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Cuz: Sending you and your family my best wishes for a happy outcome. So hard for each of them to deal with the reality of their issues. Hope your brother has a good outcome this Tuesday. Thanks for the jokes. You rock.!!!!!
Sharynmarie: I really appreciate the loss you feel over the religious differences. My heart goes out to you.
FYI, bobby, I roasted a chicken tonight, added mashed potatoes and broccoli. My whole house smelled of chicken in the oven. It was a great dinner and we all loved the smell of the chicken cooking. The dogs really loved it. They scarfed up on chicken and broccoli. Got some broccoli for their breakfast. They just love broccoli.
Hey cuz-sorry for everything you and yours are going through! Hubby had the cath thru the wrist and all went well. He did say it felt wierd! Bro in law also had it and the stint put in and is doing well these days. He says he actually feels better and has more energy! Hope it all goes well for your bro! Second time we had a family get together in two weeks and sil will speak civilly to me if asked a question, but nothing more. The bro I sent the email to is being sweet and kissing me hello and goodbye and making conversation. The email was to HIM not HER and I really cannot understand why she has cut me off. I have tried to come up with a reason but none of it fits... and I do not believe it is for her to tell me what I can and cannot say to my own brother (s). Ugh. Drama. Like I previously mentioned-there will be no more emails or phone calls to the 4 of the bros who have dismissed our mother as fine, or being taken care of...or whatever. But being fresh, these first few family get togethers have been a bit wierd. Anyway-I got mom out for both Easter and yesterday for one of my bros Bdays! His gf had a little party for him. He is always here for me & mom so I had to get her there. She was about to say no yesterday when I reminded her how much he does for us and she bucked up and said that we should do this for him. All the way there she kept saying-"Now, where are we going?" or "Now, who's birtrhday is it?" She faked it well when she got there. She did keep asking my sis where we were. Bro let her read all the cards and one had a man who showed a full moon if you know what I mean-and she kept looking at it and laughing! We all got a kick out of our "prim & proper" mother-checking out the full moon man! Well, hello to all. It is Monday... Mom returns to day care this week! The snow seems to be gone, my knee is better so I think I can get her in and out on my own. She says she is looking forward to it...haha...but we will see how hard she tries to fight going...I see terrible headaches coming on! haha. We will start this week with one day and work back up to two. :) OH-Bobbie, I have now watched all three seasons of Downton Abbey...omg season 3! Now I know why you were asking previously what we thought. Not expected that is for sure! Not really happy but we will see what next season brings right? Keep on keepin on everybody! Mame
Mame: Glad your mom enjoyed the full moon. How funny. Ignore your sister-in-law, she's just resentful that her sibs don't help her. That's not your fault or your mom's fault. That final episode of Downton Abbey was a shocker.
Diane: I'm glad Hospice is being so helpful. You sure deserve the help. As for the elk, it's a crying shame. Our little band of Bull elk are still around. It's the female elk that have been slaughtered. I'm sure many of them were pregnant and would have calved in June. They usually come over on our side of the highway to have their babies. The highway is a kind of demarcation line. North of the highway, water is abundant and there are beautiful farms On our side of the highway, water is more scarce and the land more hilly and rocky, so no farming. The female elk have caused some damage to the farms and their crops so Fish and Wildlife (in a very covert fashion) began killing the females and have reduced the herd to about 20 from the previous count of 40 or so. Some years ago, about a year before Warren & I moved here, they reduced the herd size from 100 to 50. It's really sad. I feel for the farmers, but I feel for the elk too. We just love them and it heartbreaking to see this happen. The herd is so small now, that I doubt it is genetically viable. I will be talking to Fish and Wildlife because I am fearful that they will be hunting on our side of the highway next. They had stopped hunting here a few years ago in the hope that the elk would view south of the highway as a safe area and stay here. Plus, most of us on the south side wanted the elk here. There is no sport to elk hunting here. They are so use to people taking their pictures and stopping in cars to look at them. It's so uplifting to see them. Just takes your breath away.
Well MIL is doing great. Up and walking around already. My brother not so good. He has to have a quad bypass wednesday 8:00am. They won't even give him his pants so he can leave. Going to monitor him til then. He's really bummed now but I told him at least he will be around awhile longer now so quit your complaining. He tried to slap me but even though I'm older doesn't mean I still can't move fast. Hugs to everyone and thanx for the support. luvCuz
i caught my mom doing the same thing,and we have our own bathrooms.so i bought a whole bunch of brushes just in case.i pick my battles too,the food thing wirh the fingersand the other day she just threw her ice on the floor and spit the grapes out too.we have light carpet...now we have spotted carpet i've shampoo it every few months till it won't come clean anymore but i will not replace it now.She also talks to her lamp and is now have poopy pants almost daily,pretty gross but i am doing ok most of the time,however there are those days like today 3 and one was on the floor right after i had washed her up and alls she would have had to do was sit down to deposit it in the can.that was really gross.
we all need to vent i have been doing it to my husband but i can tell you now that i have found this form and know others are having the same issue i'll try not to gross him out so much..haha he's so sweet and has been living without me for 2 1/2 years as i take care of mother.what a saint but i know he'd go nuts here,hes only good for a few hours so i can shop and stuff.
Here's a funny. I was cleaning up after Mom in the bathroom last night and I thought I had the Scrubbing Bubbles. I started to spray the tub with Sprayn'Wash. I went to put some on the panties and realized what I was doing! lol ! I thought I was OK, but I was loosing it!
Thats funny,today was a busy nightmare with taxes and fighting for moms pension.her x didn't want her after she got sick,and i am glad he was a mean sob and she is much happier,but now they want her back pension since the final Big D.but karma got him i hear he's in a home now instead of my mom.I have a lot of anger at him because half or more of her issue were caused by him.He let all her spinal fluid leck out of her head after a brain tumor and when i got there to care for her for the day she told me her head was leaking and he told her to shut up and go to sleep.When i got there he said your mom druelled or spilled water on the bed. her whole pillow and mattress was wet,so i went to call for help but he would not let me so i put her in the car and right in front of er she had a mass stroke.So he can rot in hell for all i care.she has never been the same.
It's ok Sharon and of course that would get to Mother Theresa. Sorry your mom's x is such an a$$wipe. That's a terrible story and I am so sorry for you and your mom. How awful. Here's hoping that you both have brighter days even though someone did you both a terrible turn.
Cuz! Tell Mike that we all are thinking of him!
DEEF!! How are you feeling?
Love to everyone but I am too pooped to pop here and have no horsepower to call out to all but please know that all of you come across what's left of my mind every single day.
Welcome Sharon52 and Patti! Nice of you to join us with your stories! Funny, angry-no matter-just come and vent to people who do understand!
Mom would not get out of bed to go to daycare yesterday for her 1st day back...boy was I riproaring mad! Gonna try again Thursday! Then one bro who she doesn't see much was passing thru late afternoon so he called and asked if he could make a quick visit so I guess it was meant to be! She enjoyed it. That is all that really matters I guess. Nothing really worth mentioning going on here really. Have a not too bright woodpecker that keeps pecking my chimney pipe-hilarious! Sooooo loud revirberating into the house-scares you to death if you don't know what it is! Rainy day here. Was gorgeous yesterday! Glad they are tending to your bro Cuz! Hello to everyone else out there! Mame
Sharonmarie, sounds like you found a nice place for your mom. Hope it works out for you. It will be nice to know she is well taken care of and you can visit when you have time. LilDeb, Sewing mil's pockets together! FUNNY!!! Wonder how long she would work at them before she realized they were sewed shut! I am so tempted to get fuzzy pink handcuffs for Mom! She is constantly sucking on her fingers and grabbing at anything within her reach! So glad you got some rest time. You really needed it for your health. Cuz, sounds like things are under control in your neck of the woods. Hope your bro's surgery went well today! My dad had bypass surgery at 46 back in 1974, in Boston. There were very few doctors or hospitals doing it back then. It was pretty scary. He was in the hospital for 16 days. Cat, I don't remember the last time I roasted a chicken! The local store has rotisserie chickens that they call "SuperBirds" and they are 5lbs and delicious. I can get one piping hot for $8.99 and it's the best tasting chicken ever! There is always enough for a hot meal, chicken salad and soup. Mame, love the full moon story! I started telling mom to tuck her "girls"(whats left of them) into her bra a couple years ago, and she thinks that is the funniest thing ever! Sorry your mom refuses to get up for daycare. Mom is no longer able to make the connection, so unless she is really sick, she goes! At least your brother visited! Been warm here the last 3 days and is raining now. Supposed to get cold for a day or two and warm up again. Jen, I don't get the whole asparagus thing either! I don't like the taste and it makes your pee an ugly color and smell! Sharon5252, Venting is good, and even better here because we all understand! Sorry your mom's ex was such a douche! You definitely are entitled to some anger! Patti, Hi there! So easy for us to make those kinds of mistakes when you take into account how tired and stressed we all are! Bobbie!!!! I'm okay, just really tired. My shoulder is throbbing and now my sciatic nerve is acting up on my right butt cheek! I'm going to talk to the doctor about my shoulder and try to get an MRI to determine if I tore the rotator cuff again. I can't afford to have the bone sawing through my last tendon. I don't want to go through that surgery again, but I don't want to lose the use of my arm either! Diane, sounds like you are having good luck with Hospice! As long as mom is comfortable, that is all that counts. Hope you can get some rest in between. Mom is getting harder to handle. She was wired this morning!!! I thought I was going to have to wrap her in bungee cords to keep her down! Pill time, getting dentures in and feeding her breakfast was impossible! I finally had to yell at her to calm down! I walked away for a few minutes and let her stew, and it took forever to get her to eat all of her breakfast. My help did not show up at noon, so I had to text Merry and ask her if anyone was coming. I was supposed to help my gf clean the apartment she's moving into at the end of the month. So Merry finished her other job and got here for 1:30. She thought Karina was coming today. So I got to help my friend and then she took me to dinner. That was nice to fo out for a change, and come home to Mom in bed and my husband gone out to play cards! H Two of the guys went to Florida for 2 months, so he was here 24/7. Now I get a break for a couple hours, 2 nights a week. Yippee!!! I did get our taxes and Mom's done on Saturday. Had to pay in for the first time last year, so I was really nervous this year. Mom is getting a check back from federal and had to pay $12 to the state. So that was good. We owed taxes, but out income was so low, it put us in the non-tax status!!! So we don't get a refund, but we don't have to pay either!!! That made me so happy!!! Well, my husband just walked in and I have a sink full of dishes as usual, so I guess I better get moving. Hope you all have a good night and get more sleep than I do!
He went under at 8:15am today and at 10:30am the nurse came out and said that they could not clamp the main vessel going to the heart because there was to much calcium inside the vessel. They actually had to keep the heart beating while they did the three bypasses. 12:30pm they said we could meet with the surgion to ask questions. He said everything went as well as expected and they would have him in recovery. 3:30pm they finally said we could go back and see him but he wouldn't be awake because of the sedation. He was on the ventalater ( the big tube in your throat) because his lungs were not working. He had 9 little bags of medicene and 4 big bags. His neck was blowed out bigger than heck. They said that it would be 12 to 14 hours before they might be able to tell if he can breathe on his own. We stood there for awhile and decided we might as well go home and rest and see what tommorrow brings. He has a lot of people praying for him so we are just going to see what happens from here. Thanx for all the prayers.
Dave feared his wife Peg wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. So, not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss. Here's what you do,' said the Doctor, 'stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking volume see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.' That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, 'I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens. Then in a normal voice he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner? No response..... So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, 'Peg, what's for dinner?' Still no response. Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his Wife and asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?' Again he gets no response. So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. 'Honey, what's for dinner?' Again there is no response. So he walks right up behind her. 'Peg, what's for dinner?'
(I just love this). . . . . 'For God sake, Dave, for the FIFTH time, CHICKEN!'
Here is an actual sign posted at a golf club in Scotland UK:
1. BACK STRAIGHT, KNEES BENT, FEET SHOULDER WIDTH APART. 2. FORM A LOOSE GRIP. 3. KEEP YOUR HEAD DOWN. 4. STAY OUT OF THE WATER. 5. TRY NOT TO HIT ANYONE. 6. IF YOU ARE TAKING TOO LONG, LET OTHERS GO AHEAD OF YOU. 7. DON'T STAND DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF OTHERS. 8. QUIET PLEASE WHILE OTHERS ARE PREPARING.
9. DON'T TAKE EXTRA STROKES.
10. WELL DONE. NOW, FLUSH THE URINAL, GO OUTSIDE, AND TEE OFF.
Bobbie~My dil's mother does leave us alone now. When I visited last May, I apologized to her (not because I did anything wrong) to keep the peace between us. We both agreed that we would be cordial to each other when we are together and we have different beliefs we are not willing to compromise on. Unfortunately, she lives next door to my son so avoiding her is impossible. Your boat sounds like a lot of hard work and worth it for the lifestyle you want. I envy you for that!! I love the mountains and would love to have a place in the mountains to retreat to. I am not much for organized religion, but I have my beliefs and when I am in the mountains I feel so at peace with God as I know Him. Keep working on your boat no matter how hard the work is, it will pay off for you in the end.
Deef~Yes the community is very accommodating. My mom will always have an escort, they will check on her in the evenings, remind her to walk her dog, plus she will be kept very busy in the activities in the memory care unit where she can bring her dog on a leash. I am grieving this move not only because of the loss to my mom, but also because I have been so focused on her welfare, that I am going to be lost not having to go over her house daily. I will visit her very often after she gets acclimated. I want her to make friends with the other residents because I know she is lonely for companionship in her own age group. The move is planned for April 20th. I am stressed because my sis and I had agreed that we would take mom out shopping while my hubby and our nephews moved her furniture, set up the bed,etc. Now sis has backed out saying she needs to orchestrate the move, make sure the bed is properly made. Now I have to take her out and be the one by myself to bring her there while my sister gets to be part of the welcoming committee. I feel very let down by my sister putting this on me, she not grasp how hard it is going to be for me to be the one who brings her to a community. I took mom to the dr. today for a TB skin test. I asked him to script me Xanx because I am wore out emotionally,physically and I want to be able to give my mom a 1/2 a pill on the day of the move as well as take 1/2 for me. He said no problem. I also talked with him about going out on leave after mom's move. I am on vaca next week. He said when I am ready to do that just make an appt. and we can get the paperwork filled out. I may apply for the FMLA because we still have mom's house to contend with, probably an estate sale and neither I nor my sis want to do the landlord thing. We both have emotional attachments to the house we grew up in and if I could work it out to sell our house and buy out my two brothers and my sister I would do it in a heartbeat. This is very hard for me because I have a strong emotional attachment to my mom. I became her surrogate spouse when I was 12 yrs. old. My siblings all left home at that time. I became mom's confidant and she continued to poison me against my dad. This why I want some time off work to deal with my emotions. Thanks for letting me vent and get all this out. Hugs to everyone and btw, it was 86 here today, time for the a/c!!
Oh Sharonmarie! My heart aches for you! You seem to be doing all the right things and have the right mind set for what is to come. This is soooo hard! Great idea about the Xanax and taking time to deal with your emotions.You have to take care of you. I remember when mom went to a rehab for 3 weeks after being very sick. I thought I would be soooo happy to have the time to myself-it would be like a vacation. Wow-was I in for a surprise! My emotions went to a place I had never imagined. I didn't know what to do with myself and was completely out of sorts. I hadn't realized how connected I was to all that is mom. Without her I was lost. Thank God for medication and a wonderful counselor who helped me through it. Do what you need to do for you! Sorry your sister changed the plan... You will get through it-just do the best you can. Lose the guilt and have the firm belief in your head that this is the right and safe and best thing for your mom and that will help you with the confindence to get through. Talk to a counselor if you can-even just a visit or 2 can make a world of difference! Positive thoughts and prayers for you esp on the 20th Sharon!
Cuz-how scary for you all! Hoping this morning brings good news and a good start on the road to recovery for your bro. And always the jokes-thanks for those! Deef-pink fuzzy handcuffs eh? HaHa! It is too bad that health aids cannot be counted on. What is it with that? They are kind of notorious for not showing up. Glad hubby can get out from under foot and have fun with the guys again. It is so hard to keep everyone in the house entertained...Exhausting. Mom thinks it is funny when I refer to them as "the girls" too! Glad you don't have to pay the irs this year! Cat-thank you for that! So sweet. How are you doing? Hey Jen and Bobbie and the rest of the gang! Well, if mom won't go to daycare at least one day a week they are kicking her out! So, I better get her moving as we are going to try again today. I explained it to her yesterday, and she says she will go, but we will see! I can just see me dragging her out of bed and sending her in her pjs! She has always been a homebody but she needs some social interaction...and it is nice to have several hours to myself-and it is cheaper than having the woman at the house sitting with her! Fingers crossed! Rained a ton yesterday-high of 54 early in the day and dropped. We need the rain so I am not complaining... just want that temp to go up not down!!! Have a decent day all! Mame
HAHAHA Deef! Ok, maybe I will celebrate 2 of the 6... Mom went to daycare! I got to go shop and try on dresses for another wedding coming up the end of May... Got to see how fat I am an how bad I look in most dresses! Ha. Oh well, I am what I am. Mom was happy to be back but confused-they noticed too. She will sleep good tonight! (I hope! God knows this kind of thing can have the opposite effect!) I hope everyone gets a good nights sleep! Mame
Well my brother made it out of ICU into the intermediate ICU and they took the vent out at 5:30am. His blood pressure was 157/70 and they were concerned about that but they said that rest will bring that down. I talked with him a little bit and he said he hurt like hell, so he must be doing better. Thanks again for all the well wishes. You gals are a great support group. Hugs to you all. luvCuz
Leave it to the Nordics Ole was hunting geese up in the Minnesota woods. He leaned the old 16 gauge against the corner of the blind to take a leak. As luck would have it, his foolish dog knocked the gun over, it went off and Ole took most of an ounce of #4 in the groin. Several hours later, lying in a Duluth hospital bed, he came to...and there was his doctor, Sven. "Vell Ole, I got some good news and some bad news. Da good news is dat you are going to be OK. Da damage vas local to your groin, dere was very little internal damage, and I vas able to remove all of da buckshot." "What's the bad news?", asks Ole. "The bad news is dat dere vas some pretty extensive buckshot damage done to your pecker. I'm going to have to refer you to my sister, Lena." "Well, I guess that isn't too bad," says Ole. "Is your sister a plastic surgeon?" "Not exactly," Sven says. "She's a flute player in da Minneapolis Symphony Orchestra. She's going to teach you vhere to put your fingers, so you don't piss in your eye."
Mame, I stay away from dresses totally! Haven't worn one in at least 35 years! As a matter of fact, my wedding gown may have been the last! At 5'1" and 25lbs too much, there is no way! Never had a girly shape. Waist and hips almost the same measurement and too much on top. It's amazing how being a care giver can turn your body into the worst shape ever! Been working on mine and lost 6lbs so far, but that took 5 weeks of watching what I eat and exercising twice a day. Goes to show you how much harder it is when you get older. I want to get rid of another 20lbs, so I have a long, hard road ahead of me. But I do feel better and stronger than I have in a while. Three years ago I lost 16lbs on Weight Watchers and looked like I had lost 25. well, I put the 16 back on plus another 10 after getting sick for 2 months with a winter cold. Keep after your mom for daycare. She will eventually get used to it and come to like it, or at least tolerate it. Mom is in 4 days a week from 9-3 with Wed. off. She is a real handful to get off in the morning and I am exhausted by the time I drop her off! She is usually wiped out when I pick her up and today was cloudy , so I put her in for a nap and she was great after the rest. But some days she is just miserable to deal with afterwards. This morning I had to go for fasting blood work for my cholesterol. So I had to get myself all ready and then deal with her. Needless to say, she was not cooperating this morning and I couldn't find my car keys or lab slip. By the time I got to the hospital, it was 10, so I was pretty hungry! Glad I brought a coffee with me for the ride home! Hey Jen! Me either!! Cuz, hope your brother is okay! hey to everyone else! Cat, Bobbie, Diane, Kuli, Maxine, Book, Sharyn and sharon,BJ, Mishka? you out there? Shirley,Linda, MsDaisy, how's it going? Yogi, how's Mom? Lildeb, Stormy???? You okay? If I missed you, I didn't mean to! Okay, time to feed the kitties and hit the pillow! I napped again today. think the weather changes are making me more tired than usual. Night everyone!
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Sharynmarie: I really appreciate the loss you feel over the religious differences. My heart goes out to you.
FYI, bobby, I roasted a chicken tonight, added mashed potatoes and broccoli. My whole house smelled of chicken in the oven. It was a great dinner and we all loved the smell of the chicken cooking. The dogs really loved it. They scarfed up on chicken and broccoli. Got some broccoli for their breakfast. They just love broccoli.
Second time we had a family get together in two weeks and sil will speak civilly to me if asked a question, but nothing more. The bro I sent the email to is being sweet and kissing me hello and goodbye and making conversation. The email was to HIM not HER and I really cannot understand why she has cut me off. I have tried to come up with a reason but none of it fits... and I do not believe it is for her to tell me what I can and cannot say to my own brother (s). Ugh. Drama. Like I previously mentioned-there will be no more emails or phone calls to the 4 of the bros who have dismissed our mother as fine, or being taken care of...or whatever. But being fresh, these first few family get togethers have been a bit wierd.
Anyway-I got mom out for both Easter and yesterday for one of my bros Bdays! His gf had a little party for him. He is always here for me & mom so I had to get her there. She was about to say no yesterday when I reminded her how much he does for us and she bucked up and said that we should do this for him. All the way there she kept saying-"Now, where are we going?" or "Now, who's birtrhday is it?" She faked it well when she got there. She did keep asking my sis where we were. Bro let her read all the cards and one had a man who showed a full moon if you know what I mean-and she kept looking at it and laughing! We all got a kick out of our "prim & proper" mother-checking out the full moon man!
Well, hello to all. It is Monday...
Mom returns to day care this week! The snow seems to be gone, my knee is better so I think I can get her in and out on my own. She says she is looking forward to it...haha...but we will see how hard she tries to fight going...I see terrible headaches coming on! haha. We will start this week with one day and work back up to two. :)
OH-Bobbie, I have now watched all three seasons of Downton Abbey...omg season 3! Now I know why you were asking previously what we thought. Not expected that is for sure! Not really happy but we will see what next season brings right?
Keep on keepin on everybody! Mame
Diane: I'm glad Hospice is being so helpful. You sure deserve the help. As for the elk, it's a crying shame. Our little band of Bull elk are still around. It's the female elk that have been slaughtered. I'm sure many of them were pregnant and would have calved in June. They usually come over on our side of the highway to have their babies. The highway is a kind of demarcation line. North of the highway, water is abundant and there are beautiful farms On our side of the highway, water is more scarce and the land more hilly and rocky, so no farming. The female elk have caused some damage to the farms and their crops so Fish and Wildlife (in a very covert fashion) began killing the females and have reduced the herd to about 20 from the previous count of 40 or so. Some years ago, about a year before Warren & I moved here, they reduced the herd size from 100 to 50. It's really sad. I feel for the farmers, but I feel for the elk too. We just love them and it heartbreaking to see this happen. The herd is so small now, that I doubt it is genetically viable. I will be talking to Fish and Wildlife because I am fearful that they will be hunting on our side of the highway next. They had stopped hunting here a few years ago in the hope that the elk would view south of the highway as a safe area and stay here. Plus, most of us on the south side wanted the elk here. There is no sport to elk hunting here. They are so use to people taking their pictures and stopping in cars to look at them. It's so uplifting to see them. Just takes your breath away.
Cuz, keeping your family in my prayers.
Everyone take care. Cat
luvCuz
Sorry your mom's x is such an a$$wipe. That's a terrible story and I am so sorry for you and your mom. How awful.
Here's hoping that you both have brighter days even though someone did you both a terrible turn.
Cuz! Tell Mike that we all are thinking of him!
DEEF!! How are you feeling?
Love to everyone but I am too pooped to pop here and have no horsepower to call out to all but please know that all of you come across what's left of my mind every single day.
lovbob
Mom would not get out of bed to go to daycare yesterday for her 1st day back...boy was I riproaring mad! Gonna try again Thursday! Then one bro who she doesn't see much was passing thru late afternoon so he called and asked if he could make a quick visit so I guess it was meant to be! She enjoyed it. That is all that really matters I guess.
Nothing really worth mentioning going on here really. Have a not too bright woodpecker that keeps pecking my chimney pipe-hilarious! Sooooo loud revirberating into the house-scares you to death if you don't know what it is! Rainy day here. Was gorgeous yesterday!
Glad they are tending to your bro Cuz! Hello to everyone else out there! Mame
LilDeb, Sewing mil's pockets together! FUNNY!!! Wonder how long she would work at them before she realized they were sewed shut! I am so tempted to get fuzzy pink handcuffs for Mom! She is constantly sucking on her fingers and grabbing at anything within her reach! So glad you got some rest time. You really needed it for your health.
Cuz, sounds like things are under control in your neck of the woods. Hope your bro's surgery went well today! My dad had bypass surgery at 46 back in 1974, in Boston. There were very few doctors or hospitals doing it back then. It was pretty scary. He was in the hospital for 16 days.
Cat, I don't remember the last time I roasted a chicken! The local store has rotisserie chickens that they call "SuperBirds" and they are 5lbs and delicious. I can get one piping hot for $8.99 and it's the best tasting chicken ever! There is always enough for a hot meal, chicken salad and soup.
Mame, love the full moon story! I started telling mom to tuck her "girls"(whats left of them) into her bra a couple years ago, and she thinks that is the funniest thing ever! Sorry your mom refuses to get up for daycare. Mom is no longer able to make the connection, so unless she is really sick, she goes! At least your brother visited! Been warm here the last 3 days and is raining now. Supposed to get cold for a day or two and warm up again.
Jen, I don't get the whole asparagus thing either! I don't like the taste and it makes your pee an ugly color and smell!
Sharon5252, Venting is good, and even better here because we all understand! Sorry your mom's ex was such a douche! You definitely are entitled to some anger!
Patti, Hi there! So easy for us to make those kinds of mistakes when you take into account how tired and stressed we all are!
Bobbie!!!! I'm okay, just really tired. My shoulder is throbbing and now my sciatic nerve is acting up on my right butt cheek! I'm going to talk to the doctor about my shoulder and try to get an MRI to determine if I tore the rotator cuff again. I can't afford to have the bone sawing through my last tendon. I don't want to go through that surgery again, but I don't want to lose the use of my arm either!
Diane, sounds like you are having good luck with Hospice! As long as mom is comfortable, that is all that counts. Hope you can get some rest in between.
Mom is getting harder to handle. She was wired this morning!!! I thought I was going to have to wrap her in bungee cords to keep her down! Pill time, getting dentures in and feeding her breakfast was impossible! I finally had to yell at her to calm down! I walked away for a few minutes and let her stew, and it took forever to get her to eat all of her breakfast.
My help did not show up at noon, so I had to text Merry and ask her if anyone was coming. I was supposed to help my gf clean the apartment she's moving into at the end of the month. So Merry finished her other job and got here for 1:30. She thought Karina was coming today.
So I got to help my friend and then she took me to dinner. That was nice to fo out for a change, and come home to Mom in bed and my husband gone out to play cards! H Two of the guys went to Florida for 2 months, so he was here 24/7. Now I get a break for a couple hours, 2 nights a week. Yippee!!!
I did get our taxes and Mom's done on Saturday. Had to pay in for the first time last year, so I was really nervous this year. Mom is getting a check back from federal and had to pay $12 to the state. So that was good. We owed taxes, but out income was so low, it put us in the non-tax status!!! So we don't get a refund, but we don't have to pay either!!! That made me so happy!!!
Well, my husband just walked in and I have a sink full of dishes as usual, so I guess I better get moving. Hope you all have a good night and get more sleep than I do!
He went under at 8:15am today and at 10:30am the nurse came out and said that
they could not clamp the main vessel going to the heart because there was to much calcium inside the vessel. They actually had to keep the heart beating while they did the three bypasses. 12:30pm they said we could meet with the surgion to ask questions. He said everything went as well as expected and they would have him in recovery. 3:30pm they finally said we could go back and see him but he wouldn't be awake because of the sedation. He was on the ventalater ( the big tube in your throat) because his lungs were not working. He had 9 little bags of medicene and 4 big bags. His neck was blowed out bigger than heck. They said that it would be 12 to 14 hours before they might be able to tell if he can breathe on his own. We stood there for awhile and decided we might as well go home and rest and see what tommorrow brings. He has a lot of people praying for him so we are just going to see what happens from here. Thanx for all the prayers.
lovCuz
Dave feared his wife Peg wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. So, not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem.
The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.
Here's what you do,' said the Doctor, 'stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking volume see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response.'
That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, 'I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens.
Then in a normal voice he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?
No response.....
So the husband moves closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, 'Peg, what's for dinner?'
Still no response.
Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his Wife and asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?'
Again he gets no response.
So, he walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. 'Honey, what's for dinner?'
Again there is no response.
So he walks right up behind her. 'Peg, what's for dinner?'
(I just love this). . . . .
'For God sake, Dave, for the FIFTH time, CHICKEN!'
1. BACK STRAIGHT, KNEES BENT, FEET SHOULDER WIDTH APART.
2. FORM A LOOSE GRIP.
3. KEEP YOUR HEAD DOWN.
4. STAY OUT OF THE WATER.
5. TRY NOT TO HIT ANYONE.
6. IF YOU ARE TAKING TOO LONG, LET OTHERS GO AHEAD OF YOU.
7. DON'T STAND DIRECTLY IN FRONT OF OTHERS.
8. QUIET PLEASE WHILE OTHERS ARE PREPARING.
9. DON'T TAKE EXTRA STROKES.
10. WELL DONE. NOW, FLUSH THE URINAL, GO OUTSIDE, AND TEE OFF.
Deef~Yes the community is very accommodating. My mom will always have an escort, they will check on her in the evenings, remind her to walk her dog, plus she will be kept very busy in the activities in the memory care unit where she can bring her dog on a leash. I am grieving this move not only because of the loss to my mom, but also because I have been so focused on her welfare, that I am going to be lost not having to go over her house daily. I will visit her very often after she gets acclimated. I want her to make friends with the other residents because I know she is lonely for companionship in her own age group. The move is planned for April 20th. I am stressed because my sis and I had agreed that we would take mom out shopping while my hubby and our nephews moved her furniture, set up the bed,etc. Now sis has backed out saying she needs to orchestrate the move, make sure the bed is properly made. Now I have to take her out and be the one by myself to bring her there while my sister gets to be part of the welcoming committee. I feel very let down by my sister putting this on me, she not grasp how hard it is going to be for me to be the one who brings her to a community. I took mom to the dr. today for a TB skin test. I asked him to script me Xanx because I am wore out emotionally,physically and I want to be able to give my mom a 1/2 a pill on the day of the move as well as take 1/2 for me. He said no problem. I also talked with him about going out on leave after mom's move. I am on vaca next week. He said when I am ready to do that just make an appt. and we can get the paperwork filled out. I may apply for the FMLA because we still have mom's house to contend with, probably an estate sale and neither I nor my sis want to do the landlord thing. We both have emotional attachments to the house we grew up in and if I could work it out to sell our house and buy out my two brothers and my sister I would do it in a heartbeat. This is very hard for me because I have a strong emotional attachment to my mom. I became her surrogate spouse when I was 12 yrs. old. My siblings all left home at that time. I became mom's confidant and she continued to poison me against my dad. This why I want some time off work to deal with my emotions. Thanks for letting me vent and get all this out. Hugs to everyone and btw, it was 86 here today, time for the a/c!!
Cuz-how scary for you all! Hoping this morning brings good news and a good start on the road to recovery for your bro. And always the jokes-thanks for those!
Deef-pink fuzzy handcuffs eh? HaHa! It is too bad that health aids cannot be counted on. What is it with that? They are kind of notorious for not showing up. Glad hubby can get out from under foot and have fun with the guys again. It is so hard to keep everyone in the house entertained...Exhausting. Mom thinks it is funny when I refer to them as "the girls" too! Glad you don't have to pay the irs this year!
Cat-thank you for that! So sweet. How are you doing?
Hey Jen and Bobbie and the rest of the gang!
Well, if mom won't go to daycare at least one day a week they are kicking her out! So, I better get her moving as we are going to try again today. I explained it to her yesterday, and she says she will go, but we will see! I can just see me dragging her out of bed and sending her in her pjs! She has always been a homebody but she needs some social interaction...and it is nice to have several hours to myself-and it is cheaper than having the woman at the house sitting with her! Fingers crossed!
Rained a ton yesterday-high of 54 early in the day and dropped. We need the rain so I am not complaining... just want that temp to go up not down!!!
Have a decent day all! Mame
Mom went to daycare! I got to go shop and try on dresses for another wedding coming up the end of May... Got to see how fat I am an how bad I look in most dresses! Ha. Oh well, I am what I am. Mom was happy to be back but confused-they noticed too. She will sleep good tonight! (I hope! God knows this kind of thing can have the opposite effect!)
I hope everyone gets a good nights sleep! Mame
luvCuz
Cowboy Wisdom
Cowboy:"Give me 3 packets of condoms, please."
Cashier:"Do you need a paper bag with that, sir?"
Cowboy:"Nah... She's purty good lookin'....."
Leave it to the Nordics
Ole was hunting geese up in the Minnesota woods. He leaned the old 16 gauge against the corner
of the blind to take a leak. As luck would have it, his foolish dog knocked the gun over, it went off
and Ole took most of an ounce of #4 in the groin.
Several hours later, lying in a Duluth hospital bed, he came to...and there was his doctor, Sven.
"Vell Ole, I got some good news and some bad news. Da good news is dat you are going to be OK.
Da damage vas local to your groin, dere was very little internal damage, and I vas able to remove
all of da buckshot."
"What's the bad news?", asks Ole. "The bad news is dat dere vas some pretty extensive buckshot
damage done to your pecker. I'm going to have to refer you to my sister, Lena." "Well, I guess that
isn't too bad," says Ole. "Is your sister a plastic surgeon?" "Not exactly," Sven says. "She's a flute
player in da Minneapolis Symphony Orchestra. She's going to teach you vhere to put your fingers,
so you don't piss in your eye."
Keep after your mom for daycare. She will eventually get used to it and come to like it, or at least tolerate it. Mom is in 4 days a week from 9-3 with Wed. off. She is a real handful to get off in the morning and I am exhausted by the time I drop her off! She is usually wiped out when I pick her up and today was cloudy , so I put her in for a nap and she was great after the rest. But some days she is just miserable to deal with afterwards.
This morning I had to go for fasting blood work for my cholesterol. So I had to get myself all ready and then deal with her. Needless to say, she was not cooperating this morning and I couldn't find my car keys or lab slip. By the time I got to the hospital, it was 10, so I was pretty hungry! Glad I brought a coffee with me for the ride home!
Hey Jen! Me either!!
Cuz, hope your brother is okay!
hey to everyone else! Cat, Bobbie, Diane, Kuli, Maxine, Book, Sharyn and sharon,BJ, Mishka? you out there? Shirley,Linda, MsDaisy, how's it going? Yogi, how's Mom? Lildeb, Stormy???? You okay? If I missed you, I didn't mean to!
Okay, time to feed the kitties and hit the pillow! I napped again today. think the weather changes are making me more tired than usual. Night everyone!
Sending love to everyone. Cat