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Yogi, thanks for being the better person and owning up to your comments! New perspectives on any given situation should be welcome. After all, this is the place for outspoken words and opinions. Although I don't agree with everything you said, having the courage to show your "big girl panties" earns my respect!
I just noticed my tyro!! What an a$$!! I usually proofread, but trying to keep my eye on paid care giver today. Got some issues and I'm thinking of cutting their hourly wage to fit the effort they put forth! Too much cellphone activity and other outside distractions led to Mom not getting all her meds TWICE this weekend. And it was the PD meds to boot! Made Mom suffer for no reason other then being more interested in cellphone conversations. Tired of having to do a sink full of dishes at night and having uninvited guests at Mom's too. Big mistake on my part, letting paid care givers become part of the family. I know they love my mom dearly and truly enjoy being in her company, but things have gotten way to comfortable and I need to put my foot down hard! I will address each of you in a post later. I did not write down notes on each of your latest posts and if I go back to look, I will lose all this! Hate that feature on this site! just got back from the bank, and man, it is freezing out there! Wind is howling nonstop and making it impossible to be out for long. Glad i have short hair. It was standing on end the entire time I was out! Hey Bonnie! I mean Bobbie!!!! Have a great afternoon!
i think I missed it again, but I have enough crap on my plate, shoes, wall, ceiling, whatever to go looking to add to my misery, sorry the in fighting has become out fighting again...not even gonna look.
Just got back from cemetery; taking flowers to grandma, who I miss terribly, and looking around at all the newly dug graves in our section there, been a lot of funerals this week and wondering when is his?...
Saw robins all over the place Spring has arrived early in Spokane, WA.
Deef god these people suck You are paying them for a service you are NOT getting! I'd say definitely say or do something...Easy for me to say I am not there...
Kuli as a REMINDER, AC is for ALL caregivers. And you can post there whenever you like if it means helping newcomers to AC. The "clique" does not entitle you or anyone else on AC to OWN a particular thread. Any one can post. People are condemning Wickersn for what she wrote but several people wrote what she was judging them. Then the same people accusing her are JUST as guilty because they've judged her for what she said.
Wonder ALL you like as to why I come back to this site. I have EVERY right as you and everyone else has. NONE of you OWN this site or this thread yet you bash the new people because you don't like what they say. Well, you are no different. I don't like the fact that numerous individuals think they are high and mighty and because a new person doesn't quite understand what is going on and needs to see what this site has to offer, gets bashed because they may misspeak. The new person gets turned off and leaves the site where they could have received the help they are desperately looking for, just maybe not on this thread.
If you are all looking for friendship go to Fb or email one another. The AC ettiquette states to keep the topic on caregiving being supportive and encouraging. It doesn't state ANYTHING about bashing a newcomer or ANYONE being the "Captain of this boat." NOT one of you owns this thread or site. No matter who starts it.
Most all of you had to have started where Wickrsn started. Feeling that they could handle the caregiving being superwoman or superman. It didn't and doesn't work that way for everyone, granted, but I honestly do NOT believe anyone comes onto any thread to be intentionall nasty, berating or judgemental.
You need to give the new person a chance just as much as you want them to give you a chance. Granted after ALL that you have ALL gone through and ARE still going through has brought you closer to one another, ALL I am simply stating is give the newcomer the opportunity to say what they have to in order to find out how this particular thread works. Maybe guide them to another thread that is more suited to their needs. When they become comfortable and have more of an understanding, then maybe it won't be appearing judgemental or upsetting anyone if they come back. Don't bash them for what they don't have knowledge of. Isn't that what this whole site is about? Gaining knowledge????
I think this is just going to keep happening. I wonder, I imagine it happens on other threads too. Not everyone is going to get along and it is easy to snap at someone and unload on a page than it would be in real life. We should just give everyone the benefit of the doubt till they come right out and attack you. W sounded worn out and upset. I hope she finds some help and support somewhere. How does anyone really know what anybody else is going through in their own life?
kuli is right "ignorance is no excuse" can't apply in this setting.
You walk right into it, but like putting your best foot forward, if you open with what appears to be an attack you will very likely get the same back.
Yogi is correct, only the site owners have say, we all just toddle along here as guests. Never assume and thing I guess. Try not to jump on someone who comes in, who knows why they came here to begin with? All these situations are made up of two or more people with who knows what backgrounds and beliefs. It is easy to step on toes, harder to put on another persons shoes and walk straight.
AHOY BOBBIE and hello everyone else. Been a while since I've posted. need to go back and read what's been happening in your worlds lately. Mom is going to move to memory care here very soon if they have a spot. Hate to move her from her facility she is in, they just build a new memory care wing but for some reason they don't take Medicaid, but a sister facility owned by the same parent company does. Only problem is that it is further away from both my home and my work. She is having hallucinations, she lost one of her hearing aids (guess she sent it to find her partial dentures she lost a month ago), her toileting is starting to go downhill, she's lonely and scared and does nothing all day but move her things as she is convinced "the man that comes in her room and sits in her chair" has bought the place and is making her leave. She needs the supervision and the activities to fill her days. I was reading about sugar and how it seems to make the dementia symptoms worse...? Well, shit howdy, I wasn't aware of that. I am so guilty of bringing mom grapes, bananas, cookies and some candy so she will have snacks in her room. Thanks for the info, I will cut back and see if it helps. Well, will write more later, hope you all are hanging in there...spring is just around the corner!!
Yogi, Can we please stop now? As you said yourself this site is for "caregiving, being supportive and encouraging". Beating this latest faux pas to death is not encouraging to anyone, least of all newbies that may encounter the latest mess.Can we get back to the business of helping and not the bashing and lashing you keep repeating? We have all had our say and I say ENOUGH!!! PRETTY PLEASE!!!!!! Diane, How's mom's cold? Are you feeling 100% yet? Been thinking about you and all you've been through the last few weeks. Hope all is well. Mame, Bummer you didn't get to the movies, but at least you got out and spent some time with your son. By the way, my birds are getting crazy here too! Linda, It's been really windy and cold here too! How's Sheba today? Sharyn, How did mom's MRI go? So sad to hear your nephew's story. Too much suffering for too long in one so young! I can't even imagine how the family has been coping. I will be thinking of you! Stormy, Hope the thyroid test came back ok. Did your dad see his doctor today? What's up with the feeding tube? Infection? LilDeb, sure hope you are feeling much better before your surgery. I know you will feel better after! get that donut warmed up and ready for sitting down on! Oh yeh, try not giving raisins to MIL. They may be part of the cause of her stomach pain. Lucy!!! Nice to hear from you again. definitely cut out the sugar! Mom may be eating only the sweets and that would definitely cause "brain fog" and account for more memory lapses. Good luck in placing her as You know she now needs constant supervision. It's too bad she will be in a facility that is further away from you, but it sounds like that can't be helped. Don't be too hard on yourself by trying to visit too often. With dementia, her sense of timing will not be as it should and she won't be able to comprehend how often you visit. set up a schedule that will work for you and do the best you can. let us know how it goes! Jen, is it time for a jam shipment? Should I include some Chinese take out? You're going to hate me! I had the buffet at the Chinese restaurant for lunch yesterday! Sorry!!! Barb? Anyone heard from her lately? hasn't posted in a couple weeks. She was taking her mom to the doctor and hasn't written since. Hope everything is ok Barb! Shirley???? You getting any rest from all those jobs you work? Paid help actually did great today and Mom was already sleeping when I relieved her at 7. Now all I need to do is clean up the mess I made when I decided to do chicken parm for supper! Will be expecting all you lurkers to post tonight!! Let's get back on track here!!!
Again, Yogi, if you find the posts on this thread so terrible, why come back? There is no "clique" here, just people trying to find a little bit of humor, a little bit of understanding, a little bit of support. I could tell when I read the title that it was a thread I wanted to be a part of because I saw it as being honest and meant to let you say whatever you want. However, I never, ever had anyone attack me when I was a newbie. Of course, I didn't come on telling people what they should be feeling or what they should be grateful for. Instead, I posted my latest "grossed out" experience and felt comfortable venting about all of the very gross things I was dealing with - having to catheterize my dad every month, cleaning dirty and smelly urine bags daily, digging out fecal impactions, trying desperately to get the urine smell out of the house, etc, etc. It didn't mean that I didn't love my dad - I loved him with my whole heart and never let him see me "grossed out". But sometimes it is what it is. After he passed, I stayed away for a time because I felt like I didn't have anything to share. My "grossed out" phase ended. But I come back because I try to support those still experiencing this and worse. And I do feel a bond with some of those here. I don't post regularly but I do keep up with what is going on with those who post here. If you, yourself feel this is a "clique", I'm not saying anyone owns this thread, I'm only saying why continue to come back and be irritated enough to continue to criticize those that continue to post here. I don't post on all of the threads on AC, only those I feel I have something to share or find interesting. Even if I find some titles/questions to be unacceptable for ME, I would never to criticize the people who post there. I think you need to take a step back and remember the focus here. AC doesn't offer any guarantees that anyone will agree with anything anyone posts on any site. We, the posters, have a choice to follow a thread, post on a thread, or walk away because it's not the one for me or I don't like the title. I do know that AC is for all caregivers, but the threads the caregivers join or don't join are their own choice. And I have every right not to agree with you. Love to all and wishes for a restful night, Kuli
Deefer you are right about enough being enough. I was and still am concerned about the newbies. I just want everyone that needs help and are looking for support and encouragement that they can at least get it. If not here on some other thread. I was trying to be peacemaker. Maybe I'm wrong for trying but it just kept bothering me, I'm going with my heart.
Kuli, again, I see newbies looking for help and leaving this site not just the thread because they don't understand what some people say on this thread. They, too, are emotionally raw. I just know the newbies mean no harm. I feel that in my heart. I will continue to read this thread.
oh good grief ! i have a blasted headache , so i shall make this quick , my dog sheab is on her last leg , die tnite or tmr ? my aunt opal [assed away viewing funreal friday i ll be late cuz i have a job cleanin a lady s house . daughter came over bawlin ... her friend used be her neighbor 8 yrs ago died of penomina infection went to her heart and killed her on a valentine day . left a hubby , 5 yrs old , 3 yrs old girls and 4 mos old baby boy ...
im thinking jesus christ !!!!! what the damn hell ! yes i am upset , not upset about my aunt opal and sheba , they lived a good life , time to go , but this young lady oh come on !!!! how dare you to take her and leave bunch heartbrokens down here . realy !!! what the damn shitty ass hell is that ... yes lord knows im upset . sis in law is griefin bad n been one year since her daughter were killed in car wreck . i told her i ll come friday after funeral and we ll just go chillout . do something that will bring smiles on ou r face ,
welp story of my life today . all heart aches one after another . .. plz lord i think that is enuff . love you all dearly and plz whatever u do just be safe ! xoxo
I'm so sorry to hear of all of this bad news for you and your loved ones, Linda. So hard to deal with any loss but when it's a young person with little kids, so very hard. You and all suffering will be in my prayers. Love ya, Kuli
WOW, Linda. That is a full plate filled with a lot of emotion. It's almost like what else can go wrong. I certainly hope NOTHING else does go wrong. I hope you and SIL can console one another and still make a few laughs happen. Praying for mending hearts. Blessings
Linda, I remember when you lost your niece last year! It was so horrible and now all this too! I don't blame you for raging and lashing out! It's all too much and there is no way anyone can understand that kind of hurt. I hope Sheba has a peaceful passing and I hope your family gets through these tough days ahead of you!
Deef- Dad saw the dr today and he replaced his feeding tube and he just said that it was irratated. And that's about it on that. But dads appetite doesn't seem to be what it was. I dont know if the irratation has something to do with that or what it could be. Plus he was running fever today. And he told sis he had 2 chills the other night while she went home for awhile. So I guess we will see if the changing of the new tube has anything to do with him losing his appetite. And I still haven't heard anything on my tsh levels hopefully I will hear something tomorrow. Linda- Good gracious, I know you are bombarded with emotions of grief. So many losses and for someone so young with little ones is just heartbreaking. Prayers going your way. Kuli and Yogi- Hey there. Bobbie- how's the boat doing? Sorry ya'll I can't remember everyones post and what they said. I guess it's the hypo brain fog. But I will leave ya'll with a funny tonight. I was laying down with Connor last night and while he and I were laying there, he pooted. And I said, "You pooted". And he said, "It will keep you warm". I thought I would die laughing. My thought was just like a man. Then he said, But I know something even warmer, and I said what's that and he said, " A blanket of ME". I said, Aww.... That's so sweet. The things he comes up with, just cracks me up and melts my heart. Love and hugs to all Stormy.
Stormy - Hey there. When my daughter was young, we were going to watch fireworks together. It was a little cool that night so we wrapped the blanket that we were laying on around us and she said - hey, we are just like a people taco. Even the people around us had to giggle. Miss those times. Cherish what you have with Connor. It's over way too quickly! Hugs ~ Kuli
Hey Stormy! Maybe your dad is coming down with a cold. Hope he feels better. Nothing like a warm "hug"!! My daughter slept with my husband and I until she was 8! We thought she would never leave and when she finally did, we missed her being with us! It's time we were and are still very grateful for. Kuli, people taco! Love it! Kids are so cool! Cats are fed, Mom is out cold and the supper dishes are done. I hear we may have another BIG weekend storm coming our way. Going to go and get essentials tomorrow before it gets too crazy in the stores. I think I will knit for a few minutes, then hit the pillow! It's been one hell of an exhausting day! Night everyone, sleep well!
Feeling better. Most of the time I think I'm doing so well, then I just have a little break down. I try to stay busy, is my way of avoiding feelings, probably not the best, but it's what I do. This new job is remodeling a 100 year old adobe house. My step dad bought it for my sister, and I for a rental income. It needs lots of work. I spend all my spare time sanding, patching, painting. Indio, has rebuilt part of the back wall. It's pretty exciting, and keeps me busy. Linda, so sorry about all that's going on for you right now., and Sharyn too. Life doesn't seem fair sometimes. OK a lot of the time. Lucy, hope the sugar restriction helps your Mom do better. Can't hurt to try it. Stormy, your Conner is a sweetheart. Love hearing about him. Hope your blood tests come back soon with good results. Deb, hope your surgery goes well, and not too hard of a recovery. Someone told me it isn't as bad as it used to be. Sure hope you get lots of help with MIL while your mending. Deef, glad to hear your new helpers are getting straightened out.Have a good nights sleep. Bobbie, thanks for being here starting this thread, and keeping it going. Wick, i'm so sorry about your husband. I surely hope you can get some help just taking care of him. I know how exhausting it can be. Yogi, you have a good heart. All of you help to pull me up, when I feel like sinking sometimes. Love all of you.
Thank you all! It is a rough time right now. As I said, I really don't know my brother's step son, we have been in family gatherings together but he was a teen then and you know how teens are...blended family and getting to know new members. It hit me hard yesterday which surprised me. I can't help but think of how he is feeling emotionally, his wife, my sil and brother. Such a sad situation, so heart breaking. My Mom's MRI went well, so now we wait for the neurologist to call for appt. for results. Mom also had an eye dr. appt. today, my sis took her to that. Sis said the eye dr. asked mom if she could read a line...mom said, "Shit No!" Lol!! She is losing her social inhibitions now. My mom never would have used language like that in the past in a dr. office. At home around all of us, yes she would use all kinds of language. The eye dr. busted up laughing for quite some time sis said!! An 84 year old talking like that in public is funny and acceptable, Lol!! Gotta love her and I need the laughter to get through all the sadness that is going on with my nephew. Hugs everyone!!
Bit of a scare this morning! Phone woke me up at 6:45. It was Life Alert calling to tell my husband that his dad's alarm went off and that he wasn't answering the phone. He lives on the other side of town, so husband got dressed and headed over to see what was wrong. His dad will be 103 in July and is hard of hearing. He had a bit of a fall when he got out of bed and so he pressed his alarm. Apparently he got himself up, but didn't have his hearing aids in, so couldn't hear the phone ringing when the alarm company was trying to reach him. I think he can talk into the alarm piece too, but he didn't because he couldn't here them asking him what was wrong. All ia well and my husband is making him toast and coffee and will stay with him until my sil arrives. Yes, he still lives alone with them checking in on him every day. His mind is as sharp as ever, but he's slowing down a lot now. I think that at some point in the near future, both my husband and his sister will have to take turns sleeping there at night just in case. Shirley, How cool is that! Fixing up an old adobe house sounds like fun! Are you researching specifics to keep it historically correct? Love the southwest and woul like to visit it someday. I'm a sucker for southwest jewelry! I have many pieces, but my favorite thing is cigar band style rings. Also love the pottery and art work. Anything Native American draws me in! I hear ya about avoiding feelings. I do the same to keep my sanity! Next time boat time gets close, I'll send you an alert!!! Sharyn, got to love the no inhibitions thing! When I picked Mom up from daycare on Tuesday, she smelled really ripe! I asked her if she had a mess in her pants and she said no. The girls told me she was farting all day! Of course as soon as I got her in the car, she ripped a few more and sat there and laughed as I rolled down the windows and gagged all the way home! Got to love it! Okay, time to get Mom up and off to daycare!
103 and still living by himself, that is amazing! I'm home from work today, have to go to court this afternoon. I finally got around to filing my husbands will. Not that there is much of anything to file. I have been putting it off (over a year). Don't know why, but it is one of those things that I didn't want to deal with. All that healthy food you have been feeding your Mom is having some sort of effect there Deef. I'm still laughing. It makes me remember my favorite grandmother. She would call them "grandma's little stinkers". Sometimes not so little. She had a stroke couple of years before she died, and started swearing like a sailor. This was a very prim proper old lady, we had no idea she even knew those words. Better get out to the barn, horses need feed, and the goats need to be milked.
All is well here. Snowy but pretty. Hubby's Birthday is today. Mom asked how old he is...I said 47. She says loudly-"FORTY SEVEN! That's old!" "Mom, you are 86" "OH" she says..."Well, 47 is good" hahaha She cracks me up. She is better mentally than she was Monday-but not as good as Sunday. I shouldn't have gotten so excited when she was sooo good Sunday. Having recently started the Nemenda-I guess I got my hopes up. If she hadn't just started it, I would have known it was just a good day.But when she was soooo bad on Monday, it really hit me. She had a decent visit with the bro who came from out of town. She doesn't really remember... but I keep reminding her. It makes her happy to know. Don't have the horsepower or time to write to everyone-but know I am thinking of you all. Just wanted to say hello. Stay warm everyone-they say there is snow as far west and south as AZ and NM!! What is going on??? ttyl... Mame
Mame- I was wondering the same thing. We are suppose to get alot of rain this weekend starting tomorrow. I love listening to the weather, always have. That was funny about your Mom saying 47 was old. Hehe....... Love and hugs stormy.
Hello, Grossed Out Crew, I have updated my profile page, story, added a photo of my Mother once again, and have come out of hiding. Everything is in the open, so there is no mystery. I will be posting on other threads when I have time or something to say that is helpful. I am working in kitchen/bath design and soon going back to full time retail, too. We have our daughter's wedding in May. My son has the most wonderful new girlfriend, and they are planning to get married in a year or 2. Deefer, it was so nice to have a hug exchange wth you as my alter "Invizanon." Bobbie said you guys all knew who I was--even tho I did not post on your thread. Since I am a pro-active person, I thought it best to "OUT MYSELF." That way no one takes the blame except me. Hope everyone is doing as well as possible. I think of you all, sending hugs.
Meanwhile - I am sorry you have been in the dumps, it's no fun. I do hope you get to feeling better. Deef- I have never gotten Boat time. Maybe one day. Sharyn- I was so sorry to hear of your nephew and so young. It is such a shame. I will be keeping you and the family in my prayers. Well, dad is waking up so i have to go. chat later ya'll stormy
I wrote a nice post earlier, and it got lost! hate it when that happens. Stormy and Shirley, I'll send you smoke signals next time we get close to "boat time"! Shirley, hope you got them horses all fed. Stormy, how is dad today? Mame!!! Wish I was still 47! That was a good year. I had decided to give up my home business of teaching folk painting. My daughter was a senior in high school and I needed to get out of the house, so I went back to work after being at home since my daughter was born. I'm sure you have heard of Old Sturbridge Village. Most school children in this part of the country have gone there on a school trip. It's an outdoor living history museum set as an 1830's farm community. I started working part time at the Youth gift shop. That was an eye opener as spring time would bring upwards of 2500 kids/day! It was pretty hectic! When summer came I was moved to the main gift shop at the village entrance and was asked to take the full time shipping position. I was a bit leery after being at home for so many years, but decided to take the position because it was weekdays only, no weekends. 6 Months later I was running the department and did so for the next 9 years! It was an amazing job that I hated to leave to care for Mom. It was great to be able to be a part of something that so many people loved and visited. the pay was not very good, but the benefits of the job were worth it! I was in the best shape of my adult life while doing that job! And I was 57 when I left! the most daunting part for me was the first time I had to use a computer! I didn't know how! But I caught on quickly and learned to love using it. Mom got up exceptionally well again this morning. Ate all of her breakfast and went off to daycare without a hitch! we'll see how she is in an hour when I go to get her. I've been putting her down for a nap when we get home. She doesn't sleep, but rests and does much better at supper time. Getting rid of the sweets was the best thing I ever did! She is less frustrated and I am less stressed because there is actually some comprehension going on there! Seriously, all of you who are dealing with someone with dementia, cut out as much sugar as you can! You will not believe the difference! Check labels for sugar content in juices and canned fruit etc. I had "NO Sugar Added" cranberry juice and it was 34 sugars per glass, but the "Light" is only 10grams. Go figure! Hope everyone is having a good day! I have to head to Walgreens and pick up 6 prescriptions!!!
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who the hay is Bonnie?
hahahaha
Incidentally, I am using my Big Girl Panties as a sail.... bring yours over Yogi and we'll go faster!
lovbob
Tired of having to do a sink full of dishes at night and having uninvited guests at Mom's too. Big mistake on my part, letting paid care givers become part of the family. I know they love my mom dearly and truly enjoy being in her company, but things have gotten way to comfortable and I need to put my foot down hard!
I will address each of you in a post later. I did not write down notes on each of your latest posts and if I go back to look, I will lose all this! Hate that feature on this site!
just got back from the bank, and man, it is freezing out there! Wind is howling nonstop and making it impossible to be out for long. Glad i have short hair. It was standing on end the entire time I was out!
Hey Bonnie! I mean Bobbie!!!! Have a great afternoon!
Just got back from cemetery; taking flowers to grandma, who I miss terribly, and looking around at all the newly dug graves in our section there, been a lot of funerals this week and wondering when is his?...
Saw robins all over the place Spring has arrived early in Spokane, WA.
Deef god these people suck You are paying them for a service you are NOT getting! I'd say definitely say or do something...Easy for me to say I am not there...
Hope Spring comes for everyone soon...Jen
Wonder ALL you like as to why I come back to this site. I have EVERY right as you and everyone else has. NONE of you OWN this site or this thread yet you bash the new people because you don't like what they say. Well, you are no different. I don't like the fact that numerous individuals think they are high and mighty and because a new person doesn't quite understand what is going on and needs to see what this site has to offer, gets bashed because they may misspeak. The new person gets turned off and leaves the site where they could have received the help they are desperately looking for, just maybe not on this thread.
If you are all looking for friendship go to Fb or email one another. The AC ettiquette states to keep the topic on caregiving being supportive and encouraging. It doesn't state ANYTHING about bashing a newcomer or ANYONE being the "Captain of this boat." NOT one of you owns this thread or site. No matter who starts it.
Most all of you had to have started where Wickrsn started. Feeling that they could handle the caregiving being superwoman or superman. It didn't and doesn't work that way for everyone, granted, but I honestly do NOT believe anyone comes onto any thread to be intentionall nasty, berating or judgemental.
You need to give the new person a chance just as much as you want them to give you a chance. Granted after ALL that you have ALL gone through and ARE still going through has brought you closer to one another, ALL I am simply stating is give the newcomer the opportunity to say what they have to in order to find out how this particular thread works. Maybe guide them to another thread that is more suited to their needs. When they become comfortable and have more of an understanding, then maybe it won't be appearing judgemental or upsetting anyone if they come back. Don't bash them for what they don't have knowledge of. Isn't that what this whole site is about? Gaining knowledge????
kuli is right "ignorance is no excuse" can't apply in this setting.
You walk right into it, but like putting your best foot forward, if you open with what appears to be an attack you will very likely get the same back.
Diane, How's mom's cold? Are you feeling 100% yet? Been thinking about you and all you've been through the last few weeks. Hope all is well.
Mame, Bummer you didn't get to the movies, but at least you got out and spent some time with your son. By the way, my birds are getting crazy here too!
Linda, It's been really windy and cold here too! How's Sheba today?
Sharyn, How did mom's MRI go? So sad to hear your nephew's story. Too much suffering for too long in one so young! I can't even imagine how the family has been coping. I will be thinking of you!
Stormy, Hope the thyroid test came back ok. Did your dad see his doctor today? What's up with the feeding tube? Infection?
LilDeb, sure hope you are feeling much better before your surgery. I know you will feel better after! get that donut warmed up and ready for sitting down on! Oh yeh, try not giving raisins to MIL. They may be part of the cause of her stomach pain.
Lucy!!! Nice to hear from you again. definitely cut out the sugar! Mom may be eating only the sweets and that would definitely cause "brain fog" and account for more memory lapses. Good luck in placing her as You know she now needs constant supervision. It's too bad she will be in a facility that is further away from you, but it sounds like that can't be helped. Don't be too hard on yourself by trying to visit too often. With dementia, her sense of timing will not be as it should and she won't be able to comprehend how often you visit. set up a schedule that will work for you and do the best you can. let us know how it goes!
Jen, is it time for a jam shipment? Should I include some Chinese take out? You're going to hate me! I had the buffet at the Chinese restaurant for lunch yesterday! Sorry!!!
Barb? Anyone heard from her lately? hasn't posted in a couple weeks. She was taking her mom to the doctor and hasn't written since. Hope everything is ok Barb!
Shirley???? You getting any rest from all those jobs you work?
Paid help actually did great today and Mom was already sleeping when I relieved her at 7. Now all I need to do is clean up the mess I made when I decided to do chicken parm for supper!
Will be expecting all you lurkers to post tonight!! Let's get back on track here!!!
Kuli, again, I see newbies looking for help and leaving this site not just the thread because they don't understand what some people say on this thread. They, too, are emotionally raw. I just know the newbies mean no harm. I feel that in my heart. I will continue to read this thread.
my dog sheab is on her last leg , die tnite or tmr ?
my aunt opal [assed away
viewing funreal friday
i ll be late cuz i have a job cleanin a lady s house .
daughter came over bawlin ...
her friend used be her neighbor 8 yrs ago
died of penomina infection went to her heart and killed her
on a valentine day .
left a hubby , 5 yrs old , 3 yrs old girls and 4 mos old baby boy ...
im thinking jesus christ !!!!! what the damn hell ! yes i am upset ,
not upset about my aunt opal and sheba , they lived a good life , time to go ,
but this young lady oh come on !!!! how dare you to take her and leave bunch heartbrokens down here . realy !!! what the damn shitty ass hell is that ... yes lord knows im upset .
sis in law is griefin bad n been one year since her daughter were killed in car wreck . i told her i ll come friday after funeral and we ll just go chillout . do something that will bring smiles on ou r face ,
welp story of my life today . all heart aches one after another . .. plz lord i think that is enuff . love you all dearly and plz whatever u do just be safe ! xoxo
Linda- Good gracious, I know you are bombarded with emotions of grief. So many losses and for someone so young with little ones is just heartbreaking. Prayers going your way.
Kuli and Yogi- Hey there.
Bobbie- how's the boat doing?
Sorry ya'll I can't remember everyones post and what they said. I guess it's the hypo brain fog.
But I will leave ya'll with a funny tonight. I was laying down with Connor last night and while he and I were laying there, he pooted. And I said, "You pooted". And he said, "It will keep you warm". I thought I would die laughing. My thought was just like a man. Then he said, But I know something even warmer, and I said what's that and he said, " A blanket of ME". I said, Aww.... That's so sweet. The things he comes up with, just cracks me up and melts my heart. Love and hugs to all Stormy.
My daughter slept with my husband and I until she was 8! We thought she would never leave and when she finally did, we missed her being with us! It's time we were and are still very grateful for.
Kuli, people taco! Love it! Kids are so cool!
Cats are fed, Mom is out cold and the supper dishes are done. I hear we may have another BIG weekend storm coming our way. Going to go and get essentials tomorrow before it gets too crazy in the stores. I think I will knit for a few minutes, then hit the pillow! It's been one hell of an exhausting day!
Night everyone, sleep well!
Really need that boat time after today!
Linda, so sorry about all that's going on for you right now., and Sharyn too. Life doesn't seem fair sometimes. OK a lot of the time.
Lucy, hope the sugar restriction helps your Mom do better. Can't hurt to try it.
Stormy, your Conner is a sweetheart. Love hearing about him. Hope your blood tests come back soon with good results.
Deb, hope your surgery goes well, and not too hard of a recovery. Someone told me it isn't as bad as it used to be. Sure hope you get lots of help with MIL while your mending.
Deef, glad to hear your new helpers are getting straightened out.Have a good nights sleep.
Bobbie, thanks for being here starting this thread, and keeping it going.
Wick, i'm so sorry about your husband. I surely hope you can get some help just taking care of him. I know how exhausting it can be.
Yogi, you have a good heart.
All of you help to pull me up, when I feel like sinking sometimes. Love all of you.
Hey did you hear about the brain eating zombies swarmed Washington DC,
They died of starvation.
All ia well and my husband is making him toast and coffee and will stay with him until my sil arrives. Yes, he still lives alone with them checking in on him every day. His mind is as sharp as ever, but he's slowing down a lot now. I think that at some point in the near future, both my husband and his sister will have to take turns sleeping there at night just in case.
Shirley, How cool is that! Fixing up an old adobe house sounds like fun! Are you researching specifics to keep it historically correct? Love the southwest and woul like to visit it someday. I'm a sucker for southwest jewelry! I have many pieces, but my favorite thing is cigar band style rings. Also love the pottery and art work. Anything Native American draws me in! I hear ya about avoiding feelings. I do the same to keep my sanity! Next time boat time gets close, I'll send you an alert!!!
Sharyn, got to love the no inhibitions thing! When I picked Mom up from daycare on Tuesday, she smelled really ripe! I asked her if she had a mess in her pants and she said no. The girls told me she was farting all day! Of course as soon as I got her in the car, she ripped a few more and sat there and laughed as I rolled down the windows and gagged all the way home! Got to love it!
Okay, time to get Mom up and off to daycare!
I'm home from work today, have to go to court this afternoon. I finally got around to filing my husbands will. Not that there is much of anything to file. I have been putting it off (over a year). Don't know why, but it is one of those things that I didn't want to deal with.
All that healthy food you have been feeding your Mom is having some sort of effect there Deef. I'm still laughing. It makes me remember my favorite grandmother. She would call them "grandma's little stinkers". Sometimes not so little. She had a stroke couple of years before she died, and started swearing like a sailor. This was a very prim proper old lady, we had no idea she even knew those words.
Better get out to the barn, horses need feed, and the goats need to be milked.
I have updated my profile page, story, added a photo of my Mother once again, and have come out of hiding. Everything is in the open, so there is no mystery.
I will be posting on other threads when I have time or something to say that is helpful. I am working in kitchen/bath design and soon going back to full time retail, too. We have our daughter's wedding in May. My son has the most wonderful new girlfriend, and they are planning to get married in a year or 2.
Deefer, it was so nice to have a hug exchange wth you as my alter "Invizanon."
Bobbie said you guys all knew who I was--even tho I did not post on your thread. Since I am a pro-active person, I thought it best to "OUT MYSELF." That way no one takes the blame except me.
Hope everyone is doing as well as possible. I think of you all, sending hugs.
Christina xo
Deef- I have never gotten Boat time. Maybe one day.
Sharyn- I was so sorry to hear of your nephew and so young. It is such a shame. I will be keeping you and the family in my prayers.
Well, dad is waking up so i have to go. chat later ya'll stormy
Stormy and Shirley, I'll send you smoke signals next time we get close to "boat time"!
Shirley, hope you got them horses all fed.
Stormy, how is dad today?
Mame!!! Wish I was still 47! That was a good year. I had decided to give up my home business of teaching folk painting. My daughter was a senior in high school and I needed to get out of the house, so I went back to work after being at home since my daughter was born.
I'm sure you have heard of Old Sturbridge Village. Most school children in this part of the country have gone there on a school trip. It's an outdoor living history museum set as an 1830's farm community. I started working part time at the Youth gift shop. That was an eye opener as spring time would bring upwards of 2500 kids/day! It was pretty hectic! When summer came I was moved to the main gift shop at the village entrance and was asked to take the full time shipping position. I was a bit leery after being at home for so many years, but decided to take the position because it was weekdays only, no weekends. 6 Months later I was running the department and did so for the next 9 years! It was an amazing job that I hated to leave to care for Mom. It was great to be able to be a part of something that so many people loved and visited. the pay was not very good, but the benefits of the job were worth it! I was in the best shape of my adult life while doing that job! And I was 57 when I left! the most daunting part for me was the first time I had to use a computer! I didn't know how! But I caught on quickly and learned to love using it.
Mom got up exceptionally well again this morning. Ate all of her breakfast and went off to daycare without a hitch! we'll see how she is in an hour when I go to get her. I've been putting her down for a nap when we get home. She doesn't sleep, but rests and does much better at supper time. Getting rid of the sweets was the best thing I ever did! She is less frustrated and I am less stressed because there is actually some comprehension going on there!
Seriously, all of you who are dealing with someone with dementia, cut out as much sugar as you can! You will not believe the difference! Check labels for sugar content in juices and canned fruit etc. I had "NO Sugar Added" cranberry juice and it was 34 sugars per glass, but the "Light" is only 10grams. Go figure!
Hope everyone is having a good day! I have to head to Walgreens and pick up 6 prescriptions!!!