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daizy: I looked into "lewy body" I don't think that is her type of dementia..She doesn't hallucinate at all, or any type of agitation, she is as sweet and co-operative as can be. She just cant do a darn thing for herself, she would lay in bed n her waste, starve to death before it would occur to ask for anything (but a hot cup o coffee) or get up (which she cant do alone anymore anyway)! Soooo......still doing some research and will need to talk to Nuero again.
Right now I consider her decline to be very slow. IF I were to try to describe it thru my demented glasses i'd say: If when I took her on she was a 10, 8.5 ys later she is a 7 but an 8 before the fall (hip/shdr break) in Feb.
I learned thru home health, thank goodness for them, that is normal the stress n pain of the injury does cause decline. I'm just glad we we given an option to not operate, the anesthesia would have been worse affect...anyway
I should just make a "my story" to start my journal. that would be good to just help organize thoughts and tasks!
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I think her unwillingness to move is somewhat linked to the severe Arthritis as well anyway....HAVE THE BEST DAY POSSIBLE TO ALL!!!
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Hey there Crew,

Just had a lovely visit from Diane and her beau and her friend. They are on their way somewhere and passed right by here so we got to hang out on the boat for a few minutes.

It was so good to see her and she looks great!

So proud of you Diane!

lovbob
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excellent bobbie glad you got to see Diane and she is free....

hope your new local is perfect, swing by the gulf of Mexico, go through Panama canal, turn right head to Washington go in at the Mighty Columbia port around dams and head to Spokane I will meet you at the carousel and we can go to Tahiti ....

Jen
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Bobbie: So glad Diane was able to get to the boat. That is wonderful!!!! I hope she is doing ok. I'm sure it was great for her to see you.

Hey, any news on Deef? I hope she is ok.

Juju: Keep posting. My heart goes out to you. You are getting lots of good info and we all care about your posts.
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Call me selfish..I know, but I am feeling dissed by my husband because his family tends to come first. Hubby is taking off the week of June 10th and his dad has already arranged 3 of those days for the two of them to go camping and fishing at MY childhood camping stomping grounds..I can't get him to take me there because the last time we went, I out fished hubby!! I am so torn between being furious and being grateful he is spending time with dad!!
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I told my husband I am furious and jealous he is taking his father there...but tell his father I love him!!
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Jen,
Now that would be a documentary...... and I love Tahiti.

DEEF!! Shout out to you. You know we love you and I hope you are enjoying that amazing garden.

Cat: She could be deep in lurk mode or even deeper in ignore mode!!
Ignore mode works. Just taking a break from the everyday.
It is all good and all part of the recovery.

Sure was good seeing Diane and she is a hoot. Very cute and funny and smart.

Juju! how you doing? You also don't have to be positive all the time. That in and of itself can be exhausting to hold up. You don't want to fall in the hole but sometimes it's right to say: man oh man I don't have the energy to try and make someone else think that I am ok.

hardass! msdaizy!

hardass is a very funny name. I can't even look at it without having a hoot.

Cuz! wassup Where's Stormy? Sharynmarie, Shanda! are you out there? Mame!
Kuli and thinking about a lot of this crew, Book! Diane/Flex! Miss Rip and Linda and Miz and Kelleybean and Pam and Secret Sister and the gang from long ago and Roscoe! from the "I don't wish this on anybody" thread. Hope you are getting a game plan together.... Like I said over there, that's a great thread that has touched a common nerve. Write it out Roscoe!

The diver was here today to get the bottom of the boat ready to move. Easier to drive without barnacles and moss. Otherwise she can't get out of her own way.

Will check in later.

lovbob
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Sharynmarie! Why can't you go?
Go anyway, set up camp upwind, catch more fish, cook them so they smell amazing, and drive your husband and father in law nuts.

Seriously, why can't you go or they just want to do that dad and son thang. That's good too.
If you find out that other people went... then oh well watch out...

lovbob
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It's just a dad and son thang since hubby is taking that week off his dad proposed this trip. It's important he spend time with his dad, he is 80 years old now. His dad is very conservative so if I went, I would be regulated to being the chef cook and bottle washer, its better that they go without me. I had hoped to have a few day trips with hubby that week but it still leaves a few days for us!!
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Gotcha.
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Hi David,
What's going on?

I see that you have left your email address on a few threads. Tell us what you are trying to do.

lovbob
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Cap't Bobbie good to hear from you and JUJU welcome aboard. My life is finally going well and I am very happy with my gentlemen friend-I never expected to be happy and find someone good and thank God everyday for this life.
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Morning all,

Ooh ooh, stop in Coos Bay, n pick me up on the way to Tahiti!!!!

well got out yesterday for a bit to go uptown and do some shopping! I am the proud owner of 6lbs of gummy bears, gotta love Costco!!

I have a lil sweet lady, older than my mom ironically, who comes and sits with mom on Thursday aft. 1-4, (sr companion program). she just sits with ma, they don't do any care type things but give her a snack while i'm gone. I'll take it!
Anyway...that is my day to get things done in town, had to get a blood pressure cuff so I could do some studies the neurologist wanted. I took the dogs with me and stopped at the dog park, briefly cuz it was already almost 4, on the way home that was nice to get out and watch them play, talk a little with the ladies there...it is 25 miles away, darn it...
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Hello everyone! Beautiful 74 degrees right now! Going to go up to 90 with high humidity so the house is open for the moment and then the AC will go on to keep us all cool. Can't believe the extremes we have here in CNY-in the same week! I think she was glad to leave the heat, humidity and severe thunder storms we have been having!
Sharynmarie-I know exactly how you feel! When my hubby says he is taking time off-I get so excited that it will be time together and then I hear about all these plans he has! I always feel hurt that he doesn't want to spend every minute with me! OR he will take time off for some simple thing he has to do but won't to just spend a day with me! UGH! This is such a lonely life and he is my lifeline...so it really can be hurtful. Terrible thing is-I am such a brat-if he changes his plans to be with me(cause I tell him I wanted time with him)-I am still upset cause he made other plans first and this is an afterthought! Over the years, I have tried to be better about it... But mostly, I just don't let myself have any expectations-and then if he is around-great and if he isn't-I just roll my eyes and say-it figures... Sad, I know. But true. I am sorry you are sad and feeling left out. I hope the days he is home with you are nice.
Msdaizy-your mom sure had a long life-91 wow! How and what are you up to now? I hope you are doing ok.
Austin-so happy for you! What a nice surprise.
Well, I believe I have written enough. Haha. Be good to yourselves all! Mame
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OMG-half of my post is just missing!
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continued.......sorry I hit submit before done.

So how is you today, everyone?

Sharyn...I love camping, I can see how you would wanna go on your time off but the boys do need their time together ergghhh. Mom n I still camp... well last year we did, and had made a reservation on departure to do it again coming next month now...oh my!! I wonder tho, if it is coming to be too hard for me...I too broken physically to do it...even the beachhouse trip wiped me out! packing and unpacking and not having all of our handicap amenities. and last year I was so wiped out when we got back! idk....alone is tough!!!

Glad diane is out n about and got "boat time".

I love when I see these seniors that are getting in their 80plus and are still so active!! still driving, doing things to keep em busy, etc..... Like my Wanda! They are so darn cute!!!

Love n strength,
juju
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The middle half. I had written this long thing to Juju about meds and Doctors. Oh hell. And told Bobbie I was psyched she and Diane got together! And told Jen my son and girlfriend flew to Washington last night. GF lives in Bellingham. And that is where the-I think she was glad to leave the weather here on CNY comment came in. Juju-I will have to write again about the DR thing...it was long and involved. UGH. Sorry. Mame
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Austin, funny I was thinking bout you n your man yesterday....I started to look for your name to send ya a message and got distracted! Glad to here from you and things are going well!!!
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Thanks Mame, look forward to it! I have to ask what is CNY?

I see a lot of abbreviations some I don't know...DH is one...Dear Husband is what I came up with cuz of conversation or maybe departed husb. Anyway....
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Lastly.....This Tahiti thing has got me going now, I am salivating practically.....I want to go scuba diving in the tropics so bad this morning! I will make that my carrot!! if I fix this mess and get some order in our lives, when mom Is taken care of or gone...I am going diving somewhere's, it has been way tooooo long!!!!
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Mame~Yes, I am disappointed but he needs to spend time with his dad. I am surprised his dad is willing to sleep in a tent, hope he brings an air mattress, the ground is hard and the older you are the harder it is to sleep on the ground.
Juju~I love the mountains, going camping. Last time hubby and I went i was pulling fish out of the river left and right...It was so much fun (usually I don't catch any fish, just rocks and tree branches, LOL). I can't really complain because does do things with me too. Even though we had a drought winter here in Ca., I have seen where people are catching some nice trout up at Kennedy Meadows. I hope they do too!
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CNY is Central New York... I shouldn't think anyone out of this state would know what that is! haha
Yea, Juju-he does need to spend time with dad...you are right....so good of you to understand. But I do know how it can feel.
House all closed up, air conditioners running...75 in the house...89 and rising outside! I guess most are happy it is not snowing! haha
Mom is exhausted and sleeping. Day care really tires her out! She won't sleep there-she doesn't want to miss anything! ttyl
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Mame~Thank you for understanding. I do love my fil, but we have our differences because he feels women should not only work, but take care of everything else so all a man has to do is work and come home to no worries, no responsibilities including no interaction with their children.
I have Midget with me today introducing her to my kitty. It was funny because Tiger fluffed up the fur on his back and tail keeping a distance. Midget just wags her tail wanting to make friends.They stared at each other from a distance while told Midget NO...she did good staying back but she did start to bark that little poodle bark, LOL!! She is just sooo furious.
The community is introducing her to their resident dog named Leo. He is very old but a big dog, looks like a lab/irish setter mix. They said she is doing well with Leo. She just wants to love everyone and other animals. Hopefully Tiger can accept her just in case we have to take Midget away from mom. I won't allow them to get too close right now...don't want doggie fur to fly, LOL!!
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Love it when the Cat makes a hump....
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sorry if I am on the soapbox of spend every minute with your parent that you can....
Men, uggghhh Yes they can be @#$%'s My Ex husband got up at 3am many, many a day to go hunting n fishing with his friends n fam but when it came to our vacations he couldn't seem to get off the couch....esp once.I had planned a nice week roadtrip just kinda go with the flow down the coast and he just would not get outta bed and go...after month of planning, I cudda killed him..why didn't he say anything sooner and not waste my time!

Good luck with the intergration, lol!!!
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Awweee Ma had 3 n 3.5lb white teacup poodle couple Zeke n Zoe, when I took her on....My kitty was terrified of them, they ruled the roost! They sure were cute!! We have since lost them both but fond memories!!!
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Juju~It's called passive aggressive. My hubby used to be that way to. When I refused to hand over my paycheck to him giving him all control, he changed, thank God. It took some years for him to change, but he did and now he is much more understanding and accepting of me as a human being, a person and a woman. I don't know if you ever watched Roseanne Barr's tv sitcom...she told her sister Jackie, on the show, Dan didn't come out of box like he is, it took years to get him like this, LOL!! It doesn't always work with every man but I am so happy it did my mine. He respects me now.Awww, teacup poodles are very tiny and sooo cute. My mom's poodle is considered a small miniature by the vet. She is 13lb and needs to lose 3 lbs. Poodles are very intelligent so I don't think I will have problem training her with consistency.

Bobbie~Yes, cats are so funny when they arch their backs and all their hackles raised. He didn't hiss at her. I have been keeping her amused by throwing a rubber bone with a middle for treats. Hopefully I will wear her out by the time I take her back!
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It was hilarious watching the 80lb lab bow down to these two, But Zoe was def ALPHA female, and was here first!!!!
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Bob...Me hardass? really? That's one I dont think I have ever been referred to. I hope I don't give anyone the wrong impression. I could never live up to that.
Mame...thanks for asking..I am doing great. I still have my moments now and again but..for the most part. I'm slowly finding my new routine. For 10 years now ( since my dad passed away) my life revolved around my mom. Calling her several times a day..and visiting 2 to 3 times a week. Shopping on Sunday...and then the latter, having her under my care for 6 months straight. At first when she passed away....I felt like a butterfly out of its cocoon....but now at times it hits me. And I miss her so much. This last week it has rained non stop and it seems the weather brings me down.
Juju...I have a heart for the feline kind..we have 6 cats. All but one of them are rescues/strays. I have a turtle, and Maltipoo, and a cockatiel that we found cornered by the neighbor dog. The smallest cat of the strays was my Zoey...she is from a ferral cat that had babies at our house. She chases after all the cats and is the queen kitty here. She even swats at my dog as she walks by and poor Lilly yelps all the time. I wonder if it has something to do with the name? Zoey being the Alpha?
Good night gang...have a great weekend.
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