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Hi Sharyn, I am not sure either. I think I mean, that if you are nursing someone you are not related to it is sometimes easier but when you are close to a person and caring for them you remember them being healthy and able to care for themselves and it is harder to deal with...There is not the professional distance so to speak.
the other part bobbie had mentioned using fp records as Frisbees, I thought skeet shooting would be more fun.
Sharyn, you are doing the best you can, for yourself and your mother. Hope it gets easier. Skeet shooting FP's records, that is too funny.. Maybe you could disable the player? Those old players are hard to find parts for. I got my silver tooth. It is very shiny, and fun to show off. Then I spent the afternoon rounding up a stray cat, and her 5 kittens. Someone probably dumped them. The mother cat is very sweet, and a beautiful calico. The kittens not so sweet, two of them bit me. Not big enough to break the skin yet though. Will take them to the humane society tomorrow. We already have 6 cats here at the ranch. Don't need 6 more. Poor mother cat is just skin and bones.
Hey everyone! Sorry I haven't been there for you lately. Going through a major Autoimmune flare-up here. I don't think there is one inch of my body that doesn't hurt! I have to get Mom to the neurologist for 1PM tomorrow. That should be fun considering it's full moon and she has a UTI!!! My husband will have to drive us as Mom has decided to shift my car whenever I take her in it. She never did learn to drive, but seems to be fascinated with the shifter in my car now. It's either that or she is trying to open the door as we are driving down the road. I like to get her to her appointments in the morning, as she is much better then, so tomorrow should be really interesting. I have to pack diapers, drink, and her noon meds. Then I have to make sure I have the foot rests and the straps to tie her feet down, or I won't be able to push her into the building. I have to remember to take a chux pad with me too. My husbands car has cloth seats, so I don't want any accidents! It's going to be a very long day! I will try to catch up with everyone when I can. Shirley, glad the foot is getting better! Sharyn, sounds like mom is doing okay in her new place. Don't let it eat you up. You all did what was best for you and it may take a bit of time, but your mom will settle in after a while and you will all feel better. Bobbie!!!!!!! Did we forget to tell Linda "Boat Time"? Linda!!!! BOAT TIME!!!!! Off to bed, long day tomorrow!
Deef: You need to get a major physical. Autoimmune issues may have a lot to do with your leg problems. You have some decisions to make. I hope you put yourself first for a change. Sending you white light and my deepest, heartfelt wishes for a better life for you.
"Oddly" probably best way to describe how I express myself. no worries Sharyn.
fp took a header At the center this morning, somehow got foot caught under wheel chair?...hit his head and scraped his hands. so he is ...quiet today when he got home, probably scared himself, is embarrassed and once again reminded of his age and limitations...
Hi all! Jen-scary fp took a tumble! That is one of my biggest worries with mom. Deef-yea 2 dresses! Everyone likes both but all agree on the one that should be for the wedding. I may keep the other one for when we go to Cape Cod. It is a pretty and fun dress. Such a bummer about your health! And no sleep-I couldn’t take it. Last night I thought of you when the full moon shone in my bedroom window and woke me up! Damn-do UTI’s and full moons go together?!! Hope things get better soon! Cuz –Glad your bro is doing better. How scary. Poor mil. Prayers for her! Sharynmarie-Just wanna give you a big hug! What you are going through is so hard and reading what you wrote just broke my heart for you. I feel like you need some time to digest the fact that she is in the AL place before you get into the whole house thing. I hope you can take one thing at a time… For me I do better if I have time to sort one thing out before getting into another. Especially big stuff like this! Lildeb-The jury is still out about my glasses. The frames are fine but it is the damn bifocal! It is really hard to get used to. I feel like one of those bobble head dolls-bouncing my head up and down trying to find the right place to look out of. I am thinking I should have gotten the bifocals with the line…might have been easier. Gonna give it some more time before I go back and talk to them about it. Flex-thanks for keeping us posted. Must be so hard to go through. {{Hugs}} Meanwhile- Hope that broken foot heals up soon! Silver tooth! Fun! Hope momma kitty will be ok. I cannot understand people being so cruel….dropping them off… ugh. Bobbie-good to hear from you. Drama on the docks huh? Sounds like a soap opera! haha Austin-Happy you have your old friend to get together with! Something to look forward to! Hey Cat & Linda & Susan and everyone else out there in caregiver land! Things here are the same. Mom is getting completely exhausted from daycare. Hubby says to keep sending her and she will get used to it and not be so sleepy the next day. She does daycare Tues and Thurs. She was very confused yesterday but did fine. I am a worry wart so I am always questioning if I am doing the right thing. Ugh. It will be a busy weekend with our son’s last concert at college Sat night …and my nieces wedding shower Sunday. Supposed to be nice weather so that is good too. Have coverage for mom, Thank God, so I can get to both. Hope everyone can have a moment of peace this weekend! Mame
Good news. I brought my brother Mike home from rehab today. He will be staying with my mom for a couple of days until he gets a little stronger in the leg department. He is walking down the driveway and back and says he feels a little bit better so that is cool. Have to take him to his primary doctor to gets meds straightened around next monday. That will be about a 70+ mile round trip. Thats what brothers are for right? Thanks again for all the support. lovCuz aka Harv
Cuz, so glad to hear your brother is out of the hospital. Had a check up on my foot today. The doctor added a soft splint under the boot, but it cut the circulation off to my toes. Had to do a little cutting on that splint. Found another kitten last night.(hiding out in the bushes) . Got up every 2 hours all night to feed the poor little thing kitten formula. I'm such a sucker. Took it to the animal shelter today, Mother cat took it right back. That makes 6 kittens. People at the shelter said they stuck her with needles yesterday, and she just purred at them. She goes right to the litter box too.. Why would anyone just dump her out in the country? I would keep her if didn't already have too many animals. Deef, hope Dr's appointments went well. What is going to happen if you can't take care of your mom anymore? I think your Mom would want you to take care of yourself. I don't know how you do everything. Take care, hugs to everyone. Shirley
Jen~No worries here either!! I am sorry FP took a tumble. I know that is a big concern for all of us with an elderly parent. Have a peaceful weekend. Hugs!!
Mame~Yes I agree I need time to digest it all before we dig into separating mom's belongs, an estate sale and selling her house. I am applying for the FMLA and hoping that it is approved for 4 weeks from now.That will give mom time to adjust and all of us. I am happy to update that sis and I saw mom to today, the first time for me since Sunday. She was so happy to see us!! A nurse from her LTC policy came out to evaluate her living situation and cognitive abilities and agreed that the level of care she is getting matches with her needs.I am feeling better after seeing mom today as I expected her to looked haggard from possible lack of sleep and dealing with the changes she is going through, but she looks good, relaxed and even though mom is not a positive thinking person, she was as content as can be expected. Sis and I spent about 3 hours with her, did her laundry (if they do it, its another $300 a month), we got bought her a hamper with wheels so all we have to do is load it up, wheel it down the hall and wash and dry. We had a good lunch...grilled cheese sandwichw/ham and tomatoes, chips, vegggies and fruit. Sis and I left around 12: 30 went shopping for a shower chair, new towels, bath rug and new jammies for mom. We brought all that back to mom's apartment. It was a long day, I got back home by 5pm. When I started this post at around 8:20pm I got a call from the community that mom was upset and wanted to talk with me. I spent about 45 minutes talking with her, she is fine now. I told her I had to work all weekend and I would see her on Tuesday but she can call me anytime.I have the patience to deal with this and I will talk with her and see her so she is comfortable. My emotions are still all over the place but I know mom is in a good place She won't be abandoned and will still be a very vital part of our lives. I told her tonight (I get weepy telling you this), I love you mom...she said I love you too. She has never said that to me...I know how hard this is for her but I see how she was today so I am positive she will thrive. She is around people from 8:30-6 everyday and I could not give that to her. When she is in her apartment, they check on her, walk the dog every 2 hours until she goes to bed. It still breaks my heart to pieces, but I know she getting the attention I could not give her and that gives me peace of mind. I hope everyone has a good weekend and finds some personal time! Hugs to you!!
Here's a wild life update from the Pacific Northwest. Spring has sprung, retreated and found it's way back. The Killdeers have decided to nest in the grass this year and mom has been sitting on the nest for the past few weeks. We were shocked to see her with 3 babies today. Last year it was July when we had babies hatched. Maybe they have more than one brood a year, I'll have to research that.
Anyway, we have two pairs of nesting geese back. They have their nests up the road from us at another pond, but they spends hours here each day, eating and hanging out at our pond. When their babies hatch, they bring them down here for hours and sometimes overnight.
So here's the thing. One nesting pair of geese were hear last evening and I saw them out the kitchen window. They were walking along all happy and peaceful, picking at grass and doing their normal thing. All of a sudden I see the Killdeers attacking the geese. I mean those little Killdeers were grabbing the butt feathers of the geese and the geese were like, WTF. Makes total sense today, with the new babies up and around. Don't want those big flat goose feet stepping on eggs or newly hatched babies.
Our place is a zoo of activity. Quail everywhere. The Rufous hummingbird is everywhere, in our faces and claiming our property as his domain. He stayed all winter this year and has a girlfriend and a nest. He is so territorial. Everywhere I go he follows and lets me know that he is keeping an eye on me. Cracks me up.
Swallows have arrived. We put a nesting box out for the tree swallows and no sooner than it went up, it was claimed. One of the swallows was coming into the area of the baby Killdeers, just picking up stuff for the nest. Daddy Killdeer put an end to that. This ground is taken.....I'll kick your Tree Swallow butt if you continue with your flybys.
I have more to tell, but I will save it for later. It's good to see new life and return of those who bring it. I stand by our 4 foot fence and have to pinch myself. I hope you enjoy hearing about this. I share it because it makes my heart happy and I hope it gives you a little bit of happiness.
Hey, I want you to know that I went to a meeting the other day for an Alz walk. I am now the chair person for sponsors so I have to get my ass in gear and raise a lot of money for the cause. I am so grateful that my dad/mom didn't have this terrible disease and I thank those on this thread and others on the AC site for sharing all they go through in caring for a parent with Alz. Bobbie, Deef, Diane, Lildeb and everyone I am missing, thank you for educating me. I will do my best to help the cause.
Mame: You too for educating me. My heart breaks for all the families that have to deal with this terrible disease and give so much of their lives to caring for their loved ones.
Let's all pray that we will find a way to better understand this disease and bring about a cure. Really, let's all pray for that.
Cat, I just cracked up picturing the killdeers attacking the geese. What fun to watch. My step dad is always looking for projects to stay busy. So sis asked him to build a couple of bird houses to hang in the trees. He came back with a dozen bird houses. All shapes and sizes. Got them put up this spring. I think a pair of cardinals have moved into one. We put out birdseed everyday, and there is a goldfish pond in the front yard. So it attracts lots of birds. I took the mother cat and her kittens to the next town (40 miles away), because the animal shelter there is a no kill shelter. They will hopefully get good homes. Good luck with your Alz walk. Such a good cause. I have a stepsister in St Louis that is trying to clean out her Mom's house. 2 story house, with a full basement, and it is packed to the ceilings, with just small paths through the rooms. She found a company that handles estate sales. They told her no problem they had dealt with hoarders before. But, when they came to look at the house they turned around and ran out screaming. Her mother started getting paranoid, and hoarding things 20 years ago. Stopped letting anyone in the house. They had to drag her out of it last year, and put her in an assisted living. She passed away last month at 78 years old. Don't know if it was Alz or some other mental problem. She seemed pretty normal until her late 50's.
Meanwhile: How sad about your step-sister's mom. It must be overwhelming, to say the least, to try and empty a home filled to the brim with stuff.
Well, today mama duck brought at least 14 babies to our pond. We hope most will make it, but ducks are just not in the same league with geese when it comes to taking care of babies. Poor mom is all by herself...dead beat dad no where in sight. How is she supposed to keep 14 babies safe?
Gold finches showed up in the last week. They are like little bright Christmas ornaments. They are chowing down on the thistle seed we put out.
Found a good use for my bountiful supply of Sheltie dog fur. I roll it in a paper towel and tie it to a tree branch in the middle. The dog hair sticks out of each end. The birds are loving this silky nesting material. A pair of Pine Siskins (sp) have been pulling out fur and flying off with mouthfuls all morning.
Good of you to drive 40 miles to a no kill shelter. You get big hugs.
Great great, things crap as ever here...I take down the "Always wash your hands with soap and water after using the bathroom" sign... may replace it with "Eat Shit and DIE Old Bastard!!!" I get dinner cleared up and bend TO THE SIDE ALWAYS THE SIDE to pick up dogs food bowl and come up and there is old f*^#@g pervert pants staring at my ass...when is he gonna die why won't he just f#%@g DIE!!!!!!!????
OK I set myself up for that. Too funny. Jen have you asked the old fart "what are you staring at?" I guess that what do no good. He obviously has no shame.
Do you ever wonder what will happen to you if one more person asks you to do something? Do we not do enough caring for our parent-and the people who do not really help out have the audacity to ask for something? "Well, everyone else works so I thought I would ask you" REALLY? About to lose my mind....
Cat, That is great to hear you're the chair person for Alzheimer's walk. I think u will do fine on the fundraising part by reaching out toward other people for you r a people-person. ; ) It does sound like you got a huge zoo going on at your area for that is a lot of baby ducklings. Those Geese can get very mean n territory too. Plus deer, quails n hummies too. I enjoy watching those humming birds but not one n sight here in GA just yet. That is amazing that the birds use the dog's fur for nesting n it does sound quite soft too. U probable could had made yourself a fluffy pillow. lol. Good luck on the fund-drive. Sharynmarie, sounds like your mom is n a great place with great people around plus, you n your sis can visit your mom whenever you two wish to go see her. Glad to hear y'all had a nice visit too. meanwhile, that is such a kind thing to do for the cat n her children. I am sure they will get a good home n they have a better chance as well. Jen, sending u hugs...
A lady walks into Tiffany's. She looks around, spots a beautiful diamond bracelet and walks over to inspect it. As she bends over to look more closely, she unexpectedly breaks wind. Very embarrassed, she looks around nervously to see if anyone noticed her little woops and prays that a salesperson was not anywhere near. As she turn around, her worst nightmare materializes in the form of a salesman standing right behind her...good looking as well! Cool as a cucumber, he displays all of the qualities one would expect of a professional in a store like Tiffany's. He politely greets the lady with, "Good day, Madam. How may be help you today?" Blushing and uncomfortable, but still hoping that the salesman somehow missed her little 'incident,' she asks, "Sir, what is the price of this lovely bracelet?" He answers, "Madam, if you farted just looking at it, you're going to shit when I tell you the price."
Be careful what you buy on eBay. If you buy stuff on line, check out the seller carefully. A friend has just spent $95, plus sales tax, on a penis enlarger. Bastards sent him a magnifying glass.
The only instructions said, "Do not use in sunlight."
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A father watched his young daughter playing in the garden.
He smiled as he reflected on how sweet and pure his little girl was. Tears formed in his eyes as he thought about her seeing the wonders of nature
through such innocent eyes. Suddenly she just stopped and stared at the ground. He went over to her to see what work of God had captured her attention.
He noticed she was looking at two spiders mating.
'Daddy, what are those two spiders doing?' she asked.
'They're mating,' her father replied.
'What do you call the spider on top?' she asked.
a Daddy Longlegs,' her father answered.
'So, the other one is a Mommy Longlegs?' the little girl asked.
As his heart soared with the joy of such a cute and innocent question he replied,
A doctor had sex with one of his female patients and felt guilty all day long. No matter how much he tried to forget about it, he just couldn't. The guilt and sense of betrayal of his patient were overwhelming. But every once in a while he'd hear an internal, reassuring voice in his head that said: "Don't worry about it. You aren't the first medical practitioner to have sex with one of his patients and you won't be the last. And you're single. Just let it go."
But, invariably, another voice in his head would bring him back to reality, whispering...
A man and his wife were driving home one very cold night when the wife asks her husband to stop the car. There was a baby skunk lying at the side of the road, and she got out to see if it was still alive.
It was, and she said to her husband, "It's nearly frozen to death. Can we take it with us, get it warm, and let it go in the morning ?"
He says, "O.K., Get in the car with it."
"Where shall I put it to get it warm ?"
He says, "Put it in between your legs. It's nice and warm there.
"But what about the smell ?"
"Just hold its little nose."
The man is expected to recover, but the skunk she used to beat him with died at the scene.
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the other part bobbie had mentioned using fp records as Frisbees, I thought skeet shooting would be more fun.
Sorry for the mix up....
Skeet shooting FP's records, that is too funny.. Maybe you could disable the player? Those old players are hard to find parts for.
I got my silver tooth. It is very shiny, and fun to show off. Then I spent the afternoon rounding up a stray cat, and her 5 kittens. Someone probably dumped them. The mother cat is very sweet, and a beautiful calico. The kittens not so sweet, two of them bit me. Not big enough to break the skin yet though. Will take them to the humane society tomorrow. We already have 6 cats here at the ranch. Don't need 6 more. Poor mother cat is just skin and bones.
I have to get Mom to the neurologist for 1PM tomorrow. That should be fun considering it's full moon and she has a UTI!!! My husband will have to drive us as Mom has decided to shift my car whenever I take her in it. She never did learn to drive, but seems to be fascinated with the shifter in my car now. It's either that or she is trying to open the door as we are driving down the road. I like to get her to her appointments in the morning, as she is much better then, so tomorrow should be really interesting. I have to pack diapers, drink, and her noon meds. Then I have to make sure I have the foot rests and the straps to tie her feet down, or I won't be able to push her into the building. I have to remember to take a chux pad with me too. My husbands car has cloth seats, so I don't want any accidents!
It's going to be a very long day! I will try to catch up with everyone when I can.
Shirley, glad the foot is getting better!
Sharyn, sounds like mom is doing okay in her new place. Don't let it eat you up. You all did what was best for you and it may take a bit of time, but your mom will settle in after a while and you will all feel better.
Bobbie!!!!!!!
Did we forget to tell Linda "Boat Time"? Linda!!!! BOAT TIME!!!!!
Off to bed, long day tomorrow!
fp took a header At the center this morning, somehow got foot caught under wheel chair?...hit his head and scraped his hands. so he is ...quiet today when he got home, probably scared himself, is embarrassed and once again reminded of his age and limitations...
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Jen-scary fp took a tumble! That is one of my biggest worries with mom.
Deef-yea 2 dresses! Everyone likes both but all agree on the one that should be for the wedding. I may keep the other one for when we go to Cape Cod. It is a pretty and fun dress. Such a bummer about your health! And no sleep-I couldn’t take it. Last night I thought of you when the full moon shone in my bedroom window and woke me up! Damn-do UTI’s and full moons go together?!! Hope things get better soon!
Cuz –Glad your bro is doing better. How scary. Poor mil. Prayers for her!
Sharynmarie-Just wanna give you a big hug! What you are going through is so hard and reading what you wrote just broke my heart for you. I feel like you need some time to digest the fact that she is in the AL place before you get into the whole house thing. I hope you can take one thing at a time… For me I do better if I have time to sort one thing out before getting into another. Especially big stuff like this!
Lildeb-The jury is still out about my glasses. The frames are fine but it is the damn bifocal! It is really hard to get used to. I feel like one of those bobble head dolls-bouncing my head up and down trying to find the right place to look out of. I am thinking I should have gotten the bifocals with the line…might have been easier. Gonna give it some more time before I go back and talk to them about it.
Flex-thanks for keeping us posted. Must be so hard to go through. {{Hugs}}
Meanwhile- Hope that broken foot heals up soon! Silver tooth! Fun! Hope momma kitty will be ok. I cannot understand people being so cruel….dropping them off… ugh.
Bobbie-good to hear from you. Drama on the docks huh? Sounds like a soap opera! haha
Austin-Happy you have your old friend to get together with! Something to look forward to!
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Things here are the same. Mom is getting completely exhausted from daycare. Hubby says to keep sending her and she will get used to it and not be so sleepy the next day. She does daycare Tues and Thurs. She was very confused yesterday but did fine. I am a worry wart so I am always questioning if I am doing the right thing. Ugh. It will be a busy weekend with our son’s last concert at college Sat night …and my nieces wedding shower Sunday. Supposed to be nice weather so that is good too. Have coverage for mom, Thank God, so I can get to both. Hope everyone can have a moment of peace this weekend! Mame
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Had a check up on my foot today. The doctor added a soft splint under the boot, but it cut the circulation off to my toes. Had to do a little cutting on that splint. Found another kitten last night.(hiding out in the bushes) . Got up every 2 hours all night to feed the poor little thing kitten formula. I'm such a sucker. Took it to the animal shelter today, Mother cat took it right back. That makes 6 kittens. People at the shelter said they stuck her with needles yesterday, and she just purred at them. She goes right to the litter box too.. Why would anyone just dump her out in the country? I would keep her if didn't already have too many animals.
Deef, hope Dr's appointments went well. What is going to happen if you can't take care of your mom anymore? I think your Mom would want you to take care of yourself. I don't know how you do everything. Take care, hugs to everyone. Shirley
Meanwhile: Take care of your foot. Hope the kitties and momma cat find homes. Such a sad situation. Thanks for trying to help them.
Mame~Yes I agree I need time to digest it all before we dig into separating mom's belongs, an estate sale and selling her house. I am applying for the FMLA and hoping that it is approved for 4 weeks from now.That will give mom time to adjust and all of us. I am happy to update that sis and I saw mom to today, the first time for me since Sunday. She was so happy to see us!! A nurse from her LTC policy came out to evaluate her living situation and cognitive abilities and agreed that the level of care she is getting matches with her needs.I am feeling better after seeing mom today as I expected her to looked haggard from possible lack of sleep and dealing with the changes she is going through, but she looks good, relaxed and even though mom is not a positive thinking person, she was as content as can be expected. Sis and I spent about 3 hours with her, did her laundry (if they do it, its another $300 a month), we got bought her a hamper with wheels so all we have to do is load it up, wheel it down the hall and wash and dry. We had a good lunch...grilled cheese sandwichw/ham and tomatoes, chips, vegggies and fruit. Sis and I left around 12: 30 went shopping for a shower chair, new towels, bath rug and new jammies for mom. We brought all that back to mom's apartment. It was a long day, I got back home by 5pm. When I started this post at around 8:20pm I got a call from the community that mom was upset and wanted to talk with me. I spent about 45 minutes talking with her, she is fine now. I told her I had to work all weekend and I would see her on Tuesday but she can call me anytime.I have the patience to deal with this and I will talk with her and see her so she is comfortable. My emotions are still all over the place but I know mom is in a good place She won't be abandoned and will still be a very vital part of our lives. I told her tonight (I get weepy telling you this), I love you mom...she said I love you too. She has never said that to me...I know how hard this is for her but I see how she was today so I am positive she will thrive. She is around people from 8:30-6 everyday and I could not give that to her. When she is in her apartment, they check on her, walk the dog every 2 hours until she goes to bed. It still breaks my heart to pieces, but I know she getting the attention I could not give her and that gives me peace of mind. I hope everyone has a good weekend and finds some personal time! Hugs to you!!
Anyway, we have two pairs of nesting geese back. They have their nests up the road from us at another pond, but they spends hours here each day, eating and hanging out at our pond. When their babies hatch, they bring them down here for hours and sometimes overnight.
So here's the thing. One nesting pair of geese were hear last evening and I saw them out the kitchen window. They were walking along all happy and peaceful, picking at grass and doing their normal thing. All of a sudden I see the Killdeers attacking the geese. I mean those little Killdeers were grabbing the butt feathers of the geese and the geese were like, WTF. Makes total sense today, with the new babies up and around. Don't want those big flat goose feet stepping on eggs or newly hatched babies.
Our place is a zoo of activity. Quail everywhere. The Rufous hummingbird is everywhere, in our faces and claiming our property as his domain. He stayed all winter this year and has a girlfriend and a nest. He is so territorial. Everywhere I go he follows and lets me know that he is keeping an eye on me. Cracks me up.
Swallows have arrived. We put a nesting box out for the tree swallows and no sooner than it went up, it was claimed. One of the swallows was coming into the area of the baby Killdeers, just picking up stuff for the nest. Daddy Killdeer put an end to that. This ground is taken.....I'll kick your Tree Swallow butt if you continue with your flybys.
I have more to tell, but I will save it for later. It's good to see new life and return of those who bring it. I stand by our 4 foot fence and have to pinch myself. I hope you enjoy hearing about this. I share it because it makes my heart happy and I hope it gives you a little bit of happiness.
Hey, I want you to know that I went to a meeting the other day for an Alz walk. I am now the chair person for sponsors so I have to get my ass in gear and raise a lot of money for the cause. I am so grateful that my dad/mom didn't have this terrible disease and I thank those on this thread and others on the AC site for sharing all they go through in caring for a parent with Alz. Bobbie, Deef, Diane, Lildeb and everyone I am missing, thank you for educating me. I will do my best to help the cause.
Sending white light to all of you.
Cat
Let's all pray that we will find a way to better understand this disease and bring about a cure. Really, let's all pray for that.
I took the mother cat and her kittens to the next town (40 miles away), because the animal shelter there is a no kill shelter. They will hopefully get good homes. Good luck with your Alz walk. Such a good cause.
I have a stepsister in St Louis that is trying to clean out her Mom's house. 2 story house, with a full basement, and it is packed to the ceilings, with just small paths through the rooms. She found a company that handles estate sales. They told her no problem they had dealt with hoarders before. But, when they came to look at the house they turned around and ran out screaming. Her mother started getting paranoid, and hoarding things 20 years ago. Stopped letting anyone in the house. They had to drag her out of it last year, and put her in an assisted living. She passed away last month at 78 years old. Don't know if it was Alz or some other mental problem. She seemed pretty normal until her late 50's.
Well, today mama duck brought at least 14 babies to our pond. We hope most will make it, but ducks are just not in the same league with geese when it comes to taking care of babies. Poor mom is all by herself...dead beat dad no where in sight. How is she supposed to keep 14 babies safe?
Gold finches showed up in the last week. They are like little bright Christmas ornaments. They are chowing down on the thistle seed we put out.
Found a good use for my bountiful supply of Sheltie dog fur. I roll it in a paper towel and tie it to a tree branch in the middle. The dog hair sticks out of each end. The birds are loving this silky nesting material. A pair of Pine Siskins (sp) have been pulling out fur and flying off with mouthfuls all morning.
Good of you to drive 40 miles to a no kill shelter. You get big hugs.
good week all, what ever that means for you....
oh this was too easy.....
hahahaha
Love you Shirley.
How about a super soaker full of Febreeze, Jen?
FP gives you a leer and you give him a soak. Right in the reekiest area. Would work out for everyone.
Love you too Jen.
lovbob
Jen have you asked the old fart "what are you staring at?" I guess that what do no good. He obviously has no shame.
Sharynmarie, sounds like your mom is n a great place with great people around plus, you n your sis can visit your mom whenever you two wish to go see her. Glad to hear y'all had a nice visit too.
meanwhile, that is such a kind thing to do for the cat n her children. I am sure they will get a good home n they have a better chance as well.
Jen, sending u hugs...
A lady walks into Tiffany's. She looks around, spots a beautiful diamond bracelet and walks
over to inspect it. As she bends over to look more closely, she unexpectedly breaks wind.
Very embarrassed, she looks around nervously to see if anyone noticed her little woops and
prays that a salesperson was not anywhere near. As she turn around, her worst nightmare
materializes in the form of a salesman standing right behind her...good looking as well!
Cool as a cucumber, he displays all of the qualities one would expect of a professional in a
store like Tiffany's. He politely greets the lady with, "Good day, Madam. How may be help
you today?"
Blushing and uncomfortable, but still hoping that the salesman somehow missed her little
'incident,' she asks, "Sir, what is the price of this lovely bracelet?"
He answers, "Madam, if you farted just looking at it, you're going to shit when I tell you the price."
Be careful what you buy on eBay.
If you buy stuff on line, check out the seller carefully.
A friend has just spent $95, plus sales tax, on a penis enlarger.
Bastards sent him a magnifying glass.
The only instructions said, "Do not use in sunlight."
Daddy Long Legs Stories about children and their views of the world are always touching.
A father watched his young daughter playing in the garden.
He smiled as he reflected on how sweet and pure his little girl
was.
Tears formed in his eyes as he thought about her seeing the wonders of nature
through such innocent eyes. Suddenly she just stopped and stared at the ground.
He went over to her to see what work of God had captured her attention.
He noticed she was looking at two spiders mating.
'Daddy, what are those two spiders doing?' she asked.
'They're mating,' her father replied.
'What do you call the spider on top?' she asked.
a Daddy Longlegs,' her father answered.
'So, the other one is a Mommy Longlegs?' the little girl asked.
As his heart soared with the joy of such a cute and innocent question he replied,
'No dear.. Both of them are Daddy Longlegs.'
'The little girl, looking a little puzzled,
thought for a moment, then lifted
her foot and stomped them flat..
Well, she said, that may be OK in California ,
but we're not having any of that shit in Montana.
A doctor had sex with one of his female patients and felt guilty all day long.
No matter how much he tried to forget about it, he just couldn't.
The guilt and sense of betrayal of his patient were overwhelming.
But every once in a while he'd hear an internal, reassuring voice in his head that said:
"Don't worry about it. You aren't the first medical practitioner to have sex with one of his patients and you won't be the last. And you're single. Just let it go."
But, invariably, another voice in his head would bring him back to reality, whispering...
"You're a veterinarian, you sick bastard."
A man and his wife were driving home one very cold night when the wife asks her husband to stop the car. There was a baby skunk lying at the side of the road, and she got out to see if it was still alive.
It was, and she said to her husband, "It's nearly frozen to death. Can we take it with us, get it warm, and let it go in the morning ?"
He says, "O.K., Get in the car with it."
"Where shall I put it to get it warm ?"
He says, "Put it in between your legs. It's nice and warm there.
"But what about the smell ?"
"Just hold its little nose."
The man is expected to recover, but the skunk she used to beat him with died at the scene.