. I think that is where my path is taking me...back to school to volunteer. The satisfaction it gave me yesterday made my heart smile. I l loved it when my kids were smaller and yesterday brought it all back. I know I am rattling on...sorry about that but I just wanted to share my day. Thanks for listening. God Bless.