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Problem solved Thanks everyone and have a great weekend... I hope to get some rest and just gellllllll for a few days. I have no more to say, we are becoming functional again and now it is time to regroup....I appreciate all the patients and love shown here more than words can express.....you are a special group of troops to put up with my crazyness.....love all of ya!!! monkey1luv...Julie!!!
Ok I swear I am done after this..cant believe this day today...go to mail box and VA Aid and Attendence benefit we applied for 20 months ago is finally officially approved and we need to do some stuff but should be getting that soon...omg now just check into somewhere I saw here it is retroactive...so I wil now ask for that... I had to share that good news since I have bombarded you with the bad. now I am going underground! Well I just mite have to look into that VA thing now. but all happy thoughts not going negative! and love to you all again!
I just want to apologize.....I was so tired Friday after my ER nitemare, 2 days 2hr sleep and stressed beyond my fathoming in that ER... 1)I let my thick skin/guard down and got dragged into a diff thread her by emotion and then once that "chemical kicked in" for lack of a better term 2) I truly this time have know idea what I was saying....I think I was actually delirious. I last nite read it back and was like I don't even remember saying that at all...I was mixed all up! that was a really crazy feeling.....never felt before to not remember saying or doing something......so now I know stay away from here when and if I ever get so upset again with an outside source!!!
HAPPY SUNDAY YOU ALL! time go get my pretty girl up!
I just have to say tho it is crazy that with all I have to deal with I also have to deal with saving both my parents from their own doctors....this sure is a messed up system I tell ya.....thank gosh for that VA BENEFIT coming and you guys or coming our I mita dived back into the muck... That is exactly why I cancelled the damn cat scan...but I guess it was the forces way of saying this is the real issue you need to deal with or you will not get outta the hole ever. k I am back to making some lemonade outta this mess!
I just came in from on top of the boat. Getting ready to epoxy some screw holes. It's nice out and partly cloudy so I am only getting partly baked.
Deef!! so good to see you! I hope you're not suffering with that shoulder.....omg.
Jen! fb has another birthday? omg Vol.II
Cat! all that's going on right now is working on the boat. Same as always. omg Vol.III
Juju! Stop and breathe. You're doing fine. All anyone can actually do is one thing at a time. Multitasking is a myth, because even then you can only do one thing at a time. Granted you can put the rice on to boil and then go do something else but that is not multitasking, that is cooking.
Juju, you have been caged and isolated for too long but you are safer now. At some point in caregiving you have to let go in order to live. Breathe and stop trying to fix everything in one day. It's Sunday. Put on your sweats, and you guys watch a movie and hit it again tomorrow. Breathe.
Mame!! What you feel is natural for the situation that you are in. It's taken time for my anger to subside somewhat but it can surface suddenly. Alliteration Alert. omg Vol.IV
All current caregivers for Dementia patients need to keep reminding themselves: This is a progressive disease and I can't fix it. I can't fix my home situation without either moving my charge out of the house or moving someone else in even if it's just for days. If the other people who live in the house are not there to take charge of the situation at a scheduled time, then F'em, I am hiring someone and taking it out of their pocket money. It is physically impossible for me to lift and carry someone who has forgotton how to walk, or will forget how to walk with no warning.
If it sux it sux and it's not ok to just say, this blows beyond all belief but I am bound by my beliefs and must go above and beyond....until I bust down and break. Better to say, I'm bailing. alliteration aler... oh you get it.
It is a guarantee that you will always take better care of your mom and dad better than anyone else. But the reality is that there will come a day when you can't do it alone anymore and realizing when that day has come can save you now and insure that you have a future beyond caregiving.
I really believe that putting my mom into respite saved my life. My body was torn up from hauling and lifting and my mind was mush. My BP was sky high and my body was telling me that I was in an untenable position. My body told me to not sacrifice myself on the altar of omg Vol.V!!
Going back up on top to finish that screwhole job.
yup you nailed it bob... I knew that I just didn't know where to start, well now I do... and I just have to say it was scary to see all that I did not even remember...that has never happened to me....but I never tryd typing out all this crap before either....so ya I am getting it and ya I am gonna have a nice lazy day today basking in my new found strength
thanks agin...and where the heck are you it is killing me...I love travel n geography as I sed....or is that your lil way of getting me to come back ;o)!
seriously....I wonder if I was sleep typing now...I think that's what it was...I have been hugging this computer like a security blanket...I remember nodding off a few times..i bet that is what it was I wasn't sleep walking I was sleep typing...whew least I am not crazy lol! and yes everyone take care of yourselves I gotta "try" to step away for a while and just gel but it is my security blanket now!
speaking of baked....man I wish I had the money....lol seriously it is a wonder as much physical pain I am in now I have a ton of painkillers for ma I could take but they just make me vomit....Percocet and Norco...shoot litebulb...I could sell em down at the beercentral store and make a mint, to one of the "skiptooth inbreds" I live amongst...I had to use that term an it is purely sarcasm, I know there are bad eggs everywhere but more good ones than bad. anyway I heard someone say it and I just busted a gut cuz I so identify with that! i swear on my particular street n location they are walkin up n down all day especially in the summer...now i just gotta find my good eggs....I got a great positive story bout my home to for some other day, toooo tired for anything but a laff rite now!!!
just chillax and it's ok if this is your security blanket now. You're good.
Man, I'm one hot unit. Blazing up on that boat deck.
I don't like to disclose the location of this boat because this is a public forum and I don't want to have to stress it. Suffice it to say, on the water and it's hot. haha Thanks for understanding.
well that is good enough and now I am dreaming of scuba again...I for a short stint worked in travel for Hawaii and Caribbean..and was fortunate enough to see a lot of it...been 13ys since I have soared thru the abyss of the Cayman Trench....my absolutely favorite islands that I have been to is Kauai and St Lucia....oh ho hum and a bottle of rum...
hmm I do have the stuff to whip up a pina colada maybe that will be the plan, later!
I do want to share that the morning of moms rib incident...she looked up and me and sed her normal pretty girl thing....then she sed out of the blue. I think my legs are gonna fall off. so immediately I panicked is she starting to hallucinate...immediately I corrected myself, and asked her why she sed that n she sed idk...just thought it was something funny to say...and I was relieved and moved on...(and every morning we she is saying more and more to me...
Well I just realized..A) my better mood is her better mood. B) she is able to communicate with me...she was saying her legs hurt!
well a rum n coke is all I can muster up... but now I wonder bout the painkillers for ma...she hasn't used em in a while and is not complaining of any rib pain...I wonder if I should just keep a few and dump the rest cuz actually don't like em around here you never knw we have been robbed 2wice but I don't want to dump em if she might be needing em...idk another amazing day! K next mom 2 bed n me to my recliner for some TV!
I do have to blast: on top of all the stress we go thru. there is something inherently wrong with a hospital where you have to shake in fear of having to bring your loved one into....The last time my hand shook like that holding a phone is when lil sweet Zoe left us! Cheers!
My Grandma's caregiver keeps a toothbrush in a baggie under the sink to clean under her fingernails (she is a little addicted to Desitin and the caregiver has her apply it herself, which is fair). I had a nightmare that I accidentally used it. I had to get up and gargle. I didn't sleep very well that night. Today she accidentally sat on the toilet when the lid was down. There was poo. It was such a smeary mess. And she tried to wipe herself but since the lid was down the poo paper just went on the floor. When I walked in I didn't know whether to laugh or cry, but I couldn't do either because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Thank God for clorox wipes.
Lesa...sounds like you have the right mindset. I know when mom was here with me she was having a hard time making it to the toilet on time. I would walk in as she is trying to wipe herself with depends and poise pads. I had to throw away about 4 of them. But of course the poo was every where ....besides where it was suppose to be. Poor thing would just look at me with her nervous smile and giggle. I too had the clorox wipes near by. God Bless.
Have any of you dealt with this...friends of your parent(s) who say they will go visit but they are not sure because "what if he/she doesn't remember me?" I understand what they are saying but it is still frustrating because it is like they are saying he/she doesn't remember me so they won't know whether I visit or not.
Sharynmarie, yup, that's what they do. 'civilians' don't understand what our moms or dads know or don't know. Since everyone's dementia is different, our moms and dads understand whatever.
Why not tell them that YOU remember whether they come to visit or not and what you are remembering about them now is not that nice so why don't they come over and hang out so as to make a happy memory for you, the daughter of their friend. Maybe worth a try?
With my mom people didn't come unless I really leaned on them. Most of the time I just didn't think it was worth the effort but my mom knew who came and didn't and I broke my butt to make it a happy visit with tea parties in the garden, etc etc.
The old 'they won't remember me' and 'I can't stand to see her this way' is all about their insecurities and selfishness and fear of their own mortality. Tell them to suck it up and bring a pizza!
Welcome Lesa! Ya, the toilet issues abound don't they? Clorox wipes and baby wipes along with plastic trash can liners is just the first line of defense. Keep writing and venting!
Juju! The VA benefits are retroactive to the best of my knowledge. Don't throw away the pills unless you have a problem with prescription pain meds and addiction. If you're sore, take a pill unless you have issues. Anything from the percodan or percoset family can cause upset stomach and can't be continued for a long time. I worked on the boat yesterday and am sore as can be this morning but all I have is tylenol. I can't take harder stuff anyway because it will knock my lights out. I am a delicate flower haha.
thanks, ya I am just in fear of strong meds for her now, i did try one just to see and i spun and barfed for 3 hours green as on a scuba boat without my bonine, lol....I will google side affects, I worry to much and thanks...talked to fiduciary and unloaded everything with hospital and she is going to help us...and I have ordered patient advocate of hospital to prepare the entire medical history since day 1 and let me know what they need from me to make it happen, she sed she will let me know by Wednesday if I need to sign something...I think that is too long for just that..i was asking how long till records in hand, not what I need to sign but too tired. lest i did something to move forward today....i am going back to bed I love quotes...and just jumped on to share this one i saw today and thought of you bobbie...
a boat is safe in the harbor, but that is not the purpose of a boat!
i hope to just catch up on sleep n love my momma today i at 3am finally feel asleep for the first time since Thursday,(for more than an hour, anyway) up at 7 but with a whole new perspective on things!!!.
SharynMarie: I thought of this I shared with someone the other day....it touched me as my mother has over the last two months started reaching for my hand whenever we have a moment together....
Maybe you could share this with her friends, somehow
"A Moment of Respite: Holding Hands with Someone You Love – Every time she grabs your hand you are overcome with an awareness of how much she means to you. Holding hands is sensual and physically intimate, yet subtle. There are few people you allow to hold your hand, so when it happens you can be sure that the moment is special. "
And that floating in the ocean story just resonates....this is that boat....I am so happy to have finally thrown a life preserver and couldn't help but rock it on the crawl in!!!
juju~when I visit my mom i reach my hand out to her and she takes it, then we walk out to the dining hall holding hands...it is very touching...now I am blubbering again, LOL
ok I do have a question...as I sed I am in worry wort mode still and my fear of the PK's is based on this being a public forum as you stated bobbie.... Made me start to think...what should I be posting etc..did I in a moment of making a dry joke just set myself up for a robbery...etc we live alone on a street where no one is gonna here a scream or a gunshot...etc... I thought maybe I should get rid of em...if not using cuz I just advertised I have them....idk my mind is still overthinking things but I really wonder about anonymity issues now...I did find a button somewhere where it brought up members in our area and 5 names none with any activity. its just the heck we have been thru I don't need another problem...I read a thread on catfish..what if there were predators here....am I sharing too much???etc im just trying to get better but?
A little fried right now... Mom hurt her lower back-probably Friday while I was showering her, or, it could have been the long hours she spent in bed last week. Anyway, she is a hurtin buck!!! Got the pain patches on and giving her 2 extra strength Tylenol... She has had this problem before a couple times... Just sux cause she is in so much pain. I feel terrible for her. She can walk-but getting up and down is terrible. Prob no daycare this week... The bro who's wife is no longer speaking to me showed up again yesterday and stayed for dinner! Glad for mom-and him. Deef-glad you checked in and yes-you do need boat time. Hope you can come up for air again soon. Bobbie-as usual you are a wealth of knowledge and always here for us! Would love to hear your comedy routine!!! Cat, sounds like a beautiful drive! Good to get out and enjoy the nature around you! Thanks for remembering about the chiggers. That was sooo funny! Sorry Linda-prob wasn’t so funny for you! My son was just at Deception Pass yesterday sightseeing. I am not sure where that is in relation to you but I know you are out there somewhere! Jen, sorry your cleaning out didn’t bring you any cash. Ya just never know. But it still must be a good feeling to get rid of stuff. I am thinking, and maybe someone mentioned already, you should write a script about caregivers-kinda like the book “The Help.” That was a great book! Movie ok, but not as good as the book. Anyway-it would be fun to pick each one of us out like the “help” did! Christina-"WELL DONE, Good and Gracious Daughter." Beautifully said! Cuz-thanks for posting that beautiful story of the ocean/drowning/lifeline. I copied it in a word doc to hang on to. So familiar to so many of us! Sharyn, I am so sorry about your brother’s diagnosis. Prayers going out for him. My mom is on 10mgs prednisone every single day and has been for a few years now. Whenever we try to go off (slowly) she just gets so breathy and wheezy. So, I am happy to keep her on it if it makes her quality of life better! I think it is so cute that your mom thinks she is at work during the day. Midget sleeping any better? Flex-you back to work this week? You be sure and take care of yourself!!! Hey Meanwhile, Dreyfess, Juju, Austin, Lesa, Ms Daizy & all the rest out there! Raining here. Yesterday was a picture perfect day-wish we could have a million more! Then I wouldn’t appreciate it as much tho would I?! Well-she is beckoning! Ba-bye! Mame
I know sharyn, Kleenex is making a mint off me this week....i kinda wonder if would be the same for a friends as daughter but still a nice feeling. and mame im too tired to read but I was gonna say I forgot to add where's mame, but i het enter too fast again etc....
I swear i feel like i got hit by a train physically, a complete meltdown after i got mom home safe....thank you all for every lil hint you drop, every story you tell!! I can do this! lol!!
I wish I could cry. It might wash my eyes out so I could see life in a better way! The medication I am on for anxiety leaves me tearless. Gosh it would be such a nice release sometimes! I always used to cry at weddings, but couldn't muster a tear at my nieces a few weeks ago. Reminds me of the movie The Holiday-where Cameron Diaz character can't cry and she & her boyfriend break up and she keeps trying to cry-funny as heck! Then she's like "ok, moving on." That is me! I used to weep at a good Kleenex commercial! Not any more. Sigh.
and one more thing just cuz i think it is good news...in a twisted way...not only did the er trip go horribly badly patient dignity wise....several alarming things were discovered as i demanded thorough exam. So I have to get bone scan my guess is scar tissue in the shoulder break but the Cword was used. and spine looks like crap, cant even determine whats what anymore as compared to the ZOE day....so i called home health just cuz they were the most wonderful group of people and i can try to get them started again thru her GP so that is next...sure be nice to have em around while i process this new challenge....i guess i knew if i didn't purge my anger i cud not get thru this... so i imploded Saturday! Last time i was truly too traumatized by our ordeal at rehab to comprehend anything but adl's. i will be able to fully comprehend in this state of mind....Who ever it is up there he has got my back rite now...and you guys too
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woke up... fart pants birthday....looking forward to going back to bed....Jen
Thanks everyone and have a great weekend...
I hope to get some rest and just gellllllll for a few days.
I have no more to say, we are becoming functional again and now it is time to regroup....I appreciate all the patients and love shown here more than words can express.....you are a special group of troops to put up with my crazyness.....love all of ya!!!
monkey1luv...Julie!!!
I had to share that good news since I have bombarded you with the bad.
now I am going underground! Well I just mite have to look into that VA thing now. but all happy thoughts not going negative!
and love to you all again!
1)I let my thick skin/guard down and got dragged into a diff thread her by emotion and then once that "chemical kicked in" for lack of a better term
2) I truly this time have know idea what I was saying....I think I was actually delirious. I last nite read it back and was like I don't even remember saying that at all...I was mixed all up!
that was a really crazy feeling.....never felt before to not remember saying or doing something......so now I know stay away from here when and if I ever get so upset again with an outside source!!!
HAPPY SUNDAY YOU ALL! time go get my pretty girl up!
That is exactly why I cancelled the damn cat scan...but I guess it was the forces way of saying this is the real issue you need to deal with or you will not get outta the hole ever. k I am back to making some lemonade outta this mess!
I just came in from on top of the boat. Getting ready to epoxy some screw holes. It's nice out and partly cloudy so I am only getting partly baked.
Deef!! so good to see you! I hope you're not suffering with that shoulder.....omg.
Jen! fb has another birthday? omg Vol.II
Cat! all that's going on right now is working on the boat.
Same as always. omg Vol.III
Juju! Stop and breathe. You're doing fine.
All anyone can actually do is one thing at a time. Multitasking is a myth, because even then you can only do one thing at a time.
Granted you can put the rice on to boil and then go do something else but that is not multitasking, that is cooking.
Juju, you have been caged and isolated for too long but you are safer now.
At some point in caregiving you have to let go in order to live. Breathe and stop trying to fix everything in one day.
It's Sunday. Put on your sweats, and you guys watch a movie and hit it again tomorrow. Breathe.
Mame!! What you feel is natural for the situation that you are in.
It's taken time for my anger to subside somewhat but it can surface suddenly.
Alliteration Alert. omg Vol.IV
All current caregivers for Dementia patients need to keep reminding themselves:
This is a progressive disease and I can't fix it.
I can't fix my home situation without either moving my charge out of the house or moving someone else in even if it's just for days. If the other people who live in the house are not there to take charge of the situation at a scheduled time, then F'em, I am hiring someone and taking it out of their pocket money.
It is physically impossible for me to lift and carry someone who has forgotton how to walk, or will forget how to walk with no warning.
If it sux it sux and it's not ok to just say, this blows beyond all belief but I am bound by my beliefs and must go above and beyond....until I bust down and break.
Better to say, I'm bailing.
alliteration aler... oh you get it.
It is a guarantee that you will always take better care of your mom and dad better than anyone else. But the reality is that there will come a day when you can't do it alone anymore and realizing when that day has come can save you now and insure that you have a future beyond caregiving.
I really believe that putting my mom into respite saved my life.
My body was torn up from hauling and lifting and my mind was mush. My BP was sky high and my body was telling me that I was in an untenable position.
My body told me to not sacrifice myself on the altar of omg Vol.V!!
Going back up on top to finish that screwhole job.
Love you guys way more than you'll ever know.
lovbob
thanks agin...and where the heck are you it is killing me...I love travel n geography as I sed....or is that your lil way of getting me to come back ;o)!
and yes everyone take care of yourselves I gotta "try" to step away for a while and just gel but it is my security blanket now!
seriously it is a wonder as much physical pain I am in now I have a ton of painkillers for ma I could take but they just make me vomit....Percocet and Norco...shoot litebulb...I could sell em down at the beercentral store and make a mint, to one of the "skiptooth inbreds" I live amongst...I had to use that term an it is purely sarcasm, I know there are bad eggs everywhere but more good ones than bad. anyway I heard someone say it and I just busted a gut cuz I so identify with that! i swear on my particular street n location they are walkin up n down all day especially in the summer...now i just gotta find my good eggs....I got a great positive story bout my home to for some other day, toooo tired for anything but a laff rite now!!!
Man, I'm one hot unit.
Blazing up on that boat deck.
I don't like to disclose the location of this boat because this is a public forum and I don't want to have to stress it.
Suffice it to say, on the water and it's hot. haha
Thanks for understanding.
ok, tuna fish sandwich time.
lovbob
hmm I do have the stuff to whip up a pina colada maybe that will be the plan, later!
Well I just realized..A) my better mood is her better mood.
B) she is able to communicate with me...she was saying her legs hurt!
but now I wonder bout the painkillers for ma...she hasn't used em in a while and is not complaining of any rib pain...I wonder if I should just keep a few and dump the rest cuz actually don't like em around here you never knw we have been robbed 2wice but I don't want to dump em if she might be needing em...idk
another amazing day!
K next mom 2 bed n me to my recliner for some TV!
Today she accidentally sat on the toilet when the lid was down. There was poo. It was such a smeary mess. And she tried to wipe herself but since the lid was down the poo paper just went on the floor. When I walked in I didn't know whether to laugh or cry, but I couldn't do either because I didn't want to hurt her feelings. Thank God for clorox wipes.
Sharynmarie, yup, that's what they do.
'civilians' don't understand what our moms or dads know or don't know. Since everyone's dementia is different, our moms and dads understand whatever.
Why not tell them that YOU remember whether they come to visit or not and what you are remembering about them now is not that nice so why don't they come over and hang out so as to make a happy memory for you, the daughter of their friend.
Maybe worth a try?
With my mom people didn't come unless I really leaned on them. Most of the time I just didn't think it was worth the effort but my mom knew who came and didn't and I broke my butt to make it a happy visit with tea parties in the garden, etc etc.
The old 'they won't remember me' and 'I can't stand to see her this way' is all about their insecurities and selfishness and fear of their own mortality.
Tell them to suck it up and bring a pizza!
Welcome Lesa! Ya, the toilet issues abound don't they?
Clorox wipes and baby wipes along with plastic trash can liners is just the first line of defense.
Keep writing and venting!
Juju! The VA benefits are retroactive to the best of my knowledge.
Don't throw away the pills unless you have a problem with prescription pain meds and addiction.
If you're sore, take a pill unless you have issues.
Anything from the percodan or percoset family can cause upset stomach and can't be continued for a long time.
I worked on the boat yesterday and am sore as can be this morning but all I have is tylenol. I can't take harder stuff anyway because it will knock my lights out.
I am a delicate flower haha.
will check in later,
lovbob
I love quotes...and just jumped on to share this one i saw today and thought of you bobbie...
a boat is safe in the harbor, but that is not the purpose of a boat!
i hope to just catch up on sleep n love my momma today i at 3am finally feel asleep for the first time since Thursday,(for more than an hour, anyway) up at 7 but with a whole new perspective on things!!!.
Thanks everybody and have a great day,
Maybe you could share this with her friends, somehow
"A Moment of Respite: Holding Hands with Someone You Love – Every time she grabs your hand you are overcome with an awareness of how much she means to you. Holding hands is sensual and physically intimate, yet subtle. There are few people you allow to hold your hand, so when it happens you can be sure that the moment is special. "
Made me start to think...what should I be posting etc..did I in a moment of making a dry joke just set myself up for a robbery...etc we live alone on a street where no one is gonna here a scream or a gunshot...etc... I thought maybe I should get rid of em...if not using cuz I just advertised I have them....idk my mind is still overthinking things but
I really wonder about anonymity issues now...I did find a button somewhere where it brought up members in our area and 5 names none with any activity. its just the heck we have been thru I don't need another problem...I read a thread on catfish..what if there were predators here....am I sharing too much???etc im just trying to get better but?
k any opinions on that would be great!
The bro who's wife is no longer speaking to me showed up again yesterday and stayed for dinner! Glad for mom-and him.
Deef-glad you checked in and yes-you do need boat time. Hope you can come up for air again soon.
Bobbie-as usual you are a wealth of knowledge and always here for us! Would love to hear your comedy routine!!!
Cat, sounds like a beautiful drive! Good to get out and enjoy the nature around you! Thanks for remembering about the chiggers. That was sooo funny! Sorry Linda-prob wasn’t so funny for you! My son was just at Deception Pass yesterday sightseeing. I am not sure where that is in relation to you but I know you are out there somewhere!
Jen, sorry your cleaning out didn’t bring you any cash. Ya just never know. But it still must be a good feeling to get rid of stuff. I am thinking, and maybe someone mentioned already, you should write a script about caregivers-kinda like the book “The Help.” That was a great book! Movie ok, but not as good as the book. Anyway-it would be fun to pick each one of us out like the “help” did!
Christina-"WELL DONE, Good and Gracious Daughter." Beautifully said!
Cuz-thanks for posting that beautiful story of the ocean/drowning/lifeline. I copied it in a word doc to hang on to. So familiar to so many of us!
Sharyn, I am so sorry about your brother’s diagnosis. Prayers going out for him. My mom is on 10mgs prednisone every single day and has been for a few years now. Whenever we try to go off (slowly) she just gets so breathy and wheezy. So, I am happy to keep her on it if it makes her quality of life better! I think it is so cute that your mom thinks she is at work during the day. Midget sleeping any better?
Flex-you back to work this week? You be sure and take care of yourself!!!
Hey Meanwhile, Dreyfess, Juju, Austin, Lesa, Ms Daizy & all the rest out there!
Raining here. Yesterday was a picture perfect day-wish we could have a million more! Then I wouldn’t appreciate it as much tho would I?! Well-she is beckoning! Ba-bye! Mame
and mame im too tired to read but I was gonna say I forgot to add where's mame, but i het enter too fast again etc....