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Somehow I missed the posts before all of Bobbie's jokes took over. Jen, well said and you too Deef. Hey, the point is this thread is here to help. When I first found it, I laughed until I cried reading from the beginning and the only sadness I had was that I hadn't been here at the beginning.
Today I was wondering, what happened to Pamela. Ironic that I was wondering about this person who I never shared a post with, but who's sense of humor and heartfelt circumstances still stay with me today. Pamela, I hope your life is filled with love and happiness. I feel that way about many of the early posters. I found it hard to read all of the GO thread.....for computer reasons and losing my place......and then I think a lot of your really good conversations got moved off the thread due to the comments of others who rushed in with their judgement.
Lildeb: You will get a whole bunch of light from me and I hope everyone here will be sending the same to you on the day of your surgery. I'm sure they will. I would be more than happy to meet with your husband and explain the basics to him. He pisses me off, and I hope you are not offended that I am saying that, but you deserve all of us to be in the waiting room and with you at home after surgery. For sure, your recovery would not be boring and your hubby and your beloved MIL would be shocked to see how much you are loved by a giant trove of caregivers and ass kicking women who would not let you be burdened while you are trying to heal.
I went to a celebration of life for my dear neighbor who passed last month. It was heartwarming to see all the photos of her during her many years of life. Her doctor (also our doctor) was there and I got to meet his wife, Kate. Last year her dad died after 10 years of Alz. She did the first Alz. walk for a cure last September Gave her my name and number, etc. I will be involved this year. Meetings start next month. It's time to get off my winey....opps.... whiney ass and do something positive.
Hope everyone had a good weekend out there! Maybe some free time or just some peace and quiet for a while. I did laundry, cooked, and did some cleaning, too. Now I have to gather the trash, but will do that in between commercials. I'm watching the Oscars, something I haven't done in years! I'm waiting to see Barbara Streisand's performance. One of my all time favorites! It's awful quiet here tonight, so I bet a lot of you are tuned in to the Oscar's too! Can't get over some of the outfits! I'm more interested in the performances that are going to happen. Ouch! They just cut off a guys acceptance speech with music that got louder and louder! LilDeb, Tell your husband that the next time he needs a procedure, he can drive himself to and from!!! I know after my shoulder surgery, that I was sick from the anesthesia and disoriented from the pain killers. I don't remember anything they told me before I went home. Good thing my husband was there! Stormy, hope your dad was good today. Diane, It would be nice to hear mom gave you a peaceful weekend. Mame, how is your mom doing? Did you get much snow? Okay, ladies that did hair and makeup for Les Miz has on pink leggings!!! Wow!!! Bobbie did you work hard on the boat this weekend, or take a break? Yogi, hope you are getting to visit your mom still. Shirley, hope you got to ride your horse this weekend. Maxine, you all settled in yet? Sharyn, hope the MRI results for your mom are good news. Let us know please! Jen, been wishing really hard that you got to have a good weekend for a change! Linda, Been thinking of you girl! Cat, A belated Happy Birthday to you! hey there Mishka, Book, Kuli, Sskape, Cuz and anyone else I missed. You know, that memory thing you get when your my age! Hope you all had a great weekend, and if not, tomorrow will be better! Or maybe not! I just remembered why Mom was so antsy again today! FULL MOON, tomorrow!!! Commercial, time to gather the trash!!
Hi gang! Weekend was pretty good here. Oldest bro who has been really sick since Christmas was finally better enough to come visit mom. It is so funny the things she remembers.. Whispered tones-"he doesn't come here much" HAHAHA... She is doing really well for her...I find that if I wake her in the morning, she is totally confused....but if I let her sleep till she wakes herself-she is much better mentally. Altho-not always! However, she would sleep till 2 in the afternoon! So, I have figured out that if I go in and talk to her at a decent time, then tell her I will be back in a 1/2 hour or something, it seems to work out. Guessing game... She still goes to bed at 10pm each night...and seems to sleep altho many times she will say she didn't sleep at all. I know she did. I hear he snoring etc. I feel like the Nemenda has helped a little already. It has just been a month... how do you really know tho-ya know? I do not have the carpet sweeper dog anymore-that was just an overnight and I am not sure if I would ever say yes again. My dog was soooo put out! I don't like to do that to him. I do have the small shepard/lab mix that comes 3 days a week for social/play time with my dog. He is almost a year. He is good for the most part. When he takes off into the woods or something-my dog will come to the door and get my attention! It's like he is saying, "mommy, he took off-go get him!" Such a mother hen. I love it. These two play well together and my dog is not off pouting like when carpet sweeper was here! My hubby has started a new sport and it is great cause it is only one night a week and it gets his mind off work which is really difficult to do! Saturday night they had all the wives come watch and we all brought a dish to pass and had dinner together etc. It was fun. Nice to get out and chat and have real conversations! My sis came to be with mom. Mom kepts saying to me, "You need to get out. I want you to go." She can be so cute and "with it" at times! Stormy-how is dad today? Hope they get to the bottom of this and soon! Deef-can't believe your hubby's dad is 103!? We have had snow here-snowed all day yesterday but melted when it hit the ground. Just little snow flakes today too-not really adding up. Gonna get warmer the next two days-in the 40's! Flex-temper tantrum is probably cause of the full moon tonight!!! Glad you got your internet back! This is my social life and I couldn't imagine it being down!!! I would die of bordom!!! Cat-That "Celebration of Life" sounds nice. Glad you connected with some nice ppl. OH-and love the idea of the flashing lights for the elk in the area!!! Good for the elk and good for the cars and their riders. Can't be a good outcome-an accidident hitting an Elk! Meanwhile-The roping competition sounds like fun! I never thought about socializing the horses and getting them used to the noises and crowd. I love horses and have ridden-but that is about all I know! And they were mostly trail horses so they just follow eachother! Jen-love the idea of the addendum! haha. Linda-so sorry for all you are going thru. Completely understand about the young people dying being more upsetting cause they haven't "lived" much yet. So sad. I am sorry. Lildeb-Sorry your hubby is a pain in the a$$ about taking time off for your procedure. We do expect more from others because that is what we would do! That is why we are all caregivers! Rip-simpler times...ahhhhh...however, I am happy for the internet for socializing such as this when cooped up in the house caregiving 24/7!!! dkjell-Had to laugh at the "two nutty women" comment! I think I am starting to go through "the change" too. Hot flashes and can't fall asleep or stay asleep long at night!!! UGH. Yea, this is all we need to go along with our already crazy lives! My hubby is not the beer drinker like yours-I am!!! Mishka-How did the party turn out??? That really is cute... Book-good to see you post! I used to get heart palpatations when things got messy but have found a great anti-anxiety med that has helped me... I grew up with a dad who could blow up at any moment and am very fearful of harsh words...for worse could always come after! I hope you will post again here...your input was always valuable! TSM-you got it! One day at a time and add the humor!!! Sharyn-So funny that your mom swore in front of the DR! My mom swears when she is good and mad but that happens rarely and never in front of an outsider. I would have fallen off my chair! Karol-spit cups-disgusting! I'd be gagging! Hey Yogi and Kuli and Christina and all others out there! And Captain Bobbie-I salute you!!! Oh-I am watching Downton Abby on Netflix! Love it!!! Have a decent day all! Thanks for being here for me! Love Mame
Thank you, Mame, I'm doing well. I'm glad you had a better weekend and that your brother is now well enough to visit your mom. I'm sure she was happy even though, "He doesn't come here much." The things they remember. Blessings
Hey there Yogi! How are you and mom doing? Hope you can still visit with her. Mame, You said your husband has taken up a new sport, but you didn't say what! Is it bowling? How about curling? No? Ice hockey? Basketball? Volleyball? I know, Roller Derby!!! Sounds like you have Mom's sleep pattern under control. Is she the one who has vasovagal episodes? I just got back from 3 hours in the ER with Mom. Daycare called me just before noon to tell me they called an ambulance for her. She was "unresponsive" and the nurse decided it was best. Well, I wish they had checked her pants. She had a nice cow patty for the ER nurse! As soon as I saw Mom and she told me that, I knew it was the problem. Loved that nurse!!! They wouldn't let me in until they had Mom all prepped and had cathed her for a urine and hooked up for an EKG and had a line ready for IV if needed. Last time I had to undress her and get her on the gurney by myself!!! What the hell!!. All her tests came back normal and the PA kept asking me if i wanted her admitted overnight for observation or sent to rehab. Not sure if he was trying to be nice and give me a rest or if he plain forgot it was the daycare that called the ambulance and not me! Last time she was admitted, they withheld her PD meds which made her crazy! So they gave her Ativan that made her even crazier! She saw bugs everywhere for a week. And Rehab???? What's left to rehab? I said no, I will take her home before someone gives her something to get her all screwed up again! The best part was the nurse in charge! What a peach she was! Funny as all get out, but very efficient and conscientious. I could hear her in the next bay looking for her rectal thermometer and I called back and said "nope, not in here!" cracked her right up! got to find some kind of fun when stuck in the Er for hours! Actually I packed Mom's pill box and my knitting, so once she calmed down, I knitted in between e-mailing back and forth with Rip in Seattle. When I got the call from daycare, my pulse started to race when I thought that maybe this was it for Mom. Stormy, you definitely are not alone in your thoughts!!! Mom's EKG was all over the place as the PD meds hadn't kicked in yet, so her entire body was jiving! Nurse finally sat on mom's legs, Lightly, to keep them still so she could get a good reading. Mom's overall health is good except for the PD and dementia. Go figure!! Okay, just wanted to vent a bit. Going to feed Mom supper early, so I can get her to bed early. She'll be tired after all that!
hello you all . i see u rip ! and i also see u book !!! :-) ~~~~ austin !!
went to rheumatoid doc , while waiting in the waiting room with my husband , a nurse wheeled out an old lady out to the waiting room , saw a ytoung bitch stood up and the old lady waved and smiled at her the young bitch just frowned at her and went behind her wheelchair so she didnt have to look at her , i got choked up cuz i always made sure dad sees what im doing otherthan push him around . i thought who in the hell are u bitch !! i was so upset , i wanted to attack her ! she wheeled her away . hubby looked at me said i felt ur pain he saw tears rollin out my eyes . he thinks that bitch works at nursing home and she just hauls that poor old woman to dr . i told him if i had that job i would greet the old lady and ask her if everythings a ok ? talk to her and tell her ok r u read we re leavin now etc , talk to that old lady please !!! nope . she just a bitchy ass bitch just gotta do that to make money . obmaj !!! then nurse called my name , i went inside and cried some more and told the nurse that i havent took my meds and i am just so torn up , i told her what was going on . shes a sweetheart felt my pain her eyes were getting teary too .... i was so glad that hubby went with me . cuz if he didnt i prob be in jail ... i dislike young punks caring for elders with no respect , dont they know the elders are humans too ? what the fk ever ! anyway i do not have rha . i have fibromyaligia .. changed night time med to something eles , rest of meds stays the same . i ll go back in 6 weeks for a ck up again . did the blood work too . says i am too tenses and i need to excerise my muscles before gettin out of bed , strech , i told her i always lay in bed think about what i gotta do today and the list gets longer and longer then i get fussy and bam i ache everywhere . today back of my neck ached , well i shall look up on internet and start learning how to treat the fibro . sheba passed away friday am . just hit me bad friday , thinkin of all the love ones around me passin , aunt opal i didnt make it to funeral , ice storm came and left . but i left friday night m i had to get away from home . i was gone all weekend . stayed with my sis in law . we had fun , shop at goodwill store , damn i love that store ! had some good margaritta too . she and i both was in needing a good time and we did and now we re happy go ladies , except today this morning ! that young lady realy ruined it ! someone mention JAM , im sorry for jam . my heart goes out to her , huggin her in cybers . love ya all nighty night xoxoxo
Linda: I'm sorry for you pain, both physical and emotional. Sorry about Sheba and your aunt and the young people dying. Sorry for old people who are treated badly. It really sucks. You take care of yourself.
Christina was right to call you Linda Heart. You are so gentle hearted. I find myself losing it all to often with mom. She whines and talks to imaginary people all the time. Then she is having temper tantrums a couple times a week. Last night's episode upset me so much I couldn't sleep. I think I can deal with the physical decline much better than the mental decline. Kathy, I hate having to take mom to the ER. Most of the time they leave it to me to undress and dress mom but this last time they took care of all of that before they took me to her. She called the nurse an SOB. Luckily he had a good personality and only laughed. She tells people off, including me, daily. Even her favorite caregivers she gives a hard time. I think the help I was getting from my brother has come to an end again. He fell on the weekend and went to the doctor today due to bad knee pain. He only has to sit next to mom for 2 hours, but I guess he isn't up to dealing with her BS. So I will be rushing like a made woman to get everything done at work. I have 5 buses going to Washington DC this week and one heading to Charleston. After this I have a breather for about 2 weeks before the real mad rush starts again. This week hospice has to re-evaluate mom to recertifiy her care for another 3 months. Between her falls, visits to ER and losing weight I think she will be recertified without any problem. I know she is certifiably crazy!!!!!!! And I'm not far behind. Okay, enough of my grousing as Jen would say. I'm not good like Mame and can address everyone, but know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Try have a good night. Howl at the moon....lol
Good God deef what was up there! Weekend Ok what else...? No ne died here, bit I shaved my head. very light and cool and bizarre. well going back to gray blond for me! Gonna be interesting at the store tomorrow. People probably think I am a cancer patient. Have not heard from bobbie here, hope you are OK there. Gah Diane sounds like you are IN it there... here things just going on the same, minus moms held in pissed at my hair cutting...another week...what ever... Stay warm and well everyone...
Hey ya'll well dad came home from the hospital today. They did the colonoscopy and they found 3 polyps. One was large, is what the doctor said. He also said that it would be 3 months before they had the biopsy results back. And I was like, "3 MONTHS". Where are they sending it to, to another country.... I know when dads thyroid tumor was biopsied it didn't take 3 months. Anywho, on the papers they gave him, it said diagnosis was a gi bleed. But the dr came in and of course he said that it could be coming from anywhere from the throat to the stomach. But I am thinking that the blood was coming from that polyp cause as soon as he came back from the colonoscopy and after they fed him they said they were releasing him. I sure hope tomorrow will be a better day for me cause I have been in a foul mood all day long. Maybe its coming from my dr changing my meds again for the hypothyroidism. They can't get that straighten out either. Someone take me far, far, far AWAY!!!! So, anyone have any ideas on this large colon polyp and what it could be???? Sorry I'm not very good company tonight. It must be a full mood. Love and hugs stormy
Jen - you are too funny. I, myself, would have waited until at least summer to shave my head. Otherwise you HAVE to wear a hat or you freeze. One of the ladies I work with did have cancer. She's in her 70's and when she lost all of her hair from chemo, she took to putting temporary tatoos on her baldness. Said it made her feel pretty! Thankfully she is still in remission. What a positive attitude she has. Me, hah! I can only wish.... Love ya Jen ~ Kuli
Jen, You planning on becoming a monk? Just kidding! I have my niece buzz my head every couple of months. Would do it once a month, but can't afford it, so it gets clipped by me in between. But it sure feels good in the hot weather! Dries fast and you don't have to worry about the wind mussing it up! Kind of liberating and scary at the same time. I have been wanting to go that short for years, but was to chicken to try it. A couple times my niece went really short due to our yakking constantly to catch up on family gossip. It was a shock at first, but I quickly got used to it. get some hair product to style it when it grows in and try it different ways until you find something you like. I bet you will end up liking the really short style. By the time my niece is done, the back and sides are about a half inch to an inch long. Now I have her do the crown that short too, so I can just have it all straight up on the back of my head. Easier that way as I have a few "cowlicks" in the back. Hell of a way to get back at your Mom!!! Send me a picture please! In the one I just e-mailed to you, my hair has been growing out for 8 weeks and is still short, but I'm calling my niece tomorrow to set a time for another buzz. the back and top are way too long! Oh yeh, another advantage is being able to wear a hat and not ruin your do! Diane, I understand you losing it sometimes! can't help it when you are at the end of your rope with everything else besides. Sorry your brother will be laid up for a while, At least he sat with her every week. I don't see my sibs at all. the last time I saw anyone was X-mas day. My youngest sister called me Friday night to remind me she was flying to Jamaica in the morning. And the middle brother and his wife are heading to their rented 3500 square foot house in Florida on this Friday! Been almost 2 years since I stayed at Rip's for a week. Heck I haven't even been away from Mom 1 night since then! I;m getting cabin fever and I think it's time to book me a flight to anywhere and then tell the sibs I'm leaving and they are in charge. I should make sure Mom has doctor appointments while I'm gone too! I WISH!!! Sharyn, Any results on your mom's MRI yet? Stormy, how's dad doing? Linda, sorry you are so sad. Hope something good starts to happen for you. Sorry about Sheba! I love my pets and know how sad it is to lose one. Hope your new medicine helps you. Really exhausted after today's episode with Mom. Going to watch the rest of "Castle" then hit the pillow. Hope everyone out there can get some rest tonight!
Guess it took me a while to type! Stormy, my brother had polyps and was losing blood after the surgery to remove them. They ended up finding out he was dangerously low on vitamin B and it was the cause of the heavy bleeding internally. It may well be that your dad will not have any more problems now that they are removed. Keep an eye on him anyway and if he doesn't seem right, call his doctor right away. Sorry it is taking so long to find the right dosage of thyroid med for you. It can be trying when you have so much already going on. Kuli, I have a real tattoo on my upper arm, but it sure would hurt to get one on the head! By the way Jen, what did you use to shave your head!on the head!
Mom sure was in a full mood today!!! PA looked at me real funny like when I blamed her actions on the full moon, but the nurse agreed with me wholeheartedly!
Well, the race is on again today!!! FIL called at 7 and says he doesn't feel well. Had a BM and his stool was black. Ah, the days of gauging our health by the color of our sh!t is not something I look forward too! I answered the phone and he is hard of hearing, so It took a minute to get him to understand his son would be there as soon as he could wake up and get dressed. Of course when my husband didn't show up 10 minutes later, he called again! My husband was grousing the entire time as they were just at the ER last weekend and stayed overnight for observation. Nothing was wrong, but i think at almost 103, he is scared to be alone now. I think I will go back to bed after I drop Mom off at daycare. Hiding under the covers sounds like an excellent idea! Damn old kitty I took in for the winter has gotten in the habit of waking me up between 5 and 6 AM every morning! I may have to kick his a$$ out the door for a couple hours to remind him why he is now a house cat! I'll let you know how things turn out here when I hear anything!
Mornin! Gonna be warm here in the 40's! The sun is staying up later and making us all very happy! The dog wants to sit on the deck alllll day. :) Hopefully a quiet day here. No dog watching etc. My dog's foot did well with the puppy here yesterday so hopefully we are over his "sprain". Still on doggy advil for any swelling or tenderness. Did I tell you that I had 24 mourning doves at the feeder the other day? I have 2 pair that are always here-but 12 pair?!!! Surely a sign of spring! This new sport my hubby is doing-well I am not sure what they call it exactly...He says "Trials" It is a motorcycle that has no seat, is very light and they ride over rocks, and logs in a very careful, deliberate, controlled, patient way. It is a lot about balance and patience... There are pegs you put your feet on and you stand the whole time. The Trials competitions have a point system and putting your foot down is points off etc... Hubby is having a great time with it. It was fun to watch him. They are doing it in a big warehouse right now-bringing in scaffolding and logs and tires etc. When the weather is better they will be in any woods around... Takes a lot of coordination. Not my strong suit! I will just watch! Wow Deef-sorry you had to bring mom to the ER and now hubby is bringing his dad. Never a dull moment. Is there a plan for FIL if he can't stay alone anymore??? And I hope you don't mind me asking-but how do you respond to the siblings telling you about there upcoming vacation??? I think I'd hang up. And yes, my mom is the one who has those vasovagal responses. I don't shower her alone anymore because of that-since it has happened in the shower. It used to only happen when she was sick. Now I never know. Linda-I understand your anger at the woman in the Dr office... My mom always told us to be kind to ppl and to acknowledge them, call them by name if you know it... I hate to see ppl be mean. So sorry about Sheba. And the fibromyalgia... Glad you had a good time with sil. Flex, sorry your bro won't be helping for a while... none of us can afford to lose anyone who helps-wish it were different. Jen-It is so fun to do something like shaving your head! You go girl! And when mom says anything-tell her it will grow back.... (even if you plan on keeping it that way!) Stromy-3 months for a biopsy...hmmmm that is wierd. Cat-how are those Elk doing?? Hey Kuli, Rip, Yogi, Lildeb and Bobbie and all the rest of you out there! Hoping each of us gets a moment of our own today! Mame
Deef-That was funny what you said about kicking the kitty out of the house. Made me laugh, I needed that. Thanks, I hope you can get your mom and fil straighten out. rip- it must still be a full mood..... Not in the mood to deal with family (dad, sis, or bro) sigh...................... Mame- I know when I heard that it was going to take 3 months to get results back I thought that I had heard my sis wrong but she said that is what the dr said. And I think that is bs! I might could understand 3 weeks but 3 months, give me break... Well, its going to be another depressing day, raining like cats and dogs here and suppose to do it all day long..... ugh...... I wish I could kick this mood off of me. Love and hugs to all of you! Stormy
Deefer that is great how the ER nurse was upbeat if you get a chance a nice thing to do is to call the ER on her shift and thank her -thank you to a nurse goes a long way in her heart-even if she is not on duty who ever takes the call will tell her and others will hear about it and maybe make them think how what they say makes a difference or write a note and send it to the ER. Linda good to see you posting we never did get shirts saying OBMAJ -I do not think we will ever hear from AJ again the KAW started at that time -I believe. I am sorry you have fibro the arthrites group have a book about fibro which is great-I know I would rather have the pain than the unbelievable tiredness I take Cymbalta which helps I started taking for depression when taking care of the husband and after he died the rhumatologist told me to keep taking it for the fibro. I laughed at you saying you went to goodwill and having a margaritta -I said hell my goodwill does not have margaritts-that is my store of choice. We cleaned out mom's apartment-my sister and I she had 3 refridgators yes 3 and we took about 1000 books to the Salvation Army store and she had about 100 turtleneck shirts which fit me and my sister-maybe 5 vacumns -never did find a small one I gave her as a gift. My cat was distressed while I was away-told him he was going to boot camp-at my sister's -they had 7 cats then last march found 3 kitens and thair parents so that made 12 and when my mom died they got her two cats -so now they have 14-I think one week at their house would be good for my spoiled kitty-I wanted to trade their Maine coon cat for my cat .
Deef~i hope your fil will be ok. Wow, 103 years old, the things he has seen in his lifetime! Stormy~I hope your dad will be ok and no more bleeding. Yes 3 months seems like a long time. The only one having a temper tantrum here is me cuz sis is flaking out on me. We have not heard from the neurologist about the MRI but I think I will call their office today, it was a week yesterday so they should have it. I have a white pitcher in a bowl with silk flowers I arranged. In the morning my cat loves to run through the house like he is on catnip. He thinks he is hiding behind the pitcher, then he will charge me...stop and run back behind the pitcher. Too cute and he makes me laugh first thing in the morning. I am off today and tomorrow but I have a busy day planned with mom, paying bills, getting her hair cut. Have a good day everyone, it will be a warm 66 today, wish I could get the roses pruned.
Deef, as I wrote you when you gave me a hug on my wall, I am still seeing my mom 3 times a week, more if I get the chance. My sis and bro see her the other days. Thank you. I hope all is well with you. Sorry to hear about your FIL . My great grandfather lived to 101 1/2. Still healthy and a sharp mind. I don't know how he did it. Age related decline is what happened but he wasn't on any meds. Hi Mame, I hope you can have the best day you can have. I know it isn't easy. Blessings
Mame, Glad your pup is feeling better, sprain is seriously ouchy
Gah black bloody stool is not good Deef, any updates on him?
Weeel I cut it to the inch with craft scissors and then used nose trimmers to get it to the scalp the shaved it in the shower...at 3 Am but I had been thinking of doing it for over a year so it wasn't a spur of the mo' thing.
Mom is still upset, not saying anything about it, won't even look at me, but she has not SEEN it I have kept a stocking cap on all weekend so she did have to look. Gah mother you saw my bald when I was born! Aunt is a beautician so getting tips from her, will be probably 2 or 3 inches by end of summer, it seems to be growing fast.
Gonna do the shopping today, see who thinks I am sick and who thinks I am crazy....
Yea Stormy-maybe he meant 3 weeks! We can hope! Austin-I love the Maine Coons too! But holy cow-you need to brush them all the time or they get matted!!! Beautiful cats tho. Sharyn-I wish for 66 degrees!!! It will come soon I know.... Yogi-thanks. Mom is still snoring away so I am getting lots of little things done! It is good to get up early and just work away at things sometimes! Usually I am interrupted so often I never know what I was working on let alone get anything accomplished! Gotta start bringing her into the day tho... I always tell her to "wiggle your toes!" And that "I will be back in 5 minutes!" Like she did to us when we were kids! She laughs unless she really has no clue who I am or who she is at that moment... some days are clearer than others! Mame
Fil in the hospital. They found blood in his stool, so they are going to scope him when they can find an available surgeon. All the blood work, etc. was fine, so may just be an irritation in his stomach from the aspirin he takes every day for his heart. Go figure! Fix one thing, break another. Will let you know when I hear more. Mom went off to daycare this morning, like nothing ever happened! I asked her if she remembered going in the ambulance yesterday and she looked at me like I"M CRAZY!!!!
Wow Deef-hope fil is ok! And I completely understand your mom not remembering....mom never remembers hospital visits either... Mom is really not with it this morning. When I asked her how old she was she said "I think 15." Which would explain why all the things I was trying to remind her of were so foreign to her! Poor thing... I told her she would remember things after she ate... and if she didn't, I was here to remind her. She was ok with that. Poor thing. :(
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Today I was wondering, what happened to Pamela. Ironic that I was wondering about this person who I never shared a post with, but who's sense of humor and heartfelt circumstances still stay with me today. Pamela, I hope your life is filled with love and happiness. I feel that way about many of the early posters. I found it hard to read all of the GO thread.....for computer reasons and losing my place......and then I think a lot of your really good conversations got moved off the thread due to the comments of others who rushed in with their judgement.
Lildeb: You will get a whole bunch of light from me and I hope everyone here will be sending the same to you on the day of your surgery. I'm sure they will. I would be more than happy to meet with your husband and explain the basics to him. He pisses me off, and I hope you are not offended that I am saying that, but you deserve all of us to be in the waiting room and with you at home after surgery. For sure, your recovery would not be boring and your hubby and your beloved MIL would be shocked to see how much you are loved by a giant trove of caregivers and ass kicking women who would not let you be burdened while you are trying to heal.
I went to a celebration of life for my dear neighbor who passed last month. It was heartwarming to see all the photos of her during her many years of life. Her doctor (also our doctor) was there and I got to meet his wife, Kate. Last year her dad died after 10 years of Alz. She did the first Alz. walk for a cure last September Gave her my name and number, etc. I will be involved this year. Meetings start next month. It's time to get off my winey....opps.... whiney ass and do something positive.
Sending every one my best wishes.
I did laundry, cooked, and did some cleaning, too. Now I have to gather the trash, but will do that in between commercials. I'm watching the Oscars, something I haven't done in years! I'm waiting to see Barbara Streisand's performance. One of my all time favorites!
It's awful quiet here tonight, so I bet a lot of you are tuned in to the Oscar's too! Can't get over some of the outfits! I'm more interested in the performances that are going to happen. Ouch! They just cut off a guys acceptance speech with music that got louder and louder!
LilDeb, Tell your husband that the next time he needs a procedure, he can drive himself to and from!!! I know after my shoulder surgery, that I was sick from the anesthesia and disoriented from the pain killers. I don't remember anything they told me before I went home. Good thing my husband was there!
Stormy, hope your dad was good today.
Diane, It would be nice to hear mom gave you a peaceful weekend.
Mame, how is your mom doing? Did you get much snow?
Okay, ladies that did hair and makeup for Les Miz has on pink leggings!!! Wow!!!
Bobbie did you work hard on the boat this weekend, or take a break?
Yogi, hope you are getting to visit your mom still.
Shirley, hope you got to ride your horse this weekend.
Maxine, you all settled in yet?
Sharyn, hope the MRI results for your mom are good news. Let us know please!
Jen, been wishing really hard that you got to have a good weekend for a change!
Linda, Been thinking of you girl!
Cat, A belated Happy Birthday to you!
hey there Mishka, Book, Kuli, Sskape, Cuz and anyone else I missed. You know, that memory thing you get when your my age! Hope you all had a great weekend, and if not, tomorrow will be better!
Or maybe not! I just remembered why Mom was so antsy again today! FULL MOON, tomorrow!!!
Commercial, time to gather the trash!!
Diane, it's the moon!!!
Cat, Pamela was at the very beginning and a real treasure!
I do not have the carpet sweeper dog anymore-that was just an overnight and I am not sure if I would ever say yes again. My dog was soooo put out! I don't like to do that to him. I do have the small shepard/lab mix that comes 3 days a week for social/play time with my dog. He is almost a year. He is good for the most part. When he takes off into the woods or something-my dog will come to the door and get my attention! It's like he is saying, "mommy, he took off-go get him!" Such a mother hen. I love it. These two play well together and my dog is not off pouting like when carpet sweeper was here!
My hubby has started a new sport and it is great cause it is only one night a week and it gets his mind off work which is really difficult to do! Saturday night they had all the wives come watch and we all brought a dish to pass and had dinner together etc. It was fun. Nice to get out and chat and have real conversations! My sis came to be with mom. Mom kepts saying to me, "You need to get out. I want you to go." She can be so cute and "with it" at times!
Stormy-how is dad today? Hope they get to the bottom of this and soon!
Deef-can't believe your hubby's dad is 103!? We have had snow here-snowed all day yesterday but melted when it hit the ground. Just little snow flakes today too-not really adding up. Gonna get warmer the next two days-in the 40's!
Flex-temper tantrum is probably cause of the full moon tonight!!! Glad you got your internet back! This is my social life and I couldn't imagine it being down!!! I would die of bordom!!!
Cat-That "Celebration of Life" sounds nice. Glad you connected with some nice ppl. OH-and love the idea of the flashing lights for the elk in the area!!! Good for the elk and good for the cars and their riders. Can't be a good outcome-an accidident hitting an Elk!
Meanwhile-The roping competition sounds like fun! I never thought about socializing the horses and getting them used to the noises and crowd. I love horses and have ridden-but that is about all I know! And they were mostly trail horses so they just follow eachother!
Jen-love the idea of the addendum! haha.
Linda-so sorry for all you are going thru. Completely understand about the young people dying being more upsetting cause they haven't "lived" much yet. So sad. I am sorry.
Lildeb-Sorry your hubby is a pain in the a$$ about taking time off for your procedure. We do expect more from others because that is what we would do! That is why we are all caregivers!
Rip-simpler times...ahhhhh...however, I am happy for the internet for socializing such as this when cooped up in the house caregiving 24/7!!!
dkjell-Had to laugh at the "two nutty women" comment! I think I am starting to go through "the change" too. Hot flashes and can't fall asleep or stay asleep long at night!!! UGH. Yea, this is all we need to go along with our already crazy lives! My hubby is not the beer drinker like yours-I am!!!
Mishka-How did the party turn out??? That really is cute...
Book-good to see you post! I used to get heart palpatations when things got messy but have found a great anti-anxiety med that has helped me... I grew up with a dad who could blow up at any moment and am very fearful of harsh words...for worse could always come after! I hope you will post again here...your input was always valuable!
TSM-you got it! One day at a time and add the humor!!!
Sharyn-So funny that your mom swore in front of the DR! My mom swears when she is good and mad but that happens rarely and never in front of an outsider. I would have fallen off my chair!
Karol-spit cups-disgusting! I'd be gagging!
Hey Yogi and Kuli and Christina and all others out there!
And Captain Bobbie-I salute you!!!
Oh-I am watching Downton Abby on Netflix! Love it!!!
Have a decent day all! Thanks for being here for me! Love Mame
Mame, You said your husband has taken up a new sport, but you didn't say what! Is it bowling? How about curling? No? Ice hockey? Basketball? Volleyball? I know, Roller Derby!!!
Sounds like you have Mom's sleep pattern under control. Is she the one who has vasovagal episodes?
I just got back from 3 hours in the ER with Mom. Daycare called me just before noon to tell me they called an ambulance for her. She was "unresponsive" and the nurse decided it was best. Well, I wish they had checked her pants. She had a nice cow patty for the ER nurse! As soon as I saw Mom and she told me that, I knew it was the problem. Loved that nurse!!! They wouldn't let me in until they had Mom all prepped and had cathed her for a urine and hooked up for an EKG and had a line ready for IV if needed. Last time I had to undress her and get her on the gurney by myself!!! What the hell!!. All her tests came back normal and the PA kept asking me if i wanted her admitted overnight for observation or sent to rehab. Not sure if he was trying to be nice and give me a rest or if he plain forgot it was the daycare that called the ambulance and not me! Last time she was admitted, they withheld her PD meds which made her crazy! So they gave her Ativan that made her even crazier! She saw bugs everywhere for a week. And Rehab???? What's left to rehab? I said no, I will take her home before someone gives her something to get her all screwed up again!
The best part was the nurse in charge! What a peach she was! Funny as all get out, but very efficient and conscientious. I could hear her in the next bay looking for her rectal thermometer and I called back and said "nope, not in here!" cracked her right up! got to find some kind of fun when stuck in the Er for hours! Actually I packed Mom's pill box and my knitting, so once she calmed down, I knitted in between e-mailing back and forth with Rip in Seattle.
When I got the call from daycare, my pulse started to race when I thought that maybe this was it for Mom. Stormy, you definitely are not alone in your thoughts!!!
Mom's EKG was all over the place as the PD meds hadn't kicked in yet, so her entire body was jiving! Nurse finally sat on mom's legs, Lightly, to keep them still so she could get a good reading. Mom's overall health is good except for the PD and dementia. Go figure!!
Okay, just wanted to vent a bit. Going to feed Mom supper early, so I can get her to bed early. She'll be tired after all that!
went to rheumatoid doc , while waiting in the waiting room with my husband , a nurse wheeled out an old lady out to the waiting room , saw a ytoung bitch stood up and the old lady waved and smiled at her the young bitch just frowned at her and went behind her wheelchair so she didnt have to look at her , i got choked up cuz i always made sure dad sees what im doing otherthan push him around . i thought who in the hell are u bitch !! i was so upset , i wanted to attack her ! she wheeled her away . hubby looked at me said i felt ur pain he saw tears rollin out my eyes . he thinks that bitch works at nursing home and she just hauls that poor old woman to dr . i told him if i had that job i would greet the old lady and ask her if everythings a ok ? talk to her and tell her ok r u read we re leavin now etc , talk to that old lady please !!! nope . she just a bitchy ass bitch just gotta do that to make money . obmaj !!! then nurse called my name , i went inside and cried some more and told the nurse that i havent took my meds and i am just so torn up , i told her what was going on . shes a sweetheart felt my pain her eyes were getting teary too .... i was so glad that hubby went with me . cuz if he didnt i prob be in jail ... i dislike young punks caring for elders with no respect , dont they know the elders are humans too ? what the fk ever !
anyway i do not have rha . i have fibromyaligia .. changed night time med to something eles , rest of meds stays the same . i ll go back in 6 weeks for a ck up again . did the blood work too . says i am too tenses and i need to excerise my muscles before gettin out of bed , strech , i told her i always lay in bed think about what i gotta do today and the list gets longer and longer then i get fussy and bam i ache everywhere . today back of my neck ached ,
well i shall look up on internet and start learning how to treat the fibro .
sheba passed away friday am . just hit me bad friday , thinkin of all the love ones around me passin , aunt opal i didnt make it to funeral , ice storm came and left . but i left friday night m i had to get away from home . i was gone all weekend . stayed with my sis in law . we had fun , shop at goodwill store , damn i love that store ! had some good margaritta too . she and i both was in needing a good time and we did and now we re happy go ladies , except today this morning ! that young lady realy ruined it !
someone mention JAM , im sorry for jam . my heart goes out to her , huggin her in cybers .
love ya all nighty night xoxoxo
Hugs, Cat
This week hospice has to re-evaluate mom to recertifiy her care for another 3 months. Between her falls, visits to ER and losing weight I think she will be recertified without any problem. I know she is certifiably crazy!!!!!!! And I'm not far behind.
Okay, enough of my grousing as Jen would say. I'm not good like Mame and can address everyone, but know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Try have a good night. Howl at the moon....lol
Love ya,
Diane
Have not heard from bobbie here, hope you are OK there.
Gah Diane sounds like you are IN it there...
here things just going on the same, minus moms held in pissed at my hair cutting...another week...what ever...
Stay warm and well everyone...
Diane, I understand you losing it sometimes! can't help it when you are at the end of your rope with everything else besides. Sorry your brother will be laid up for a while, At least he sat with her every week. I don't see my sibs at all. the last time I saw anyone was X-mas day. My youngest sister called me Friday night to remind me she was flying to Jamaica in the morning. And the middle brother and his wife are heading to their rented 3500 square foot house in Florida on this Friday! Been almost 2 years since I stayed at Rip's for a week. Heck I haven't even been away from Mom 1 night since then! I;m getting cabin fever and I think it's time to book me a flight to anywhere and then tell the sibs I'm leaving and they are in charge. I should make sure Mom has doctor appointments while I'm gone too! I WISH!!!
Sharyn, Any results on your mom's MRI yet?
Stormy, how's dad doing?
Linda, sorry you are so sad. Hope something good starts to happen for you. Sorry about Sheba! I love my pets and know how sad it is to lose one. Hope your new medicine helps you.
Really exhausted after today's episode with Mom. Going to watch the rest of "Castle" then hit the pillow.
Hope everyone out there can get some rest tonight!
Sorry it is taking so long to find the right dosage of thyroid med for you. It can be trying when you have so much already going on.
Kuli, I have a real tattoo on my upper arm, but it sure would hurt to get one on the head!
By the way Jen, what did you use to shave your head!on the head!
Of course when my husband didn't show up 10 minutes later, he called again! My husband was grousing the entire time as they were just at the ER last weekend and stayed overnight for observation. Nothing was wrong, but i think at almost 103, he is scared to be alone now.
I think I will go back to bed after I drop Mom off at daycare. Hiding under the covers sounds like an excellent idea! Damn old kitty I took in for the winter has gotten in the habit of waking me up between 5 and 6 AM every morning! I may have to kick his a$$ out the door for a couple hours to remind him why he is now a house cat!
I'll let you know how things turn out here when I hear anything!
This new sport my hubby is doing-well I am not sure what they call it exactly...He says "Trials" It is a motorcycle that has no seat, is very light and they ride over rocks, and logs in a very careful, deliberate, controlled, patient way. It is a lot about balance and patience... There are pegs you put your feet on and you stand the whole time. The Trials competitions have a point system and putting your foot down is points off etc... Hubby is having a great time with it. It was fun to watch him. They are doing it in a big warehouse right now-bringing in scaffolding and logs and tires etc. When the weather is better they will be in any woods around... Takes a lot of coordination. Not my strong suit! I will just watch!
Wow Deef-sorry you had to bring mom to the ER and now hubby is bringing his dad. Never a dull moment. Is there a plan for FIL if he can't stay alone anymore??? And I hope you don't mind me asking-but how do you respond to the siblings telling you about there upcoming vacation??? I think I'd hang up. And yes, my mom is the one who has those vasovagal responses. I don't shower her alone anymore because of that-since it has happened in the shower. It used to only happen when she was sick. Now I never know.
Linda-I understand your anger at the woman in the Dr office... My mom always told us to be kind to ppl and to acknowledge them, call them by name if you know it... I hate to see ppl be mean. So sorry about Sheba. And the fibromyalgia... Glad you had a good time with sil.
Flex, sorry your bro won't be helping for a while... none of us can afford to lose anyone who helps-wish it were different.
Jen-It is so fun to do something like shaving your head! You go girl! And when mom says anything-tell her it will grow back.... (even if you plan on keeping it that way!)
Stromy-3 months for a biopsy...hmmmm that is wierd.
Cat-how are those Elk doing??
Hey Kuli, Rip, Yogi, Lildeb and Bobbie and all the rest of you out there! Hoping each of us gets a moment of our own today! Mame
rip- it must still be a full mood..... Not in the mood to deal with family (dad, sis, or bro) sigh......................
Mame- I know when I heard that it was going to take 3 months to get results back I thought that I had heard my sis wrong but she said that is what the dr said. And I think that is bs! I might could understand 3 weeks but 3 months, give me break...
Well, its going to be another depressing day, raining like cats and dogs here and suppose to do it all day long..... ugh...... I wish I could kick this mood off of me.
Love and hugs to all of you! Stormy
Stormy~I hope your dad will be ok and no more bleeding. Yes 3 months seems like a long time.
The only one having a temper tantrum here is me cuz sis is flaking out on me. We have not heard from the neurologist about the MRI but I think I will call their office today, it was a week yesterday so they should have it.
I have a white pitcher in a bowl with silk flowers I arranged. In the morning my cat loves to run through the house like he is on catnip. He thinks he is hiding behind the pitcher, then he will charge me...stop and run back behind the pitcher. Too cute and he makes me laugh first thing in the morning. I am off today and tomorrow but I have a busy day planned with mom, paying bills, getting her hair cut. Have a good day everyone, it will be a warm 66 today, wish I could get the roses pruned.
Hi Mame, I hope you can have the best day you can have. I know it isn't easy. Blessings
Gah black bloody stool is not good Deef, any updates on him?
Weeel I cut it to the inch with craft scissors and then used nose trimmers to get it to the scalp the shaved it in the shower...at 3 Am but I had been thinking of doing it for over a year so it wasn't a spur of the mo' thing.
Mom is still upset, not saying anything about it, won't even look at me, but she has not SEEN it I have kept a stocking cap on all weekend so she did have to look. Gah mother you saw my bald when I was born! Aunt is a beautician so getting tips from her, will be probably 2 or 3 inches by end of summer, it seems to be growing fast.
Gonna do the shopping today, see who thinks I am sick and who thinks I am crazy....
Have a good day all, no ER trips....
Mom is still snoring away so I am getting lots of little things done! It is good to get up early and just work away at things sometimes! Usually I am interrupted so often I never know what I was working on let alone get anything accomplished! Gotta start bringing her into the day tho... I always tell her to "wiggle your toes!" And that "I will be back in 5 minutes!" Like she did to us when we were kids! She laughs unless she really has no clue who I am or who she is at that moment... some days are clearer than others! Mame
Mom went off to daycare this morning, like nothing ever happened! I asked her if she remembered going in the ambulance yesterday and she looked at me like I"M CRAZY!!!!
Mom is really not with it this morning. When I asked her how old she was she said "I think 15." Which would explain why all the things I was trying to remind her of were so foreign to her! Poor thing... I told her she would remember things after she ate... and if she didn't, I was here to remind her. She was ok with that. Poor thing. :(